Ecstatically Married. Husbanding

Genesis chapter 2. We did.

Genesis 2 · chapter mention

What is a man? What is a woman?

What is marriage? I had told you that today was

going to be, what is a husband? But like that title was too

restrictive. So I changed today's title to

husbanding. I don't know if that's a word

but now it is husbanding. Gave myself a broad variety of

areas. I could go with it that way.

Genesis chapter 2 verses 18 through 25.

Genesis 2:18–25

Then the Lord God said it's not good that the man should be

alone. I will make him a helper fit for

him. Now, out of the ground, the Lord

God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the

heavens and brought them to the man, to see what he would call

them. And whatever the man called

every living creature. That was its name.

The man gave names to all the livestock and all the birds of

the heavens and every beast of the field.

But for Adam, there was not found a helper fit for him.

So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man and

while he slept Left. He took one of his ribs and

closed up its place with flesh and the rib that the Lord God

had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to

the man. Then the man said this at last

is bone of my bones and Flesh of My Flesh.

She shall be called woman because she was taken out of,

man, therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and

shall hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh and

the man and his wife were Both naked and they were not ashamed.

Heavenly Father, we thank you for your word and for all the

scriptures will look at today. They guide us that teach us in

the direct us to show us what a husband looks like.

A husband who has a heart for God.

A husband who has a heart for his wife, a husband who loves

himself as you command, he showed his well but a husband

who glorifies your name. God, bring us that Revelation

like we prayed and asked for earlier There's no point in

going here without your presence.

So, we commit to obedience before the word is even

preached. We commit to obedience to the

word of God, because we know your ways are best.

We want what you want for the reasons that you want to glorify

your name in us, in our lives, and our marriages, in our

households, in our church, in our community.

We thank you in Jesus name. Amen.

As a man goes. So goes the household as the

household goes. So goes the church as the church

goes. So goes to Ready.

And that brings us. I believe to our present

Insanity in the West. Where did it start?

It started with a man as a man goes.

So goes the household For Better or Worse.

We want to make sure it's for better and has not always been

the case in my marriage. So one of the things that

happens when you teach on this subject, man, we have a very

sensitive filter for respect and for thority that's part of God's

good design for us. That's not a flaw in you

brother, it's not a mistake and yet there's a place like I said

earlier to bring these things under submission, and the place

to bring everything under submission is to the Lord Jesus

Christ. East every Authority is under

Authority as a Man. I'm The Authority in my

household. Absolutely, but I'm an authority

who is under and Authority. The Supreme Court has great

Authority, and yet, they are under the authority of the Lord,

Jesus Christ. Well, they don't act like it

sometimes, I agree. And yet they should, it's sinful

wickedness. When anyone violates the

standards of the Lord Jesus Christ, whether it's in the

government, whether it's in a household or whether it's in the

church, a pastor has Authority in the church and yet he has

Authority. Who is under another Authority?

That's what brings someone who is.

Who's under that Pastor, who's under that husband, who is under

that government, it brings them Comfort.

It brings him security to know. You are under another Authority.

You're not Supreme in yourself. You're not sovereign, husbands

are not sovereign in themselves. Pastors are not sovereign on

their own governments are not sovereign where the government,

okay? And I'll give you the proper

Authority. I'll pay taxes.

And you should punish wickedness and reward righteousness.

That's your jurisdiction. According to the word of God.

Oh, I'm the husband. Okay, you have a limited

Authority. I'm the pastor agree, and you

have a limited Authority. There's a place there

jurisdiction, but to what end to serve and to serve and to obey

the purpose is in the will of the Lord, Jesus Christ.

That's it, that's it. Jesus said, I'm an authority

over all people in all places at all times and I'm going to

delegate my authority. All right?

Lord Jesus. How would you like to delegate

your Authority? I'll delegate my authority

through the civil, magistrate? What we call the government.

I'll do some authorities through that.

I'll delegate other authorities. With to the leadership and the

leadership of the church, I'll delegate some authorities for

that other responsibilities. And then I'll delegate other

authorities and responsibilities through husbands of and heads of

households and I delegate Authority.

That way, that's Jesus doing what Jesus wants to do, where he

wants to do it. So every no one ever gets to be

swelled up and go, you were placed in your position and you

could be removed from it by the Lord Jesus Christ.

So I say all that to say we have to we have to remember our

authorities legitimate and at the same time Arthur He's to

come under submission. This is a good moment for us as

husband's to not swell up and go.

Let's see what you got Preacher, Man.

Bro. This is not.

This is not you versus me. This is U and I together coming

under the authority of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Same team. You and me versus our flesh.

You and me versus the enemy. You and me versus The

Temptations that are common to husband's ladies.

They'll get their turn next week.

I assure you. So I'm an equal-opportunity

preacher. I will not just emphasize the

sins of men. I will also emphasize the sins

of women which The church often fails at Mother's Day.

Sermons are ladies. You're just the best you're just

the sweetest precious, most bestest thing, and then Father's

Day sermons are I'm so disappointed in you guys step it

up. Man up bro.

Come on, come on dude. Now to some degree, it's

appropriate to some degree and because there's a masculinity

and there's a femininity as me and we appreciate Challenge and

that's a that's a distinction that there's something to that.

But at the same time I think a lot of its cowardice to just

never never being willing to talk about the sins of women at

all. These Angelic creatures, who

have just somehow had to had to be yoked up to these, these be

Beasts of Burden called husband's.

That's not the picture that the scripture paints.

And that's not how I preach through this.

So, today, if it feels one-sided, well, it is.

And next week if it feels one-sided, well, it will be and

that's because we're focusing on husbands and wives, but that's

what we want. So let's make sure we have a

heart of humility. I want to be who I'm supposed to

be, and by the way, I'm not prepared to beat you up today.

I'm prepared to encourage you because I have good news.

Good news about what it looks like from the word of God, to be

a husband to be what God intends, and what God wants.

So we're humble we're prepared. We're saying Lord teach me, Lord

lead me, Lord guide me, I'm submitting to the Lord Jesus

Christ. So what do we see right away in

scripture? What do we see right away in

Genesis? We see God, the father right

away, Mary's man and woman. Like we said last week, he

didn't just create Adam and Eve and said, hey you to hang

around, we'll see what happens. Let's see where this thing goes.

That's not at all. What happened man and woman.

You're married. That was the instant intention

of the Lord, man, and woman marriage, man, and woman.

Ridge. That is the normative natural

order. That is the normative natural

design of the Lord. Why?

Well, because a man's natural design is to be a husband.

Remember what we said a man is a man is a protector, a provider,

and a leader. Well that Finds Its perfect

expression instantly in marriage, a protector and

provider and leader of what of who a protector and provider and

leader, Finds Its perfect expression right away as a

husband and father. So we see this as God's good

design for a man to not just be A solo but for a man it's not

good for a man to be so low. The Lord tells us but for a man

to marry a woman. So this is God's natural design

to vary from this or to be distinct from this or to not

marry that would be exceptional. That would be making an

exception and the scripture shows us that there's a time and

a place for that to be set apart for Christ is the time the

distinction to do that. To say I'm going to deliberately

not marry because I feel called to not marry.

I have the gift of This singleness, or as you could call

it, I'm not burning with passion.

I'm not burning with lust because if you were the

scripture, says, get married. The scripture says it's better

to marry than to burn. Don't burn with lust, don't burn

with passion, if I think I have the gift of singleness but I'm

also burning with passion. You don't have the gift of

singleness brother. You don't have the gift of

singleness sister, praise God, find someone to marry, give your

life to them in marriage, that's a good thing.

Nothing to be ashamed of its most natural thing in the world.

That's the normal standard. That's the normal design.

It would be exceptional to be like what Paul said about

himself. He's always survives like me.

You could devote more time to the lord.

Well, I feel you on that pole. All.

And at the same time, if everybody was like you we'd be

out of this place pretty quick. We wouldn't be multiplying

anymore. So that's an impulsive.

But this is me speaking, not the Lord.

So that was not the Holy Spirit giving a command, but we see an

imbalance happening. Now in the church we see

singleness being celebrated go. No you don't need to marry yet.

Live your life, do your thing? That's not normal.

That's super new to the world. That's super new to culture.

That's super new to society. It should not be rejoiced, it

should not be delighted just take forever.

Your thing, why what's the motive here?

Are you separating yourself unto the Lord?

Oh, by all means, but that will be flagrantly and Blitz

glaringly obvious. If someone's living that way

it'll be glaringly obvious, that that's the purpose of what

they're doing. If it's not glaringly obvious

that they're setting themselves apart for the Lord, then it's

glaringly obvious that there's something wrong.

Something is off. What are the details?

What we can't get in all the possibilities and motives, but

the point is, we know the design.

The, the healthy design is for a man and woman.

To give to one another. A man has a desire, and a woman

has a desire and these things are perfectly expressed in

marriage. A woman is made to be a help to

beautify to glorifying to give life.

So Womanhood Womanhood also Finds Its Best expression as a

wife. And as a mother, this is Pastor

obvious kind of stuff. Like it's right there, man,

woman right away, come into marriage.

This is a good thing. So when we come together in

marriage, there are a couple things that we must know

foundationally in this series were talking about being

ecstatic. A married.

You saying that sounds a little bit too idealistic idealistic.

God is an idealist, God is going to have his best, and he's going

to have his way. So that's what we're pursuing.

We're pursuing God's best because you can have it as well.

Your marriage can Thrive. You're going John Michael, I

love your enthusiasm, but you're just naive man.

You just haven't seen enough. You just don't know enough.

You don't know where we're at? I might not know where you're

at. But you'd be surprised how much

I probably know about you. You probably be surprised at how

much I know how to read and how much I know how to read people.

And particularly the people, I spend a lot of time with like I

do you and particularly, when what I do for a living is, I

Coachman and marriage and household things all the time.

So I'm very familiar with all the things that people think

that pastors don't know happen in households, all the things

that people think pastors are too naive to understand and

comprehend and I could never talk to him about that.

I assure you. I've been talked to about that

and I assure you I would love to help you through anything and

everything that you may be facing in any area of your life,

that would be my joy and pleasure.

It's what I was put on the earth to do is to be a blessing and a

gift to you in those ways. But when we come together in

marriage, as we're talking about the ideals and how good it can

be, I want to make much of marriage and at the same time it

is possible. It doesn't happen often but it

is possible to go too far. It is possible to make marriage

to a husband or wife, the ultimate of the ultimates.

And it's not, it's a picture of the ultimate.

So I don't mean to downplay marriage at all because I don't

think that needs to happen. I think that happens enough but

I do want to clarify what is it all about?

It's all about Jesus. That is the Sunday School answer

and it's the right answer. It's all about Jesus.

You belong to Jesus as a husband.

As a wife, but particularly husband's Jesus is your Lord and

Master, right? Right?

It's all about him. It's all for him.

You are not your own, his mission and his word is.

What you're pursuing, right? Right.

That's what we're doing here. Jesus said it this way, if

anyone comes to me and does not hate their wife, really, I've

got to hate my wife, specifically said anyone who

comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and

wife, and children, and brothers and sisters.

Yes, even his own life. If you don't hate all that you

cannot be my disciple. What is Jesus telling us to hate

all these people? Well, what he was doing here is

using hyperbole, he was making a point.

He was saying I'm going to make this exaggerated point.

He's going to say your love for me.

Should be so far greater than anything and everybody else.

Else. How do you know?

I thought we always just take what the word says, we take what

the whole word says and we see where we're commanded to love

our wives but Jesus is making a point.

He shocking the audience, they're going out like this guy.

All the crowds are starting to gather and Jesus knew how to fit

in a crowd, all the crowds start Gathering.

He's not going, how do we retain more people?

And we retain more people. We need better retention

policies, we need to do more things.

We need better coffee in the lobby.

That's not what he did. As more and more of thousands

and thousands came, he said, hey, hey, you don't hate

everybody else, you can't. Be my disciple know like this is

a hard saying he's like yeah I know.

I'm worth it though. And I don't know about that and

of course he brings in the Fuller picture.

The more time you spend with him, if you're humble enough to

stick with him to listen because he knows what he's worth.

So this is what Jesus says about himself and he knows he's the

ultimate, your husband or your wife their gifts from God, but

they are not God, marriage is not God, and our marriage is as

good. And as rich as they should be on

this Earth, they will finish when we leave this earth and

they will point to constantly the greater marriage where Jesus

gets his bride, the church and We love and live with him

forever. What else do we see?

What else? Do we know a husband and wife

their brother and sister in Christ?

You need her and she needs you to grow and to look more like

Christ to grow up into the maturity of Jesus.

What else do we see? What else is foundational?

Your love for your wife is meant to reflect the love that Christ

has for the church. So we're going to go to

Ephesians chapter 5. You were in Genesis you're going

Ephesians 5 · chapter mention

to turn way to the back of your Bible in Ephesians.

Ephesians 5 verse 25. Husbands love your wives as

Ephesians 5:25

Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her that he might

sanctify her. Having cleansed her by the

washing of water with the word so that he might present the

church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any

such thing that she might be holy and without blemish in the

same way husband's should love their wives.

As their own bodies, he who loves his wife, loves himself

for No one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and

cherishes it just as Christ does the church because we are

members of his body. Therefore, Jesus quoting Genesis

now, therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold

fast to his wife or Paul quoting Genesis Jesus quoted as well.

But here, this is Paul hold fast to his wife and the two shall

become one flesh. This mystery is profound and I'm

saying that it refers to Christ in the church.

However, Let each one of you love his wife as himself.

And let the wife see that she respects her husband.

So, what does a husband for? What does a husband do?

A husband is made to cover and a husband is made to protect Not

not different from his role as a man.

We defined a man as a protector, provider in leader.

What's a husband for it? Well, a husband is made to cover

a husband, is made to protect and in Ephesians 5:25, we see

Ephesians 5:25

that Jesus gave himself up, that's what a husband does.

We said that masculinity has the heart of service.

Masculinity is pointed towards someone else, masculinity points

itself elsewhere to say, I'm going to use this masculinity.

I'm not going to use femininity. I'm going to use this

masculinity but I'm going to put it in service of others.

We do this as men. We know how to protect we take

pride in that as we should. We know that we're supposed to

walk on the road side, if you're walking on the sidewalk, we know

to do that kind of thing, I'm putting myself in front of the

danger between her. I stand between my wife, in the

world, I stand between my wife and the bad guy and that's good.

But we're supposed to stand between our wife and every

threat, no matter what. It may look like foreign and

domestic spiritual natural and emotional.

This is where we start to level up as a husband, this is where

it gets exciting. You know, the software that we

have on our phones, it always having to put out the new

version, this is what a husband should be doing as well.

This is what a wife should be doing as well as what a Believer

should be doing as well. I'm born again and yet, I'm

continuing to grow and continuing to be more

Sanctified. I'm continuing to be more

mature. So husband 1.0 should look

different from husband 2.0. And I want to continue to

release new versions ago. I've got something else.

I can grow in husband. 1.0 says I made the money.

I provided for these people and I made sure nothing bad

happened. That's good stuff.

That's good. Godly and right.

And yet thankfully there's a lot more and the way the Lord does

this is whenever we think we get to level we're getting close to

level 10. The Lord shows you.

It goes to 100 and you think I'm starting to get to 100.

Lord says, hey, it actually goes to a thousand.

This is good news. It's not a discouragement.

It's not a devastating thing. You get to see more fruit.

Why would I want to keep putting in more work brother because the

fruit gets ridiculous. The fruit Gets really, really

good. What kind of fruit are you

talking about? If you can think about it then?

Yes, that's the kind of fruit I'm talking about it does.

There's nothing, there's nothing that the Lord doesn't give to

the pleasures of marriage, everything that the Lord is

intended for marriage. He wants Christians to have

Christian should have the best marriages.

Christian should enjoy God's very best in household, and as a

husband continues to give himself in these ways and to

find other ways to level up, not just, I did the minimums.

Well, those were important. Praise God for it.

Thank you, keep up the great work, man of God and yet, keep

up the great work. There's other levels, there's

other ways to grow and protect. So, we want to cover our wives,

not just physically, but we want to cover our wives emotionally.

We want to cover a wives spiritually, as well.

Not being like, Adam, not being like, Adams, son, Cain, Adam

saying, It's this woman that you gave me being passive standing

by letting Eve experience the devastation of sin, letting Eve

experience interaction with the Enemy and Adams, I don't know

what he was telling himself. I don't know why he was just

standing there and then Cain having the same attitude of his

father, killing his brother in the Lord saying, where's your

brother? And I My Brother's Keeper, it's

not my, not my circus, not my monkeys, Constantly stepping

back. This is the passive man.

This is regression. This is sinful and this is the

same Temptation that we have. I did my minimums give me a

break. I did my minimums leave me alone

instead of I want to build more and more.

I want to see God's best. I want to see more fruit.

The harder you work in your garden.

The better. The fruit is the the the

sweeter, the strawberries become and the bigger the Harvest.

So this is not a fruitless work, this is not just an endless

labor, you're not sister. - just pushing the rock uphill

endlessly, it rolls back down. Well, what do I do now?

Push it back up the hill. You're not just digging a hole

for no reason and filling it back in every single day.

You're getting to enjoy the fruit.

This is what Jesus does with the church.

Why does Jesus do it? Because he wants to present a

bride to himself. I thought he just did it because

he loves me so much. He does love you so much.

And he wants to glorify his name, and he wants what he

wants, and he wants to present a bride to himself to bring him

glory. God loves us.

And God is also all about God's glory.

It's not a wrong thing to want to want to enjoy Treasures to

want to enjoy Pleasures. We got to store them up in the

right place. Jesus tells us and at the same

time, we want to cultivate our wives.

For, what are you doing that? Because you love your wife.

Are you doing that? Because you love yourself.

Well, if he has made it plain that we should love both.

Love your wife. As you love yourself, the Bible

takes it for granted that a husband loves himself.

That's a normal thing. It's not a wrong thing and yet

we're to love both for the same reason.

That David wanted to kill Goliath.

What did he want to do it for all the reward?

Or did he want to do it? Because the Goliath was defying.

God both he want to do it because this giant is defying

God and he found out. Whoa whoa whoa you get the

King's Daughter. You get all this money, you get

all this land, what he asks, like three or four different

times, like what do you get? I was already going to kill this

dude, but you get what? And they're like.

Yeah, you get all this other sign me up.

Like, I'll go after this guy, this sounds great, as a husband.

We do the same thing. I want the good fruit.

I want to see my wife blessed. I want to see her thriving.

Why? Because I also enjoy that, I

enjoy my wife at rest. I enjoy my wife thriving, I

enjoy my wife, when she's at her best In First Peter, turn their

turn to First Peter, you're going to turn to your right

again. After James first Peter 3.

He's giving household codes as they would call it.

We're looking at verse 7 first Peter 3:7.

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise Husbands live with your wives in an understanding way

showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are

heirs with you of the grace of life.

So that your prayers may not be hindered.

I like how the Lord gives the command and then he has a threat

on the end of it. It's not to be taken lightly.

It's kind of funny and at the same time, it's dead serious.

Live with your wives, in an understanding way understanding

what? Well, one of the biggest errors

that I see husband's making and a lot of the work that I do,

they don't live with their wives in an understanding way,

understanding that she is a woman, understanding that a

woman in a manner different like we were talking about, as we

Define masculinity and femininity and just were not

interchangeable gender-neutral humans.

We know that at the social level, but in marriage, we often

times still functional. Behave like we are

interchangeable functionally. We act as though our wife should

act like a dude, but your wife is not a bro.

Your wife is not a dude. You didn't want to marry a man.

You wanted to marry a woman, so do not masculinize her.

How do I masculinize my wife with your intensity with your

logic with your argumentation? Don't conquer her with your

dominance, your dominance your strength, all these things are

strengths, but all these things are very masculine and they need

to be applied in masculine settings, you and me on the back

deck, bro, we can Spar, we can go back and forth.

We can argue, we can tease, there's all kinds of things that

we can do and it's fine but often times a wife is going to

be crushed. Oftentimes a wife is going to be

hardened by these things. They the the modern man looks to

his wife and says toughen up and this is Devastating.

This is a terrible thing to say, to a woman, toughen up, I was

shit. Why should she have to toughen

up? She has a covering right about.

She has a protector. Why does she have to be so tough

and so hard? We want her softer.

Actually, we want her enjoying the feminine.

Understanding what understanding that she should be enjoying her

femininity rather than adapting herself and becoming more

masculine. A lot of times, we've

masculinized our wives and then we blamed our wives for being

masculine. She's bossy.

She's nagging. She's She's hard-charging.

She's so headstrong. Well, she learned from the best.

She got, she got life on life, lessons day after day.

Where you're constantly showing her?

What does it look like to be intense?

Well, what do you mean by that? What do you mean by that,

painting her into a corner with logic?

A lot of men are good at this stuff.

A lot of men are really strong at thinking clearly I think so,

clearly, and logically, brother, that's a strength.

That's a gift. And it's nothing to repent of.

And yet, we don't want to intimidate our wives with

dominance. I've worked with a lot of guys

in the work that I do and it First, I couldn't sniff it out.

I didn't recognize that they were weak on compassion because

I saw that they love their wives.

That was obvious. They love their wives just like

you do just like I do but as I spent more time coaching them,

as I spent more time hearing about the back and forth, I

started realizing like bro you need to chill out.

It was just the simple thing. I like bro chill out is the

thing II needed to tell them and the like oh and also well I

didn't realize I know you didn't realize you're just too intense

man. When you walk The room dude,

your wife to her shoulders drop and she at rest or when you walk

into the room is your wife, more tense?

Because you're there. Man, this is kind of exposing I

feel you on that bro. But the good news is all this is

subject to change. This is not to humiliate and

shame and go. Yeah.

Yeah that's not my point. My point is if you see any of

that bad for recognize that you're the man, you're the man

who can change this thing. We said we're the husband where

the captain of the ship for better or worse.

Well, let's make sure it's for better.

So if you're seeing any of the bad fruit that I reference don't

be embarrassed or ashamed, by it.

Don't feel like she's going to point that out, brother.

I already pointed out. Okay, it's out.

It's pointed. It's okay, as long as you

repent. So yes, is my ego wounded by

some of the stuff of course, and yet, get over it.

Welcome to the crucifixion of the flesh.

This is what you signed up for, right?

Oh, I didn't know it was actually gonna.

Yeah, it's actually, it actually hurts.

I want to Christianity. They didn't they didn't cost me

anything. It doesn't exist.

There is no version. There isn't one.

If you have a Christianity that didn't cost you anything, you

don't have Christianity and you're not a Believer.

Well, that's hard. No, it's not.

It that's love as well. Just like Jesus said.

This is so I got nothing, but good news.

I want you to have good fruit. I want you to have the best

fruit. So, living with your wife, in an

understanding way. What else does this mean?

What else do I need to understand about my wife,

understand that she needs to process her emotions with you.

This is not a fall, this is not a fault.

This is a feature. This is a good thing.

That is part of every woman. Not my wife, brother sister,

whom some of you women. You like not me my sister.

If that's you if you would say not me.

I don't like to process my emotions.

I didn't say you don't like to. I said that you need to and many

women have been masculinized by Culture by hardship by trauma,

but a loving husband can help to soften his wife.

Again, give her a place of safety where she can actually

Express her emotions in a safe and vulnerable way.

And her husband that can then come in with his loving

leadership to bless and to nurture her through those

things. I don't know how to do that.

Well, join the club, bro. It's not the easiest thing in

the world, but there is a path forward.

But it starts by getting her to share vulnerably baby.

What are you feeling? Why?

I feel like you're a jerk with a?

No, that's that's not a feeling that's an accusation.

I'm asking for a literal emotion.

In a motion, like, sad, happy abandoned discouraged,

overwhelmed. I'm asking, I don't want to

share that. That's too vulnerable.

Welcome to submission. My sister.

Welcome. Welcome to the thing that's

difficult for you. Well, what if he doesn't do

right with it? Welcome to submission.

What if he doesn't honor it yet, that's scary.

That's scary. Isn't it?

All the wives are gone. I'm scared if I do that, then he

won't write. So that's why we're going to

talk about that next week. But what we're talking about is

and that's why we're going to end the whole series with the

log. In your own eye.

So I'll be saying to everybody, hey, focus on you.

This is the best path forward husband's, you have incredible

influence to change everything. Wives you have incredible

influence to change everything. Look in the mirror and this is

where you can enjoy God's best understand that your wife wants

and needs. So she might not want, but your

wife needs to process her emotions with you her head

rather than being told her Emotions.

Don't Count. I didn't know how to handle this

woman's emotions for a long time.

I thought, I just need to make her more like me.

I just need to make her harder like bait.

That doesn't make any sense. You shouldn't feel that way.

Oh, Tada, I fixed it. I told her, she shouldn't feel

that feeling problem solved. Way to go hero, husband to the

year. It's all.

I knew. I didn't understand.

Like she's flawed, she's so feely.

I don't know why. She's like this.

Well, you married a woman John, Michael.

Did you intend to do that? Well yeah but I just wanted the

other woman parts. No, no.

You want that? You want the whole woman part?

Because it will bless you. It's a beautiful thing.

It will require more of you. It will require you.

John, Michael do to stop being a boy.

It will require you John Michael to stop being so selfish, which

again, welcome to the point. John, Michael to actually know

how to love your wife as Christ loves the church.

He's helping us mature. No doubt he's helping us grow.

No Doubt. but he's also gentle, he's tender the bruise, the

bruised Reed, he will not break the smoldering Wick, he will not

put it out, he's gentle, husband is gentle with his wife.

Now, this isn't the same thing as saying, that all of your

wife's emotions, always serve her.

Well, that would be the Other Extreme that, when we're not

affirming, every single emotion is totally valid.

So, that's not the same thing. So when I'm saying to ask your

wife to share her emotions with you, baby, what's the emotion

while? I feel like everything's falling

apart, we still didn't get an emotion yet.

We actually want an emotion. I feel scared now, we're getting

somewhere. Now I can come in with my

leadership but my leadership should not be.

Don't feel scared. My leadership needs to look more

like, alright? I know Natalie's afraid, what

are you gonna do about that? How can I help with that?

Maybe I'll minister to her through the word.

Maybe I'll walk out the details of the scenario a little bit.

Hey baby, I know you're afraid. Let me encourage you with

something or I'm sorry, you're afraid.

Let's pray. Instead of don't feel that way.

That's dumb. I'm not afraid.

You shouldn't be afraid. Well, there might be a way to

communicate baby. I'm not scared at all.

That my build a little bit of confidence.

Intense, but it's not the whole fix.

So understand that at the same time every single emotion, she

feels I don't become the servant to every emotion.

My wife feels but I but I do serve my wife with my leadership

and with my head ship to make sure I'm thinking about this

one, what's best. And what's next, what she

feeling, what she experiencing, she's worried, she's afraid,

she's worried about finances. Okay, well then now I can I can

provide some leadership, I can provide some Direction, but that

that here's the good thing about this lady's.

Just so you know that actually creates in us the desire to

serve better. You share vulnerably versus when

you tell us what to do when you say you need to do this with the

money. Hmm I don't like that, don't do

that, I don't receive that, I don't appreciate that.

But when you say I'm scared and I'm worried about I'm going, I

don't want that, I don't want that.

At all, you're scared and you're worried.

What will I'm husband is here to save the day.

Now, I get to be the hero now. I get to step in with

leadership. Now I get to go.

I got this. Oh, I don't want you afraid.

You see the difference. Well, but how do I really get

him to do it? Welcome to Submission my

sisters. You don't you don't get him, you

don't get to make him do it. Welcome.

That's the role of submission. Well, but what if he doesn't

again, welcome to your role and your part and he has the burden

of the responsibility of actually seeing it out loving

and living with his wife in an understanding way.

What if he doesn't remember, he's a man under Authority and

his prayers will be hindered. The Lord won't even answer him

and nothing's going right in my life.

How you treat your wife brother? Everything's falling apart.

How's your wife? I don't have time for that.

I got to worry about. It's probably the Elder way.

It's probably the way you is probably the way you weren't

thinking. It's probably the reverse of

that. How's your wife?

How's your first Ministry going Colossians 3:19.

Colossians 3:19

Says husband's. Love your wives and do not be

harsh with them all throughout the New Testament.

The commands given two husbands are love your wives, love your

wives, be gentle nourish, cherish do not be harsh.

Why would he say all these things to us?

I have no idea. Obviously because that's my

Temptation. I'm tempted towards harshness.

I'm tempted towards a hardness. I'm tempted towards a coldness.

I'm tempted towards a passivity. And I'm tempted to swing the

pendulum between the two to or I'm over it.

Or run or I'm over it. What does this do?

Is this wife blossoming in this environment?

Mr. Hot mr. Cold.

What is she supposed to think? She's gonna feel insecure.

She's gonna feel scared. She's gonna go.

I wish my husband was under authority of the Lord.

Jesus Christ. I would trust that I could

respond to that, but do not be harsh with them.

Why? Because obviously a harshness is

our temptation, but we don't want to harden our wives.

What else is a husband made for a husband is made to lead,

Naturally and spiritually. First, we'll look at Naturally.

A husband's made to lead naturally.

What does that look like? Well, first of all, we got

understand that leading your wife.

This is a high calling. This is a good thing when I

first understood the burden. When is the first started to get

put on me, it scared me, and I didn't want it at all, which is

why I'm convinced most of the time in the west, especially

people fight for. And they said they want the

egalitarian perspective, the 50-50 women want it because

they've been lied to by the enemy.

To think that it's a position of power and strength, which

they've been deceived and Men want it because they get to get

out of responsibility. That was why I liked it.

Everything's 50/50. That means it's half your fault.

Whoo. So I can never ultimately bear

too much of a burden because I can always go.

It takes two to tango. I can always make reference to

Natalie. So I that's why there's a

cowardice involved in the egalitarian perspective.

It's like, well, what are you gonna do?

She wouldn't go to counseling with me.

Oh, so, I guess you're just stuck in the mud, right?

You can do nothing. Well, I could, but it won't

matter. It's not true you could and it

wouldn't matter. You couldn't, it would make a

difference, leading a wife as a high calling and keep going away

from things here. It's something done.

First for the Lord, though, this is very important.

Husbands get this wrong when they try to do things first for

their wives ladies. You're not going to like this,

but then you're going to like it because you're going to see the

blessing in it. Husbands do what you're doing

for the Lord and not for your wives.

Your wives will be impossible to please.

It was like, Ugh. Amen.

But I didn't intend that part to be funny.

I didn't intend that to be clever, but it, but here's what

I mean, whatever, a husband takes the approach that says,

tell me what to do, whenever husband takes the approach and

says, just tell me what you want.

Whenever husband takes the approach that says, just tell me

what would make you happy. All of this actually makes a

wife feel even more insecure. It's a horrifying thing for her

to feel inside of her because she sees that ultimately, if he

has that approach, it says, just tell me she realizes, she's

actually in charge and she is in control.

And that means she's ultimately responsible for everything

that's terrifying. Why?

Because headship is a real thing.

No matter what anybody says, they believe about it headship

is real. It exists in the heart of a

woman. It exists in the heart of a man.

It's an inescapable truth, no matter what anybody would claim.

They believe we're even have a functionally operate.

This is why most marriages wives are tense.

Wives are stressed. Wives are overwhelmed.

Husbands are generally clueless. Generally, these are the

defaults that we fall to. This is what Natalie?

And I experienced for a long time.

She was 10. She was stressed.

Why? Because their, she had to be the

husband. I was kind of the husband.

I want to be the husband on the cool stuff.

I want to be in charge, make no mistake.

I wanted Authority. I definitely wanted that leg of

leadership. Ship.

But the responsibility part and the compassion part nanites.

So much, but the power. Oh yeah, that belongs to me.

That's really that's in the Bible.

We're going to stand on the word of God.

When it comes to me, being in charge problem, is, I didn't

know what being in charge was supposed to look like, I

thought, like a child, When the boys were little they they built

a fort in the are I built them a fort in the backyard and I went

back there. One day, they had taken a piece

of charcoal and one of them had written the rules for the club

and the rules for the club were written on the wall of the club

and in the charcoal from the fire pit and rule.

Number one was obey. The leader.

Don't know what we stand for, don't know what we're about, but

I know you better obey. The leader.

Rule number two was like comic books.

And then rule number three. It was, it was something about

obeying. The leader it was like, do what

the leader says. It was like, we had to make sure

that that one was in there. What is that?

Well, that's a childish immaturity, and it's how most

adults even think about leadership.

Most adults, think leadership is exclusively the leg of

authority. They don't even know that

there's three legs to leadership, compassion

responsibility and authority. And they don't even know how to

define Authority. So we're going to do all that

properly and accurately here, but husband's I want to Set you

free brother. Stop living to please your wife.

It's an impossible and it is it's impossible.

And it is a Fool's. Errand, I love to please my wife

but I do not live to please my wife When pleasing the Lord

pleases my wife. Wonderful.

But here's the truth. Her best chance at happiness is

actually you living for the glory of God, that's her best

chance. That's the thing that will bring

her the most Comfort. Anyway, so there's going to be

days while I'm trying to do this leadership thing but she won't

follow me brother nobody. I'm keep on doing what you're

supposed to do. Keep on being who you're

supposed to be. Keep on going where you're

supposed to go. Yeah, but she doesn't, I didn't

say she's gonna cheer for you every single day.

But the Lord will and ultimately she will grow.

She will mature. This is how you can bless her.

This is how you can love her. This is how you can lead her

well. But if you're looking to her as

your report card constantly, now there is a way that a wife is

the report card of a husband in a sense, but that's not what I'm

talking about right now. So, in the sense, I mean, let

me, let me look at your wife and then I can tell you about how

you're doing as a husband. There is a sense where that's

true. That's not what I'm saying in

this moment. I'm not saying you're looking

over your shoulder of everything, you're doing going,

is this right? Right?

Is this the way is this? Why should she saw?

I don't know how to be a husband.

I'm a wife. You be the husband?

I don't want to tell you because if I tell you that, I'm still

responsible for where we are and I know you still don't have me.

I know you don't have me really, and I want you to have me.

I want to know that everything's gonna be okay.

So she doesn't want to be responsible for everything, but

we were made to be So you must be a husband for the glory of

God, not to make your wife happy because trying to make her happy

will never make her happy her best chance at happiness.

Is you leading with a mission and with a plan?

So a husband is to say the big stuff.

I talked about the big rocks, we've got this huge pile of

debris that has to be moved and household in marriage.

There's sand that can be moved their smaller rocks.

That can be moved wives and children can move those things

but there's some Boulders in there.

Bubba there. There's only one person who's

going to carry those things away.

There's only one. There's only one.

A person who can get under the weight of that thing and say I

got this one, those are the heavy rocks.

We were built for and we were made for him.

This is a good thing. This is a source of pride and

joy for a man that what kind of big rocks you talking about.

I'm talking about the who we are as a family.

This is who the Clarks are. This is what we're about, this

is where we're going. Then a wife can find her place

in that mission. When my wife just admit she

needs submission. Submission submission sub

Mission sub meaning under Sub Mission sub meaning under what

under a mission. But a lot of guys say, like,

John Michael used to, I want Natalie to submit submit to.

What to what, where you going, homie?

What's the plan here? Oh, what you doing?

Captain? I don't know, but she should

submit to me. So, what where are you going?

What are you doing? Who are you as a man?

I don't know, but I just, she said submit, because I'm a big

boy. Now, I got a wedding band.

Okay. Okay.

It's okay to start there and if you're there right now brother,

it's okay. As long as you repent and say,

wow, this is game changer as it should be, guys.

I worked with guys again for anybody doesn't know for context

here, I do coaching I work with husband's.

I've worked with guys into their 60s and they're going.

I'm 65 years old. And I've never heard this alone,

this in my entire life and I say, praise God for your

humility. Praise God for that because if

you weren't humble, there's no hope or help for you, but Are

men? Who said, oh my goodness.

I wish I had learned this me too, man.

I just learned the hard way, but let's pick it up, brother.

Let's go! We got this.

Praise God! Let's see what the Lord will do.

We're not going to begin in despair.

When I go out the enemy discourage us.

We're here now baby. Let's go.

The Lord brings Resurrection out of dead things.

You were made for this, you were built for this, you can get

under the weight of this big rock and and you can lead your

family with strength and with love.

And this is what helps a wife, this helps a wife to actually

get under a mission and she goes, that's something I can

help with. I got something to do now, but a

woman remember, is made to be a helper.

And she will find a place in a way to help I work.

With a lot of guys who like, I wish my wife Karen more about

our family and our household, my brother is their big mission and

there's a big Vision. There's like no, but she her

work is Her everything. Well, there's a big mission

there that that man's leading that organization.

So she's like, this is something to give myself to at something,

to do. I want to help, I want to build

something up. I want to be a part of

something, as a husband, we can give our wife, that this is who

we are. This is our next chapter.

This is our next season. Well, how do I figure that out?

Well, we can work through all that together and welcome to the

men's round table, but this is who we are.

This is where we're going, this is what we're about.

Giving her a place to give her very best where you can enjoy

her. And she can enjoy giving her

best to her husband and her household.

If a husband doesn't step into his High Calling, as this way

with a, like a man with a plan and he just keeps living as the

guy who got the girl and doesn't know what to do.

For the next five decades, then his wife will be tempted to fill

that leadership void in their marriage.

And this is where you run into a lot of the conflict where wives

start to step up and then, you know, you end up over here

henpecked and she's running everything.

Aang and you're just kind of like the Yes, dear kind of

caricature and oh, how am I supposed to change that?

What am I supposed to do, brother?

You just step up and you start leading.

She's not gonna like that. I didn't say anything about her

liking it. I said, brother, you step up and

you start leading well, she's gonna give some pushback

brother. I didn't say she wouldn't get

pushback but then what's going to happen?

Well, she'll get real mad. Okay, and then what?

Well she won't talk to me for three days.

Okay, well and then what her head will spin around.

Okay, and then what is she going to stab you with a knife?

Maybe, okay, well, then, I don't want you to end up on 60

Minutes. So there's a, there's a wise way

to go about this, but we can't let cowardice keep us and stuck

anymore. We can't.

We can't. So, I don't know how to do it.

Ok, brother, we can figure that out.

Well, she's not gonna like it. Okay, brother.

Well, welcome to leadership. There's no substitute for

courage. There's no substitute for

courage. Why I try to do it and she tells

me it's wrong. Well, you're not following her

though, brother. So I understand how that can be

a bit discouraging, and if I was talking to her, Which in our

case I will be. Then I would say encourage your

husband and support him. Well, I don't know, if it's

right, welcome to submission, my sister, follow him, pray for

him. Bring your counsel, bring your

wisdom, and don't hear things. I'm not saying, don't run to

some extreme, will bring all the balance to all this.

By the way, a captain wants the input of his first officer.

What kind of Captain wants an idiot as a first officer, only

an idiot. Captain wants an idiot first

officer, so of course, I want her her wisdom.

I want her input. I need those things.

And yet, ultimately, who's responsible, if the ship runs

aground, not the person who I handed the wheel to would never

lie, was in Natalie's been ruining everything for years and

now we've run aground. No, no, that's not how it works.

Captain, when the Navy has a ship that runs aground, which a

few years back, they have like three shifts in like, two years

run, aground or collide with other ships, which in case you

don't know. That's ridiculously bad, it's

embarrassingly stupid, for that. Kind of thing to happen.

Guess who got fired and all those scenarios.

It wasn't the person who was in The Wheel.

House at the moment. And one of the cases, the

captain wasn't even on the ship but guess who got fired.

You only get one guess it was the captain.

Why? Because he's responsible, but

no, but I told Bobby to do it, okay?

You're allowed to delegate Authority appropriately but you

can't give up your responsibilities entirely.

You have ownership of the outcomes?

So a wife, unfortunately, when I when I vacate that role my wife

feels like she has to step in and be that because of her own

fears because of her own insecurities.

So now she starts stepping up going, I've got to be the

husband because there's not a man in this house.

We live that we live that, that hurts, it's embarrassing, and

yet it's good for the flesh, for me, to continue to continually

tell you and remind myself. But that's where we were.

So Natalie, she's saying I'm gonna do it except you're not

built for it. You talking down to women?

No, no, I love women and I love men and I love for them to be

exactly what God made them to be.

And it's a beautiful thing when they both get to walk in that

and its wholeness, but it requires me as a man to lead.

So a wife feels anxious, she feels uncovered, she feels like

she doesn't have a head and then this brings us to most modern

marriage issues where Adam is pointing to Eve and saying I

mean she did it, huh? Yeah but when the Lord comes

walking to the Garden, he comes asking for Adam, he comes into

the garden asking. And looking for the man where

are you? Not who ate it.

First, you tell me who hated her.

She ate it. First, I'll leave y'all to

alone. No, Adam, where are you?

I'm here, I was naked. I was ashamed.

I hid. What happened here.

There's consequences Eve's responsible for her actions But

ultimately Adam bears that responsibility.

This isn't the same message that some that some pastors teach

that everything's a man, everything that happens is a

man's fault. That's not what I've said.

That's not what I believe is not what the Bible teaches.

But a man says, I'm taking ultimate responsibility for the

outcomes. Doesn't mean everything

happened. Everything every single thing

that's happened is your fault, brother.

That's not true, but it means that you're responsible for the

outcomes. Well, she did this, and she did

us all right, fair enough, brother.

So now, what, why don't know? Okay, we gotta, we gotta take

our next step. We got to find a way to bring

action to this thing. We can't be passive, Adam, and

we don't want to be aggressive. What do we want to be like

Jesus? The right thing at the right

time? The perfect wisdom of God, the

perfect man himself. But like I said the problem

comes from not believing the Bible.

Most husbands don't believe their the head of their wife so

they don't act like it. They want the 50/50 because it

means I don't really have to bear the weight.

Or then we make them excuse the excuse of, we say I tried to I

tried to lead. It doesn't work because they

tried it. They tried it once and their

wife didn't leap for Joy but here's the truth.

You don't try the word of God. You obey the word of God.

There's a difference. We're not this isn't an

experiment. You obey the word of God and

then no one can stop you from leading and the she didn't

respond very well approach. Just reveals that I was still

following her. Anyway, I tried it.

It didn't work. No no there's no it trying

anything. It's obedience to the word of

God and I'm praying for her if she's having a hard time with

this thing and I'm going to move forward with her with gentleness

and wisdom to nurture her to cherish her, and to help her

alone, maybe she needs her mind, renewed with the word of God

will. Remember who's supposed to wash

their wives with the water of the word?

Oh, back here. Again, interesting how this

keeps happening is as you're saying, it's my fault.

Who is but it's your responsibility, it's not my

fault. If my child got bad grades

necessarily but it's my responsibility to go.

What are you gonna do about it? John Michael?

Well, I told him to study more. Well, did it happen?

Did it work? Well, no.

All right. Joe Michael.

So what are you gonna do about it?

I'm going to get more involved with them with school.

Okay, now you're thinking now, welcome to leadership it costs

you something, but you've got to get involved.

It's not your fault that he didn't obey, and yet, obviously

more is needed, if you Eat the good fruit.

What else does this mean? The role of leader for a

husband? We gotta hurry up.

Y'all going to slow, you are listening.

Slow this morning. A husband should be the

spokesman for his family. Is one way we could put it, not

because he's necessarily better with words or because he has a

charismatic personality. But a husband is the

representative is the point I want to make of his family to

the world. Husband is the one he says,

again, here's who we are. Here's what we're about.

Here's where we're going. We see this in Joshua 24:15

Joshua 24:15

Joshua stands up before the people of Israel.

He says, as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord at this

point. Joshua is over 100 years old.

It's very likely. Even by conservative estimates

that he's got 1000 people, 1000 descendants of his alive.

At that moment. He is the patriarch of a lot of

people, his kids, his grandkids, his great grand kids, it's very

likely. So he's speaking for massive

household. He's saying, as for us, We will

serve the Lord but it's important to understand what's

happening here. He's taking responsibility for

what he's done and how he's LED and for what they're going to do

in the future because he probably don't have a lot of

time left and he realizes that. So at this point, this is a

responsibility of a, the statement coming from the head

of a household. This is not an arrogant, you do

it my way, no matter what, that's not what's happening

there. It's how I used to read that as

for me and my house, we will serve the Lord over there was

gonna be problems up in here now instead It's a man Sam.

I've Loved, I've LED I'm going to continue to love and Lead.

We do serve the Lord, the Clark served the Lord, as for me and

Natalie, and he's boys and my grandchildren, like, Jesus is

King the end. Why?

Because I've taken responsibility for the

discipline for the discipleship and for their growth so that

they can actually enjoy God's best.

But whenever we're thinking about being the representative

before anybody gets too excited for husbands, get too excited

over four wives think that they've been slighted,

understand that the role of head again, is the roll.

How do we sum it up its responsibility again, its

weight, its weight. So anyone who says why does so

and so get to be in charge, they reveal that they have no idea

what being in charge is all about anyone who's like, why did

they get to get to clearly you're clearly we should Trust

you with leadership and and clearly you don't know what

leadership is yet that can change.

But there are three legs to leadership, like I said,

earlier, compassion responsibility and Authority.

How do I Define those compassion?

You love your family, a lot and they know it.

That other parts important responsibility, you take

ownership of all the outcomes and then the third leg, the one

that everybody's afraid of. But we're going to Define it

with Clarity Authority, you have the power kind of power.

You have the power to do what's best for your family.

You have the power to do what pleases the Lord and when all

these things are working together, everything is as it

should be. And then finally, a husband is a

leader spiritually, the best. And most important thing you can

do to lead. Spiritually is to love the Lord,

your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.

That's that's the simple answer. Guys always want tactics.

I like tactics. I like practical but Step One is

brother. Love the Lord.

You loving the Lord is going to look like you loving the Lord,

but it's going to look like loving the Lord.

It's not gonna look like, I love the Lord my own way and nobody

else knows about it. No, that doesn't look like

anything. Then you your love for God,

should have some fruit. There should be evidence.

If you love the Lord, your God with all your heart, soul, mind

and strength, and you were taken into court under that

accusation. There should be some evidence to

be able to prosecute. You say, we can prove that he

loved God how because look at this, look at what we can stack

up against him or in that case, we could say for him.

Love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, soul, mind and

strength. What does that look like?

What you're talking about? God, you're pursuing God.

You're sharing the word of God with your family.

Why? Because you're full of the word

of God already. I was reading this in the word

this morning. Hey, I'm you know, hey what, you

know, today at lunch or not, maybe not today at lunch, but

you're talking with your wife in the car.

Hey, would you get out of the word?

Where do you see? Where do you see that?

You can apply anything from today's sermon.

Here's what I can see. I can apply talking about the

scriptures talking about them, your Bible study.

Sharing with your wife, how you're praying for her, what

kind of growth will kind of fruit.

You want to see next All those details, all the practicals work

out when you really love and lead your family into the

presence of God. If you go into the presence of

God, all the principles of God gets sorted out, Moses meets God

at the burning bush. God did not start Moses with the

law. He got into God's presence and

then the law follows the details matter.

But even then we want to be like Moses who has a heart that says

God Show Me Your Glory, and I won't go without your presence,

wash, your wife, with the water of the word.

That means you're responsible to God, to be the thermostat for

your family. You're placed in the garden to

take ownership of the outcomes for spiritual growth for Hunger

for faithfulness. And then ultimately to think

like, you'll present your wife to the Lord in a sense, not

literally, So every person will stand before the Lord Jesus, all

by themselves, you're not the priest to that your wife has to

go through to get to God. That's not what I'm teaching.

But what I am saying is if your wife has been given to you as a

flower from God, what are you going to hand back to her?

What are you going to hand back to him?

Is he gonna get a tattered stem with no pedals and going, bro,

what happened here? Or is he going to get a

blossoming flower? This is what it looks like to

love to nurture and to care, he says care for her like you care

for the needs of your own body. So if there's something that

needs attention, I took care of a hangnail.

Well, this morning on my own finger.

So I care about my own body in a husband.

Cares for his wife, the same way nourishing and cherishing her,

she's his rib, his flesh, one body, one heart, I'ma notes, go

here. Dwight Moody said it this way,

if I wanted to find out whether a man was a Christian, I

wouldn't go to his Minister. I would go and ask his wife, we

need more Christian Life at home.

If a man doesn't treat his wife, right?

I don't want to hear him talk about Christianity.

So, bit of slap bit of a slap in the face, and at the same time,

it's a good encouragement to us, but others, you're well able to

leave. You're well, able to Shepherd,

you're well, able to bless you're, well, able to love.

I don't know what the details look like.

That's fine. Welcome to the men's Round

Table. We're gonna start walking

through these details together, month by month to say, let's get

practical. Here's the next step.

And I want to help you move forward if you'll come with

humility, if you'll continue to submit to the word of God, God

will get you everywhere, you need to go.

Take pride in all this because this is how you're showing your

wife and the world. How Christ is loving the church,

God's coming into the garden. He's asking you, where are you?

So, that's what I'm asking. You where are you?

Ask yourself. That's what I want you to do.

Is you leave this today? Where are you?

Where am I? I know you got objections.

I know you do. I get them all the time.

It's what I do for a living. I challenge you to try to stump

me. Please ask me hit me with it.

I've heard the objections I've heard the but my scenarios

different bro, lay it on me, will navigate it together but

let's navigate it and not just drift at Sea and wait for

something good to happen. Drifting at Sea, never leads to

anything. Good, we must set the sail.

We must set the rudder and Captain the ship you're built

for this. You're made for this, this is

going to become Automatic. It's going to fill you with life

with pride and joy. Let's pray Heavenly Father, we

thank you for the calling that you put on our lives as men and

his husband's. It's a blessing.

Jesus. It's like the burden that you

talk about, your yoke is easy. And my burden is light.

There is a burden though, and there is a yoke, but it fits us

well and it's not too heavy. Thank you for fitting this to us

appropriately so that we can actually Shepherd.

Well, make us husbands who nourish and cherish our wives,

God help. Every single one of us to grow

help me to grow. So that my wife would Thrive.

So that I would show my wife, my children and the world.

What Christ's love for the church looks like, And God, I

pray that you would make these marriages, all the marriages of

salt Church, rich with good fruit.

As men are being men as women are being women as children are,

experiencing the joy, and blessing of it all, glorify your

name and work through us. Do something in us.

God, Show us what our next step looks like.

To love you. Well to serve you Faithfully.

And to love our wives as you love us all, we thank you for it

in Jesus name. And now the Lord bless you and

keep you the Lord, make his face shine down upon you and be

gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance

upon you and give you great. Peace in Jesus name.

Amen.