Sermon
A Tale of 2 Mothers - Happy Mother's Day
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Well, happy Mother's Day, real life.
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Give a shout to all the moms who are here today.
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It's such a special day. Yes, to get to celebrate and
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sorry I'm a little bit I don't always get to be down
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worshipping with everybody and I love it so much and that song.
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It just gets me that last song. It's like man, God put his
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breath in our. Lungs and we get to give it back
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to him like what an awesome picture of God.
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So I am so excited I am if I haven't met you.
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My name is Diane I'm Shawn's wife and so excited to share
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with you just something God has put on my heart this Mother's
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Day. So I think we can all agree on
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something today and it's that moms are incredible right that
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kind of yes give them a hand again.
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They don't get enough thanks for all of the work they do.
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They are the reason that we're all here.
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They are the reason that some of us are here and dressed
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appropriately for the day, right?
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They might be the reason some of us remembered to come to church
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today. OK, Like there, there might be
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some of that going on too. So do a quick poll.
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How many do you would say that Mom ever fixed something that
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you had messed up? I forgot something.
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I failed at something. I fell down.
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I hurt myself. Yes, I think that's pretty
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consistent. Moms have this superpower where
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the combination of like a Band-Aid and a cold paper towel
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and a prayer can fix just about anything.
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And we're not really sure which one of those things it was that
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did it right. All right, one more who has who
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has a mom who has a special dish that nobody else on earth can
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make the same way. Well, now Sean's looking at his
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mom because I don't think it's because it's really good.
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I think it's actually gets really bad.
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For some of us. I love my mother-in-law.
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I really do. She's great.
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She's so great. But I know now I'm going to go
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buy her flowers. It's going to be a great
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afternoon. We're going to have so much fun.
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Yeah. Hey, we got you some flowers.
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It's going to be great. So that dish, right.
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Like you might have gotten even gotten the recipe for mom and it
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doesn't matter. You can't make it the same way
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that she made it. And moms just really carry
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something that's irreplaceable. It's often.
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Unseen and you can't. Put your finger on it.
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But it's woven in the background of all of the ordinary
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day-to-day things that we do. It's so special.
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We can't explain it, but they make such a huge difference.
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So we hope that you feel honored today.
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We love the moms in the house. We want to celebrate all of the
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ladies across this space for all that they do.
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And so happy Mother's Day to all the awesome moms out there.
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Yeah, one more hand. Let's give them a hand.
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So today we are going to talk about a story about two moms.
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But the story is really one for every person in the room.
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Of course, moms, but maybe those waiting to be moms, maybe those
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who have lost their mom, maybe those who are in a complicated
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relationship with their mom or whose mom never quite showed up.
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Or maybe just any one of us today who needs a reminder that
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no matter what circumstances we're in, that God is here and
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he wants to show up in those. And so this story today is not
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really the Hallmark Channel version of Mother's Day.
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It's real life. And real life, as you all know,
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can be a little bit complicated. So this story is almost kind of
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uncomfortably real. I like to say it's in the book
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of Genesis. Barry mentioned it.
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It's a story of two sisters named Leah and Rachel.
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I've heard some people call her Leah.
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I can't get that in my brain. So today she's Leah and Rachel.
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So if I'm my Hebrew is not right, that's OK, I'm sorry.
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But she's Leah and Rachel today. And I'm calling it the tale of
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two mothers. And Sean thought it'd be really
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funny if I said this story really does have the best of
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sometimes and the worst of times because it does.
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So I'm not as funny as Sean. So you'll get some some Sean
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jokes on the backside. Yes, I am.
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I know it's not my superpower. It's OK.
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I have other superpowers. But it made me think about this
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story, looking at this series that we had been in called
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Theology for the Rest of Us. And I think this story is one of
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those nods to the credibility of God's word.
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Because if I was looking back at the lineage of my family and
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trying to like line down all the lives and what God had done
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through them to get me where I am today, this is like a cringe
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worthy account that probably wouldn't have made it in my list
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of like, let's honor Aunt Leah and Rachel who had this just
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messy, yucky weirdness. But what I love about it is God
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doesn't whitewash the lives of the people in his story.
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His intention isn't to make these perfect people that we
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never feel like we could attain to.
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The people in this book are real people just like us, and they
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screw up just like us. And I really believe that God
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knew that we would need that reminder to see that how He
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works through the lives of people matters so little on our
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own ability and so much on our ability to trust that He's in
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control and He can do it. So we're going to dive in.
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Sorry if I talk fast. I have lots of Bible verses
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today. Logan gave me an award for maybe
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having almost the most Bible verses that we put in a message.
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But I really want you to, I don't know if that's a good
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award or a bad award. There's lots of it, but I really
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want you to see this story. So the setup is this Jacob, like
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Abraham, Isaac, Jacob. Jacob has just gotten the
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blessing from his dad, Isaac. He has promised to go find
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himself a wife who is still connected to his family.
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So not a Canaanite woman, somebody in their family he
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knows about. His uncle lives in a far off
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town, so he goes off off on the way for several chapters.
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He has this dream about the stairway to heaven.
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He's promised all these descendants, all these things.
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So we're going to pick him up when he has made his way to town
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and he has run into some shepherds at a well.
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So we are in Genesis 29. We are going to start in verse
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9, and we are going to make our way through most of this
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chapter. So it says, while he was still
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talking with them, Rachel came with her father's sheep, for she
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was a shepherd. And when Jacob saw Rachel, the
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daughter of his uncle Laban and Laban sheep, he went over and
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rolled the stone away from the mouth of the well, and watered
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his uncle's sheep. And then Jacob kissed Rachel,
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and he began to weep aloud, because he had told Rachel that
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he was a relative of her father and the son of Rebecca.
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So she ran and told her father, and as soon as Laban heard the
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news about Jacob, his sister son, he hurried to meet him.
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He embraced him, kissed him, and brought him to his home.
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And there Jacob told him all these things.
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Then Laban said to him, You are my own flesh and blood.
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After Jacob had stayed with him for a whole month, Laban said to
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him, Just because you're a relative of mine, should you
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work for me for nothing? Tell me what your wages should
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be. Now here's where we meet our
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sisters. So in verse 16, Laban had two
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daughters. The name of the older was Leah
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and the name of the younger was Rachel.
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It says Leah had weak eyes, which I will tell you does not
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mean she didn't see well. It's actually a Hebrew idiom to
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mean she wasn't much to look at. But it says Rachel had a lovely
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figure and was beautiful. I know, right?
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I want that to be MyHeritage like Diane.
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Not much to look at like in Scripture for all of his.
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No, just hypothetically speaking.
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So Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful.
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So you can imagine these two sisters already had some sources
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of contention living this life. So Jacob was in love with
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Rachel. We're one month in, he loves her
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and he says I will work for you for seven years in return for
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your younger daughter Rachel. Now, men, I want you to let that
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sink in for a little bit. Like most of you are like, let
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me save up two months wages for an engagement ring, or how about
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7 years worth of your salary just to pay the bride price,
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right? Like that's pretty sorry.
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That's pretty significant, love, you would say.
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Actually, in this time frame, the wage of a shepherd would
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have to work about three years for the average bride price.
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So Jacob's got it bad. He's like, no, I will work for
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seven years. I'll do whatever it takes.
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I love this lady. But so 19, Laban said.
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It's better that I give her to you than to some other man.
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Classic father-in-law line, right?
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Like I guess you'll do better than someone else.
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Stay here with me. So Jacob served for seven years
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to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him
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because of his love for her. Yes, we can all say so.
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Jacob arrives, meet Rachel. He's got it bad.
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A month in, he agrees to work seven years to marry her.
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And this is where the Hallmark Channel version.
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Oh, thanks. Sean will say it's not going to
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let me drink this, but it's vodka.
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Watch out. And that's what Sean just told
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me. It's OK.
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For those in the back who couldn't hear, kind of like
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people are like, are you nervous about speaking all these people?
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Like, no, I'm nervous because Sean's right here and I can hear
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what he's saying. So it's like.
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Oh man, marriage is a blessing so.
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This, and maybe this is where the Hallmark Channel version of
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this story wraps up. He loves her, she loves him.
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He worked seven years, but it was only just a few days because
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he was so in love, right? It's almost been 19 years, but
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just felt like a few days. That's right.
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So chapter 21. We're going to keep going.
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Then Jacob said to Laden. Give me my wife.
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My time is completed and I want to Make Love to her classic
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son-in-law line. So Laban brought together all of
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the people and gave a huge feast to celebrate this wedding.
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But when evening came, he Laban took his daughter Leah and
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brought her to Jacob. And Jacob made love to her, Yes.
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And when the morning came, it says there was Leah, much to
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Jacob's surprise. So Jacob is mad, rightly so.
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Jacob said to Laban. What have you done to me?
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I have served you for Rachel, didn't I?
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Why have you deceived me? Now this is really interesting
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because Jacob's name actually means deceiver.
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And not too far before this, he had deceived his own dad and his
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own brother to weasel them out of his birthright.
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So the deceivers getting deceived, it's very ironic.
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And Laban's like, oh, it's not our custom here to give the
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younger daughter in marriage before the older one.
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Probably like really helpful information from 7 years ago,
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right? So why don't you finish this
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daughter's bridal week and then we will give you the younger one
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also in return for another seven years of work.
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And so Jacob did it. Man, he loved Rachel.
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He finished his week with Leah and then Laban gave him his
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daughter Rachel also to be his wife.
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Laban gave his servant Bill Hot to his daughter Rachel as her
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attendant and Jacob made love to Rachel also and his love for
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Rachel was greater than his love for Leah.
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And he worked for Laban another seven years.
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Like this story is crazy. And Jacob does end up getting
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Rachel for his wife, but not without some serious collateral
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damage to the lives of both of these women.
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But. My favorite, but there's several
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but gods in here. But God doesn't wait for their
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circumstances to get better or change to show up and to let
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these two women know that He's their God and He is with them.
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In verse 31 it says this. When the Lord saw that Leah was
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not loved, he enabled her to conceive, but Rachel remained
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childless. God saw Leah, He saw that she
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had been rejected, He saw that she was in the middle of a
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situation she never asked for. He saw her and he moved.
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And I think so much of the pieces of this story of God
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walking alongside people in their suffering and in their
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circumstances is so we can also know and have that reassurance
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that whatever you're walking through right now, God sees you
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too. Wherever you are, whatever
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season, as you're waiting for things that don't seem to be
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coming together, he's here. And it doesn't matter if your
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pain came from your own choices or choices that those that
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people had done for to you, God sees it and I believe he wants
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to create something beautiful from your pain.
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So we're here, two sisters, same house, same husband, both living
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with circumstances. They didn't choose what could go
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wrong. So this is where our story goes
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from bad to worse. Because instead of them focusing
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in and saying OK I have this that God has given me, they
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immediately start looking at each other.
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So let's look at verse 32. It says that Leah became
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pregnant and gave birth to a son she named him Reuben for she
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said it is because the Lord has seen my misery.
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Surely my husband will love me now who was like what should we
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name the baby? How about my misery?
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Like you know suffering is a really great name to name your
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first born child. You can see the pain that is in
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the situation because every child is named after what's
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going on in verse 33 it says she conceived again when she gave
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birth to a son. She said because the Lord heard
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that I'm not loved, he gave me this one too.
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So she named him Simeon. In 34 again she conceived, and
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when she gave birth to a son, she said, now at last my husband
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will become attached to me because I have borne him three
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sons. So he was named Levi.
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And her pain is palpable here. Like she like, nobody wants to
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name their child my suffering, you know, like, isn't that the
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name of Hitler's manifesto, you know, like Mein Kampf, Like this
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is literally these children, each one coming out.
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And they don't just come out, you know, back-to-back to back.
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This is a period of years that you can see that Leah is feeling
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so unloved and so unworthy. But.
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She's not the only one in pain. Let's look at Rachel in Genesis
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30 verse one, it says when Rachel saw that she was not
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bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister.
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So she said to Jacob, give me children or I'll die, which
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might be a little bit dramatic, but it also shows just how
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painful that daily reminder was of her struggle.
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And Jacob actually becomes angry with her.
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Am I in the place of God who has kept you from having children?
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Like, hey, I'm sorry you're going through this, but I don't
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have any control over the situation and you're mad about.
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So not only has it been bad, it's worse because nobody has
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the life they wanted. They're joined together and they
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have a permanent daily reminder of the pain and struggle they
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have been through. Leah has married, but unloved
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because Jacob loved Rachel more, it said.
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And Rachel is loved but barren, which would be devastating in a
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culture where the main place of honor for a woman is to be able
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to provide heirs for a family. I mean, Jacob just got a word
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from God that they're trying to build a nation, right?
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She's like, I am totally failing at this.
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And so can I be real for a second this morning?
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I think that in a room. This size, there's got to be
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some of us that are living in a life that we didn't choose.
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Maybe your marriage is going harder than you expected that it
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would, or maybe motherhood didn't bring you this peace and
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joy that you thought this fulfillment was going to have
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for you. You might be in a season of
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waiting that just feels like it has gone on and on and on.
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Or maybe you're carrying this quiet grief that nobody sees
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because Leah had sons, real sons, who loved her, but she
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couldn't stop looking at what she didn't have.
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And Rachel had love and devotion and a husband who just
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sacrificed so much for her, but she couldn't stop looking at
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what she didn't have. Both of them were looking
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sideways, and it was making them miserable.
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And today, comparison doesn't just happen among siblings or
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friends or people that we know in our workplace.
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Comparison happens every time we open our phone.
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You open a feed and see somebody who seems to have their life all
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together went on another family vacation or upgraded their house
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or their car or they meet you another milestone or an
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achievement or any other life. And it's perfectly filtered,
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framed, beautiful way just looks better than your life.
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And suddenly then what you have, what God's given you, doesn't
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feel like enough. What I'm building isn't enough.
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And that turns into then who I am will never be enough.
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And I truly believe that it's that comparison of my life to
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someone else's life to something else I see that will make me
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blind to the prayers that God has already answered in my own
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life. Each of us has received so many
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blessings from God, but comparison won't let us see it
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that way. So I really wish that in this
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story that they made it to happily ever after, but it
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doesn't neatly resolve that way. The story is so raw and so real,
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and I think that there's a real beauty in that.
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But there's an undercurrent happening here about how God
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continues to be present in the lives of these people through
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their struggles and their circumstances.
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Because for both of these women, in different ways in different
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times, God continues to show up. So like I alluded to, in the
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ancient world, names carried A tremendous meaning.
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Every child Leah named was a window to her heart.
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We talked about that in Genesis 2932.
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She was pregnant, gave birth to a son, named him Reuben.
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And she said it's because the Lord has seen my misery.
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Her first son's name shows that she is reaching and she is
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hoping, and she's still waiting to be chosen.
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If only I can do these things, then I'll be loved.
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Verse 33 same thing she conceived again her second son
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named because the Lord heard I'm not loved.
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Simeon means God heard that I'm not loved.
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She's naming her pain out loud before God sharing her struggle
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and her third son Levi. Now at last my husband will
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become attached to me. Levi actually means attached and
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she's still hoping and praying and waiting for this
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circumstance to change. But it's between this point,
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verse 34 and then 35, that something shifts.
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And there's something really incredible in this passage
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that's easy to miss if you kind of fly through it and gloss over
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it. And I've missed it before, But
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in verse 35, I don't want you to miss this, it says that she
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conceived again, which is now her fourth child with Jacob.
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And when she gave birth to a son, she said, this time I will
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praise the Lord. So she named him Judah, Leah's
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fourth son. Judah.
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His name means this time I will praise the Lord.
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We don't have any reason to think that between verse 34 and
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35 that anything changed in Leah's life.
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Jacob still loved. Rachel Moore Leah was still the
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one who was never chosen. But somewhere between Levi and
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Judah, something changed inside of Leah.
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She stopped naming her children after her longing, and she
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started naming them after her God.
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She stopped waiting for her life to change and she's chose to
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worship God inside the life that she had been given.
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And I think for so many of us, like if that thing could be
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tattooed on my arm to remember, to say I need to name my
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struggle after my God instead of letting my struggle identify my
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life. Leah stopped waiting.
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She stopped longing and striving.
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This life and these circumstances might not ever
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change, but I am going to make a decision to choose praise.
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I'm going to choose God inside of this life I have.
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And I don't think that that's pretending that she wasn't in
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pain. She'd already named her pain.
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I think she just made a different choice.
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No matter her circumstances, no matter her pain, no matter the
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poor choices of her dad or anything else that led her to
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this point, Leah decided to praise God.
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And I think that's such a powerful example for us as we
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look into what is God asking us to do today.
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And her faith is so inspiring. But what about our other mom?
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What's going on with Rachel because we're Leah chose to
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praise Rachel's story is a little bit different path.
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So in Genesis 30 verse one, we already saw these first 2 verses
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1. So Rachel saw she wasn't bearing
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children. She said, give me children or
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I'll die. Jacob became angry with her and
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said, am I in the place of God who's kept you from having
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children? And then she said, here is
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Bilhah my servant, sleep with her so that she can bear
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children for me and I too can build a family.
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Through her now to our world context.
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This feels really strange. This was actually a common way
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of building a family and building family wealth in these
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days. Good, bad or ugly, this would
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have been a common practice. So it's not so out there crazy,
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but it says that she gave him her servant Bill Ha as a wife
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and Jacob slept with her and then she became pregnant and
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bore him a son. So Rachel is now getting to
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build her nation with Jacob in her own line.
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And Rachel said God has vindicated me.
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He's listened to my plea and given me a son.
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Because of this she named him Dan.
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Verse 7 Rachel's servant Bill Ha conceived again and bore Jacob a
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second son. And Rachel said, I have had a
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great struggle with my sister and I have one.
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So she named him NAFTA Lee. See, Rachel had already started
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with so much. She was beautiful, she was
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desired, she was the one Jacob chose, and yet she spent even
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this part of her life receiving the blessing from God,
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Miserable. Because she couldn't stop naming
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her pain. She couldn't stop looking at
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what Leah had literally named her child.
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Like ha ha, now I'm going to win.
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I'm doing it better than my sister did.
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Like she couldn't be happy. She ended up manipulating,
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bargaining. She used her servants as
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surrogates just to keep up, traded her husband's company for
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mandrakes, which were like ancient fertility herbs, because
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she was so desperate to have what Leah had.
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And I think you really see as you walk through this story
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throughout Rachel's life that she was so consumed by what she
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lacked and didn't have that she couldn't receive what she
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already had. But this is my next.
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But God, God is so good in this story because he saw her pain
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too. And he remembered her.
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In Genesis 30, verse 22, it says then God remembered Rachel.
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He listened to her and enabled her to conceive and she became
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pregnant and gave birth to a son.
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And she said, God has taken away my disgrace.
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And she named him Joseph and said, may the Lord add to me
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another son like she's in like this is it.
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This is her beautiful moment where the prayer of so many
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years, probably he had gone by God answers these prayers gives
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her the deepest desire of her heart to carry her own child
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with Jacob. Yet her name for him wasn't
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praise. Her name for him was like, man,
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I need God to add me another one because I'm still trying to
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catch up with what God is doing in Leah.
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She's still striving. She is still in continued
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competition with her sister. And then Rachel's last moment is
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really heartbreaking because some years later Rachel gets
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pregnant again. This is probably the course of
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the story takes place over decades.
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You know, we're reading it a few verses over, but she finally
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gets pregnant again. God added her other son even
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gave her granted her the wish of Joseph's name.
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She gets her miracle. And so in Genesis 3517 and 18,
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you can slip over there. It says Enda, she was having
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great difficulty in childbirth. The midwife said to her, don't
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despair, for you have another son.
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And as she breathed her last, for she was dying, she named her
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son Ben Oni, but his father named him Benjamin.
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Rachel was giving birth to her second son and she was dying.
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She ended up dying in childbirth.
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But in her final breath, she whispers out the boy's name is
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Ben Oni. And what's so heartbreaking
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about this story is that in Hebrew, been Oni almost
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certainly means the son of my suffering or the son of my
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sorrow. And so Rachel never got to her
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Judah moment. She never made that turn from
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longing to praise. And maybe her heart was broken
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and suffering because she knew she was dying and she wasn't
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going to get to live with this miracle that got it done.
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But even at the very end of her life, in the middle of this
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miracle that she is a huge part of creating this nation for God,
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she was naming her suffering instead of naming her praise.
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In a culture where names were someone's destiny, she used her
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dying breath to curse her son's name because of her pain and to
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push that pain on to the next generation.
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She truly did get what she prayed for.
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Two sons to carry their family's legacy, to build a nation, to
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carry on the line of her husband Jacob.
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But it wasn't enough. So the contrast is impossible to
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miss. Unloved, overlooked, but chose
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to praise. Loved, beautiful, chosen, but
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suffering and completely unable to receive the life she had.
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And I really believe this. A life that is spent grasping
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for what we don't have. We'll always miss the blessing
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of what we do. When my eyes are always up
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looking out on what could be and what is not and what could have
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been and what I don't have, it's impossible for me to look and
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see with gratitude what I have been given.
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These two women have the same family, same husband, same
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house, same God, but they chose to do something different with
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it. And there was a season in my
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life, too, where I needed a miracle.
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And like Rachel, I was begging God to take away pain.
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So Sean and I had two teenage foster kids right out of, well,
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really right out of getting married.
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And after they had graduated from high school, we decided it
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was time to start our family, to have our own kids.
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And for about four years, we struggled through a season of
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infertility. And if you've ever been in that
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struggle, you know it's not just a physical struggle.
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It's emotional, it's spiritual, and it touches every part of
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your life. You have months and months of
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trying and waiting and praying and then carrying that
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disappointment to know that you're completely helpless to do
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anything but pray and just say, God, why is this happening?
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We want so badly for you to give us a child.
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And I honestly wondered for a lot of years, like, is this even
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going to happen? I question God, you know, I work
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in healthcare, in Pediatrics, and you see all of these
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children who are barely wanted by their families to go, why
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God? Like we want a child so badly
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and we would love a child so well.
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Why is this happening? And it really, it feels like
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like everything and everyone around you is moving forward,
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but you're just standing still waiting.
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Like I can't move to the next thing.
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I can't go to the next season. I'm waiting for this to start.
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And you know, we we're still serving God and trusting his
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plans for us and really ultimately just trying to find
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gratitude for every person around us who is expecting
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children and love on those who got it, called us to love and
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care for. And I think we finally came to
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this place of what I call this like open handed surrender.
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Like God, maybe you were calling us to a life where we don't have
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any more children because you have something bigger for us.
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Like you have something that we need to carry for your ministry
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or for your word to go out. That wouldn't work if we had
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kids. And so we started praying
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through this season of what I now call the fiery furnace
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prayer. And that comes from Daniel
Daniel 3 chapter mention
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chapter 3. I'll read it.
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But this is when Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego were
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getting ready to be thrown into the fiery furnace because they
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refused to bow down to idols. They only would worship their
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God. And so it says Shadrach, Meshach
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and Abednego replied to him. King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not
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need to defend ourselves before you in this matter.
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That they were unwilling to bow and worship the king.
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But if we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we
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serve is what? Yeah, he's able.
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He is able to deliver us from it, and He will deliver us from
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Your Majesty's hand. But even if he does not, we want
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you to know, your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or
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worship the image of gold that you've set up.
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Like that prayer in that season was key for me because it's God.
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You know the desire of my heart. You know that I want to have a
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child. You know I want to carry a child
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in my own womb with my husband. But even if you choose not to
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answer that prayer, you're still good.
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And you had to come to that place to say, even if he doesn't
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is the prayer that it was. Even if he doesn't allow me to
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have kids, even if he doesn't provide healing in this season,
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even if my spouse never accepts Christ, even if my circumstances
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never change, he is still good and I'm going to give him
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praise. And in that season, we prayed
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that. And we meant that.
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There's actually a song from that season of life called by
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Hillsong United called Desert Song, and the lyrics of it were
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really a praise declaration for us.
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It says all of my life, in every season, you are still God and I
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have a reason to praise. I have a reason to worship.
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So I will bring praise. And really it's Leah's prayer,
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right? I will bring praise and there's
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no weapon formed against me that shall remain.
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I will rejoice and I will declare that God is my victory
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and He is here and now only by His grace, His miraculous hand.
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I do have three awesome little kids and they are loud and they
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are full of life and they are absolutely amazing kids.
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And if I'm honest now, almost 10 years removed from that time
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frame, there are moments in the middle of the chaos of that
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where it's easy to forget that this noise and the mess and the
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exhaustion is the thing that I spent years begging God to give
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me. And I catch myself in that
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moment, frustrated about the dishes and the laundry and the
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never ending sibling argument that happens.
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I have to stop and remind myself, this is the life you
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prayed for. Like see it, be in it.
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Be in this real life that you have.
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Take your Judah moment and give praises to God.
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But I also know in a room like this that not every prayer gets
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answered that way. And there have been plenty for
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us that we've cried out to ask God and he didn't answer in that
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same way. That means in a room like this,
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there's joy, but there's also grief, and there's answered
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prayers and there's waiting prayers, but God is present in
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all of it. He was present with Leah in her
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long, and he's present with Rachel in her grief, and he's
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present with you right where you are today.
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And so I want to end Leah's story with something that I
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think will really stay with you. That's incredible to kind of sit
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down and think about because Leah did probably feel
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overlooked her entire life. She lived to be an old age.
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She was buried with a family, She was unloved.
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She was unchosen. She was always somehow 2nd.
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And she never got the love story she wanted.
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But her fourth son was Judah. And I want you to look at the
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blessing that Judah's father, Jacob, then Israel, bestowed
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upon him as he was nearing his death.
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So this is in Genesis 49, verse 8.
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It says Judah, your brothers will praise you, your hand will
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be on the neck of your enemies, your father's sons will bow down
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to you. The scepter will not depart from
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Judah, nor the ruler staff from between his feet, until he to
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whom it belongs shall come, and the obedience of the nation
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shall be his. You see, Judah, Leah's fourth
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son was to become the ruler over all of Jacob's sons and
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ultimately over all of the tribes of Israel that would come
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from their family and the descendants.
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It wasn't Jacob's first born Reuben, who you would have
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thought, and it wasn't Jacob's most beloved son Joseph.
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It wasn't even Benjamin, the son of his right hand.
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No, Jacob chose Judah. He chose Leah's praise and look
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at what he chose him for. Go back to verse 10.
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The scepter won't depart from Judah, nor the ruler staff from
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between his feet until who, until he to whom it belongs
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shall come, and the obedience of nations shall be his.
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The he in that verse is for the future to come, because from
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Judah's lion came the tribe of Judah.
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From that tribe came King David, and from David's lion came the
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lion of Judah. Jesus Christ perfectly come from
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Leah's praise from the woman who felt unseen, unloved, unwanted.
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Her life, her story, and her faith in God became a part of
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the greatest story ever told. God used her pain to bring forth
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healing and salvation for all of humanity and brought forth a
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Messiah to save the world. And so there's a really good
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chance that you may not get to see or understand what God is
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doing through your pain, what he's building, what He's growing
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for another generation, for people on and on.
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And maybe you'll never know why your circumstances are writing a
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bigger story. But in God's story, your pain is
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not ever wasted. He is doing more through the
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day-to-day of your ordinary life than you could ever think or
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imagine. And the prayers you whisper when
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nobody's watching, the patience you're holding when you're
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running on empty. And the way you keep showing up
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even when you feel unseen. God sees you and he loves you
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and his love for you is so great.
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And your faithfulness to say yes to Him, and your faithfulness to
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give him the praise. Like we sing about, it's your
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breath and our lungs. So we pour out our praise.
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God's weaving that into something so much bigger than
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you can imagine. So how do we choose praise
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before we feel it? There's going to be days when
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you don't feel like praising. I'm sure Leah had them.
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So we look to her. We praise God before the feeling
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comes. We give gratitude to God for all
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He has done. Because joy isn't found in
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perfect circumstances. It's found in staying connected
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to the One who can meet our every need.
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It's not an easy recipe, but it's a simple one.
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In First Thessalonians 516 through 18, it says this.
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Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all
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circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
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Joy always turns our pain into praise.
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Leah took her pain, her overlook, her not loved with an
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open hand. She brought it to God, She named
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it Judah. She used her quiet, faithful
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pain form life to bring the Messiah into the world.
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And God's not wasting a single thing that you're walking
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through in this season either. Not one tear, not one night, not
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one moment of it is wasted. So whatever you're running or
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whatever you're carrying from today, my encouragement for you
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is not to run from it. Don't numb it.
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Don't let it turn you into Rachel grasping and striving and
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naming your suffering out onto all the people around you.
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Bring it to God because he wants to take your been only the son
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of my suffering and he wants to turn it into now I'll praise the
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Lord into Judah. God can transform pain into
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purpose, suffering into praise and he wants to use your story
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for something far bigger than you can ever imagine.
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And I believe today he wants every single one of us to choose
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to praise walking through your pain.
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Don't miss this. Walking through pain doesn't
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just form you. Of course you're going to learn
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from it. You're going to grow from it.
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It's going to impact your life. But when you walk through a
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painful season, that becomes the very thing God is going to use
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for you to bring healing to someone else.
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Your pain surrendered to God becomes your ministry, your
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hardest season walked in. Faith becomes the language you
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can use to speak to somebody else who is right where you used
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to be. And I know this because I lived
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it. Those years of infertility, of
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waiting, of crying out to God. They gave me the ability to sit
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with someone in their grief and say I see your pain and God sees
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it too and he's still good. God actually gave me the ability
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to name my turn my pain into praise and we named it in our
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children that way. I have Jack Shepherd, his middle
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name is because we believe that God's going to use him and his
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generation to shepherd people to draw them closer to himself.
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We have Emery Renee, her middle name literally means reborn
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because there is salvation that this next generation needs to
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bring in our Levi, not attached, but a Levite, the worshippers,
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right? He can bring worship to his
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generation. We named our children because we
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want to see God use their lives and because he gave them to us
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and we get to offer them back to him in a stewardship.
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So you can just sit with people in that pain and say, I see you,
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God sees you. And I don't know how many lives
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are touched by sharing my story, but it's much less on a stage
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than it is in a hallway or on a phone call or a text message or
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sitting by somebody just in a cubicle at work.
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God uses your pain in your story when you share it and when you
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let him in an open handed way, say, God, all I have is yours.
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I'm opening it to you. But I know you can use my pain
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to bring your good. So in this season, my challenge
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for you is to give this season of your life a new name.
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Maybe it is suffering, but maybe God wants to turn that suffering
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into praise. And I wonder, like Judah, what
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story is being released into God's Kingdom by your choice to
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praise him today? Because if you look at it, the
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story of God, the lineage of Jesus Christ our Savior was born
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out of Leah's choice to praise. Let's pray, God, we lift you up
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in this place and just grateful for your word, God, for the
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lives of the people that you've shown us to live by.
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God, I pray today that as we lean in, that you would just
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give us words of praise for our pain and that maybe there's a
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group of people in here today who would say, you know what?
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I need to turn my pain into praise.
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No matter my circumstances, I need to make a decision to focus
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on what you've done and to give this season a new name.
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And if that's you today, you raise your hand, I'd love to
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pray for you to say, you know what, God, no matter what I'm
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going through, no matter what is going on in my day-to-day, God,
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I choose to praise you. If you raise your hand, I'd love
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to pray for you. I see your hands, God.
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I lift up these people. I don't know what they're
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walking through, but you do. God, you see them, you know
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them, You feel your pain, their pain, God, because you have felt
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pain. You know what it's like to feel
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betrayed, God, and for circumstances to lead to a
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horrible death that you died for us, God.
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And so I pray that you would give us words for our pain so
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that we can offer it to praise to you, God, help us to decide
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today that you are enough and that we can praise you no matter
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what we're walking through. And maybe there's one other
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group of people today who would say, you know what?
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I've never been able to offer praise because I've never really
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experienced the healing from my pain that comes from Jesus, the
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lion of Judah. But today I feel like he's
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drawing me to himself. Today I feel this invitation is
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urging to say yes. I want to surrender my pain.
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I want healing. I want wholeness.
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That's you today. And you'd say, you know, I've
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never accepted Christ as my Savior.
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I've never made that decision to trust him.
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I've never made that decision to surrender my life and follow
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him. That's you.
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And you raise your hand. I'd also love to pray for you.
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I'm not going to call you out, but if you say today, I've never
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accepted Christ, I've never taken his sacrifice for my pain.
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And today I want that. I want to make a decision to
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follow him. If you raise your hand and pray
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for you as well, and not only pray for you, but this is an
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opportunity to say, you know what?
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You can also pray to God. You can reach out your hand and
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say, Lord, I feel you drawing me to yourself, God.
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And today I've been carrying a heavyweight.
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But I want you to lift that burden from me, God, I know you
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died on the cross for my sins. You to take that burden of pain
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away from me. God, through your sacrifice you
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can make me whole. And today I want to do that,
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God. Today I choose you, and I choose
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you to save me in Jesus name, Amen.
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Well, hey, let's give it up to those who made decisions today
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to follow Christ, for those who are ready to open their hands to
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that burden of pain. And thank you guys so much for
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letting me share with you.