Sermon
Reflections on Love - Part 2
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All right. Well, good morning, everyone. So good to see you today.
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What a beautiful day and a beautiful day to continue on what we've been doing.
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Started last week and continuing on this week, we've just been reflecting on love, love.
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And I just, I actually, I really have enjoyed just preparing this week for this
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message and thinking about God's love and the love that we're called to and
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just kind of the beautiful thing that it is to say,
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oh, no, I'm in Christ, and so my life is in Him, and so His love flows through me.
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What a great thing we have, an opportunity we have.
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As we get started, I just want to pray, see if you guys would join me.
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So, Lord, as we just reflect on love, Lord, we want to be grounded in Your Word.
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Lord, we want to be filled with Your Spirit.
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Lord, we want You to give us eyes to see, Lord, the depths of Your love,
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Lord, the depths of Your love for ourselves, but also for the people around
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us, Lord, for this broken world, Lord, for the fact that your love is just,
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it is in the background, the driving heartbeat of your mission in the world,
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Lord, of your work in the world, of your reconciliation and your restoration
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of all things, Lord. It comes from your love, and that's who you are, Lord.
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So, Lord, let us be willing to hear from you and to be shaped by you,
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by your word, we pray in Jesus' name. Amen.
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So we're talking about love. And I mean, we talked about this last week a little
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bit, but love is just absolutely central, central to Christian thinking, living, spirituality.
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Every part of the life of faith must have love.
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Love must be expressed in it. Love is not just a nice optional thing.
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It's not an aesthetic bonus. It's not just something that we can add on to our faith.
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What we talked about last week is that it's just indispensable.
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It's so central to our calling to be people of love.
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And I think we need that reminder. I need that reminder oftentimes because there's
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just something in the human heart, in my heart and in your heart,
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that is willing to forego love or to just sort of think, oh,
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it's nice, but not really to really hold ourselves to this understanding that love is so important.
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We are more comfortable measuring our maturity as Christians in our doctrinal
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commitments, in the things that we do, and in our sense of spirituality.
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We can kind of touch those things a little bit more.
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They're more tangible to us. And so we say, Like, those are the primary things,
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but love is so essential.
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Biblically, love is necessarily paired with every single one of those things.
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It doesn't replace those things, right?
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It's not as if, oh, well, if we have love and we have bad doctrine and we have
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no faith or we have none of this—.
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All of those things must be paired with love. Love doesn't replace doctrine
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or works or being filled with the Spirit, but it does accompany those things in our lives.
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And so we just kind of need to think about that. Like we need to have this companion
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of love as we walk out into the world.
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Look, what Paul tells Timothy in 1 Timothy, Timothy is a book where Paul,
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it's a pastoral epistle.
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Paul has sent Timothy's kind of younger apprentice to build up ministries.
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And so he's giving him reminders and instructions. And he says this,
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the goal of our instruction is love that comes from a pure heart,
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a good conscience and a sincere faith.
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So all the tweaking and instruction and doctrine that Paul is doing in the book of 1 Timothy,
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and probably we could say more broadly in the rest of his letters,
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all of it has the goal of pushing us as followers of Jesus towards the goal
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of seeing love coming out of a pure heart of a good conscience and a sincere faith.
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The end goal of Christian maturity is love, to pursue love. It's really the whole ballgame.
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And as we pursue true maturity, love will come.
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But I just want to pause for a minute and just notice something together,
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something that's kind I think, implied in what Paul is saying.
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And that's that this is that we can learn to love, that we can learn to love.
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Of course, it would be silly to give instruction with a goal of love if it's
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not actually possible for us to learn to love.
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There is implied in this idea that we can learn to love. Otherwise,
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what would be the sense of what he's saying?
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And I think it matters to say that, to say that love is something that we can
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grow in and that we can be intentional about cultivating and developing because
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there's some sense to it.
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And it's important to say that because in our culture, we've taken that word
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love and we've made it mysterious.
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We've made it something that just kind of spontaneously happens.
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And we've deprived ourselves with those romantic ideas about love,
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we've deprived ourselves of the tools of actually cultivating love.
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Because if you make it something that just kind of has its own power of its
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own like, then you can't in any way develop love in your life.
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I heard the term recently, saturated language. And I think when we talk about
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love, I think, did Peter, did I hear that from you, Peter?
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Yeah, yeah, thank you. That's like 50% of the things I hear,
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I hear from Peter because he is a good for the, he's a source of knowledge. So saturated language.
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So love is, it's just saturated with meaning. So in different meanings, right?
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We take the word love in our culture and everybody has this concept of love
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And it's kind of like a wax nose.
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We will mold it to be what we think of it as.
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And we make it mysterious. We make it something that kind of just happens or
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is spontaneous or appears out of nowhere.
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And everyone says, everyone agrees, maybe not everyone, but most people agree that love is good.
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Everyone loves loves. We love to love love and we love to talk about love and
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how loving we are and how important all of our causes are and how all of our
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causes and our understanding of the world is totally consistent with love.
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Everybody loves to claim love.
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But there's oftentimes, I think, no real sense or plan of how we can develop
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love. and the idea of cultivating or growing in love is counterintuitive to
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the mysterious ways we think about love.
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But really, at the heart of Jesus' message and Paul's instruction in the New
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Testament is this, I think, scandalous idea, at least scandalous in our culture,
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that matters of the heart, matters
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of love, matters of our affections are actually not a mystery at all.
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They are not something that we're powerless over developing and growing in.
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In fact, Jesus' ministry, I think, at its heart is the revelation that because
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of God's love, we can grow into love.
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That's why Jesus says the greatest commandment, commandment is something that
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we must do, that we can do, is to love God and love other people.
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If we can't, if it's not within our power to love God and love other people, then we are just doomed.
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But implied in this is this sense that we can grow into love.
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We can grow into become people of love.
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Look at what Peter says about love in the book of 1 Peter.
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It says this, since you've purified yourselves by your obedience to the truth,
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so that you show sincere brotherly love for each other, from a pure heart,
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love one another constantly.
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Because you've been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable,
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through the living and enduring word of God.
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And then a quote from Isaiah, for all flesh is as grass and all its glory,
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like the flowers of the grass.
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And the grass withers and the flower falls, but the word of the Lord endures
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forever. And this word is the gospel that was proclaimed to you.
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The gospel of Jesus Christ, the word of God spoken to us, is the through way.
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It's the enabling thing that makes us be able to, that gives us a competency
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to be able to love from a pure heart in this way.
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The gospel is the seed spread from the Lord, implanted into our hearts that
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can grow and will love. True love, the kind of love that Jesus has, that God has.
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And to accept the gospel is to be enabled to love in this way that Peter describes,
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this constant love, this faithful love, this growing into, putting on of love.
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And I especially like, I think this is an important distinction.
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This perishable versus imperishable language.
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He's talking about the gospel being an imperishable seed that's going to grow
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into imperishable fruit.
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It helps, I think, for me to conceptualize the difference between the kind of
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love that Jesus calls us to, this love of God,
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love for people, this putting on love, this transformative love,
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and the kind of love that comes naturally to all people, including me.
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And if we're going to love the way that Jesus teaches us, then I think we need
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to understand, we need to recognize that there is something called imperishable love.
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There is this thing that we're called to, which is love of a greater quality
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and caliber in that it is enduring and it is imperishable.
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And we need to think about this because I think sometimes Christians say silly things.
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This is a silly thing that Christians say sometimes.
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I know.
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Yes, yes, it is shocking. It's truly shocking. Christians say silly things and
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we assume that people who don't follow Jesus don't know what love is. And that's not true.
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They absolutely do. I mean, look, everyone, because we're created in the image
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of God, has the capacity to love.
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We have a natural and innate ability to love, perishably.
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And that's the issue. Because look, here's what I know about myself.
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My natural love is very fickle.
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It goes to the point where it becomes exhausted because it's coming from me,
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and I will find an end to myself and my ability to love, and then my love will fade.
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We all have that ability, and that's a beautiful thing. It is beautiful that
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all people are capable of love, and so we know what love is like,
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and yet we all, I think, know this reality that our love, our natural love, is perishable.
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But what Peter is saying here is that there's a kind of love,
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a love that is rooted in the gospel, not in my heart or my feelings,
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a love that is rooted in the gospel, rooted in the character of God himself,
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a love that God puts into our hearts that's imperishable.
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So it's of a similar quality to our natural love, but it is enduring,
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and it is strong, and it perseveres in a way that natural love simply does not.
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Jesus drew out the fact of this distinction in Matthew 5. We went through the
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Gospel of Matthew recently.
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As a church, We're not all the
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way through there. We're going to start Matthew 13 in a little bit here.
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Jesus said this, For if you love those who love you, what reward will you have?
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Don't even tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers and
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sisters, what are you doing out of the ordinary?
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Don't even Gentiles do the same? Be perfect, therefore, as your father is perfect.
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See, Jesus understood that there is a difference between the everyday kind of
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perishable love and the kind of imperishable gospel-rooted love that we're called
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to put on and cultivate in our lives.
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I think it's pretty clear that what Jesus was talking about,
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I mean, he's talking about every common circumstances even today.
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Everybody loves. You love people. Everyone loves, especially those who are lovely.
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We love our spouse most of the time right naturally quite naturally it's easy
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to do that because you develop affection for people who are close to you you love your children,
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most of the time right and that's that's very natural and normal and good and
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beautiful people you spend time around with your your friends your loved ones
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we all know what that kind of love looks like.
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And that kind of love is valuable and to be treasured.
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Everyone loves those who are lovely. Everyone loves those who are close to them.
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But the kind of love that Jesus points us to, and he's drawing this distinction
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throughout his ministry.
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And Paul is drawing this distinction too. And Peter's drawing this distinction too.
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He's calling us to this perfect kind of love, a love that goes beyond loveliness.
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And he's calling us to cultivate and have a kind of love that comes from the
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very character of God, a love for unlovely people.
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Because the gospel is the good news.
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It's the great news that God not just tolerates unlovely people, sinners.
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He loves them as they're still sinners.
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In Romans 5, 6, it says this, When we were utterly helpless,
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Christ came at just the right time, and he died for sinners.
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He didn't die for your potential to be not sinners. He said,
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oh, I see all these broken, unlovely, rebellious, hopeless people.
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And in the midst of all their rebellion and all their anger towards me,
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I look at them and I love them to the point where I will die forever.
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Take away their sin and their shame and invite them into eternal relationship with me.
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I'm going to do all the work from my desire to bring about good and transform their lives.
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His death is the seed sown that brings love and life into the world, and it is imperishable.
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And that love, it's imperishable because that love depends on him and what he's
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already done, and it comes from his very character, as we talked about last
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week, because God is love.
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And in him, there's no shadow of turning, like there's no darkness with him at all.
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Everything within him is just love and affection and joy and his goodness and
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hope for this world. And he wants to bring about goodness.
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He is creative love in the world. He's creative.
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He comes and he develops relationship in people, people who don't want to love
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him. He loves his enemies.
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He loves sinners. He loves people who are in rebellion.
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And so that kind of love, right?
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If I put on that kind of love, then that kind of love
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is imperishable because it is not disturbed when I get offended or when I get
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hurt or when I feel as if I'm not being treated the way I deserve to be treated
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because it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with God and what he has done.
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He has been offended more than anyone ever could be.
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Killed on a cross, rejected and despised by men, by the very people who were
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to be expecting him and welcoming him.
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And he says, yes, and yet still I love.
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And yet still my love is given as the eternal invitation to men to come and
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have relationship and to be embraced and forgiven.
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So that kind of love is never threatened because its root is not in my heart
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or your heart, but it is in his heart and in his love demonstrated on the cross
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and in his character and in his work.
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And that's so much of like what we talked about last week, right?
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That kind of love will not wither or fade because it is not subject to my weakness,
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my very natural weakness and your very natural weakness, my very natural inability
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to love unlovely things, and your very natural inability to love unlovely things.
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It is not dependent upon you. It's dependent upon Him.
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So to learn to love, we need to understand the difference between the natural,
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the perishable kind of love, and the imperishable, the supernatural love that
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is demonstrated in the Gospel.
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So we need to know that. And we also need to know this. We have to recognize
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that the kind of love we're called to, we have to cultivate. We have to cultivate.
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We can cultivate this perishable love in our lives, which is we can participate
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in its blooming, in its fruitfulness,
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in its coming to be a felt and lived reality in our lives, right?
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So it's not like something that's going to be done passively,
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merely, although Jesus does the initiating work of that love in the gospel.
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But in order for it to take root in our lives and to make a difference,
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we participate and we cultivate.
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And Peter's instructions, I mean, he leaves us with that picture of this imperishable
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love, and he goes on in 1 Peter 2, he says this.
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In light of this love, therefore, rid yourselves of all malice,
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all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and all slander.
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Like newborn infants, desire the pure milk of the word so that by it you may
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grow up into your salvation if you have tasted that the Lord is good.
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So this imperishable seed, this love, which can't be disturbed by my own changing
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feelings or my own weaknesses,
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that imperishable seed is from God, but there is something for us to do in this
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process of becoming people who love and becoming people who are learning to love.
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And that is that we have to Just like we do right now If you have a garden You
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have to pull the weeds You have to tend the soil You have to do some things,
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Which is not making the seed grow But it
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is making room for the seed to grow It is protecting that thing Which is going
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to grow And it is making room for it to grow So that seed is not stifled or
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discouraged Or have its nutrients sapped from it We need to clear the ground
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So that the seed of the gospel
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can grow and bloom and bear fruit in our lives, that His love can bear fruit in our lives.
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I think it's pretty true.
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This comes into some theology things, but I don't think what we risk by not
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tending the ground, I don't think we risk the seed dying, because again,
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it's rooted elsewhere. It's rooted in his love.
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That's not going away, but we do risk fruitlessness in our lives if we don't
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tend to our character, if we don't tend to our way of treating other people.
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So Peter says to do something to rid ourselves from malice, deceit,
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hypocrisy, envy, and slander.
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I basically think he is implying that these things are love killers or at least
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love inhibitors, which makes sense.
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I mean, it makes sense that he would tell us to do these things,
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especially when we apply the definition of love that we talked about last week.
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If you didn't listen last week, I had this little definition of love,
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and that is that love is to will the good of another.
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To me, that's important to have that definition in my mind because,
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again, saturated language, we all have different ideas, and we oftentimes think
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about, well, love is about my feelings.
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And I think preliminary to me feeling a certain way in love,
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I think affection and love go naturally together, right?
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But actually, if I will someone's good, then the affection and the feeling follows.
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If I want your good, I will look at you as someone who has great potential.
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I will look at you as someone whom God loves. I will look at you as someone
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who I can be patient with.
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I can do all the 1 Corinthians 13, love is patient, kind, you know,
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it doesn't keep a record of wrong.
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I can do all that very easily if I see you as someone who I want your good.
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It just comes naturally.
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So Peter, he says we need to do these things, to rid ourselves of these things.
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And it makes sense that we need to do these things. I totally lost my notes.
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Could we just call it what it is? I'm lost in my notes. This feels a little,
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hang on a minute. Just give me a minute.
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If we take this definition of love, I think it's helpful because it helps us
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cut through our romantic ideas about what love is and really get to something concrete.
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Love is not just a feeling you have.
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Feeling and affections follow, yes, but if you love well, if I love well, then I want your good.
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And if you love me well, you want my good.
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And if I love you well, I want your good even when you don't want your good.
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And if you love me well, you want my good even when I don't.
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Even when I've lost sight of what is good for me.
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And I not only want your good, but I become the sort of person who's willing
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to do some work and to sacrifice in order for you to see and to know and to pursue your good.
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No matter how you treat me. I think
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that's what love is. That's the love demonstrated by Jesus on the cross.
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I think that is true love. That's the kind of love that we're called to.
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And so it makes sense that things like malice and deceit and hypocrisy and envy
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and slander would be love killers because I can't want your good while also
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being malicious towards you,
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being envious of you being deceitful
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towards you being manipulative towards you I can't do this those two things
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simply will not go together they cannot exist together so I can't want your
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good while also engaging in these things but I want us to think a little bit
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about this instruction because Peter is giving really practical do-don't-do do-don't-do advice,
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love don't have malice love don't have envy love don't slander.
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But he's saying more, as we read in this verse, than just saying don't do these things.
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In reality, because here's the thing, you have bad habits and I have bad habits.
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You do things unthinkingly, unintentionally, and I do as well.
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Now, malice is like a $12 word, right?
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I don't think any of us use it
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very often, and we certainly don't think of ourselves as malicious people.
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But what about the lower end of the list? Has anyone here ever been hypocritical?
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Anyone here ever envied anyone? Anyone here ever slandered someone,
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spoken of someone in a way that was unfair and untrue? I know I have.
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And I'll tell you, I didn't, when I've done those things, ever like think about it.
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I wasn't doing it intentionally. It just kind of happened.
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And so then the question becomes, what is Peter telling me to do?
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Is he telling me to just try harder not to do those things?
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And I think the answer is yes and no. I mean, obviously, we do need to engage
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our willpower in order not to do something.
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We do need to have some self-control and to develop self-control and to develop
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willpower to be intentional about things that we aren't intentional about.
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But honestly, that's not a really good direct strategy.
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Because the thing about my willpower is I don't know how to get more of it immediately, right?
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Like, I just like when you can't just have more of what you don't have in the moment.
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I think actually what Peter is actually giving us is a real strategy to achieve
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those things, but indirectly.
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Because what does he say? If we pay attention, he's obviously saying don't do
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those things, but he's actually calling us to rely on something other than our
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willpower in the moment of need.
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He goes on, he says, right? He says, don't do these things. But then he says,
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instead, desire the pure milk of the word so that by it you may grow up into your salvation.
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If you have a taste, If you've tasted that the Lord is good.
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Look, I mean, sure, if you want to become a person of love and if you want to
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cultivate love in your life, cease to do these things that you know are love killers.
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But when you are lacking the willpower, trying harder isn't going to work because
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you're unaware of when you're doing these things in the moment.
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Actually, instead, what we're told to do is to desire the word,
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to desire the gospel, to desire a greater depth of the knowledge of the love
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of God given to undeserving people.
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That we would let that word come into our lives and just blow our minds and
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our categories because it will.
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I mean, honestly, if we come to understand and comprehend, as Paul prays for
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us, the depth and the breadth and the might of the love of God,
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that is going to transform us.
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That is going to give us a desire to participate in love and to be people of
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love that mere willpower alone could never give you because it'll give you a hope and a vision.
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For your life of what it could be to be someone who participates in bringing
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about good in people's lives.
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You won't think twice about malice or slander or envy when you just look at
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people with the lenses that God has when he looks at you and looks at me and
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looks at all the people around you.
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He looks at people and says, that's someone who's broken, but I can do so much
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good in their life and I'm going to do so by pouring out undeserved love.
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He doesn't have to think about not slandering people. He says,
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because I've created them and I love them.
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And if only we could have such an understanding that that word,
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the love of God, imperishable seed would come into our lives.
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It would take flower. It would give us the things that we cannot supply in our
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willpower alone, in our self-control alone.
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It would be our willpower and our self-control because God would so transform
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our desires and our hopes and our expectations. Thank you.
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But really what I am describing to you on this road to becoming a person of love,
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I'm describing is to have this kind of will for the good of others involves
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supplanting my own will from my own desires.
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We need to surrender our self-will if we're going to be people who are willing the good of others.
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We count others needs as greater
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and more important than our own in these instances when we
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love we count we become people
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who have this attitude like jesus had servant hood not people who are here to
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be served but people who are here to serve others not not people who have our
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own agendas who who have come and and latched onto god's agenda for this world
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and for the people around us for their good.
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We need to surrender our self-will. Because I find it easy to love people right
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up until they get in my way.
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I'm great at that. I'm really loving right up until people offend me. I'm so good.
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You are too. You do such a good job. You love lovely people so well.
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But when people get ugly, when people get mean, when people get entitled,
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all of a sudden I feel hurt and I feel forgotten and I feel unappreciated.
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Well, that is oftentimes the end of my love.
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Why? Because I'm so consumed with my own will and my own desires for myself.
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You knew it was coming. Dallas Willard says this, we can undertake actions that
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remove the barriers to love that reside in the various dimensions of the self.
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They may reside in the will itself, ultimately the root of all resistance to love.
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The will as a stubborn resolve to have one's own way to control others and to be exalted.
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Such a person will be governed by the desires of the eyes and of the flesh and
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of the pride of life. A reference to 1 John 2.16.
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They're quite certainly headed for a life of disappointment and anger,
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full of attempts at clever manipulation and hypocrisy.
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To escape such a life, they have to surrender self-will as their governing principle,
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a hardened resolve to have one's own way.
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They will have to yield their will to good and to love and to God and learn
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to seek what is good for others as well as oneself. That is what love does.
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The worship team is going to come up here now, but I'm just going to wrap up
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and just think about this and meditate upon this with you guys together.
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Because honestly, if we want to learn love, if we want to become the sort of
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person who is leaning into love and this kind of love, this kind of love that
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Jesus calls us to and calls people to, calls you to,
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then we have to come into a confrontation with our own self-will because you
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have it and I have it and it's quite natural.
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It's part of your sinful humanity that you judge your life and your wellness
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and your happiness in reference to you getting the things that you want in life.
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And I do too. And that is very normal and natural and sinful.
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And what God calls us to through the gospel is to have this instead,
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the supplanting of those kind of goals and motives and joys with the truer and
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imperishable participation in life and mission with Him,
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where we're able to give ourselves away and to be treated unwell and yet find
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ourselves to be so caught up in the love and grace of our created father who
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just like delights in us.
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So much of my life and so much of what gets me off course of love is that I
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have wants and I have desires and I have agendas, right?
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And then when those agendas are stymied, it's a two-part thing.
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Number one, I don't get what I want.
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And then I slipped down the slippery slope of my insecurity.
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And for some of you that comes out in your anger.
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Which is probably malice. You could use those words interchangeably.
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For some of you, it comes out in blaming other people and slander.
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For some of you, it comes out in feeling like a victim and feeling like nobody
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appreciates you or cares for you.
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And so you start to envy and you slip into these things.
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Like, I do this all the time. This is my natural self,
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that when my agenda and my desires and my self-will is threatened,
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which it will be every single day, then I get insecure and I blame other people
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and I get mad and I get hurt.
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And that's the end of my love.
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And what I think Jesus calls us to is to a real confrontation with that.
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And I think in our culture it's hard because we're so, how do I say this?
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I love my therapists in the room, but sometimes therapy, there's healthy therapy,
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which teaches us to deal with the realities of life.
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And then there's unhealthy therapy, which makes us think that life should not
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be real, that we shouldn't have to deal with difficult things and hard things.
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And sometimes we nurse our wounds to the point where they're just broken and
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they really need curing.
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And the way that we cure our wounds is that we let, as Jesus talks about over
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and over again, we die to ourselves, we die to our own agendas,
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and we die to these things and our insecurities.
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When we do that Humility Actually
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becomes an opportunity For spiritual development Like
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so we see painful things And difficult things Things where our self-will
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Is thwarted And we Instead of going down The descending scales Of insecurity
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And anger And envy And being mad And feeling like a victim We pause ourselves
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And we say Okay Jesus Okay.
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Do you still love me? Am I still secure? Do I still have a hope and expectation
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and a future that comes from you?
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Well, yes. All of that remains true because it was never dependent on my circumstances.
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And so when I come into difficult circumstances, I can pause myself in my heart
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and I can just learn this habit to say, okay, this humiliation is a opportunity to grow into love.
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That's a habit you literally need to learn. You can recognize the signs of anxieties
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in your body and in your mind.
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You can pause yourself and you can ask yourself, what is true?
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Does God still love me? Am I still secure?
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Even though I'm being treated in this unlovely way by this unlovely person,
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can I still be somebody who sees this person in all their brokenness and still loves them?
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And can I be secure enough to know that this person's treatment of me does not
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jeopardize my well-being, my hope, my joy. These are habits that we learn.
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So humility can be an opportunity.
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Disappointment can be an invitation. And a loss of control can be an opportunity
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for me to rejoice that, okay, God's gonna do the work instead of me.
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But I'm telling you, like, literally, I'm trying to give you this understanding.
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So how do we learn to love?
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We stop when we start to feel angry.
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We don't try to be, I will not be angry. That won't work.
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But we stop and we remind ourselves who still loves me. Does the Lord still love me?
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Where is my hope? Is it still in him?
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Even though this person treats me this way and it makes me very uncomfortable
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and it triggers many of my anxieties and my bad feelings in me.
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Can I just kind of pause that and remind myself of what's true?
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And can I do this crazy work of instead looking at this person who's treating
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me badly and treat them for their good?
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And guys, this is the invitation. I've given you this little phrase before.
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Pastor in San Diego has it. I like it. He says, this is his thing that he repeats
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to himself often. And I've done the same lately, a lot lately.
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He says, nothing to lose. I've got nothing to prove. My life is in Christ and nothing else matters.
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That's the gospel. You've got nothing to lose. Like Jesus has you right where he wants you.
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He's got you. You are secure in his love. And so whatever comes at you,
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like that's not going to change.
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You've got nothing to prove. He died on the cross to invite you in,
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to take away your sin, to make your life valuable,
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to prove to you that you are a created person, the object of his love,
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and that nothing that you go through can threaten that thing.
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You've got nothing to prove.
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Your life is in Christ. It is not in these things that we tell ourselves are
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so important in life, in our self-will, in our performance, in what other people
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think about us and how much money we have and how well we do at our jobs,
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in what other people say, or we think that they say, which is always a different thing.
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We can say my life is in Christ. Like what matters and what defines me and my
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character and who I am is actually what he says about me.
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And he says, I'm loved, I'm chosen, I'm secure, I can have hope in him.
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My life is in Christ. And because all of those things are true,
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I've got nothing to lose. I've got nothing to prove with my life in Christ.
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Therefore, nothing really else matters.
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Nothing else can steal what God has done for me.
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There are many opportunities to grow into love and they oftentimes hurt, but it's good.
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And so I ask you and pray for you that you would be bold, boldly step into uncomfortable
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places and see them as opportunities to grow in love. This week and beyond.
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So, hey, let's take some time. Let's stand up. We're going to worship the Lord together.
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Yeah, that's all.