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November 2, 2025: Reconciled and Home - Genesis 33

Upland Community Church

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  1. If you have a copy of your Bibles this morning, if you

  2. would please turn to Genesis chapter 33.

    Genesis 33 chapter mention

  3. We good to follow along in the text as we continue to advance

  4. this series and title Legacy of Blessing.

  5. We have been in suspense all week to wonder how this is going

  6. to resolve, as we have heard that Jacob's brother Esau has

  7. 400 men to meet him. That is military language that

  8. is very scary. The last time they were

  9. together, he saw was murderously angry with his treacherous

  10. younger brother who stole the blessing.

  11. So we come into this place and continue to ask, as we do every

  12. week, our most basic questions, fundamental human questions,

  13. fundamentally religious questions.

  14. What am I? What does it mean to be human,

  15. created in the image of God? Who am I, Where does my identity

  16. come from, and why am I here anyways?

  17. Is there a purpose or a meaning to life?

  18. As we read through Genesis, we hear God's promises repeated to

  19. Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, promises to give them the land,

  20. to make them a great nation, and to give them the means to bless

  21. the nations, that they will be a blessing to the nations.

  22. And we can note that these promises apply to us as well,

  23. that the Lord has promised to give us a place to make of us a

  24. great people and to give us holy work to do and give us a

  25. purpose. We note as we read through

  26. Genesis that sin has a devastating effect in all three

  27. of these areas. We see Adam and Eve exiled from

  28. their home, and in the Jacob narratives we see Jacob on the

  29. run out of the promised land to flee from his angry brother Sin

  30. Rex home. We also see sin make the closest

  31. relationships war against one another as this.

  32. As was the case with Cain and Abel, Cain murdered his brother.

  33. And in this text, Esau is murderously angry.

  34. Or at least that's the last we knew of him.

  35. And so instead of having close brotherly love, we have threats

  36. of murder. And instead of being a blessing

  37. to one another, our sin makes us selfish, deceptive, greedy,

  38. hesitant to reach out, to give, to bless, to heal.

  39. So we have curses instead of blessings.

  40. As we said, Jacob thieved twice, and finally his brother's so

  41. angry he has to run away. But God comes to him in his

  42. great need and gives to him a vision, a stairway to heaven,

  43. and an Oracle that repeats the blessing, promising to be with

  44. Jacob wherever he goes as he leaves the promised land.

  45. And it's in spends 20 years in exile with his wicked uncle

  46. Laban. But in that text, before any of

  47. that happens, Jacob swears A vow.

  48. This is what it looks like. Then Jacob made a vow saying, if

  49. God will be with me and will keep me means protect me in this

  50. way, that I go and will give me bread to eat and clothing to

  51. wear so that I come home again, so that I come again to my

  52. father's house in peace, then the Lord shall be my God.

  53. And so we see that because of God, because of his grace,

  54. because of his grace, gracious purposes in our lives that these

  55. things can be restored, that He will give us a home, that He

  56. will give us a people or a family where we belong, and He

  57. will allow us to bless instead of curse.

  58. Friends, we, we desperately need peace, don't we?

  59. We'll give up just about anything to have peace on the

  60. one hand, and yet we war against one another in our sin and our

  61. selfishness. On the other hand, we

  62. desperately need peace. Think of that relationship that

  63. broke. Think of those people that you

  64. just can't talk to without misunderstanding.

  65. Think of those people that you just can't engage with without

  66. it going off the rails. Maybe it just happened.

  67. Maybe it's been decades. We need peace, but we also need

  68. a place to call home, don't we? When Dorothy says there's no

  69. place like home, there's no place like home, there's no

  70. place like home, that's not sentimental drivel.

  71. It's true. Think about it.

  72. Home is where you experience or you should experience peace,

  73. unconditional love, belonging, mutual knowing, table,

  74. fellowship, laughter, joy, celebration.

  75. We need home. We need home.

  76. And these two ideas, these ideas of peace and home go together so

  77. tightly, don't they? We need peace.

  78. We need home. Our sin makes these things

  79. impossibly difficult. But praise be to God, he gives

  80. us peace and he gives us home. Let's talk about peace first.

  81. As we look at the text together, verse one, you're getting the

  82. scary setup. It's reminding you where we are

  83. in the story. Jacob lifted up his eyes and

  84. looked and behold, he saw was coming.

  85. And 400 men with him. That's scary.

  86. Those are armed soldiers. It's a reason why Jacob in the

  87. earlier text was terrified. And he sends wave after wave of

  88. gifts to precede him meeting his brother to hope to appease him.

  89. Remember the story? Then he spends the night

  90. wrestling with a mysterious visitor and is given a new name

  91. and a hip injury. And he engages now in this scary

  92. situation. But perhaps he's a new man.

  93. So he divided the children among Leah and Rachel and the two

  94. female servants, and he put the servants with their children in

  95. front. Then Leah with her children and

  96. Rachel and Joseph, last of all. Perhaps you see favoritism even

  97. in the ranking of the way he orders these people, and it

  98. foreshadows the Joseph narratives that are coming.

  99. But for now, you see him putting them there.

  100. This is the last group and before where we saw Jacob in the

  101. back. Now the text says that he goes

  102. on before. Perhaps he's gained courage

  103. through his encounter with the Lord with his new name and the

  104. reiteration a blessing because now he goes in front of them.

  105. Verse three, he himself, Jacob, went on before them, bowing

  106. himself to the ground seven times until he came near to his

  107. brother 7 times as a number of completion.

  108. He is going to fully humiliate himself toward his brother.

  109. Where he was the grasping, deceitful younger brother.

  110. Now he is bowing down before his older brother as he approaches.

  111. What's going to happen? Will there be a slaughter?

  112. Is Esau still mad? You get to verse 4 and you have

  113. a stunning plot twist. And as you've been reading

  114. Genesis, you don't know what to expect because remember Cain did

  115. kill Abel verse 4, but Esau ran to his, ran to meet him and

  116. embraced him and fell on his neck and kissed him and they

  117. wept. It's a very warm text. 1

  118. commentator said. It's one of the warmest texts in

  119. all of Scripture where you have two bitter enemies after 20 long

  120. years. You're in suspense about how

  121. this is going to go. And they embrace one another as

  122. brothers continues in warm tone. Verse 5, when he saw lifted up

  123. his eyes and saw the women and children, he said, who are these

  124. with you? I love that.

  125. I love that because it reminds me of family reunions where I

  126. met grand aunts and uncles who didn't know me but who love my

  127. parents. And we all come up in a group to

  128. be introduced and they say, now who are these?

  129. What's your name? So you have Uncle Laban saying,

  130. who are these? And Jacob answers so warmly, the

  131. grasper, the greedy one, the one who does things for himself.

  132. He says this how he introduces them the children whom God has

  133. graciously given your servant. Something's happened to Jacob

  134. over 20 long years and divine oracles, and to 20 years of

  135. getting a taste of his own medicine, taste of his own

  136. medicine, dealing with an abusive uncle who's a bigger

  137. trickster than he is, and dealing with the rivalry in his

  138. wives, the rivalry in his own heart for the taker.

  139. And the liar now says, I receive God's grace.

  140. The children are from God. Then the servants drew near,

  141. they and their children, and bowed down.

  142. Leah likewise, and her children drew near and bowed down.

  143. And last, Joseph and Rachel drew near, and they bowed down.

  144. Interesting text. It's as though Jacob is trying

  145. to make amends for the crime he committed against his brother.

  146. And if you remember the language of Isaac, their father, when he

  147. thought he was blessing Esau, but it turned out to be Jacob in

  148. disguise. He said your children will bow

  149. down to his children and hear Jacob has his whole family bow

  150. down to his brother. He's making amends and it's

  151. going to continue and it's going to be expensive.

  152. Keep reading, Esau said. What did you mean by all this

  153. company that I met? Remember wave after wave of

  154. gifts of livestock? Jacob answered.

  155. To find favor in the sight of my Lord, Notice how he uses that

  156. humble language refers to Esau as my Lord.

  157. But Esau said I have enough for my brother, keep what you have

  158. for yourself. Jacob said no please, if I have

  159. found favor in your sight, then accept my present from my hand.

  160. This is offering language. It's language of restitution,

  161. like someone who's bringing an offering before the Lord, asking

  162. for forgiveness and repentance. Jacob brings an offering to my

  163. Lord, Esau. Asking for his favor is a sign

  164. of repentance. Please accept my present from my

  165. hand is a sign that we are reconciled.

  166. And then, my friends, this next phrase resounds with biblical

  167. echoes throughout the Bible. For I have seen your face, which

  168. is like seeing the face of God. Remember, face to face, we've

  169. seen this before. It's a sign of reconciliation

  170. because when you are upset with somebody, you don't want to see

  171. their face. The floor suddenly becomes

  172. interesting, or the ceiling anywhere but eye to eye, super

  173. uncomfortable. To reconcile is to see face to

  174. face, to weep with joy and a warm embrace.

  175. And it's like seeing the face of God.

  176. And you have accepted me. Please accept my blessing that

  177. is brought to you because God has dealt graciously, graciously

  178. with me. That's the second time God's

  179. grace is mentioned because God has dealt graciously with Jacob

  180. in the vertical relationship. Now Jacob can extend this grace

  181. to his brother. Because I have enough.

  182. Then he urged him, and he took it.

  183. Jacob has enough. Greedy grasping.

  184. Jacob finally has enough. Finally, he has learned that the

  185. reconciled relationship with his brother is more important than

  186. all the things. It's so interesting to contrast

  187. him with Laban. Uncle Laban.

  188. And their final parting says all of this stuff that you see is

  189. mine. Your wives, your children, it's

  190. all mine. And they have a meal together

  191. and patch up a boundary, and that's the best they can do.

  192. They have to leave. But here Jacob doesn't say all

  193. this is mine. He says I have enough Luther,

  194. Martin Luther, that Luther so beautifully comments on this.

  195. He says it's as though Jacob is saying, because I have God and

  196. you my brother as friends, I am rich, I have enough.

  197. Thus he urged him and he took it.

  198. He received it. Verse 12 Then Esau said, Let us

  199. journey on our way, and I will go ahead of you.

  200. But Jacob said to me, My Lord knows that the children are

  201. frail and that the nursing flocks in herds are a care to

  202. me. If they are driven hard, for one

  203. day all the flocks will die. Let my Lord pass on ahead of his

  204. servants, and I will lead on slowly at the pace of the

  205. livestock that are ahead of me and at the pace of their

  206. children, until I come to my Lord in Seer.

  207. So Esau said, let me leave with you some of the people who are

  208. with me, But he said Juanita's there.

  209. Let me find favor in the sight of my Lord.

  210. So Esau returned that day on his way to Seer.

  211. But Jacob journeyed to Sakoth and built himself a house and

  212. made booze for his livestock. Therefore he named the name of

  213. the place is called Sakoth. Esau graciously offers escort

  214. with these armed men. Perhaps the place is dangerous.

  215. Jacob says we're slow, go on ahead.

  216. He said, well, I can leave some men with you.

  217. Will you come down to see her with me?

  218. And some, some will interpret this to wonder if they don't

  219. quite trust each other yet. And that's a possible reading.

  220. But the text doesn't say that they didn't eventually meet

  221. together there, and the text will deliberately show that

  222. Jacob is returning home first. The overall tone is very warm

  223. and good in my opinion. So let's talk a little bit about

  224. the fact that God has given Jacob peace so that he can give

  225. his brother peace. I want you to know that that's a

  226. gracious and bilateral miracle. God has been working in Jacob,

  227. and God has obviously been working in Esau.

  228. Somehow. Often reconciliation takes time

  229. because our hearts are hard. In this case it takes 20 years.

  230. We see speeches of reconciliation and expensive

  231. gifts. Reconciliation is expensive.

  232. The sacrificial language in here reminds us that the

  233. reconciliation that it cost God to have reconciliation between

  234. himself and humans cost him his Son.

  235. And often reconciliation in these horizontal relationships

  236. is extremely expensive as well, humbling ourselves sometimes

  237. financially expensive as well, to miraculous exchange and

  238. miraculous change in both brothers.

  239. In both brothers, but especially for the Grasper.

  240. Indeed, his grief and envy in this text seem to be totally

  241. gone. As I mentioned, Laban said all

  242. this is mine. Jacob instead says I have

  243. enough. Why?

  244. Only because of God they are face to face.

  245. And this, this phrase about how Esau ran to meet Jacob and

  246. embraced him and fell on his neck and kissed him and they

  247. wept, is probably repeated or alluded to by the words of our

  248. Lord and possibly his most famous parable of all.

  249. Do you know what I'm thinking of?

  250. The story of the prodigal son? The younger brother leaves home.

  251. He wastes everything. The father can't follow him

  252. there. There are boundaries that have

  253. to be kept, but eventually son comes to his senses, comes down

  254. the road. The father's been watching and

  255. the text says, Jesus says, and he arose and came to his father,

  256. but while he, the younger brother, was still a long way

  257. off, his father saw him and felt compassion and ran and embraced

  258. him and kissed him. This vertical reconciliation

  259. leads to horizontal reconciliation.

  260. Receiving forgiveness means that we extend for forgiveness.

  261. As Hudson was praying. Therefore, the Second

    2 Corinthians 5 chapter mention

  262. Corinthians chapter 5, Second Corinthians chapter 5, beginning

    2 Corinthians 5 chapter mention

  263. in verse 17. Let me read to you.

  264. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.

  265. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come.

  266. All of this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to

  267. Himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation.

  268. That is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to

  269. Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and

  270. entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.

  271. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making His

  272. appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of

  273. Christ, be reconciled to God for our sake.

  274. He made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might

  275. become the righteousness of God. Jesus has more to say.

  276. Matthew chapter 5. Beginning in verse 22 and

    Matthew 5 chapter mention

  277. following Jesus says, I say to you that everyone who is angry

  278. with his brother will be liable to judgement.

  279. Whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council and

  280. whoever says you fool will be liable to the fire of hell.

  281. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there and

  282. there, remember that your brother has something against

  283. you. Leave your gift there before the

  284. altar and go first. Be reconciled to your brother

  285. and then come and offer your gift.

  286. Reconciliation may take a long time because our hearts are

  287. hard, but friends, there is urgency to do everything that

  288. you can, as much as it depends on you, to reconcile quickly.

  289. To be a Christian that keeps short accounts, that doesn't

  290. hold grudges, that can do whatever they can to reconcile

  291. why it's because of God. First John chapter 4 verse 19

    1 John 4:19

  292. and following we love because he first loved us.

  293. If anyone says I love God and hates his brother, he's a liar

  294. for he who does not love his brother, whom he has not seen,

  295. whom he has seen cannot love God, whom he has not seen in

  296. this commandment we have from him.

  297. Whoever loves God must also love his brother.

  298. We have tremendous resources in the gospel to extend the

  299. forgiveness that we have been given.

  300. Now the Bible is very careful and qualified in the way it

  301. presents this doctrine. As we noticed even in these

  302. nearby texts, the the closest reconciliation that the abusive

  303. Uncle Laban can have with Jacob is a separation, A contractual

  304. agreement to not harm. But if both parties are willing

  305. and able, we can have so much more than a boundary and a

  306. separation. We can have true reconciliation

  307. like what we see here. Paul says in Romans chapter 12

    Romans 12:18

  308. verse 18, if possible, so far as it depends on you, live

  309. peaceably with all. Sometimes it's not going to be

  310. possible my friends, and you're going to experience relational

  311. brokenness that you can't change.

  312. But we are still obligated to do whatever we can on our side to

  313. live peaceably with all. You may need counsel to know how

  314. to navigate very difficult, tricky situation.

  315. Seek that counsel. We receive his peace so that we

  316. can be peacemakers. We receive his peace so that we

  317. can be peacemakers. Second part of this text has

  318. Jacob coming safely home. This is true for us as well.

  319. He brings us home. God brings us home.

  320. So Esau said, Let me leave with you some of the people who are

  321. with me. But he said, What neat is there,

  322. Let me find favor in the eyes of my Lord.

  323. So Esau returned that day on his way to Seer.

  324. But Jacob returned to Sukkoth and built himself a house and

  325. made booths for his livestock. Therefore he named that the name

  326. of that place is called Sukkoth. And Jacob came safely to the

  327. city of Shechem, which is in the land of Canaan, on his way to

  328. Padan Aram. And he camped before the city.

  329. And from the sons of Haymore, Shechem's father, he bought for

  330. 100 pieces of money build the piece of land on which he had

  331. pitched his tent. There he created an altar and

  332. called it El Alohi Yasrael. What's going on here?

  333. Jacob once again is in his father and his grandfather's

  334. story. If you check the names of the

  335. places, Father Abraham is in this place erecting altars.

  336. Remember with these stories are our stories often with so much

  337. similarity. He purchases, He finally returns

  338. home in peace. And if you remember as he was

  339. making his vow, if the Lord protects me and gives me

  340. provisions and I return home in peace, then the Lord will be my

  341. God. And here he erects an altar.

  342. And what does he call it? El Alohae.

  343. And then he uses his own name here, Yesrael.

  344. Why is that significant? If you look earlier, Jacob

  345. refers to God, the God of Abraham, in the fear of Isaac.

  346. And he says if I return here, the Lord will be my God.

  347. Here he uses his brand new name. Name's the altar L Elohi Israel,

  348. God, the God of Israel. So the text is taking you full

  349. circle and it's a beautiful high point, but it's also a hinge for

  350. the next section where we descend into madness once again

  351. and terrible dysfunction. Because this is Jacob and not

  352. Jesus. He'll give us glimpses of our

  353. Lord, but it's not the high def image we have in the glory of

  354. the Son. Let's talk for a couple of

  355. minutes about Jesus. Jacob had to leave home, didn't

  356. he? Chased out by an angry brother.

  357. Jesus too left home, chased by no one, out of his own volition,

  358. sent by his Father, he left his home.

  359. Jacob for a time was homeless and had to be taken care of by

  360. his uncle. Jesus too stylizes himself as

  361. homeless. The Son of Man doesn't have a

  362. place to lay his head. Jacob's returning home.

  363. Our Lord, after his death, burial and resurrection,

  364. ascended home to heaven. Now you see in this text Jacob

  365. building a house for his family. And we are told in Holy

  366. Scripture that Jesus is preparing a place for us,

  367. preparing a home for us in the new heavens and the new earth.

  368. We need peace. We need home because of sin.

  369. We experience a type of homelessness, a type of

  370. wandering, a type of exile, don't we?

  371. Which means conversion is a homecoming, a type of return.

  372. Because of sin, we are homeless, but because of God we are

  373. homeward bound. And the Bible introduces and

  374. give us gives to us kind of a strange paradox Christian,

  375. because we're supposed to be just a passing through as aliens

  376. and strangers going through a strange place in a strange land.

  377. This land is not our true home. And we're just a passing

  378. through, as the old song says, And yet.

  379. And yet, because we don't make idols out of our homes, and

  380. because we are longing for the unshakeable Kingdom, our true

  381. home, because of those interesting truths, we are able

  382. to make our homes a foretaste of heaven, aren't we?

  383. Have you ever been in a home of peace?

  384. You walk into the door and you sit down and the wave of

  385. hospitality just makes you feel at rest and you think, ha, this

  386. is beautiful, We're just a passing through.

  387. But this isn't. This is a glimpse of heaven.

  388. And you don't have to be rich to do this.

  389. One time Deidre and I were so poor in seminary.

  390. So poor. But the environment of home is a

  391. relational reality. And so when people came in and

  392. they felt attended to, they would say remarkable things

  393. like, your home is so peaceful. I'm like, well, that's weird.

  394. Why did you tell me that? Probably because the tragic

  395. reality is because of sin. For many, many, many people,

  396. home is not a peaceful reality at all.

  397. It's broken, it's dysfunctional. There's abuse, there's

  398. hostility, there's the most emotionally racked, problematic

  399. situation imaginable. And Christians with our high

  400. view of home are able to make this little place of respite.

  401. And if it isn't that way, we ask God to fix it.

  402. But more importantly, when we enter into this house, this

  403. sanctuary, hopefully by God's grace, you enter into a whole

  404. new home. So no matter what you're

  405. experiencing behind your closed door, when you come into these

  406. open doors, there's warmth and belonging, hospitality, the food

  407. of reconciliation and fellowship so that you can lay your burdens

  408. down, so that you have the resources to reconcile with your

  409. enemies. So you can pray for them, though

  410. you hate them, begging God to do a work in your heart as you need

  411. them to also have a miracle on them as well in order to make

  412. peace. So in the first movement we have

  413. to receive his peace so that we can be a peacemaker, and in the

  414. second movement we receive his home or His hope of home as we

  415. sojourn so that we can make be home makers like Jesus be

  416. peacemakers and home makers. Let us pray.

  417. Father in Heaven, we need you more than we can possibly

  418. imagine. You've been so generous to us to

  419. offer us peace by the blood of your Son.

  420. Lord Jesus, thank you for sacrificing yourself on our

  421. behalf. We receive your peace now.

  422. We pray that you would do the work of making us peacemakers in

  423. our relationships. Lord, we need home.

  424. We look forward to our future home, and we pray as we're

  425. passing through that You would help us to be people of

  426. hospitality and peace, warmth of kindness and belonging.

  427. Do it in us. By your Holy Spirit, we pray one

  428. God forever blessed. Amen.

  429. Would you please?