Ultimate Date Night with Kenn Kington

Well, hope you guys are having a great time so far.

We're about to, yeah.

We are uh we're gonna welcome Ken back on the stage.

So everybody put your hands back together for Ken.

Ken?

I want to uh open up the second part and I'm gonna share a couple things with you, but I want to tell you one thing that's back there real quick.

Um, the couples book is a lot of fun.

There's a part at the end of each chapter called Reconnection Questions that are just an absolute blast.

But I want to I want to encourage you, as married people tonight, to take part in something else that's gonna be happening here September through November.

I wrote a book before that one called Searching for a Superman, Watching for a Wonder Woman, prepare to find the love you desire.

And it was just a radical transformation in my life of moving from clueless and dateless to meeting my wife.

And everything that I learned in that process, and that book is actually in its tenth printing.

It was voted one of the top ten books for singles in the country.

Yeah.

Very cool.

And it's based on a 10-week series that I taught several years ago, and I have not done that series in about 10 years, and actually in about seven years, and I'm actually gonna be doing that series here.

So if you know of anybody who's single and you enjoy tonight, I want to encourage you to grab some of these cards.

They're on my table and they're at the info table.

Grab some of these, carry them with you, and say, hey, he had a great time listening to him at a couples thing.

You're gonna love this thing, and just give it to him.

It's absolutely free, it's no registration, it's 10 weeks, and it's in this room.

So grab those of you have singles friends.

And I I want to just say that I'm so glad that you're here and married.

This is truly one of my favorite types of events to do.

And the reason why is because we're we're all married, excuse me.

We're all married, and and I want to give you a tool.

Tonight, my desire is not that you remember all five tools, but that you take one of these tools.

Because each of these tools, if you take it and apply it, even in a small way, will instantly make your marriage better.

It's one of those pieces that's just like, wow, and and things change in life like what we have three kids, and when you how many of you raise your hands with the number of children you have if you have kids?

Raise your hands with kids, okay?

And and things change, don't they, when you have kids?

Not only do they change, they change with each child.

First child, nobody touches the golden child.

You know, grandparents, you show them through the window, and and nobody touches the golden child.

And and I'll never forget this by our third child.

Our third child, I walked out of the delivery room and I had not eaten that day, and I'm walking down the hall holding my daughter, and I saw a vending machine, and I walked up to a janitor.

I said, dude, will you hold her a minute?

I gotta give.

And first child, you take a picture every 20 minutes.

Look at this one, look at this one.

Our third, our third child, they're like, Oh, you got a picture, Kennedy?

And I'm like, You got a pen?

She kind of looks like that.

You know, happy.

It's amazing how different it is, and discipline has changed.

You know, the the we were with our first two were like, you know, do you you do timeout, do you spank the respectful, diligent, be diligent that area, and things change over time.

Our third one, man, I wish I'd have known this with the boys.

Um we didn't spank, we didn't use timeout, we'd used the new thing.

The have you ever used the shock collar?

Those are awesome.

Wow.

She starts to wander towards the street, the invisible phone, ah, uh.

To this, she just turned seven, she will not cross the street.

It's awesome.

And they they come with a little remote.

I don't know if you knew that or not.

And I mean, the first time you're like, no, and they go for you, you go, I mean, she was five years old going, Father, considering touching this, what would you recommend?

I wouldn't do it.

I will go play quietly in my room with my toys.

I don't want my voice to go above the level where the shocking wind comes through.

See, because they don't know about the remote.

It's awesome.

Um, consider that.

But but in marriage, in marriage, I have discovered there's some certain tools that never change.

And I love doing these events to remind myself of those.

And the pliers are simply this.

This is the tool that I want to give, and there's there's a kind of a words that go with it.

The the pliers are anything together.

Anything together.

That's the pliers.

Because what happens if you pull pliers apart?

What what what do you have?

A really bad hammer.

Okay, that's that's about all you got.

Because pliers are only good when they're together.

And what I've discovered is whether it's been married a few months or a few decades, what happens is we're so close together that we we fail to appreciate that togetherness.

We're doing life simultaneously, but not always together.

And it's that process of going, you know what, we need to be doing stuff together.

Now, let me give a little bit of a background to it.

I used to think my father was an idiot, okay?

Because my mother would say something very simple like, we need to fix that drippy faucet.

And he would stand there.

Now I know what he was doing.

He was trying to figure out which we she was talking about.

And I've learned this in my marriage.

The first year we were married, my wife says, We need some new spring clothes.

I'm thinking, I got plenty of shorts and t-shirts.

It doesn't matter because that was a she we, okay?

I actually had the delusion one day.

She came into the living room, she goes, We need to cut the grass.

I had the insane thought she's gonna help.

That was a me wee, okay?

Fifteen years into marriage, it still happens at least once a month.

Last week she walked in, she goes, We need groceries.

And I'm standing there in the kitchen.

My boys walk in, what's wrong with dad?

I said, I don't know if it's a she we, a mi we, or a wee wee.

Leave me alone.

Figure it out.

But we need to have those times where we on purpose have we time.

That sense.

Now I am growing, I am growing because my wife said the other day, we need a date night.

And now I know that that means she we needs me we to get a sitter and plant it so we we can go out.

Okay?

I'm learning.

And I'm learning that, yes, that's that's a good thing, but I'm I'm learning this also that it has to be a wee piece.

Because we both need to contribute.

And my wife came up with this idea, I thought it was brilliant, and it just touched my heart.

She said, you know what, we do need a date night.

And we're busy and we got three kids and they're in sports and they're in school and they're in everything.

She goes, you know what?

Here's my goal.

She goes, wouldn't it be great if each of us once a month planned the date, planned everything, and just took the other one out.

She goes, I'm making a commitment, I'm gonna do that once a month.

And I'm like, Me too.

And we do that, and it is so refreshing.

I've come off of trips before and been exhausted.

She goes, What are you doing tonight?

And I'm like, I don't know, I'm tired, and I'll get home.

And she's got sitters, the kids are taking care of them.

She goes, I'm taking you to dinner in a movie, and I'm like, Oh, this is incredible.

And it motivates me to want to do that as well.

Anything together.

And I want to encourage you, especially, not just if, but especially if you've been married for a while, find something that you can do together that you enjoy.

Discover it.

And you don't have to make it the first time, say, Well, what do you want to try?

Let's try some things together.

My wife and I were invited to play tennis in our neighborhood on our tennis team.

How many of you play Alta?

Anybody play Alta?

Okay, a few of you.

She goes, hey, they want us to play on the tennis team.

We can do that together.

I've never played competitive tennis in my life.

And I'm like, yes, because it's a wee thing.

And we play tennis together and we get with neighbors and it's something we do together.

I don't like to brag, but the first year we played, I led the league in home runs.

So no?

But we played together and we were on the team together, and it was just a great wee time.

This is not only a great piece for couples, but also for families, this we concept.

Because I remember my daughter, today is her seventh birthday, and it's ultra special to us because when she was three years old, she was diagnosed with cancer.

And she's beat cancer and gone through it, but I realized this we time and how important it was.

I would take her to clinic and I would do everything that I could do that she had to do.

And I'll never forget the day that she lost the last little bit of her hair during chemo.

And I came home and I said, Kennedy, I said, I love your haircut.

And she's like, okay, and she smiled and I said, I want your haircut.

And she goes, Okay.

I said, I want you to give it to me.

She goes, Okay.

Now you haven't live till you have a four-year-old give you a haircut, okay?

And she took it and she buzzed my hair, and and it was it took an hour, and she's like, Bzz, zzz, bzz, zzz, bzz, zzz.

My wife Heather came out.

She goes, Oh Lord, you look like you have mange.

And I was like, I know.

And I said, I know.

She goes, You're gonna let me fix that?

I said, Oh no, it's coming off.

And and we and that night I bicked it clean, and that night in bed, we're reading stories, and Kennedy, my daughter, is just rubbing her head against my head.

Daddy, we're bald buddies, and I'm like, Yes, we are.

And this big smile, and she goes, Daddy, my hair, mommy said the chemo, my hair might grow back curly.

And I said, Yeah.

She goes, Daddy, how's yours gonna grow back?

I said, honey, I just hope mine does grow back.

And it did, and I'm so thankful.

But the the the thing is, is that whether it's our children or our spouse, anything together, anything together, a little bit of effort.

And that may be the tool you need tonight.

Maybe it's the the screwdrivers.

The second tool is the screwdrivers.

Let me ask you if I were to say, hey, I need a screwdriver, what's the first question you ask?

Flatter Phillips said, that's it, because there's two types.

Both can do the same job, but it depends on the particular job, and and that's really the key.

And the screwdrivers are simply this appreciate the differences.

Appreciate the differences because there are some jobs, and you've seen the screws that are made so that you can use either, and you can do that, but some have flat, some have Phillips head.

And you can use a Phillips head to do a flat one, but it's not gonna go all the way in and it's gonna strip it out, it's not gonna be a good piece.

It's appreciating those differences.

I've learned this with my wife that I really appreciate who she is and how different she is.

Women in general work from an emotional base, men work from a logical base.

And I've realized to value that, ladies, you need to realize that we are simple creatures.

You got all the good stuff, you got the beauty and the intuition and the prerogative, and we got things that make no sense.

Every man I know has this ability, and it makes no sense to me.

The ability to sit in a living room in front of a TV with crowded of people and be able to sense when someone is actually getting interested in the program and change the channel.

We have that ability.

It's a gift.

I don't know why.

There is one.

There is one ability that men have that women do not have.

And it goes beyond intuition.

I call it the man's superpower.

And women both deny it exists and envy it at the same time.

And some of you women are going, uh, there's nothing.

Well, let me tell you what it is.

It's the ability that every man I've ever met has, the ability of every man to actually think nothing.

And it drives you crazy.

Don't raise your hands, but how many of you ever trace a fight back to that started with?

So what are you thinking?

Nothing.

You can't think nothing.

That's not possible.

You have to be brain dead to think nothing.

You can't think nothing.

Uh-huh.

But see, men, here's the problem.

She cannot comprehend that.

So she goes back to a time where her mother thought and taught her this phrase if you can't say something nice, she assumes you're thinking something, and it is not nice.

And it is not nice about her.

And she will fill in the blank with the worst possible thought, blame you for thinking it, and begin to condemn and punish you for thinking that thought that she just put in the blank, and the whole time you were actually thinking.

Men, be careful using your superpower.

See, we're different.

We think nothing, and ladies, you think so fast I don't even think you know what you think sometimes.

My wife thinks these things we call isms now.

She thinks so fast and talks so fast they just mix up.

She was telling me one time we went for a run, got done, she goes, Whew, I am sweating like a bullet.

I said, honey, I don't think bullets sweat.

She looked at me very emphatically.

She said, No, it's a saying.

Isms.

She was worried, she's on the phone the other night talking to a friend, hangs up, the other friend calls.

Obviously, she's in the middle.

She goes, I could solve it, but I do not want to stir the boat.

I said, don't rock the pot either.

She had a rough day.

I said, honey, do you want to you want a massage?

You want me to rub your shoulders?

She goes, knock yourself off.

Awful what?

It does come in handy though.

They usually pop up when we're having an argument, it just ends the argument.

I came in one day and she was mad about something.

And I walk in the door, she goes, You are treading in hot water.

She said, Why are you smiling?

I said, honey, I can be on thin ice.

I can be in hot water.

But if I'm treading in hot water, that's a jacuzzi.

We're trying to keep teach our kids responsibility.

I gave them each a dollar worth the beach and I found one of the dollars in the sand.

They just left it.

I said, look at this.

Look at this.

It's one of the kids' dollars.

Look at this.

She goes, yeah.

I said, what do I do?

I mean, do I confront them?

She goes, my philosophy is finders losers.

I still don't know what to do, but she ended up with a dollar.

But I've learned to appreciate, I've learned to appreciate that her her intuition, and she's learned to appreciate the fact that I can logically think through items and we make a great greater team together.

And there's there's parts that she's better at than I am, and there's parts that I'm better at than she is.

And we've learned to not only accept, but to actually appreciate those differences if we'll take the time to do that.

So yours may be the pliers tonight, you know what, we're not doing something together.

Yours may be the screwdrivers going, you know what, I I haven't verbalized how much I appreciate my spouse and that.

Yours may be the third tool, which is a level, which is a level.

And the level is simply always trust.

Always trust.

Trust your spouse's heart.

Because when their actions don't line up, we've got to trust that heart.

And I learned this from my mother-in-law, who's an interior decorator.

And I would help her hang blinds and hang pictures.

And she goes, Okay, okay, let's put the level on it.

I'm like, it's straight.

And she goes, No, put the level on it.

And I'd put it on it, sure enough, that bubble is off, and she'd move it.

And that little bitty off makes a huge difference.

And that little bitty bubble makes the difference.

We always want to make sure it's in the middle, and we always want to trust that heart.

Always default to trust.

I'll give you a great example of that.

My wife came in one night, I'd come off the road from being on tour, and she goes, Oh my gosh, I want you to get everything done because I want to show you the clothes I got for the kids.

And I'm like, Okay.

And I sit down and she brings in these bags of clothes.

And my mind instantly goes to the logical side, and I'm thinking about our budget, and I'm thinking about all these things, and I'm calculating this up.

She goes, Sit down, I can't wait to show you all this.

And I'm like, me too.

And uh I chose to trust her heart, and I'm so glad I did because she's pulling out these clothes and she's pulling out more clothes.

She bought eight bags of clothes for their school, and I'm literally, I can't help it.

My brain is just calculating these as she's pulling them out, and I'm just like, oh, yeah, that's a good one.

And she goes, Guess how much I paid for this?

I'm like, got a pretty good idea, but just tell me.

And then she trumped, and I'm so glad I trusted her heart.

She goes, You know, all those clothes that are in the bags downstairs that the boys have outgrown.

I'm like, Yeah?

She goes, I spent three days, and there's this consignment sale, and you can actually put those clothes in, and I had to get this number and I had to put them all on there, and I had to price them and do this.

I spent three days doing that, and I took them out there.

And if you take them to the consignment sale, then you get to go in first and you get to pick over all the best stuff.

And I sold all their clothes they can't wore, and I bought all these clothes, and I spent a total, after all those and this, of$60.

And I just went, oh.

I love you.

But we have to choose.

We have to choose to go to that default.

And there will be times where we trust their heart and they make a poor decision.

But it's so vital that we say, hey, you know what?

Let's talk about this, let's work through this.

I trust your heart.

I know you had our best intentions at heart, and I trust your heart.

And we need to communicate that throughout, whether we've been married two weeks or 40 years.

We got to trust and say, I trust your heart.

One of the greatest tools we can apply, and one of the most powerful tools, one of the most powerful tools is a watch.

A watch.

And let me tell you what I mean by that.

There are two magic minutes in every day.

Two magic minutes in every day.

And what we do with those two minutes will oftentimes determine where our relationship either grows closer or further apart.

No matter where we are in our marriage, those two minutes, and I'll tell you what those two minutes are, it's the last 60 seconds we are together before we go our ways during the day.

And it's the first 60 seconds when we come back together.

Those are the two magic minutes.

Now, I'll be the first to tell you, it is not easy to capture those every day.

But the day that you and I choose to say, you know what, I'm gonna pay attention to the two magic minutes today, I'm gonna stop, I've gotta go, but I'm gonna take 60 seconds.

What is 60 seconds?

And I'm just gonna look her in the eye and I'm gonna go, hey, what do you got going on today?

You know what?

I'll be thinking about you, I'll be praying for you.

And and it's funny to me how when I take that time during the day, my thoughts will trigger and I'll text her, Hey, how did the meeting go?

I'll put something in from that sixty seconds.

But then there's another magic minute.

It's the first sixty seconds when we get back together.

I've got two dogs and three kids.

It is like running the gauntlet trying to get to my wife when I get home.

The dogs are sitting there and I go through them and the kids and they got stuff, and just to get to her is is a chore.

But then I get to her and I give her a hug in that 60 seconds of just being together.

And I shared that one time, and this couple came up afterwards.

Guy's real quiet but nice, and his wife says, I need to ask you a question.

And on the verge of tears, I'm like, what?

She goes, We've been married for 28 years, and he just will not open up to me.

And I was like, what are you talking about?

That 60 seconds when he comes home, every day I ask him, How's your day?

And he'll never open up.

He just says, fine or good.

That's all he's ever said.

And he just says that every day.

And I want him to open up.

I'm like, wow.

I said, Well, can I ask him a question?

She goes, Yes.

I said, dude, when you come home and she says, How was your day?

And you say, fine or good, was your day really good or fine?

He said, Yeah.

I said, Okay.

Here's what I recommend.

Let me get it straight.

You've been 28 years, every day he comes home.

How was your day?

Fine or good?

Is that right?

She goes, Yes.

I just want him to open up.

I said, okay, here's my advice.

Quit asking that question.

Next time he comes home, ask him an open-ended question.

He comes in, you go, it's so good to see you.

Give him a hug and a kiss.

Go, tip, honey, what was the absolute best part of your day at work today?

Fine.

You can't do it.

You can't answer with one word.

And he's sitting there smiling.

I said, ask him an open-ended question.

What was the most frustrating part of your day?

What are you looking forward to most at work?

Ask him an open-ended question.

And he's sitting there smiling.

I'm like, that's your homework, dude.

You're not out of the woods.

Here's your deal, okay?

Next time you come home, she is gonna forget that and she's gonna ask that same question.

Now, I understand how men and women are built.

I know that women have 143,000 words a day, and men have 30,000, and they used four of theirs during the day, and you use 40,000, and you're out of words, and she has all these, and I said, It's a bad equation.

But here's what I want you to do.

Dude, when you come home, I want to muster up 60 seconds of energy.

And she's gonna go, how was your day?

And I want you to start with this phrase today I felt and fill in the blank with any emotion of that day.

Frustrated, happy, excited, depressed, whatever it is.

Today I felt frustrated.

And then you give one example of why.

Today I was frustrated because, man, I had this one task to do and I never got to it because this other stuff happened.

And it was just frustrating.

And you finish it by saying, and how was your day?

And she will unleash a hundred thousand words on you at that point.

And she will be singing inside, he opened up to me.

And now I will open up to him, and the angels will sing, and life will be good, and it will just be a great peace.

But you have to, you have to do that.

You have to take the time and that magic minute to connect.

There are two magic minutes in every day.

The question is, is how are we going to work them?

And that watch is important.

So those are the four tools, and they are they're great.

There's the pliers, anything together, and ask ourselves, are we doing stuff together?

There's the screwdrivers, are we really appreciating those differences?

And are we really doing it?

I want to give, I want to give one other example there.

I I want to, I've just learned this.

Guys, specifically, take something that your wife does not like about you and compliment her on that.

Appreciate that difference in her.

Because it's very normal in couples, not just wives, but men, to go, I love you, I love you too.

You know what?

I love your, you're just, you just got such a great personality.

Well, I love your personality too.

It's so easy to do that.

And and go ahead and do this.

I did this the other night, it worked great.

My wife will tell you, and she would tell you this, my wife loves me.

She loves everything about me except she goes, you know what?

I love everything, but your feet are just, I hate your feet.

I hate your feet.

They're weird, and to her credit, I've got weird feet.

Okay?

I do.

They're just weird.

I've got a weird muscle on the side of my feet.

It's just, they're gross.

Inversely, she loves her own feet.

And she has beautiful feet.

She really does.

I love her feet.

They tan very easy, beautiful manic pedicure, manicure on her feet.

Pedicure.

I've learned that.

And she loves her feet.

The other night we're laying there, and I'm just just chilling out, and she's laying and watching TV.

So I'm rubbing her feet.

I said, you know what?

And I thought, I'm gonna do this because she hates my feet.

I'm like, you have beautiful feet.

I love your feet.

Knowing that she couldn't reciprocate.

And no lie, she goes, thank you.

I I I love that you have feet.

I laughed for two days on that, and I just thought, you know what?

I'm gonna take what I'm not good at, and I'm gonna appreciate that in her, and I'm gonna compliment her on that because I really am thankful for it.

So there are the differences.

There is the level to trust the heart, and there is the watch, but I want to give you one of the ones that I've learned over the years.

It's one of the most powerful tools that we can have, and it is a broom.

A broom.

And it's and and here's the here's the the tool of the broom.

Always sweep up, not under.

Always sweep up, not under.

And I'll give you no matter how long you've been married, there's a tendency for us in the love state, in the name of love, to want to sweep things under the rug, under the carpet.

Because we don't want to face it and deal with it.

And the issue and the problem is that it's not easy to sweep it up.

It's easier to just sweep it under, but the problem is there becomes this mound and we begin to trip over it.

And we begin to trip over issues subconsciously that we don't even know why we're frustrated.

And little pieces will trip us up that shouldn't.

And it's because we've swept things under instead of swept them up.

I'll give you my favorite example that we ran across.

When Heather and I were married, they said, You've got to make some fundamental decisions if you want to have a happy marriage.

You've got to decide what you're gonna do with the in-laws on holidays, and you've got to decide who's gonna handle your checkbook.

I've got great in-laws, and we do a great job of trying to balance things out there.

And I'm like, said honey, um, you don't handle the checkbook or you want me to?

She goes, Oh, it doesn't matter to me.

I said, Well, how often do you balance your checkbook?

Knowing that I balance my checkbook every month to the penny.

It's just weird.

I love math, and that's just one of my things.

Every month to the penny.

She goes, Oh, I balance mine once a week.

And I was like, Wow, that is impressive.

And she goes, Really?

And I'm like, Yes.

I said, What how do you get a statement to reconcile that?

She goes, What does that mean?

I said, Well, Dumplin, what do you mean?

I said, when I say balance a checkbook, what do you mean?

And she goes, Well, I write checks and ATM and I write them all down.

At the end of the week, I subtract them all out and I get the balance.

Okay.

What do you reconcile that against?

And she goes, There's that word again.

Yes.

She goes, what does that mean?

I'm like, well, you have a balance and the bank has a balance.

How do you reconcile that?

She goes, what do you mean?

I said, where do you get the balance from the bank to reconcile once a week?

She goes, Oh, I just get it from the ATM.

I said, Well, what about the outstanding checks?

And no lie.

She goes, You mean the big ones?

No, no.

No, no.

The ones that haven't cashed yet.

No lie.

Fifteen years ago, she goes, it's not my fault they can't cash them fast enough.

I guess we know who's gonna keep the checkbook.

And I thought that would end it.

It did not.

See, because when you come together, you both have an ATM card, you both write checks.

She didn't write them all in, and at the end of the month, it became a war.

And she would literally, if I was sitting at the table with the statement open the checkbook, she would run upstairs to get away because she knew that there was going to be conflict.

And the conflict was that you know what?

I'm sick of trying to do this.

I don't have all the entries, and you're doing this on the ATM, and I can't balance it when it's that, and I would get frustrated and she would be intimidated, and it was just not good.

I made a subconscious and conscious decision.

I'm tired of trying to sweep this up.

So I'm gonna start sweeping it under.

I'm tired of dealing with it.

So I took some, I took a thing was two or three hundred dollars out of our savings, put it in the checking account, said now I got a buffer, and I don't have to deal with it anymore.

And that worked great for about two months.

And then the bank wrote us a little letter, said, You can't just write checks without money in your account.

And I thought, the bank has made a mistake.

I have a buffer.

And I went and sat down with them.

Didn't dawn on me, she would go to the ATM.

Wow, we got money, let's spend that.

So I came home from the bank being totally discouraged, and they said, no, you know, and we had to move some more over, and we were gonna have a conversational growth opportunity.

And we sat down and I said, I don't want to do this.

I'm sick of dealing with this.

You don't put things in here, and I'm every month, it's a war.

I said, you know what?

I'm done.

We are gonna sit down at the end of every month, and we're gonna go through every check and every ATM on the statement and in the checkbook, and we are gonna reconcile the statement.

And I had to sweep it up and no longer sweep it under.

I can tell you this that was the single most miserable hour of our month every month.

Miserable.

And let me tell you what happened.

After that hour of misery, the rest of the month was harmony.

Because here's what happens when you sweep things up as hard as it is, it's done.

When we sweep it under, it never goes away.

There is momentary harmony and then ongoing pain.

And it's a dull ache that's always there in the back of our minds and their minds, and it's never dealt with.

And it gets bigger and bigger, and we start tripping over it in other areas.

Where if we sweep it up, there is momentary pain.

But then there is ongoing harmony and joy because everything's been dealt with.

I don't know if you have that tool need or not, but there's a great way to deal with that and handle that and ask about it, and that is simply to go, hey, next time don't do it when you're around the kids or you're in a time crunch.

Get some coffee and sit down.

Hey, is there anything in our relationship, our marriage, that you feel like we're sweeping under instead of sweeping up?

And then just listen.

And then together talk through it.

And then come up with a plan for it.

Well, those are the five tools, and I want to encourage you.

You don't you don't have to do them all.

I would encourage you to take one.

Take one of them and say, okay, which one do I feel like I need to apply the most?

And take that home with you tonight.

And I hope that you've you've been encouraged with that.

I hope you've had a blast with the people at your table, and I hope you've had just a great time with your spouse and the games, and it's just a good night to get out and be around.

So I hope you've enjoyed that.

I'm gonna be hanging out in the back.

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And um just I've had a great time.

If you don't mind, I'd love to pray for us.

Father, thank you for an incredible night of just fun and getting to be with our spouses.

And Lord, thank you for these other couples, and thank you for the breath of fresh air that laughter gives.

And Lord, I do pray, thank you so much for your truth that these tools are based on, that you wrote out for us.

You made us this way.

And Lord, I thank you that you would just draw us closer together and our hearts together as we go home with a smile and a lighter heart.

And Lord, even as we go back into reality, help us, help us to keep our eyes on you, because you are the author of relationships.

And Lord, I thank you for this place and those who put this together.

And Lord, please bless them extra special as they go through this weekend.

And it is in your precious son's name we pray.

Amen.

Thank you for coming tonight.

I want you to do me a favor.

And there are a group of people, and Steve may point them out or not, but that just really went the extra mile to put this together, and it was just such a fun night.

I want you to give them a hand, and I look forward to seeing the outcome.

God bless them all.