Integrity: Beyond Casual Promises | Matthew 5:33-37

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Speaking of fun, Jeff, we have a segment that Desiree

put together, and it's actually I think we've only done

this once one other time. It's called rapid fire Roulette, okay,

and it says Jeff will ask us rapid series of unexpected,

hilarious questions while Chris answers as quickly as possible within

thirty seconds, no repeats, no overthinking.

Okay, So I'm gonna how many seconds do we have?

Well, it says.

Within thirty seconds. I no, I'm sure to.

Answer the question within thirty seconds, but I'm gonna try

to do it within ten seconds.

Okay, ready, yep, it is cereal soup.

No?

Why why because it's not soup? Okay, because it's milk

and sugar. Yeah yeah, okay, a lot of curries use milk. Anyways,

what's the most suspicious vegetable?

Tomatoes?

If David fought Goliath? Now, what weapon would he use?

Oh? I can't overthink this. Uh uh SPI.

Pulls that's the weapon. Yeah, he chove a stone four

thousand years ago, but he's gonna do that three thousand

years ago. Okay, Uh, what snack thinks it's better than

it is?

Oh, pudding pudding?

Really yeah?

Putting especially uh like like like jello pudding.

Wow? Okay. What's the most aggressive condiment?

Uh? Horse tradish?

What food smells like regret?

Uh? Uh pickled pig's feet?

Okay, I get thirty seconds to laugh?

Is that not true?

Probably? Yes, that's true. Uh is a dog of sandwich?

Yes? Question mark?

Or is it something else?

I think it's a sandwich, I really do.

Yeah.

I mean it's it's meat between between you know, bread,

only just in a creative.

Way, right, I think so? Yeah, Okay, I think it's

a sandwich. What's the worst plague Egypt didn't get?

Oh uh bamboo under a fingernails.

Let my people go, or everybody's gonna get a Chinese

bamboo torture. That's right? Is that it? Really?

Yeah? Sure?

Wow? Wow? What? Uh? What object in your house would

snitch on you?

What object in my house would snitch on me? My TV?

Just just talking about the hours that I waste.

What's the least relaxing relaxing activity.

The least relaxing relaxing activity, Oh, she whish cleaning the garage?

Is that relaxing to you. Oh yeah, yeah, oh yeah, yeah,

that makes sense to me. You like things in order? Yeah, okay,

what church song needs to be retired? O?

Uh see, I'm not good at church song titles, to

be honest with you. But but better as one day

in your courts is already retired. But when that thing

was popular, I hated, And if anybody ever decides to

bring it back, I'm like, dear God, no I had.

I had an instrumental thing playing at my house a

couple of weeks ago, and it was just playing through

the house. I like to do that sometimes, and that

song comes up and I just skip.

I could stand.

Who makes an instrumental of a song that only has

three notes? Right?

Yeah? Yeah? But just the lyrics in general?

Okay? Well, would your inner voice be named.

Vinnie?

Vinnie? Uh uh, I'm not gonna ask that one. Uh.

What item would make a terrible hat?

Uh? A cat?

Okay? Wow?

A live cat?

A live cat would not make a good hat.

It's correct, Okay, it says no, it says no thinking.

That's right.

I didn't think about.

That all right. What smell means this church has been

here a while?

Uh?

Mildew mild. That's true. That it's true. Oh yeah, you

ever walk into church, it smells like an old folks home.

Dude, that was half the churches growing up, half the

churches growing up. We're all old, nasty, small churches.

Mm hmmm. Uh. What thing in your office is silently

judging you?

M Oh, you're not gonna like the answer. I have

a display of international things, and I used to travel

the world, and now I don't go anywhere except for

one place, and I have regret about that, and.

So that judges you.

Yeah.

Oh, we got to do that more.

Yeah, it says to me, look a, you used to

care about the rest of the world. I feel that

way all the time.

Really, yeah, all right, Wow, we got to change that.

Yeah.

Well, there you go. That's a good one. Yep, all right,

we'll end with one more.

Yep.

Ready, what food would be a terrible roommate?

Oh? What food? The terrible roommate? Indian food? All Indian food.

Okay, you just yeah, the most populous planet on the

most populous nation on the planet. You just tacked them

all off.

That's right, that's right. Yeah. So I remember when I

first moved here in two thousand and four, I had

a good friend Dan, and Dan was Indian and his

wife was more Indian than he was. And they said,

you've never had Indian food, and I said no, And

he says, well, there's a plaza right next to your house.

Come and meet me there. And I said okay. And

at the time, I was wearing a suit because I

had done a funeral. So I had done a funeral.

And then I met him there and we went inside

and spent two hours and ate Indian food. And then

I came out and I realized I immediately had to

take that suit to the dry cleaners because my suit

smelled like curry curry, and it's like it was so

strong that when I walked in through the door, my

wife goes, oh, oh, what where were you? And I said,

I was at this Indian restaurant. She says, take that off,

throw it in the back of your truck. And I realized,

holy cow, Like, what kind of food is so strong?

When you're talking about a good one?

But but but anyway, I thought to myself, what kind

of restaurant it's so strong that that you have to

dry clean your food every time you.

Go in, it clean your clothes. Yeh, me too. You

don't have to do you like Indian food?

Yes, I actually did like it.

I do like it.

Yeah, I liked it.

Yeah, it's an acquired taste for me. But now you know,

I eat any food all the time, so I really

decided to like it. There's an Indian restaurant not far

from my house called Pink Garlic, and his family is

from India. But then he has a bunch of restaurants

in London and opened one here in our area. And

I love their food and uh mango, lassie, those are fantastic.

I love tandory chicken, I love I love any of

the the curries.

And but you have to admit that's a good one

to choose.

It is very very strong smells that were not accustomed to.

Yeah, so my, but.

They come here and they wouldn't like the smell of

fried chicken in your house.

Right. So my mother tells me the story that my

my grandmother, who's who's passed, came over on the boat

from Italy when she was When she first moved here,

she got an apartment and then she lived there for

years and she loved it. And then there was a

lady who moved in next door who was Indian, and

because she had so much, she cooked Indian food and

it was the smell was so strong. She moved. Oh,

she said, my mom had to move. Oh, yeah, because

it was so strong.

It's just surprising combinations of flavors. My wife and I

were in Delhi last summer and we went to the

spice market there where they sell all the spices wholesale,

and it's an entire I don't know, six blocks of

just jillions of spice shops and guys running up and

down the street. And it just was so strong and pungent,

and it was hot that day and it was amazing.

I've got like a million pictures. We bought some spices

and bought a bunch of I bought some tea in

one of the shops, and we bought some Gara masala

and some different different spices for to come home and

cook with. And it was amazing, just incredible, just this

behive of activity.

That's awesome.

Well, that was a good one. I enjoyed that one,

so we I don't have any transition. Well, I asked

you do you like Indian food? And you said yes.

And you know, the Bible says, let you yes, be yes,

and you're no be known. It is where it is,

there it is there, you go.

I spoke the truth.

About that's right. Well, that's the whole premise behind that.

That game right is just to get you to be

honest about your opinions.

There it is.

And so in Matthew chapter five, Jesus says, blessed are

the pure in heart. And then throughout the rest of

the sermon on them out five, six and seven, he

talks about different things that hint at a pure heart,

and one of them. So yesterday we talked about what

our eyes are looking at, right, that kind of thing,

and lust and those things. And today in verse thirty

three he talks about our words, and he says, you've

also heard that your ancestors were told you must not

break your vows. You must carry out the vows you

make to the Lord. But I say, do not make

any vows. To not say by Heaven, because heaven is

God's thrown And don't say by earth, because the earth

is his footstool. And don't say by Jerusalem, for Jerusalem

is the city of the Great King. Do not even

say by my head, for you can't turn one hair

white or black, just say as simple yes I will

or no I won't. Anything beyond this is from the

evil one.

Yeah?

Is that something?

Yeah? Yeah, that's interesting. How yours is an NLT, Yeah,

and mine's an NLT. But sometimes the translations are older

versions of it or young or newer. But like there

was like five different things that were a little bit different.

Interesting. Yeah, did it say just as simple yes I

will or no I won't. They'll be in the last verse.

Simple yes I will or no I won't. Then it

says anything beyond this is from the evil one.

You said anything anything beyond this is from the evil one.

Oh m, interesting, I thought I thought I heard you

said something different. Yeah, huh uh. Yeah, so there there

was a couple in there. I'm not going to go

try to compare.

But yeah, but the main idea is your yes this

should mean yes, and your nose should mean no. And

you should be a man of your word. You sation

in the.

Book of James talks about this as well. Right, he says,

out of the same fountains should not come bitter water

and sweetwater. Right, yeah, he said, so, so therefore, let

your yaba, let your nabyn, let's your yesbs, let's your

let's your no, be no, and so do not swear

by anything. And so I I actually took this literally,

and I still do think it means to be literal

because I was just watching what was it? It was

Infinity Wars, remember Avengers Infinity Wars where Gomora asks Quill

to she says, hey, I know things, so you know

promised that What a terrible thing to bring up. But

she says, promised to kill me if the never captures me.

But then she but then he goes, well, and then

she puts his hand, she puts her hand over and

she says, swear by your mother.

Oh wow.

And then he goes, okay, I promise. And that was

the thing that she knew that he was going to

keep his word because he swore by his dead mother, right.

And And I sometimes think to myself, like, if if

you're a person, I think that things like that are okay,

I really do. I think that things like that are

sometimes okay. But that's I don't think that's the heart

of what Jesus was talking about. I think what he's

saying is if you have developed a reputation that where

nobody believes you unless you say, okay, say Christian promise. Right,

It's like it's like, oh yeah, yeah, that's true. Okay, yeah,

Christian promise. Yeah, that's true. If you've developed a reputation

to where you people cannot take you at your word,

to where they have to actually say, okay, you have

to say Christian promise, because we used to say that

Christian promise. We used to say that.

In that silly Yeah, I never I've never heard of that.

Oh yeah, well I think it's something we made up.

But but or they say, you know, swear, swear, swear,

swear to God. That's would be the more common thing, right,

swear to God.

And he says, don't do that.

He says, don't do that. But if you're a person

who who your word is not good enough, then then

that he's saying, like you, you shouldn't have to be

a person that has to swear by heaven or earth right,

or say Christian promise, or swear to God, or swear

by your mother because your regular word is not good enough,

because it's all about the heart's intent, right, So it's

it's not a cardinal sin to swear by your mother,

dead mother, and that's not a cardinal sin, and I

think that that's okay to do. I don't think that's

the sin part. I think the sin part is is

if you if your word cannot be trusted, then Jesus

is saying, then you shouldn't be a person that has

to swear by other things. Just be a person who

has integrity in their word.

Right.

So God is not against vows, right because in Leviticus,

in Numbers and Deuteronomy he spells out if you make

a vow, you have to keep it right. But we

try to get overly emphatic because we've developed a relationship

of breaking or a reputation of breaking our vows. So

then we get overly emphatic, and it's that I swear

to God, I swear to my dead mother or whatever.

And Jesus is saying, don't do that. Just don't do it.

There's don't give anybody a reason to believe you're not

going to keep your word. Be a man of your word,

be a woman of your word. Just just do what

you're gonna do. Yes should mean yes, No should mean no.

And the more words somebody starts putting behind a thing,

usually the more intent they have of getting out of

it in some way. The Book of Proverbs says in

a multi there's no shortage of sin in a multitude

of words. Right. You ever notice my grandfather used to

I've told a story a few different times, but in Elba, Michigan,

there used to be a general store and the men

during the all the farmers in the area would go

down to the general store, sit around, play checkers on

the pickle barrels. They had like three pickle barrels, and

they play checkers on the top of the pickle barrels,

and they get all the business done. All right, we're

gonna plant the Hey. Great, if you plant, you know,

eighty acres of Hey, I'll buy twenty five acres of that. Hey,

they work all that out. I'll be handshake. Right. When

my grandfather's name was Fenton. When Fenton Avery Forrester shook

your hand and said I'll buy it, it was a

done deal. Guys say I'm going to rent a tractor.

I'm gonna rent a combine because they didn't own combines.

I'm gonna rent a combine for two weeks, and that'll

pay for a third of the costs. And two other

guys step and say I'll do a third. I'll do

a third. Okay, good, I'll go put the deposit down

and they shake their hand. They would do huge amounts

of business just with men shaking hands and agreeing. Right.

It's like jeremyguire, my word is stronger than oak. Yeah,

then he violated it.

Yeah, exactly. Now. The other side of it is, we've

had agreements where all of a sudden, some property owners,

somebody comes in and they've got they've got stack of

papers this bak and we got initial here, here, here, here,

and here and here and here and there and there

and sign here and sign here and sign there and

initial this and initial that, and sure enough, later on

you find out there's twenty loopholes that advantage the person

who needed me an initial here, initial there, sign here,

sign there. There's a reason why I don't qualify for

what I thought I got, but there's a reason why

that guy gets more. Right. So, this is what Jesus

is saying is, don't develop this reputation that more words

are gonna guarantee a thing, because they don't. Don't go

around guarantee and stuff. Just let your yes b yes,

and your no be no. And if you have to

say I swear to God, Well, then listen. Either that

person doesn't trust you to begin with, you shouldn't be

going down that road, or you don't have a reputation

that's good enough. You need to repair your reputation. And

the only way you can do that is actually making

yes b yes, and actually making nob no right.

Right, Yeah, Yeah, it's really good. And I think that, Uh,

I hope, I hope this is true. But I hope

that I've worked on this enough to where I told you.

For some reason, this has always jumped out in my mind.

And uh, and so we stopped. We stopped doing the

whole like Christian promise thing, and we actually told each

other we're like the Bible says not to do that.

If you're going to say yes, just just let your

yes be yes, let your no be no. And I

think I've tried really hard my whole life, uh uh

to be that kind of person. So I think my

family definitely knows.

Right.

So if I say yes, they're like, Okay, it's a

done deal. I think they think that. And if I

say no, my family thinks, okay, it's a done deal.

And and I and I, uh, gosh, I mean what

else do you have at the end of at the

end of your life, you know you have a good name.

We just talked about that on Sunday, right, Sunday was

all about character. A good name is to be chosen over,

you know, riches or gold, great riches or gold. And uh,

you know I've already mentioned two movies. It's also Entangled,

remember where remember that cartoon Entangled Disney where Flynn Ryder

she says, once I make a promise, I always keep

that promise. And she introduces that concept to Flyn Wrider

at the beginning, and then at the end of the

movie she says, if you just let me heal him,

I'll never try to escape from you. And she said,

I promise. And as soon as she said I promise,

the wicked Villain Lady is like okay, And she knew

that she could trust it because she said the word

I promise. Right, regardless of whether you use the word promise

or not, it's just this idea that she has this

reputation of saying, as soon as I say something, you

know it's going to happen. And I think that there's

an integrity piece of that that is more valuable than

just about anything. I made the comment in my message,

and I should have written this in the message, but

I never gave it to you, And and my son,

who listened to me on Saturday night, told me, I

should have given this to you. But for about fifteen

years I had a plaque on my desk, and then

it broke and and you know, I regretting not having

it now, but it just guided me my whole life.

And it was a quote by Woodrow Wilson, but Woodrow

Wilson was really quoting the Bible, right, because he's a

godly man. But it actually says if I take care

of my character, my reputation will take care of itself.

True, right.

And so I just remember thinking, there's been times in

my life where people have either thought something about me

and it's been unfair to me, you know, like somebody

else gave a false impression or something like this, or

maybe somebody misinterpreted me or something. And I've felt the

need to where I had to go and try to

control my reputation. But I've always resisted that urge because

I've always leaned back on this biblical principle that was

quoted by Woodrow Wilson. I thought to myself, it's not

my job to control what you think of me, right,

It's just not my job. It's not my job. I

don't have that job. My job is to control my integrity,

my character, right by what I say and what I do.

And it's like what I say and what I do

for them to come together and have no gaps, right,

And and that's really what character is. And so if

I just do that, then I'll let my reputation work

it out in your mind. So if you hear something

about me that's not true, I'm gonna leave it up

to you to say I don't believe that, because that

is not the kind of person he is.

So a lot of times people get really grumpy about

and this is kind of a pivot just a little

bit as we finish up. Uh, people get grumpy about

language being used. Oh, you shouldn't swear, You shouldn't cuss,

you could, you shouldn't curse. Yeah, right, And a lot

of times people will use cussing, cursing and swearing interchangeably,

but they're very distinct distinct. Right, So this is don't

swear and swearing is making a vow I swear to

God kind of a phrase. That's that's a that's a

different thing. Right. Now, you're standing in court and you

you promise to tell the truth, the whole truth, and

nothing but the truth. God, Jesus doesn't say you must

never make a vow. There's multi versus. The Bible say

if you make a vow, you must keep the vowel.

That's right, right, But Jesus is saying, listen, it's a

waste for you to go around saying I swear to God,

I swear to God, I swear to God. If you

have to do that all the time, people don't trust you.

And that's why you're trying to use a higher power.

You're invoking something more powerful than you because you're not trustworthy. Right,

that's so don't swear. Cursing would be words like gd yep, rights,

it's those it's those vulgarities that we use to curse. Now,

Jesus did say, whatever you bind on earth or be

bound in heaven. Whatever you loose on earth will be

loosed in heaven. So if you're going to curse something

or somebody, it better be legit, like honestly, that's what

you mean, right, right, And then cussing is bad manners. Right,

it's just bad. There's some cultural words that are just

really you know, have vulgarities to them, and they're bad manners. No,

Bible doesn't really talk much about that other than, you know,

don't let evil corrupt communication come out of your mouth.

He talks about that kind of thing. We should be

people who have clean, clean mouths. But he doesn't really

seem to point out the idea that a cussword is

a is a sin. But he does point out you

can sin by swearing, and you can sin. It's possible

to sin by cursing. It's not always that that's true

about both of those. But there are tremendous cautions about

all three of those kinds of phrases, right, the vulgarities

versus a curse, versus a vow versus a swear, and

so all of those we should be very very cautious

and careful in using those. And so he just says,

and let your yes be yes and your no be no.

Yeah, that, by the way, you said a pivot. But

but that that was very relevant to these verses. I

love that. That's really great. So hey, and that is

our time. So what a great passage of scripture. What

a great discussion, Jeff, congratulations for bringing that out. The

distinction between cursing, cussing, and swearing, by the way, I

think that that's I think that's a brand new piece

of information for most of our listeners, because I don't

think most of our listeners probably put enough energy into

just you know, trying to distinct. Sure, find the distinction

between those.

Most of what we say is swearing or cursing is

mostly just bad manners cussing, right, most of it, right,

But we should be really careful about the swearing and cursing.

Yeah, that's great. Okay, well, hey, we'll see you next time,

hopefully on the Bible guys. H