Sermon
Church Discipline B
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Good morning, Good News Church.
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We are continuing our series, Church Unpacked. We are now at part eight of this
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series of sermons on church life. I heard that woo, thank you.
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I think it has been very healthy for us to cover these topics.
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There are some things that we have said in this series that we have said now for the very first time.
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For instance, this is the first series in the history of Good News Church where
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we did a sermon on why we do sermons.
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It seems crazy to me that it took so long for us to get around to that topic.
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Like for the first 15 years of this church, we just assumed you knew why we preach.
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And it was not until this year that we actually explained why teaching is such
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an important part of Christian gatherings.
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So we covered that in this series, but not only that, we've covered a lot of
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other topics as well. We've talked about membership. We've talked about worship,
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Lord's Supper, baptism.
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Last week, we began a short two-week mini-series on the topic of church discipline,
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which if you don't know what that is, it's about how to handle sin.
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In within a congregation.
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And it's a very difficult topic. I mentioned last week that it is a topic that
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is usually ignored in most American churches. Like it is not valued,
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it is not practiced, it is not taught on very often.
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And if you didn't like last week's sermon, I figured you should know.
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Like this week's going to be even worse, okay?
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Especially if you weren't here last week or especially if you're a visitor.
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Oh, visitors.
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The only thing worse than walking into a new church on Church Discipline Week,
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is walking into a new church that's in the middle of a two-week series on Church
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Discipline and hearing only an incomplete second half of the message.
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Okay, so if this is your very first time in our church, I am sorry.
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I apologize. I apologize on behalf of whoever invited you.
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However, in my defense, we did publish all the sermon titles ahead of time,
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and so the person that invited you should have known better than to invite you, so it's sort of on them.
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All right, in all seriousness, the reason why we are where we are today is this
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is an important topic, and I could not fit it all into one week.
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So we're going to pick up where we left off last week, but for the new people,
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let me go ahead and review just a little bit of what we said last week before
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we move ahead, so that this will make sense.
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Last week, we began with a definition of church discipline. We were like,
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well, what is it that we're talking about this week and next week?
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And so the definition is going to come up on the screen, and I'm going to read it for you.
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This is what we said last week. We said, church discipline is a set of behaviors
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commanded by God for his church, for the correcting of unrepentant sin within a congregation,
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for the purpose of honoring God, preserving the purity and purpose of the church,
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and for the good of the individual.
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Last week, I also taught six different Bible passages that address this topic.
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I will not be rereading all six of those Bible passages today,
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but I will be rereading one of them. It's Matthew 18, verses 15 through 17.
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So if you do have your Bible with you, this would be a good time to turn to
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Matthew 18, verses 15 through 17.
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These words that I'm about to read are the words of Jesus Christ.
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This is the most well-known passage on this topic.
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And I'm going to read the whole thing, but we're really going to focus more
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on the second part of this passage today.
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So here we go. Jesus said, if your brother sins against you,
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go and rebuke him in private.
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If he listens to you, you have won your brother.
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But if he won't listen, take one or two more with you so that by the testimony
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of two or three witnesses, every fact may be established.
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If he pays no attention to them, tell the church. But if he If he doesn't pay
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attention even to the church, let him be like an unbeliever and a tax collector to you.
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And then I taught you that passage yesterday as well as five others.
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And then last week we ended on a visual illustration and I wanna show you the
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visual illustration just so you know where we are. This is it.
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It was a staircase that had four steps in it.
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And the reason it has four steps in it is because the passage I just read to
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you, Matthew 18, 15 through 17, has four steps in it.
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I don't know if you noticed that, but it does. Like he said,
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if somebody sins against you, do this. And if that doesn't work,
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do this. And if that doesn't work, do this. And if that doesn't work,
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do this. Did you catch that there were four steps?
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If somebody sins against you, go and rebuke him in private. That was step one.
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I mean, he doesn't call it step one, but that's what he says to do.
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And then he says, if he will not listen, bring one or two others along, right?
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And if he will not listen, then tell it to the church. And if he will not listen,
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treat him as you would an unbeliever or a tax collector.
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So there's four steps in that passage. And so I wanted you to imagine it.
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And I also wanted you to know how I'm using the terms that I'm using,
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like why I say the things I say.
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So I use the word excommunication to refer to that fourth step,
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where it's like treat him as a tax collector.
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F communication is the word that I think the church I grew up in used to describe
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this step. And so that's the word I use. You can use a different word if you
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want. I don't think it matters what you call it, but obviously you have to call
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it something. Okay. So there's this fourth step.
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But when I say last week's sermon and this week's sermon are on church discipline,
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I'm not simply talking about this step. I'm talking about the whole process
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that Jesus outlined, right? There's four steps. The whole staircase is church discipline.
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Not everybody does that. I know I've heard people sometimes say,
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you know, we talked to him and we talked to him and we talked to him.
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And finally we had to do church discipline.
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But I just want to let you know, like that's not how I use the word.
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I use the word church discipline to talk about the whole process of what Jesus said.
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And I use the word excommunication to refer to that fourth step.
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Now, last week we spent a good bit of time,
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talking about the first step, okay? Today, I want to finish up this by explaining
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the rest of the staircase.
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Essentially, what I'm saying is last week's sermon and this week's sermon is
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really, it was just all one long sermon that's like an hour,
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hour and a half long, and I just didn't think you could handle it, okay?
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Actually, I didn't think KidZone could handle it, okay? So, we broke it into
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two things, but the problem is we're just, we're now picking up where we left
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off last week. So, last week, we spent a bunch of time on this first step,
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and so now I'd like to explain steps two, three, and four as the rest of the sermon.
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So step one, just as a reminder, for those of you here, step one is a private
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confrontation. It's described in verse 15. I'll read it one more time.
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Matthew 18, 15 says, if your brother sins against you, go and rebuke him in private.
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Last week, we mentioned some of the benefits that come from this first step.
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We also talked about how this first step is just a very normal part of the Christian life.
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So now today, picking up where we left off last week, let's move on to step
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two. Step two is found in verse 16, which is the next verse, okay?
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But if he won't listen, right? So you went and talked to him,
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you rebuked him in private.
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If he won't listen, take one or two more with you. So this is step two.
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So that by the testimony of two or
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three witnesses, every fact may be established. So what is going on here?
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Why is there a step two? And particularly, why is step two this?
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Like, why do I have to bring two people with me and do it all over again and
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why do the two people have to be there?
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So, first off, I think I want to just tell you from my own personal experience,
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I think adding another couple of people into the room when you're having a conversation
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like this causes there to be sort of an added seriousness to the conversation.
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Has anybody experienced this before? Like, it says, but if he won't listen.
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So Jesus assumes, like, there's going to be a time where you try to talk to
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someone and they don't take you seriously. They're just like,
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I don't care, and you're sensitive, and whatever, okay?
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It seems to me it is easier to take someone, sorry, it is easier to not take
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someone seriously or to ignore them when they're just one person,
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particularly if they are just one person that you are mad at.
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It is a lot harder to do that with three people. The whole, who cares what you
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think? It's harder to do that when there's three people on the other side of
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the room or the table or whatever it is.
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I have noticed, when this has happened, I have noticed people who exhibit,
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let's call them non-peaceful behaviors, okay?
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People who exhibit non-peaceful behaviors when they're doing like a one-on-one
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confrontation, I've noticed some of those people become much more well-behaved,
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when other people are in the room watching.
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Have any of you seen this? Yes. I mean, I've literally seen this in my eyes.
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You go like, this went terrible. And then you try it again and there's two people
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in the room and all of a sudden everyone's like, well, I wanted to share a concern
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I have. And you're like, whoa, that's not how they said it the first time, right?
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Because there's people there in the room watching.
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So among Christians, more people in the room often brings about better behavior,
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okay? But I don't think that's the only reason that you do step two.
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In fact, that's not even the reason that Jesus actually said, right?
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I think that the two witnesses are there to ensure the situation is handled
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with justice and fairness, okay?
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Look at the second half of the verse, right? If you won't listen,
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take one or two more with you.
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This is, so why, why are they there? This is what Jesus said.
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So that by the testimony of two or three witnesses, every fact may be established.
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Now, I believe that's a quote from the book of Deuteronomy and it's sort of
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legalese. Like Jesus is quoting from the Old Testament, but particularly like
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a part of the Old Testament about their law and the way that they handled like
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justice and criminal justice and stuff.
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And so he takes this principle from the Old Testament and applies it here.
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Two or three witnesses, every fact may be established. This is a legal thing.
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Like, I think if it's done right, the witnesses can act as a safeguard for the
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accuser and the accused person.
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Probably most of you have heard this phrase. Have you ever heard this phrase
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where somebody says, it was a he said, she said situation. Right?
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Have you heard this? It was a he said, she said situation. And a lot of times
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what that means is, well, you know, he says such and such happened,
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and she said such and such happened, and we weren't there, so we don't know, okay?
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And I think the idea with this Bible verse in particular, step two of Matthew
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18, the idea here is this second conversation in the series of conversations,
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that's not going to be the case this time, because there's going to be people there.
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It's not going to be like, well, I said this, and why? That's not true.
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I had a good attitude when I said it, and he said this. No, I didn't say that.
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There are going to be two people who were like there that can say,
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we were there. We saw the conversation happen. There'll be witnesses for that.
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Now, when Jesus says, when you go talk to him, take one or two more with you as witnesses,
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I don't think that Jesus means that you have to go find two people who were,
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or one or two people, who were eyewitnesses of the original sin, okay?
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I guess that's one way you could take this, that somebody sins against you,
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you talk to them, they won't apologize.
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You have to find like two people who were there and watch the person sin against
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you and then you bring them back. I don't think that's what Jesus is saying here.
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It seems to me, if that's what he was saying, Matthew 18 would not be able to
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be used very often, okay?
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There are lots of sins that happen when there are no eyewitnesses around,
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right? I mean, I would guess probably most sins happen when there are no eyewitnesses around.
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So it seems to me like it would be impossible to apply Matthew 18 to most of
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life if the only way to do step two is there had to be two people standing there
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when she did it or he did it.
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Now, I will say this. If there were witnesses that were present when so-and-so
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sinned against you, which sometimes that does happen, okay?
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If there were witnesses who were present, well, absolutely those are the two
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people who you should bring into this conversation, right? If you're sitting
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there, I did this, and they said, no, I didn't.
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Like the two people you bring would certainly be the two people who were standing
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there when it all went down.
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If that happens, definitely that's the people you should bring with you.
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But what I'm trying to say is, if the sin took place privately,
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the two witnesses, I believe, that Jesus is talking about here,
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are not coming to testify about the original sin. They are there to witness
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this second conversation.
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Are you following? Okay.
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They will be able to see who accused who of what.
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What attitude did they have when they said it? How specific were they about what offended them?
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What did the accused person say back? What attitude did they have when they responded?
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Did they admit to doing it? Did they deny doing it, right?
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In step number two, there will be witnesses for all of that, which is important.
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Sometimes accusers falsely accuse someone did you know this yes this is true
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like not every rebuker is correct sometimes there's a rebuker and they rebuke
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someone and then you get to the bottom you find out the rebuker was the person that was in the wrong,
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right so not every not every rebuker is correct but also it is true sometimes
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accused people actually are guilty and they refuse to take responsibility for
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what they have done and even lie about what happened,
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so I believe the second step of Matthew 18, found here in verse 16,
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involves additional witnesses to add like seriousness and better behavior to
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the situation and as a safeguard for the accuser and the accused person.
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Now, let's look at step three, okay? That's step two. What happens if that doesn't
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work? Let's move to the next verse, step three.
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If he pays no attention to them, tell the church.
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Oh, that's interesting if he pays no attention to them who's the them that he's
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referring to here it's a plural word who's he referring to.
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Yeah, you and the witnesses, right? The original person, the original rebuker,
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and the witnesses, okay?
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So again, when he says he doesn't pay attention to them, it's obvious that these
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two witnesses that come along are not, what's the word? They're not just witnesses
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in the sense that they just stand there quietly, okay?
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We're just here to witness. We're on like an organic security camera, okay?
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Obviously, they are adding words to the conversation as well,
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trying to bring peace to this conflict. And if they are not listened to either,
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he says, tell the church.
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Okay, well, what does it mean to tell the church?
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Well, at first you might think, well, I think that's pretty straightforward.
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It means tell the church.
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But I just wanted to let you know, there are actually like at least three different
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views on what this means or how you would apply this in real life.
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Okay, so I'm gonna share all three options with you. Are you ready?
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Okay, well, her service was ready and you guys are gonna get it ready or not.
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So what does it mean? if he pays no attention to them, tell the church.
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So option number one, the first thing I'm going to share with you are interpretation number one.
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This is the way I think it was interpreted by the church that I grew up in,
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okay? I think the church that I grew up in would say what I'm about to say,
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which is that basically what tell the church means is tell the elders, okay?
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If he pays no attention to them, tell the elders.
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Now, the pro to interpreting the passage this way is, first of all,
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it's very practical. It makes sense. Like, okay, so I talk to this person one-on-one,
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it didn't work. Then I bring some other people.
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It didn't work. Well, I just kind of work my way up the chain and we'll get
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some people that are even like more involved and have more authority around here.
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Another reason that this is a pro to this interpretation is it fits with the
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way that we talk about other groups, okay? Sometimes we do talk about a group,
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but when we say the name of the group, we are actually referring to the leaders of that group.
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So for instance, let's say you hear someone and they say, I'm going to go tell
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the school that there's a misprint in the curriculum, okay? Can you picture someone saying that?
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I'm going to go tell the school there's a misprint in the curriculum.
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When that person says that, what do they mean when they say they're going to tell the school.
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Typically, they don't mean that they are going to tell every single member of
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the student body, do they?
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No. When they say, I'm going to go tell the school, typically they mean,
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I'm going to go tell the leadership of the school, right?
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And then the leadership of the school will act on behalf of the school.
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And I can see why a lot of people would say, yeah, you tell the leadership of
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the church, and then they act on behalf of the church.
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The con to this interpretation is that Jesus didn't say, tell the elders.
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He didn't say, if he pays no attention to them, tell the elders.
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And he could have said that, but that's not what he said. He said,
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tell the, anybody remember what the Greek word was for church?
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We learned in the very first week of the series, ecclesia, that warms my heart.
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Okay, in the first week of the series, we talked about ecclesia is this word
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in the New Testament that's translated church, and we talked about what it means,
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that it means a congregation.
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It means a gathering of people. It's not a reference to an institution,
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and it doesn't mean elders.
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It means a gathering or a congregation of people, and that's the word that Jesus
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used, to which you might go, OK, well, that brings us to the second view or
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the second application.
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If he pays no attention, tell the church. I guess that means show up on a Sunday
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morning and stand up and announce it to everybody, right?
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Because that's the church. That's the gathering, right? So someone sins against
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you. I talked to them by myself. Didn't work. Then I brought two other people
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along. Didn't work. So now I stand up on Sunday and go, hey,
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everyone, sinner, right? And then we all get into the conversation.
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So the pro to that interpretation is that it takes the words of Jesus seriously and literally.
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The con is, depending on the situation, that might be something that doesn't
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fit with the gist of what Jesus was trying to accomplish.
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I guess what I'm saying is, what if there's 700 people there? Okay?
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The interpretation that this means just show up at the next church service,
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stand up and tell everybody, it seems to me that application would work great,
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in a church size of like 10 or 20 people.
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Like if you have a church that's made up of 10 or 20 people,
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and you go and you talk to the person and you can't work it out and two other
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people and you can't work it out, that you would show up at the next meeting
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and tell all 10 of them or all 20 of them, hey, here's the deal.
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Like that makes sense to me.
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But the question is, what if you are in a situation when a whole bunch of people
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all show up at the same gathering? And I guess I'm asking you this.
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What if you and the person you're rebuking know, let's say 50 people that are in the room, okay?
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And then there's 650 people that you don't know. Do you announce this,
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to 650 strangers, okay? It seems to me that is not the point of the passage.
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It doesn't seem to fit the passage. And the reason why is because of what he says after it.
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He says, if he pays no attention to them, tell the church. Now,
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what's the church supposed to do?
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Look, it says, but if he doesn't pay attention even to the church,
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let him be like an unbeliever and a tax collector to you, right?
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So he had already said, bring the witnesses. And if he doesn't listen to them,
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tell the church. And if he doesn't listen to them.
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So it sounds like whoever the church is, it's this group of people,
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this congregation, this somebody, who are supposed to also be rebuking this guy.
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Can you tell that that's what it is when he says, if he doesn't pay attention even to the church?
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Whatever this group of people is, they are joining in the rebuke saying,
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yeah, man, you need to repent.
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Also, and I guess, sorry, I just thought this would be obvious.
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Let me just say it though, just in case.
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Is it possible for 650 people to rebuke someone that they just met a minute
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ago, right? That would be something that would be very difficult to pull off.
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The other thing that I want to point out is the punishment that is suggested
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here. If they don't pay attention to the church, what are you supposed to do? Look what it says.
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Let him be like an unbeliever and a tax collector to you. And we talked about
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this last week, that the final step of church discipline is like a cutting off of social contact.
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You remember that? You remember last week when we looked at 1 Corinthians chapter
1 Corinthians 5 chapter mention
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5, and one of the phrases in 1 Corinthians 5 was Paul said, do not even eat
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with such a person. Do you remember that?
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The person was saying that they were a Christian, they were sleeping with their
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stepmom and he said, do not, he said, the person should be removed from your
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congregation, do not even eat with such a person, right?
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So if that's the final step is this cutting off of social contact,
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here's my question for you.
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Now, how would you, if you're in this situation, how would 650 people cut off
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social contact with someone that they already weren't hanging out with,
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right? It sounds like nothing changes at all there.
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So this brings up a third interpretation or a third application,
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and that is that what Jesus is saying here is tell the people in the church
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who know this person, like tell it to their congregation, tell it to their group.
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In other words, step three is sort of like a bigger version of step two.
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So step one is I just talked to the person one-on-one.
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Step two is, okay, now there's two or three other people along.
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Step three is, well, now it's going to involve 10 people or 20 people or 30
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people, but here's the point.
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But people who actually have a relationship with the unrepentant person. Does that make sense?
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Okay, so which view does Jesus, which view does Good News Church take when we
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go, okay, Jesus said this, well, now what do we do with it?
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Okay, is it tell the elders? Is it screaming at everybody on Sunday morning?
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Is it tell the people that know them? And so I would say this,
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of the three views, the view that Good News Church takes is,
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I would say, mostly view number three.
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However, we recognize all three interpretations are valid depending on the situation.
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What I mean by that is, well, let's take the elder view first.
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We have had situations here at this church where the person who was being rebuked
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was so unknown to the congregation that once the elders got involved,
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that covered everybody who knew that person.
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What happened is you have a person that just comes in, sits on the back row,
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leaves, doesn't get to know anybody.
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They've got a few friends and family members. the few friends and family members
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are the people who confronted them, right? And then they brought the extra friends
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and family members and they confronted them again.
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And then they brought it to the church leadership and the elders met with them
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and got involved. And we were like, hey man, you really need to repent.
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You got to stop doing this. And I'm like, no, I won't. Or whatever happened. Okay.
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That's not an exact quote, but this has happened a few times.
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And so we were like, you're not welcome here anymore, okay? And then who did
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we announce it to after that?
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Well, nobody. Literally every person that knew that person was already involved at that point.
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We have had other situations where a person's whole community group got involved,
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that someone was sinning and someone talked to them about it and then someone
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else talked to them about it and then their whole community group,
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like that was the ecclesia, then got involved. Their whole group went and spoke to them about it.
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Okay, what about the other interpretation of Mario, the whole congregation?
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Like everybody that shows up, you know, like at both services,
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like not a community group, but like everybody that shows up on a Sunday.
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Would there ever be a time where we would just announce it to everybody that
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shows up at both services? Yes.
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Yes. There could certainly be a situation where a sinner is so well known that
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it would need to be addressed with the whole congregation, even both church services.
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You might go, who would that be?
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Well, I think several people fall into that category, but probably the most
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obvious would be me, right?
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Like, if someone confronts me, and they confront me, and they confront me,
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and, you know, I keep saying, like, one day, like, after multiple rebukes,
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I sit there, and I go, I don't care what any of y'all think.
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If I want two wives, I'll have two wives, okay? Let's just say that happens. I don't repent.
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That's going to get announced to the whole first service and the whole second
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service, right? Yeah, everybody's going to need to know that.
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So, if they don't listen, even to the church, then what?
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Okay so that brings us to step four if after warning and warning and warning
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the person will not let go of their sin jesus said let him be like an unbeliever
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and a tax collector to you,
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and that's a little interesting it's a i i think it's translated in a way that
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makes it a little bit difficult to understand what he means.
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Because I think a lot of people would read this and go, well,
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wait a minute, an unbeliever?
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Well, we do welcome an unbeliever to come into church on Sunday morning,
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and we do eat with unbelievers, right? I mean, the passage, 1 Corinthians 5
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made it sound like with such a person do not even eat.
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But I eat with unbelievers all the time. I got tons of friends that are unbelievers.
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So wouldn't this be like just treating them like a friend?
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So I think what would be helpful to know is the word here that's translated
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unbeliever from Greek is the word for Gentile, okay? Jesus said,
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let him be like a Gentile or a tax collector to you.
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I think the word Gentile is sometimes translated unbeliever because in the culture
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of the New Testament, it was the Jewish people who knew Jesus and knew the gospel,
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and it was the Gentile nations who did not have the gospel, and those were all
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the people that didn't believe in the true God.
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And so a lot of times the word Gentile is used like a word for people who don't
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believe in God yet or people who don't believe in the true God.
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And so I think that's why it's translated that way. But I think it's important
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to realize what Jesus actually said, and my Bible actually has a little note
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where it says this in the margin, that the word is Gentile.
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Jesus said, let him be like a Gentile and a tax collector to you.
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And Jesus said this, this is important to know, when he was speaking these words,
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he said it to Jewish people.
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And he said it to Jewish people at a time period when Jewish people did not
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socialize with Gentiles.
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So I think they would have known, he said, let him be like a Gentile to you.
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I think they would have known like, oh, like don't hang out with him.
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And then same thing with the next word, an unbeliever and a tax collector to
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you. At this time period, tax collectors would also be people that they did
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not hang out with socially.
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So this is, this final step is a social penalty, okay? Nobody goes to jail.
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Nobody gets beat up. But rather, the person is removed from the congregation, okay?
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And I get that phrase from 1 Corinthians 5. It's a passage that I read to you
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last week, right? Do not eat with the person.
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This man should have been removed from your congregation, is what Paul says.
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And this step, this like, you're not one of us step, is the one that is the
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least palatable in our culture.
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This is the one that like, when I was preparing this, I was like,
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oh, visitors, okay? Because I'm aware, like in the culture we live in,
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this is the one that's like, oh, I can't believe the Bible says that.
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I hope it doesn't mean that.
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We live in a society that sometimes says it is unloving not to hang out with someone.
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Or it is judgmental to tell someone
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that they're sinning or it is a sin to exclude someone from something.
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But that's not true. Like, we know that. First of all, we know that because
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the Bible commands church discipline, and the Bible does not command sin. Amen?
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So we know that that's not true. But I would say this. Even if you're here today,
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and you are not a Bible believer, I think you actually know this is true.
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Okay, let's say you came here today.
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Your friend did not, they invited you on the wrong week, and you're regretting
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it now, and I know. And you're here, all right, and they didn't know.
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They should read their newsletter better, but they didn't. So they told you,
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come, it's going to be great. You're going to love it. And you're like, oh, yeah.
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So you showed up and you're not here. So I'm just saying, if you're here,
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you're not a believer in the Bible. Okay.
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I want to say to you this. I think you actually already know that this is not wrong.
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Like, I think you know that it's not wrong for a group to exclude someone who
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is acting against the beliefs and goals of the group because all groups police themselves in this way.
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This is not unique to Christianity at all. This is not unique to the church.
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This is the nature of groups. And if you don't realize that,
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I'm going to point it out to you right now.
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Let's say that I am a college student and I'm walking around on campus.
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I come up to one of the bulletin boards that has like the clubs and the extracurricular
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activities on it. And I see that there's a group called the Secular Student
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Alliance. Okay. That is a real group on college campuses. I think both of the,
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colleges that I went to had a Secular Student Alliance. The Secular Student Alliance is a group.
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It's typically made of like atheists and non-religious people and they advocate for secular values.
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So imagine I join the Secular Student Alliance. I show up at the meeting,
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I become a member, all right?
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And then after a little while, I go, hey, I would like to share a thing.
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It's called 10 Reasons to Believe in God.
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They're going to say like, no, that's not what we do here. Like you do not get
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to share that. And I'm like, no, I really want to share it. I'm really,
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I'm really loving being a member of this group.
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And I really want to share 10 reasons to believe in God. And they would say,
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no, that goes against what we believe.
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Like that's the opposite of what we believe. You don't get to say that.
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And I'm like, yeah, but I, I really think as a member of this group,
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I really want to talk about the 10 reasons to believe in God.
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In fact, I think we all should. Like, I think we all, you know,
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they're going to say, no, that's, that's the opposite of what we are about.
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Right. And imagine I keep doing it. And I keep doing it.
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They warn me, but I keep doing it. Imagine I even like go do talks on the campus
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and I even like use their name. Like I get up and I say, hey,
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my name is Mario Vallella. I am a member in good standing of the Secular Student Alliance.
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Welcome to my talk. 10 reasons to believe in God, right?
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At some point they are going to say, no, he is not one of us.
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We've told him to stop saying that. We've like said you're not in the group
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anymore. We've said that's not what we do as members.
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We've told him to stop using our name when he goes around and saying that stuff.
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Like, he is not one of us, right? They would kick me out of the group, wouldn't they?
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Wouldn't they? Okay, but here's the thing. I want you to, why would they do it? Here's why.
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They would not be doing it because the Bible says so, right?
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Because they don't care about that. They would not be going,
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oh, well, Matthew 18 says the way to handle it. They don't even care what Matthew
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18 says, right? They would remove me from the group because that's what groups
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do. Groups remove people who work against their beliefs and goals.
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Every group does. This would happen if someone joined PETA and then started
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talking about how wonderful it is to eat meat, right?
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Or if someone joined a pro-life group and they're like, hey,
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I'm so excited to be here. I'm an abortion doctor or I'm a pro-choice advocate
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or whatever it is. They'd be like, no, wrong group. That group's down the hall.
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Like, no, that's not us. You are not one of us.
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That's how groups work. And you might go, well, no, that's how those groups
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work because those groups are intolerant.
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No, that is how groups work.
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That's how all groups work. To prove it to you, I'm going to use an absurd illustration
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because I just really want to make this clear.
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I want you to imagine there's a group called the National Tolerance Society,
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okay? That's their name.
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And that's what they're into, tolerance, okay?
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Imagine their motto is, we tolerate everything, okay? It's right there at the
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front of the website. We tolerate everything.
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And I join the National Tolerance Society, and I start making racist comments,
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and homophobic comments, and sexist comments. And I'm talking about this,
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and Mexicans this, and Asians this, right? And women, women,
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right? And I keep doing that. Imagine I'm doing that.
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And I do it over and over again. What's going to happen? What's eventually going to happen?
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They're going to kick me out. This is so crazy. The National Tolerance Society
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would kick me out of the group.
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And so my point is, it doesn't matter how tolerant you are. This is how groups work.
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Without excommunication or its equivalent, you can call it something else,
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but without excommunication or its equivalent, without the you're not one of
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us, a group could get turned into its opposite group.
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Have you ever thought of that? Let me use PETA as an example here,
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okay? Let's imagine PETA. If
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you don't, PETA means people for the ethical treatment of animals, okay?
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Imagine this guy joins PETA, and he says, hey, you know what I think we ought
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to do as a group? I think next week we should do Nugget Fest, okay?
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And it would be chicken nuggets, okay? We're going to get Chick-fil-A's and
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Zaxby's and PDQ, and we're going to have like just all these chicken nuggets.
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It's going to be so great. My friends told me they would totally come if we did that.
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And the people who started that chapter of PETA would be like,
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oh, no. Chickens aren't nuggets. We don't believe chickens are nuggets.
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We don't believe you're supposed to eat them at all.
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Yeah, but like, I really like it, and a lot of my friends do.
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Yeah, but we don't believe in that at all. Now, imagine at this point,
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they have no ability to say, you're not one of us. They go, oh, all right.
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And then next week, Nugget Fest happens. And that guy brings all of his friends,
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and they're gobbling it up. and the people who started the group were all like,
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this is terrible, I can't believe this is happening.
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And then while that's happening, he goes, I got an even better idea for next
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week. What about Steakathon, okay? And they're all like, no!
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And the people he brought were like, yeah, Steakathon! And so they do that the next week.
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And he says, I was thinking maybe this weekend we could do Leather Night,
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where we all wear leather shoes and not pleather, leather jackets.
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Like, wouldn't this be so great?
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And here's the thing, without being able to get rid of him, what would happen
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is the people who started that chapter of PETA, at some point,
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what would happen? They would leave the group.
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And then once they've left the group, who's left? All these people who don't
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even believe what the group's for, right? So you got all these people and their
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steaks and their nuggets and their leathers.
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And at some point, they're all looking around going, what's the name of this
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group? People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals. Well, why is it called that?
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None of us even believe in that. Let's rename it.
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Okay. And what if we rename it People Eating Tasty Animals? And everyone goes,
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Yeah, that fits with Nugget Fest and Steak-a-Thon. And everybody raises their
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hands and they rename it.
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Without excommunication, a group could get turned into its opposite, couldn't it? All right.
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Now, here is something that you probably already know intuitively, but I want to say it.
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Anyway, there are some groups that are so important that we cannot let them,
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turn into the opposite of what they are.
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We cannot let the kingdom of God become a kingdom of sin.
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We cannot let the church of Jesus become the church of Satan.
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We must have boundaries so that we honor God and preserve the purity and purpose
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of the Christian church.
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In addition to all of that, it is also good for the individual person.
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I said that in the definition earlier.
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It is also good for the individual person that is being told like,
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come back, come back, do the right thing.
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And if you need to be reminded of that, I'm gonna go ahead and read to you from James chapter five.
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This is one of the verses that I read to you last week. I'm gonna reread it
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because I just wanna remind you why this is important even for the individual
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person, not just for the group.
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James five, starting in verse 19. My brothers,
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if any among you strays from the truth and someone turns him back,
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Let him know that whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save
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his life from death and cover a multitude of sins. Do you remember that from last week?
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It's actually good for the guy who turns back.
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In conclusion, if I were not a Christian and or if I didn't understand how destructive sin is,
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I might think that church discipline
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was terrible and I might pity the judgmental people who practice it.
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But as a believer in Jesus Christ, who realizes that the words that we sang
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earlier in one of our songs is true.
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I don't know if you remember, the last song that we sang, there were lyrics
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in it that said this. It said, prone to wander, Lord, I feel it.
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Prone to leave the God I love.
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Like that's true. There is something in us that is prone to stray and go in
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the wrong direction sometimes.
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And so as someone who trusts in God's word and realizes how destructive sin
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is, I believe church discipline is a gift from our creator.
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I believe it is a gift from our savior.
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And I pity the man who has no one to confront him on his sin.
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Let's pray.
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Lord, this is a heavy topic, but I thank you for revealing your will. So that we may know.
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I want to thank you on behalf of anybody in this room that would agree with me on this.
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Thank you for all the people you've put in my life so that I wouldn't stray too far.
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Because whether it's by their weird looks or whether we're going to have a conversation
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about that or whatever it might be, there have been lots of times in my life
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where I think there's this temptation to go the wrong way and then there's a
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person in my way. There's a person that's an obstacle to me straying.
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And they pushed me back on the path. And I would just imagine in a room this
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size, that is probably true of a bunch of us and it's something we've taken
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for granted, maybe something we haven't thanked you for in a long time.
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Some of us have been faithful to you for like 10 years now. Like we've been
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following you and we truly are, like for the most part, like we're obeying you.
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And it's been 10 years, it's been 20 years. For some people in this room,
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it's been 30 or 40 years. And a lot of times we don't even think about the fact
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that it's all these people you've used to keep us on track.
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Like those of us who have been following you our whole lives,
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I mean, I do believe that that happens because you are in our lives.
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You preserve us until the day we meet you. You persevere our faith.
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I do believe that, but I also believe that one of the ways you do that is all
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these people you put in our life.
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And so those of us that that's true about, we thank you. We thank you that as
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we sort of started to walk toward a cliff, there were other people that got in the way.
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I also pray because I know there are people in Marion County that are walking
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toward a cliff and there's nobody trying to stop them.
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And I pray you'd get a hold of them and show them your grace.
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In Jesus' name I pray, amen.
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Let me end with these good words from God's word. This is from 1 John chapter three.
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Look at how great a love the Father has given us that we should be called God's children, and we are.
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That is good news.