Questions and Answers ( Sexual Immorality) Part 2 Bishop Joel Duncan-Williams 3rd Nov 2024

So please.

The first question is on the screen. The persience said

that relationships should should? I say, is the foundational basis

that leads to sexual activities and therefore sexual immorality. So

does it mean that we should stay away from being

in a relationship.

Or in whilst in a relationship?

What are the things we can put in place to

ensure that we don't for pray to sexual immorality?

So please?

Is the questions. As fans police, you can take it up.

So once you decide to enter into a relationship, and

you shouldn't entire relationship for seven years, it means you're

doing what you're doing medical school. If you do four years,

you're also doing another thing. So once you take longer

in the relationship, it can lead to what we are

even talking about. So if you are not ready to

get married in two years or a year, don't even start,

because whilst you're at it, you begin to now relate

and begin to behave as if you're already married, and

begin to do things that will lead to what we

are discussing, the sexual immorality, begin to have last full

thoughts in your mind and begin to try certain things

because you feel, after all, we will marry. So once

the relationship goes like seven years, you are doing medical hallelujah.

Some I haven't going ten years, some are even going

fifteen years. So if you're not ready to marry in

two years or one year, there is no need to

even enter so that it will prevent you from landing

yourself in today's sexual immorality, which is the topic we

are discussing this morning. Have I answered I believe, I

hope I have answered that the person.

Please, those of us seated, if you have a question,

kindly let us know, all right, covery, please you can't

go to the second question?

Mm hmmm, so this person said that peace.

I have had people say that a week or even

day before marriage they have sex, So please, will they

receive punishment from God since they weren't married yet?

Most definitely yes. And I think I answered this question last.

Week, and this is why I want to live.

Punishment is punishment, punishment is, And if you have waited

up till a week, up till a day, what is

the point.

I think that time the feeling is intense.

It's like the powers there.

So if you can true life on me, you cannot

have sex even the day before marriage.

It's not possible.

And I was saying last week that when I was

married h the brides, my wife's indirect father told me that, brother,

you've signed the certificates tonight there must be action.

And I said, no way, I'll marry her.

And even if I marry her, who wait some time

before the action takes place. So my honeymoon nights I

was in prayer. It was my wife who kIPS with

It was my wife. It was my wife who gives

her puts their prayer aside, and do what you are

supposed to do. So so you cannot have sex.

Before.

The best we can do for you is that we

can give you a triarchis a few days before you marry,

in the presence of the church, not on your own,

not in some corner, in the presence of the church.

We cant do that a week or a few days

before you marry.

Ha.

But we can't. We can't allow you to be having sex.

And you shouldn't have sex because you will pay for it.

You see, where you marry, there's calculations, say calculation. We

can calculate that this thing was before the marriage, and

and marrying.

The doesn't cover it up.

Because we can still calculate that, No, you did this

before the marriage, so please don't be having sex. You

have sex on your honeymoon nights, not before, not after,

height before.

But after the year.

You can flow, you can, it's a flowing.

We have questions from us.

Do you have any.

Yes, I believe the first question there was a path

that was not answered. He said, put it up again.

What are he said, who else in a relationship?

What are the things we can put in place to

ensure that we don't for pree s?

So you stay away and you set boundaries from certain things.

So you don't say that we are going to pray

in the house.

Together and it's just you and the person, or we

are going to do Bible steady. Then you get a

hotel room, yes for the Bible steady.

So like you want a serene environment and.

There's no serene environment and a cool place. There are

certain things you don't do it. You don't do it,

You just don't do it. You avoid from doing it.

You understand, do you understand? And like Reverend Frances said,

relationship is for marriage. So if you know that you're

not getting married in a year, you're not getting married

two years. Don't do it because the more time you take,

the more the feelings grow. And then you'll be doing it.

You will be sexting and doing all kinds of things.

Your mind has gone somewhere the way you rose your eyes. Yeah,

you'll be sexting and doing all kinds of things. Then

the the the what do.

You call it?

The excuse you give yourselves is that we are getting

married or we feel like we're already married.

Marriage is not a feeling. It's something you do.

Do you understand, So don't practice things that like when

we're children used to play mommy and Daddy. Please don't

be playing mommy and daddy. Mommy and Daddy are not games.

It comes with a consequence, and that consequence is that

you will see your stomach being inflated like a ballow

and you'll be wondering, hard did.

I get here? You have got it st?

Yeah?

What the STI essentially transmitted infections?

Yes, also STD.

And you have also forgotten about spirit spiritually transferred. This

is we didn't think about that one. They are spiritually transferred.

This is yeah, that one.

Too is one. So you have to watch out.

Yes, yeah, And then just to add to what bishop

has said, and even sometimes even that when it takes

even longer maybe two three, four, five years, it doesn't always.

There's just a percentage. It doesn't always end up in marriage.

So it's not because maybe it's longer. So it's not

about our mistake. It's not about our missing that because

it's two four, five, three seven years sober.

It's not a all missed them. So don't even start it.

Uh huh, So don't even starts the question.

H please, good morning.

They were talking about the trial kise thing and stuff,

and I was wondering that like if, for instance, if

you kiss somebody, right, let's say, for instance, I kiss

somebody and my friend like she goes and actually has

sex with the person, is our punishment the same?

Yeah?

Yeah, so that's no trying at all.

That's what it was.

Just an example. There's no trying. We've got many try it,

you go home and continue.

Yes, But I think with the punishment side, I think, okay, listen,

so when that you stole, if your case, we have sex,

the only thing is that there are some of them

that were you.

When you do, it's your own body.

That is where we need to really get it clear.

All right, but when you kiss and a friend of

those who's going to sleep with another m it's a

little dicey. A right that it's okay, says A lot

of people want to give excuses. Now I didn't, I

guess give a case. This one is sex.

I've not done.

No.

The mindset you see, I give it you does keys

Jesus and the end they're off.

You.

That's keys.

And you haven't seeing see sex, Amen, Barb, be sure

you know that the person who was.

The first question, okay.

I think some of the things you have to do

so that you don't engage, you don't find yourself engaging

in sexual immorality. One, when you're in a relationship, you

don't buy food starts and go to the guy's.

Home to cook, to cook for him, and simple.

You don't go there and watch for him.

Hello.

You don't go to him and said, let's go to

the market together. These are things for married people.

Change into his shirt.

Then when you come you change, you change into a singlet,

wear a box shots because we are home, we are cooking.

Then after you finish eating, you'll be watching a movie. Okay,

by the time you finished watching the movie, he would

have scored a very nice hat trick three goals. So

a lot of these things we do and then it's

like we don't think about it. We don't cook, you

don't you don't go and cook for your boyfriend in

his home. You don't watch for him, you're not the wife.

And these things we take them for granted it's very serious,

but they want to find out if they are not

to cook for him. Hey, buy it's from the roadside

and go and.

Give it to handy Toby and leave.

You see, when I was, let me say, going out

wife dating, there was you see where we started. I

used to visit there in the room. So when I go,

she has her own place, and then I'll go to

the room with her. Then we are there. Then I

realized that if I track in here, okay, because I

mean be in the room first, I mean, what what

WK next? What do I mean if I held it,

I brought my mouth close to where mount Okay. Then

because of how shy she was, Okay, she said, Jimmy,

we can't do it.

So that saved you.

And can you shine anchor? He can you see?

Okay?

Yes?

So right from that moment I said that I look

I'll not visit alone, and when I visit, I'll not

go to a room.

So they started sitting at the gates.

And the last time I was fitting, I said that

somebody who was a taker came to sack me. That

was another instant. But right from the day I thought that, look,

I can't I can kiss here because she's when I

try day one day to the next time should be vulnerable.

Women are very emotional. Women are emotional in nature. Once

you hold their hands, you hold the shoulder, you hold

their waiste, understand that it is done. It is done.

So once I saw I realized that no, this will

not help me, I started meeting and answer. We sit

at the gates, we by away together, we sit at

the gates, we eat, and we are done.

I don't come to a room.

And that is it is another question.

You can put the number on the screen if you

are to ask, please, what's up to this?

And said for you, So my question is is it

still counted as six if you don't do like the thing,

but you do mouth like oral, I don't say.

If you see a said all our sex, I said, yeah, yeah,

you're sacking the day you're sacking the police you don't

want to say it, not saying this question. So you

want to find out if sacking the place aura and

I'm not going to you, Please ask your PRISTI.

What's I'm showing? It's soon people looking at me?

If if the guilt sucks the guys think and the

guy does the guilt, is it consider sex?

And will your punishment be the same as people who actually.

In marriage or before marriage they're not married, they're not married,

who are just one answer just moderating.

Fire.

Is it.

Accesxual immorality? That's a sexual immorality. You're not married, you're

having a around sex. The guys also the other way

leaking right not you, I'm not talking about you, like

the guy is also looking. Is it's also leaking? If

it's not good, I wouldn't say it's not sex or

it's sex, but it's not. It's not good, it's not good.

I mean, what is sex? What is sex?

Is it only when the male organ is inserted into

the female organ? Is that the only thing we can

say that it stritisfied sex?

I don't think so.

I don't think so, because people have sex and not

with human bees, spirits come to sleep with people. Yes,

and that is why we have to be very careful

what we do. It's that the room is not quiet,

you see, like we should said. If you're sleeping with

somebody that spirits come to sleep with, you've also been

looking up.

Sex is not physical as you think you are enjoying. No,

sex is more spiritual than physical.

Because you have sex, spirits have come together and God

recognizes it. To God recognizes So it's not like you're

having you're having all our sex.

So it's no sex. No, look at the.

Name all our worlds or our sex the sex are

so we need to be very careful.

Hello.

So some of us we sleep and we see, we

see ourselves having dreams having sex, and and you wake

up and realize that your bed is wet. It's not

ordinary if you're here you have such issues. Please after service,

come and see the shore. It's with you all your lady.

You sleep, you have you have sex in your dream

and you wake up for it. You realize the whole

bed is messed up. Please after checking them, see it's

not it's not a good.

Thing, wonderful.

And then even that's why the scripture even also says

that if we will look upon the lady lastfully, you've

already slept with a person.

M please put your.

Seven so when you can look at the lady or

the gentleman as we see, the lady knows if I

use your even your eyes to living undress and even

vice versa, you've already slept with the person. So it

so it's not only in the act. Even in their thoughts,

say you have already slept with the person. So it's spiritual,

like Reverend James was saying, So even they starts from

their mind. So once you look upon the person last fully,

once you see the person, or then you start imagining

the thoughts, you've already slept with the person even before

the act.

All right, So the scriptures said that you have heard

that it was said to those of old you shall

not commit adultery. But I say to you that whoever

looks at a woman to last for hair has already

committed adultery with her in his hat.

So this is jesus definition. There's not a dictionary definition.

This is Jesus's definition.

And for the example that our system made, you've gone

further not to just look at her lastfully, where you

have removed your clothes and you have removed everything you

are wearing, and you are.

If you've engaged your sexual organs.

When you say to yourself that we are not really penetration,

we are doing other things to eat, acolate, it's a

sexual act. Please you understand, God bless you. Is there

a question here, thanks, just one that we come.

To you to.

Before marriage, severally.

That you don't kiss before marriage. You those are part

of the douce, and they don't. You don't kiss before marriage.

Anything that will lead you to imagine or think of

having sex, don't do it. Even if you hold the

person's hands and it takes you somewhere, don't hold the hands.

Just distance yourself so that you can be safe.

Because people say that I know my limits, I will

do this, and you don't know your limits.

We are helping you not to even get to your limits.

So if you see the move, and even when you

are closer to the person, don't help him. Give God

so that you're able to save yourself and save the

person as well. Last question, Please, then we hear from

the panelist for the last time.

From the first.

Question that Francis answered, you were talking about Dayton, that

you should date she dates maybe like two years, like

when you already to get married. She days maybe two

years or a year before you get married. But then

do you actually think you're spooled to day like Dayton

in general for.

Even a month? Do you think you're school to days?

Yeah?

M yes, okay, it's Dayton like because from most of

the things they I personally think you are not supposed

to wait at all, not giving you for a week.

But then from what years? What Reverend Francis said, you're

supposed to date for like maybe a year, which I

think isn't something good as easy?

You said you understand yeah from.

Asking Yeah, so.

The year or two years that I mentioned before you

even start, the family may have that aware.

So that's what I'm saying.

If you your relationship that you are engaged in is

not leading into marriage, so one years just something that

a number of time that I've given. But if it's

the thing is not if it's not leading into marriage,

and both families are also not aware. And then we

said that you you you set boundaries, so but if

that is leading to marriage, then yes, then that's when

the other aspect comes in, like certain boundaries, what do

you do so that you don't engage yourself in certain things.

So like revenge James mentioned who mentioned some of some

people when you hold hands, it's there's a way it

turns you and it gives you direction. Like our father says,

don't let your erection gives you direction. So some when

you just hold hands, there's a way, there's a chemistry

some of us. You should know yourself that when I

had a lady, that's how I feel. So don't even

indulge in it, do you see? So dating must lead

to marriage, but if you are not ready for marriage,

it means you're not sure of the person.

So don't even start.

I think that she's saying that. The question is asking

is that is it right to date? Or is dating

even important? You said yes, the Bible says.

You should love your wife.

Something about love your wife, And I remember you said,

when God tells you.

To do something, it's not supposed to be easy.

You said that when tells you to do something, it's

not easy.

So give God the.

Saying you should love your husband and love your suppose

be easy. But then the whole idea of dating is

to love the person and get married.

When you love the person and get married.

Loving the person in the.

Marriage will be easy, but I give God the same

love the person. It's not supposed to be easy.

So if you don't, maybe I don't know the person

and it doesn't just come to me, and then we

get married. Love with the person will be difficult, which

is actually how it's supposed to be. Since is a

command from God, it's not supposed to be easy. You

get what I'm saying.

Yeah, So why do we date? Why do we go

on the date? We go on the date to know

the person very well. So now you go on the date.

For example, let me use myself.

All right, I started dating, then my girlfriend or then

the leader I want to marry Sally. I started dating

there to know hair, where she comes from, what she

likes and home, what they do? Are they really Christians?

These are things you get to know where you are

dating somebody. Now in your dating process or while you

are dating, understand that you get to know certain things,

things you don't like about the person. Now it is

as to you to make a decision to still go

ahead and married a person or not. You understand now

at that point you make a decision to still they

married a person.

It is now. It now moves from just ordinary dating

to laugh in the person. Do you understand me?

No, it is different from you not knowing all these things,

and then ain't time to the marriag You see the

person today, tomorrow you're married. I think that is very serious.

You aren't time to the marriage. And then now you

got to know that the person is not actually what

you think the person is. Now understand that if it

be marriage after knowing the person for two years, three years,

four years, there are still a lot of surprises after

you are married, which at times can even carouse divorce.

You get it, so you can.

Imagine you don't know any of these things at all.

The person comes to you today, the following day you

are married. It is going to be very well. Setain

people that marriage has worked for them. It's been a

straight jacket thing. The setaeople that met their spouse just

tomorrow and then they get married the following two days

and they are done, and they've lived for fifty years

and they are working. But until they tell you what

they go through in their relationship, you can't use that

as an example. Because while I was going to marry,

there was a couple the lady was with that was

with their husband. So the wife was with her husband,

and and night, I think two or three weeks after

they marriage, they were at home and the gentlemen.

Gave out some bad air. The lady said, is that.

How you are? And that was it?

That was it.

So when I was going for counseling, they had also

come for counseling because of a bad air. That was

really and let me tell you the end of that matter.

They were divorced. They divorced because of bad air. Yeah,

you are, you're not even They tell the person you

don't know how the s the smells. You know, there

are so many things that causes divorce. So it's always

good that I need you get to know if the person.

It's not a straight jacket in a new way. That

script trilie have to know the person for two years

one year. And all of the Bible says they will

come a time where a man who lives so many

noma will leave a when the two shall be joined.

That's what the Bible says. You get it.

In the case of Jacob, Jacob worked for seven years.

In other ways, he was working with the uncle seeing

the lady wants to marry every day for seven years,

and after that he still even they didn't get down

the lady and where stra seven years? Fourteen years? So

can you see somebody who also say that? But Jacob

did it for fourteen years, so I can also date

for fourteen years. This circumstance is a different.

Wonderful you're not so please?

We have we are going to give one last question

then we would continue my history. So this person said that,

what so what if you are an actor and your

role is to kiss someone or you are acting as

a husband.

And wife, what do you do? Yeah?

So so that is why he's an act But you see,

I know some actors who were who are believers, like

which I have worked with before.

I know you knows I you don't know. Okay, yes,

So for him, he's a Christian and believer.

He's acted several movies and several things back you never

see him in those scenes, but he's given roles to play,

so he keeps his values as a believer and as

a child of God. He's acted several sayings but you'll

not see him with that kising a woman or having

acting maybe a sexual and saying. You never see him

do those things. So as a person, you must know

who you are as a child of God. And then

those who be open. I mean, the movie industry now

is large. So if here is demanding this from you,

there are other ways as well. Now the movie industry

is opening, is so wild. So you don't you can't.

You don't only act in one area. So yes, as

a child of God, as a believer, know who you

are and know that, don't be confirmed to the things

of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of

your mind. So if you realize that no, this is

the same you are given. Yes, it's difficult, but this

one is my breakthrough. It looks like the big true,

but it can lead to other things. But I have

been in the movie in the Stree and I know

some of the things that are done in there. I

mean it's crazy. So rather flee, flee, run away from it.

Other rose will come. Other people will can't contact you.

If that's what you want to do. Transtgord with it.

You know, don't lean on your own understanding, just believe

in there will be other movie industries.

I will call you and even give you rose.

In fact, those same movie industry can give you rose

that you don't need to kiss, you don't need to

act sexual scenes, and then you'll be fine.

Amen,