Practical Forgiveness | Pr Daniel Chong

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Today. We are going to be talking about practical forgiveness. Okay,

turn your neighbor and say that your neighbor practical forgiveness.

A lot of times we speak of the term forgiveness,

and more often than not, more often than not, sometimes

when the speaker speaks about this, I tend to just

shut off because I will think to myself, Oh, here

he goes again. You know it's talking about forgiveness again.

You're trying to tell me. You're telling me to forgive.

You don't even know exactly what I went through, and

yet you are out there quoting Bible versus Bible scripture

telling me to forgive. Who are you? That's me? Whenever

someone preaches someone, I would think that in my heart,

you don't know me. You don't know the things that

I went through. You don't know the situations that I

have underwent. You don't know the persecution that I went through. No,

you don't know, So don't go and quote some random

Bible scripture and tell me that you must forgive. Well,

the roles have reversed, and today I am the person

and trusted with the profit to do the same thing.

But hopefully I acted the word practical over there, because

I want to give some pointers or at least something,

some things that I've learned through my life and even

through the Lord just ministering to me in this especially

in this hard week. You know, I would label this

a very very challenging week. Right, so this week was

really challenging. Now I was just contemplating should I should

I speak about this or should I just change the topic.

And as I was with Elder Bankho and Elder Banho

was running the funeral service funeral burial, and as they

lowered free as that body into the ground, I tell

you what the feeling, or rather I I cried. You know,

it's not even my family, but I cried because I

looked at them and it was in that final moment

where they just started to say goodbye Daddy, and as

one by one uttered the phrase goodbye Daddy, I just

can't help but feel for them. But then the sadness

then turned very quickly into joy because I know, as

they're saying goodbye Daddy, our father in heaven is also

saying welcome back home, son. So what the privilege, what

joy it is to be a believer because death is

not the end, and even death is not the end.

I hope that all of us here today we would

want to live a life to it's you know, here

on earth that no matter what we do when we go,

when we go, we will be remembered as one who

followed after Christ to the very end. Amen. So, uh,

practical forgiveness, Let's let's just go through some challenges first

before we open the Word of God today. Forgiveness is

one of the hardest yet most necessary act as a believer. Agree. Agree,

Many of us struggle with forgiving others, especially when wounds

are very deep. Now, let me share your story before

I go on. I come from a family that are

not believers, They're not Christians. I come from a little

town or I'd rather my mom come from a little

town in your caboon Barle all right, it is between

your Monta and Sagamat, these two towns enveloped a small

little town called Baro, and everybody knew everybody, now, uh,

the one older generations will know that back in the day,

there are a lot of children right my on, my family,

I had seven aunties and three uncles. Uh And as

I was at home the other day, you know, I

just felt like because they were just sharing a family

and just told myself, wow, I was so because I'm

already preparing to share about this. Uh and So for you,

some of you you have heard the story, just bear me,

but I'm going to share a little bit. So I

have an auntie uh and Uh. This auntie is who

we commonly call as Bury, right, and she is the

youngest auntie of my mother's family, my sister, my mother's sister.

And her name is uh maybe I should not real name. Okay,

she has a name, okay, uh and and and she's

very dear to me. She's read dear to me. Her

family is readier than me, all eight of them, you know,

some of them. I still no for weeks to go

for their weddings. They get married with them. But she

passed on. She passed on at a very young age.

Maybe not so young because she had eight children before

she passed on, but she was young. She was the

youngest in the family and first to go.

Uh.

And it was such a tragic situation because we come

from a family of Christians. They are Christians, we are Christians.

My mom, my dad, and the rest of us are

not Christians, do not believe us. In fact, they dislike Christianity.

Dislike is a word that I'm using very kindly. Okay,

just imagine what it is if I can actually use

words that would describe the situation. They they dislike, they

dislike Christians. They when Christians come near them, they just

shiver because they can't stand the sight of Christians. So

my family, for the longest time, we were trying to

reach out right to my grandfather, my grandma, my grandfather

also passed on. My late grandfather by at that time

was so difficult, so difficult to share the love of

Jesus Christ. I myself, I was a brad, I had

no resemblance of Christ whatsoever, you know, And it was

just on my mom and my dad, mostly my mom

to share the good news. And when this happened, when

my when my youngest auntie passed on, it was so

tragic because there are certain things that were done in

the family that my grandpa didn't agree with, didn't agree with,

and he helped such a resentment towards this auntie's husband,

which is my uncle, and it was such a torrid time.

You know, it's different when you want to share the gospel,

but it's different when there's something that is holding that back.

You know, it's a really difficult enough to share the

gospel to people who hate like or just dislike Christians

or grew up as a you know, a different religion.

It's it's really difficult. But imagine when the additional layers added.

It's like, oh, because of you, I lost my daughter,

my youngest daughter, and it was so tragic. Uh. And

there were certain Christian values that were even shown, like celibacy,

like uh, like cannot go to see doctor only must

just must rely on prayer, you know, cannot go hospital

or like you know, cannot cannot cannot use protection if

you understand what I mean, right, because children come from

the Lord, we shouldn't stop God's blessing. Sometimes, you know,

it gets a bit too much. And and my my

grandpad didn't understood the Christian jargons. He don't understand the

Bible at that time, and he was just so affected

when my youngest ant went away, So you can understand.

So there was a resentment, uh. And there was such

a barrier between us and having that being part of

my life as I was growing up was difficult because

I was just a young kid. But yet I had

to sit on different tables during Chinese New Year just

because I'm a Christian. Right, Christians cannot be part of

the family. Christians cannot get unbound. Can you imagine being

a young boy growing up that way? But my mom

never gave up. And today I'm going to share with

you a little bit on this journey on how there

was actually a reconciliation, on how things actually turned for

good for the glory of God. And then that time,

you know, I was young, but I didn't know. But

what I did know was God was already orchestrating such

a reconciliation between my family. Right, So at least now

I know that my grandfather is in heaven with Jesus

and rejoicing. But it only came because my mom was

strong enough to forgive, to forgive despite all the dusty

things that came away. He was strong enough to forgive.

And I learned that from her. And it's important to forgive. Amen.

So that's the challenge of forgiveness. And today, if you

have your Bibles, I would like to turn you to

Matthew chapter eighteen, and we're going to read a story

of Jesus telling Peter and the disciples about this unforgiving servant.

I'm not sure you are have read this before, but

we're going to read this together. So we're gonna start

from verse twenty one of chapter eighteen of the Gospel

of Matthew. Here we go. Then Peter came to him

and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me?

And I forgive him up to seven times? Now, if

you're not aware, this was after Jesus had already taught

the disciples that you should forgive your brother and sister

seven times. Even if they come to you and sin

against you seven times a day, you should forgive them

seven times. So Peter was just trying to show that

he's listening, his listening, you know, he's seven times. Because

in Jewish custom, you know, there is a saying, you know,

not sure how accurate, but there is a saying that

you know, if a brother comes to you one time,

forgive him, two times, forgive him, three times, forgive him,

but fourth time, nah, don't forgive him. But that was

in the Book of amos Is. Sometimes it's misled, you know,

sometimes it gets easily misunderstood. But in the Book of Amos,

chapter two, verse four, God just says that he would judge.

He would judge at the fourth time. Now we'll go

to that verse later. But it's so sometimes we grew up.

You know, we have certain idea about forgiveness. You know,

if the world is just us, if someone sins against you, right,

you slap him back. That's what the world is just us.

Do not give room for people to bully you, do

not give room for people to step on you. Right,

That's what the world just. So that's what the world

says us. But let's see what Jesus had to say.

Verse ty, do Jesus say to him? I do not

say to you up to seven times, but up till

seventy times seven. Now, I don't know how many of

you know how to mathia, but that is four hundred

and ninety right, right. So when I was younger, when

I read this verse, I thought, oh, that means I

just had to forgive people four hundred nineteen times. Then

the fundred ninety one time, I don't forgive anymore. Right,

that's publical, right, scripture, right, that's what Jesus said. Now,

as you study the world of God. You know further,

you will notice that. I'll tell you what you try

to forgive someone, don't even try to focus someone try

to count to four hundred nineteen. Now, some of you

while someone else is talking, try to count. I tell

you you'll lose count by the time you get to

even maybe ten. Some of you with more focused, maybe twenty,

some of you one hundred. By time you count to

one hundred and five, you will fall asleepery day. It's

like counting sheep. You know, one sheep, two sheep. You

know that's not always try to count. I never reached

more than one hundred and sure, Diane, I mean sleep. Ah,

you know the Bible do Let's talk about death. The

Bible says we fall asleep, right, so up to seventy

times seven. Essentially, it's just as you forgive that much, right,

you will lose count. You lose count. That's what Jesus

trying to say. Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven is like

a southern king who wanted to settle accounts if we servant.

When he began the certain accounts, one was brought to him,

who owed him ten thousand talents. But as he was

not able to pay, his master commanded that he be

sole with his wife and children and all that he had,

and the payment be made. The servant therefore fell before him, saying, Master,

have patience with me, and I will pay you all.

Then the master of the servant was more the compassion

released him and forgave him the debt. Wow. I wish

I was that servant sometimes when I have debts with

the bank and my housing loan. All right, so verse

twenty eight. But then servant went up and found one

of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denari,

and he laid his hands on him and took it

by the trope, saying, pay me what you owe. So

his fellow servant fell down at his feet and bagged him, saying,

have patience with me and I'll pay you all. Wow.

Sounds familiar. And he would not, but went and threw

him into the prison. To you, he should pay the

debt to stop here for now. And if you are

not falling or have not been following me, we are

talking about the parable of the unforgiving servant. You know,

if I can. I'm not sure that TV is not

supposed to work, right, Okay, So can we go to

the next slide that I have about the talent? So

one talent is approximately around six thousand days of wages. Now,

I don't know whether you can count how many years

that is. And the servant old his master ten thousand talents.

So if you used math and maph it up, that

is about sixty million days of wages. One year has

three hundred and sixty five days. If you live one

hundred years, Now you get a math, right, how many years?

Even the longest you know, aged, the oldest person in

the Bible, would not have sixty million days of breath

in his lungs. And if you calculate that, it's approximately

I can't even count and say this word anymore. I

think it's six billion, six billion USD in two day's calculation. Okay,

only Elon mus kenner, Okay, but six billion USD. Now

this is approximate. Hey, before audio audio Bible scholars can

me now that that was at there and it's four billion, yes, okay,

I get it. Yes, for the sake of it, six

billion USDED. And this was the debt that was owed

to the master. I don't know how in the world

he accumulated that debt, but he accommodated the debt. Okay,

ten thousand talents. It is a lifetime and a lifetime

and a lifetime. And if you and if some of

them back then believe in reincarnation, they have to reincarnate

I think ten million times in order to fulfill this debt.

But the Master forgive him because he fell down to

his knees back for mercy. The Master said, all right,

you're free to go. You are free to go. Wow.

If I have ever experienced that freedom, I would think

that I would be the most generous person in this world. Right,

But you know that our hearts are so deceitful, you know,

and all its reflecting on this. There are many times

I feel in my life that I have been forgiven

of a certain thing, But then I forget. So easy

to forget how much grace has been given to us,

And it's so easy to just be cruel and to

just be unkind to people around us. So this servant

not he went and find his fellow servant. If you

read scripture, you'll know that this is his or summer

summer think God Sama daja right, same rank fellow servant.

It's not even his serven fellow servn that owed him

one hundred to marry. If you, if you'll translate to

today's currency, is not ten thousand USD Now ten thousand

USD is payable, right is payable. So the king was

moved with such compassion you forgive the death. And the

story was Jesus about Jesus sharing about this parable where

even such grace has been given, even after such mercy

has been given, He went on and he went to

put this fellow servant in jail. Wow, such contrasting elements

at play over here. So let's dive a little bit deeper.

My next light says, which will give you the first

point of how we can actually apply forgiveness in our

lives and how we can make it practical. The first

point I have for you for you today is to

acknowledge instead of avoiding. All right, So if we backtracked

in the Book of Matthew, verse eighteen back to verse fifteen,

Jesus teaches us that when someone sins against us, the

first thing we should do is to address it, all right.

The first step to forgiving someone is actually to address

the problem. Do not avoid the problem. A lot of

us like to play you know, false peace maker, That's

what I will call it, right Ahea, don't you know

I have too much hasla when I come young Gella,

you know he's the seasider one cannot be saved, no

matter what I say, no matter what I do. He

has that face and the face that he has. He won't.

He wont he wont he won't, he won't. So what

for I go and approach him? How many of you

have said this before? What's the point? What's the point

of me approaching this person when all he's going to

do is fit in my face? Or some of you

may be in a stitution where I've tried. I've tried

so many times, so many angles I've tried. You know,

like I used, I used to like to use this analogy.

When you are vacuuming on the floor. You know, some

of you, you know Malaysians are you're vacuating the floor.

You go, they come across this one object, he go,

Can I go in? Okay? Try here again again? Put

the vacuous side. Many Now what do you do? Woo?

How many you guilty of that? Huh? You're picking up

throwing a rubbish? Were not throw it back on the

floor and trying to vacuum again, y'all did that before?

I don't don't say you did that. You're trying it

from all angels. Buster. We tried, we tried, We tried

to forgive. But did you first acknowledge the problem? Do

you first acknowledge the sin verse? Fifteen more? If your

brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault

between you and him alone. First step, first step, catch this.

Don't go and convoy Albert, come, Evelyn, come, let's go

and find him right now, this guy, I tell you,

are take my money a man. The whole story right already, Noah,

even before the person, the person, maybe he didn't even

know that he sinned against you, but yet a whole

group of people, your family or cat, your dot or noady. No,

Jesus said, if your brother scenes against you, you feel

that he wronged you, you go to the first person first.

Maybe maybe that's why it's so difficult to forgive, because

when you don't go to that person first and clarify

that problem, man to man, woman to woman, child to child.

Maybe because you didn't do that, you didn't give a

chance for the person to actually explain it. Actually, I

didn't need it. Maybe if you hurt that right that

that days you forgive your day. But because you went

here and you talk, talk unto the talk. You talk

so much and you cannot be can to form it. Oh,

this person from a small offense suddenly become like your

cat died because this person didn't feed him when you

went for Cny holiday. Jesus said, go between you and

your brother and him alone. And if he hears you,

what did you just say? You have gained You have

gained a brother? Wow? Still beautiful. Right, this is the

word of God. And if he refuses to hear them,

tell you to the church. So there's steps to this,

you know, if you tried be accountable, tell your mentor

tell you how the leader, Tell someone who you trust

the steps to this. And Jesus said, assurely, I said

to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound

in heaven, and whatever you lose on earth will be

loosed in heaven. Again, I say to you that if

two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask,

it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.

For where two or three are gathered together in my name,

I am in the midst of them. Some of you

like to quote this scripture for when two tree a getted.

I am in amazed on that. Wow, such a beautiful prayer.

Right did you know that it come from Jesus teaching

us how to forgive? Will you ever callte that scripture again?

This scripture, this word that came out from the mouth

of our Lord Jesus, is to guide us in forgiving.

When two a tree are gethered, you cant shit when

two or tree are getted. When you and the person

that's sin against you are gethered, the Lord is in omens.

The Lord will be there to facilitate the rare conciliation

between you and the person. When I saw this, I

went whoa, I went, oh, no, I have been quoting

this scripture. Well, we're not wrong, but in his essence,

in its actual context, it's for two brothers that have

not seen eye to eye, and the Lord says, I

will be there to facilitate the healing, to facilitate the

rect consolidation. And that's why sometimes we struggle. We struggle

so much to forgive because maybe you have not even

done the first you jump straight away into forgiveness. How

that crime cannot forgive one can don't forgive, can not forgive.

Jesus said, first acknowledge instead of avoiding. Do not avoid

the problem. Friends, I don't know how many of you

today I'm speaking to you. And if there's someone in

your midst, a family member that you have not get,

forgive or maybe maybe you know you wronged him. Because

the scripture does also say that if the brother that

sins against you comes to you, you shall forgive him

how many times master seven times no, up to seventy

times seven. The first step is to acknowledge the offense. Acknowledge,

don't avoid it, don't forget it. Acknowledge it because ignoring

the wound will lead to bigterness. Go directly to the

person in love, in love aiming for reconciliation. Don't go

to that person aiming to get that person down. No,

I'm gonna I'm gonna confront him, and I'm gonna make

sure he dies. The Bible say, pray for enemy. Okay,

I pray die. I pray it the next day the

next time he gets out, he gets his by a car.

No brob say praimer. Bible as will say that if

someone slapped me on the left cheek, you should offer

you a right cheeck. Okay, okay. But the Bible didn't

say anything after that. So after he lent me both,

I guess say better. No, no, no, the Bible is saying,

thank God, then God. It just didn't end there. It

didn't end there. The Bible is entire voote. The Bible say,

forgive fucking second point I have for you today is

recount instead of keeping count. Recount instead of keeping count.

Now what does that mean? Matthew, Chapter eighteen, verse twenty one.

I'm going to repeat this verse again. And Peter said,

came to him and asked, Lord, how often shall my

brother sin against me? And I forgive him up to

seven times? You know, Jesus said up to seven times

seven times. Fast forward verse twenty six. Then the servant

therefore fell down before him, saying, Master, have patience with me,

and I will pay you all. And the master of

the servant, was more of a compassion, released him and

forgave him that death. So see one of the two.

To take note of what Jesus said, we just say

it to Peter. I do not say to you up

to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. The

second point is stop keeping count, stop keeping count, stop

keeping count of how many times this person has sinned

against you? Because I tell you what, if you continue

to keep count and you want something that's fair, how

many of you in this world keep on saying I

want fairness, I want justice to be served. Now let

me tell you what if God was a fair God.

Because you know this God is not a fair god.

This God is not always fair. God is always just.

God is a fair God, then you have it all

coming your way. Man, You have it all coming your way,

the same fairness that you want your fellow brother that

sin against you to receive, you will also get in return.

Because you, my friend, and aren't any better, You, my friend,

have ran the rat light whoa touching some sensitive stuff? Here? You,

my friend, you, my friend, have cursed someone who overtakes

you in front of the road in your own personal time.

You have done that. You know why? You know why

I can say this so confidently because nobody taught me

how to lie when I was younger. Nobody taught me

how to lie. But yet the lie just came off

from my mouth like as if it was just naterally born.

And I have it there all the time and it's

true because sin was with us from the get go,

from the moment in which mankind decided to sin against God.

That sin was there and that's why only Jesus could

come and take away that sin. So instead of keeping cown,

how we can actually forgive someone prettic is to recount

how much you have been forgiven, how much you have

been forgiven in your life, how many times you have

been forgiven. Remember, don't even talk about God yet. Okay,

talk about your parents, talk about people, your friends. How

many times have you heard this term? It's Okayla, have

you heard it before? It's okay, don't worry about it now.

Some of you here may go and think like, oh, yeah,

maybe I only done a small little thing and a

small thing small thing. Wrong. Wrong is wrong. White lie

is white lie. White light is not no liar. White

light is still live. And you have told a white

life before, and to you it may be so no,

so harmless, But you know that maybe to the other

person is so harmful. You never know, You never know

the impact that your white life can have over the

other person. Maybe you just after one day and they

say you just stole a white light. You know what yeah,

I'm going to come. I'm gonna come for your party.

And because you didn't want to reject that person, and

you say I'm going to come for your party, and

then the next day you lazy and then you didn't come.

But what you didn't know is the other person on

the other end, and this you've been really went out

and go to the market and buy your entire portion

of pock or beef ready to cook back with there

for you, and you didn't show up. What happened to

the back day? The money? How and if she didn't

come and like confront me personally, then she's going to

think study until the whole idea. And that's how things

can develop, right, that's how things can develop. So instead

of remembering offenses, remember how much God has given you grace.

Remember of the grace of the Lord that has been

all evident in your life. Instead of thinking how many times,

remember until you cannot count anymore, how much grace that

God has given to you. And when you do that,

I tell you what, when you face your brother, When

you face your brother, you will get a tad bit

easier because you know that you yourself don't deserve it.

Can you imagine two siness to me to one another. Yeah,

you know what, I look at that woman last fully.

Oh yeah, so I also look before. Okay, okay, yeah

I feel so, I feel so the tea. Yeah, I'm

the tea too. Be both in the grace of God.

Oh I liked before. Oh I stole before. You know

once there was once I'm gonna ad meet in a livestream,

and there was once I was in Giant. And I

have this habit when I was younger to steal sweets,

so I would go to Giant. You oppositely, j Wan litterally,

I know that you are a bustard at the church

opposite something. Now, look that Giant had two tears and

back before they had two years. They were at the back.

I don't know if you remember this, the Giinals at

the back. The pucking was so big and then we're back.

So I was there, and I like to go and

open their drinks. Open, take a sip, put it back,

close it chocolate opened, eat WMBA close back, pull back it.

It was me right, and I did it over and

over and over and over again until the day that

I got caught. And when I got caught, I thought

Oh my goodness, my life is gonna and because the

security got so fierce a boy, you know, you continue

to do it and I'm gonna put you in jailor

I put a gack. How are you going to give

you back? You died? Just say you're ready. I'm like, okay, okay,

I see too. I stole things too. Sometimes we forget.

Sometimes we forget what the little mischievous little things that

we've done when we're younger. Now that we are, when

we're all old and when we all have time and

jackets and whatnot, you go like, I tell you what, boy,

at your and when I was your age, when I

was your age, hats you listen to me. Guys, remember

when you were younger, the mischievous things that you have done.

Remember how much grace that security guard has given to you.

You must have put him through hell too. Every time

I do cleaner after you? Are you poor cleaner? In SMKA?

Poor cleaner? Are you? Especially the male toilet? Oh my goodness,

the things that we do in the male toilet. Don't

get me started with the female because all the female

things that they are, you know, so innocent, But the

moment you enter in your female toilet. You take a

utah again, you take a uten because the smell that

comes from that place. Oh my good nurse. That's why

today today smks you female toilet got no got wall there,

but the guy know wall, you know, because we are

transparent with what we're doing. The female inside you know not.

It's so smelly. Hey, let's all get there. So war

the genders again. Yeah, it's bad, it's bad. Good walk

in the toilet is bad. I don't know what they

do inside there, at least my time, at least my time. Yeah,

you know what we do. We put everywhere except the toilet,

that's what we do. It was so bad that one

day the discipline teacher decided to chase me in the

toilet to cut my hair. The more she enters, she

went out because he was too smelly. He said, I'm

gonna wait for you out here. You're not gonna go anywhere.

So remember recount what was done for us, our teachers,

our parents, the most importantly, God Firse when he sick.

The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, Master, have

patience with me, the same phrase that was uttered. But

yet the servant took him by the neck. Took him

by the neck collosures treat. The team says this my

next light says, we must remember what God has done

for us. Next light says this the grace of God

magnified true, his son, that he gave to the grave

for us. You know this is true right in our life.

Witness this, Witness the grace of God that was magnified

so large through the Son, his son, that he gave

to the grave for us. He forgave us. Amen, he

forgave us. Next light says this for though trust, and

this is the lingo of the generation ze nowadays. F

R means for real, okay, for real, for real, which

in other terms says for for for trust. Now what

is for us means colo the street that he says this,

bury with one another and forgiving one another. If anyone

has complained against another, even as Christ forgave you, so

you must also do remember God's forgive nurse he has

forgiven you. Paul instructs bear with one another, Bear with

one another. He didn't say it's gonna be easy. That's

why he says, you got to bear with another. It's

not gonna be easy. That's why you gotta bear. Next

like says this in Luke chapter six, verse thirty seven.

Judge not and you shall not be judged. Condemned not

and you shall not be condemned. Forgive and you will

be forgiven. Wow. Next light says, release the depth to God.

How to forgive? You may ask how to forgive? Let

it go and release the debt to God. Release the

debt to God. Jesus said, forgive and you will be forgiven.

Amos two vers. Four, I alluded to this earlier says,

Thus says the Lord for three transgressions of Judah, and

for four I will not turn away its punishment. Because

they have despised the law of the Lord, and they

have not kept his commandments. Their lies lead them astray,

lives which your father's followed. Now the book of Amos,

the prophet Amos speaks of God's judgment upon those who

refuse to obey His ways. Where we struggle with forgiving.

You know, friends, this is one thing that I want

you to catch when we struggle with forgiving. Because the Bible,

because the Word of God teaches us to forgive, we

are to forgive and to trust in God. Trust that

God will execute the right judgment over this particular person

trusts trust in him because there are certain things that

in this world you find it very difficult. Let's let's

name a few. Let's say someone came and murdered your child.

How can you forgive such a Oh? How how when

my auntie died? I didn't want to go into the details.

But let's just put it this whaler, Okay, it's to

my grandfather, right, It's as good as you took the

life of my daughter. Let's just put it this way.

I should not die in the details. If you don't know,

come and find me later and I should share some

with you. It's as good as that. How to forgive?

How to ever for give? But I tell you what,

when my grandfather experienced the love of Jesus Christ true,

my mom that constantly spake spoke to him and shared

the Gospel with him and shared love with him. To him,

he forgive. And today we can come together. We can

come together and we can call each other family if

we are at that point. So I'm thinking to sount

of your friends, if you are that point today, trust

in God's judgment. Trust that God will execute the right

judgment that is just. But only him and him alone.

Will know because you are not God. So trust in

God's judgment. See s. Lewis once said this, to be

a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has

forgiven the inexcusable in you. Right, I want to catch this.

You may think that you are in a higher place

as come back to your brother that sin against you. No,

when God forgave you, it was also inexcusable. It was

also warranting of death, and God had to send his

one and only begun in Son to change that around.

My final point that I'll give to you today is

healthy instead of hardened heart. Heaven healthy, have a healthy

instead of a hardened heart. You know, when you harden

your heart, there's very little that God can do. It's

very little that God can do. I repeat myself to

a person with a hardened heart when you have already

decided not to forgive, even before approaching that person. There's

very little that God can do. God can change your mind.

He can. It's all powerful. But that's not the nature

of our God. He has given us a free will

and a free choice to make decisions that are pleasing

to Him. But unfortunately, most of the time, as men

we do not do that. We do not make decisions

that are pleasing to our God. So have a healthy heart.

In other words, check your heart when when you have

this offense, someone has caused you to feel so angry,

Check your heart. Why am I actually angry? Ask that question,

because sometimes you may find the answer in your own

heart that perhaps it's not even the other brother that's

sinned against you, Perhaps it's your own heart that is

deceiving you. What do I mean by that? Men? Til

eighteen twenty eight or thirty four is the story of

their with the other seven? All right? But that seven

went out and found his fellow servant, who owe him

very little, less one hundred denary, And immediately, immediately he

laid hands on him and began to strangle him, and said,

pay me what you owe. Can you imagine this? No chance,

no chance to actually defend himself. Can you see the

contrast between what the master did to him and his

fellow Seven fell out to his feet and backed him, saying,

have patience with me. I will pay you all. Just

a little patience, please, just a little patience. All I'm

asking is a little bit of grace. I'm not even

saying that I won't pay you back. I will pay

you back. Just give me a little bit of time, please.

I need to feed my family. I need to work

to earn this money. I know I owe you. I'm

not saying I don't owe you. I'm not saying I

don't want to pay you back. I won't pay you back.

Just give me a little bit time. And he would

not true in the prison until he should pay the debt.

And why I say, check your heart, because notice this,

how in the world it's the servant, the fellow servant

going to pay him back to debt if he is

unable to work. If I am after my fellow brother

for what he owed me, shouldn't I give him the

opportunity to work for it. Even the aurlongs will come

to your house and give you time to get it back.

They will hand you down wherever you go, but they

will still give you time. They will still give you

an opportunity to at least earn the money back. How

is he going to get his money back if you

can't even go and get the money. Think about it.

What was the hundred thenari? Really? What he was really after?

He was just set free from ten thousand talons and

yet one hundred Denari's the money. Really what he was

after was the sin that was against him? Really what

he was after? Or was it something else? Was it

something else in your heart that you wanted to show

that you are the bigger person. Not in a good way,

but you want to show that you are the king

over this person's life. You want to be worshiped. You

want to be lord over this person. You want to

be that much o man. Because if you really really

want that hundred narried back, you will not throw him

into the jail. It will be ineffective and inefficient to

get your money back. So, friends, I want to encourage you,

check your heart first, check why why is it that

you are really really upset and angry with this person?

It's the matter of the heart. It's the matter of

the heart. This ParaBody just that forgiveness is about more

than just the depth that was owed. It's just it's

more about that. It's more than that. It's more than

a depth. It's about letting go of the control and

power that we think that we have over the situation.

Some of us think that the reason why I don't

want to forgive is because I want to continue to

control this person. I want to continue to control lord

over this person. The next time I need a favor

you need, you owe me. The next time you need

you need this, you owe me A Remember the last

time you did this to me? A don't forget her.

And you hold that person like a dog by the

lish and all the persons old use ten, one, hundreds

of narries. But yet you are hoping to extart more

from this person. Every time I have something that I need,

you come, woof, Come be my slave. The irony is

that you have just been set free. You have just

been set free in the name of Jesus. Let go

of bitterness. Let go of bidterness, says the next light.

Let go of bitterness. My friends, efficients for that he

wanted that he do says this. Let all bitterness, rough, anger, clamor,

and evil speaking be put away from you, Be put

away from you with all malice, and be kind to

one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God

in Christ forgive you. I came across this courte I

want to share with you today. Eric Waterinson says this.

By forgiving the hurt and the disappointments of your past,

you release it from holding onto you in your future

and hindering your progress. By forgiving the hurt, you're releasing.

You're releasing that hurt from holding onto you in your future,

and it may hind your progress. And when you are hurt,

you wire hurt people. And what you don't know is

that people around you will also get hurt and affected

by it because you live such a hurtful life. Rather

than just you being the one affected, now your entire

household is affected. Now, your entire household cannot go back

for a Chinese year because you're going to sit see

well with the auntie. But your son and daughter who

grew up with that auntie and uncle all this one

now cannot see the Indian uncle because of your fault,

because of your disagreements, you now affect another person's life

when you do not let go. Unforgiveness keeps us tight.

The past, says the next light. But forgiveness allows us

to move forward in God's plan. Amen forgiveness allows us

is it's not about that person, It's about you, the

condition of your heart. And as you forgive, you more

forward in God's plan. When to end with this the

blessings of forgiveness says, the next light very quickly. Now,

next light, blessings of forgiveness, give you another throd for

real freedom from bondage. You'll be set free in the

name of Jesus. Relationships will be restored like how my

family was restored in the name of Jesus. Wow, such

a beautiful picture. Now I can finally have a family

picture again, and no longer a Christian family picture and

another religion family picture. No, it is together again. It's

together again and more importantly, a heart that is aligned

with God. And we like to quote the scripture another

scripture that we like to quote, the peace of the

Lord that surpasses all understanding will be with you, the

peace of God, something that you can't forgive, naturally, supernaturally,

the peace of the Lord will be with you, even

though the world says that this is an unforgivable sin.

But yet the peace of the Lord, which suppasses all understanding,

will be with you. Amen, go the end with this.

Lewis b ss is my favorite courte and I'm going

to give it to you today. He says, to forgive

is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner

was you. All this while you were living in that jail,

and as you step out in faith, you take that key,

you unlock that door, you fling the door wide open.

And like when the gods came and checked where Jesus

was in their grave, he looked in and noticed that

it was empty, the forgive is like coming out of

that grave. It's like coming out from that tone realizing that, hey,

I am no longer a captive here in the name

of Jesus. Now I am free. That's what forgiveness does

to you. I'm going to give you an illustration. You know.

The word forgiveness is so wonderful because if you look

at the center of the word of forgiveness, you'll see

three letters over there. IV. In short, that means I

have right. So the next time you see the word forgiveness,

you remember this. As much as you have been given forgiveness.

Forgiveness also means that you are responsible forgiving forgiveness. I

have given forgiveness. When I receive forgiveness freely, I receive freely,

I shall also give in the name of Jesus. Amen.

When you look at the word forgiveness, it's not just

about you receiving, is about you giving. It's about the

love of God that flows through you and true you. Amen. So, friends,

I'm gonna take this time, I know a little bit

earlier than normal, but I'm gonna take this time to

just pray some of you here. You know, even after today,

you may be feeling a little bit conflicted. Maybe you

oh that brother, that sister, that one person, that one

person in my family that I have not spoken to

in years, years and years, spoken to this person. I'm

gonna pray that today will be the day that you

are set free. Now, I'm not gonna I'm not saying

it it's easy. It's never easy to forgive. It's never easy.

By your own strength, it is not possible. But when

you surrender it to God, When you surrender it to God,

God will lead you. God will guide you. And I

pray that God will show you the way. He will

show you the way. He will give you the keys

of forgiveness. He'll give you the keys. Now, friends, I

want you to invite to stand and I want you

to just recall and recollect right now in this moment.

Is there a person in your life? Is there an

individual in your life? Is there someone that you have

not forgiven in a long time, or is there someone

that have recently hurt you. Maybe it's a pastor, maybe

it's me right now sharing the word to you forgive me.

Maybe it's something that has been binding you for a

long time. I want to encourage you right now to

just surrender that meat before our Lord Jesus Christ. And

today we're gonna pray and change be set free in

the name of Jesus. Let forgiveness flow, Let forgiveness flow.

Let the Gospel of Jesus Christ flow. Right now. The

Gospel of Jesus Christ is also a reminder of his

forgiveness for us. As we have once freely received the gospel.

Now it also flows. It also flows through our feet. No,

Jesus at the Last Supper he bent down and he

washed the feed of his disciples. And if you know

the spiritual armor of God, the feet the sandals represent

the Gospel of peace. The reason why he washes the

feet of disciples is because as you go out there,

you get your feet dirty, and as you come back home,

you need His loving touch and his grace to develop you.

To wash your feet, To wash your feet, Allow God

to come into your life right now and wash that

means of transport in your life, your feet that goes

out there into this world, bringing the Gospel everywhere you go.

Let it be cleaning and they or just let no

unforgiveness hinder the work of God in your life. Let

no unforgiveness cause the other brother do not experience the

love of Jesus Christ, because Oh God desires, Oh Man,

to come to the saving grades of the knowledge of

Jesus Christ. So right now, friends, that's you. I want

you to symbolically lift up your hands right now in worship.

And as we worship God with all that we have,

and as we acknowledge God's presence in our lives, and

we acknowledge that we can't forgive, we can't forgive by

our own strength. Lord, we need you to come into

our lives right now. We need your peace and suppose

all understanding to come. Then we need your boness to come.

I need boness in order to come and approach my brother.

And if I have not approached him yet, Lord, I

pray that I will stop avoiding the issue and acknowledge,

Lord God that my brother has sinned against me, and

I shall go man to man. I shall go and

go without causing a disrupt without gossiping our goal, and

I will acknowledge and I will try to settle it

man to man and in Lord. If that does not work, God,

I pray that I will remember how much you have

forgiven me. I will not keep count of how many

times this person have followed me, but I shall remember,

and I shall forgive. And Lord, I pray that if

there is any one of you right now here that

is struggling because it is just too much for you,

I pray that you will begin to trust God with

all that you have. Trust that God will come true

for you. And God will come true in his timing

and his timing. Only that boss that have said very

mean things to you, that clique that is just not

approachable right now, I pray that all of you will

begin to surrendering right now to our King of Kings,

Lord and Lord, and he will give you the strength.

He will give you the wisdom that is needed in

order to forgive. So finding the name of Jesus. You

see these hands, we often like to pray, Give us

clean hands, give us your hearts. Purify our heart of

any unforgiveness, Purify our heart of any thoughts that are

just there to sick, kill and destroyed as planted by

the enemy. Release it in the name of Jesus. Cause

your sons and daughters in this house again right now

to be able to breathe. Some of them are in

a place where it's so difficult to breathe spiritually, and

sometimes the spiritual affects the physical. Right now, release, release, forgiveness.

Flow in the name of Jesus. Right now, forgive in

the name of Jesus.

Forgive us our depths, as we forgive those that are

in depth against us. As much as you want to

be forgiven, you forgive, as much as you want to

be forgiven. You forgive in the name of Jesus. Change

be set free in the neighbor Jesus. Flow, flow your

grace You're anointing. Right now, Flow in the name of Jesus.

Families come together once again.

Families reconcile and begin to see pictures of sisters looking

at sisters smiling once again, cousins coming together. The work

play is getting more envelope with joy because forgiveness now flow.

Forgive this flow in the name of Jesus. Some of us.

Right now, I pray bonders to come o you to confront,

to acknowledge, and to go in love with reconciliation at

the back of your mind. That is the main goal,

not to go in head, not to go to seek

you and destroy, but the goal in love, to go

in love. Let love be your guiding light. Let God's

love be your guiding light. That God's peace around you.

Right now, We're not gonna rush this moment because I

feel that God is gonna move in the nail. Jesus,

the change are beginning to set free. Right now, you

are finding the key. You're finding the key to set

yourself free. To set yourself free in the name of Jesus.

Not by my not by power, but by the Spirit,

says the lead Holy Spirit. Dissent right now, like a

death upon our lives. We acknowledge you, God, we acknowledge you.

Give us the strength to forgive before it's too late,

before that person goes away and we are at the

person funeral and now we don't have a chance anymore.

Forgive before it's too late. Anything can happen at any

given time. Forgive before it's too late. Do not bring

unforgiveness to the grave. Let go of any bitterness, Let

go of any bitter thoughts. In the name of Jesus,

let kindness envelop you and I prayed, and in the

coming days we will act. We will act on what

we are receiving from you today. And the joy of

the Lord continue to be your strength. Let the Joy

of the Lord continue to be your strength. Be set free,

Be set free in the name of Jeez.

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