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Genesis chapter 2. Genesis 2 verse 16 and the Lord.

Genesis 2 · chapter mention Genesis 2:16

God commanded. The man saying you may surely

eat of every tree of the garden but of the tree of the knowledge

of Good and Evil. You shall not eat for in the day

that you eat of it. You shall surely die.

Then the Lord God said, it's not good.

That the man should be alone and I will make him a helper fit for

him. Now, out of the ground, the Lord

God, formed every beast of the field and every bird of the

heavens and brought them to the man, to see what he would call

them, and whatever the man called every living creature.

Sure, that was its name. The man gave names to all the

livestock to all the birds of the heavens and to every beast

of the field. But for Adam, there was not

found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep

sleep to fall upon the man and while he slept took one of his

ribs and closed up its place with flesh and the rib that the

Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought

her to the man, then he said this at.

Last is bone of my bones and Flesh of My Flesh.

Rush. She shall be called woman

because she was taken out of, man.

Therefore. A man shall leave his father and

mother and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh.

And the man and his wife were both naked and they were not

ashamed. God, we thank you for your true

word. This is not a myth.

This is not just a general idea. These were literal people

according to your scriptures, according to the Lord Jesus

Christ. This is the history of mankind

as you designed it, and as you intended it, so, build faith in

our hearts today, not just for what happened, but for what

should be happening now. Show us and reveal to us.

How your word lights up? Our life In This Moment?

How in the year 2023? You have relevant truth.

That will bless us, that will grow us.

That will help us to enjoy your ideals so that we can be who

you've called us to be. And so that you would receive

glory and that your kingdom would be represented.

Well, just like we prayed for your kingdom to come and your

will to be done here on Earth as it is in heaven, God make it.

So in our marriages, make it. So in our households, make us

men and women who are strong in faith.

Who are strong in conviction and who are wise in their

application of your word. So bless us and strengthen us

all through it in Jesus name, we thank you.

Amen. Marriage is the Bedrock.

It is the it is the foundation stone for civilizations.

The first thing that the Lord starts with, he begins with it

right away in Genesis, what do we do?

How do we start building civilization?

We see he didn't start with the civil magistrate of the

government's as we reference, then we see that he didn't start

with the church or establishing his his law.

Now he did have law with Adam but that's this isn't the

starting point. Necessarily as far as an

authority structure, it's the family.

It's the household. This is the building block for

all civilization. Even if you're an Fever.

Even if you didn't like or what you wanted to pretend the Bible

wasn't true marriage is a good and right thing.

So we encourage marriage for everybody.

We want to see non-believers Mary, why?

Because it's still the right thing for the right reason.

If you love someone, you want, what's best for them.

So whether or not they're loving and following the Lord, we would

still say we want people to marry because it's good for them

and it's still the Lord's, will it's still a way for them to

practice the devotion and image and pick and and and bring a

physical expression to the spiritual truths.

Lord has everything that's happening in the world.

Should always be bringing God's glory in that way.

We see he does this right away, just like we saw with man, man,

his perfect expression finds itself right away and being a

husband. The same is true for a wife,

will get there in a few minutes. But let's notice something else,

about Eve whenever Eve is created, she is never without a

covering, right away? A woman goes from her father,

and she is given to her husband. Her father, brings her to her

husband. We still do this in our wedding.

Ceremonies and it's supposed to represent and symbolize what's

actually taking place. It's not supposed to be just an

entry empty tradition, often times.

There have been many reasons, a lot of issues.

A lot of semiotic ignorance on our parts.

So they've been many many reasons where a father may have

just walked his daughter down, the aisle exclusively as a

tradition, because that's what you do in a wedding ceremony.

But ideally, it's picturing saying I really have been

blessing and covering her. That could look different ways,

but it still means she knows, and he knows this man is mine.

Offering a woman as a man as her covering as a gift, as a

blessing, as a protection. And then he sang who gives this

woman to be married to this man. And it's a very new and modern

thing where he says her mother and I but the ancient thing

would be I do I do her head, her covering her father.

I am giving her I'm saying I'm her protector, her provider, her

leader. Now this man is and it breaks a

Father's Heart and at the same time like Gordon and Linda, it's

the right thing at the right time.

It's and it's yes, it's good and it can be difficult but its the

Lords will so that everyone is blessed and receiving his best.

So it's not just to be an empty tradition, but it's the point to

something good and beautiful. As we said, a husband and wife

are their own family. We see a husband and wife should

cling to one another, they should leave their father, and

mother husband, and wife, or their own family, right away

their own family. It's not when they have kids,

they become family, a husband and wife become a family.

And in that moment, but we love our parents do.

Absolutely. We do.

We should honor your father and mother.

Absolutely, you should. And that will never change and

yet their headship in there covering that role does change.

That role does look different. This is where all the young all

the young couples like yeah, send it.

And all the other couples are like, be careful and you don't

go too far with that because that's the Temptation, like we

want our, we want our children clothes and the children saying,

hey, we should have some Independence here.

We navigate that with wisdom as we honor our father and mother

but we rejoice in the fact that a husband and wife come

together, right away as their own family.

Women were made, we see right away to be wives, just like a

man was made to be a husband. A woman was made to be a wife.

A woman's natural design, is to be a wife, the design of woman

Helper, life-giver beautifier and glorify.

ER, it Finds Its perfect expression as a wife and mother

right away. This is the duh, this is the

obvious. This is a man is to protect and

provide and Lead, who his wife and children?

That's you get to give your masculinity as your gift.

A woman is to be the helper. The life Giver in the beautifier

will. Who am I supposed to support in

this, your husband, your household, your children.

This is the good thing to rejoice in.

So this is the starting point, but now we're going to go to

Ephesians chapter 5, Ephesians chapter 5.

Ephesians 5 · chapter mention Ephesians 5 · chapter mention

I'm going to read a couple of sections here so you'll be able

to hop around with me. We're skipping over husbands,

they had their turn last week, ladies is going to feel very

one-sided today. That's because it is just like

last week was today will be as well.

There will be correction and there will be encouragement.

What we all need at all times. Ephesians 5:22 through 24 wives

Ephesians 5:22–24

submit to your own. Husband's, as to the Lord, for

the husband is the head of his wife.

Even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is

himself. It's savior.

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should

submit in everything to their husbands.

And then you can look also at verse 33.

However, Let each one of you love his wife as himself.

And let the wife see that she respects her husband.

So we were given household household codes here by pole.

Peter does the same thing. We got multiple places in the

New Testament where I told you before in Genesis we get all

good Doctrine but it's in seed form, it's not the tree fully

sprouted. Like it's the orange seed but

you don't have an orange to eat yet.

So so you have to be careful. You don't want to just take

something in Genesis and run with it.

You go, hang on. That will be proven out

throughout the rest of the scriptures, you might.

I think it means that okay then that needs to be proven out

through the rest of the scriptures.

We let everything be established in the mouth of two or three

Witnesses so we want we want the whole Bible to tell us the

truth. I don't want to take off running

with one verse. I'm going to say what is the

whole of scripture, really? Teach not?

Do you have a verse for that? But what does the word of God

teach? What does the word of God

reveal? But in the New Testament, we get

explicitly plane on. What what is often called

household codes? What does it look like for

husband wife children servants? And here are these household.

Codes have been explicitly laid out servants are told to obey.

Now, why in the world would servants have to be reminded to

obey? Well, maybe because they're

tempted to disobey, right? This is obvious stuff.

Children are told to honor their father and mother why in the

world would you have to tell children honor their father and

mother? Gee golly, I wonder well, it's

because obviously, they're tempted to dishonor and to

disobey their father and mother, husbands are told to love their

wives and be gentle with them. Why in the world would a husband

have to be told to love his wife and be gentle.

Her, I can't imagine. It's obvious.

It's because we have a temptation to not do those

things. And then wives are told to

submit and respect their husbands submit to and respect

their husbands. And the word respect is actually

the word, reverence would be more accurate.

We, there's a lot of words that are used there, that the modern

translations, who said, we're not going to touch that with a

10-foot pole. But it's hip.

It's almost always, it's almost always that word respect.

And that passage almost always Throughout the New Testament.

Go look it up for yourself, refers to Fear With Fear and

Trembling as to God and the modern writers will.

Actually, let's go. So every other occasion It Was

Fear and in this occasion, it's this.

Well I can understand why we would make that change but we

can't do it because we're afraid of people, we should do it

because we want to be more accurate.

That's the thing that's the motive, that's the reason.

So we want to understand that a husband is not God and yet the

Holy Spirit still saw fit to use the same kind of word.

So a wife is not to fear her husband in the the same way

necessarily that we would fear God because the husband is not

God and yet there is certainly a reverence that the Lord wanted

to communicate their. So husbands are not God, we're

not confusing our information here or mixing up with the

passage says, but we understand their wife is to reverence her

husband. Now why in the world would a

wife has to be told these things.

I can't imagine, of course, it's because this is her temptation

as well. So each of these different

commands are given to different people, but they're all given to

bless everybody. Involved.

The household codes as they're called are a blessing to

everyone. It's win, win win, win win.

We understand that. With our children all the time,

we tell our children all the time, like if you just knew, if

you just understood, like all I'm after, here is your best.

Everything I do, everything I say, it's always for your good.

I have no motive apart. From your thriving life.

A loving husband says that to his wife.

I have no motive apart from you thriving, you being blessed, you

enjoying God's very best and you walking in the in the highest

pleasures of the Lord. So this is good news and wives

have an addition to that, they have an incredible motive that's

laid out here where husband's get to show everyone how Jesus

loves the church wives, get to show everyone how the church

submits to Christ. Ephesians 5:24 again.

Ephesians 5:24

Now, as the church submits to Christ.

So how do you think the church submits to Christ?

That's the way that wives are supposed to submit to their

husbands. In everything as he puts it.

So wives have this motive where they get to preach the gospel

through their behavior, this instruction is for you, but it's

not only for you. There's more happening here at

stake than just your own marriage.

Well, we function like this, or we like to function like that or

my husband's personality or my personality.

When I'm talking personalities, we're talking God's best God's

ideals. We're talking about what is

actually best for everybody. Not not what my what not, what

I'm personally tempted to not what I would personally.

Prefer but will God really wants?

What God really believes is best in nose is perfect for for human

flourishing and for his glory. So there's more Happening Here

than just what we think. Or what we prefer our marriage

is supposed to be all about Jesus.

So if our marriage is all about Jesus, people should be able to

look in your life. They should be able to look at a

Christian wife and go. That is the picture of how the

church submits to Christ. There's a beauty, there's a

trust, there's a surrender. So why is, if you ever wonder

about your submission to your husband?

You should ask yourself. How does the church submit to

Christ? Then in the same way, submit and

everything? Your husband just like a husband

could do. How am I loving my wife?

Well, how does Christ loved the church, brother?

What's that look like okay. Well, that's how to love your

wife. That's the picture, that's the

starting point. So what does a good wife look

like or what is a bad wife? Look?

Like the scripture tells us a lot about both and I'm going to

read this to you. I'm not gonna have you.

Follow me and flip around everywhere.

You can certainly make note of these and if you can keep up,

you're welcome to. But in Proverbs 12, verse 4,

Proverbs 12:4

scripture says, an excellent wife is the crown of her

husband. Exactly what Gordon was talking

about. Earlier a crown on his head.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband but she who

brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

We got two extremes, the crown of her husband glorious, gold

rare Metals, precious metals, beautiful gemstones, glorifying

and magnifying, making much of, or just the opposite Decay and

sucking out his very source of life.

As a crown brings gladness and Beauty in the same way, a wife

magnifies her husband's Authority, First Corinthians,

11, 7 says, tells us. That woman is the glory of man.

So what else can we understand from this?

And these scriptures are often cited by commentaries and even

in cross-references they always say hey if you're here, you this

this connects directly to this passage, this connects to this

passage. So this idea of crowning is the

idea of glorifying woman is the glory of man.

What does that? Well, your Radiance blesses and

glorifies your husband, like a magnificent Crown.

Adorns. The king who wears it.

An excellent wife, enhances her husband.

Every man knows that's the case. Wives are to be a glorious

manifestation of the very best of their husbands and they are

to bring their husbands, their own very best.

So the idea of the crown on the king, is he still a king without

the crown? Well sure, but he's glorified by

it. He is magnified by it.

A wife is a force multiplier. She makes a man more than he is

on his own. So what can a wife do?

What should she apply herself to?

How do I be his crown? We should find ways to support

and get creative to accomplish your husband's Mission.

He is the king to borrow from that example.

In Proverbs, if, if I'm his crown, what would it look like?

Well, it's the opposite of the modern language.

Well, I know the Bible says, the husband is the head but I'm the

neck. Oh, ultimately saying I'm gonna

control him and get my way and do what I want as opposed to

being the crown adorns. Learning and enjoying the

authority and the blessing of the kings kingdom participating

in it, but not being the king, not being the neck, not being

the one who is manipulating and controlling the king.

So what should you do? You want to help your husband

accomplish his mission? You want to get creative and

find ways to help him expand and do the things that God has

called them to do? Well, my husband doesn't have a

mission. Might be the quick rebuttal.

Well then here's what you do as a wife.

You submit to him by telling him that you want to support him in

his vision for the family. And for the household, ask him

how you can do that. That will put the appropriate

pressure on him and it will show him that you are not leading.

God is going to set some of you, women free, just with that idea

and itself to go well how do I get him to?

How do I get him to? How do I get him to, you don't

get him to, you don't be free. It's not your burden, he has a

head and you're not it. I want to be a beautiful crown

and now you're learning how you submit and defer to him.

Hey I want to support your vision for this household.

What does that instantly do inside of a man?

Oh vision for household like so she hasn't just disrespected him

in any way. She's honored him.

She has put herself Him. Which by the way you see all

through the scriptures when someone comes to a King other

men coming to the king going oh King live forever, okay?

Like even with I disagree with him, you see a difference, you

see a respect, you see an honor, David saying, we're going to

take a census, we're going to do a survey and joab's going they

all the Servants of the Kingdom be yours forever.

May they multiplied a thousand times.

So even man-to-man, we see submission, I'm too good for

that. Then you're too good to be like

Jesus who Fitted to the will of the father who laid down his own

life to glorify someone else. Everybody gets to be like Jesus.

Husbands, get to be like Jesus in the fact that they love, man.

I'm getting ahead. I'm preaching a few weeks,

sermons away. You look what you all are doing,

but this is good news. We all get to be like Christ in

this way, but we're, but as a wife, you don't want to be the

wife who is controlling you want to be the wife, who is yielding

and showing him. I'm deferring to you.

I'm trusting in you. You don't need to be the man of

the house anymore. Ladies, you get to be the wife.

So what am I supposed to do? What you're supposed to create,

a leadership void. And that example, anyway, create

a leadership void for him to fill.

What if he doesn't? Well, that's the Temptation.

That is the fear. That's the fear that often

times, can lead you to then your next step of trying to control

trying to force something to happen.

But what if he doesn't? Well you're a woman of God who

acts at the future and we're going to see this together here

in a few minutes. You walk by faith and not by

sight. You trust God and you dwell

securely. You're like Sarah who honored

her husband Abraham and you don't fear anything that is

frightening. These are the commands to wives

is the command. Why?

Because the Lord knows that Temptation submission is

difficult, headship is difficult.

Everybody's got challenges and in their own flesh.

There's some tations that come along with it and let the little

and yet the Lord says you can do this.

You can do this. Be like Sarah, who didn't fear

anything that was frightening. Well, there's plus Sarah had a

lot of crazy stuff happen. Her husband.

Made a lot of stupid mistakes, really bad stuff.

Like it's hard to hard to Fathom how Abraham made some of the

decisions that he did. But the scripture that same

passage and Peter says she deferred to him submitting to

him even calling him Lord. What else are we told to do?

What else do we see a wife? Does a wife is to not bring him

shame. None of you want to be

rottenness in your husband's bones.

Why not? Because you're a life-giver It's

the opposite of what your God designed nature is.

And yet, it's with the flesh would still be tempted to why

most likely most of the time. It's because of fear, oftentimes

that fear can become a stronghold and it becomes an

operating system for a woman. It's the operating system that

she doesn't even know she has. It's like the person who's used

Windows their whole life on their computer, they don't even

know. Windows is an operating system.

They can't fathom anything else. It's just, it's computers,

right? Well actually, you're operating

in a system, right? Right now.

No, no. This is just the way things are

maybe, but maybe not many wives have put on an operating system,

and they don't even recognize that.

This operating system is controlled, they don't recognize

his operating system is, is built from a plate.

A stronghold of fear where they're trying to, what can I

do? How can I manipulate?

How can I, how can I use, how can I use my influence in the

bedroom to get them? To do?

What I want? How can I nag him enough to get

him to go my direction? How can I get him to?

Because they don't understand the freedom and the surrender

and the Holy Spirit work that will happen in her husband as

she defers to him. They haven't been told the truth

about the power of actually being a woman because it's

different from the power of being a man.

Women are told to be powerful. And yet, they're told to be

powerful by acting like a man, and it makes them miserable.

It's a heavy burden, and it makes me miserable.

It's rottenness in a man's bones.

But the good news is, women are powerful.

When they behave like women, when they act like a feminine

surrendered wife, it's a beautiful thing.

So what you want to do is create that leadership void but you

don't want to bring him. Shame you seek to bring him

honor even if I don't think he's honorable especially if you

don't think he's honorable honorable because first this is

the will of God. But second honoring a husband

gives him the very best chance of living up to that Crown.

That's it. As best chance, I tell men, this

all the time, in the counseling work that I do.

How do I get her to? How do I get her to?

How do I get it brother? You can't get her to, you can't,

you lead with strength and love you leader, with compassion,

with responsibility and an authority that shows her that

you're doing, what you believe is best for everybody.

That's what you're doing brother.

What if what, if what if, hey all we can do is walk in our

obedience. But brother, this is her best

chance at submission. This is her As chance at

maturity. This is our best chance at

growth. What if she nothing is a

guarantee. You don't get to control her.

She gets to cast her own vote and the same thing needs to be

said to wives, you don't get to control him.

It is not an absolute guarantee and yet it is it is his best

chance at Living. What if I'm this beautiful

wonderful crown and he never, oh no, what if you walk in

obedience to the Lord? Oh no.

What if I do all this loving God and maturing as a woman of God

and that in itself is its own reward.

Sister that in itself is the blessing of God on your life and

he is still accountable to his head and he is accountable to

his head. And that is a fearful thing.

We'll talk about that when we talk about headship, when we

talk about submission and next couple weeks.

So, especially if you don't think he's honorable, especially

if you don't think he's respectable, I've heard many

wives over the years. I know I'm supposed to respect

my husband, but what if he's not respectable?

But I've never once in my entire life, had a husband asked me, I

know I'm supposed to love my wife.

What if she's not lovable, I just haven't heard it.

Maybe there's some dude who said it, there probably is, but we've

got the passage plainly written. Love your wife, respect your

husband and husband's like, yeah, I need to, and I was like,

but hang on now. I feel like there needs to be

some disclaimer here. Like, well, the Lord didn't.

So, let's continue. What does it look like to honor

him? Do you brag on him, or do you

mock him? Do you celebrate him or do you

condemn him? Do you defer to him?

Or do you oppose him? Are you crowning him, or are you

being wrought in his bones? Scripture says in Proverbs 21

Proverbs 21:9

verse 9, it is better to live in a corner of the Housetop than a

house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Okay, you would think we would get the point, right?

Well, he says it again, in 21 verse 19.

It's better live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and

fretful woman. Okay, we got it.

No, no, there's more 27:15. Mean, a continual dripping on a

rainy day and of coral, some wife are alike.

Well, I'm not quarrelsome. I just know the right way to do

things and he doesn't, I'm not quarrelsome.

I'm just trying to help. I'm not foolish.

He just won't. Listen, I'm not difficult.

He just doesn't see what needs to happen.

I'm not always right. He just doesn't think every

man's blood pressure is rising right now.

As I'm here as I'm saying these things, he feels the bone, rot

is look good. Get it out.

So as a wife, as a woman, you have particular Temptations.

You have particular Temptations for sins, like fear, like

control like manipulation, like rebellion and like not being

content. These are particular towards you

men have sins that are particular towards them and

we're all capable of all of them.

And yet there are some that we're going to have a proclivity

towards but these are sins to be shunned because there's

something beautiful to be pursued.

Just like we talked before in Ephesians, we It off the old

man. That's a real Temptation and yet

we've got to put off that old man and what do we do?

We've got to put on the new. So what does it look like to

honor? What does it look like to bless?

Well, honor is not a neutral thing, a crown is not a neutral

thing. A crown is a radiant thing.

It's powerful and it's active. The church isn't neutral.

When it comes to the Lord Jesus, he rebukes the church and

Revelation saying we should be hot or we should be cold,

otherwise we're disgusting to him.

Sounds like rottenness in his bones.

Oh, I should not be neutral when it comes to her husband.

She should actively seek his good and the good of his

household. No Godly wife.

Like we said, wants to be riding his bones.

Why? Because you are a life-giver,

it's What You're Made For That is your true identity.

You go huh? There's a freedom there, there's

a blessing there. There is an utter relief to the

surrender of a wife. So, what does this look like?

It looks like encouraging him. No husband has ever complained

of being over encouraged. I don't think any wife has ever

either. No, man is ever said, my wife.

Builds me up too much, but would a man.

Want men want to be impressive. We want to impress.

You be impressed, find a way to be impressed.

Well, I wish he would. I know.

I know you wish, and I know you've got standards and I know

you've got expectations, but be impressed with what he's given.

He wants to give you more, he loves you, he probably feels

condemnation and guilt and weight that he hasn't been able

to do more yet, and he thinks he should be farther.

Along. He feels all these things.

All the men are thinking. Yeah.

Of course. She's thinking yeah but I just

wish I would just be happy when be happy now.

Be content be pleased, be impressed, be blessed.

We love to give to you. We want to give to you.

We want to give you the whole wide world.

So be thankful, be an encourager.

Find Opportunities find ways to learn how to be impressed with

him admire him. This is one way that you bring

him life, a discouraged. Husband many, a discouraged

husband has been resurrected by the words of a kind and faithful

wife. You're looking at one of them,

not gonna cry. Gordon, cried, I'm not going to

cry even though I'm tempted to cry.

So, I can't tell any stories right now.

Many of discouraged husband can be resurrected by the words of a

kind and faithful wife if that's not power.

I don't know what is that's more powerful than a corner office.

Let's turn to Proverbs chapter 31.

Proverbs 31 · chapter mention

The beautiful picture of the High Calling, one of the

greatest things, it's one of my greatest Joys.

One of the things that lights me up the most when I'm doing the

coaching is when I'm just trying to get across to guys, the

bigness in the high calling and the Majesty of being the captain

of their ship with the family Captain as we call it, and it

all that goes into the leadership and the pleasure that

they're going to experience because that's the thing they

don't yet know. They've only been told that it's

a burden. And they're only thinking about

it as a checklist, like, I got a clock in at work.

I got a clock in with my wife. I got a clock in with the kids.

Everybody wants a piece of me. And so it's this perspective

where this guy is like living life as an employee of

everything and everybody and said of the captain or the king

of it all and enjoying the pleasure of rulership and

recognizing that he gets to cultivate and create good fruit

and all of it, and it's a switch and when he gets it, everything

becomes exciting. I love talking a wives, in the

same way to say, you've been lied to, and there's so much

Beauty pleasure, and reward. ORD available to you, as you're

able to embrace this here. So here in Proverbs, we've had

letters from a father to his son, and we've continued to get

words of the king here in Proverbs 31.

The words of King Lemuel and Oracle that his mother taught

him. So this was actually taught to a

King by his mother and now of course he's continuing to pass

this on to his son were in Proverbs, 31 verses 10 through

Proverbs 31:10–30

30, one is what will read the woman who fears Here's the Lord,

is the heading but verse 10 reads, and excellent wife, who

can find she is far more precious than Jewels.

So, I'm what am I just a crown? I'm just decorations.

No, it's just a comparison. You're worth far more than

rubies. You're worth far more than

Jewels. You're worth far more than

precious metals. You're worth far more than just

your physical Beauty, although you are physically.

Beautiful And that's a good thing and it's not to be

apologize for or hidden away. What else do we know about her?

The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack

of gain. Wow, richness Life, Health.

In this man's life, she does him good and not harm all the days

of her life. She seeks wool and flax and

works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the

merchant. She brings her food from afar

she Rises while it is yet. Night and provides food for her

household and portions for her maidens.

For her servants. She considers a field and she

buys it very oppressed woman here, right?

She is considering property and buying it.

Yeah, not that. Not the narrative that we would

hear in the modern day. Why?

Because the heart of her husband, trusts her.

Why? Because she's such a faithful

and trustworthy Crown. She's so obviously supportive

and doing good for his household.

With the fruit of her hands, she plants a Vineyard.

She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms

strong. She perceives that her

merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at

night. She puts her hands to the

distaff in her hands to hold the spindle.

She opens her hand up to the poor and reaches out her hands

to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for

her household for all her household are closed in Scarlet.

Her whole household is wearing designer clothing.

Not to make a fashion statement but because of her diligent work

and wealth that she has contributed to her household.

She makes bed coverings for herself.

Her clothing is fine, linen and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates and when he sits among the

Elders of the land, she makes linen garments and sells them.

She delivers sashes to the merchant.

Strength and dignity or her clothing and she laughs at the

time to come. This is like Sarah, not fearing

anything that is frightening. What about?

I laugh? At the days to come says The

Godly woman, says The Godly wife.

Why? Because I have a heavenly

father, I trust him. And, as I walk in obedience to

him, he cares for me. She opens her mouth with wisdom

and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

She Looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat

the bread of idleness. Her children, rise up, and call

her blessed. Her husband also, and he Praises

her many women have done excellently.

He says, but you surpass them all charm.

Is deceitful, and beauty is fleeting or beauty is vain.

But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Give her the fruit of her hands and let her works.

Praise her in the gates. Hallelujah.

As exactly what Gordon was doing with Linda earlier.

Let the work let the work that she's done the fruit speaks for

itself Of. Look at her husband.

Look at her husband in the same way I can say to a I can say,

let me look at your wife and that'll tell me how yours a

husband and say look at the husband!

That'll tell me some. Does he live on the rooftop that

communicates something that does he like wandering in the desert

for long stretches of time? That might communicate

something? But this Godly wife, what a rich

rich blessing. She brings turn to Titus Chapter

Titus 2 · chapter mention

2 over to the New Testament again.

Titus 2 verse 3. We got another set of household

Titus 2:3

codes here in the New Testament, more instruction, more

breakdown. Just a lot of the repeating

stuff. Husbands are always told the

love wives are always told to submit and respect.

And the connection is always made so that the Lord gets glory

and so that the word of God doesn't suffer blasphemy, or

rebuke Titus Chapter 2. So you're going to find First

Titus 2 · chapter mention

Timothy, second, Timothy and Titus.

Titus 2 verse 3. Older women likewise are to be

Titus 2:3

reverent and behavior, not slanderers or slaves, too much

wine. They are to teach what is good

and so train, the young women. So what are you supposed to do

as an older man? You're supposed to train the

younger men. What are you supposed to do as

an older woman? You're supposed to train the

younger women and what exactly are you supposed to train them

in? If you're a woman older, women

are to train the younger women to love their husbands and

children to be self-controlled and pure working at home.

Home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, why?

So that the word of God may not be revealed.

This is profound. So we see when we combine

proverbs 31, the very specific, the very practical.

When we combine Titus to the very specific, the very

practical. We get this detailed instruction

to Christian wives. What are they supposed to be?

What we see this woman is a reverent woman as opposed to

what as opposed to a loud woman as opposed to a foolish woman,

she's not into the Momi wine culture of Instagram.

She's a sober woman and she wear his dignity and strength as her

clothing. She's not a busybody, she's not

a gossip, she loves her husband, and she loves her children.

She self-controlled. And therefore she's trusted by

her husband. She submissive to her husband

and she's kind to him. She's diligent and she's not

lazy. She's a producer and she's not a

consumer. What else?

Is she she is not afraid. Praise God.

What a creature. What a crown.

What a woman. This is the kind of woman that

the speaker of the writer of Proverbs there was saying, son,

this is what you're looking for. You read Proverbs all throughout

lady wisdom and the foolish woman are compared and

contrasted over and over again. Run away from this.

This is what you're looking for, run away from this.

This is what you're looking for. But of course, he says an

excellent wife, who can find Let it not be said, and the Church

of Jesus, that we who can find a great husband, who loves this

way, who can find a great wife, who loves this way, will he need

to be in a church. That's where you're going to

find a husband. That's where you're going to

find a wife. Because the standards of the

church represent, Jesus, and the church, we're always

representing who he is and what he's done.

And what his will is, the obvious theme Here, is that a

good wife builds up, she blesses, she supports her

husband and her household does the cliff notes.

That's the short version. Proverbs 14 one says a wise

woman, builds her home but a foolish woman.

Tears, it down with her own hands.

I'm not tearing it down. I'm just Is our temptation, but

the good news ladies is women have power and their design.

In their role as Helper and a Godly wife, like I said, is a

force multiplier. So Force, multiplier is used a

lot of times whenever you're thinking about combat, or

conflict man-on-man fist on fist.

All right. We, it's just you versus me.

We'll see what happens. You put on a baseball bat.

All right. That's a force multiplier.

You just change the rules of the game.

More can be accomplished now than could have been before.

Okay, you pull out a firearm. Alright, that is another, that's

a, the epitome of a force multiplier.

So, that now, Allah, More can be accomplished than could be

accomplished before. This is what a wife is.

A Godly wife, is a force multiplier for the life of her

husband, to say, I can bless. I can expand, I can do more.

I'm going to help this man, but I'm not going to do it by being

his mother. I'm going to do it by being his

wife. She makes a man more than he

was, she makes a home more than it was she makes life more than

it was. And with her beautiful obedience

she shows the world and the church, how to follow and

glorify our great God and Savior Jesus because she is always

showing everybody. This is what it looks like.

This is what it looks like, husband gets to say, here's how

Jesus loves the church and wife says, here's how the church

response to the Lord Jesus Christ.

We're all preaching these marriages is good in his riches,

they can and should be They're going to come to an end and they

were always pointing to the perfect marriage of Christ and

his bride. Hallelujah, it's good to be a

wife, ladies. If you're a wife, it's good to

be a wife. Enjoy your role walk in it,

fully repent when necessary and continue to glorify God as you

obey his word towards your husband, Heavenly Father.

We thank you so much for your ways that are perfect.

Your ways that are true. We thank you for the right side

up Kingdom in this upside down World.

Continue to establish your will and your way.

God, make the marriages in this church continued to thrive as

husband's Love Like Jesus as wives.

Submit like the church. And as everybody wins, this is a

win-win scenarios. Where we get to preach the

gospel with our actions. In addition, to our words, I

plead the blood of Jesus over these households.

Over these marriages And over the loved ones that were

thinking about the ones that we want to bless the ones that were

responsible for educating and training, the ones who we want

influence in their lives, for the marriages that we have in

mind right now, who we know are missing out on your very best

God. We lift them up to you right

now. And we ask that you would bring

a Revival in our households. Start with us, get the log out

of our own eye. Help us to walk in obedience to

you. Help us to glorify your name and

please you and all that we do. We love you.

Lord. We thank you for helping us in

Jesus name and now the Lord bless you and keep you the Lord,

make his face shine down upon you and be gracious to you.

The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you great.

Peace in Jesus name. Amen.

Help us to glorify your name and please you and all that we do.

We love you. Lord.

We thank you for helping us in Jesus name and now the Lord

bless you and keep you the Lord, make his face shine down upon

you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance

upon you and give you great. Peace in Jesus name.

Amen.