Importance of Godly Parenting and Responsibility: 1 Kings 1:28-53

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So if you remember, uh, what's his name? Ada? And

Nijah was David's what was his fourth son?

Yeah, he was born right after Absolom, right.

Yeah, and he was It made sense that he would

be the next king because you had according to the

notes here, Ada Nija was David's fourth son, the logical

choice to Succeeed succeed him as king. David's first son, Amnon,

had been killed by Absolom for raping his sister. His

second son, Daniel, is mentioned only in the genealogy, so

he must have died by this time. Absolom died in

a previous coup attempt. And then now you have ada Nija.

It makes sense to at night. But David had already chosen.

Are those all four starting with A?

Except for Daniel?

Oh yeah, Daniel, yeah? And Solomon of course.

And then so David had determined that Solomon was going

to be the next king? Yes, we had, and God

had chosen Solomon as well. But one of the things,

it was amazing. We didn't mention this yesterday, but do

you remember reading that that David had never disciplined at

a Nija, not even asking him? Why are you doing that?

Have you ever seem like the old grandpa mentality where

you sort of give up being a parent.

You just give him everything. Yeah, yeah, you want more?

Can you want ice cream? Before? Well, that's what's happening.

He's, uh, he's just forgotten to be a dad, right,

He's sort of like almost feels like he's renounced his responsibilities.

Why because Nathan has to uh plot the way to

get David to actually act like a leader. So he says,

but Sheba, go in there and you say this, then

I'll come in and I'll make a big stink about it.

As you're talking.

I'll back up your story.

Because we want David to respond as a leader, and

if you go in by yourself, he's not going to respond.

He's going to do what he always does, right, which

is just advt He's just going to just past discipline,

ignore whatever. So clearly responsibility is what I mean.

David never corrected him. And it doesn't say anything about

how abishag his mother was. It as no, no, no no.

His mother's name it was another really weird name, Hageth.

She doesn't say anything about her discipline, but the Bible

does mention a few times about Bathsheba and raising her son,

and so it's kind of interesting. Maybe David saw that

Solomon had character and that might have been why he

chose Solomon over Abashaker or what's his name, Ada nijahh Okay,

So we're gonna pick back up here, go King David.

This is in verse twenty eight of First Kings. King

David responded, called Bathsheba, so she came back in and

stood before the king, and the King repeated his vow.

As surely as the Lord lives, who rescued me from

every danger, your son Solomon will be the next king

and will sit on my throne this very day, just

as I vowed to you before the Lord the God

of Israel. Then Bathsheba bowed down with her face to

the ground before the king and claimed, may my Lord

King David live forever. Then King David ordered calls Adok

the Priest, Nathan the Prophet, and ben I as sna Jahoida.

When they came into the king's presence, the King said

to them, take Solomon and my officials down to the

Guihan Spring. Solomon is to ride on my own mule there,

Zadok the priest and Nathan the Prophet, and annoint him king

over Israel. Blow the rams horn and shout long live

King Solomon, and then escort him back here, and he

will sit on my throne. He will succeed me as king,

for I have appointed him to be ruler over Israel

and Judah. Amen ben Iyah, son of Jeheida, replied, May

the Lord the God of my lord. The King decreed

that it happened and may the Lord be with Solomon

as he has been with you, my Lord the King,

and may he make Solomon's reign even greater than yours.

It seems like he made a long speech considering to

be hurrying there. But anyways, so.

And by the way, he has to make it because

at an Aja his coup is happening that day, right,

which means all of a sudden, David has been thrust

into like I've got to do this ceremony right now.

Right right, yeah, So where do we finish on this chapter?

By the way, Oh, I'm trying to fix it out.

That's a great question.

Verse fifty three. Who we're going? Okay, So, Zadok, the

priest Nathan, the prophet Beniah, a son of Jehidah, and

the king's body took Solomon down to Guihan's Spring, with

Solomon riding on David's own mule. There, Zadok the priest

took the flask of olive oil from the sacred tent

and anointed Solomon with the oil. Then they sounded the

ram's horn and all the people shouted, long Live King Solomon.

All the people followed Solomon into Jerusalem, playing flutes and

shouting for joy. The celebration was so joyous and noisy

that the earth shook with the sound. Ada Nija and

his guests heard the celebrating and shouting it just as

they were finishing their banquet. When Joeb heard the sound

of the rams horn, he asked, what's going on? Why

is the city in such an uproar. While he was

still speaking, Jonathan, son of Abiathar, the priest, arrived, come

in ad and I just said to him, for you

are a good man, you must have good news. Not

at all, Jonathan replied, our lord, King David has just

declared king Solomon King. The King sent him down to

Guihan Spring. Was Zadok the priest, Nathan the prophet, and

ben Aya son of Johidah. Protected by the king's bodyguard.

They had him ride on the king's own mule, and

Zadok and Nathan have anointed him at Guihan Spring. Is

the new king. And they've just returned, and the whole

city is celebrating and rejoicing. That's what all the noise

is about. What's more, Solomon is now sitting on the

royal throne as king. All the royal officials have gone

to King David and congratulating him, saying, may your God

make Solomon's fame even greater than your own, and may

Solomon's reign be even greater than yours. And then the

king bowed his head in worship as he lay in

his bed, and he said, praise the Lord, the God

of Israel, who today has chosen a successor to sit

on my throne while I am still alive to see it.

Then all of Ada and Iija's guests jumped up in

panic from the banquet table and quickly scattered. Adanijah was

afraid of Solomon, so he rushed to the sacred tent

and grabbed on to the horns of the altar. Words

soon reached Solomon that Adanaija had seized the horns of

the altar in fear, and that he was pleading let

King Solomon swear today that he will not kill me.

Solomon replied, if he proves himself to be loyal, not

a hair on his head will be touched. But if

he makes trouble, he will die. So King Solomon summoned

and add an Ija, and they brought him down from

the altar. He came and bowed respectfully for King Solomon,

who dismissed him, saying, go on home. He what's a

cool move, right there, Yeah, that's a great move. Just

just go home.

Yeah. And so hey, you tried, buddy, right, you tried

it failed. Just bend the knee, go on home. That's it.

So uh so again, what an epic story. And uh,

it's just it's just great. And uh and by the way,

just in the dude, right, And and I love how

it says David bowed his head in worship as he

lay in his bed.

You know what that means.

It means that he he used all of his strength

to get up and to do this ceremony.

They got him out of bed.

Here he is under what like five hundred blankets and

standing next to a girl that's trying to keep him warm, right,

and and he can't he can't get warm, and and

so he's gonna come out of his blankets. Right. You know,

you can even imagine your brain how finn he is. Yeah, right,

he's probably so thin. That's where that's when you're cold.

Well, we know he's over seventy at this point. Yeah,

but but the miles on this guy are way more

than seventy.

Right, right, yeah, this guy, this guy's been through it

so anyway, so he has just enough strength to do

all of this.

And then this old lion rises up one more time, right,

and then he goes.

Back in bed and he worships in bed because he

doesn't have the strength, right, And so it includes that detail.

And so Solomon is now, uh, you know, probably with

no notice. Think about this. Think about it from Solomon's

point of view, right, yeah, Yeah, he's been promised king. Sure,

he's been trained to be king. It's the long awaited day.

But then all of a sudden, somebody wakes you up

and goes, hey, hey, it's happening today.

What do you mean today?

No, no, with the next hour, Yeah, we're going now

you get on the mule. It's like it's like wow,

and all of a sudden you're on the throne. Yeah yeah,

And so you know, and so it's a good lesson

for us.

And he's a younger man, right right, he's what the

fifth son of David, so he's a younger, a younger man.

We know that David also had daughters, so we don't

know how many siblings. But you know, I mentioned I

was it yesterday's episode that I had. You know, my

oldest sister is in her sixties, my youngest brothers in

his thirties, and and you know there's this big.

Gap, and you have ten siblings and you're the eleventh.

Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, Well I'm in the middle. But

when you add me, it's eleven kids total in my

that are connected. Oh you're not the eleventh in line, no, no, no, no,

I'm the oldest. I'm the oldest of the boys. I

have six older sisters and four younger brothers.

Everybody above you is female, and already below you as male.

Yeah. I turned the tide man, everything got better, right right,

that's really funny. Yeah, So so it could be that

way that you know, he could be he could be

fifteen years younger than Amnon was, right right, So he's

he's probably a pretty young guy. Yeah, if his dad

was in his seventies.

He can't be too young because and I just afraid

of them.

Right right right? Yeah. Well, also he also has all

the bodyguards and he sitting.

There, think he was just afraid of his power.

Oh he's the king now right, Yeah, so everybody, because

it didn't hesitate to tell us that as soon as

soon as the announcement was made. Everybody left out of that.

He's by himself, right, He's feeling pretty tough because he's

got Joeb sitting there with.

Him, and and at anytime that dinner party could have

been raided.

Right right, because they were just down the hill. They

were just down the hill from the palace. Right. So yeah,

so you know Solomon is is now the king and yeah,

like you said, is a whirlwind here. But this treacherous

guy at in Nija. Just be sure that you know

when you try to Jesus said, if you try to

push yourself to the top, you will be humiliated, right

that that's kind of the the thing. And this is

what he did again at a Nija. Tries to push

himself to the top. He tries to seize power. It

wasn't his to have, uh, and you know he winds

up being embarrassed. Joe app gets exposed. At this point,

all these other leaders of Ayathar and his family, they

get exposed and they all take off run and they

abandon ad in Nija. And just understand, when you're trying

to take what's not yours, and people around you will

abandon you when you get exposed. That's right, and that's

that's what happens here.

Yeah, Hey, there's a note. The reason why one of

the reasons why we love our life applications study Bibles

is they do all of the study and they had

these commentaries and these really great notes, and I love this.

And a lot of times they'll do like a character study,

or they'll summarize the character's life.

Yes, and in this case they're summarizing Besteshiba, and I

love just the opening lines and this it says. Best

Sheba was the unlikely link between Israel's two most famous kings,

David and Solomon. She was lover and wife to one

and mother to the other. Her adultery with David almost

brought an end to David's family line, but out of

the ashes of sin, God brought good. Eventually, Jesus Christ,

the Salvation of mankind was born as a descendant to

David and bet Sheba. David and Bestsheba's story shows that

little bit wrong decisions often lead to big mistakes. It

is likely that that neither was where she should have been.

Betesheba may have been rash and well anyway, it just

goes on. But the bottom line is it is a

great thing to recognize in this moment, as Solomon is being,

you know king that you know Bestsheba is the mother,

and then from this line of kings is the King

of kings, right, the next King of Israel and king

of the world and king of the universe in creation.

And so it's just really cool how God is able

to use broken people for great things. And so here's

David not a perfect moment, right, the worst part of

his life by far, the thing that was known throughout Israel,

his most shameful thing that he's ever been a part of.

And yet God deems it. And and it's because why

of his repentance. It's because of his posture of recognizing

and apologizing to everybody there was there was a penalty

for his sin. He has paid that price, excuse me.

And it's just a great thing to know that God

is still in the business of using broken people for

great thanks right right.

You know. The other thing is God had ordered you know,

God does not endorse polygamy anywhere in the Bible. He

ordered the kings don't marry lots of wives. He'd warned

the people. If you if you start appointing kings they're

gonna want to marry all the women. They're gonna want

to It was a warning, right, they're gonna want to

enlist all.

Of the sons, Samuel. Samuel said, this is the testable

things that will happen if you choose a king.

Right, and they're gonna marry all your women. They're gonna

enlist all of your sons. They're going to take all

of your money. Right, you don't want a king. And

so the kings weren't supposed to be marrying all these women,

but David does. And if you look at it, it's

four sons, three of them in a row, that rose

up against him, right, right, from different women. Yeah, and

then finally, but God still redeems it. Even out of

our sin. He resolves, He brings like that said, beauty

out of ashes kind of a thing and raises up

Solomon Solomon. God could look into Solomon's life and go, Okay,

this guy's gonna be pretty good.

Yeah, and let's not forget too that his son's raising

up against him as part of the consequences for of

his own sin. Because the curse came.

In multiple sins, multiple sins.

And it was Nathan right who said, part of the

part of your curse is going to be that your

sons are going to live and die by the sword,

and in fact your whole family and violence, violence and

everything else. So, yeah, it was an actual curse. And

so David's earthly consequences, the ripple effects of his bad choices,

are still coming up back to haunt him.

But it doesn't require Nathan to come in and declare

the curse. Sin brings the curse, right, That's right, right,

Nathan was just informing him of the curse. These are

going to be the consequences. But if David had just

married one woman and raised his son, well that son

would have been the king, right. But instead he marries

lots of women. They're all aspiring to the throne, they all.

Right, and then decides to take another woman and.

Takes another woman. I'm right in front of them, right,

And so what happens is, you know, in David's mind,

David was just doing what other respectable kings do. They

look around the world, see all the other kings, all

the other kings have these big harems. They just take

what they want. It's a sign of your power. It

demonstrates how strong your country is because you're such a

virile man and you've got fifty kids and all these things.

And it's also you know, more to choose from right

the next heir? Sure, right, if I have a bunch

of wives and more kids. You know, it makes sense

in mathematically that if you have kids by one woman,

you're only gonna get so many kids, right, But if

you have seven hard women, you can have seven hondred kids.

So his justification for it very likely was this is

what kings do, So that's what I do. It demonstrates

my power. Whatever, And I think a lot of times

Christians get tempted to just do what the world does.

Going well, you know, culture has changed, right, I know

that's what God said. But you know, the reality is

we've had conversations with people who were choosing to live

in sin because economics are bad, it's hard to pay

for rent, right, it's whatever, and we just we can

find an excuse to justify our sin, and then we

still tend to be shocked when there's consequences to our sin.

And in this situation, I mean, David literally lives what

should have been the end years of his life in

peace because he'd vanquished all of his enemies instead. Now

the enemy is from inside his own household, over and

over and over again. It's a consequence of the fact that

he just he adopted the lifestyle of the world around him,

and instead of going God's way and trusting that God

would raise up the one he only needed one air.

He didn't need seventy five airs. He needed one. You

need to trust God to protect that air. He needed

to trust it. And then followed Deuteronomy six. Teach him

in the morning, when you rise up, when you go

to bed at night, when you walk along the way,

when you sit down to eat, right, if he just

but instead we see here Ad and Igel. He never

even corrected him one time. He didn't train him at all.

He did buck kiss with the next person in line

that could have been king, right, ignored him essentially. And

a lot of times I think parents think, oh, I

just love my baby so much, I don't want to

discipline them. Yeah, but look what you raise right, right right?

And so in so many ways David is such a

good guy. His heart is for God, and in so

many ways he just fails to do what was necessary.

You know, he had he was super talented, but he

didn't raise his children in the same way, and yeah,

it's a shame.

Yeah, and part of it, I'm sure he blamed himself

the entire time. Sure he felt discouraged about that part

of his life. I'm sure, you know, blaming himself because

he knew that no matter what he did, it was

destined to turn bad. You know, I'm sure he probably

told him of all sorts.

Of things, why I do this?

Yeah, absolutely, And so I'm sure it played part into

him just sort of giving up in some ways. But

you know what, this move that David did here, this

is obviously what God had in mind. God said, David,

you won't build a temple, but Solomon will. God knew

Solomon was the next king. That was God's choice, that

was David's choice. And so him rising up and doing

this in this moment was a great picture of the

old David, right, the David who stood against Goliath, the

young man that killed the lion and the bear. That's

who stood up here and did what was right.

So David has one or two more plays and then

it's coming to an end here pretty soon. So looking

forward to the next episode, all

Right, So we'll see you then on the bibble guys,