The Bread and the Bond | What Men and Women Really Want | Pastor Julie Signorelli

But I'm so honored to kick off this the series.

And listen, I'm.

I'm not stupid.

I understand women preachers are controversial.

So I've heard.

But I want to explain to you, especially if you're visiting here

or you're online, maybe you're trolling, I'm not sure.

But we believe in strong male headship.

And I'm doing this to honor my husband out of obedience.

Obedience that was asked of me.

And so I'm not up here.

I don't have, like, lofty crazy, you know, like, ambition like

that.

Like, I'm here to serve our church today.

So I'm honored to do it.

And thank you guys for receiving this word from me.

So.

And for those of you who are scripture counters, I have 21.

I already counted for you.

I know.

Isn't it a slow news day when somebody's like watching your sermon

on slow mo, counting your scripture?

Yeah.

Okay, there's 21.

I did the work for you.

But we are so excited to kick off this series today.

But before we.

Anytime we talk about marriage, I wanna just give a couple

of disclaimers.

Is I understand that we have single people, single, ready to mingle.

Look around, look around.

We have single people, we have married people, we have divorced

people, and we have people who don't wanna be married.

Right?

And I guess, praise God.

But I just wanna give a couple of disclaimers is that when we're

talk and we're talking about communication and we're talking about

covenant and staying in your marriage and not giving up, I want

you to understand that abuse and addiction is incredibly complicated.

And so I do not want you to weaponize this sermon of me telling

you to stay in a place that is not safe for you.

Okay?

So I'm giving that disclaimer way up on the front end.

Are we all in agreement there?

Okay, awesome.

And then if you are single, I want you to look at this series in

a couple different ways.

Is one, it's healing from you witnessing a broken marriage, or

it's preparation for your future.

And if you are living in a reality where you've experienced

divorce, I wanna tell you that the Lord is a healer, that he can

go into those moments, heal, restore.

There can be miracles, but there can also be new beginnings.

And so I just wanna encourage your heart.

This is so if you fall in any one of those categories and you are

not married, this is like back pocket marriage material.

Okay?

So you may not.

It's like a pocket knife.

You know those people that always have a pocket knife.

And you're like, why do you always carry that until you need

to borrow their pocket knife?

Okay.

Did it hit ya?

Did you catch it?

Okay.

Okay, great.

So this is your pocket knife.

Got it.

If you're in New York, you should have a pocket knife.

If you don't, I don't.

Maybe it's Indiana stuff.

I don't know.

They got a lot more than pocket knives up in here, I can tell

you that much.

New York don't know about that.

But I'm going to.

Just going to get into the Word.

Before I do, I want to pray.

Lord Jesus, we just pray that this word God would be received into

hearts.

I pray that you'd prepare them now to receive the word God.

I just.

I pray that we would have a test this month.

Would be a testimony of reconciliation and restoration in

Jesus mighty name.

That's what we're praying and believing.

Can the church say Amen?

Amen.

Amen.

I'm going to get into the scripture.

We're in Genesis 2, 1825, it said, then the Lord God said, it

is not good that man should be alone.

I will make a helper fit for him.

Now, out of the ground, the Lord God had formed every beast of

the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the

man to see what he would call them.

And whatever the man called every living creature, that was his

name.

And the man gave names to all the livestock and to the birds of

the heavens and every beast of the field.

But for Adam, there was not found a helper fit for him.

So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while

he slept, took one of his ribs, closed up the place with flesh,

and the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man, he made into

a woman and brought her to man.

Then the man said, this at last is bone of my bone, flesh of

my flesh.

She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.

Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold

fast to his wife that they shall become one flesh.

And the man and his wife were both naked and not ashamed.

Men.

We are not talking about that scripture today, okay?

Save it.

But isn't it funny that God was addressing about conflict in

marriage before conflict even started, Right?

So we have A husband shall leave his, his, his family and cleave

to his wife, who was Adam's dad, who was Adam's mama.

It was that the Lord was already up ahead in our future saying,

you don't have conflict yet.

But you will.

And when you do, I have.

So I want to tell you, maybe you're in a season of joy in your

marriage, but keep your safety belt on, because, honey, a crisis

is on the way.

That's not prophesying doom.

That's life.

How many have been married more than a week?

Okay.

How many had some crisises in their life?

And I also want to say that I've been married almost 20 years.

I'm not a kid up here that's been married for five years.

I know I look like a teenager.

Just kidding.

Just kidding.

Amen.

Thank you.

I'll receive it from the front row.

But I'm going on 20 years in this, so I feel like.

And I know some of y'all have more.

My parents were married until my dad died over 40 years.

I mean, they got some.

We've seen long marriages run on my side of the family, so we feel

like, you know, we have something to deposit today.

But I want to say this, and this is really important for you

guys to understand, and maybe not for our.

Our lead gener, or maybe not for our millennial generation, but

I want to tell you, for Gen Alpha, Gen Z, marriage is good.

It doesn't mean it's not hard.

It doesn't mean there's not heartache.

It doesn't mean that there's not things that you have to go through.

But I want to overemphasize, get in your heart that marriage is

a good thing.

It doesn't matter what kind of marriage that you saw in your life.

I'm telling you that the Lord has someone for you, and marriage

covenant is good.

Can I get an amen?

Amen.

Now, I know what you're thinking.

Like, oh, yeah, she doesn't get it.

She's got 2.5 kids.

She's got a dog.

They're happy.

They don't fight.

Okay?

We lived our life in a toxic cycle of horrible marriage.

For the first, we've been married 20 years.

We've had, like, eight good ones.

Can anybody relate?

So we had a long season, a long history of drama, drama, drama.

We had infidelity.

We had abuse.

We had poverty.

We, you know, I left him for, you know, a length and duration of

time.

I was like, I'm done with you.

So, like, when we say, we know, we know.

So when I say, hold on, hold on, like, I'm not talking about,

like, oh, we just didn't get along.

I'm talking about, like, I hated his guts.

So I want you to hear me when I say, When I say marriage is good,

that is a deep work of healing that the Lord has done in me.

So I just want to prophesy that over you.

Maybe your marriage isn't good, but it can be good.

God hasn't got in there yet.

There's hope for you and there's restoration.

But it's so sad that we have to emphasize the fact that marriage

is a good thing.

And some people say, like, it's just a piece of paper, Julie.

It's not a big deal, especially in the younger generation.

And I would say, well, then why is it that in Hollywood we see

people who live together for decades?

They talk about, it's just a piece of paper.

It's just a piece of paper.

Then they go and they have the wedding and they're divorced within

three days.

Why is it?

Because it's not just a piece of paper.

It's a covenant that was instituted by God.

And so we've got to differentiate covenant from commitment.

Dating is commitment.

Living together is commitment.

But marriage is covenant.

Going to a conference for my single people is commitment.

But local church, marrying one local church is covenant.

Call out culture on the Internet is commitment.

You can be committed to a cause, you can be committed to an

injustice, but reconciliation and repentance, that's covenant.

Marriage is a covenant.

Let's just talk about the secular definition, definition of

commitment, the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause

or activity.

But a covenant is a lease or deed agreement.

When you own the deed to a house, that is a permanent situation.

Marriage is a covenant.

It is a deed, it is an agreement.

And commitment is, I can leave at any time, but covenant says, I'm

not leaving, no matter what.

So the foundation of this church needs to be built on healthy,

godly marriage.

And guess what?

It's gotta start with me.

Now, I'm not perfect, but I do respect the covenant that I made

to the Lord.

It's our covenant to our spouse before God.

All right, let's read in Ephesians 5, 31, 33.

Now, wives, I need you to take a deep breath.

And husbands don't say, I told you so.

Okay?

As I read this scripture, do not weaponize God's word.

We call that scripture shade.

When you're mad at your spouse, and then you post a scripture

at him, that's called scripture shade.

You're throwing shade at your spouse using the word, we ain't doing

that today.

But in Ephesians 5, 31, 33.

Ladies, I need you to hear me.

I'm just reading the Word.

These are not my own opinions.

It says, wives, submit to your own husband.

Not submit to your pastor and be unsubmissive to your husband.

Not submit to your connect group leader and respect him, but

be disrespectful and dishonoring to your husband.

It says, wives, submit to your own.

Say your own husband as to the Lord, for the husband is the head

of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body,

and is himself its savior.

Now, I need you to feel the depth in that.

I want you to underline the word savior, especially if you're

a woman.

Because sometimes we talk about submission as if it's a dirty

word.

We talk about submission as if that's something for an older generation.

But I would say that there is power in the submission to your spouse,

and we need to bring submission back into marriage and

into the church and talk about the joy of being submitted to a godly

spouse.

Men, did you catch it?

Okay, because you have to think, all right, I'm getting ahead

of myself.

I'm not going there.

All right?

Now, as the church submits everything to Christ, so also wives

should submit in everything.

Ladies, it says everything.

Our finances.

Okay, I'm going.

No secret credit cards.

You know, you gotta submit it all.

It says to their husbands.

Husbands, are y'all listen.

Are the men listening?

Lean in, men, because this is you.

You got a much larger chunk of scripture here.

It says, husbands, love your wives as Christ love the church and

gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed

her by the washing of water with the Word, so that he might present

the church to himself in splendor.

Do you know how much work it is to make something inspirational?

Splendor.

So if you're a man and you're saying, she don't submit to me, well,

my thing is, are you working on her to get to splendor?

Because Jesus isn't asking us to do anything that he's not willing

to do.

His marriage is to the church, and he gave everything up for her.

Okay, I'm going to keep going.

Without spot or wrinkles or any such thing that she might be

holy without blemish.

In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their

own bodies.

He who loves his wife, loves himself, for no one ever hated his

own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as Christ

the church, because we are members of his body, in order.

In other words, if you hate your wife, you hate yourself.

Yeah, we'll get There, hold up back pocket.

Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast

to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.

This mystery is profound and I'm saying that it refers to Christ

and the church.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let

the wife see that she respects her husband.

So we hear a lot about love and respect.

Every man wants respect.

Every woman wants to be loved.

This is what we all want.

But so often we are in toxic cycles that keep us from respecting

our husband and keep men bound from loving their wives.

So this series is called what Women Want.

What Men Want.

And what you want from me is just a bunch of things that you can

do to try to have a better marriage.

But can I be real?

That is just an evangelical Christian marriage wish list.

Because the reality is, is that you do want things already and

they're not what Christ want.

So I.

A lot of the things that you wish you wanted aren't what you really

want.

Are y'all catching me?

Okay, so a lot of the things that you.

I'm gonna repeat it.

A lot of the things that you wish you wanted are not what you

really want because we have toxic tendencies.

We've got brokenness, we've had generational trauma.

And so I'm gonna give you a list of what we should want in a

little bit.

But right now I'm gonna speak to some of the demonic activity that's

taken root in our home, that tries to take hold and choke out

the life giving gift of marriage.

So I know what you should want and we're going to talk about that.

But I just want to speak to the elephant in the room of what

you actually want.

So what you want is control.

What you want is revenge.

What you want is to withhold, to make him pay or to make her pay.

What you want is to lie about your finances.

What you want is somebody else's spouse.

What you want is to escape responsibility.

Hello.

That's why I wanted out.

I'm like, this is too much.

What you want is to lie.

What you want is to distract yourself in the busyness of ministry

so you don't have to pay attention to your marriage.

What you want is something in another man's field.

But can I be honest this morning?

Because many of you don't even want love or respect.

You want a scorecard.

You want to not apologize.

You want to win.

You want the last word and you want to be their mama.

So a lot of times what we actually want is unhealthy.

Toxic, controlling, manipulative.

And so the books that we read in the Christian, Christian kingdom

are talking about what we should want from the most healed,

healthiest place.

But we have to acknowledge that sometimes we want the bad stuff.

So what I'm trying to do is tell you what I wish somebody would

have told me.

Girl, you don't want love.

You want to win.

Girl, you don't.

You don't want love.

You want revenge.

You want him to hurt like he hurt you.

That's really what I wanted.

So a lot of times we want unhealthy things, and we have to

go through a season of getting healed from those sinful, selfish

desires so that we can make things right in our marriage.

And what I listed above, it's not typically what sinners want.

It's what church people in pews want.

Leading ministries and wondering, why isn't God bringing

the increase?

It's like, get your marriage right, bro.

Get your marriage right, sis.

Like, we gotta get our priorities straight.

And we wonder, why is the divorce rate so high in the church?

What is the church doing about it?

And I'm like, it ain't the church's fault.

It's that these humans aren't looking in the mirror.

Sanctification is a process.

We have to be willing to look at Christ's example for marriage

and wholeheartedly fulfill not our desire for our marriage, but

his desire for our marriage.

And be honest about the areas that are not measuring up to Jesus

standard and Jesus commitment to the church.

Sanctification, it is a lifelong process.

So today, before we go any further, we're going to deal with

some flesh in our marriage and how to redeem some of those sinful

things in our life that's trying to take root in our marriage.

So we're just going to do that right now before we go any further.

So we're just gonna take a minute, and you can close your eyes

if you'd like, and this is gonna get awkward, and we're okay

with it.

And we're gonna ask the Holy Spirit, before we go any further

in this sermon, show me right now what my heart really wants.

Not what I wish I wanted, but what have I really been after?

What are some of the demonic tendencies that have been trying

to take a root in my marriage?

And just let the Holy Spirit speak to you.

Now.

I want you to take those sinful desires, and I want you to

take a few moments, and I want you to repent for desiring those

things that bring destruction and division in your marriage.

And if your spouse is sitting by you and there's some changes that

you need to make, I want you just very discreetly just tap their

leg or squeeze their hand or just a gesture to let them know,

like, hey, we're not talking about it now.

But there are some changes that I need to make.

There's some desires that I need to realign with his kingdom.

And now what I want you to do is ask the Lord to show you the root

of why you desire some of those things.

Just real quietly, just keep your eyes closed at every location.

Let the Holy Spirit speak.

Some of it it's because of what you saw growing up.

Some of it's the trauma that you've experienced.

Some things you just have never dealt with and you have a victim

mentality and you just feel like the world is just crushing in.

Or maybe it's because you never thought you could have a different

marriage because of what you've seen.

We're just gonna ask the Lord, Holy Spirit, show us the route now.

We're gonna take those lies that the Holy Spirit so graciously

revealed to us and we're just going to give them to Jesus right

now.

Just.

Just imagine yourself just picking them up, giving them to Jesus,

putting them at his cross.

I'm going to pray this prayer over you, Father.

I bind the enemy that tries to divide the married couples of this

church in our community.

I rebuke the devourer that tries to create cycles of death that

choke the life out of our marriage.

We bind the enemy and we rebuke him out of our homes, out

of our marriages, and out of our families.

And today is day one of a brand new marriage of a brand new

generation.

The blessing starts with me and the curse breaks with me.

And.

And by his stripes.

Say it with me, Church.

We are healed in Jesus name.

Did y'all feel a shift?

Come on now.

I think we're ready to talk about the things that we should want,

right?

So what should we desire in marriage?

So what I did was I just took Ephesians and I broke it down.

And so women, I'm gonna start with you.

But men, I want to tell you, just hold on because your list is

longer.

I was laughing so hard.

We'll get there in a second.

But women, I'm going to talk about submission now again.

I know some of yalls eyes are twitching.

You're like, I hate submission.

I don't want to do this.

Like it's so hard.

You don't get it.

I get it, I get it.

I Walked this path, I walked this road.

And so I want to tell you, this is an area where I struggle

the most and I have the most healing.

Like, there are certain areas that, you know, there are just certain

areas you have authority.

And some people have authority in, you know, in the area of peace.

Right?

They have authority in the area of faith.

I'm telling you.

And this is not, this is not a brag.

I have authority in the area of submission.

So this is an impartation over your life.

Women, if this is an area you struggle, I want you to just pull

the anointing off my life.

I'm telling you, I struggled.

And in the area of the most pain is usually the area of your

greatest breakthrough and ministry.

So I'm just, I'm just telling you because not everybody knows ourselves

story.

So I want to set that expectation.

Women in Ephesians, it says that we should desire to be submissive.

So what I believe that the Lord is going to take you on this

journey from this over the next month is from a time where you

didn't want to be submit submissive to a season of you, a

lifetime of you desiring it.

I know it's triggering.

I know it's hard there.

I have times where I don't want to do it.

When my husband said we were doing the domino revival, I was like,

I'm out.

That looks like a lot of work.

We're gonna take a lot of heat.

Casting out devils in a park.

Like, come on.

Like, I'm not meant for jail, you know, like, it's not my story.

And we had the cops called on us a few times.

I'm like, as soon as the cops rolled up, I'm like, wrap it up.

We're good.

Bye.

Like, shut her down.

So I'm not the one.

But I'm so thankful when I began to trust what the Lord did

with my yes.

Because I was a big fat no.

And he'll tell you so.

But here's the thing I learned that when I'm loved, it's easy to

submit.

Now, men, I want you to pull from this, okay?

Because these are lessons where my husband received victory

that allowed me to be free and joyfully submit.

So when I'm not lorded over, it's easy to submit.

When I'm heard, when my heart is heard.

You may not take my advice, but when you hear me, it's easy.

When I trust.

Here's the thing, you're not always going to agree with their

decisions.

Ladies, you're not always going to Agree with the house they

want to buy or the job they want to take or the turn they want

to take or the vacation they want to take.

But here's what I'm going to tell you.

In the seasons and in the times and in the test that I trusted

when I submit, even if he's wrong, that the Lord was still my

defender and still honored and blessed my obedience.

So when you think about it like that, when you're obedient and

you're submissive now, you are blessed in every direction.

My going is blessed.

My coming is blessed.

My right is blessed.

My left is blessed.

I am blessed on every side.

Your obedience has power.

And when I fully submitted to Mike with a heart that truly wanted

to honor and respect him, the weight of my joy and submission sat

heavy on his shoulders, and it made him want to make the best and

better decisions for our family.

Trust me, ladies, I'm telling you, this is not easy.

But if you will do this, he will feel the respect that he is

craving.

Okay, ladies, that was yours.

You got one.

Men, you have eight.

I know some of y'all would if I was a man.

Well, really, do you want eight?

Cause it talks about them dying.

I'm good.

You could take it.

So, men, your list is longer.

Are the men leaned in?

Do I have permission to say some hard things?

Okay.

All right.

So, men, you have to love your wife, not.

You should.

You have to.

Jules, that's a little strong.

What if I don't feel like it?

The Bible says that you have to.

You have to do whatever you got to do.

Get free.

Get deliverance.

Get rid of this.

Get rid of that friend.

Pray in your prayer closet.

Read your scriptures fast.

You got to get to the point where you could say, I love her.

No compromise.

You have to love your wife here at number two.

You have to give up everything for her.

Yes.

Video games are included.

Somebody felt that.

Now, here's the thing.

There's no problem with hobbies.

Every.

Every man should have a hobby.

I'm not against hunting.

I'm not against fishing.

I'm not against gaming.

But when it takes precedent over your family, there has to be

a reprioritization, because Jesus gave everything up for the

church, and you have to be at least willing to give it all up for

your spouse.

Now, I'll tell you, when Mike's come to me with different

things that he's had to give up, do you know what actually happened

is when he met me with that, I said, you know what?

Truthfully, I wanted control.

I wanted you to give that up.

But just knowing you're willing, I'm good.

Keep doing it.

So sometimes, men, you can live in fear, but I would just encourage

you, be willing.

Number three.

Gave his life.

Gave it up.

Gave everything.

Everything.

All of it.

Everything.

Sanctify her.

Number four.

Sanctify her by washing her in the water.

And the word.

This is not an option.

This is not a suggestion.

This isn't something that we think is a good idea.

This is scripture.

If you want a loving spouse that respects you, you have to teach

the word over your life.

And let me tell you, we don't care about the delivery.

When my husband texts me a scripture, I don't care what he's

willing to buy me.

No, thank you.

I will take the verse.

We have to be willing to wash our wives in the word.

Number five.

Love as their own bodies.

Bro, I've seen your trip to the gym.

I've seen you go to the tanning thing.

I've seen you go to the barber.

You guys get all lined up.

You crisped your shirt.

Like, it's a real whole culture.

It's like, I think women get a bad rap for being, like, high maintenance,

but I feel like men, y'all have, like, a whole thing.

Or maybe it's the way you obsessively clean your car or your

gun or you're this or you're that.

Like.

Like, it's whatever.

Like, pick your thing.

But the Bible says that if you love, like, however you treat yourself,

you have to be willing to give your spouse the same energy back.

So if you spend all that time and all that effort into your hobby

to make you feel good, my encouragement to you is keep a log

of how much time you spend and invest that back into your marriage.

You have the time.

Delete Netflix off your TV if you have to.

And invest into her.

Did y'all not like that one?

It was quiet.

All right.

All the women are like, hey.

Men number six, leave his family.

If you care more about what your mom thinks.

Men.

Than what your wife thinks, there is a really big red flag.

The Bible says it's not about.

And I know the boy moms are glaring me down.

They were in first service.

They're like, keep talking.

This is not about leaving your family.

In the sense of you don't talk, you don't have a relationship.

What it's talking about is that the loyalty is to your wife

and the relationship is connected to your family.

Does that make sense?

So this is not boy moms about you raising up sons to be closer

to you.

It's raising them up so that they love their wife.

And every time they come to you with a complaint, an argument,

something she did wrong, you point them back to their spouse,

back to their pastor, back to Jesus, back to therapy, and you don't

create a toxic bond with yourself.

Are you hearing me, boy?

Moms.

Okay, men, are you hearing me?

Okay?

Number seven, give his life, give his whole life, everything up.

Are you willing to give up the truck so you can get a bigger house

for, you know, your other baby?

Are you willing to ditch the game console so you can buy a computer

for your kids school?

Are you willing to give it all up for your spouse and family?

Your opinions.

Number eight, all of the sacrifice with no glory.

Deflecting all glory to the father.

Jesus is not asking you men to walk out something that he didn't

already walk the road.

He gave everything up for the church.

And anytime he received glory or accolades, he pointed it right

back to the father.

So women, we got one.

And men, you got eight.

I'm sorry.

My condolences, ladies.

I think we got the good end of the deal.

I'm not as offended at submission anymore.

I'm good.

And I know what you're thinking.

You're sitting there, you're like, yeah, if she did that, I would

love her.

Or, yeah, if he did all those things, I would respect him.

And I get it.

But you guys are at a stalemate.

Nobody can move in any direction because both of you are

fighting your own flesh.

You're not even fighting each other anymore.

So somebody has to be the redeemer.

I'm gonna ask the keys to come up at every location.

And I wanna encourage you guys that when it comes to this area of

going first, you know, a lot of you see my husband and you know,

he's funny and our marriage is good and we laugh and, you know,

we're able to spend time as a family and it all looks normal.

But there was a time in our life where nothing about our life

was functional.

We threw peanut butter jars.

They do break drywall.

Just so you're in case you're wondering, we broke every dish of

every box of dishes we ever received to the point where I bought

Corelle.

Do you know what Karel is?

Corelle is unbreakable dishes.

I was like, I got you, sir.

And he still broke one of those.

He was an adulterer, he was abusive.

And I know that not everybody should stay in those kinds of situations.

Like, I get it, I know the scriptures.

But I had a picture of restoration in my family, and I said,

lord, I'm willing to go first.

Now.

It should have been him, but someone in the family has to be the

Redeemer in the relationship.

Obedience does not wait.

Obedience is a redeemer.

Obedience is a force that unifies marriage.

So, men.

Yeah.

Go first.

I think you should.

I think it would be beautiful, and I think it would minister to

your wife greatly.

But, ladies, if you're waiting for him, you are in disobedience.

Because redeemers go first.

Jesus went all the way to the cross without ever knowing that you

would accept him as Savior.

And if Jesus is the metaphor for him and the Church, if that's

marriage, then we go all the way first.

Without any promise of reconciliation, without any promise

of change, without any promise that he's ever going to love or cherish.

You go first.

When I read Ephesians, there's such a conviction that settles in

my heart.

And I see Jesus as the bridegroom to the church.

And I can't help but think that our marriage is a direct reflection

of our relationship with Jesus.

There is no such thing as a passionate relationship with Jesus

and a passionless marriage.

Those things cannot be separate.

I understand you go through things, but there's.

There's a conviction that should settle in your heart.

There should be a mirror image of those two worlds.

People who don't pray in their relationship with Jesus.

My hunch is that you also don't communicate with your spouse.

It's a mirror.

And we're just going to take a few minutes as we take communion

and we're going to reprioritize because some of you

have relationships where Jesus is not on the throne.

And we're going to put Jesus back on the throne because the Lamb

is worthy of his suffering.

Would you stand with me, Jesus?

We put you on the throne.

A bridegroom that gave everything up for his bride, the

Redeemer that went first, that paid the debt of our sin and our

punishment.

His body was broken and his blood was spilled out for the redemption

of our sins.

And God, we can't do marriage without you.

We can't do life without you.

There is no healing without you.

And so today we remember your body that was broken and beaten for

us.

If you need the elements at every location, just wave your hand.

They'll come to you.

Jesus, your body, the pain and the hurt and the suffering of my

marriage was on his back.

His body was broken for our pain, for our sin.

And God, we take your body.

Jesus, we remember.

Go ahead and take the bread.

Ephesians 5:25, 27.

Ephesians 5:25

It says, Husbands, love your wives.

As Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he

might sanctifier, having cleansed her by the washing of the

water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself

in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she

might be holy and without blemish.

God, we do not receive anything without your blood.

And the only way that we can be washed clean is through your blood.

And God, as we take the cup, we remember the blood that was poured

out for our sin and our shame.

He gave up his life for the church, his body broken and his blood

spilled out.

Let us remember his sacrifice.

Would you drink this with me today?

How many just felt healing?

Come in the room, Church.

Would you do this?

Would you just lift up your hands at every location?

Jesus, we receive your healing virtue in our bodies, in our mind

and in our marriage.

Lord, we thank you for the healing work of the cross, the finished

work.

Lord, we thank you that there is power in his blood.

And God, I thank you that that power is flowing today in Jesus mighty

name.

And the church said, Amen.

How many feel.