Sermon
John 15:1-11 “Bearing Fruit in Christ”
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You are listening to a message from Southwood Presbyterian Church in Huntsville, Alabama.
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! Our passion is to experience and express grace. Join us.
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! Can a selfish person really become loving and generous?
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! Can a fearful, anxious person ever be at peace?
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Can a hothead really become patient? We have our doubts, don't we?
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But Jesus has good news for us this morning along those lines as we continue to learn about
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our union with Christ, about abiding in Christ. This summer we've been hearing God's Word tell
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us about this wonderful reality that God has placed us, has defined us, has blessed us,
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has loved us so completely in Christ that nothing can take us out of Jesus or take Jesus out of us.
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We've seen how unbreakable that union is, right?
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That gives us hope and confidence in Christ. But now as we kind of move towards the later part of
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the summer, we're considering how even the difficult parts of life are a part of this.
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There's a dynamic or developing aspect of that union. Last week Bill Nash really helpfully led us
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in considering how the suffering that we go through, right? We grow in knowing Jesus better,
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further up, further in. Now to be clear, we can't be united to Jesus any more truly than we already are,
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okay? But our awareness of that union, our living out of it, our drawing strength from it can and must
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grow over time. It's dynamic. That's what I mean by that word. In that sense, it's kind of like a
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marriage relationship which is one of the biblical pictures that God gives us for our union with Christ.
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Christy and I celebrated 21 years of marriage this week. That's really, really exciting.
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But we were just as officially married on that day 21 years ago as we are now. Legally, technically,
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officially, we are equally married as we were then. But the relationship has definitely deepened
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in 21 years, right? I mean, we can order for each other at most any restaurant pretty effectively.
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We know what the other one will feel in most situations. That really wasn't true 21 years ago.
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Now what happens is I'm like going along and just pretending to be happy with something. Christy will
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say to me, why are you frustrated? And I will say, me? Frustrated? Now I'm frustrated that you knew
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I was frustrated. How did you pick up on that? She knows everything.
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You're either married or you're not, right? You can't be half married. We're no more married than
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we ever were, but we're growing, right? In knowledge, in love, in the blessing of this dynamic relationship.
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We're growing because the reality of the relationship is secure.
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So in our relationship with God, God loves us, graces us, blesses us right where we are.
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Those realities don't change. They don't ebb and flow each day. And God longs for us to be shaped
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into His image the way that He created us to be and the way He envisioned us to be when He united us
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to His Son so that transformation would actually be possible for us. It could happen in our lives.
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That's what we're going to be talking about these next two weeks. How that relationship with Jesus
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that's so secure actually produces change, growth in otherwise stagnant or decaying people like you and me,
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who otherwise we'd care only about ourselves, who as we get older would just get more ornery and more sore.
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That's the way things trend.
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Instead, I want you to think of someone who's aging, someone older that you know of.
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Maybe their mind's not quite as sharp as before. Maybe their body is getting weaker, but you know someone
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and they're just a beautiful person, right? You know someone like this, full of love and joy and peace.
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This week we're going to look at the positive side of that change in bearing fruit.
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Next week we're going to look at the flip side in battling sin. Don't skip.
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Let's turn together to John chapter 15. This is Jesus' classic explanation of this reality to His disciples
John 15 chapter mention
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the night before the cross. As He's sending them as His representatives on His mission,
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He gives them a vital picture of their ongoing relationship with Him even though He's going away.
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It's John 15 at verse 1. Jesus Himself says,
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I am the true vine and my Father is the vine dresser. Every branch of mine that does not bear fruit He takes away
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and every branch that does bear fruit He prunes that it may bear more fruit.
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Already you are clean because of the word that I have spoken to you.
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Abide in me and I in you.
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As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine,
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neither can you unless you abide in me.
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I am the vine.
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You are the branches.
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Whoever abides in me and I in him,
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he it is that bears much fruit.
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For apart from me, you can do nothing.
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If anyone does not abide in me,
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he's thrown away like a branch and withers.
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And the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire and burned.
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But if you abide in me,
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and my words abide in you,
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ask whatever you wish and it will be done for you.
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By this my Father is glorified that you bear much fruit
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and so prove to be my disciples.
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As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you.
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Abide in my love.
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If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love,
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just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in His love.
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These things I have spoken to you,
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that my joy may be in you
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and that your joy may be full.
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This is God's word.
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Join me as we ask for His help.
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Father, we do pray that you would draw us close
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and teach us to abide.
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We need your help with that.
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Even with coming to you for help, we need your help.
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We are desperately needy.
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We ask that you would meet us in our need,
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that you would change us,
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that you would, as you promised,
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make us like Jesus.
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That's our hope and it's our request of you today.
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Do that work in each of us.
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For Jesus' sake, we ask.
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Amen.
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We saw a few months ago in our study of John's Gospel
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that Jesus here in this passage
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is drawing on an Old Testament image
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of God's relationship with His people, right?
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They were to be for Him.
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They were to be for Him a fruitful vine.
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He wanted His people to produce righteousness
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and justice and reflect His image.
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But Isaiah says,
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While the vineyard of the Lord of hosts is the house of Israel
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and the men of Judah are as pleasant planting,
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God comes to look through His vineyard
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and find all of the wonderful fruit.
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He looked for justice, but behold, bloodshed.
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For righteousness, but behold, an outcry.
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It's that rotten fruit, right?
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Repeatedly, God's people are a vine that bears bad fruit.
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And so, the reason I point that out briefly
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is that Jesus is making a massive statement
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when He stands to say,
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I am the true vine.
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He's saying, I'm the one who will be obedient,
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faithful, just, merciful,
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a reflection of the King,
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a light to the nations.
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I'm gonna do that, Jesus says.
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That's who I am.
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And so, if we want to be fruitful branches,
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a part of God's people,
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we have to be connected to Jesus.
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Grafted in, if you will, to the true vine.
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You'll notice that throughout this passage.
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That's what makes all the difference, isn't it?
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Jesus says it a number of different ways.
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It's our vital connection to Him.
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Just notice for a minute before we move on
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how amazing and wonderful Jesus must be
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for that to be true.
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What life must be pulsing through Him
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to be the source of life for all of God's children.
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What utter goodness to please
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the perfectly righteous King.
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The vine dresser Himself is seeing the fruit
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that He longs for.
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What power Jesus must have to hold together
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in one branch all of these diverse branches
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of God's family from every tribe and tongue and nation
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all in Christ.
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He is the vine that we can count on.
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It's like what Paul says
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when he describes our ongoing life in this world
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and he reminds us to live the same way
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that we were saved in Jesus,
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in total dependence.
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As you received Christ Jesus the Lord,
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so walk in Him.
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Colossians chapter 2.
Colossians 2 chapter mention
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Rooted and built up in Him.
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Put those roots down deeper into Jesus.
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Further up, further in.
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That will be the source of fruit in our lives.
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Let's not get confused and look for it anywhere else.
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Now we're gonna get to how that works.
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Right now that's pretty theoretical.
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But it's where we have to start.
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And don't you love what Jesus is saying?
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Notice what else.
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It's not just that He's the vine,
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but there's a promise here for us.
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Look, verse 5.
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Abide in me and I in you.
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That's what we've been talking about this summer.
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Christ in us.
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Us in Christ.
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This beautiful union.
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And bear much fruit.
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Not maybe.
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Not a little bit here and some there.
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But definitely, certainly, inevitably,
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you can count on much fruit.
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Perhaps we think first of the fruit of the Spirit, right?
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Like we read earlier.
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Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control
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starting to grow in our lives.
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Later in this passage,
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the fruit of answered prayers is mentioned.
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Clearly in this context,
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Jesus is sending His disciples on His mission
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to bear the fruit of others joining them
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in relationship with Jesus.
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Lots of different kinds of fruit.
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But listen, in any of those areas,
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because of what Jesus is saying,
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don't give up because you're down on yourself.
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And because you're feeling weak
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or stuck or hopeless.
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If you are united to Christ by faith,
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Jesus says change is coming.
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Growth is certain because He is the true vine,
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the life-giving vine.
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In fact, when we see even just a little fruit
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in our lives, that shouldn't discourage us.
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That should encourage us.
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What happens when there's a little fruit?
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What does Jesus say?
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Expect more to come
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because our Father, the vine dresser,
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is so good.
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Even in the painful seasons,
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He is pruning us.
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Right?
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So that what happens?
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So that we're miserable and give up?
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No.
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So that we bear more fruit.
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He is so good.
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Even when you can hardly see it,
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it's just a little blossom.
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God, it feels like He's cutting on you.
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It feels like, oh, this is painful.
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If you're a gardener,
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it might look like death.
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Right?
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There's all this stuff all over the lawn,
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but He's bringing more fruit.
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I mean, that makes sense, doesn't it?
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How could it be that we could be
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in such close, vital relationship with Jesus
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like we've been talking about
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and not be changed?
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Not bear fruit?
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It wouldn't make sense,
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would it as powerful as He is?
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That is the vital, dynamic nature
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of this picture for our union with Christ.
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Maybe I picture Jesus walking with His disciples,
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you know, toward the garden that night
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after they've left the upper room,
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and He maybe picks up a branch like this
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and He's holding it and saying,
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look, this kind of fruit.
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He's saying the life of the vine
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flows into the branches
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so that they bear fruit.
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And He's saying, I might be leaving,
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but this is the kind of relationship we have.
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Expect it.
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Count on it.
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There's fruit coming in your life.
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And side note,
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we need to believe that
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not only in our own lives,
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but if it's true for us,
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where else can we believe it?
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What about others?
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Don't give up on them.
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Don't decide that He's too far gone,
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that she's not worth having any hope for,
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because Jesus brings fruit.
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Don't give up.
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He promises there's fruit coming.
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But it's not just this automatic transaction, is it?
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It's not that everyone united to Christ
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bears exactly the same fruit
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at exactly the same time, right?
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That's not our experience.
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Jesus takes great pains here,
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repeating over and over,
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what are we supposed to do?
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Abide.
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Abide.
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If you abide.
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He's saying,
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apart from me,
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you can do
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nothing.
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Not much fruit.
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Not even a little fruit.
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No fruit.
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It's a big difference.
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So don't just,
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don't just stop by and visit me occasionally,
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Jesus is saying.
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Make your home
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with me.
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Will it be fruitful
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to go this afternoon
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and find a dead branch
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in your yard
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and hold it up
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to a tree
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or a vine?
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Will you start to see fruit grow
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all of a sudden?
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What if you did it overnight?
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If you stood out there
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a long time
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holding the dead branch
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up next to the vine,
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would that help?
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What if you held them close,
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like a few minutes
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every day
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all year,
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you know?
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Five or ten minutes
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in the morning.
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Would that do it?
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No.
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You have to connect
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to them
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vitally.
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If you just
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go around
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and there's another option,
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you could find some good fruit
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and you could
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tape it to the dead branch,
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right?
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And that would look good
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for a few minutes
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and then
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pretty soon
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that's not gonna last,
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is it?
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The fruit's gonna go bad.
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The branch
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won't look good.
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No,
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for real
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lasting fruit,
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the branch
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has to make
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its home
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in the vine
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so that it is
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actually connected
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in a way that draws
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life and nourishment
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and power
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from the source
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of that life.
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That's what has to happen,
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right?
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I've showed you pictures
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of Team Hoyt
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before.
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It's not a perfect
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illustration
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for everything,
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but it does picture
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this aspect
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of our union
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with Christ
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really well.
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The branch
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draws its power
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from the vine.
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Dick and Rick Hoyt
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are father and son
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triathletes.
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They have competed
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together in triathlons
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and marathons
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around the world.
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Rick,
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the son
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in the chair there,
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has cerebral palsy.
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And so,
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Rick
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really can't
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compete
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on his own
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in triathlons.
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But his father,
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Dick,
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powers the team.
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Rick's job
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is to stay connected
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to the power source,
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not just occasionally,
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not just checking in
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during the race,
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but constantly.
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They have a wheelchair
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adapted
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for Dick
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to push Rick
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as they run
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and then when they get
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to the biking part,
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there's a special chair
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that Rick sits in
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while Dick
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is riding
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and then you gotta swim
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and so they've got
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this special little boat
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and Rick
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gets in the boat,
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Dick ties it around
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his arm
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and starts to
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swim
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because apart
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from Dick,
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Rick can do
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nothing
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of the completion
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of a triathlon,
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right?
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In fact,
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Rick would be crazy
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to go even for a little while
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outside of the boat
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or out of his chair.
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but connected to Dick,
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Rick competes
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with power
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and life
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and joy
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when you see
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the picture
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reveling
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not only
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that he's finishing
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the race
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but I think
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there's joy.
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They say this,
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that this is their favorite
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thing to do together.
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He's reveling
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in the relationship
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with his father
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that they get
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to do this together
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and there we are
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with Jesus,
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right?
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who promises
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as we draw
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our life
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from him
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rather than
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wandering out
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on our own
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to rely on
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our own strength
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that we will
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bear
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much
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fruit.
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And as Jesus
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continues talking
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he explains
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a bit more
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of how that works
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itself out
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in our lives.
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He tells us
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to abide
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which Pastor Andrew
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Murray helpfully
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reminds us
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is weakness
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entrusting itself
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to a mighty one
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an unfaithful one
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casting self
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on one
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altogether
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trustworthy
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and true.
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That's what
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abiding is.
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Jesus indeed
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is a home
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we can count on.
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Making our
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home with him.
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That's the idea
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of abiding.
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That's what I mean
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by that.
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We make our home
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in him
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as he makes
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his home
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in us.
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He assures us
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over and over here
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that this process
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of trusting in him
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making the reality
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of our relationship
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with him
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the core of our identity
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the center
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of our reality
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our home
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will produce fruit.
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But we don't
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really understand
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that very easily.
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How?
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How does that happen?
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I'm going to give you
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three things
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that he says
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in this passage
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and then I want to give you
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a picture of what
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it looks like.
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Some of us need
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both of those
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some of us are more
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helped by one
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than the other.
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Three ways
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that this works
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itself out
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in our lives.
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First
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Jesus' words
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being at home
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in you.
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Verse 7
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If you abide
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in me
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and my words
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abide in you
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ask whatever you wish
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and it will be
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done for you.
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This is repeated
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throughout scripture
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that the word
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of Christ
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should dwell
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in us richly
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to shape our lives
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together as God's
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people.
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That we are to hide
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God's word
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in our heart
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that we might not
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sin against him
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because his word
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is a lamp to our feet
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and a light to our path
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right?
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So abiding
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in his word
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means reading it
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yes for sure
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and meditating
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on its direction
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for my life
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even memorizing it
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so that I hear it
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in my head
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throughout the day
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even when I don't have
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a Bible in my hands
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I'm hearing God's word
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it's shaping my day
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his word
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at home
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in me
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right?
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And particularly here
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the promise is
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that as God's word
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shapes our desires
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shapes our prayers
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our prayers
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for fruit
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are answered
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that's what we're
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praying for here
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see they're not
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selfish prayers
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they're prayers
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for the Father's
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glory
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when you pray
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for him
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to make you
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fruitful
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and gentle
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generous
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like him
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God make me
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more like
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you
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his words
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dwell in us
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and they make
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our desires
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obedient to his
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will
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for his glory
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in verse 9
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we make our
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home
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in Jesus'
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love
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as the Father
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has loved me
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so have I
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loved you
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abide
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in my love
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this is that
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mind-blowing
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truth that we
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saw again a
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couple of weeks
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ago
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right?
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Because we're
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united to
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Jesus
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as the Father
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has loved
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Jesus
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how is that?
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I couldn't
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exhaust it for you
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but full knowledge
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of everything
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eternal perfection
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complete sharing
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of all good things
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it's this unending
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Trinitarian love
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within the God
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who is love
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everything possible
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you could say
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about love
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just in that way
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Jesus
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has loved you
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so much so
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that Paul says
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this is a love
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that surpasses
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knowledge
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and yet he prays
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that we will
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actually know
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how long
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and how wide
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and how high
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and how deep
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is this measureless
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love
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because why do we
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need to know
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all the dimensions?
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because we're told
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to live there
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to make our
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home there
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to abide there
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in his love
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to have this reality
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that is really
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beyond our
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comprehension
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shape our lives
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listen his love
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is there
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it's not changing
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the question is
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are we resting
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living
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being empowered
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in it
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don't get out
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of the wheelchair
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or out of the boat
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and try to make
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it on your own
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and try to produce
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your own fruit
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if you're disconnected
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from Jesus' love
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self-sacrificing love
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like God's love
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will grow in our lives
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as we soak
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constantly
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in his love
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for us
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and then Jesus
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says one more
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thing about abiding
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it's his joy
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making its home
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in you
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verse 11
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these things
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I have spoken
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to you
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that my joy
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may be in you
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and that your joy
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as a result
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may be full
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Jesus' joy
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we know Jesus' joy
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is not based on
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happy circumstances
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right
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because it was for
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the joy
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that was set
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before him
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that he endured
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the cross
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his joy
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we see here
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involves obedience
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to his father
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and it must have
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involved rescuing us
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right
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to bring us
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into this relationship
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that joy
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that was set
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before him
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he delights
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in you
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it's a joy
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that knows
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no matter what happens
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even death
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on a cross
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good is coming
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from his loving father
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it's a joy
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that feels
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certain
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that satisfaction
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in God's provision
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what he knows
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we need
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is more fulfilling
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than anything
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that this world offers
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it's that kind of joy
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it's a joy
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that trust God's
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eternal inheritance
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relationship with him
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is more lasting
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than any other relationship
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we've ever known
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or will know
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it's a joy
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that celebrates
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Jesus' victory
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right
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he is the one
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who has driven this
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and achieved this victory
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but it celebrates
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his victory
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as ours
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as we're delightfully
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connected to him
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and crossing the finish line
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yes
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he conquered
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sin
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and death
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we have conquered
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sin
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and death
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what joy
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in what he has done
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so
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wake up
-
and sit in my presence
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Jesus says
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come with your
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your honest tears
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and your genuine heartache
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about the really hard
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things you're walking through
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and open my word
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and open your heart
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to me
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and I will
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pour my joy
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into you
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so that it's at home
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in your heart
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a joy that comes
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from knowing
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you're the apple
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of my eye
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you're the delight
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of my heart
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you're the ones
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for whom I gave
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my life
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so that you would share
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in the greatest thing ever
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life with me
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and my father
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I've given my life
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so that my joy
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can start to fill
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your heart
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when it's the joy
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of Christ
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that fills your heart
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then your joy
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is full
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so
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when your
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kid wanders away
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when your house
-
burns
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when you
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get mocked
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by co-workers
-
or friends
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you hurt
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and you grieve
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and you rejoice
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see that's different
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right
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that's something
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that's gotta change
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this is what Jesus
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tells us
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will change us
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in time
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we're so at home
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in him
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that his word
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and his love
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and his joy
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flow into us
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branches
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and bear fruit
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in our lives
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let me help us
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feel what this
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looks like
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in our lives
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to think how this
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abiding in the vine
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could actually
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bear fruit for us
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I wanna do that
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just give you
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one example
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this morning
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I wanna talk about
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loving someone
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who's hard to love
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I mean can we all
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agree that love
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is gonna be at the top
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of the list
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of the kind of fruit
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we want showing up
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in our lives
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and in our relationships
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and man
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that can be really hard
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sometimes
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imagine you're
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the parent
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of a difficult
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two year old
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for some of you
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that's really painful
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right now
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I get that
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if you're not
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presently the parent
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of a difficult
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two year old
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you can apply this
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equally well
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to a childish
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co-worker
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or friend
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right
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kids
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what does it look like
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to love a sibling
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sometimes the people
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closest to us
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can be hard
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to love
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you know someone
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hard to love
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people for whom
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love is not naturally
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in your hearts
-
it's not the first thing
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that comes to mind
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think of someone
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okay
-
in your life
-
but for sake
-
of one example
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your parent
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and your two year old
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is wearing you out
-
disobeying
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everything
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that you say
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wreaking
-
havoc
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around the house
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all day
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and refusing
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to go
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to bed at night
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so that the chaos
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just continues
-
and it never stops
-
and you never
-
get a break
-
and in those
-
tired moments
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that you've started
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to experience
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more and more of
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you've started
-
losing your temper
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quite often
-
losing control
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it seems like
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just about
-
every night
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lately
-
and you're
-
discouraged
-
you're ashamed
-
you're angry
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you don't want
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to be
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like this
-
so here you are
-
now you're driving
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home
-
from work
-
again
-
and you know
-
that you are
-
entering the whirlwind
-
that's what you're
-
coming home to
-
you have a few minutes
-
before you get there
-
you want to reset
-
in those few minutes
-
you could feel
-
defeated
-
and just decide
-
that this child
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is too wild
-
and I am too
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short tempered
-
so I'm just going
-
to lose it again
-
tonight
-
nothing can help
-
that's it
-
I've been there
-
okay
-
those feelings
-
are real
-
and can be
-
overwhelming
-
but Jesus says
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don't give up
-
he says
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he's still
-
working on you
-
there's hope
-
so let's suppose
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you're not there yet
-
and you're not
-
willing
-
to give up
-
on your evening
-
you really want
-
to be patient
-
you really want
-
to love your child
-
you really want
-
to be a good dad
-
you really want
-
to think of yourself
-
like that
-
right
-
you have two basic
-
options for how
-
to do it that night
-
okay
-
there's the option
-
of growth
-
in self
-
by striving
-
really hard
-
or
-
growth in grace
-
in union
-
with Christ
-
let me try to paint
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two different pictures
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you could spend
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those few minutes
-
like most of us do
-
making your home
-
in yourself
-
it's a very tempting
-
thing to do
-
because we want
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to be good
-
right
-
I want to do this
-
I want to find
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this in myself
-
making my home
-
in my own efforts
-
this is my default
-
I'm locking in
-
on the way home
-
I am giving myself
-
a pep talk
-
I can be a good dad
-
I won't lose
-
to a toddler again
-
that is so embarrassing
-
I can outlast him
-
I'm going to do it
-
he can't make me
-
lose my temper
-
tonight
-
in other words
-
what are you doing
-
as those thoughts
-
start to go through
-
your head
-
you're seeking
-
to shape
-
your own identity
-
aren't you
-
to tell yourself
-
who you are
-
I'm going to be
-
like this
-
I insist on it
-
this is who
-
I'm going to be
-
you could say it
-
this way
-
you're trying to
-
decorate your branch
-
with some
-
good fruit
-
it's the fruit
-
that you should want
-
put a little patience
-
and love on it
-
I want to look
-
good tonight
-
and some of us
-
will have
-
better nights
-
than others
-
some will have
-
a little bit
-
more success
-
might depend
-
on what kind
-
of night
-
your two year old
-
has
-
but at the end
-
of the night
-
no matter
-
how it went
-
you're still
-
going to resent
-
your child
-
aren't you
-
for all of the
-
effort
-
you're having
-
to put in
-
you're exerting
-
all of this effort
-
and you're feeling
-
resentful
-
rather than
-
loving the child
-
you see that
-
there's no love
-
growing
-
except perhaps
-
self-love
-
growing in your
-
heart
-
is there
-
as a result
-
there's going to
-
be a night
-
again soon
-
where that toddler
-
disturbs your peace
-
and you're going
-
to break again
-
or
-
you could spend
-
those few moments
-
that you have
-
in the car ride
-
home
-
making your home
-
if you will
-
in Christ
-
abiding
-
in him
-
maybe you know
-
you struggle
-
to do that
-
and someone
-
in your grace
-
group
-
texts you
-
to remind you
-
of the wonder
-
of Jesus
-
and your relationship
-
with him
-
right as you're
-
walking out the door
-
and you're getting
-
in the car
-
and so you start
-
to pray
-
because you're
-
desperate
-
God I want
-
to be a good
-
dad
-
but I need
-
your help
-
I need your
-
power
-
God I see
-
my selfishness
-
when I lose
-
my temper
-
with my kid
-
man I know
-
I'm just
-
like him
-
parents you've
-
felt that before
-
if I'm honest
-
God and slow
-
down long enough
-
I am just
-
like my child
-
no one respects
-
me at work
-
I feel out of
-
control in life
-
and so I'm
-
coming home
-
to that chaos
-
it just attacks
-
my longing
-
for peace
-
and for control
-
and for having
-
success at
-
something
-
and I'm just
-
a mess
-
God
-
and in that
-
moment you say
-
but God
-
I can tell you
-
that
-
I'm in Christ
-
so even when I
-
tell you what a
-
mess I am
-
I'm still
-
loved
-
I'm so loved
-
by you God
-
that even my
-
toddler level
-
fits
-
and God
-
I confess
-
that's what they
-
are
-
when I lose
-
my temper
-
even those
-
fits don't
-
diminish your
-
love for me
-
in fact
-
they motivated
-
you to send
-
your son
-
for me
-
when I was
-
a sinner
-
like that
-
so I know
-
that even as
-
a sinner God
-
coming to you
-
now asking
-
for your help
-
I know your
-
word tells me
-
nothing can
-
separate me
-
from your
-
love in
-
Christ
-
I love that
-
verse God
-
thank you
-
thank you
-
I am loved
-
right now
-
what starts
-
to happen
-
now God
-
I am longing
-
for my
-
toddler
-
to experience
-
that kind
-
of love
-
God
-
there's nothing
-
better than
-
your love
-
so I am
-
asking you
-
to empower
-
me by your
-
spirit
-
because you're
-
sending me
-
as his dad
-
back into
-
this chaos
-
I need you
-
to empower
-
me by your
-
spirit within
-
me with love
-
and patience
-
for tonight
-
remind me
-
that nothing
-
he can do
-
will make me
-
love him
-
less
-
father even
-
if it's a
-
hard night
-
I'm going
-
to take that
-
as painful
-
as it is
-
to be a
-
part of
-
your pruning
-
me
-
because you
-
want me
-
to bear
-
more fruit
-
and you're
-
doing something
-
in the life
-
of my child
-
that I don't
-
even recognize
-
so I'm
-
going to go
-
and trust
-
you
-
thank you
-
that I have
-
nothing to
-
prove to
-
you or to
-
anyone else
-
tonight
-
but that from
-
the peace I
-
have with you
-
I can
-
really love
-
as you
-
have loved
-
me
-
see how
-
real love
-
is starting
-
to grow
-
you're
-
going to
-
have a
-
perfect
-
night
-
quite
-
possibly
-
not
-
but there's
-
actually
-
real fruit
-
starting to
-
grow
-
there's
-
going to
-
be pruning
-
there will
-
be another
-
hard night
-
when you'll
-
feel like
-
you really
-
blew it
-
again
-
and God
-
will use
-
that to
-
drive you
-
back to
-
him
-
and back
-
to his
-
love
-
and give
-
you the
-
joy of
-
letting
-
that love
-
that you're
-
now abiding
-
in be love
-
that flows
-
through you
-
again
-
because you
-
really are
-
starting to
-
love in a
-
new way
-
that's the
-
difference
-
that growth
-
in grace
-
growth
-
in Christ
-
makes from
-
growth in
-
self
-
I'm
-
commending
-
it to you
-
not as a
-
technique
-
it's not
-
some magic
-
formula
-
it's a
-
reality in
-
which God
-
made you
-
to live
-
that produces
-
lasting fruit
-
he promises
-
it might
-
make you
-
increasingly
-
patient
-
with a
-
whiny
-
toddler
-
it might
-
make you
-
love someone
-
enough to
-
share the
-
good news
-
of Jesus
-
with her
-
even though
-
you don't
-
know how
-
she'll
-
respond
-
it might
-
make you
-
an agent
-
of peace
-
as you
-
pray daily
-
for someone
-
who's
-
struggling
-
and you
-
encourage him
-
in his
-
pain
-
I don't
-
know what
-
sorts of
-
things it
-
will do
-
what it
-
will
-
assuredly
-
do
-
is
-
if you're
-
making your
-
home in
-
Jesus
-
it will
-
help you
-
delight in
-
him
-
as the
-
source
-
of your
-
life
-
see no
-
matter how
-
well you
-
do
-
our fruit
-
the amount
-
of it
-
the quality
-
of it
-
does not
-
connect us
-
to Jesus
-
that's not
-
how it works
-
right
-
that's not
-
how vines
-
and branches
-
work
-
it's not
-
the fruit
-
that connects
-
the branch
-
to the vine
-
no
-
what it does
-
is assure us
-
that we are
-
in the boat
-
with him
-
pulling
-
we start to
-
feel his
-
strength
-
we say
-
I don't
-
love like
-
this God
-
but you
-
do
-
it reminds
-
us of the
-
gracious
-
power of
-
our Savior
-
for us
-
that he
-
loves us
-
where we
-
are
-
and longs
-
for us
-
to bear
-
fruit in
-
him
-
because he
-
made us
-
for that
-
fruit
-
so I'm
-
not stuck
-
I'm not
-
hopeless
-
I'm not
-
a lost
-
cause
-
because Jesus
-
has attached
-
himself to
-
me
-
he's attached
-
me to
-
himself
-
and so he'll
-
enable me to
-
bear
-
much fruit
-
divine love
-
full joy
-
lasting peace
-
and more
-
and more
-
let's ask
-
for his help
-
Jesus
-
what an
-
amazing
-
promise
-
I confess
-
to you
-
that
-
that I
-
know
-
there's
-
skepticism
-
in hearing
-
that
-
because I
-
feel it
-
in my
-
own heart
-
Jesus
-
this is
-
not what
-
I experience
-
all the
-
time
-
in fact
-
we have
-
to trust
-
that you're
-
bearing fruit
-
that we
-
don't see
-
or recognize
-
but Jesus
-
we ask you
-
to help us
-
abide
-
that we
-
might not
-
be
-
striving
-
in our
-
own
-
strength
-
we know
-
that's
-
fruitless
-
by your
-
spirit
-
bring fruit
-
and life
-
and love
-
in us
-
and for you
-
we ask in
-
Jesus name
-
amen
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-
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-
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