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EP5: Why is Death and Dying a Discipleship Issue?

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  1. Hey there, my name is Chris rivers and I want to thank you

  2. for joining us for the grace church members podcast.

  3. The goal of this resource is to address discipleship issues in

  4. the life of Grace Church and discuss how to be more fully

  5. devoted to God in this episode, Scott Mozingo.

  6. And I chat with Matt Kelley, who serves as one of Grace Church

  7. has staff, governing elders, and you can find him also helping

  8. lead worship and some leadership development.

  9. In this particular interview, we have a fascinating discussion

  10. around death, the natural burial process and the opportunity that

  11. we have to care for and disciple members through this unique

  12. season born out of this idea that the church should take care

  13. of its people, not only in life but also in death natural.

  14. Burial is now a practical way for Grace Church to live out

  15. this Principle. As we discussed why this is such

  16. a huge discipleship issue. I got really clear on how I can

  17. move. And share this idea with others

  18. and I'm hoping that you do as well.

  19. Be sure to check out our podcast page at Grace Church.

  20. S c.org /y. Discipleship on this page, you

  21. can access a transcript of this episode and additional resources

  22. to help you move. Okay let's jump into our episode

  23. with Matt Kelly on why death and natural.

  24. Burial is a discipleship issue. Well Matt good to see you today.

  25. Scott was ancient good to see you.

  26. Hey Chris, yeah we're going to have a Conversation about some

  27. topics that a lot of people have been asking about.

  28. I was at the lake this past weekend, at my dad who doesn't

  29. live. Here comes up to me and says we

  30. sit at the table he says hey man I hear y'all are burying people

  31. and I was like, yes, exact razy actually got to talk about

  32. natural burial this weekend. Like it was really great.

  33. What are we doing as a church? Yeah.

  34. So several years ago we just start a conversation about what

  35. does it look like for us to be able to take care of people and

  36. not just Life, but also through death and burial.

  37. We knew that we were trying to disciple people from birth until

  38. the grave, but once we got to the Grave, we were not involved

  39. and we felt like that was something that we needed to

  40. explore. And it was a lot of steps that

  41. happen with our church at the same time.

  42. But we just decided that we needed to take some steps to

  43. save. The someone need to be a part

  44. of. And so we did a lot of research

  45. and really honed in on an idea of something on natural burial,

  46. which means it's simple. Its natural exactly.

  47. What You think it is? It's no embalming.

  48. The Vault, no casket. You're basically put in a pine

  49. box or a shroud and you are returned.

  50. It's very simple process and so it's been something that we are

  51. just now dabbling in. We're on year one of this but it

  52. has seemed to be a great discipleship tool for us and

  53. something that we're learning from every day.

  54. Yeah, every step of this way. So map, a lot of people know you

  55. as worship It goes hand-in-hand with your work with do a lot of

  56. work with our young staff in addition to that.

  57. Yeah, maybe they don't really think about you in this role,

  58. right? You've had some real formative

  59. personal experiences and you talk a little bit about why you

  60. how you got in this game. Yeah yeah so I mean I think

  61. seven or eight years ago, our church did a series on death and

  62. if the same time we were looking at that and we did a series on

  63. that and then we also saw a a documentary on 60 Minutes about

  64. something called natural. Burial had never really heard

  65. that but saw that and kind of piqued her interest in the my

  66. dad who was a pastor in Seneca for a long time.

  67. He's now retired. He was a part of a burial at a

  68. place called Ramsey Creek up in Westminster and he came home and

  69. he buried, actually, a friend of mine that I grew up with that

  70. died, early. And as he got home, and he

  71. started explaining it to me about the men, they're taking

  72. their jackets off all working together, Barry and Matthew

  73. doing all that. His he described it to me when

  74. he got done talking about it. I was like, yeah, that's weird.

  75. Like I say this is weird and he goes actually he goes that was

  76. very different but it was extremely helpful for Crawford,

  77. who was the dad, burying his son, he goes.

  78. And that moment Crawford had all these men around him.

  79. They were all part of the process.

  80. He said, we all six men were standing around Berry and

  81. Matthew. So there were Parts where we

  82. laughed. We cried, we talked about

  83. Matthew, we were able to console Crawford.

  84. He said it was a very communal time and I thought in the moment

  85. I was like, okay, that's the church, that's what we've been

  86. missing. That's the piece that is very

  87. intriguing is to we're in a really dark grief, sometimes,

  88. dark sometimes joyful, but a grieving time, the church is

  89. there and the people that you've done live with our they're

  90. celebrating and crying and remembering and all the people

  91. that you want with them. They're an active participant in

  92. that piece and that was the thing that really caught my

  93. mind. Yeah.

  94. So that personal story was really catalytic for you.

  95. It was personally This has been a long process.

  96. We've been working on this as a church.

  97. Yeah, I think that, I think I had that conversation.

  98. My dad 78 years ago. It just started as digging and

  99. we met with. We just thought we would look

  100. for some land. We thought we would try to see

  101. what it looks like to possibly buy some acreage, and we learned

  102. a lot about the burial process. We've learned a lot about the

  103. state South Carolina and learned learned a lot about that.

  104. And then we actually talk to the people at Ramsey Creek, in

  105. Westminster Kimberly, and Billy, they were the pioneers of

  106. natural burial. Or green burial timed in the US.

  107. And the right here in EPs and they're in Westminster South

  108. Carolina and they are huge proponents and wonderful people

  109. to work with and a great resource and saved us from a

  110. thousand troubles. I'm doing this, we'll come back

  111. to them in just a second because I think there's an interesting

  112. distinction between maybe what we're doing and what they're

  113. doing, this will help our audience.

  114. Yeah. But the thing about story.

  115. Described the process. Like, what happens when someone

  116. passes away? Yeah, done this a few times now

  117. we have. So what just help people And how

  118. it's not weird. So currently if someone passes

  119. away, they contact our church and our care Department kicks

  120. into gear, which is who they are.

  121. They're great. I Jennifer deal.

  122. Sarah, Brandon Lee Ann cabin that crew gets to work.

  123. If someone passes away they call us and then we tell them

  124. currently we have a partnership with Palmetto Mortuary and right

  125. now, they are the partner that is able to pick up the body

  126. transport. You do have to have a burial

  127. transport permit. There are pieces we're not able

  128. to do currently. They were very happy to partner

  129. with us and so they go pick the body up store with us for

  130. however long we need, you need to do natural burial.

  131. Within five days is about as far as you go because the minute you

  132. die, 20 minutes your body starting to Decay.

  133. Yeah. So they do store the body in a

  134. freezer for us and then they transport the body to the burial

  135. area for us. We dig the hole we have

  136. volunteers currently that go out and dig the hole and get

  137. everything ready. And get the area ready and set

  138. and then Palmetto delivers the body for us and then we put it.

  139. And then when the family gets there, the body is there, it is

  140. laying on boards, kind of over the whole.

  141. And then what happens is during the during the service, it's for

  142. the family gets involved. They actively lower the body

  143. into the ground. They put dirt on and that's

  144. where you see family. And the last one I saw,

  145. grandchildren bearing, the grandma.

  146. We've had tons of people just write notes on the pot, Box on

  147. the time volunteers are making these boxes.

  148. That's right. Yeah volunteers are making the

  149. boxes. I mean, it is a very active

  150. thing for people in our church, their active participants of

  151. burial. This isn't for everybody.

  152. We're just saying this is an option right in some situations.

  153. I've heard when someone dies, the funeral home comes in and

  154. then they just feel like their loved one is just kind of gone

  155. and we wanted to bring that back in where you are.

  156. Actively you feel like you were taking care of people that you

  157. have done life. So people might think probably

  158. the close proximity Is Graveside service, right?

  159. Kind of intimacy at the burial site, right?

  160. But this is even more intimate than all of that you live on the

  161. bodies in the ground. I mean, a lot of times that

  162. funerals I've been to when the service is over you leave and

  163. then they lower the body and you are actively returning them to

  164. dust, right? You're the active participant

  165. at. So how did we get to this point?

  166. What's changed over the last couple of decades?

  167. Where it feels like like the church has gotten further

  168. disconnected from the burial process.

  169. I think just as a natural consequence of there are some

  170. business pieces that have happened over the years and

  171. there's some pieces where we don't understand what to do.

  172. So we've hate to say I was arrested in some ways, right?

  173. But we don't really know what to do professionals at doing this.

  174. It's a been a great service to people, but we did feel like for

  175. us. And it was one thing that

  176. Kimberly from Ramsey Creek, really challenged us on when we

  177. were in the room with her, she goes, I mean, This is actually

  178. what you're supposed to do. Meaning the church, the church.

  179. She gets the church's. Y'all believe in this.

  180. Ya'll believe in taking care of people.

  181. All the way to the end. She goes y'all believe in

  182. Resurrection. This should be the church.

  183. This should be what the church is about.

  184. And I remember when she said that, I was like, man, you're

  185. right? That is the true answer.

  186. And I think that is something that is clicked for me.

  187. And for the people that have been a part of it so far is that

  188. this is what we as the church or supposed to be doing.

  189. We're supposed to be we're not supposed to release this.

  190. Peace, once we get to it, we're supposed to be all hands on deck

  191. for the next five days. This is when we're a lie to you,

  192. we rallied to you every other time there's a grief or tragedy

  193. in your life, why would you not do it in Death?

  194. Yeah. You know I'm saying right?

  195. So I think that's the thing that's gotten clear to us is

  196. it's a great rallying point for us in that too.

  197. So a nice little gentle rebuke from the folks at ramsbury,

  198. Chris. Yeah, I mean very catalytic.

  199. It really was. And she and she didn't say in

  200. the meantime, she was just like, I mean, of all people.

  201. Believe in this one of the things is that we have

  202. integrated. I thought process of burial and

  203. our minds that we don't even know why.

  204. We think that we question what we've done for hundreds of years

  205. and now in the last hundred years, the game has changed.

  206. It's a fine thing. But now when I present it to

  207. people, there likes weird, why are we doing that?

  208. So even friend of mine, who's a pastor Mississippi, he and I

  209. were talking about it when night, he was tell me what

  210. you're working on. Is like, well, I've been working

  211. on this thing called Or burial. And he's a, what does that?

  212. And I told him and he after about two minutes is like I

  213. think in Mississippi, you have to be involved.

  214. I think it's a law as like I guarantee.

  215. It's not as like I live in South Carolina.

  216. You live in Mississippi. I guarantee.

  217. It's not and he goes, no, I think it is.

  218. I was like, I bet it's not. And so I got an email from him

  219. at 3:00 a.m., and he just all the email said was, it's not a

  220. long Mississippi, monk. So, he just said, I went to work

  221. and started researching and his point was to me later on, He's

  222. like I assumed things that had to be done and I didn't know and

  223. so I was just like this what you have to do.

  224. He said so like I'm not we're not even educated and we've

  225. integrated things into our lives that we haven't even root truly

  226. thought through and just adopted.

  227. And I think of anything just allows her people just to think

  228. and asks a questions about it and then once again interact

  229. with the death process, the burial process.

  230. That's one thing that I think it's a real disruptive idea that

  231. Oranges those assumptions in an area that people don't want

  232. think about. So it's fine.

  233. I'll just do whatever you tell me to do and I'll pay the money

  234. because I really don't want to engage.

  235. Yeah, the whole day. I don't want to think about

  236. death, right? And that was Ramsay.

  237. Creaks point is, this is actually what y'all believe in

  238. this is your point that your point is, this is when y'all are

  239. game, time is in the death process and y'all believe this

  240. more than anybody. And so we've a little bit

  241. separate herself from something that we say, we fully put our

  242. trust in her home. In.

  243. And so it's a little bit of a disconnect that we want to bring

  244. back together and reconnect. This explain the difference

  245. between what they're doing as a relates to Creation care.

  246. That's a part of it. Yeah, probably.

  247. So we have three big reasons why just kind of go through those

  248. reasons why this is really beneficial for our church.

  249. Yeah, I mean there are different areas and they get real

  250. technical. There's a difference between

  251. natural burial and green burial. There's different regulations

  252. that go on without. There's a different regulations

  253. that go with creating a cemetery.

  254. There's are all things that I've learned natural means you're

  255. returning, green means there's certain things that you're

  256. trying to do with the land. That there's some conservation

  257. things that you're working on some of it has to do around the

  258. way, your bearing or the way, you are preserving, the land and

  259. ours is not real around that ours is more around the care of

  260. our people and I don't think there's one more than the other.

  261. It's just they have a very different focus on what they're

  262. doing and what they're doing is great and if we didn't have

  263. this, that's where I'd want to be.

  264. Great is it Ramsey Creek, but we are being a little bit more

  265. utilitarian to disciple are people.

  266. So they're heavy on the environmental Environmental

  267. Conservation. Yes.

  268. And we'll talk more about the care for the body.

  269. Talk about the cost. That is a.

  270. Yeah, that's part of it. Yeah, one of the main things

  271. that we looked at was right now, the average, which I would say

  272. is not at your average, is about 10 grand in South Carolina,

  273. which I've not heard of one being 10 grand in well, but

  274. that's what's if you Google it, that's the Google.

  275. But we are looking right now at 2000 to 2500 dollars.

  276. So if we have 6,000 members I mean think about that.

  277. Think about the savings of 8,000, we bury 6,000 people over

  278. the next 50, 60 years. Think about the money, they get

  279. saved to do ministry that you're not putting money in the ground

  280. and it's just a I'm not trying to say it's a financial win but

  281. it does help you think about if you believe that you can't carry

  282. this with you. Then there is a piece of the

  283. yeah, it's a stewardship. It is a straight stewardship

  284. issue where you're just like, okay, I can do this.

  285. I believe that I'm not here. I'm going to spend this amount

  286. of money to get this done at the same time that deploys resources

  287. for other ministry, right? It is a financial stewardship

  288. issue. In a major way, there's the

  289. environmental piece, there's the financial stewardship piece.

  290. Those are two are secondary to the the piece that you've been

  291. talking about quite a bit, which is just the care for one another

  292. as church members, right? Tell us.

  293. It's a little bit so we've been actively burying.

  294. Yeah, for about six months. Yeah, and we closed on the land

  295. and summer of 2021 and we thought we would bury one person

  296. this year. I would say, through next.

  297. Summer is like I will probably want what buried, I think, we

  298. buried five. So it's made us, think about a

  299. lot and we've been busier than we don't.

  300. So what have you as far as this benefit of the church discipling

  301. families. All the way through the burial

  302. process. Us.

  303. What have you seen? Have you seen that?

  304. Really be a benefit. Well one of the very first ones

  305. was a member in Spartanburg his father passed away and his small

  306. group, his group of men and his small group helped bury his dad.

  307. And one of the small group leaders called me or texted me

  308. on the way home and was like, Hey, when y'all first started

  309. talking about this, I was like me.

  310. What are we doing? This is weird.

  311. He said, but I gotta tell ya. He said I've never been a part

  312. of anything. What I did today.

  313. He said, if you have anybody have any questions, you send

  314. them Spartanburg. He goes, we got a group of men

  315. out here that are fully on Bored because they were actively

  316. taking care of that man in Spartanburg who just lost his

  317. dad and he was like, I've never been able to in a tactile way be

  318. able to take care of somebody in that moment, the way I did.

  319. And so we've seen that we've seen people riding them boxes,

  320. just writing notes, people that I haven't had anybody returned

  321. from one of the burials out there and not be affected or

  322. seen the church rally like it and really a lot of them.

  323. Die words. They're just like man, I've

  324. never seen. Thing like that but I like it.

  325. They say it feels right. It feels like what we're

  326. supposed to be doing. When you go out there, talk to

  327. us a little bit about the physical.

  328. What is the price look like? Yeah, this little bit about.

  329. Yeah, firemen right. Well, it's 12 acres.

  330. It was an old tree farm and so there's still lots of Holly's

  331. out there. And so, it's a little bit of a

  332. mixture of field. Some tree area where there's

  333. still lots of trees and look at reform area.

  334. And then there is a really nice cool pasture where we're bearing

  335. currently. We are the next person in line.

  336. You're not getting plots, you're not.

  337. Hey, here's, I'd like to be buried on this tree picking your

  338. spot. No, you're really nice.

  339. This is very different. We're not selling pre pretty

  340. silly. No, I'd like to not do that.

  341. So, yeah, we're burying kind of in a row and people always ask

  342. their like wool, how do you know that you're not bearing on

  343. somebody else? And we do have a software that

  344. Maps out where people are and then you can go to that

  345. software. It will basically give you a GPS

  346. of where that person is buried. And actually when you type in

  347. the GPS, it'll tell you there will be two area if you want to

  348. read it through and stuff like that.

  349. I mean, all that's not fully set up.

  350. That is stuff that's we're working on right now on.

  351. And then we will continue to bury out there.

  352. We've had to do a lot of land kind of planning, which is why

  353. we tried to slow, play a little bit because we've had to kind of

  354. re-establish. A rework, some roads that were

  355. already there. There are some holes that from

  356. the tree farm that we've had to just we just did a lot of work

  357. in the last two weeks and so you can drive by it, not even know

  358. it's there but it's It is not a fancy.

  359. It's not groomed the graves, are there.

  360. There is grass that has grown up around them and but there are

  361. lots out there or there, or they marked.

  362. Yeah, they are Mark. There's a little stone with the

  363. name and the birth date, and the burial and the death date, and

  364. that's it. Probably in a couple of years.

  365. The way the earth works, the stones will, they'll be gone.

  366. We're not preserving any of that.

  367. It's marked right now and you can go find it, but it might be

  368. at some point that those just the Earth Eats a stone.

  369. That's kind of how we set it up as we were thinking about this

  370. podcast and particular, we're trying to focus on the why, why,

  371. why do we, why is this important?

  372. So, I mean, what would you want someone to think about God and

  373. Creation in all of this? Yes, well, I'm saying about that

  374. this morning and I was reminded of Ecclesiastes which tells us

  375. we return to dust. I was reminded that we say this

  376. Earth is not our home and we can't carry it with us.

  377. So, I was thinking about those two things and then I was

  378. thinking about, I believe in the resurrection, I believe in those

  379. things that don't make me. Hold onto this world a man.

  380. It's hard because I love this world.

  381. I struggle to not want to call this world, my home and at the

  382. same time when I go out there, I am reminded that this is looking

  383. for something in the future that actually will be way more

  384. rewarding and if I believe all those things then I won't hold.

  385. The things and I'll be okay. We're just saying you know?

  386. However, you'll need to bury me under my control.

  387. I'm good, I'm good for us to roll with this, you know, and

  388. I'm good for my resources to be left my family to do ministry.

  389. I'm good for you, not to spend a lot of time and go back.

  390. And have to remember me a bunch because I'm actually not there.

  391. And so there are a lot of those things that just feels unique to

  392. me. The other things you need to me,

  393. is that it's going to be a unique place where People that

  394. we have all done Ministry with, for a long time.

  395. We're going to be buried together.

  396. They're one of my volunteers, that was digging holes for me.

  397. He's the one that actually brought that up.

  398. He said, when I got done digging that hole the other day, I was

  399. out there and he said I just thought in the moment, he's a

  400. young guy, 25, two, young kids, and actually 28.

  401. But two young kids and he's like man I just was thinking the

  402. other day, he goes men and women that I have done Ministry with.

  403. I'm gonna be buried with these people right here and I never

  404. really understood Church cemeteries hundred-year-old

  405. Archie sees Church, cemeteries laid out there.

  406. And I was like, why did they do that?

  407. But it's because the church used to handle, right?

  408. Death and Burial at the family. The family have a family plot.

  409. You have all the family together.

  410. Your church was an active participant in that and it's a

  411. little bit of returning to that returning.

  412. To again, this is why this is important for us as a church.

  413. So, there's a care component, being able to really love each

  414. other all the way to the very end.

  415. There is a connection to the temporal nature of this world.

  416. Yeah. And then I love what you said

  417. about the resurrection of just being able to look forward to

  418. something. And it feels like if we

  419. disconnect, if we pull up, just short in the burial process of

  420. taking it all the way to the end, that maybe we miss some of

  421. those key markers that really connect us to God.

  422. That is, that is so true. It is something where if you

  423. look at the ministry we're doing it did feel like a disconnect

  424. for us that we were getting to a certain point even as we that

  425. strives that Julie Eldred has With seen your honor.

  426. Then once we get past that, then what do you do?

  427. Are we as a church obsolete, then I just did not feel right

  428. to us. Right?

  429. So we felt like we needed to have a part of it.

  430. Yeah, it feels like a real healthy.

  431. Correction of some unintended consequence.

  432. Yeah, have just developed over the last several decades.

  433. As we're all a lot more transient, we don't have the

  434. small rural church with the cemetery plot like this for my

  435. screw-up with that's right. And this has brought a topic

  436. back into our mind, but I think is really great.

  437. Great, right? And I mean the thing is whenever

  438. somebody comes to us, we always tell them.

  439. This is an option. We're not saying hey, you got

  440. our church, you got to do this because for some people, it's

  441. okay. It's just an option is something

  442. that we want to give them an option to do.

  443. Yeah. Yeah.

  444. So what do people do, if they want to find out more if they

  445. have questions, if they're interested in volunteering?

  446. Yeah, it's interesting. We had a meeting the other day

  447. with just an initial meeting with about a little over 50

  448. people that came. It said hey we want to volunteer

  449. everyone from working on the land because the land has to be

  450. but shocked every six weeks and grass cut and real tactile

  451. things like that to. We have a group that is

  452. currently building our caskets. We have a group that is making

  453. sure routes currently we have not buried anybody in a shroud

  454. but that is an option and is your over there.

  455. Either way. They should probably just reach

  456. out to Jennifer deal who's in charge of our care.

  457. She has been collecting all those people.

  458. And then we've got Volunteers running all that.

  459. We've got volunteers, running the casket building, we got a

  460. volunteer run in the Shroud building we got volunteers

  461. digging holes. I mean, it is, it is people

  462. that, I mean I had a guy the other day just say, hey, thank

  463. you for letting me serve this way.

  464. I'm getting to serve people and I didn't know this was going to

  465. be it, but this has been real rewarding for me, which I

  466. thought was an interesting take on what he was saying.

  467. And that's another way they answer the.

  468. Why question? Chris, that's another reason why

  469. this is important, is it brings in all these volunteers draw.

  470. Them in closer to their Devotion to God, by being able to serve

  471. people in some unique ways. That's right, that's right.

  472. Yeah. That idea of being able to do

  473. that with just a handful of other men that I know, and I'm

  474. getting to serve a family that has lost someone or I'm having

  475. my very close friends, help me navigate a very hard season.

  476. I remember my brother passed away many, many years ago, and

  477. that was just difficult for a family that loses a small.

  478. A child or a grandparent or this is an option for them to not

  479. just a financial stewardship option.

  480. But it's also just a chance to Rally together and care for one

  481. another in a unique way that we don't always have a chance to do

  482. that, and you can get plugged into community group, you can do

  483. life with people and you can get to know people and those are

  484. great things. And I think this is another way

  485. for us to rethink what it looks like for us to serve one another

  486. absolutely in a very, very difficult space.

  487. That's right. The two young guys right now

  488. that have dug our Graves for us. They do not know the people, I

  489. call them and I'm like, hey, we had somebody passed away in our

  490. church. The funeral is going to be in

  491. four days and a day later, I'll just get a picture of the whole

  492. duck. There's no questions there.

  493. Just like we are just serving the people are just serving

  494. whoever this family is, we don't need a bunch of details.

  495. We're ready to go. Yeah, and it's a unique thing.

  496. Yeah it is. I remember Matt Williams when we

  497. first started talking about some of this, he told a story to us.

  498. Some staff and he mentioned, you know, he's trying to cast a

  499. vision and capture our imagination is just imagine a

  500. couple that is newlywed and very young in their marriage and

  501. loses. Their child, think about the

  502. challenge that, that could be for them financially.

  503. Think about the challenge, this is a chance for us as a people

  504. to Rally around a couple like this sin and to do something

  505. that it. No one would.

  506. I mean, that's amazing. I mean, I remember what he told

  507. me that story and I was just imagined the way that we can

  508. love people really well. And I'm just really excited to

  509. see what happens as we do this month after month, year after

  510. year. And we have maybe you could I

  511. know you shared the first person that passed away and buried.

  512. But have we buried children have?

  513. I mean, could you talk a little bit more about that or how?

  514. Because we have other people that we bear we do we have not

  515. buried any children yet, it's all been people that are later

  516. and seasons in life which for all those a lot of them have

  517. been a little bit of a rejoicing.

  518. Yeah it's the time of suffering is over.

  519. And so those have not been as I mean I would say as tragic.

  520. Yeah. But that's still been unique in

  521. a different kind of Celebration. We have talked about like I said

  522. we have 12 acres, we have talked about setting up an area,

  523. possibly for a young life, lost a stillborn, a memorial or

  524. having an area to walk through something like that.

  525. And that's something an idea that we're looking at in the

  526. future. Once we get our feet under

  527. syllabus more, what we're doing, I mean death.

  528. And on all forms. It's not just it's not just the

  529. end and so we want to be ready for all of them.

  530. If we can just looking forward, somewhat going to have a chapel

  531. and put a chapel, we do, we would like to have a chapel out

  532. there. Like I said, we have the land

  533. for it. We have some equipment out there

  534. that has some people have been real gracious with us and

  535. donated, some very nice equipment for us to work the

  536. land. But the next thing we do need is

  537. we probably need a chapel Barn structure for us to have a

  538. service. We would love and it's great.

  539. It's not far from our Provost or camp.

  540. It's so we're able to do a service there if we need to and

  541. then come out there. But if we could have one area

  542. for people to Rally to and do a little service and then do the

  543. burial, it would be the ideal that we would want.

  544. If you're listening, that's not something you're interested in

  545. talking to and helping with Kelly.

  546. But yeah, conversation love to have a conversation with you.

  547. Matt commission us as leaders. For those of us in this

  548. audience, how would you want us to speak about natural barrier

  549. of someone asked us about this? Of course.

  550. Now they have a resource. That they can have a

  551. conversation with Rod, but how would you want us to speak about

  552. this? What would be some tips or just

  553. some things to equip us and having conversation with people

  554. about this, I think one of the ideas is that the idea around we

  555. want to be we want to be discipling are people from birth

  556. into death. We want to be a part of every

  557. stage of life and all the way into death.

  558. And so I think that's that's a little bit of a different

  559. language. We always talk about discipling

  560. people in your thinking about during the lifetime but One of

  561. the major things you can do to disciple, the family is help

  562. them bury their loved ones. And I think that was something

  563. that we were not a part of that, we aren't saying that we have it

  564. all figured out but we knew we needed at least take a step and

  565. get in the game and that's what this is.

  566. It's another way to disciple. Our people, we're disciple, are

  567. people that are losing their loved ones.

  568. And then the people that get to serve are being discipled,

  569. there's the part of it. Yes.

  570. So I had a guy that's building caskets for us right now and he

  571. wrote down crying the other night.

  572. Just told me. Thank you for him building

  573. caskets. He was grateful that he got to

  574. be a part of it and he does not know these people.

  575. He is just doing it to serve them and he was he called me

  576. crying talking about it and I was like meant.

  577. Thank you. You're the one actually serving

  578. these people and you're thanking me for the opportunity.

  579. I was like you're the one actually doing the work but the

  580. thing is that guy's being discipled like there's something

  581. happening God's working in his heart, the way way, this is

  582. going where he is getting to serve people with nothing in

  583. return. He's just getting ready to help

  584. these people in a very dark time, and he's grateful for it

  585. and God's using that to the disciple him.

  586. So Chris, it seems like death is something, obviously, it's an

  587. uncomfortable topic. It is.

  588. And it feels like it's something that to be endured.

  589. And I think just changes the conversation because it's

  590. inevitable. It's not something that has to

  591. be feared. If you are a follower of Jesus

  592. and believe in the resurrection, believe in the new heavens and

  593. new earth, so it seems like it's an opportunity to reclaim and

  594. Something back and disciple, and help people Embrace, instead of

  595. indoor, that's give anything. So, the point, I think that the

  596. church, you know what, I hear Matt say is the church,

  597. normalizing the conversation and actually bringing the truth and

  598. the hope that we all talked about.

  599. But this is like a physical embodiment different way of

  600. expressing that hope which I think is going to be real

  601. powerful for our church. Yeah.

  602. Ever, how long we get to do it? That's right.

  603. Yeah. Well man, this has been great.

  604. Matt appreciate it. I mean, is there anything else

  605. you want to leave with? Us know, I'm grateful for this

  606. opportunity and I'm excited about how this disciples are

  607. people in future. I mean that's what it is.

  608. Really that's great. Well thanks again.

  609. Thank you. Thanks Matt.

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