The Pillars of Marriage || Pastor Diego Mesa

Welcome to the ALSS Podcast. Here at ALC we seek the loss, teach

the found, and send the disciples. We truly hope you're encouraged by this

week's message. Let's stand on our feet for the reading of the word.

We are in a series. The series is titled off of the word Favor.

We're playing off of it favorite Marriages. Pastor Adham has laid a masterful

foundation. I'm just so proud of him. He's ministering to me every week.

His illustrations are off the chain. How he exposits the Word of God

is a complete blessing. And today I'm gonna talk about a man named zach

Zakias, and I'm Zacharim Somemon Zachariah, not Ezekias. Zachariah and his wife

Elizabeth, and I'm gonna call her Liz. So we're gonna read a little

bit of this story in today's message. Subtitle it how to have a long

lasting marriage. How to have longevity in your marriage. Here's an old couple.

In the days of King Herod of Judah, there was a priest of

Abajah Division named Zachariah. His wife was from the daughters of Aaron and her

name was Elizabeth or Liz. Both were righteous in God's sight, living without

blame, according to all the commands and requirements of the Lord. But they

had no children because Elizabeth Elizabeth could not conceive, and both of them were

well along in years. They were old people, aged people. When his

division, or his assignment, his job came was on duty. He was

to serve as a priest, serving as a priest before God. And when

Zachari Zachariah saw him that was an angel. He was terrified and overcome with

fear. But the angel said to him, do not be afraid, Zachariah,

because your prayers have been heard. Hum prayers. Now your wife Liz

or Elizabeth, will bear you a son, and you will name him John.

That's John the Baptist. There will be joy and delight for you,

and many will rejoice at his birth. One more scripture. He said,

how can I know this, Zachariah asked the angel, For I am an

old man and my wife is well along in years. You don't think that

God knew that he was an old man, And you don't think God knew

that his wife was well along in you. But yet, in spite of

their circumstance. God gave them a promise that ought to be enough for us.

Stop looking at your circumstance and hold to the promise of God. And

so it goes on and it reads like this finishes, I am Gabriel,

who stands in the presence of God, and I was sent to speak to

you to tell you of this good news. And then it goes on and

it basically says, you will become silent or a mute, unable to speak

until the day these things take place because you did not believe my word,

which were fulfilled in the proper time. You may be seated. Thank God

for the reading of his word. Sometimes you just need to keep your mouth

shut because your confession and your words will kill the promise that God has for

you. You will abort the promise of God. God wants to bless your

marriage, He wants to bless your health, He wants to bless your finances.

But your mouth is saying the contrary. So just keep your mouth shut.

Three week Patty Cakes went on Today, I want to talk a little

bit about Zachariah, and I want to talk about Elizabeth and how to have

a long lasting marriage. Now, if you're marrying late, that's okay,

you'll finish with a long lasting marriage. Or you're like me, who just

last year celebrated his fortieth anniversary with the wife of his youth. And now

we're in our forty first year and by the race of God, will have

many, many, many more years. But I want to introduce to you

at thought. If you've ever seen Roman architect Roman construction. You could go

to Italy today and see the Colosseum. Why is that building still standing?

You could go see the Pantheon? Why is that building still standing? Is

it because of the skill of the craftsmen. No? Is it because of

the climate that exists in Italy? No? Is it because of the tools

that they used? No? Come on, stay with me. I'm talking

about a long lasting marriage. What makes it has only been recently discovered that

scientists have figured out why these buildings are still standing. It's the cement that

holds the rocks together. It is a unique blend that was done two thousand

years ago by the Romans. It was volcano rock with limestone creating a mixture

that held the buildings together. Now, over time, earthquakes or movement of

the earth cracks begin to happen and rain begins to fall. Well, the

rain seeps into those cracks and begins to revite, And this is the mystery

they discovered. It revitalizes the cement and it actively begins to rebuild and fill

in the cracks of the damage that was done. That's the power of the

cement. I wonder if the Holy Spirit has some power in the fractures of

marriages today that can come in and view a repair so that it is durable

and has a level of longevity, that it doesn't have to fall by the

wayside like all the other marriages fall by the wayside. I notice in the

introduction, as we through this partition of scriptures, exposit just a little bit.

I understand about zach and I understand about Elizabeth. Notice it didn't say

this and because zach or Zachariah his woman, his wife was barren. It

didn't say that he was impotent. It said his wife was barren. He

did not go outside of his marriage to have a baby. I know you

can't relate. He didn't mistreat her because of some handicap or disability that was

in her. He honored her. The second thing I recognize is that we

don't know how long, but he continued to pray for a son. He

never stopped praying for a promise. He never stopped believing that God would use

him and his wife to give birth, even in their old age. I

know so many people people that are older that are barren. And I'm not

talking about naturally barren. They're barren in the Kingdom of God. They're not

producing, they're not productive, they're not doing anything. And the greatest way

for old people to get old is to stop working, serving, giving praying

in the Kingdom of God, you'll go old really quick, at least old

in the sight of God. So I love the fact that he prayed.

He probably the moment they got married, they tried to have a baby and

they couldn't, so they prayed through their teens. He kept praying twenties,

thirties, forties, fifties, God, I'm believing you for a second.

So how long can you pray before you stop praying about something because you get

discouraged and you quit. This guy spent hours praying for a son until finally

God was willing to give him the sun. Amazing to me. Then it

goes on and says during the time of his priestly duties. When he goes

in to serve as a priest, is where the word of the Lord or

the promise comes to him. If that man is not on his assignment,

if that man is not in his place, nobody wants to talk to me

today. If nobody, if that man is not in his position, he

is going to miss out on the word of the Lord. It is essential

within this society, within this world, I can solve every problem in the

world today, and I have a little education and a little bit knowledge.

Put the man back in the home and it will solve all the problems.

Let the man come back into his home and sit in the seat, his

position, and in his place. Okay, you'll want to tag this,

you'll want to write this down. See, here's what it is. The

devil is trying to get the man out of his place. And when he

succeeds to get the man out of his place, then the wife will replace

him and the family and the children will be displaced. Can you say that

again, No, I'm moving on. I'm moving on. I'm moving on.

It's a problem of society. The man is not in his place,

so he can't hear the promises of God. The last opening thing, and

then I'm gonna preach. This is like your appetizer. Is It said that

they were both righteous. That's a key to a successful marriage. That's a

key to receiving the promises of God. It doesn't say that Elizabeth was righteous

and the husband was all raggedy. Elizabeth prayed all the time and he never

prayed. Elizabeth went to church. He never went to church. Elizabeth tied,

he never tied. Elizabeth served and he never served. They both spiritually

were together. Emotionally, we're together. Physically we're together. They were together.

They were compatible, and we are dating people that we are not compatible

to then entering into marriage that we are not compatibible spirit, soul, and

body. They both were righteous, not one versus the other. If you

want a long lasting marriage, this is what the scriptures begin to unfold to

us today. Notice the Bible says, it says it's four times and Matthew

nineteen, I'll read it to you. Jesus said this in Matthew nineteen and

verse five. He also said this for this reason, pass Kinning, I

never saw this before. For this reason, a man will leave his father

and mother. We always said, we always when we preach it, say

a woman and a man needs to leave their father and mother, and that's

acceptable, and we identify that you need to build your own relationship and not

depend on your parents anymore. When tough times come, you can't run home.

We've done that for a thousands a long time. But I like the

way it says it. For this reason, a man has to leave his

father and mother, because if the man, it is showing the order of

God. It is showing the law of God here. And if you never

never understand this, you're never gonna understand the makeup of how God created a

man and a woman. In the difference of that that he created the man

first, he created He created the man from the dirt, but he created

the woman from the man. He said the woman will be the help.

Mat didn't say the man was to be the help. Way he says that

the man is supposed to love the wife. He never commanded the world.

I have to love them. And I'm going into a whole marriage conference right

now. But you've gotta understand the order he said. If the man leaves

his father and mother, he's saying this, then the woman will automatically follow

his direction. But if the man doesn't lead and initiate, the woman will

not be able to follow that. For this reason, a man will leave

his father and mother and be joined united, welded bond together with his wife,

and not says the two shall become one flesh. So here's what you

need to understand to have longevity in your marriage. It's a process. It's

a practice of time, effort, energy, and commitment. Here's my statement

on becoming right now, this is said this way. Becoming one is the

process of time that is not instant. The ceremony is instant, but a

marriage is developed over time. So don't get discouraged. Its work, its

effort. I don't care who tells you any different. It is. Every

marriage, no matter what, has its bumps and bruises, but the ones

that survive have high levels of commitment to one another and high level of covenant.

That Pastor Adam used the covenant not only to one another, but the

covenant to God. You take God out of it, and you're gonna be

driven by your emotions and feelings. And Pastor Adam talked about you're gonna only

have commitments. You will not have covenants, take God out of it,

and you have commitments, and commitments are limited. See here's the reality.

Anybody can get along in the bedroom. That's your honeymoon stage. I know

nobody wants to talk about. I know this has grown up messages for you,

and you could take off your halo right now. But the boom boom

room doesn't last. The knocking the boots might generate knocking boots. Man,

knocking those boots everybody. The bedroom is where the honeymo Can you live together

outside of the bedroom, in all the other rooms of the house. That's

a marriage. The honeymoon is we get along in the bedroom. But I've

known a lot of people that could get it on in the bedroom but can't

get along, Oh thank you Holy Spirit. Can't get along in the kitchen,

can't get along in the living room, can't get along in the attic,

the garage, and can't get along in the bathroom. Holy smoke,

a rootinge. This is what proverb says. Here's what proverb says. Watch

us proverbs, my son, share your love again. Order a father teaching

his son about marriage. What did I tell you about what the devil's trying

to do with men get them out of their place. So father doesn't son

doesn't know how to be a husband to his wife because his father never taught

him. This is David talking to his young boy Solomon, My son,

share your love with your wife alone. Drink from her well of pleasure,

and from no other. Why would you have sex with a stranger, a

stripper, a whore, a prostitute, someone on the job, or with

any other than her. Reserve this pleasure for you and her alone, and

do not share it with another. Watch this, Your sex life will be

blessed. Amazing to me that God does not walk out of the bedroom when

you and I, as married couples, are enjoying each other. God wants

you to have a blessed sex life. The Bible says marriage is honorable,

and the bed under fire. I'll talk a little bit more, but he

goes. He says, as you take joy and pleasure in your wife,

Your wife and your spouse is supposed to bring you joy. It says here,

the pleasure in the wife of your youth. Let her what okay?

Come on, what are you guys? Kinny gardners? Read the Bible with

me? Let her what? Good morning? Man? We have started service

about thirty minutes ago. I'm gonna let you read it one more time.

This might be as close as the men are gonna get to one of these

today. No, I'm just kiddy. This is gonna be the best night

of your life anyway. But let her breast be your satisfaction, and let

her embrace why he says, and let her embrace intoxicate you at all the

time. Don't act like you don't know what it is to be intoxicated.

And he uses the same word to describe love between a husband and a wife.

It's intoxicating, dude. If your love for one another is not intoxicating,

then you need to get fixed today. And that's why you're here today.

It's boring. It's boring to me. There's no life in it,

there's no feelings in it. Then that's not what the Bible says. You're

to be intoxicated, be continually delighted, and look at all the about ravish

with her love. How many of you recognize there's a difference between let's just

say this, a Smart car and a Honda or a Tyota car. So

if you and I want to choose a reliable car, a dependable car,

how many of you want to rely on? What kind of specifications do you

need when you go looking for a car? Just yell them out. What

are you looking for when you go looking for a car? Durability, mileage?

You're looking for mileage. Okay, that's good performance, that's very very

good performance. Yeah. Does anybody want to look at the car facts?

Come on, singles? As smart as you would be in shopping for a

car, why would you do less in shopping for a date. I'm looking,

I'm gonna kick the tire, I want to look under the hood.

I'm going to check the car facts. Your trw are, your blood records,

your social security, your experiences, your performance in the past promises.

Why would you be naive, Eve when this is your life? So?

How many of you recognize smart cars? Everybody bought a smart car? Lay

that cute little car? I mean, how many of you own a smart

car today? How many of you anybody out here there have a smart car?

Why? Because they don't? Last we're talking about marriage. Here we

go, with a few minutes that I have left, I'm gonna rip through

this as quick as I can. Let's throw up at the first point and

we'll talk about these parallels agreement yet different. This is what I've learned,

This is what the Bible learns about how to have a long lasting marriage.

You have to have agreement in your marriage. That means you're unified and you're

together. Where in your morals and your values, and your principles and your

ethics, in your faith as it relates to your family, as it relates

to your finances. Those are the important areas of your life where you have

to be an agreement. Marriages will not survive if there is not agreement at

that level. Values, morals, principles, how we spend money, how

we save money, work, ethics along those lines, faith, how we

raise families, yours, his ours, how we're going to do that.

There has to be an agreement along that line. Your kids, do I

discipline or do you discipline your ex? Do you talk to your ex or

you asked me to talk to your ex. There has to be agreement.

But at the same time, there's differences, and we learn need to learn

how to appreciate each other's differences and not always try to change that person to

be like you. I don't want to marry another diego. That would be

nasty. I could barely get along with myself, let alone another one like

me. But you think you want someone exactly like you, you don't.

It would drive you crazy. So you need to allow your spouse or your

future spouse or you. Every day you're an agreement on the essentials, but

on everything else you could have differences. We don't like the same movies.

We don't like the same movies. We don't laugh at the same things.

Cindy loves the shop. I can't stand the shop. She wants to walk

in Hallmark channels. I don't want to watch no hardmarked movies. But sometimes

I have to compromise because I just want to be with her. I want

to go out in the garage and play with my bicycle and two things,

and she don't want to do that, But maybe she'll follow me there just

have a conversation with me. So you have to be able to accept each

other's differences and not try to change each other. There's interests that she has

that I don't have. There's likes that she has that I don't want.

Their loves that she has she loves doing thing that I don't like, and

I have that. That's the way she is. See, here's some things

about Cindy, and I told her that, I tell you guys that.

She said, okay, And she's spending the day with her little granddaughter today,

so it's her day with her granddaughter today, Areel. So here's Cindy.

Cindy does not shop or will ever buy anything generic. Now, I'm

a very frugal, thrifty person. That was an immediate clash early in my

marriage because I would reach for the generic cornflakes because all corn flakes taste the

same, and if I could save twenty three cents, I'm gonna save twenty

three cents. She slapped my hand and says, oh, I don't do

generic, and she reached for the box that said Kelloggs with a tiger in

front of it. Now I could make that a major issue and drive that

and say I'm going to divorce this woman over that she doesn't like. She

doesn't like chodiso and she won't make chodiesel for me, man, why didn't

I marry a Latina who would love to make burritos and Childrenso for diegle see,

I can make it an issue. Don't act like you you don't know

what I'm talking about. On why people get divorces. I love to go

to garage sales. I love swap meets. I like to dick her and

I like to buy something. She don't do swap meats, and she don't

do garage sales. I bought an old table and I was gonna bring it

in our house as a dining She said, get that thing out of my

house. I don't know who's used this, sat on it. What the

heck you talking about? She does not do press on nails. And I

could go on and on and on and on. Let's move to number two

topic very quickly. Remember next one, please loving yet confronting. We are

to be encouraging to one another. We are to edify one another. We

are to accept one another. We are to make people feel important to us.

That goes without question that we're loving. But the Bible says what a

pastor Kinney's favorite scriptures to speak the truth and love. And many marriages do

not know how to confront each other. They are sometimes very intimidated by their

mate because they recognize what their mate may restrain from them, or the response

or the reaction. But if you're going to have a long lasting marriage,

you have to be able to know when to call your mate on the carpet

and when to correct them, and when to coach them and when to chasen

them. And great marriages do that. Look at Cindy, and this is

always done privately. If you want to early and masculate your man, that

correct him publicly and you watch how you'll emasculate that man. One of the

worst things a woman could do is go and talk to her girlfriends about the

problems of her mates. They do it all the time. So I men

don't want to get married. They'd rather not. Now I'm just saying,

the man isn't in his right place. So a woman has to find an

avenue or an outlet. But that is what it is. I don't want

you talking to your girlfriends about me. You could talk to me and say

all you want to me, and hopefully I'll change and I'll try to work

on myself, but don't talk to anyone else about that. So it's quiet.

That means there's a lot of people doing it. Whenever you hear quietness,

it's because a lot of people are doing it. I've been doing this

a long time and know what I'm talking about. You have to be able

to confront your mate's weaknesses again Again. God gave Eve to Adam as a

help mate. What does that help me? Every one of us have blind

spots, every one of us has vulnerability. So you have to be able

to be able to confront. So I'll confront Cindy uncertain things. She may

not like it. She could be emotional as a woman, she may We

respond to each other differently in her personality. I want to talk things through.

She wants to give me the silent treatment. We're different personalities. But

I've learned how to say what I need to say, back off and give

her space. Sometimes it's twenty eight four hours, sometimes it's forty eight hours,

and we'll leave it at that. But I know her heart, it'll

eventually come back around. I don't hamper her. I don't nag her.

I just said I said my piece. Now let me go ride my bike.

You and I have to learn how to fight fair. Don't know how

to fight fair. So to help you fight fair, I have a few

s's for you to look at to fight fair. Don't be a screamer,

don't yell, don't be a streamer. Not pouting and crying all the time,

playing the victim. Don't be a steamer using excuses and avoidance. Don't

be a steamer throwing things, slamming things. Don't be a studio I couldn't

think of another s studios just a drama queen, drama actor. Don't be

a striker. Strikers are absolutely you always have been this way, you liar.

You ain't always been this way. All men are like this. Those

are labeling. Don't be a shallow that's petty. Don't be a swear that

self explanatory fall and dirty words. And don't be a steward. Don't be

silent, noncommutative and holding on to things without sharing those third thing, third

thing, You're not going to get them all. I'm sorry. Maybe next

service will lay them all out. Let's go to number three. I'll try

it again as many as I can. Protection versus controlling. We all should

protect our marriage. You need to protect yourself. A man is responsible for

protecting himself from his temptations and his weaknesses. It's not my wife's first responsibility

to protect me. It's my response to to protect my wife. Then my

wife will work toward protecting me. But we have to learn toward this.

So protecting you got to learn how to protect each other. That protecting each

other means I want to know where you're going, I want to know who

you're with with. That's absolutely acceptable in a marriage. Cindy has a tracker

on me, not because she doesn't trust me. It's because I go up

in the mountains and I'm by myself and she wants to be able to look

on that tracker to make sure where I'm at. It's not because of distrust.

So protection is the fact that we follow up, where are you going,

how long will you be there? What time are you coming home?

That's a healthy coming. But when you and I have grown up in unhealthy

relationship, you get defensive. Who are you to be talking to me?

Grown up person? Don't be asking me. We are one And as much

as I would always want to know where my children are, I'm a protector

and I want to know always how to defend. I want to know how

to watch over. I want to know what's going on in the life of

my family. So there's a natural good protection that needs to exist within a

relationship. Me and Sydney used to fight all the time because this woman is

so independent. It's ridiculous and she knows that I go to bed early,

and so to go to I cannot go to sleep until she's in the house.

And so sometimes she'd come in past my bedtime because she'd be out shopping.

And I don't know what time these things close, but I know I

walk up to my bed around eight o'clock. And that's your curfew. Girl.

You can do it all you want all day long. About eight o'clock

curfew. I call her about eight thirty. I know how to talk to

my Cindy. How are you? What are you doing? I'm smart,

man, I ain't stupid. Hi. I was just checking up on you.

You're gonna be coming home soon. Now, let me tell you rewind

to the beginning days. Where are you. I'm trying to go to bed.

I can't go to bed until your blessed assurances. Oh you got five

minutes though. I want to talk that way. But there'd be something like

that, but she didn't hardly do it anymore. But when she does,

she said, diego, I'm stuck here. I'm stuck here, and she

does that so protection. But then there's this other part, which is the

controlling part, which is the unhealthy part of a relationship. Where I've got

to get permission from you to do things. You're controlling me, you're dominating

me, you're intimidating me, you're manipulating me. And so many men control

women along that line, and a lot of women allow their men to do

that. And one of the unhealthy signs in dating, in dating is that

when you have a man that starts separating you from your godly community, separating

you from church, and separating you from authority, that's a sign of a

weak man. He wants to control you. And so you need to see

that right away as oh, no, no, no, if we're gonna

move forward in this relationship. I go to church, I'm around my family,

those that love me. I know unhealthy relationships. I won't be around

those. But you're not gonna tell me along that line. Can't tell me

that. Are you okay with me? Okay, let's try to do one

more, one more and then I'll just give them the rest to you.

Equal sacrifice not equal giving. Okay. So we all carry the burden of

the house. We equally give, pray, serve, help out sacrifice.

We all equally work together within the home, We equally sacrifice. Nobody is

carrying, not carrying a burden. Nobody's not carrying the weight. Even though

even though that those aren't my children, I'm married into you. Oh drop

this little thing. Who you date and who you marry is a reflection of

your emotional mentality. So when you say you dumb old broad, that's a

stupid wife. But now you just revealed how stupid you are. She didn't

get He didn't get stupid overnight. You were stupider back then. The person

you married reflects your emotional stability. The person you married reflects your mentality.

No one put a gun to your head and forced you to marry someone.

I don't even know what point we're on. Equal sacrifice not equal giving.

But there are times when one may carry more of the weight, where one

may work longer hours than the others, when one takes care of the house

and the children because the other person isn't feeling well during a period of time

or they've got to work, and so it doesn't always balance out. But

the heart of caring and loving for the house is equal. When I had

to work sixteen and twenty hours when this church first started, I never mowed

the lawn. I didn't have time Cindy did. I never washed the car.

I didn't have time, Cindy did. I hardly was able to go

to anything related to the to at school. Cindy did all that. I

didn't cook a meal, I didn't do laundry. I was working sixteen and

twenty hours. But I love my family and when I was there, I

was trying to be there, and we were working through the difficulties of the

season that we were in. But it may not have always measured out.

I'm not into big role playing. I'm not into stereotypes. Your home is

your home, and I should not judge you on your home. So if

one's a cook and the other isn't a cook, one does laundry, the

other doesn't. One's the principal breadwinner, the other the wife makes more money

than that. I don't care. God doesn't care, as long as there's

equal sacrifice. Okay, five more minutes. Okay, next one. Let

me just see what it is. I don't even know. More deposits than

with draw that okay, So all that matters is that long lasting marriages has

to have more deposits than withdraws, because everybody is gonna act stupid sometime that's

your w draw period. Everybody's going to be emotional, that's your withdraw period.

Okay, everybody's going to be sour sometime. That's your withdraw Here and

see, we can handle your withdraws as long as you have more deposits kindness,

goodness, generosity, long suffering, sweetness. But you always have to

make sure there's more what deposits than withdraws. Okay, next one, next

one, very quick? Oh Jesus hm, attract. Okay, let's go

on. I'll come back to all end with this and let's go next to

it. Is there another one? Yes, there is, there's one more

best and good. There you go best and good. Make sure that you

always give your best to your spouse. You give everything else good. I

know people that give their best on their job, especially men. It's women.

They give their best to their job, and they give their husband or

mate good. Your best is reserved, your best emotion, your best conversation,

your best time, your best affection. That goes to your mate and

your home. Everything else you're just good at. You're just good at.

They are your priority. Your best goes to your home. Everything else is

good, it goes everywhere else. Okay, go back all end with this.

Now we're at three minutes the last. Now you're going back to what

intimacy attraction versus intimacy? Okay, Number one, Spouses should always, to

the best of their ability, ask their mate, how can I be attractive

to you and remain attractive? You're not becoming attractive to other men or other

women. Okay, You're not to be an expert in women and men.

You're an expert in your spouse. Always Men, I'm an expert in women.

You're stupid. You ain't no expert. You got a wife, especially

crying every night. Because you're an expert in women, be an expert in

your wife. Don't be an expert in women, because every woman and every

man is different. So remain that. I always remember there's a difference between

affection and romance and intimacy. You have to figure that one out. Men

only know intimacy, but that starts off at seven o'clock in the morning.

Women want a hello in the morning. They would I like a kiss in

the morning. They'd like you to cook them breakfast in the morning. They

want to make sure that their car is clean, their gas tank is filled.

Now you're gonna have good sex all night or at least three few minutes.

But anyways, you have to learn. That's why every Monday is date

as date after forty one years or still dating. No matter how stress for

our lives are, we haven't been able to connect. Mondays are all she

could vent if she wants to vent. I wish I could tell if you

were marriage conference, I go further, but I can't, so I won't

do it because I see young kids here. But we always come together.

We do not go long periods of time without coming together. I cannot tell

you, nor anyone else tell you durations nor positions. Early in my marriage,

I let somebody, a preacher, speak into my marriage on what my

bedroom should look like. And it was the worst mistake. That my guidelines

are my scriptures. My guidelines are the holy ghost. My guideline is my

wife saying it's okay or it's not okay. It's not someone else telling me

what goes on in my bedroom. Marriage is honorable. The bed undefiled learn

from my mistakes. But here's I end with this. Cindy knows what and

that I am because I I am a man, and eighty percent of men

are built this way. We are attracted by what we see. Just because

I'm attracted to you doesn't mean that I'm gonna have intimacy with you. And

women need to understand just because a man is attracted to your woman doesn't mean

he's gonna have intimacy. So don't be insecure. See how quiet has gotten

because I'm hitting it. See I told you so a side. I am

absolutely accountable to Cindy in all realms. I'll say, Cindy, that was

a beautiful woman. She says, she was beautiful. I make myself accountable,

Cindy, this is what happened today. She makes myself. I make

myself accountable. She protects me. She protects me. If we go somewhere

and she there's my seat is looking at someone with a hiked skirt and her

boobs are exposing, she says, would you like to exchange seats? Absolutely,

she protects me. We're watching a movie and you know they're so blurred

today. I mean, I don't know how you could look at a rating

today. And so she'll just say is this okay? Is this okay?

And I have to be honest with her. No, it's not because that

image. Because I'm a visionary will stay with me in my mind for three

or four days. I'll see it again. What do you want to do?

And then she lets me leave. So quiet is oh, I love

this quietness. So it's okay to be attracted to somebody. But that means

that what that means is but I can't touch you, I can't talk to

you, I can't hang around you, I can't visit you. And intimacy

is I share my vulnerabilities and my transparencies and my secrets. That only goes

to one person on the planet, that is Cindy. I cannot share my

vulnerabilities, nor my transparencies, nor my weakness with anybody else. There's only

one person that has the grace of God to fulfill every desire within Diego.

Most women could fulfill a lot of desires in Diego, but there's only one

woman that's one hundred percent proof because that was God's gift to her and to

me on the altar. It's reserved only. Father. Thank you for the

message today. I pray that it resonates in the hearts of people today.

Now, if there's any couples here today, I'm gonna ask you to have

the courage now by grabbing each other's hand, and in a few moments,

I'm gonna ask you to stand to your feet. If you feel like the

enemy is trying to abort your marriage, then stand your feet. If you

feel like the enemy is trying to terminate your marriage, stand your feet.

If you feel like the enemy is having you just want to walk out and

quit on your marriage. That you do not fulfill it, it is not

fulfilling to you. You're struggling to finish. I want you to stand on

your feet wherever you are, and we're gonna pray for you. We're gonna

pray that you finish and you fulfill and there's a fullness in your marriage.

And you're not going to abort the plan of God. And there's not going

to be a premature or early death to your marriage. There's not going to

be an extermination nor a termination to your marriage. You will live with the

wife of your youth or your latter years, all the days of your life.

Father, I lift these marriages up to you now. There are many

more, by the spirit of God, that should be standing. But that's

okay because they're not at the place. They're still full of pride, they're

embarrassed, but I asked that sues still honor, still touch. Now I

ask that you bring a miracle and that you bring a healing, and I

pray that these marriages walk out of here as though they were in a marriage

conference and just go ahead and continue the conversation at lunch or at dinner or

tomorrow of what was talked about today, and may that be liberating and free.

In Cheetah is Jesus name, Amen, you may be see to thank

you. I want to end with this, thank you so much for coming

to church, allowing allowing us to talk about such a sensitive private area in

people's lives, and that is their marriage and everything else. Thank you for

that. Next week, I'm gonna encourage you. I'll be preaching next week

on anonysis saphira, which is a dysfunctional marriage. So if you know anybody

that you believe is in the area of dysfunction, that would be next week's

message. The Bible says, it's appointed unto men wants to die in after

this is judgment. Do you know that you have an appointment with death?

You could try to prolong it with eating good and really trying to be safety

minded and not doing anything crazy. But the reality is is you have an

appointment with death. And I don't know if that appointment is going to take

place when you're eighty and when you're ninety, or when you're one hundred or

even sooner. But here's the reality. Every human being, no matter what

culture, no matter what race, no matter what death, cannot avoid the

appointment of death. Everybody has a due date and a time and a location

and a place where you're going to die is appointed unto man wants to die,

appointment with death, appointment with death. Then he goes on to say,

after the appointment is pointing men wants to die, and after that is

judgment. He's telling you what's going to happen the second after you die,

the moment you close your eyes on this earth and you die physically, what's

going to happen next? He says, you have an appointment before the judgment

seat of God. God is a judicial God. God is a righteous God,

and God a just Scott, and he will rehash your life and looking

at all the opportunities you had to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior,

repent of your sins, and believe that he died for you. He

will, he will, he will. Before there's any talk of damnation or

punishment or exclusion, he first will give you the opportunity to know, and

he'll record it. I don't know exactly how it will go, but it

will show that he is just. But after that is either the rewards or

the judgment that will come. It will catch nobody, or it should catch

nobody by surprise. Today, I don't want you to live in the mystery

of knowing what's going to happen the day after you die. There's too much

to risk. This thing is like forever and forever and forever, and the

decision you made can determine where you'll spend it in eternity. God loves you

today. He's not mad at you today. He's loving you enough to sharing

the message with you of forgiveness and eternal life and love. Say, with

a shadow of a doubt, I'm a Christian, but I've wandered away from

my faith. I'm writing. I'm writing the defensive Compromise today, in and

out, up and down, and I want to rededicate my life to the

Lord. When I count to three, would you just raise your hand for

any of these things, giving your life to Jesus. Rededicate your life to

Lord. We're going to pray for you. One two, one two three.

Raise your hand wherever you are. Okay, let's say this prayer together.

Say, Dear Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner. I need to be

saved. I asked you to save my soul from future judgment that would come.

I don't have to be afraid of dying or what it's going to happen

after I die, because today I accept the payment for my sin, the

sacrifice for my sin, which is Jesus Christ. Now I ask you to

be my Lord and be me my shavior. Amen. We really hope you

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