Can You Dig It? | What Are We | Pastors Scott & Cindy Thomas

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into let's get into some talking today

continuing this series that we've been

on uh we just kicked it off a couple of

weeks ago

called what are we what are we uh

qualifying

relationships qualify you know okay so

this drives me crazy here my chain is

it's all stuck is that what's going on

there we go I should have worn my Spanx

I need to tuck all that in just

cuz you sit down Florida devil get a

bigger size people seriously you've

earned their right to be happy and to

breathe yeah don't do that to yourself

yeah anyway anyway unless you want to go

ahead what what what what are we what

are we you you ever you ever we do a lot

of relationships and sometimes if we're

not careful we do them just so on

automatic pilot that because we started

the relationship well I guess we're

still in it and we just continue and we

don't don't think of doing things

intentionally and the importance of

really engaging and making some specific

intentional moves forward to make life

better and that's kind of what we want

to hit on today and hit hit a couple of

principles that we can give you that you

can think about that's going to go

across the board this is not just

marriage it can be a parent child

relationship it can be a co-worker

relationship it can be a business uh

partnership certainly marriage dating

whatever that is desperate like whatever

situation friendships which is a huge

thing so so here's here's where we want

to dive in

communication is the key to

relationships it that it is the number

one I don't care who you talk to around

the world all the gurus on relationships

bottom line is this if you can't

communicate you're in a train

wreck you you you've got to be able to

speak to share and there's multiple ways

that we communicate but we have to have

communication going on an exchange of

thoughts what's going on in your head

what do you feel what are your desires

what what how how how is this situation

affecting you we've always said if a

relationship if a relationship is just

nice and there's never conflict somebody

in the relationship is lying

right that was a that was an a man of

experience right there like he like that

that that

was we have to be able to communicate

because communication is key number one

yes and conflict doesn't have to be

negative we think of conflict as a

negative thing screaming match and it

should not be because after all we're

we're reaching in following Christ and

trying to be like him so can we maybe

call it clarification maybe that will

help you to see it differently to

prepare for it differently to speak to

it differently your body language

communicates a lot Maybe by calling that

clarifying let's clarify this point

because again somebody's lying

somebody's getting their way of the time

but we were all created with Dominion

God gave every single human Dominion one

day you will wake up it might be 30

years from now but you will wake up and

then it's going to be all of that all

over the place and somebody's going to

be totally shocked so communication is

everything we H we have to be able to

express and communication as I said

we're going to get into what what is

that communic ation how does it play out

but this is kind of the the the the

scenario this is the foundation of what

we want should

understand the quality of your of your

relationships determines the quality of

your

life if your relationships are bad life

sucketh if you don't look forward to

going home because of the people you

have to do home with that's a problem

yeah they shouldn't drain you they

should fill you back up again it should

be a place where I'm stronger nobody

invites drama to go on vacation with

them no one's just looking for a friend

group to hang out with where everyone's

going to be fighting this going to be

fun no that's called that's called a a

reality program that that's not you sit

and you watch that you don't get

involved in that that so so so watch

this the quality of your relationships

determines the quality of your life well

if the quality of your relationships is

determined by the quality of your

communication then that means the

quality of your communication determines

the quality of your life that's right

how well I do it communicating my heart

my thoughts my feelings insecurities

fears

dreams how well I I do that determines

the quality the value when the

insecurity is gone and you can open up

and share freely about what you're

afraid of what you love what you hope to

see I can share my dreams with my wife

because she's not going to go oh my God

Scott that's ridiculous

I I'll I'll do that once or twice and if

she keeps rainning on my dreams she'll

never hear another one for the rest of

my life right you shut them down I will

keep them I'll find somebody else to

share my dreams with and so we have to

make sure that communication not just

what I'm sharing but what I'm able to

receive setting the atmosphere where

does this come from God right is a

communicator yes sir his word he's

always wanted to communicate and speak

to our hearts guide and Lead lead and

direct us holy spirit alive in us as

Believers is always prodding and leading

us forward so the Bible is simply a book

of communication and when we see how God

communicates with those that he loves

truth in love then we have to find some

keys from this that we can also

communicate truth in love so that we can

build towards an ultimate goal and we

are created in His image so you and I

are always communicating something you

may not open your mouth but we are

always communicating so because we are

always communicating that's why I think

it's so important that that

communication that we're giving out is

excellent that is good that is quality

and and and so that that word quality is

really important so we're talking a lot

of quality quality communication quality

relationships what does quality

mean well let's go to the Bible Proverbs

Proverbs 18 · chapter mention

chapter 18 Proverbs 18: 19-2 one uh look

at this here here here's what it says an

offended friend is harder to win back

than a fortified City read this

arguments separate friends like a gated

lock with bars wise words satisfy like a

good

meal the right words bring

satisfaction the tongue can bring life

or death those who love to talk will

reap the concept anybody know somebody

likes to talk a lot and you're yeah yeah

okay look the Bible here is not is not

slamming on people who talk a lot so if

you talk a lot good for you it's okay no

problem but what the word is saying is

whatever you say there'll be

consequences right you and I are

producing results there's going to be a

fruit it's going to have a kickback I

can't just say anything I want to to my

wife how I feel and just let her have it

it will produce some consequences te

sure will Caleb sure will Caleb and Liz

can I come over and spend the night cuz

it's kind of cold in my house right now

like that's that's not good that's not

good there's consequence and to the good

you can pour life and strengthen to

other people and when you are a Giver of

Life you receive life

back it really is that that life and

death and the power of the tongue so so

the Bible from from the jump is already

talking about communication quality

has to do with the the the value the

worth of my investment into other people

how much am I really caring about them

am I talking to just to get what I need

out of them am I talking to just stay

close or am I truly investing in these

in these people that God has put into my

life I am convinced that a lot of times

when and and you you and I have seen

this in fact you and I have lived this I

know what it is to be in in conversation

with some somebody and before they

finish what they're saying I'm already

thinking of my

response yes and which means I stopped

listening to what they had to say

halfway through what they said and I

started to formulate my response we've

got to stop back up and

listen listen to me and when I say

listen feel my words don't just hear

them allow them to settle on your heart

feel the weight of what I'm saying so

that we're on the same page and so God

word speaks to this very very very

plainly uh married folk relationships in

general I think we can all relate with

this you ever gotten your sit yourself

in a situation that you had to dig your

way out

of it's just us honey it's just us we're

the problem we're the only ones that do

that anybody ever had to dig your way

out like you you knew you blew it and

man you

are anybody ever like you you you you

knew you shouldn't have said it holy

spirit was already there going don't say

this and you heard it but you ran right

through that barrier and said it anyway

anybody ever done

that all the

time some of you say that's a small

shovel compared to what I had to dig

with well I understand I understand

because we've all been through some

stuff and we've all tried to dig our way

out again I had to buy a new one because

I broke my last one we we we look to try

to dig our way out and and and so we're

we're always we're going through stuff

and we're saying stuff and we can find

ourselves de but but but but I want you

to understand that we don't just have a

shovel for the bad times everybody in a

relationship has been given a

shovel you own one everybody

does and what you do with that sh

how you handle your communication and

your words are going to decide the

results of the situation you're dealing

with and facing and I want to take you s

are going to take you through three

different scenarios of how to use your

shovel to make sure you're getting the

right to make sure you're getting the

right stuff out of it let's let's let's

talk about this today real quick let's

let's go here can you dig it can you dig

it well well number one

the first thing that's really important

if you're going to have quality

relationships is you've got to bury the

past can you dig

it you got to bury the

past there's a lot of things we've been

through we've got some scenarios we got

some situations we got things we've said

things we've done we've got things in

our relationship that we've been through

we we've got all kinds of things that we

can ruminate on them we can dwell on

them we can keep talking about them but

but I just want to remind you what you

talk about will continue to live right

right if you want to forget the past

quit talking about it you want to forget

the past change the subject that's right

because there's no reason for your mind

to run on anything else other than

believe it or not you are one track

minded and we've got to make sure that

we're protecting those thoughts and we

have experienced that we have

experienced heard and relationships that

have exited our lives and it is really

easy even between us well I just you

it's just me and you talking and I get

that I get that we have to vent I get

that we have a person but there comes a

time that even with us we have to put a

boundary and say you know what we can't

talk about this anymore because the more

we talk about it we keep digging it up

and digging it up and it's forever

present in every in every aspect of our

life in a on a daily basis and we have

had conversations it's like you know

what I'm making myself accountable

because words are SE seeds every word is

a seed so when you put it out it's going

to give you either good fruit or bad

fruit is it going to give you life or

death so even with us we do it with each

other but also together in situations

that have hurt us we decide you know

what this is a boundary Let's Speak Life

you can dig up the past or you can bury

the past bury it you've got a shovel in

your hand I can pile stuff on it and

make it go away and harder to ever get

back to or I can start digging up the

past and then wonder why I got dead

stinking stuff laying all around me it's

one of the two the Bible says in

Ephesians chapter 4 verse 32 it says be

Ephesians 4:32

kind and compassionate to one another

forgiving each other I know it's the FW

but hold on forgiving each other just as

in Christ God forgave you would you

turnone tell him he forgave your sorry

self he forgave your sorry self we we we

got some forgiven to do ourselves not no

no I know we we're not crazy about this

forgiving burying the past what they

said what they did some of us have that

that memory man you know the day the

time the hour the second you know what

they were wearing the cologne or the

perfume that they had on you know I mean

like you've got it down you're a

forensic scientist when it comes to that

moment right there yeah it's you can

bring it up right now and we've got to

decide is that going to keep living

every week in this house right or we

going to start burying it with some

forgiveness and truly allow it to be the

past because it's not the past until

it's

gone we've got to get it out of the

present you see there's let me just kind

of hit a little sidebar here I think

it's let's let's run here on this point

there there's two levels of forgiveness

number

one do you forgive even if someone does

not ask for forgiveness forgiveness of

course you

do absolutely so hard it's it's tough if

you need to wait on an apology before

you actually forgive then what do you do

with the person who

died you've got unforgiveness towards

somebody or there was a fight or

something what do I do I've got to let

some things go right I've got to let

some things go what do you do with a

coworker who moved on changed States but

there was that thing that tension was

still there a former employer there

there's all kinds of scenarios you may

never get an I'm sorry from that ex

right but you've got to let him go

someone shout let him go let him go you

let him go because of what it's costing

you I forgive I extend that forgiveness

so without the apology without the the

repentance do I forgive of course you do

what about with the repentance somebody

repents to me someone asks a spouse a

friend please forgive me for this do I

say yes and I of course the answer with

that one again is yes I've got to accept

it and I have to release him or her and

let that truly be in the past why

because it's costing you your peace

right and if it costs your peace it's

too expensive that's right that's right

it's keeping you from your future you

can't even laugh deep today right

because you're still so anxious and torn

up and there's that thing you got that

bad taste in your mouth it's the

aftertaste in life that you just can't

get out no matter what you do the best

vacation won't take it away we've got to

make sure that we are actually forgiving

but here's the deal there's a difference

between an apology and repentance talk

about it and I need you to get this let

me just kind of just just run this

through we came back in fact the

difference between an apology and

repentance decides if the person is

going to be a part of your future or not

right and here's how you can qualify

these are some things to give you a

little bit of perspective an apology is

focused on the person wanting to stay

connected to

you repentance is the person focused on

wanting to heal the damage they caused

say it one more time zip

apologies an

apology is when someone is focused on

staying close to you I don't want to

lose the relationship it's too good

because you buy dinner like I I I I want

I want to be I just oh I'm sorry I'm

sorry I'm sorry and and they want to

stay close they just want to continue

let's get over the bump and let's just

continue the way things have been that's

an apology repentance is when the person

is focused on healing the damage that

they caused in your life and those are

two different things maybe here's

another one an

apology an apology is immediate an

immediate expression of

regret man I'm sorry that that didn't

need to happen

repentance is

remorse over the damage that's expressed

over

time an apology is immediate can we just

get on with it you don't understand can

we move on then you're not

repenting because repentance is not just

what you say repentance is what you live

out repentance is that you back you can

apologize today but if you do the same

thing next week and the same thing the

next week and the same thing the next

week all you're doing is apologize oling

you're not repenting can I remind you

what the word repentance means means to

change your ways change direction when I

repented and gave my heart to God I

didn't say Lord come into my heart

forgive me and keep living the same way

I was

living when I invited him into my life

and said Lord forgive me I changed my

ways because now I'm following him I'm

no longer following me that is

repentance according to the Bible and in

your life and my life so digging up the

past all it does is reopen open wounds

and it prevents healing you and I got to

make sure that we're using our shovels

well that we're not just causing more

pain day in and day out but we're

actually going somewhere and we're

moving forward we're not keeping

scorecards or holding on to revenge and

I think it's important because it gives

us the freedom to forgive because you

that way nobody is holding on you're not

in bondage to anyone No One controls

your destiny but God no one should have

that much power and the only reason that

would have that power is if we surrender

it to them them that's the only way not

even the enemy can have power over you

we will have to surrender it so when

when somebody apologizes when somebody

repents either way we will forgive

because it's what we choose to do

because what we want for our future now

Pastor Scott said that will determine

the future relationship I can forgive

you that doesn't mean we're back to the

way it was because the way it was was

not working might have been working for

you but it was not working very well for

me so I'm not going to hold grudges I'm

not going to talk about you because I'm

going to bury the past so I can't keep

digging it up but I'm going to move on

and I'm going to love you from afar in

the love of Christ that means I don't I

need

Christ and I'm going to love you through

his love on my

own

Deuces and that's okay y'all pray for

your boy all right you see what I'm yeah

but honey you repent you repent it's

watch this boundaries are not ungodly

right right it's okay to look at someone

and say never again I love you God bless

you good go do that somewhere else never

again here yes sir and so set those the

Bible says in Isaiah 43 it says this in

fact read this first line with me ready

go forget the former things do not dwell

on the past see I'm doing a new thing

now it Springs up do you not perceive it

I'm making a way in the wilderness and

streams in the Wasteland watch this

here's what I want you to know digging

up your past blocked your vision to the

Future you'll never see your future as

long as you're looking in your past you

keep talking about back in the day you

keep talking about how it used to be you

keep talking about it should have been

this well back we used to never do and

you keep that going you'll never catch a

vision for your future the Bible says

forget the former things don't dwell on

them I'm doing something new can't you

see it in other words if you keep

looking back and you stay focused on

what was you'll never see what can be

right ladies and gentlemen your future

is way too valuable to live in a place

of unrepentance anger Revenge let it go

turn someone tell them let it go let it

go let it go let it go let it go so y so

so this week as you go by this afternoon

start thinking what thing of the past do

I keep digging up what is it that is

robbing me from going forward and then

just I mean you don't have to come up

with everything think of one thing

change that change that stop digging

that and see what happens in the next

seven

days number one you got to bury the past

number two here's how you use your

shovel because everybody's got one

everybody's got one you've got to build

the

present build the present when I was

growing up my dad was a a foreman uh a

contractor he he ran he ran uh building

homes and then was actually built the

home that we lived in and built the

church that he was pastoring all at the

same time and as a kid I would go out on

non-school days and I would work with my

dad I had my little tool apron that I

would tie my I would tie tie on and and

get out there and run with him and he

had me digging ditches for the the

founders the the the the the the the

foundation the Footers for the house and

and for the church and and we we did a

lot of digging that was a part of what

we did I had to I had to mix concrete by

hand child labor back in the day uh but

but Mixing concrete and I'm using the

shovel and had the big mud box and I I

had it down how much cement and sand and

water I had it down but it it took my

shovel to do that in order to build

something right now and here's what I

want you to understand not only does

your shovel have the ability to bury the

past your shovel has the ability to

build the present and it's going to take

shovel FS regularly pouring onto those

relationships in order for let them stay

healthy and going in the right direction

shovel fulls of Joy shovel fulls of

laughter shovel fulls of encouragement

shovel fulls of I'm here I got your back

bro shovel fulls of a little text

message that just just shoots out just

because I made two calls to some friends

of mine yesterday left them voicemail I

love I love the little application where

you can pull it up to leave M text and

just hit the little thing where you

don't have to talk to anybody

and you just record your voice and you

send them a voicemail right you're just

that way that because if you call or

text they might answer and I don't want

to talk to anybody but I just want to

say I love you and I'm thinking about

you y'all know what I'm talking about I

ain't got time to talk but I just want

to shoot it it's easier than texting

right so that that's but but we we've

got to shoot shovel fulls we got to put

shovel fulls on top of our marriage on

top of our children on top of co-workers

don't just assume that they know that

you care or that you love look him in

the face tell them Yo you're doing good

I love you what can I do anything for

you lean in use your shovel to build the

present yes because as we continue to

pour in if you noticed I mean I never

did

construction I know it's hard to believe

that I didn't but I've seen piles of

dirt that somebody with a

shovel you know shoveled in there and he

looks really

mushy and I have never done it but I've

seen kids run and like jump on there and

it is mushy it's mushy it's mushy it's

cushiony yes it I can't do it cuz then

I'll be dirty and I can't do that

however what what I the way I see it is

the more you build the more you shovel

in is building a buffer and when you

build a buffer I know we do it with us I

do it with my kids I'm really trying to

do it with their staff it builds a bu

offer so then when something comes up

because we're human because we all have

funky days when something comes up and

we're sideways on the same day and

there's a little bit of friction it's

okay because there's so much buffer

between you and I we just bounce We Just

Bounce and everything is okay everything

is not a big State of the Union Address

doesn't require because there's so much

cushion between us because we've built

and we buil and we've poured in and

poured in well we we we've insulated and

cushion those relationships so we don't

have raw nerves that are just out there

exactly Ephesians 4: 29 says this do not

use harmful words but only helpful

words the kind that build up and provide

what is needed so that what you say will

do good to those who hear you in other

words watch your

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mouth like deal with that

David prayed this way in the psalm Lord

put a guard at my

mouth because I might say something that

I shouldn't say today you do understand

you should not say everything you think

right everyone understands that that

might not go well I I promise you right

now we we've got to set guards at our

mouth our job if we're going to build

the present watch this everyone's job

under the sound of my voice everybody

you want what's your purpose in life

you're to be a

lifegiver right you're to produce life

in people they should smile when you

show up they're

here that Cindy does that every time I

walk in the

house it it it's it's wonderful it's

precious it's

sweet I'm working on it I'm working on

it but we're to be lifegiver a lifegiver

at work a lifegiver with your kids make

your kids laugh not always correcting

catch them doing the right things pour

life into them celebrate Joy I'm not

saying that we we we live life

we certainly speak truth as well we we

we don't hold that back but man when

you're giving life life life life when

we when there's an area that needs to be

corrected or redirected or realigned we

can do that as cind he said because

we've built enough equity into the

relationship that it's not always hard

but it's the laughter and the joy that

allows us to talk in these situations we

need this in our business we need this

with our friendships we need us in our

families we certainly need it in our

marriages we've got to keep using our

shovel fulls of joy and hope and

encouragement and love and communication

to pile that on so no one ever questions

how you feel about them they feel that

love they feel that support they feel

that strength it matters and we have to

be intentional about it because I don't

know about you but the flesh this human

Beast that we are you don't even have to

think to say the wrong thing it's like

breathing you don't even know you're

doing it it just happens it's like a

gift that I have I don't know about you

but I know I have it and but to to speak

life and to build you have to be

intentional it's not going to happen by

accident it's not going to happen

because you're thinking you got to put

action you have to be intentional you

have to wake up and say how you got to

get a plan how am I I going to be a

blessing today to Scott to my

personality it doesn't come natural to

me I am a person that I my job is to go

and look what is wrong and point it out

so we can bring it into order that is my

that is what makes me valuable in the

team however I have to be intentional to

walk in a room and intentionally see

what is working and call it out with the

same energy and same intention that I do

the job that I need to continue to do

but I have to balance myself that is my

responsibility and we need to do it

because we want to build and if you want

different relationships and it's not

working out we got to do something

different try it money back guaranteed

by

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Scott I I trust your shovel

honey you don't gravitate towards every

voice

if you think about right

now who do you want to hang with you're

going to think immediately of somebody

who is an encourager someone who makes

you laugh someone who is man it's good

to be around him I'm just I can drop my

guard yeah they're not after anything

that I have I'm not competing with them

that's that's my guy that's my girl

hopefully that's what your marriage

feels like yeah if if you're engaged and

you don't feel that run for run today

get it right it matters so number one

bury the past number two build the

present number three use your shovel to

surprising shocking prep for the future

yes prepare for the future what do I

mean by that when when I was when I was

growing up you you've heard me talk a

lot about my uncle's Farm well in the

back of our house not just at my uncle's

Farm Dad decided he wanted to put in a

garden and so um in order for him to

have a garden he sent his child out

child labor and had me do some of the

clearing of the and so I had the shovel

digging up rocks and moving things out

of the way for this little patch that we

could plant all of our veggies in other

words I used my shovel to prep for the

things that were going to come in the

future you and I when we use our shovels

right that we all have in the

relationships around us it's not just

burying the past and it's not just

building the present but we're also able

to help people look into the future and

Dream Out Loud

yes I I have I have discovered it's a

very rare gift when you find a friend

who you can dream with yes someone who

can like tell you stuff that 99 out of

100 will look at you go oh that's never

going to work and they may be

right but I don't need to hear

that I need someone who go wow how cool

would that be if that happened man what

if we tried this what about if you have

have you you ever looked at this have

you ever read that man I talked to

somebody who's doing that very thing how

about somebody who helps to push your

dream forward not just throw water on it

and douse it and kill it immediately

it's critical that we are using our

shovel fulls to help build people's

future help them to see clearer going

forward bring the dreams alive why

because it's in the dream that someone

finds purpose it's in the dream that

someone finds their creativity their Joy

a new reason to wake up in the morning

not just a job but now I'm working on

career those those become major changes

in our mind and our heart but we have to

be people number one that pours into

other people's dreams and number two

have those people in our life that

Waters and adds fuel to our dreams as

well Dream Out Loud do get somebody that

you can do with somebody that you that

that you can that that that you are the

person that they can dream with we've

got to use our shovels to build for the

future and it is important important

because it is not our job to protect

people and sometimes we don't let people

dream because we are looking at all the

things that may or may not work listen

God is their Source the same way that

he's your Source the same way that God

orders your steps and open and closes

doors for you God will open and close

doors for them let them dream because in

that in that dreaming they may think

they're going into this door but that

door is just a hallway and it's going to

take them to all doors they cannot even

see they have never been exposed to and

your encouragement is going to take them

that way you it is not our job to police

the dreams it is our job to encourage

now speak truth if somebody can't sing

don't encourage them to go on The Voice

or American Idol or any of those you

know don't lie to people platform at

free life CH yeah don't lie don't lie to

people but encourage other people be

that person that when somebody needs to

celebrate that you you are the first

spener that comes to mind be that person

yeah that

that's the value of that in other words

help

somebody help somebody clear the path

yes towards their desired future the

Bible says this in 1 Thessalonians

1 Thessalonians 5:11

5:11 encourage and build one another up

just as you're already doing oh I I like

this one Proverbs chap 11

11:25 help others and you will be helped

that part so good you need some help

stop asking everyone to help you and

start helping others and when you start

pouring into others when I use my shovel

to build others they'll pull their

shovel out to help me and ladies and

gentlemen their shovel might be bigger

than

yours you just never know what someone

can help do in your life would you

please stand to your feet

you still may need to use your shovel to

dig yourself out of a hole you put

yourself in I get that been there done

that but ladies and gentlemen we can we

can use these these giftings these

abilities that God has given all of

us to end a past yeah let it go yeah let

it

go drop the score

card if the person that caused you pain

and hurt is

repentant and they're showing you I'm

sorry I'm living this the best I can to

express that believe them and move

forward use the shovel to bury the past

use the shovel to build the present pour

life into people strengthen them

encourage them love them laugh with them

and number three use that shovel to prep

the way for the future yeah dream with

them encourage pour ideas into them

bring it to life you never know what God

will do with that and you and I get the

opportunity the privilege of being a

part of what God's doing in their life

you're made to be a lifegiver that's

what your shoveled is all about yeah if

you use it well it will come back and

feed you if it use it

wrong tragic there's consequences yes

there's a fruit to everything we do and

if you don't like the fruit that's on

the table then maybe we need to change

how we're using the shovel yeah yeah I

want to pray I want to pray today for

relationships in general today there

some of you in this room that are

hurting there's some marriages that are

in difficult difficult situations right

now I get it I get it marriage is tough

marriage takes work marriage takes Jesus

he does marriage takes Jesus sure does

takes a humble heart lot of repenting

lot of repenting I I made reservations

at Domino's for Valentine's Day and she

was so upset like what I want a Palace

Pizza you want a pal yeah I'm okay I'm

kidding let's pray father thank you for

the ability that we have to call on you

in our relationships and know that

you're interested you're there your word

continues to push us together draw us

together as a body as a family as as a

unit two becoming one when it comes to

marriage and God in order for that to

happen there's a lot of humility Pride

Must Die selfishness must go

selflessness must come serving each

other loving each other considering

others God this is the call of your word

even to consider others Beyond and

before oursel I pray God that you would

heal situations in this room and just

simple conversations that we would have

on two chairs on a Sunday morning that

would just open some hearts and

conversation to maybe God you're doing

something in our home start a new

conversation get some words of healing

and joy and laughter and encouragement

flowing let the dreams begin to break

out again Lord let us begin to plan

towards the future bury a past build a

present structure and build towards

dream towards the future God let that be

a part of who we are because we

understand that that that we sow we will

reap so today God I pray for every

person every relationship in this room

God heal parent child relationships yes

heal friendships in this room heal

marriages God would you just do

something in all of our lives and remind

us that we live live for your pleasure

and that if we'll do things your way

we'll get your results thank you for

this we bless you for it all in Jesus

name amen amen we hope you enjoyed this

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