How to Break Up a Christian Dating Relationship

Need advice on how to break up a

Christian dating relationship?

A famous fifties breakup song gives us this

little bit of dating advice on how to

break up.

Breaking up is hard to do.

No. You think?

Whether you are a Christian single couple in

a courtship or an online dating relationship,

how you break up a relationship will be

emotionally painful for both of you. If you

are contemplating a breakup of your dating relationship,

considering the following dating advice may help you

avoid a wrong decision while making it as

easy and painless as possible.

Six Christian dating advice tips on how to

break up and ending a relationship.

Ask the Lord for wisdom, see James one

five.

As a single Christian, praying for guidance and

wisdom in the matter of a breakup should

be the very first course of action before

making any dating decisions.

You will be less likely to make a

mistake if you do so.

Discuss the dating breakup possibility with family and

friends.

God often leads through our parents' dating advice

even if they are not Christians.

Proverbs teach that there is wisdom in using

a multiplicity of counselors.

So also discuss the possibility of a breakup

with trusted Christian friends.

They may very well give you some much

needed advice that helps you make a decision

or puts the relationship in a completely different

light.

Be sure to use these valuable resources.

Be honest, but speak the truth in love.

Ephesians four fifteen.

Never bash your dating partner personally, which will

only hurt them even more and affect their

self worth for quite some time.

Do you really wanna do that?

Instead, tenderly explain why you feel God's leading

you to end the relationship.

As you do this, remember the golden rule

and how it would feel if someone was

breaking up with you.

While face to face conversation allows for far

better closure, if that is not possible,

a handwritten letter is the next best thing.

A typed or emailed dear John letter is

seen as cold and mean.

Don't delay the inevitable.

Okay. You've prayed over the breakup. You've discussed

the issues with family, minister, and friends.

You know what you need to do.

Delaying the obvious now will not only cause

more pain for both of you, but will

delay the healing process.

By acting now, you give the lord opportunity

to begin leading both of you to the

soulmates he has in mind.

Many delay breakups because they may be using

the other person until something better comes

along. Another reason for delayed breakups is that

the other person is manipulating by putting the

person who wants the breakup on a guilt

trip

to remain in an unhealthy dating situation.

Make a clean break.

Right. This is going to be hard, but

you must be strong here because it is

in the best interest of both to move

forward.

This means after the breakup, there should be

no face to face meetings if possible,

no emails, telephone calls, letters, etcetera.

While some couples may agree to remain friends,

the data suggests that in over ninety percent

of breakups,

this fails miserably

and only lengthens the healing process.

Learn from the dating experience.

Use this dating experience to learn from your

mistakes and build on the future.

What has the lord taught you about yourself?

What has he taught you about what you

need in a husband or a wife?

If you've sexually sinned in this relationship,

remember Jesus forgives and cleanses, first John one

nine.

Finally, thank him for the bright plans he

has for you, Jeremiah twenty nine eleven.

Dating after a breakup of a serious relationship

can be a tricky experience for any single

Christian or not.

Self esteem

issues, rejection,

and the ever lurking possibility of rebound relationships

are things singles need to be cognizant of

after reentering the dating world after a breakup.

Dating a friend's ex is a particularly dangerous

breakup?

Most experts in the field suggest daters wait

at least a year after they break up.

Whether you're thinking about dating after a divorce

or coming out of a dating relationship that

lasted for more than one year.

Consider the following questions as you ponder if

you are ready for dating after a breakup.

Dating after a breakup tips.

Do you hold bitterness or an unforgiving spirit

toward your ex dating partner?

Were you sexually active during your relationship?

Do you have dreams of getting back with

him or

her? Answering yes to any of the above

means you are definitely not ready to get

back into the dating market.

If you feel you passed the test and

are ready to date again, here are some

tips.

First of all, now that you are single,

take some time to enjoy your freedom.

Whatever you do, don't rush to get into

another relationship just because you wanna be in

one.

It will only cause hurt feelings and broken

hearts.

Take some time to move on and think

about what you are looking for in a

relationship.

Remember to accept other people that you date

for who they are.

Some people look for somebody exactly like their

ex and reject everyone who is different.

Other people people try to avoid anybody who

reminds them of their

ex. Just accept people for who they are,

and if you feel a connection, don't be

scared to enter a relationship

and do not compare people to your ex.

Don't expect a date to end up in

a long term relationship.

If you do this, you will be setting

yourself up for another fall.

Remember that you cannot act the same way

with a new person as you did with

your ex,

but don't hesitate to enjoy yourself and do

the same activities that you did with your

ex

before the relationship became very serious.

Above all, have fun.

If you cannot enjoy yourself because you are

still too hurt, then you should hold off

on dating for a while more.

Believe it or not, instead of dating issues,

the topic of relationship breakups takes up most

of the mail we receive

at Christian Dating Service Plus.

I guess the reason for this is that

relationship breakups are one of the most painful

experiences to endure

right up there with unrequited love.

The fact is relationship breakups cause lots of

heartbreak

even when we know it wasn't a healthy

relationship

and we probably should have dumped it a

while back.

Why do relationship breakups cause so much pain?

It's simple.

Whenever we invest our time,

money, and heart into someone, it turns into

major disappointment

if a relationship breakup occurs.

Relationship breakups cause singles to grieve the loss

in a number of ways.

A relationship breakup means loss of friendship.

A relationship breakup involves the loss of a

vision of things that could have been.

A relationship breakup could entail loss of self

esteem.

Overall, no one should go through the breakup

of a serious relationship without help.