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Dealing with Death - Genesis 49:28-50:14 - Sunday Sermon
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Good morning everyone. Morning. Welcome
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to Boon Fairy.
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My name's Mati Scaring and I'm glad
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you're here today. It's actually a
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special Sunday. It's Boonfair's 50th
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anniversary. Can you believe that?
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I found out um that Boon Fair started in
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uh 1975 from Vern. But I also had to
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research it because when we originally
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demoed the walls of the stage, we had
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concerns that there was going to be
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asbestos in them, which is like
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absolutely massive spending to do the
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mitigation of that. And so right around
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that time is when they stopped using
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them. So we prayed and they didn't find
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any asbestos. So that was that was
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amazing. But um I thought about what I
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could say that would be the most
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honoring kind of thing for the church.
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And um we are going to be having cake
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afterwards in a celebratory way. So hang
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out with us afterwards if you want to
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and you can get a piece of cake. But um
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I'm actually kind of amazed to think
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about it. I've been here for a fifth of
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the existence of the church now. It does
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not feel like it's been that long. I've
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been here for eight years, nearly nearly
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a decade. Um it just went by so fast. Um
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but church turnover is a lot. People,
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you know, get upset, they leave or they
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leave for just fine reasons, whatever it
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is. It's it's very rare to have people
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that are in your church for almost the
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entirety of the church. And I want to
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honor some of the men and women that
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have been here that long. And if if I
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miss you or if you've been here for a
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while and then stand up too if I don't
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name you, but um I'm going to start on
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the on the lower end and then come up
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higher. So I want to I want to have Ben
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Jansen step up. That's 41 years uh time
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that he's been here at Boon Ferry.
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and he's an elder at Boon Fairy and he's
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41 years old. He's never even been to
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another
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church. Just kidding. But uh then also
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Mike Crowley, 42
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[Music]
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years. And then Mitch and Jenny Jansen.
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And we were trying to calculate it
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somewhere between 42 and 43 years. And
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they're there. Maybe just wave if you
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don't want to stand
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up. But but Vern, you got to stand up.
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48 years faithful to one church. Come
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on, stand up. Also an elder at our
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church. Those numbers are highly unusual
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and you know just as well as I do the
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faithfulness. I mean, you go through
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some rough seasons in a church when you
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are there for decades. So, I just that's
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probably what I'm most thankful about.
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I'm thankful that Boon Fairy exists and
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that it was originally a church plant,
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you know. Um I You want to tell us how
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much they bought this entire land for
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back in the day? You've told me before,
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but I don't want to get the number
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wrong.
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Yeah, I'm I'm not going to be able to
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repeat all that or tell the story as
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well as Vern has who actually knows all
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about it, but just for those listening
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at home, uh the very purchase of the
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land uh was something that God
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orchestrated and would not have happened
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without him. And so God really started
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this church and it's been um a joy to be
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the pastor here. I'm thankful espec I
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mean you guys are an example to me that
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kind of faithfulness. I I hope I get to
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retire at Boonferry and I'm not looking
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forward to retiring. I will preach here
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as long as I can and as long as it seems
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like the right thing to continue to do
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um depending on age and those kinds of
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things. Um but I'm thankful for Boon
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Fairy. I'm thankful for all of you who
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are attending and I don't believe that
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God has done and as long as we remain
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faithful there's no reason that our
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church shouldn't be 100 years old and
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thriving by then. So let me pray for
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Boon Ferry. And we thank God for the 50
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years that he has caused this church to
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survive and even thrive. And then we'll
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get right into Genesis. Heavenly Father,
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it's only by your grace that any
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community stays
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together. It's only by your grace that
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it's founded in the first place and
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continues. You sustain all things,
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including the church. We're thankful for
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your promise that even the gates of hell
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will not prevail against the church. Uh
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that does not however mean that there
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aren't individual local churches that
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sometimes fold. And so we still rely on
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you and we're so thankful for the 50
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years that you've given this church. I
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am personally very thankful for the
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commitment of those that have been here.
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Uh some of them almost their entire
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lives and and some of them more than
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half of their lives. What an example of
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faithfulness that is to us of steadfast
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love to one community. I pray that you'd
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bless them for that in their lives in
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ways that they recognize and then praise
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you for as well. And I ask that we would
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have a fun time celebrating after church
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today. Uh now we want to shift gears
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though, Lord, and look to your word,
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which is what Boon Fairy is about. It's
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about what you teach us about Jesus
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Christ and him crucified and your word.
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And so we want to have our hearts opened
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to your word and your word open to our
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hearts, which is something we know we
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only have by the spirit. We're thankful
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for that, too, in Jesus name.
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Amen. We are in Genesis 49:28. So, the
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very end of Genesis 49 and then we're
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finishing up about half of uh Genesis
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50. This is the second to last sermon in
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Genesis. We've been in Genesis now for
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the better part of 2 years. Um, and it
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honestly feels like we haven't really
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even plumbed the depths. It's just
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amazing how much there's been here. But
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there's something climactic happening
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here that you might miss. You might
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think, "Oh, this is just about reporting
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Jacob's death and burial." But honestly,
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other than the famous line of what you
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meant for evil, God meant for good and
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for the saving of many lives. Um, I
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think there's a a climactic portion here
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because if we've recently been in
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Joseph's life, right? But if you
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remember back when we went to Jacob's
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life, try to when we're going through
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Jacob's life, try to remember the
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feelings you had when you saw what he
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did to Esau. He cheated him out of his
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birthright. He lied and stole his
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blessing. Uh, Esau was in tears, weeping
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over that. He mistreated his brother
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grievously. And he didn't need to. God
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was going to give both of those things
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to him anyway. They were promised to him
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to his parents before their birth
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prophetically. Um, and so that seems to
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be this pattern all the way through the
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patriarch's life where even when God
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promises them the world, literally that
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they will inherit the earth. The only
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reason we will inherit the earth is
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because we've been included in that
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Abrahamic covenant. We really will
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inherit the earth. Um, the new heavens
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and the new earth ultimately. um even
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though they're given these extravagant
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promises and they're unconditional, it's
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nothing they did caused it to be brought
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about and nothing they could do would
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take it away. It's a unilateral
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unconditional covenant. And you can see
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that all the way through because they
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seem to think not I don't want to accuse
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the patriarchs, but if you look at it,
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it's like are you just doing whatever
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you can to thwart God's plan? So he
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says, "I'm going to give you a child
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through Sarah, your wife." A bio child
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as we call him today. So what do they
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do? Well, it's not happiness, so I'll
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take a concubine. Their solution to
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God's plan not working is polygamy.
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Ridiculous, right? They're called men of
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faith. They live their life. And that's
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actually where I'm going with this. I
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just like to say it because um I think
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it's a huge mistake to judge men that
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God gives a a you know, a faith grade
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out, right? They're they were righteous
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by faith and there's nobody that's
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that's righteous in any way except for
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by faith and not their actions. But we
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have to take their sin seriously and the
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patterns especially. There was
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cowardice, there was thieving, there was
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um and and each one of them seems to
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have a different sort of set uh or
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species of sin. But one thing they all
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have in common is they try to do God's
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uh will their way. They try to do God's
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will their way. It was the same with
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Isaac. he actually copied some of the
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sins like oh I'm afraid so I'm just
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going to pretend like you're my sister
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to this king you know and then for uh
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Sarah twice was taken into that king's
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herum to be his wife and the only reason
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she was protected um was God's grace to
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Abraham. Same thing happens with with
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Isaac. He he repeats that sin and then
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Jacob seems like he's actually the worst
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of the patriarchs in terms of looking
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he's he's a cheater. He's a liar. He he
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steals. He's a manipulator and he he has
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this this really ugly favoritism, right?
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And we watched all that and we took it
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seriously as sin. Again, hopefully not
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judging him. Christians do judge Jacob.
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And uh uh there's with the measure you
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use will be measured to you. So if you
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want to enter God's school of hard
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knocks, judge a patriarch. It's a great
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way to do it. Um but my point is
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actually just that you know you would
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think that we titled the series Genesis
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creation fall and redemption. You know I
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would say creations in chapter 1 through
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three there's the fall in three and then
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all the way through 11 the flood is the
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result of that fall ultimately and the
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only reason God doesn't just destroy the
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whole world again is his own promise not
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to do it. And then everything from
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Genesis 11 on has been this story arc of
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redemption. You might think, well, when
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we're in the portion of of Jacob, is the
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redemption really happening? Because
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they don't seem to be getting better.
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And then along comes Joseph, right? A
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man who has that pattern broken in his
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life and not without pain. Um he all out
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of all the patriarchs who trusted God's
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sovereignty most even when in suffering.
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Him. Him. Over and over and over again.
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There's not one mention explicitly of
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him taking God's will into his own hands
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like any of his fathers did. But what
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about Jacob? Is Jacob's life going to be
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redeemed? Do we find evidence? We talked
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about that. We talked about how he ends
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up actually giving up Benjamin and how
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he really did love his sons. He just
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happened to love any son. Um started
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with favoritism of one wife. You know,
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it's it's going to happen in polygamy.
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It's not God's plan. It's never right or
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good. It wasn't right uh then. Um but uh
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God was gracious still because of this
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amazing co amazing covenant. But he he
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had this favoritism for any son born of
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Rachel and that was Joseph and and
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Benjamin. And the other sons
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hated hated Joseph for it. That became
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the focus of their hatred because they
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didn't have the love they wanted from
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their father. And so ultimately Joseph
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is sold into slavery and uh Jacob loses
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him and then um he still has Benjamin
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but he even gives up Benjamin. And you
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also just to rewind he he got a mirror
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image of himself in Laban. Remember that
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if if if you refuse to give up a pattern
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of your sin, God's going to put someone
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else in your life that has the exact
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same pattern so you can feel exactly how
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terrible it is. He does that over and
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over and over again. He's done it in my
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life. Um, and often times it'll require
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somebody else when you're griping,
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complaining of that about that person be
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like, "You're the exact same kind of
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person, man." You know, it's a friend
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that says that and doesn't hate you, by
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the way. Don't reject those kinds of
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people. Um, but anyway, you get all the
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way to the end of the story and here
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he's he's died and it says death and
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burial. And did was there any real
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redemption of his life? And how would
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you know? And I want to I want to with
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that said um before even really proving
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that this ma is the main point of the
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passage I want to put the main point up
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because it's an unbelievably hopeful
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one. Even though we die, God's
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redemption has the last
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word. Even though we die, God's
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redemption has the last word.
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We're going to see that here in this
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passage that you might think when
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someone dies and certain sins that they
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had committed weren't really broken and
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they didn't ever really repent of them
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that that means God redemptions failed.
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But I'm going to show you biblically how
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that is not at all true in a very real
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way. Every single person that dies in
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faith will be fully redeemed. And you
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can be certain of that. But there's
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something special here about the last 17
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years of Jacob's life that shows just
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how much redemption happened in his
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life. And we're going to be talking a
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lot about death here. So, uh, it's I
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don't think it's going to be easy sermon
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for some. Uh, I think our culture is
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very much death avoidant, but also
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deeply entertained by death. Kind of a
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paradox. Uh, they're avoidant of really
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talking about death in its weighty real
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sense. Uh, but there's seemingly I mean
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there's a huge entertainment history
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industry about movies and shows that are
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all just about the entertainment of
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death per se. We're going to talk about
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that too. But when you really look at
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what death actually is and and allow
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yourself to feel those feelings, it's
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weighty. And I understand why people
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tend to gravitate away from it. But
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because this is what God's word is about
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today, we're going to talk about it. If
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you don't remember anything else, just
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remember that in your life and in any
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Christian's life by faith, um, even
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though we die, God redemption has the
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last word. Let's get into verse 28 of
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Genesis
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49. All these are the 12 tribes of
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Israel. This is what their father said
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to them as he blessed them, blessing
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each with the blessings suitable to him.
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To be honest, you can go to any other
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translation, NASB, KJV, NIV, CSB, HCSB,
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any other one, and they'll group 28 with
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27. I, after researching, have no idea
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why the ESV, which among those
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translations is my is my favorite. Not
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that I don't enjoy aspects of the other
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ones. Um, but it should have really
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belonged with the last portion. I'm not
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sure why they separated 28 from 27. Um,
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and we've already dealt with in a past
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sermon that was about Jacob blessing
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each one of his sons with prophetic
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blessings and consequences suitable to
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them. And that's only possible um for
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him to do because God gave him those
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words. They're ultimately God's
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blessings and consequences. And so,
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we're not going to deal much with 28
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because it belongs to a past sermon.
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Really, in a way, our sermon starts with
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verse 29. Then he commanded them, that's
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his his sons, and said to them,"I am to
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be gathered to my people. Bury me with
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my fathers in the cave that is in the
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field of Ephron the
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Hittite." It's so easy to
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just run right over a verse onto the
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next verse. But there's a lot here in
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just those words. I am to be gathered to
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my people. I'm to be gathered to my
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people. I'd like um Matthew 22, the very
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first verse I gave you guys. Matthew 220
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20 2232 to be put up. This is what Jesus
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said. I am the God of uh this is what
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Jesus a quote from Jesus red letter if
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you have a red letter. I am the God of
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Abraham and the God of Isaac and the God
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of Jacob. He is not God of the dead but
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God of the
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living. That had already been revealed.
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you know, you'll actually find liberal
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scholars talking about how um heaven and
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the idea of an eternal state after uh
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death is not something that's talked
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about in the in the Old Testament. It's
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just a blatant lie. It's talked about
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all the time in the Psalms, life
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everlasting and joy everlasting. And
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right here, Jacob is talking about being
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gathered to his people. And it's not
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just an idiom about I'm going to die.
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He's going to be gathered back to
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Rachel, to Isaac, to Abraham. He hasn't
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seen Rebecca since he left home. No
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evidence that he ever got to see her
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again. That was the final goodbye for
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them. That was one of the costs that God
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did not alleviate of him having been a
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cheater and a liar in relationship to
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his brother. Never get to see her mom
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again. He was close with her and he was
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going to get to see her again. And yes,
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there are some changes. He won't see
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Rachel again as his wife. Jesus makes
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very clear there's no marriage in heaven
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in that way. And that's sometimes hard
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for people to understand or accept. It's
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not anywhere near the scope of of this
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sermon. And so we're not going to deal
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with it. But the reality is he does get
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to see them again. I think often times,
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probably more often than not, the way we
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feel about someone dying on earth that
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we cared about is that we've lost them.
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That's the primary way. We think
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probably less about how they have
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returned to relationships they've been
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missing. family members, faithful
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departed
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ones. But this is really actually
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something Jacob was looking forward to
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being gathered to his people. And to me
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that shifts the view. Um there's not a
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single person of God, whether Old
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Testament or New Testament Christian who
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believes in Jesus Christ that once they
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die and go to heaven would ever want to
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come
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back. It's not because they don't love
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you. It's because now they have been
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fully redeemed. There's no more sin. not
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in them and not in others. They're
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around the people they've been
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missing. Especially if you've lived into
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an older age, you have seen and been to
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a lot of funerals and there's been
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plenty of loved ones that you can't wait
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to see again and hope ultimately we're
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saved. And so he's being gathered to his
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people and he's he's looking forward to
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it. In that way, for those who die,
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death is just an open door to
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unimaginable joy
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everlasting. And our whole faith is
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based on that. By the way, this whole
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church is just worthless. If that's not
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true, everything I could ever say is
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worthless if the resurrection isn't
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real. Paul says that. I'm not saying
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that other than that Paul says it. So
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that's the foundation of everything we
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preach in the gospel is that we will be
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resurrected to eternal life by faith in
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Jesus Christ in his cross and that we
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will live forever and there will be no
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more tears and no more mourning and no
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more loss of relationship ever again.
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Why would you ever want to leave that?
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Just the being sinless alone would not
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be I would not leave.
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So that doesn't mean that but I mean
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what's really happened when someone dies
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is they switch dimensions and I don't
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mean switch dimensions like they remain
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in a physical dimension the way science
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is positing the idea that there may be
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more than one dimension. I believe there
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is more than one dimension but the
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dimensions are categorically different.
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There's a spiritual dimension where God
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dwells and there's the dimension of
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creation. Um, so heaven is I I think I
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you think you can think of it as a
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spiritual dimension. You can't get
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there. There's no lever that science has
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to get you there. There's no way to
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manipulate yourself uh with any kind of
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power to get to that place. Um it's a
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place you go by faith just by trusting
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and believing God's gospel. Um so that's
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where people go. They in a very way in a
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very real way it's it's like they've
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left us to go somewhere else uh but are
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alive and we will see them
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again. It's it's it's a little bit more
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like way back in the day when if you
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left from Europe to America, you're
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probably not coming back as an average
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person. So, it's a final goodbye. And
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maybe there's some, you know, male or
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maybe not even. But it's it's in a way
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it's death for us is that kind of
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goodbye. Let's go to the next verse. Uh
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1 Corinthians 15 uh 54 because Paul has
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something to say about how the sting of
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death is gone. When the perishable puts
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on the imperishable and the mortal puts
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on immortality, then shall come to pass
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the saying that is written, "Death is
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swallowed up in victory. Oh death, where
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is your victory? Oh death, where is your
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sting? The sting of death is sin, and
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the power of sin is the
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law. But thanks be to God who gives us
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victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
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So we we do not mourn death like the
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world mourns. What are some of the words
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that you would put in the place of the
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difference? Well, one of them would be
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hope. We mourn with hope. What's the
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opposite of hope? I mean, maybe despair.
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So we do not mourn with despair. We
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mourn with hope. We mourn with a very
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concrete hope that we will see the
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people that died in faith
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again. So we mourn with with even a joy
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over what they're currently experiencing
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too and a thankfulness that they've been
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reunited with the people that they've
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been
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missing. That the sting has been taken
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out because there is no despair. I was
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speaking of Vern. Um he talks about
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Japanese culture sometimes and how he
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was speaking to I think it was a
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Japanese man and I forget exactly the
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story and I'm going to botch you if I
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try to tell it but the moral of the
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story was basically that this Japanese
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man was so impressed by American
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funerals because they're nothing like
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Japanese funerals. And I'm saying this
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vicariously. I don't know anything about
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Japanese funerals. But what he was
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saying was there was this hope and even
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joy in memorializing the person and and
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that at least at the time that he had
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experienced whenever he told Vern this
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was just entirely absent from that and
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um Japan has been relatively
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impenetrable to the gospel.
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So there's just a lot of it's it's not a
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hostility like some militant atheist
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hostility, but it's just kind of um
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another story in a lot of those um
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Japanese hearts and minds. We could pray
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for that. But the point is um there is a
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a desperation to stay alive in those who
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do not have that kind of hope.
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That's why I believe there was a
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difference between the way that
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Christians reacted to CO.
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Um, was it a threat to life? Yes. Was it
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a threat to life that justified the
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response of terror? Definitely not. I
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mean, how are people going to react if
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there's actually like a 10 or 20% chance
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you
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die? Can you imagine what will happen?
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So, there's no courage either. We face
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death with a courage. With a courage.
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You might not like the fact that your
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pastor's a gamer, but I am. But I like
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to think um I play a game where I have
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zero lives. They call a rogike game.
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It's like arcade. You die, you go all
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the way back to the beginning. Very
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differently than one that I have
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two, right? We have two. And the second
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one you can't lose. So there shouldn't
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be the same kind. It doesn't mean we
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take this light this life lightly or
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foolishly do things that harm our
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bodies. Not the point at all. But
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there's a huge difference and and there
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was for Jacob too. We're going to talk
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more about that difference as we go on.
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But Jacob says, "Bury me with my fathers
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in the cave that is in the field of
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Ephron the Hittite." Verse 30, "In the
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cave that is in the field of Mebilah to
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the east of Mamray in the land of
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Canaan, which Abraham bought with the
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field from Ephron the Hitittite to
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possess as a burying place. There he
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buried Abraham and Sarah his wife, and
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there he buried Isaac and Rebecca his
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wife. And there he buried Leah, all who
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he is about to see again. And the field
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of the cave that is in the in it were
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bought from the Hittites. When Jacob
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finished commanding his sons, he drew up
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his feet into the bed and breathed his
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last and was gathered to his people.
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Then Joseph fell on his father's face
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and wept over him and kissed him.
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So, we just got done talking about how
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death for the faithful, those who
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believe in the one true God in terms of
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an Old Testament sense of those who
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believe in the death and resurrection of
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Jesus Christ for our sin and for the
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hope of eternal life uh face death in a
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very different way with hope with
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courage not with despair and
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overwhelming and controlling fear. But
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that does not mean that we do not mourn.
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It does not mean that we do not weep. It
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does not mean that you might not at
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times
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feel overwhelmed with emotion when
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you've lost someone that you've
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loved. I've thought a lot about the idea
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of the second greatest command. The
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first is to love the Lord your God with
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all your heart, with all your soul, with
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all your mind, or with all your
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strength. Um, but the second is to love
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your neighbor as yourself. Second
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greatest thing you can ever do according
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to God is to learn and grow how learn
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how to love others and grow in that
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love.
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which when you're
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married, that's the primary person
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you're to be learning how to love. And
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if you have succeeded in growing in love
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for them, then it's all the more painful
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when they
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die. I think marriage, the loss of a
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spouse may be the hardest loss of all
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because there is uh by the spirit, a
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portion of the spirit has been given to
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make you one in a mysterious way. You're
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not one with anyone else like that, any
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other human being on earth like that.
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And so that's there's a tearing apart of
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that. There's a death is is terrible in
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that way. And it may not feel like the
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victory at the time. I think a death of
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of parents especially from a young age,
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but at any time is another terrible a
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death of siblings, a death of a close
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friend.
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You've probably I don't know maybe maybe
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some of you have not experienced that. I
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remember
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um I probably should not have had
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favorite uncles. Um but Uncle Byron was
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one of my favorite uncles and it's
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probably just because of how much he
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paid attention to me. And he's very
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wealthy, lived in Tahoe. And I got a
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call, this is a while ago, years ago
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now, um that he had fallen off his bike
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and he was unconscious. I thought he
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maybe hit his head or something, but
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there was no evidence of trauma to the
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head. Um, and that he was on life
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support in the hospital. And so we um
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flew to Reno, drew from Reno to Tahoe.
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And I had opportunities talking uh to
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his brothers and I'll hopefully return
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to that story because I want to tell you
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something that all my uncles were
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talking about that really left an impact
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on me. But I got to the hospital. I
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looked at Byron and I don't know how to
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explain it, but his eyes were closed in
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a way that I knew his spirit had already
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departed his body. And I just tried not
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to I just went to the bathroom because I
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didn't want to get emotional around his
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wife Yasa. I wanted to be I felt I
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should be strong for her and um not
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unfeilling but just not making it about
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me and crying. That's how it felt. You
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know, I don't know that that's really
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the case when I think it's fine to cry
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around someone you think may be dead. Uh
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but the point is that I just I just knew
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it was just the life support that was
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propping him up. Uh, I don't know if
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you've ever seen an open casket, but
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it's it's strange. It's like the
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eyelids, they're just not they're not
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alive. They're not
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asleep. They're not asleep. They're
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dead.
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So, I've I've been confronted with
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death, but that's an uncle. And although
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I was close to him, it's nowhere near as
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close as I am to some of you, nowhere
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near as close as I am to uh friends
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outside the church, obviously. Nowhere
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near as close as I am to Christine. So
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when you but I think about my parents
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they they're getting older. My mom's
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limping, walks with a cane, had a botch
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surgery, nerve can't feel her leg from
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her. So I'm I'm seeing it and it
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happened like that like they were kind
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of a young 70 and all of a sudden now
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they seem like their age in their mid70s
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and uh so I'm thinking about that and I
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love my parents very much. So yeah,
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there's mourning and the Bible
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legitimates that and that there's time
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for morning. Let me read on. 40 days
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were required. Uh, excuse me. Verse two.
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And Joseph commanded his servants, the
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physicians, to embalm his father. So the
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physicians imbalmed Israel. 40 days were
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required for it. For that is how many
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are required for imbalming. And the
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Egyptians wept for him 70 days. It's not
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immediately obvious what the 40 days of
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inbalming are included in the 70 days.
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It seems to me the way emotion works to
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be weird to like wait for 40 days before
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you start mourning. So my guess is they
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were included. Um and and the 70 days is
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an Egyptian tradition. My point is not
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like that's that should be how long we
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mourn. Um but there was a time period
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given for it, a formal time period, a
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recognition that this need this is so
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important that we need to spend a
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significant amount of time uh allowing
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ourselves to mourn this beloved man. I'm
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going to go to Ecclesiastes 3:4 because
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the Bible Bible says there is a time to
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mourn. There's a time to weep, a time to
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laugh, a time to mourn, a time to dance.
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So let nobody ever tell you that you
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that it's somehow unspiritual to weep.
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It's not. It does not mean that you
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don't believe that the sting of death
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has been taken out. It does not believe
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mean that it's sort of you're giving an
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unfaithful witness to the victory over
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it. Jesus wept and he is the victory.
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He's the resurrection and he wept over
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Lazarus death. So, there's more than
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enough proof in the Bible that you
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should feel your feelings around
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mourning and death. You
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should, it's not wrong to, in fact, and
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I'm speaking more from experience. Um,
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but I don't believe this is in any way
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against the grain of scripture. Uh, but
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I'm speaking more from experience in
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applying this spiritually. I believe
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that when we repress our feelings or
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suppress them, honestly don't know the
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difference between those two words, but
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when you shove them down and try to
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cover them up, which it takes a a lot of
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power to do that. It takes powerful
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things. Uh you might be able to do it
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with entertainment. You might be able to
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do it with alcohol. Um looking for kids
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here, not that many. You could do it
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with sex. Anything that's really
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powerful
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can suppress really deep emotion. You
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have to distract yourself from it or you
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have to put some kind of layer between
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you and it. I want to tell you a story
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about how that happened to me. And I I
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think it's actually somewhat of a
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humorous one. At least my parents
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laughed at me when it happened. But um
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so I got my wisdom teeth pulled and they
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I think they put me on Percoet Vicodin,
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something like that. And it just didn't
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even seem to touch the pain like this
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white hot screaming pain. And I I
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thought I was tough. I don't know how
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high my pain tolerance is after watching
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my wife give birth naturally to six
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children and barely make a peep. Even
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the the midwives were like there was uh
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somebody's um daughter that I knew came
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as like a that was her like observation
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of that and they're like you're going to
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have to come again. This is not a normal
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enough
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sample. Yeah. It's almost like a silent
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birth. Um but
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um so so I'm not even saying I
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necessarily have a high pain tolerance,
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but this was extreme. And so my mom took
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me back to the doctor and he gave us a
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prescription for I think it was
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something like demoral significant step
-
up. Um and he I I wasn't really paying
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attention what he was saying but I
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remember afterwards he told us that this
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is is so powerful that it can actually
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affect your emotions as in suppress
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them. So you need to get off of it as
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soon as this prescription is done. Don't
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ask for another one. I'm not going to
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give it to you. Um and so uh that that
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happened. I I didn't care about school
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as much as uh some people did, but I I
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cared about succeeding at what I wanted
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to do enough to not just like not care
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at all. But I remember I didn't care
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about wrestling. I didn't care about
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football. I didn't care about I forget
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what season it was. I didn't care about
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school. I didn't care about video games.
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I didn't care about really anything. It
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just kind of seemed But it's weird. You
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don't really notice. it's in the back of
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your mind that you don't care. And so
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some of these pharmaceuticals have have
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a very emotion suppressing effect. Some
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of them that is either the side effect
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or the actual intended use for them. And
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so then I didn't really do as much
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homework. Um most of my life is driven
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by passion per se. I've learned that
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that's not always a good fuel, but
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sometimes it is when directed by God.
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And so if I'm not interested, I just
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don't really do it. um unless I have to
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and unless it's good to do it anyway
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just by duty. But in this case, the
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first subject that goes out the window
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is math, especially things that I've
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deemed um no real world application. And
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there's lots like long division by hand.
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Give me a real world application other
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than teaching other people that. Um
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someone said like, "What about the
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apocalypse?" So, I'm like, if your
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greatest concern in the apocalypse is
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losing calculators and that you can't do
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long division by hand, I don't even know
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what to say. But anyway, long story
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short, I the only thing in my opinion
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more worthless than learning long
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division by hand is proofs in geometry.
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Proofs in geometry. And uh so we were
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have a test and it's all proofs and I
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hadn't been studying. And so I got like
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a C minus in the test and I took it home
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and I just showed my parents and melted
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into tears and my mom laughed like she's
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pretty emotionally careful and she just
-
laughed like who is this kid that all of
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a sudden started caring about grades and
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math you know what had happened is I
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went off to Denver all and all those
-
emotions just kept coming out and I'm
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I'm ashamed I cried about proofs I can
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never I'm a man who cried about proofs
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Right? So, that's a funny story about
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emotion popping out, but that's not
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always the way it goes when you've
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suppressed your emotion. Sometimes you
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end up saying something you can't take
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back that deeply wounds a
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person. Maybe they just decide not to be
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your friend ever again. And that would
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be wrong, especially if you sought
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forgiveness, but it may not be something
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within your control again. people have
-
gotten fired uh that I know for that
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exact reason. They've been letting
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stress build and build and build and
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build and been suppressing the emotion,
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try to keep it all contained and
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eventually to boom, right? And if it's
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boom at your boss, you might get fired,
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right? There can be in marriage in what
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about in relationship to your children.
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Children are pretty resilient. Like you
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say you're sorry that you said
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something,
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but sometimes it sinks down into their
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little hearts and it's like a little
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negative code, a virus you wrote on the
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operating system of their soul. Right. I
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I still remember um a friend of mine
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said that um all he ever really
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remembers his dad saying is, "You're a
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knucklehead and you'll never amount to
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anything." His dad was angry. And my
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guess is that his dad didn't really mean
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that like every morning woke up and it's
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like that guy will definitely not amount
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to anything. He said it in anger.
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Probably it's some kind of repetitive
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thing that he had done. But still it it
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wrote a code on his life that he had to
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undo, debug, cause all kinds of
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problems. So if if you're suppressing
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emotion, this is not a good thing. You
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don't want to push. You need to feel all
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of the feelings of loss that you feel.
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And there's a time for that. God says
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there's a time for that. But that time
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also has to come to an end. This is the
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portion of the sermon that I worried
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about the most that I care about. Well,
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I don't know about care about the most,
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but I'm the most concerned that I might
-
be misunderstood or that you might not
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receive it. Uh because there's no one
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that can tell you, "Well, it's this many
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days and then you have to stop
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mourning." Where does it say that in the
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Bible? This is not prescriptive. It's
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just what they did. But I am here to
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tell you that at some point you have to
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come out of it. It's crushing to the
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spirit to just keep mourning and
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mourning. It will diminish you as a
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person. God will call you out of that.
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And when he does, and you don't, it
-
begins to cause a drift between you and
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him because he's got a purpose for you
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in that morning. any morning, any
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affliction, any difficulty that you face
-
that causes suffering or pain, God has a
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purpose for it, we call that purpose
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comfort. Let's go to the very next. This
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is one of my favorite passages in all of
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scripture regarding comfort. And it's um
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I think 2 Corinthians chapter 1 3-5. If
2 Corinthians 1 chapter mention
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you guys could put that up. Blessed be
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the God and father of our Lord Jesus
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Christ, the father of mercies and the
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God of all
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comfort, who comforts us in our
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affliction, so that we may be able to
-
comfort those who are in any affliction
-
with the comfort with which we ourselves
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are comforted by God.
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There's I wish it wasn't so, but there's
-
a way that God
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works in our suffering and through our
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suffering and sometimes even bringing
-
suffering into our lives. I mean, he's
-
in charge of all life and death. No one
-
ever dies except by his permission. So,
-
you know, he could have stopped someone
-
from dying. He could have healed someone
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if you want to. All death is ultimately
-
a God issue when you're being honest.
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And so you got to take it to him. And he
-
has a plan for our morning and it's
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comfort. But it goes beyond just
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comforting us. He builds in us a
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capacity to understand experientially
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not just the pain of loss through death
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or whatever kind of suffering you
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experience, but then also the experience
-
of him comforting you in it. And what
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can you then do with the experience of
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comfort during affliction? you can bring
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it to somebody else. It's not even just
-
about you being able to understand what
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it's like for people to suffer or for
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you to be able to give them some kind of
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piece of advice that uh you were given
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that was helpful. It's about passing on
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the comfort that you received from the
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Lord while you were suffering to that
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person. And it grows our capacity for
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empathy, for compassion, but most
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importantly, I don't know if you can
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even have the ability to point people to
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God's comfort in the same way that
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someone who has had that experience of
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comfort. It's a
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testimony. You can say, "This is what I
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was feeling." Similar feelings to you.
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It's not like I understand or totally
-
know how you're feeling, but this is how
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God comforted me and I know he can
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comfort you at that way, too. And you
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need to draw near to him. And when you
-
draw near to him, God intends to heal
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you of the sorrow. And he might have a
-
process for that, but it's not
-
forever. I've seen uh people get lost in
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that kind of suffering, and it's it
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withers their spirit. You can see it in
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the eyes. They're
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withering. There's no victory anymore.
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I've seen it in Christians. It can
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happen to Christians,
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too. So, there's a time for it to come
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to an end. And why do I say that? Verse
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four. And when the days of weeping for
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him were passed, Joseph spoke to the
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household of Pharaoh, saying, "If now I
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have found favor in your eyes, please
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speak in the ears of Pharaoh, saying, My
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father made me swear, saying, I am about
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to die in my tomb that I hewed out for
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myself in the land of Canaan. There
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shall you bury me. Now therefore, let me
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please go up and bury my father. Then I
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will return."
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The reason why I started thinking about
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getting fired by your boss if maybe
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you'd been suppressing emotion and then
-
just blew up at them was that Joseph
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once again is just a shining example of
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how to relate to your boss when I mean
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it's not just because the 70 days went
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by that Joseph's not still
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sad ve weeping about the loss of his
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father. We're going to find out when
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they go and to bury him. There's another
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seven days of mourning and it's grievous
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lamentation. Very grievous, God says.
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When God says something's very grievous
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in terms of
-
lamentation, you better believe it was.
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So, but he goes to his his boss. He's a
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second command of the world power,
-
right? Is way higher power than the vice
-
president. Um, we don't really know what
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it's like to experience someone who's
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really the executive leader of
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everything. And then you have almost
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like a figurehead above him. But he's
-
definitely actually in authority, a
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king, and the one who carries out the
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king's will. That is who Joseph was. And
-
he still asks Pharaoh for permission to
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go. He's got a job to do. How are you
-
going to keep carrying out your job if
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you are just withering and lost and
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mourning day in and day out? How are you
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going to, you know, when you I've said
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this before, but um and I kind of picked
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it up from a movie that was basically
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about the pain the children experienced
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from having lost their sibling and
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therefore basically lost their parents'
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love, too, because all they could think
-
about was the loss of that child. They
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there are other people to love. The
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command to love God and your neighbor
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hasn't ceased. And it's not like, hey,
-
shove that command on your throat. It's
-
that people need your love. God doesn't
-
need your love. You need to love him.
-
It's a pathway through which he
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transforms you.
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But mourning can get in the way in that
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and it can get in the way of you and
-
God's purpose in relationship to others.
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You're certainly not going to be able to
-
comfort people with God's comfort until
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you yourself have received it. And if
-
you're stuck in mourning, you have not
-
yet received it as deeply as God wants
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you to. So, I say that carefully and I'm
-
not going to assign amount of time to
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it. Um, but I have I have an experience.
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I'm I'm not going to get into it for
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time sake, but I just let it go on for a
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year, maybe a year and a half. And I
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knew I was drifting. I knew long time
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past God's, you know, freshness stamp of
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mourning. And I was just pity party,
-
pity party. All kinds of bad things came
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into my life. It harmmed my relationship
-
to my wife, to my children, my job, to
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everything. And I had to repent. I had
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to repent of allowing myself to turn
-
idwards into myself so much for so
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long. But Joseph didn't. And he treated
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his employer, so to speak, with respect.
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So Joseph went up to bury his father
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with him went all went up all the
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servants of Pharaoh and the elders of
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the household and all the elders of the
-
land of Egypt, as well as all of the
-
household of Joseph, his brothers and
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his father's household. Only their
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children, their flocks, and their herds
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were left in the land of Gan. And there
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they went up with him, both chariots and
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horsemen. It was a very great company.
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First of all, yeah, chariots and
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horsemen, better than by foot, but it's
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300
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miles. All the important dignitaries,
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every single one of his children of his
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sons, his grown sons and their wives,
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only the little ones of his uh growing
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tribe didn't come. And all the
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dignitaries, it seems Pharaoh may not
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have, but all the dignitaries of Egypt
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all have important jobs. Can't just like
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leave those jobs and not have there be
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any consequence. And they all decide to
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come along on a 300mile journey by
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horseback and
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chariot. So what were we talking about
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the beginning? Did God really redeem
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Jacob's life? He's only been I mean 17
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years I guess is a long time but he's
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been in in Egypt for 17 years and all of
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the dignitaries of Egypt find him in
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such great esteem that they'll come to
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his funeral 300 miles away not by plane
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not a quick trip back and forth saw a
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lot of people going to the the Pope's
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funeral and maybe they stayed for a
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while and I'm not saying there was
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anything wrong with them going to that
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funeral but um if people had to travel
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300 miles by horseback and chariot and
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it took a month to get
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there, you know, probably less people
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would have come. So, it's a big deal
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that everyone's coming. And would they
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have come for a guy they'd known as a
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manipulator, a cheat, a liar, a guy you
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can never trust, who a guy is going to
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try to get one over on you? Of course
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not. Of course not.
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But if you have any more doubt that his
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children and even in these dignitaries
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actually loved him, listen to what God
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says next in verse 10 of Genesis 50.
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When they came to the threshing floor of
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Atad, which is beyond the Jordan, they
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lamented there with a very great and
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grievous
-
lamentation. And he made mourning for
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his father seven
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days. I don't know if you've ever
-
experienced anything like this.
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Um, I don't think it's good to compare
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our pain. What's the use of that? I like
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to say just because someone's starving
-
in Africa does not mean it doesn't hurt
-
when you stub your toe. It hurts. You
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might have broken your toe. You may need
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to go to the doctor. Every person's
-
suffering is their own. And there's no
-
reason to compare it. And so, I won't
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either. Um, and I I don't even want to
-
compare it to this, but I I I feel that
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I know what it's like to have such like
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it's like waves of overwhelming emotion
-
and you can't stop crying. And then when
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you think you're like, there's no way I
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have more tears in my body, something
-
comes up like a memory and the whole
-
thing just happens again. And none of
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your tears brings them back either. It's
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like nothing you can do to change the
-
situ situation that the person or thing
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or hope you had for your life seems to
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be done and
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gone. The pain is
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extreme and that's with the sting of
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death taken out of
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it.
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So I want to tell you a story about
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Macau Kulkin, right? Home Alone Kid. And
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then also I want to go back to those
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those uncles. And neither of these is
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funny and I'm not trying to make them
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funny. Uh I saw an interview with
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McCaulay Coin and he became estranged
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from his father probably from both
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parents but he's mostly talking about
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his father after Richie Rich which was
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way I think even after Home Alone 2. He
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was one of the most famous child actors
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ever and in a significant part because
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of his dad. His dad really drove that,
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but he drove so hard, at least according
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to Macaulay, that it broke his
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relationship. And he hasn't spoken to
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him since. And again, according to
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Macau, none of his other children have.
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And you can tell there's a hatred in his
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heart for his father. He hates
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him. But the reality is that there's
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always other side of the coin. had his
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dad changed. Truly changed. Every
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father, even to his adult son, still has
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a sliver of that you're my hero in them.
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It never goes away. It's one of the
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reasons why sons can slip into hatred so
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much because the fall from where they
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saw their father is so high. How dare
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you be so opposite of who you said you
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were or who I hoped you to be. And uh so
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so when fathers don't change, the sons
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stay aranged. And here they're all
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weeping. And I don't know, is there any
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way to say that the weeping was greater
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than to say they lamented there with a
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very great and grievous lamentation?
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What words would you use to say that
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their weeping was worse than that? Was
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more painful than that. There
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isn't. Back to the story. In the car, a
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big truck. I think there's like four
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uncles. Uncle Mark, Uncle Phil, my dad,
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and probably uh Uncle Arnold. He had
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nine siblings. He's one of nine big
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farming family in Silverton. And they
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began talking and they clearly didn't
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mind that I overhear this. And uh I at
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this point I'm not I'm no longer like
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the little nephew, but I I was already a
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pastor. And they were starting to treat
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me more like a peer. It felt like never
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that they'd look down on me or anything
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like that, but I was one of the adults
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with in the conversation. And uh what
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they were talking about is how um my
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grandfather, their father, Lawrence
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Winston Garing,
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um only really cared about their success
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and failures in as much as it reflected
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on
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him and how much that wounded them. And
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so they loved Byron, but Byron was one
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of the most successful kids. And so he
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was beloved by LW. They call him my
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grandfather.
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uh because it reflected so well on him.
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So it was what they were calling and and
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they were saying it respectfully. He
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came to faith at the end of his life. LW
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did um I should probably call him
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grandpa, but everyone calls him LW, so I
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don't mean any disrespect, but um he
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came to faith. He's in heaven. He's all
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that sin is redeemed. Uh but it it had a
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a negative impact on the sons. It's a
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selfish love. It's a turned inwards
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love. Uh it's not the kind of love that
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builds people up. It's a kind of love.
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It's just crooked selflove really. Um,
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and even they mourned at his
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funeral, right? There's a lot of sin
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that sons can overlook. Uh, but it's
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just not the same thing as just weeping
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for seven days after already having
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mourned for 70. And all the Egyptians,
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too. Now, there's no greater evidence in
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my mind in the book of Genesis that God
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had done a great work of redemption in
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Jacob's
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life. I look at it like, you
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know, I think it's funny and painful to
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say at the time, but I I find myself a
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relatively unusually unlikable person.
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Um, I know that because of how many
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responses I have like that. And I mean
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that apart from God. I think when
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someone dislikes something Christlike
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about me, they're in the wrong, right?
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and I I learn more and more about what
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those are. So, I'm confident about some
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of those. But apart from Christ, I'm the
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kind of guy that turns into the enemy of
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nice people and just an angry tyrant.
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And if you really know me, you know,
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there's still a strain of that species
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of pride in me. So, um, surprise. I
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don't like being unusually unlovable. I
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don't enjoy being like that, but God
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made me this way. you know, and and when
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I'm surrendered to him, you get a man
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who will not yield preaching the cross
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of Jesus Christ and him only no matter
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what the cost. And you love it. But I'm
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still a sinner and I still have that
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species of pride and I don't enjoy being
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like that. I don't want to be like that.
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Uh not everyone is that unusually
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unlikable. I feel like people start
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sometimes with a base personality that
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isn't so costic and aggressive and isn't
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always turned towards anger. It's no
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one's not a sinner. That's not my point.
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Um, but if I had only half of the
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redemption of Jacob at the end of my
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life, I'd be satisfied. Everybody loved
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him.
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Everybody. And if you've been judging
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him this whole time, are you
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experiencing as much redemption as he
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has in your life? Are you taking your
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sin as seriously as God took Jacob's?
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And when you are being humbled, are you
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accepting the hum are you recognizing
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that the hard knocks that have come into
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your life? Are probably to those around
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you very clearly God knocking the door
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on your pride and wanting to break it
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down, but he won't do it without you
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opening it. The spirit is a
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gentleman. There's just such powerful
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redemption
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here. Maybe you're on the very other
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side of that.
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You're not judging Jacob, but you still
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want to see redemption in your life, and
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you're worried it might not happen. Let
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me read you another promise from Paul.
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Therefore, from God, Philippians
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1:6. And you ought to be sure of this,
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too. This is Paul speaking. For I am
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sure of this, that he who began a good
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work in you will bring it to completion
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at the day of Jesus Christ.
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At the very least you can know that even
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death won't have the final word over
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your redemption. Not ever. It's made me
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think that I I wonder if we're missing
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something in memorials. uh because
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especially as someone that gets asked to
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speak at memorials quite often and more
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often now uh as I know more and more
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people you know boomers basically I have
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a great respect for but they're you know
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they're at that age where pretty close
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to the average life expectancy and so
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maybe that's why there's more funerals
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and when I get asked and um sometimes I
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mean you have to be honest I'm not going
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to not be honest but I'm not looking to
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say like a negative report card of the
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person but um What? So, you talk to
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people and what if like most people
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really dislike them and there's just a
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lot of negative stuff there. Like, what
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do you say? What do you say about that
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kind of person? Well, if they're a
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Christian, none of those things are true
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anymore. But I've never been to a
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memorial, including ones I've spoken at,
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where people just talk about who that
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person is
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now. Everything that wasn't like Jesus
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is now like Jesus in them. and
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everything that already was
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stayed. So, just as a little side note,
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if you're having a struggle, having fond
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memories of someone, at least if they've
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died in faith, uh they are now
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perfect and you can remember them in all
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the ways you'd hoped they would have
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become on earth
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already. But for yourself, turning this
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inwards, uh there's no reason why you
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can't experience more redemption now.
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His work in you happens through his
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word. And it's not just reading it and
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it's not just understanding it, but it's
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surrendering to it. And according to
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Jesus, that means taking up your cross
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because the only thing in you uh is is
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your flesh. That's the only thing you
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came to the word with. The spirit is
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from the
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outside. Martin Luther, the first one,
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called it alien righteousness. It's from
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the outside, right? And it's his work,
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the Holy Spirit's work to put to death
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the things in you that desire the very
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opposite of God's word. It's by my
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spirit, not by force. My flesh wants it
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to be by
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force. So what does your flesh want that
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is opposite of the spirit? That's what
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the spirit's trying to redeem. And he
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doesn't do it by force. That means that
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he when you surrender your false and
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crooked
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uh desires and affections, he gives you
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godly and good and righteous desires and
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affections and they really become your
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own. It's amazing. Have you ever, you
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know, I say angry tyrant, uh, a non-
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angry tyrant is better than an angry
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tyrant. And I've been an angry tyrant at
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times and I I know when I'm slipping
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towards that apart from from him, you
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know, woke up grumpy for what feels like
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no reason today. And I'm like, I just
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need God not to be like upset about
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something I can't even explain. When I
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wake up in the first first point in the
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morning, I have no I can't even I'm
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usually pretty self-aware. Don't even
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know just I'm grumpy, you know. And uh
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so I need God to to encourage me to to
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wash my spirit clean. And when I'm
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angry, sometimes I'll ask God, God, I
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don't know why I'm angry. I don't feel
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like I have control over it right now.
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I'm concerned that it's going to uh it's
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going to pop out in a way that's going
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to harm somebody and I just need you to
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take it away. Like I just think of him
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like dissipating it out of my spirit.
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And when I really surrender, he does. He
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does. And I'm just like, wow. I'm just
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people. It's they think I'm schizophren.
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I wonder if Christine sometimes thinks
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I'm schizophrenic. Like he was so angry
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a moment ago and he's just not. And
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that's how powerful the spirit is. And
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it's not fake. I'm just not angry
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anymore. Supernaturally. God took it. I
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gave it to him. He can handle it. Jesus
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had to be crucified for that sinful
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anger. There's power in the
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cross. So whatever it is that needs to
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be redeemed, I'm just talking about my
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sins, they're not necessarily yours.
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Anger is pretty relatable for most
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people. But the reality is we have even
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if you started out having abandoned your
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children, no matter what mess you've
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made of of your family, you turn towards
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God and begin walking in his spirit, in
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his way, and his power, God can redeem
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anything. It's only Satan that'll tell
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you you can't redeem
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that. So consider that. I mean, it's
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such a hopeful message for me. I I worry
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sometimes I'm not going to grow as much
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as I'd hope to. All your growth
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glorifies God, by the way. It's it's the
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best thing you can give him
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is increased and maintained
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Christlikkeness. Nothing will glorify
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God more than that.
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So consider that we have that's really
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sort of the climax of the sermon and
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we're coming down off the mountain.
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There's one more thing we need to talk
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about and then we'll close. When the
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inhabitants verse 11 of the land the
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Canaanites saw the mourning of the
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threshing floor of Atad they said this
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is a grievous mourning by the
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Egyptians. Thus his sons did for him as
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he had commanded them. For his sons
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cried car, excuse me, for the sons
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carried him to the land of Canaan,
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buried him in the cave of the field of
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Mechbalah to the east of Mamray, which
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Abraham bought uh with the field from
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Ephron the Hitittite to possess as a
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burying place. And after he had buried
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his father, Joseph returned to Egypt
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with his brothers and all who had gone
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up with him to bury his father. I just
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want to go back to verse 11. It had a
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impact. I don't know about a profound
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impact, but it definitely had an impact
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on the Canaanites. They noticed the way
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they were
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grieving. Full strength. There wasn't
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anything held back. They're
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weeping. But it's a different
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kind. They the world doesn't have a
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category for this. How can you be so sad
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and then return to joy and purpose and
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things in your life? How can that
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happen? It's it's only by the spirit.
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It's only because of God that we can be
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people like that and people have no
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category for
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it. How have you overcome that? There's
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no answer. So there is a huge witness in
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us and the way that we relate to death.
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But if you mourn for way too long, you
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diminish that
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witness. I thought long and hard, should
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I say we have a responsibility? But yes,
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we do. We have a responsibility to
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witness faithfully how to mourn the dead
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to our world. It it may be the thing
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that brings someone to salvation is
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watching how they have a joy that even
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the death of their loved ones even
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though it's so grievous cannot
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overcome. But it's again it's not hey
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you better don't think of it as a duty.
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Think of as something that only the
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spirit can help you to accomplish that
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you know deep down you want
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to and that is to be fully
-
comforted of whatever mourning you've
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experienced whatever you're mourning
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currently so that you can go around and
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comfort others. It just returns to the
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second greatest commandment of loving
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others as you love yourself. Have you
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ever been comforted by someone who just
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knows? They know. You know they've been
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through it. No better person to sit
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right beside you right now because they
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just know they can carry the burden.
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They've been there. They have the
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capacity for compassion in that area.
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Very, it seems like
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few seems like we got more Job's
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counselors that think they know what to
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say rather than have experience the pain
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and know how to
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minister. So there's it's a very
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powerful thing. And one other way and I
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don't feel this is really a side note
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but this is a way that the death that
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death really ends up having the last
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word and I think it's a scheme of the
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enemy um he either has people just avoid
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the concept of death altogether. So
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avoidance would be one. It's like I
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don't think don't think about that.
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Don't think about that. Whereas the
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spirit or God tells us uh we you're dust
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remember that you are dust until dust
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you shall return. Contemplating your
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mortality is not unspiritual. It's
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something that God tells us to
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remember. Not in despair though, but
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yes, remember it. It's it's a weighty
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thing. You ought not to avoid truth
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ever. But there's another way he can
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distract us from it. So, you get
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distracted through those kinds of
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powerful things I mentioned before. It's
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not just that you're like, "Oh, I'm not
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going to I'm definitely making a
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conscious choice not to talk about it."
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It's just you're over here thinking
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about other things. And then there's
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another way and this is to see this is
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how you can see how just brilliant Satan
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is. Um he'll entertain us with it. Have
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you ever thought about that? There are
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so many movie
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genres and the only reason why they're
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successful is that death entertains
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people. I think that's what the horror
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genre is. What is that other than being
-
entertained by death?
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I have certain boundaries and and I
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don't consider these universal. You need
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to in your own convictions. I call them
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personal convictions. Think about what
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what you feel in relationship to God.
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You should watch, you shouldn't watch.
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Like I'll watch Gladiator. Very violent.
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I don't think the purpose of Gladiator
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though was to uh glorify death or be
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entertained by death. There's like a
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redemption justice story there. That's
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part of what was attractive to me to it.
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I do not watch horror ever. It affects
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my dreams.
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I I I also don't like the feeling of
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feeling scared in that way. Uh I don't
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it's not that I don't like thrillers or
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like a little bit jumpy movies, but it's
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the gore and the evil of it and it just
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I feel convicted in my spirit I
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shouldn't be watching it. Um but you you
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do that for yourself or you know are
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there forms of media that you're
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ingesting that are really just
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death death entertainment? You know, you
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can be scrolling and there's lots of
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like YouTube channels, reals, Tik Toks
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where all it is is just fatal car
-
crash. Why are those so
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popular? Because death has the Satan has
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convinced a whole society and world that
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death is entertaining. It's
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entertaining. So then you think about
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the cross and is there anything
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entertaining about the cross? People can
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make the cross itself entertaining too.
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But but the way God looks at death is
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that it's an
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enemy. It's an enemy of his people and
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his own son has to suffer and die to
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have victory over it. It ought not to be
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something that the people of God
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entertain themselves with. It ought not
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to be something that the people of God
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allow them to be themselves to be
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distracted from. And it ought not to be
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something that you just keep wrapped up
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tightly and don't think about. It's
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something that you move through with
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biblical truth, with spiritual comfort
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from God and by
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faith. And again, I just to repeat
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everything that I've been intending to
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say here, let's put up the main point
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one more time and I'll close us in
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prayer. No matter where you're at in
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God's story of your redemption, even
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though we die, God's redemption has the
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last word. Let me pray. Father, thank
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you for this message. just not easy to
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discuss death because of the great pain
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that comes loaded with that
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subject. But we're so thankful that you
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were willing to die for us, Jesus. It's
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because of that death and because of
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that resurrection that we don't despair,
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that we have great hope, and that we
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know that even our own death will not
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have the last word, but your redemption.
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I pray that we would take that
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redemption seriously now as we come to
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communion. It's the table of redemption.
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It's the table of the forgiveness of
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sins. It's your body broken and your
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blood shed. And there's anything that
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needs to be redeemed in our lives if we
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bring it in true surrender and
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sincerity. We will make
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progress. We'll be forgiven of our sins
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and cleansed of unrighteousness.
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Patterns and strongholds of sin can be
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broken.
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thought patterns about your word that
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are mixed with error can be
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purified. Anything and everything that
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needs to happen that makes us more like
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Jesus is
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possible at the
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table of your crucifixion and
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resurrection. And I pray that we would
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come with a heart for that today with
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the desire to be redeemed even now. And
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I pray these things in Jesus name. Amen.