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Dealing with Death - Genesis 49:28-50:14 - Sunday Sermon

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  1. Good morning everyone. Morning. Welcome

  2. to Boon Fairy.

  3. My name's Mati Scaring and I'm glad

  4. you're here today. It's actually a

  5. special Sunday. It's Boonfair's 50th

  6. anniversary. Can you believe that?

  7. I found out um that Boon Fair started in

  8. uh 1975 from Vern. But I also had to

  9. research it because when we originally

  10. demoed the walls of the stage, we had

  11. concerns that there was going to be

  12. asbestos in them, which is like

  13. absolutely massive spending to do the

  14. mitigation of that. And so right around

  15. that time is when they stopped using

  16. them. So we prayed and they didn't find

  17. any asbestos. So that was that was

  18. amazing. But um I thought about what I

  19. could say that would be the most

  20. honoring kind of thing for the church.

  21. And um we are going to be having cake

  22. afterwards in a celebratory way. So hang

  23. out with us afterwards if you want to

  24. and you can get a piece of cake. But um

  25. I'm actually kind of amazed to think

  26. about it. I've been here for a fifth of

  27. the existence of the church now. It does

  28. not feel like it's been that long. I've

  29. been here for eight years, nearly nearly

  30. a decade. Um it just went by so fast. Um

  31. but church turnover is a lot. People,

  32. you know, get upset, they leave or they

  33. leave for just fine reasons, whatever it

  34. is. It's it's very rare to have people

  35. that are in your church for almost the

  36. entirety of the church. And I want to

  37. honor some of the men and women that

  38. have been here that long. And if if I

  39. miss you or if you've been here for a

  40. while and then stand up too if I don't

  41. name you, but um I'm going to start on

  42. the on the lower end and then come up

  43. higher. So I want to I want to have Ben

  44. Jansen step up. That's 41 years uh time

  45. that he's been here at Boon Ferry.

  46. and he's an elder at Boon Fairy and he's

  47. 41 years old. He's never even been to

  48. another

  49. church. Just kidding. But uh then also

  50. Mike Crowley, 42

  51. [Music]

  52. years. And then Mitch and Jenny Jansen.

  53. And we were trying to calculate it

  54. somewhere between 42 and 43 years. And

  55. they're there. Maybe just wave if you

  56. don't want to stand

  57. up. But but Vern, you got to stand up.

  58. 48 years faithful to one church. Come

  59. on, stand up. Also an elder at our

  60. church. Those numbers are highly unusual

  61. and you know just as well as I do the

  62. faithfulness. I mean, you go through

  63. some rough seasons in a church when you

  64. are there for decades. So, I just that's

  65. probably what I'm most thankful about.

  66. I'm thankful that Boon Fairy exists and

  67. that it was originally a church plant,

  68. you know. Um I You want to tell us how

  69. much they bought this entire land for

  70. back in the day? You've told me before,

  71. but I don't want to get the number

  72. wrong.

  73. Yeah, I'm I'm not going to be able to

  74. repeat all that or tell the story as

  75. well as Vern has who actually knows all

  76. about it, but just for those listening

  77. at home, uh the very purchase of the

  78. land uh was something that God

  79. orchestrated and would not have happened

  80. without him. And so God really started

  81. this church and it's been um a joy to be

  82. the pastor here. I'm thankful espec I

  83. mean you guys are an example to me that

  84. kind of faithfulness. I I hope I get to

  85. retire at Boonferry and I'm not looking

  86. forward to retiring. I will preach here

  87. as long as I can and as long as it seems

  88. like the right thing to continue to do

  89. um depending on age and those kinds of

  90. things. Um but I'm thankful for Boon

  91. Fairy. I'm thankful for all of you who

  92. are attending and I don't believe that

  93. God has done and as long as we remain

  94. faithful there's no reason that our

  95. church shouldn't be 100 years old and

  96. thriving by then. So let me pray for

  97. Boon Ferry. And we thank God for the 50

  98. years that he has caused this church to

  99. survive and even thrive. And then we'll

  100. get right into Genesis. Heavenly Father,

  101. it's only by your grace that any

  102. community stays

  103. together. It's only by your grace that

  104. it's founded in the first place and

  105. continues. You sustain all things,

  106. including the church. We're thankful for

  107. your promise that even the gates of hell

  108. will not prevail against the church. Uh

  109. that does not however mean that there

  110. aren't individual local churches that

  111. sometimes fold. And so we still rely on

  112. you and we're so thankful for the 50

  113. years that you've given this church. I

  114. am personally very thankful for the

  115. commitment of those that have been here.

  116. Uh some of them almost their entire

  117. lives and and some of them more than

  118. half of their lives. What an example of

  119. faithfulness that is to us of steadfast

  120. love to one community. I pray that you'd

  121. bless them for that in their lives in

  122. ways that they recognize and then praise

  123. you for as well. And I ask that we would

  124. have a fun time celebrating after church

  125. today. Uh now we want to shift gears

  126. though, Lord, and look to your word,

  127. which is what Boon Fairy is about. It's

  128. about what you teach us about Jesus

  129. Christ and him crucified and your word.

  130. And so we want to have our hearts opened

  131. to your word and your word open to our

  132. hearts, which is something we know we

  133. only have by the spirit. We're thankful

  134. for that, too, in Jesus name.

  135. Amen. We are in Genesis 49:28. So, the

    Genesis 49:28

  136. very end of Genesis 49 and then we're

  137. finishing up about half of uh Genesis

  138. 50. This is the second to last sermon in

  139. Genesis. We've been in Genesis now for

  140. the better part of 2 years. Um, and it

  141. honestly feels like we haven't really

  142. even plumbed the depths. It's just

  143. amazing how much there's been here. But

  144. there's something climactic happening

  145. here that you might miss. You might

  146. think, "Oh, this is just about reporting

  147. Jacob's death and burial." But honestly,

  148. other than the famous line of what you

  149. meant for evil, God meant for good and

  150. for the saving of many lives. Um, I

  151. think there's a a climactic portion here

  152. because if we've recently been in

  153. Joseph's life, right? But if you

  154. remember back when we went to Jacob's

  155. life, try to when we're going through

  156. Jacob's life, try to remember the

  157. feelings you had when you saw what he

  158. did to Esau. He cheated him out of his

  159. birthright. He lied and stole his

  160. blessing. Uh, Esau was in tears, weeping

  161. over that. He mistreated his brother

  162. grievously. And he didn't need to. God

  163. was going to give both of those things

  164. to him anyway. They were promised to him

  165. to his parents before their birth

  166. prophetically. Um, and so that seems to

  167. be this pattern all the way through the

  168. patriarch's life where even when God

  169. promises them the world, literally that

  170. they will inherit the earth. The only

  171. reason we will inherit the earth is

  172. because we've been included in that

  173. Abrahamic covenant. We really will

  174. inherit the earth. Um, the new heavens

  175. and the new earth ultimately. um even

  176. though they're given these extravagant

  177. promises and they're unconditional, it's

  178. nothing they did caused it to be brought

  179. about and nothing they could do would

  180. take it away. It's a unilateral

  181. unconditional covenant. And you can see

  182. that all the way through because they

  183. seem to think not I don't want to accuse

  184. the patriarchs, but if you look at it,

  185. it's like are you just doing whatever

  186. you can to thwart God's plan? So he

  187. says, "I'm going to give you a child

  188. through Sarah, your wife." A bio child

  189. as we call him today. So what do they

  190. do? Well, it's not happiness, so I'll

  191. take a concubine. Their solution to

  192. God's plan not working is polygamy.

  193. Ridiculous, right? They're called men of

  194. faith. They live their life. And that's

  195. actually where I'm going with this. I

  196. just like to say it because um I think

  197. it's a huge mistake to judge men that

  198. God gives a a you know, a faith grade

  199. out, right? They're they were righteous

  200. by faith and there's nobody that's

  201. that's righteous in any way except for

  202. by faith and not their actions. But we

  203. have to take their sin seriously and the

  204. patterns especially. There was

  205. cowardice, there was thieving, there was

  206. um and and each one of them seems to

  207. have a different sort of set uh or

  208. species of sin. But one thing they all

  209. have in common is they try to do God's

  210. uh will their way. They try to do God's

  211. will their way. It was the same with

  212. Isaac. he actually copied some of the

  213. sins like oh I'm afraid so I'm just

  214. going to pretend like you're my sister

  215. to this king you know and then for uh

  216. Sarah twice was taken into that king's

  217. herum to be his wife and the only reason

  218. she was protected um was God's grace to

  219. Abraham. Same thing happens with with

  220. Isaac. He he repeats that sin and then

  221. Jacob seems like he's actually the worst

  222. of the patriarchs in terms of looking

  223. he's he's a cheater. He's a liar. He he

  224. steals. He's a manipulator and he he has

  225. this this really ugly favoritism, right?

  226. And we watched all that and we took it

  227. seriously as sin. Again, hopefully not

  228. judging him. Christians do judge Jacob.

  229. And uh uh there's with the measure you

  230. use will be measured to you. So if you

  231. want to enter God's school of hard

  232. knocks, judge a patriarch. It's a great

  233. way to do it. Um but my point is

  234. actually just that you know you would

  235. think that we titled the series Genesis

  236. creation fall and redemption. You know I

  237. would say creations in chapter 1 through

  238. three there's the fall in three and then

  239. all the way through 11 the flood is the

  240. result of that fall ultimately and the

  241. only reason God doesn't just destroy the

  242. whole world again is his own promise not

  243. to do it. And then everything from

  244. Genesis 11 on has been this story arc of

  245. redemption. You might think, well, when

  246. we're in the portion of of Jacob, is the

  247. redemption really happening? Because

  248. they don't seem to be getting better.

  249. And then along comes Joseph, right? A

  250. man who has that pattern broken in his

  251. life and not without pain. Um he all out

  252. of all the patriarchs who trusted God's

  253. sovereignty most even when in suffering.

  254. Him. Him. Over and over and over again.

  255. There's not one mention explicitly of

  256. him taking God's will into his own hands

  257. like any of his fathers did. But what

  258. about Jacob? Is Jacob's life going to be

  259. redeemed? Do we find evidence? We talked

  260. about that. We talked about how he ends

  261. up actually giving up Benjamin and how

  262. he really did love his sons. He just

  263. happened to love any son. Um started

  264. with favoritism of one wife. You know,

  265. it's it's going to happen in polygamy.

  266. It's not God's plan. It's never right or

  267. good. It wasn't right uh then. Um but uh

  268. God was gracious still because of this

  269. amazing co amazing covenant. But he he

  270. had this favoritism for any son born of

  271. Rachel and that was Joseph and and

  272. Benjamin. And the other sons

  273. hated hated Joseph for it. That became

  274. the focus of their hatred because they

  275. didn't have the love they wanted from

  276. their father. And so ultimately Joseph

  277. is sold into slavery and uh Jacob loses

  278. him and then um he still has Benjamin

  279. but he even gives up Benjamin. And you

  280. also just to rewind he he got a mirror

  281. image of himself in Laban. Remember that

  282. if if if you refuse to give up a pattern

  283. of your sin, God's going to put someone

  284. else in your life that has the exact

  285. same pattern so you can feel exactly how

  286. terrible it is. He does that over and

  287. over and over again. He's done it in my

  288. life. Um, and often times it'll require

  289. somebody else when you're griping,

  290. complaining of that about that person be

  291. like, "You're the exact same kind of

  292. person, man." You know, it's a friend

  293. that says that and doesn't hate you, by

  294. the way. Don't reject those kinds of

  295. people. Um, but anyway, you get all the

  296. way to the end of the story and here

  297. he's he's died and it says death and

  298. burial. And did was there any real

  299. redemption of his life? And how would

  300. you know? And I want to I want to with

  301. that said um before even really proving

  302. that this ma is the main point of the

  303. passage I want to put the main point up

  304. because it's an unbelievably hopeful

  305. one. Even though we die, God's

  306. redemption has the last

  307. word. Even though we die, God's

  308. redemption has the last word.

  309. We're going to see that here in this

  310. passage that you might think when

  311. someone dies and certain sins that they

  312. had committed weren't really broken and

  313. they didn't ever really repent of them

  314. that that means God redemptions failed.

  315. But I'm going to show you biblically how

  316. that is not at all true in a very real

  317. way. Every single person that dies in

  318. faith will be fully redeemed. And you

  319. can be certain of that. But there's

  320. something special here about the last 17

  321. years of Jacob's life that shows just

  322. how much redemption happened in his

  323. life. And we're going to be talking a

  324. lot about death here. So, uh, it's I

  325. don't think it's going to be easy sermon

  326. for some. Uh, I think our culture is

  327. very much death avoidant, but also

  328. deeply entertained by death. Kind of a

  329. paradox. Uh, they're avoidant of really

  330. talking about death in its weighty real

  331. sense. Uh, but there's seemingly I mean

  332. there's a huge entertainment history

  333. industry about movies and shows that are

  334. all just about the entertainment of

  335. death per se. We're going to talk about

  336. that too. But when you really look at

  337. what death actually is and and allow

  338. yourself to feel those feelings, it's

  339. weighty. And I understand why people

  340. tend to gravitate away from it. But

  341. because this is what God's word is about

  342. today, we're going to talk about it. If

  343. you don't remember anything else, just

  344. remember that in your life and in any

  345. Christian's life by faith, um, even

  346. though we die, God redemption has the

  347. last word. Let's get into verse 28 of

  348. Genesis

  349. 49. All these are the 12 tribes of

  350. Israel. This is what their father said

  351. to them as he blessed them, blessing

  352. each with the blessings suitable to him.

  353. To be honest, you can go to any other

  354. translation, NASB, KJV, NIV, CSB, HCSB,

  355. any other one, and they'll group 28 with

  356. 27. I, after researching, have no idea

  357. why the ESV, which among those

  358. translations is my is my favorite. Not

  359. that I don't enjoy aspects of the other

  360. ones. Um, but it should have really

  361. belonged with the last portion. I'm not

  362. sure why they separated 28 from 27. Um,

  363. and we've already dealt with in a past

  364. sermon that was about Jacob blessing

  365. each one of his sons with prophetic

  366. blessings and consequences suitable to

  367. them. And that's only possible um for

  368. him to do because God gave him those

  369. words. They're ultimately God's

  370. blessings and consequences. And so,

  371. we're not going to deal much with 28

  372. because it belongs to a past sermon.

  373. Really, in a way, our sermon starts with

  374. verse 29. Then he commanded them, that's

  375. his his sons, and said to them,"I am to

  376. be gathered to my people. Bury me with

  377. my fathers in the cave that is in the

  378. field of Ephron the

  379. Hittite." It's so easy to

  380. just run right over a verse onto the

  381. next verse. But there's a lot here in

  382. just those words. I am to be gathered to

  383. my people. I'm to be gathered to my

  384. people. I'd like um Matthew 22, the very

  385. first verse I gave you guys. Matthew 220

  386. 20 2232 to be put up. This is what Jesus

  387. said. I am the God of uh this is what

  388. Jesus a quote from Jesus red letter if

  389. you have a red letter. I am the God of

  390. Abraham and the God of Isaac and the God

  391. of Jacob. He is not God of the dead but

  392. God of the

  393. living. That had already been revealed.

  394. you know, you'll actually find liberal

  395. scholars talking about how um heaven and

  396. the idea of an eternal state after uh

  397. death is not something that's talked

  398. about in the in the Old Testament. It's

  399. just a blatant lie. It's talked about

  400. all the time in the Psalms, life

  401. everlasting and joy everlasting. And

  402. right here, Jacob is talking about being

  403. gathered to his people. And it's not

  404. just an idiom about I'm going to die.

  405. He's going to be gathered back to

  406. Rachel, to Isaac, to Abraham. He hasn't

  407. seen Rebecca since he left home. No

  408. evidence that he ever got to see her

  409. again. That was the final goodbye for

  410. them. That was one of the costs that God

  411. did not alleviate of him having been a

  412. cheater and a liar in relationship to

  413. his brother. Never get to see her mom

  414. again. He was close with her and he was

  415. going to get to see her again. And yes,

  416. there are some changes. He won't see

  417. Rachel again as his wife. Jesus makes

  418. very clear there's no marriage in heaven

  419. in that way. And that's sometimes hard

  420. for people to understand or accept. It's

  421. not anywhere near the scope of of this

  422. sermon. And so we're not going to deal

  423. with it. But the reality is he does get

  424. to see them again. I think often times,

  425. probably more often than not, the way we

  426. feel about someone dying on earth that

  427. we cared about is that we've lost them.

  428. That's the primary way. We think

  429. probably less about how they have

  430. returned to relationships they've been

  431. missing. family members, faithful

  432. departed

  433. ones. But this is really actually

  434. something Jacob was looking forward to

  435. being gathered to his people. And to me

  436. that shifts the view. Um there's not a

  437. single person of God, whether Old

  438. Testament or New Testament Christian who

  439. believes in Jesus Christ that once they

  440. die and go to heaven would ever want to

  441. come

  442. back. It's not because they don't love

  443. you. It's because now they have been

  444. fully redeemed. There's no more sin. not

  445. in them and not in others. They're

  446. around the people they've been

  447. missing. Especially if you've lived into

  448. an older age, you have seen and been to

  449. a lot of funerals and there's been

  450. plenty of loved ones that you can't wait

  451. to see again and hope ultimately we're

  452. saved. And so he's being gathered to his

  453. people and he's he's looking forward to

  454. it. In that way, for those who die,

  455. death is just an open door to

  456. unimaginable joy

  457. everlasting. And our whole faith is

  458. based on that. By the way, this whole

  459. church is just worthless. If that's not

  460. true, everything I could ever say is

  461. worthless if the resurrection isn't

  462. real. Paul says that. I'm not saying

  463. that other than that Paul says it. So

  464. that's the foundation of everything we

  465. preach in the gospel is that we will be

  466. resurrected to eternal life by faith in

  467. Jesus Christ in his cross and that we

  468. will live forever and there will be no

  469. more tears and no more mourning and no

  470. more loss of relationship ever again.

  471. Why would you ever want to leave that?

  472. Just the being sinless alone would not

  473. be I would not leave.

  474. So that doesn't mean that but I mean

  475. what's really happened when someone dies

  476. is they switch dimensions and I don't

  477. mean switch dimensions like they remain

  478. in a physical dimension the way science

  479. is positing the idea that there may be

  480. more than one dimension. I believe there

  481. is more than one dimension but the

  482. dimensions are categorically different.

  483. There's a spiritual dimension where God

  484. dwells and there's the dimension of

  485. creation. Um, so heaven is I I think I

  486. you think you can think of it as a

  487. spiritual dimension. You can't get

  488. there. There's no lever that science has

  489. to get you there. There's no way to

  490. manipulate yourself uh with any kind of

  491. power to get to that place. Um it's a

  492. place you go by faith just by trusting

  493. and believing God's gospel. Um so that's

  494. where people go. They in a very way in a

  495. very real way it's it's like they've

  496. left us to go somewhere else uh but are

  497. alive and we will see them

  498. again. It's it's it's a little bit more

  499. like way back in the day when if you

  500. left from Europe to America, you're

  501. probably not coming back as an average

  502. person. So, it's a final goodbye. And

  503. maybe there's some, you know, male or

  504. maybe not even. But it's it's in a way

  505. it's death for us is that kind of

  506. goodbye. Let's go to the next verse. Uh

  507. 1 Corinthians 15 uh 54 because Paul has

  508. something to say about how the sting of

  509. death is gone. When the perishable puts

  510. on the imperishable and the mortal puts

  511. on immortality, then shall come to pass

  512. the saying that is written, "Death is

  513. swallowed up in victory. Oh death, where

  514. is your victory? Oh death, where is your

  515. sting? The sting of death is sin, and

  516. the power of sin is the

  517. law. But thanks be to God who gives us

  518. victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

  519. So we we do not mourn death like the

  520. world mourns. What are some of the words

  521. that you would put in the place of the

  522. difference? Well, one of them would be

  523. hope. We mourn with hope. What's the

  524. opposite of hope? I mean, maybe despair.

  525. So we do not mourn with despair. We

  526. mourn with hope. We mourn with a very

  527. concrete hope that we will see the

  528. people that died in faith

  529. again. So we mourn with with even a joy

  530. over what they're currently experiencing

  531. too and a thankfulness that they've been

  532. reunited with the people that they've

  533. been

  534. missing. That the sting has been taken

  535. out because there is no despair. I was

  536. speaking of Vern. Um he talks about

  537. Japanese culture sometimes and how he

  538. was speaking to I think it was a

  539. Japanese man and I forget exactly the

  540. story and I'm going to botch you if I

  541. try to tell it but the moral of the

  542. story was basically that this Japanese

  543. man was so impressed by American

  544. funerals because they're nothing like

  545. Japanese funerals. And I'm saying this

  546. vicariously. I don't know anything about

  547. Japanese funerals. But what he was

  548. saying was there was this hope and even

  549. joy in memorializing the person and and

  550. that at least at the time that he had

  551. experienced whenever he told Vern this

  552. was just entirely absent from that and

  553. um Japan has been relatively

  554. impenetrable to the gospel.

  555. So there's just a lot of it's it's not a

  556. hostility like some militant atheist

  557. hostility, but it's just kind of um

  558. another story in a lot of those um

  559. Japanese hearts and minds. We could pray

  560. for that. But the point is um there is a

  561. a desperation to stay alive in those who

  562. do not have that kind of hope.

  563. That's why I believe there was a

  564. difference between the way that

  565. Christians reacted to CO.

  566. Um, was it a threat to life? Yes. Was it

  567. a threat to life that justified the

  568. response of terror? Definitely not. I

  569. mean, how are people going to react if

  570. there's actually like a 10 or 20% chance

  571. you

  572. die? Can you imagine what will happen?

  573. So, there's no courage either. We face

  574. death with a courage. With a courage.

  575. You might not like the fact that your

  576. pastor's a gamer, but I am. But I like

  577. to think um I play a game where I have

  578. zero lives. They call a rogike game.

  579. It's like arcade. You die, you go all

  580. the way back to the beginning. Very

  581. differently than one that I have

  582. two, right? We have two. And the second

  583. one you can't lose. So there shouldn't

  584. be the same kind. It doesn't mean we

  585. take this light this life lightly or

  586. foolishly do things that harm our

  587. bodies. Not the point at all. But

  588. there's a huge difference and and there

  589. was for Jacob too. We're going to talk

  590. more about that difference as we go on.

  591. But Jacob says, "Bury me with my fathers

  592. in the cave that is in the field of

  593. Ephron the Hittite." Verse 30, "In the

  594. cave that is in the field of Mebilah to

  595. the east of Mamray in the land of

  596. Canaan, which Abraham bought with the

  597. field from Ephron the Hitittite to

  598. possess as a burying place. There he

  599. buried Abraham and Sarah his wife, and

  600. there he buried Isaac and Rebecca his

  601. wife. And there he buried Leah, all who

  602. he is about to see again. And the field

  603. of the cave that is in the in it were

  604. bought from the Hittites. When Jacob

  605. finished commanding his sons, he drew up

  606. his feet into the bed and breathed his

  607. last and was gathered to his people.

  608. Then Joseph fell on his father's face

  609. and wept over him and kissed him.

  610. So, we just got done talking about how

  611. death for the faithful, those who

  612. believe in the one true God in terms of

  613. an Old Testament sense of those who

  614. believe in the death and resurrection of

  615. Jesus Christ for our sin and for the

  616. hope of eternal life uh face death in a

  617. very different way with hope with

  618. courage not with despair and

  619. overwhelming and controlling fear. But

  620. that does not mean that we do not mourn.

  621. It does not mean that we do not weep. It

  622. does not mean that you might not at

  623. times

  624. feel overwhelmed with emotion when

  625. you've lost someone that you've

  626. loved. I've thought a lot about the idea

  627. of the second greatest command. The

  628. first is to love the Lord your God with

  629. all your heart, with all your soul, with

  630. all your mind, or with all your

  631. strength. Um, but the second is to love

  632. your neighbor as yourself. Second

  633. greatest thing you can ever do according

  634. to God is to learn and grow how learn

  635. how to love others and grow in that

  636. love.

  637. which when you're

  638. married, that's the primary person

  639. you're to be learning how to love. And

  640. if you have succeeded in growing in love

  641. for them, then it's all the more painful

  642. when they

  643. die. I think marriage, the loss of a

  644. spouse may be the hardest loss of all

  645. because there is uh by the spirit, a

  646. portion of the spirit has been given to

  647. make you one in a mysterious way. You're

  648. not one with anyone else like that, any

  649. other human being on earth like that.

  650. And so that's there's a tearing apart of

  651. that. There's a death is is terrible in

  652. that way. And it may not feel like the

  653. victory at the time. I think a death of

  654. of parents especially from a young age,

  655. but at any time is another terrible a

  656. death of siblings, a death of a close

  657. friend.

  658. You've probably I don't know maybe maybe

  659. some of you have not experienced that. I

  660. remember

  661. um I probably should not have had

  662. favorite uncles. Um but Uncle Byron was

  663. one of my favorite uncles and it's

  664. probably just because of how much he

  665. paid attention to me. And he's very

  666. wealthy, lived in Tahoe. And I got a

  667. call, this is a while ago, years ago

  668. now, um that he had fallen off his bike

  669. and he was unconscious. I thought he

  670. maybe hit his head or something, but

  671. there was no evidence of trauma to the

  672. head. Um, and that he was on life

  673. support in the hospital. And so we um

  674. flew to Reno, drew from Reno to Tahoe.

  675. And I had opportunities talking uh to

  676. his brothers and I'll hopefully return

  677. to that story because I want to tell you

  678. something that all my uncles were

  679. talking about that really left an impact

  680. on me. But I got to the hospital. I

  681. looked at Byron and I don't know how to

  682. explain it, but his eyes were closed in

  683. a way that I knew his spirit had already

  684. departed his body. And I just tried not

  685. to I just went to the bathroom because I

  686. didn't want to get emotional around his

  687. wife Yasa. I wanted to be I felt I

  688. should be strong for her and um not

  689. unfeilling but just not making it about

  690. me and crying. That's how it felt. You

  691. know, I don't know that that's really

  692. the case when I think it's fine to cry

  693. around someone you think may be dead. Uh

  694. but the point is that I just I just knew

  695. it was just the life support that was

  696. propping him up. Uh, I don't know if

  697. you've ever seen an open casket, but

  698. it's it's strange. It's like the

  699. eyelids, they're just not they're not

  700. alive. They're not

  701. asleep. They're not asleep. They're

  702. dead.

  703. So, I've I've been confronted with

  704. death, but that's an uncle. And although

  705. I was close to him, it's nowhere near as

  706. close as I am to some of you, nowhere

  707. near as close as I am to uh friends

  708. outside the church, obviously. Nowhere

  709. near as close as I am to Christine. So

  710. when you but I think about my parents

  711. they they're getting older. My mom's

  712. limping, walks with a cane, had a botch

  713. surgery, nerve can't feel her leg from

  714. her. So I'm I'm seeing it and it

  715. happened like that like they were kind

  716. of a young 70 and all of a sudden now

  717. they seem like their age in their mid70s

  718. and uh so I'm thinking about that and I

  719. love my parents very much. So yeah,

  720. there's mourning and the Bible

  721. legitimates that and that there's time

  722. for morning. Let me read on. 40 days

  723. were required. Uh, excuse me. Verse two.

  724. And Joseph commanded his servants, the

  725. physicians, to embalm his father. So the

  726. physicians imbalmed Israel. 40 days were

  727. required for it. For that is how many

  728. are required for imbalming. And the

  729. Egyptians wept for him 70 days. It's not

  730. immediately obvious what the 40 days of

  731. inbalming are included in the 70 days.

  732. It seems to me the way emotion works to

  733. be weird to like wait for 40 days before

  734. you start mourning. So my guess is they

  735. were included. Um and and the 70 days is

  736. an Egyptian tradition. My point is not

  737. like that's that should be how long we

  738. mourn. Um but there was a time period

  739. given for it, a formal time period, a

  740. recognition that this need this is so

  741. important that we need to spend a

  742. significant amount of time uh allowing

  743. ourselves to mourn this beloved man. I'm

  744. going to go to Ecclesiastes 3:4 because

    Ecclesiastes 3:4

  745. the Bible Bible says there is a time to

  746. mourn. There's a time to weep, a time to

  747. laugh, a time to mourn, a time to dance.

  748. So let nobody ever tell you that you

  749. that it's somehow unspiritual to weep.

  750. It's not. It does not mean that you

  751. don't believe that the sting of death

  752. has been taken out. It does not believe

  753. mean that it's sort of you're giving an

  754. unfaithful witness to the victory over

  755. it. Jesus wept and he is the victory.

  756. He's the resurrection and he wept over

  757. Lazarus death. So, there's more than

  758. enough proof in the Bible that you

  759. should feel your feelings around

  760. mourning and death. You

  761. should, it's not wrong to, in fact, and

  762. I'm speaking more from experience. Um,

  763. but I don't believe this is in any way

  764. against the grain of scripture. Uh, but

  765. I'm speaking more from experience in

  766. applying this spiritually. I believe

  767. that when we repress our feelings or

  768. suppress them, honestly don't know the

  769. difference between those two words, but

  770. when you shove them down and try to

  771. cover them up, which it takes a a lot of

  772. power to do that. It takes powerful

  773. things. Uh you might be able to do it

  774. with entertainment. You might be able to

  775. do it with alcohol. Um looking for kids

  776. here, not that many. You could do it

  777. with sex. Anything that's really

  778. powerful

  779. can suppress really deep emotion. You

  780. have to distract yourself from it or you

  781. have to put some kind of layer between

  782. you and it. I want to tell you a story

  783. about how that happened to me. And I I

  784. think it's actually somewhat of a

  785. humorous one. At least my parents

  786. laughed at me when it happened. But um

  787. so I got my wisdom teeth pulled and they

  788. I think they put me on Percoet Vicodin,

  789. something like that. And it just didn't

  790. even seem to touch the pain like this

  791. white hot screaming pain. And I I

  792. thought I was tough. I don't know how

  793. high my pain tolerance is after watching

  794. my wife give birth naturally to six

  795. children and barely make a peep. Even

  796. the the midwives were like there was uh

  797. somebody's um daughter that I knew came

  798. as like a that was her like observation

  799. of that and they're like you're going to

  800. have to come again. This is not a normal

  801. enough

  802. sample. Yeah. It's almost like a silent

  803. birth. Um but

  804. um so so I'm not even saying I

  805. necessarily have a high pain tolerance,

  806. but this was extreme. And so my mom took

  807. me back to the doctor and he gave us a

  808. prescription for I think it was

  809. something like demoral significant step

  810. up. Um and he I I wasn't really paying

  811. attention what he was saying but I

  812. remember afterwards he told us that this

  813. is is so powerful that it can actually

  814. affect your emotions as in suppress

  815. them. So you need to get off of it as

  816. soon as this prescription is done. Don't

  817. ask for another one. I'm not going to

  818. give it to you. Um and so uh that that

  819. happened. I I didn't care about school

  820. as much as uh some people did, but I I

  821. cared about succeeding at what I wanted

  822. to do enough to not just like not care

  823. at all. But I remember I didn't care

  824. about wrestling. I didn't care about

  825. football. I didn't care about I forget

  826. what season it was. I didn't care about

  827. school. I didn't care about video games.

  828. I didn't care about really anything. It

  829. just kind of seemed But it's weird. You

  830. don't really notice. it's in the back of

  831. your mind that you don't care. And so

  832. some of these pharmaceuticals have have

  833. a very emotion suppressing effect. Some

  834. of them that is either the side effect

  835. or the actual intended use for them. And

  836. so then I didn't really do as much

  837. homework. Um most of my life is driven

  838. by passion per se. I've learned that

  839. that's not always a good fuel, but

  840. sometimes it is when directed by God.

  841. And so if I'm not interested, I just

  842. don't really do it. um unless I have to

  843. and unless it's good to do it anyway

  844. just by duty. But in this case, the

  845. first subject that goes out the window

  846. is math, especially things that I've

  847. deemed um no real world application. And

  848. there's lots like long division by hand.

  849. Give me a real world application other

  850. than teaching other people that. Um

  851. someone said like, "What about the

  852. apocalypse?" So, I'm like, if your

  853. greatest concern in the apocalypse is

  854. losing calculators and that you can't do

  855. long division by hand, I don't even know

  856. what to say. But anyway, long story

  857. short, I the only thing in my opinion

  858. more worthless than learning long

  859. division by hand is proofs in geometry.

  860. Proofs in geometry. And uh so we were

  861. have a test and it's all proofs and I

  862. hadn't been studying. And so I got like

  863. a C minus in the test and I took it home

  864. and I just showed my parents and melted

  865. into tears and my mom laughed like she's

  866. pretty emotionally careful and she just

  867. laughed like who is this kid that all of

  868. a sudden started caring about grades and

  869. math you know what had happened is I

  870. went off to Denver all and all those

  871. emotions just kept coming out and I'm

  872. I'm ashamed I cried about proofs I can

  873. never I'm a man who cried about proofs

  874. Right? So, that's a funny story about

  875. emotion popping out, but that's not

  876. always the way it goes when you've

  877. suppressed your emotion. Sometimes you

  878. end up saying something you can't take

  879. back that deeply wounds a

  880. person. Maybe they just decide not to be

  881. your friend ever again. And that would

  882. be wrong, especially if you sought

  883. forgiveness, but it may not be something

  884. within your control again. people have

  885. gotten fired uh that I know for that

  886. exact reason. They've been letting

  887. stress build and build and build and

  888. build and been suppressing the emotion,

  889. try to keep it all contained and

  890. eventually to boom, right? And if it's

  891. boom at your boss, you might get fired,

  892. right? There can be in marriage in what

  893. about in relationship to your children.

  894. Children are pretty resilient. Like you

  895. say you're sorry that you said

  896. something,

  897. but sometimes it sinks down into their

  898. little hearts and it's like a little

  899. negative code, a virus you wrote on the

  900. operating system of their soul. Right. I

  901. I still remember um a friend of mine

  902. said that um all he ever really

  903. remembers his dad saying is, "You're a

  904. knucklehead and you'll never amount to

  905. anything." His dad was angry. And my

  906. guess is that his dad didn't really mean

  907. that like every morning woke up and it's

  908. like that guy will definitely not amount

  909. to anything. He said it in anger.

  910. Probably it's some kind of repetitive

  911. thing that he had done. But still it it

  912. wrote a code on his life that he had to

  913. undo, debug, cause all kinds of

  914. problems. So if if you're suppressing

  915. emotion, this is not a good thing. You

  916. don't want to push. You need to feel all

  917. of the feelings of loss that you feel.

  918. And there's a time for that. God says

  919. there's a time for that. But that time

  920. also has to come to an end. This is the

  921. portion of the sermon that I worried

  922. about the most that I care about. Well,

  923. I don't know about care about the most,

  924. but I'm the most concerned that I might

  925. be misunderstood or that you might not

  926. receive it. Uh because there's no one

  927. that can tell you, "Well, it's this many

  928. days and then you have to stop

  929. mourning." Where does it say that in the

  930. Bible? This is not prescriptive. It's

  931. just what they did. But I am here to

  932. tell you that at some point you have to

  933. come out of it. It's crushing to the

  934. spirit to just keep mourning and

  935. mourning. It will diminish you as a

  936. person. God will call you out of that.

  937. And when he does, and you don't, it

  938. begins to cause a drift between you and

  939. him because he's got a purpose for you

  940. in that morning. any morning, any

  941. affliction, any difficulty that you face

  942. that causes suffering or pain, God has a

  943. purpose for it, we call that purpose

  944. comfort. Let's go to the very next. This

  945. is one of my favorite passages in all of

  946. scripture regarding comfort. And it's um

  947. I think 2 Corinthians chapter 1 3-5. If

    2 Corinthians 1 chapter mention

  948. you guys could put that up. Blessed be

  949. the God and father of our Lord Jesus

  950. Christ, the father of mercies and the

  951. God of all

  952. comfort, who comforts us in our

  953. affliction, so that we may be able to

  954. comfort those who are in any affliction

  955. with the comfort with which we ourselves

  956. are comforted by God.

  957. There's I wish it wasn't so, but there's

  958. a way that God

  959. works in our suffering and through our

  960. suffering and sometimes even bringing

  961. suffering into our lives. I mean, he's

  962. in charge of all life and death. No one

  963. ever dies except by his permission. So,

  964. you know, he could have stopped someone

  965. from dying. He could have healed someone

  966. if you want to. All death is ultimately

  967. a God issue when you're being honest.

  968. And so you got to take it to him. And he

  969. has a plan for our morning and it's

  970. comfort. But it goes beyond just

  971. comforting us. He builds in us a

  972. capacity to understand experientially

  973. not just the pain of loss through death

  974. or whatever kind of suffering you

  975. experience, but then also the experience

  976. of him comforting you in it. And what

  977. can you then do with the experience of

  978. comfort during affliction? you can bring

  979. it to somebody else. It's not even just

  980. about you being able to understand what

  981. it's like for people to suffer or for

  982. you to be able to give them some kind of

  983. piece of advice that uh you were given

  984. that was helpful. It's about passing on

  985. the comfort that you received from the

  986. Lord while you were suffering to that

  987. person. And it grows our capacity for

  988. empathy, for compassion, but most

  989. importantly, I don't know if you can

  990. even have the ability to point people to

  991. God's comfort in the same way that

  992. someone who has had that experience of

  993. comfort. It's a

  994. testimony. You can say, "This is what I

  995. was feeling." Similar feelings to you.

  996. It's not like I understand or totally

  997. know how you're feeling, but this is how

  998. God comforted me and I know he can

  999. comfort you at that way, too. And you

  1000. need to draw near to him. And when you

  1001. draw near to him, God intends to heal

  1002. you of the sorrow. And he might have a

  1003. process for that, but it's not

  1004. forever. I've seen uh people get lost in

  1005. that kind of suffering, and it's it

  1006. withers their spirit. You can see it in

  1007. the eyes. They're

  1008. withering. There's no victory anymore.

  1009. I've seen it in Christians. It can

  1010. happen to Christians,

  1011. too. So, there's a time for it to come

  1012. to an end. And why do I say that? Verse

  1013. four. And when the days of weeping for

  1014. him were passed, Joseph spoke to the

  1015. household of Pharaoh, saying, "If now I

  1016. have found favor in your eyes, please

  1017. speak in the ears of Pharaoh, saying, My

  1018. father made me swear, saying, I am about

  1019. to die in my tomb that I hewed out for

  1020. myself in the land of Canaan. There

  1021. shall you bury me. Now therefore, let me

  1022. please go up and bury my father. Then I

  1023. will return."

  1024. The reason why I started thinking about

  1025. getting fired by your boss if maybe

  1026. you'd been suppressing emotion and then

  1027. just blew up at them was that Joseph

  1028. once again is just a shining example of

  1029. how to relate to your boss when I mean

  1030. it's not just because the 70 days went

  1031. by that Joseph's not still

  1032. sad ve weeping about the loss of his

  1033. father. We're going to find out when

  1034. they go and to bury him. There's another

  1035. seven days of mourning and it's grievous

  1036. lamentation. Very grievous, God says.

  1037. When God says something's very grievous

  1038. in terms of

  1039. lamentation, you better believe it was.

  1040. So, but he goes to his his boss. He's a

  1041. second command of the world power,

  1042. right? Is way higher power than the vice

  1043. president. Um, we don't really know what

  1044. it's like to experience someone who's

  1045. really the executive leader of

  1046. everything. And then you have almost

  1047. like a figurehead above him. But he's

  1048. definitely actually in authority, a

  1049. king, and the one who carries out the

  1050. king's will. That is who Joseph was. And

  1051. he still asks Pharaoh for permission to

  1052. go. He's got a job to do. How are you

  1053. going to keep carrying out your job if

  1054. you are just withering and lost and

  1055. mourning day in and day out? How are you

  1056. going to, you know, when you I've said

  1057. this before, but um and I kind of picked

  1058. it up from a movie that was basically

  1059. about the pain the children experienced

  1060. from having lost their sibling and

  1061. therefore basically lost their parents'

  1062. love, too, because all they could think

  1063. about was the loss of that child. They

  1064. there are other people to love. The

  1065. command to love God and your neighbor

  1066. hasn't ceased. And it's not like, hey,

  1067. shove that command on your throat. It's

  1068. that people need your love. God doesn't

  1069. need your love. You need to love him.

  1070. It's a pathway through which he

  1071. transforms you.

  1072. But mourning can get in the way in that

  1073. and it can get in the way of you and

  1074. God's purpose in relationship to others.

  1075. You're certainly not going to be able to

  1076. comfort people with God's comfort until

  1077. you yourself have received it. And if

  1078. you're stuck in mourning, you have not

  1079. yet received it as deeply as God wants

  1080. you to. So, I say that carefully and I'm

  1081. not going to assign amount of time to

  1082. it. Um, but I have I have an experience.

  1083. I'm I'm not going to get into it for

  1084. time sake, but I just let it go on for a

  1085. year, maybe a year and a half. And I

  1086. knew I was drifting. I knew long time

  1087. past God's, you know, freshness stamp of

  1088. mourning. And I was just pity party,

  1089. pity party. All kinds of bad things came

  1090. into my life. It harmmed my relationship

  1091. to my wife, to my children, my job, to

  1092. everything. And I had to repent. I had

  1093. to repent of allowing myself to turn

  1094. idwards into myself so much for so

  1095. long. But Joseph didn't. And he treated

  1096. his employer, so to speak, with respect.

  1097. So Joseph went up to bury his father

  1098. with him went all went up all the

  1099. servants of Pharaoh and the elders of

  1100. the household and all the elders of the

  1101. land of Egypt, as well as all of the

  1102. household of Joseph, his brothers and

  1103. his father's household. Only their

  1104. children, their flocks, and their herds

  1105. were left in the land of Gan. And there

  1106. they went up with him, both chariots and

  1107. horsemen. It was a very great company.

  1108. First of all, yeah, chariots and

  1109. horsemen, better than by foot, but it's

  1110. 300

  1111. miles. All the important dignitaries,

  1112. every single one of his children of his

  1113. sons, his grown sons and their wives,

  1114. only the little ones of his uh growing

  1115. tribe didn't come. And all the

  1116. dignitaries, it seems Pharaoh may not

  1117. have, but all the dignitaries of Egypt

  1118. all have important jobs. Can't just like

  1119. leave those jobs and not have there be

  1120. any consequence. And they all decide to

  1121. come along on a 300mile journey by

  1122. horseback and

  1123. chariot. So what were we talking about

  1124. the beginning? Did God really redeem

  1125. Jacob's life? He's only been I mean 17

  1126. years I guess is a long time but he's

  1127. been in in Egypt for 17 years and all of

  1128. the dignitaries of Egypt find him in

  1129. such great esteem that they'll come to

  1130. his funeral 300 miles away not by plane

  1131. not a quick trip back and forth saw a

  1132. lot of people going to the the Pope's

  1133. funeral and maybe they stayed for a

  1134. while and I'm not saying there was

  1135. anything wrong with them going to that

  1136. funeral but um if people had to travel

  1137. 300 miles by horseback and chariot and

  1138. it took a month to get

  1139. there, you know, probably less people

  1140. would have come. So, it's a big deal

  1141. that everyone's coming. And would they

  1142. have come for a guy they'd known as a

  1143. manipulator, a cheat, a liar, a guy you

  1144. can never trust, who a guy is going to

  1145. try to get one over on you? Of course

  1146. not. Of course not.

  1147. But if you have any more doubt that his

  1148. children and even in these dignitaries

  1149. actually loved him, listen to what God

  1150. says next in verse 10 of Genesis 50.

  1151. When they came to the threshing floor of

  1152. Atad, which is beyond the Jordan, they

  1153. lamented there with a very great and

  1154. grievous

  1155. lamentation. And he made mourning for

  1156. his father seven

  1157. days. I don't know if you've ever

  1158. experienced anything like this.

  1159. Um, I don't think it's good to compare

  1160. our pain. What's the use of that? I like

  1161. to say just because someone's starving

  1162. in Africa does not mean it doesn't hurt

  1163. when you stub your toe. It hurts. You

  1164. might have broken your toe. You may need

  1165. to go to the doctor. Every person's

  1166. suffering is their own. And there's no

  1167. reason to compare it. And so, I won't

  1168. either. Um, and I I don't even want to

  1169. compare it to this, but I I I feel that

  1170. I know what it's like to have such like

  1171. it's like waves of overwhelming emotion

  1172. and you can't stop crying. And then when

  1173. you think you're like, there's no way I

  1174. have more tears in my body, something

  1175. comes up like a memory and the whole

  1176. thing just happens again. And none of

  1177. your tears brings them back either. It's

  1178. like nothing you can do to change the

  1179. situ situation that the person or thing

  1180. or hope you had for your life seems to

  1181. be done and

  1182. gone. The pain is

  1183. extreme and that's with the sting of

  1184. death taken out of

  1185. it.

  1186. So I want to tell you a story about

  1187. Macau Kulkin, right? Home Alone Kid. And

  1188. then also I want to go back to those

  1189. those uncles. And neither of these is

  1190. funny and I'm not trying to make them

  1191. funny. Uh I saw an interview with

  1192. McCaulay Coin and he became estranged

  1193. from his father probably from both

  1194. parents but he's mostly talking about

  1195. his father after Richie Rich which was

  1196. way I think even after Home Alone 2. He

  1197. was one of the most famous child actors

  1198. ever and in a significant part because

  1199. of his dad. His dad really drove that,

  1200. but he drove so hard, at least according

  1201. to Macaulay, that it broke his

  1202. relationship. And he hasn't spoken to

  1203. him since. And again, according to

  1204. Macau, none of his other children have.

  1205. And you can tell there's a hatred in his

  1206. heart for his father. He hates

  1207. him. But the reality is that there's

  1208. always other side of the coin. had his

  1209. dad changed. Truly changed. Every

  1210. father, even to his adult son, still has

  1211. a sliver of that you're my hero in them.

  1212. It never goes away. It's one of the

  1213. reasons why sons can slip into hatred so

  1214. much because the fall from where they

  1215. saw their father is so high. How dare

  1216. you be so opposite of who you said you

  1217. were or who I hoped you to be. And uh so

  1218. so when fathers don't change, the sons

  1219. stay aranged. And here they're all

  1220. weeping. And I don't know, is there any

  1221. way to say that the weeping was greater

  1222. than to say they lamented there with a

  1223. very great and grievous lamentation?

  1224. What words would you use to say that

  1225. their weeping was worse than that? Was

  1226. more painful than that. There

  1227. isn't. Back to the story. In the car, a

  1228. big truck. I think there's like four

  1229. uncles. Uncle Mark, Uncle Phil, my dad,

  1230. and probably uh Uncle Arnold. He had

  1231. nine siblings. He's one of nine big

  1232. farming family in Silverton. And they

  1233. began talking and they clearly didn't

  1234. mind that I overhear this. And uh I at

  1235. this point I'm not I'm no longer like

  1236. the little nephew, but I I was already a

  1237. pastor. And they were starting to treat

  1238. me more like a peer. It felt like never

  1239. that they'd look down on me or anything

  1240. like that, but I was one of the adults

  1241. with in the conversation. And uh what

  1242. they were talking about is how um my

  1243. grandfather, their father, Lawrence

  1244. Winston Garing,

  1245. um only really cared about their success

  1246. and failures in as much as it reflected

  1247. on

  1248. him and how much that wounded them. And

  1249. so they loved Byron, but Byron was one

  1250. of the most successful kids. And so he

  1251. was beloved by LW. They call him my

  1252. grandfather.

  1253. uh because it reflected so well on him.

  1254. So it was what they were calling and and

  1255. they were saying it respectfully. He

  1256. came to faith at the end of his life. LW

  1257. did um I should probably call him

  1258. grandpa, but everyone calls him LW, so I

  1259. don't mean any disrespect, but um he

  1260. came to faith. He's in heaven. He's all

  1261. that sin is redeemed. Uh but it it had a

  1262. a negative impact on the sons. It's a

  1263. selfish love. It's a turned inwards

  1264. love. Uh it's not the kind of love that

  1265. builds people up. It's a kind of love.

  1266. It's just crooked selflove really. Um,

  1267. and even they mourned at his

  1268. funeral, right? There's a lot of sin

  1269. that sons can overlook. Uh, but it's

  1270. just not the same thing as just weeping

  1271. for seven days after already having

  1272. mourned for 70. And all the Egyptians,

  1273. too. Now, there's no greater evidence in

  1274. my mind in the book of Genesis that God

  1275. had done a great work of redemption in

  1276. Jacob's

  1277. life. I look at it like, you

  1278. know, I think it's funny and painful to

  1279. say at the time, but I I find myself a

  1280. relatively unusually unlikable person.

  1281. Um, I know that because of how many

  1282. responses I have like that. And I mean

  1283. that apart from God. I think when

  1284. someone dislikes something Christlike

  1285. about me, they're in the wrong, right?

  1286. and I I learn more and more about what

  1287. those are. So, I'm confident about some

  1288. of those. But apart from Christ, I'm the

  1289. kind of guy that turns into the enemy of

  1290. nice people and just an angry tyrant.

  1291. And if you really know me, you know,

  1292. there's still a strain of that species

  1293. of pride in me. So, um, surprise. I

  1294. don't like being unusually unlovable. I

  1295. don't enjoy being like that, but God

  1296. made me this way. you know, and and when

  1297. I'm surrendered to him, you get a man

  1298. who will not yield preaching the cross

  1299. of Jesus Christ and him only no matter

  1300. what the cost. And you love it. But I'm

  1301. still a sinner and I still have that

  1302. species of pride and I don't enjoy being

  1303. like that. I don't want to be like that.

  1304. Uh not everyone is that unusually

  1305. unlikable. I feel like people start

  1306. sometimes with a base personality that

  1307. isn't so costic and aggressive and isn't

  1308. always turned towards anger. It's no

  1309. one's not a sinner. That's not my point.

  1310. Um, but if I had only half of the

  1311. redemption of Jacob at the end of my

  1312. life, I'd be satisfied. Everybody loved

  1313. him.

  1314. Everybody. And if you've been judging

  1315. him this whole time, are you

  1316. experiencing as much redemption as he

  1317. has in your life? Are you taking your

  1318. sin as seriously as God took Jacob's?

  1319. And when you are being humbled, are you

  1320. accepting the hum are you recognizing

  1321. that the hard knocks that have come into

  1322. your life? Are probably to those around

  1323. you very clearly God knocking the door

  1324. on your pride and wanting to break it

  1325. down, but he won't do it without you

  1326. opening it. The spirit is a

  1327. gentleman. There's just such powerful

  1328. redemption

  1329. here. Maybe you're on the very other

  1330. side of that.

  1331. You're not judging Jacob, but you still

  1332. want to see redemption in your life, and

  1333. you're worried it might not happen. Let

  1334. me read you another promise from Paul.

  1335. Therefore, from God, Philippians

    Philippians 1:6

  1336. 1:6. And you ought to be sure of this,

  1337. too. This is Paul speaking. For I am

  1338. sure of this, that he who began a good

  1339. work in you will bring it to completion

  1340. at the day of Jesus Christ.

  1341. At the very least you can know that even

  1342. death won't have the final word over

  1343. your redemption. Not ever. It's made me

  1344. think that I I wonder if we're missing

  1345. something in memorials. uh because

  1346. especially as someone that gets asked to

  1347. speak at memorials quite often and more

  1348. often now uh as I know more and more

  1349. people you know boomers basically I have

  1350. a great respect for but they're you know

  1351. they're at that age where pretty close

  1352. to the average life expectancy and so

  1353. maybe that's why there's more funerals

  1354. and when I get asked and um sometimes I

  1355. mean you have to be honest I'm not going

  1356. to not be honest but I'm not looking to

  1357. say like a negative report card of the

  1358. person but um What? So, you talk to

  1359. people and what if like most people

  1360. really dislike them and there's just a

  1361. lot of negative stuff there. Like, what

  1362. do you say? What do you say about that

  1363. kind of person? Well, if they're a

  1364. Christian, none of those things are true

  1365. anymore. But I've never been to a

  1366. memorial, including ones I've spoken at,

  1367. where people just talk about who that

  1368. person is

  1369. now. Everything that wasn't like Jesus

  1370. is now like Jesus in them. and

  1371. everything that already was

  1372. stayed. So, just as a little side note,

  1373. if you're having a struggle, having fond

  1374. memories of someone, at least if they've

  1375. died in faith, uh they are now

  1376. perfect and you can remember them in all

  1377. the ways you'd hoped they would have

  1378. become on earth

  1379. already. But for yourself, turning this

  1380. inwards, uh there's no reason why you

  1381. can't experience more redemption now.

  1382. His work in you happens through his

  1383. word. And it's not just reading it and

  1384. it's not just understanding it, but it's

  1385. surrendering to it. And according to

  1386. Jesus, that means taking up your cross

  1387. because the only thing in you uh is is

  1388. your flesh. That's the only thing you

  1389. came to the word with. The spirit is

  1390. from the

  1391. outside. Martin Luther, the first one,

  1392. called it alien righteousness. It's from

  1393. the outside, right? And it's his work,

  1394. the Holy Spirit's work to put to death

  1395. the things in you that desire the very

  1396. opposite of God's word. It's by my

  1397. spirit, not by force. My flesh wants it

  1398. to be by

  1399. force. So what does your flesh want that

  1400. is opposite of the spirit? That's what

  1401. the spirit's trying to redeem. And he

  1402. doesn't do it by force. That means that

  1403. he when you surrender your false and

  1404. crooked

  1405. uh desires and affections, he gives you

  1406. godly and good and righteous desires and

  1407. affections and they really become your

  1408. own. It's amazing. Have you ever, you

  1409. know, I say angry tyrant, uh, a non-

  1410. angry tyrant is better than an angry

  1411. tyrant. And I've been an angry tyrant at

  1412. times and I I know when I'm slipping

  1413. towards that apart from from him, you

  1414. know, woke up grumpy for what feels like

  1415. no reason today. And I'm like, I just

  1416. need God not to be like upset about

  1417. something I can't even explain. When I

  1418. wake up in the first first point in the

  1419. morning, I have no I can't even I'm

  1420. usually pretty self-aware. Don't even

  1421. know just I'm grumpy, you know. And uh

  1422. so I need God to to encourage me to to

  1423. wash my spirit clean. And when I'm

  1424. angry, sometimes I'll ask God, God, I

  1425. don't know why I'm angry. I don't feel

  1426. like I have control over it right now.

  1427. I'm concerned that it's going to uh it's

  1428. going to pop out in a way that's going

  1429. to harm somebody and I just need you to

  1430. take it away. Like I just think of him

  1431. like dissipating it out of my spirit.

  1432. And when I really surrender, he does. He

  1433. does. And I'm just like, wow. I'm just

  1434. people. It's they think I'm schizophren.

  1435. I wonder if Christine sometimes thinks

  1436. I'm schizophrenic. Like he was so angry

  1437. a moment ago and he's just not. And

  1438. that's how powerful the spirit is. And

  1439. it's not fake. I'm just not angry

  1440. anymore. Supernaturally. God took it. I

  1441. gave it to him. He can handle it. Jesus

  1442. had to be crucified for that sinful

  1443. anger. There's power in the

  1444. cross. So whatever it is that needs to

  1445. be redeemed, I'm just talking about my

  1446. sins, they're not necessarily yours.

  1447. Anger is pretty relatable for most

  1448. people. But the reality is we have even

  1449. if you started out having abandoned your

  1450. children, no matter what mess you've

  1451. made of of your family, you turn towards

  1452. God and begin walking in his spirit, in

  1453. his way, and his power, God can redeem

  1454. anything. It's only Satan that'll tell

  1455. you you can't redeem

  1456. that. So consider that. I mean, it's

  1457. such a hopeful message for me. I I worry

  1458. sometimes I'm not going to grow as much

  1459. as I'd hope to. All your growth

  1460. glorifies God, by the way. It's it's the

  1461. best thing you can give him

  1462. is increased and maintained

  1463. Christlikkeness. Nothing will glorify

  1464. God more than that.

  1465. So consider that we have that's really

  1466. sort of the climax of the sermon and

  1467. we're coming down off the mountain.

  1468. There's one more thing we need to talk

  1469. about and then we'll close. When the

  1470. inhabitants verse 11 of the land the

  1471. Canaanites saw the mourning of the

  1472. threshing floor of Atad they said this

  1473. is a grievous mourning by the

  1474. Egyptians. Thus his sons did for him as

  1475. he had commanded them. For his sons

  1476. cried car, excuse me, for the sons

  1477. carried him to the land of Canaan,

  1478. buried him in the cave of the field of

  1479. Mechbalah to the east of Mamray, which

  1480. Abraham bought uh with the field from

  1481. Ephron the Hitittite to possess as a

  1482. burying place. And after he had buried

  1483. his father, Joseph returned to Egypt

  1484. with his brothers and all who had gone

  1485. up with him to bury his father. I just

  1486. want to go back to verse 11. It had a

  1487. impact. I don't know about a profound

  1488. impact, but it definitely had an impact

  1489. on the Canaanites. They noticed the way

  1490. they were

  1491. grieving. Full strength. There wasn't

  1492. anything held back. They're

  1493. weeping. But it's a different

  1494. kind. They the world doesn't have a

  1495. category for this. How can you be so sad

  1496. and then return to joy and purpose and

  1497. things in your life? How can that

  1498. happen? It's it's only by the spirit.

  1499. It's only because of God that we can be

  1500. people like that and people have no

  1501. category for

  1502. it. How have you overcome that? There's

  1503. no answer. So there is a huge witness in

  1504. us and the way that we relate to death.

  1505. But if you mourn for way too long, you

  1506. diminish that

  1507. witness. I thought long and hard, should

  1508. I say we have a responsibility? But yes,

  1509. we do. We have a responsibility to

  1510. witness faithfully how to mourn the dead

  1511. to our world. It it may be the thing

  1512. that brings someone to salvation is

  1513. watching how they have a joy that even

  1514. the death of their loved ones even

  1515. though it's so grievous cannot

  1516. overcome. But it's again it's not hey

  1517. you better don't think of it as a duty.

  1518. Think of as something that only the

  1519. spirit can help you to accomplish that

  1520. you know deep down you want

  1521. to and that is to be fully

  1522. comforted of whatever mourning you've

  1523. experienced whatever you're mourning

  1524. currently so that you can go around and

  1525. comfort others. It just returns to the

  1526. second greatest commandment of loving

  1527. others as you love yourself. Have you

  1528. ever been comforted by someone who just

  1529. knows? They know. You know they've been

  1530. through it. No better person to sit

  1531. right beside you right now because they

  1532. just know they can carry the burden.

  1533. They've been there. They have the

  1534. capacity for compassion in that area.

  1535. Very, it seems like

  1536. few seems like we got more Job's

  1537. counselors that think they know what to

  1538. say rather than have experience the pain

  1539. and know how to

  1540. minister. So there's it's a very

  1541. powerful thing. And one other way and I

  1542. don't feel this is really a side note

  1543. but this is a way that the death that

  1544. death really ends up having the last

  1545. word and I think it's a scheme of the

  1546. enemy um he either has people just avoid

  1547. the concept of death altogether. So

  1548. avoidance would be one. It's like I

  1549. don't think don't think about that.

  1550. Don't think about that. Whereas the

  1551. spirit or God tells us uh we you're dust

  1552. remember that you are dust until dust

  1553. you shall return. Contemplating your

  1554. mortality is not unspiritual. It's

  1555. something that God tells us to

  1556. remember. Not in despair though, but

  1557. yes, remember it. It's it's a weighty

  1558. thing. You ought not to avoid truth

  1559. ever. But there's another way he can

  1560. distract us from it. So, you get

  1561. distracted through those kinds of

  1562. powerful things I mentioned before. It's

  1563. not just that you're like, "Oh, I'm not

  1564. going to I'm definitely making a

  1565. conscious choice not to talk about it."

  1566. It's just you're over here thinking

  1567. about other things. And then there's

  1568. another way and this is to see this is

  1569. how you can see how just brilliant Satan

  1570. is. Um he'll entertain us with it. Have

  1571. you ever thought about that? There are

  1572. so many movie

  1573. genres and the only reason why they're

  1574. successful is that death entertains

  1575. people. I think that's what the horror

  1576. genre is. What is that other than being

  1577. entertained by death?

  1578. I have certain boundaries and and I

  1579. don't consider these universal. You need

  1580. to in your own convictions. I call them

  1581. personal convictions. Think about what

  1582. what you feel in relationship to God.

  1583. You should watch, you shouldn't watch.

  1584. Like I'll watch Gladiator. Very violent.

  1585. I don't think the purpose of Gladiator

  1586. though was to uh glorify death or be

  1587. entertained by death. There's like a

  1588. redemption justice story there. That's

  1589. part of what was attractive to me to it.

  1590. I do not watch horror ever. It affects

  1591. my dreams.

  1592. I I I also don't like the feeling of

  1593. feeling scared in that way. Uh I don't

  1594. it's not that I don't like thrillers or

  1595. like a little bit jumpy movies, but it's

  1596. the gore and the evil of it and it just

  1597. I feel convicted in my spirit I

  1598. shouldn't be watching it. Um but you you

  1599. do that for yourself or you know are

  1600. there forms of media that you're

  1601. ingesting that are really just

  1602. death death entertainment? You know, you

  1603. can be scrolling and there's lots of

  1604. like YouTube channels, reals, Tik Toks

  1605. where all it is is just fatal car

  1606. crash. Why are those so

  1607. popular? Because death has the Satan has

  1608. convinced a whole society and world that

  1609. death is entertaining. It's

  1610. entertaining. So then you think about

  1611. the cross and is there anything

  1612. entertaining about the cross? People can

  1613. make the cross itself entertaining too.

  1614. But but the way God looks at death is

  1615. that it's an

  1616. enemy. It's an enemy of his people and

  1617. his own son has to suffer and die to

  1618. have victory over it. It ought not to be

  1619. something that the people of God

  1620. entertain themselves with. It ought not

  1621. to be something that the people of God

  1622. allow them to be themselves to be

  1623. distracted from. And it ought not to be

  1624. something that you just keep wrapped up

  1625. tightly and don't think about. It's

  1626. something that you move through with

  1627. biblical truth, with spiritual comfort

  1628. from God and by

  1629. faith. And again, I just to repeat

  1630. everything that I've been intending to

  1631. say here, let's put up the main point

  1632. one more time and I'll close us in

  1633. prayer. No matter where you're at in

  1634. God's story of your redemption, even

  1635. though we die, God's redemption has the

  1636. last word. Let me pray. Father, thank

  1637. you for this message. just not easy to

  1638. discuss death because of the great pain

  1639. that comes loaded with that

  1640. subject. But we're so thankful that you

  1641. were willing to die for us, Jesus. It's

  1642. because of that death and because of

  1643. that resurrection that we don't despair,

  1644. that we have great hope, and that we

  1645. know that even our own death will not

  1646. have the last word, but your redemption.

  1647. I pray that we would take that

  1648. redemption seriously now as we come to

  1649. communion. It's the table of redemption.

  1650. It's the table of the forgiveness of

  1651. sins. It's your body broken and your

  1652. blood shed. And there's anything that

  1653. needs to be redeemed in our lives if we

  1654. bring it in true surrender and

  1655. sincerity. We will make

  1656. progress. We'll be forgiven of our sins

  1657. and cleansed of unrighteousness.

  1658. Patterns and strongholds of sin can be

  1659. broken.

  1660. thought patterns about your word that

  1661. are mixed with error can be

  1662. purified. Anything and everything that

  1663. needs to happen that makes us more like

  1664. Jesus is

  1665. possible at the

  1666. table of your crucifixion and

  1667. resurrection. And I pray that we would

  1668. come with a heart for that today with

  1669. the desire to be redeemed even now. And

  1670. I pray these things in Jesus name. Amen.