Healing Family Wounds: From Secrets to Redemption || Pastor Diego Mesa

Wonderful.

Well, it's so wonderful to see everybody on Saturday night.

How many of you love Saturday night service because you

get to do a lot of fun stuff on Sunday.

I guess, huh, that's great. Probably sleep in for some

or maybe some people work, or some people have a

great breakfast or watch sports or binge on Netflix.

I don't know what you do, but.

I would think that I probably would attend Saturday night service.

I probably would because I love to.

Get up and work out and do some kind of

just chill and take my time, So probably would have been.

So this is your Sabbath today, this is your Sabbath.

Tomorrow will be Sunday Sabbath for other people. So thank

you so much for coming. You look wonderful tonight. Jesus's Lord,

And no matter what you're going through, no matter how

tough life gets, just remember that we're just sojourners, We're

just pilgrims, We're just passing through. This Earth is not

your home. You know, when people transition and die and

go to heaven. I always tell the family that your

loved one is part of your future, not just your past.

So let's just say somebody lives sixty years, so you

had whatever, Let's just say you had sixty years with them.

What is sixty years compared to eternity?

Conversations, hugs, experiences, intimate moments. It's forever and forever and forever.

And this world, the Bible says, is like a breath.

It's like the twinkling of an eye. It's like one

rain drop compared to eternity. It seems slow on this

side of heaven, like for ever. But like when you

see our loved one and you get there, they're gonna

turn around and you're gonna think, man, I haven't seen

you a long time.

I just saw you like a second ago. What are

you talking about?

Because eternity, the Bible says, is like a thousand years.

So it just it's good to encourage ourselves sometimes when

we go through difficult moments or reflections like that, to

remember that, how many of you want to go to heaven?

Everyone does, Well, you know what that means?

You have to die.

See, everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants

to die.

He said, well, I'm just.

Believing that Jesus is gonna come back, and I'll just

be raptured.

Well, bless the Lord, me too. We'll all go together.

Amen, let's pray, And I'm just really excited to be

here tonight.

Pastor Adam will be here next week.

He'll close out this series on Secret Wounds and Silent Cries,

and he commissioned me to do two point zero version

of this series that I did thirty one years ago.

It was the first series.

That I did in the Southridge Home in Fontana, and

it was called Secret Wounds and Silent Cries. Why hurting

people hurt people? And so this is two point zero

the Revision Father, Thank you so much for the few

moments I have to share the gospel, the good news

of hope and encouragement with your people today.

Thank you.

May this investment of time be impactful. God, may it

be sticky and kind of just stay with us. In

Jesus's name, a man, we're going to read a scripture today.

I'm asking you to stand on your feet. Actually tonight,

we're going to attempt to work through this entire chapter today,

but we're going to take it in three parts and

begin to dissect it today. An amazing story that is

going to blow your mind. You're going to think that

you're listening to a soap opera, or you would think

this is rated R what you're about ready to read.

But it's in the Bible for a reason, because sometimes

our lives are not rated G five on his people

here today, sometimes it's rated R and R is not

just sexual. It's violence, it's murder, it's threats, it's injustices.

And so here we go in Genesis thirty one and

verse number thirty eight, excuse me verse number one About

that time, Judah left home and moved to Adullam, where

he stayed with a man named Hirah. The Bible says

that he saw a Canaan Kite woman. I'm highlighting words

that are very important to come back to the daughter

of Shua. He married her. When he slept with her,

she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, and

he named the boy Era. Then she became pregnant again

and gave birth to another son, and she named him Onan.

And when she gave birth to her third son, she

named him Sheila. And the time of Sheila's birth, they

were living in Kezba. In the course of time, Judah

arranged for his first born son, Era to marry a

young woman name say this word with me Kamar okay.

But Era was a wicked man in the Lord's sight,

so the Lord took his life.

He died.

Then Judah said to Era's brother Onan, which was the

custom of the time, go and marry Tamar, your sister

in law, to keep the lineage or the line going,

basically as the law requires. The law requires of it

of the brother of a man who has died, you

must produce the air for your brother. But Onan was

not willing to have a child who would not be

his own error. So whenever he had intercourse with his

brother's wife, he spilled the.

Seamen on the ground it's in your bible.

This prevented her from having a child who would belong

to his brother.

But the Lord considered it evil Onwan to deny a child.

To his dead brother, So the Lord took Onan's life too.

To sons dead. Now, then Judah said to Tamar and

his daughter in law, go back to your parents. Go away,

Just go away, girl, to your parents' home. Remain a widow.

I don't want you to get married until my son

Sheila is old enough to marry you.

But Judah didn't really.

Intend to do this because he was afraid Sheila would

also die fear fear, making his decisions out of fear,

not faith, fear like.

His two brothers. So tell him.

Tamar went back to live in her father's home. So

we're gonna stop there. Yeah, let's stop there. You may

be seated. That's part one. What do you think you

into that you down with that?

Let's read it a little bit. Let's talk a little

bit about what this story is.

Several years ago, when we were at our old Jutica property,

I had just moved from Southridge to Edawanda, and I

wanted to raise the boys, my young sons, with a dog,

and I wanted a German shepherd. I just always been

partial to a German shepherd. But you know, we didn't

have much money, and I didn't know anyone for a breeder,

and I didn't necessarily go to a dog pound. I

was just I was literally running around the General Dynamics.

Property, which was across the street.

From our Utica and toward the end of the run,

I noticed from a distance a little German shepherd puppy

and I said, oh my god, there's a lost German

shepherd puppy, and so I made my way to it

to not frighten it. But the closer I got it

ran into the bush, the bushes that were there. I

got on my knees to kind of beckon him, you

know how, we talk.

Real cute to them.

Come on, little puppy, Come on, a little puppy. And

he wouldn't come out. He just went further and further

into the brush. So I decided to kind of help

him by sticking my hand out there to grab him,

and that little guy growled at me. Now I'm talking

about eight weeks, ten weeks at the most he was

like that.

First he went further.

Into the bush. I wasn't going to hurt him. I

actually wanted to take him home to a good home.

I wanted to better his life. He was stranded, he

didn't know where his next meal would be. Possibly a

coyote or predator could kill him. But he saw me

as a threat. He did not see me as a helper.

When I extended his hand toward him, he growled at me.

I thought, what the heck's wrong with this dog? Crazy dog?

Doesn't he realize I'm trying to help him? And then

I reached it a little further to grab him, and

then he bit me, try to bite me. I spent

about ten minutes trying to coach this dog. I couldn't

get him out, and so I just said, you know what,

forget you and I took off. Now I think oftentimes

what drives us into the bushes. I think about what

makes us growl at people, and I sometimes think out

what makes us try to bite people because something someone

did to us. When God wants to bring healing to us,

he wants to bring hell to us. He wants to

bring a good relationship chip to us. He wants to

bring a good pastor or a church. We have a

tendency to bleed out with our secret wound and our

silent trib rather than reaching out and trust God to

heal us. So on two points in original it said

secret wound, silent Christ.

Why hurting people hurt people?

Back then I would tell people, if you've ever been

hurt by somebody, it's because they've been hurt. It's not

an excuse, and adjustice doesn't justify, but it kind of

explains it. Two point zero version, secret wound, silent Crist,

is this to be a healer?

For Jesus. You first must be healed.

And Jesus wants you to heal people all around you

the brokenness of life. But you cannot heal somebody if

you are not healed yourself.

So here's the good news.

In spite of in spite of what's happened to you,

you don't have to be a victim. You don't have

to be a casualty, you don't have to be an

injured party, you don't have to be a fatality. Often times,

through these experiences of secret wounds and silent cries, it

makes us untrusting people, and judgmental people, and angry and

mad and bitter people. We are detached and distant, We

live isolated lives. We are depressed, We have destructive behaviors,

selfish behaviors, and sometimes can be abusive and neglectful in

our secret wounds and in our silent crimes. But the

reality of this message is this, you don't have to

be perfect. God just wants you to be well. Do

you really believe that God wants you to be well?

Because the reality is, even in your brokenness, you won't

stop loving God and He won't stop loving you. But

in your brokenness, you will not be able to serve

God to your maximum capacity. I see a lot of

Christians that are going to heaven and they love God,

but they're.

Not in service to God.

And it usually comes back to a secret wound and

a silent cry that they have not allowed God to

heal them from, and it will affect your service toward God.

In two thousand and eight, I had my right kidney removed,

and if you were to see me without a T shirt,

you'd see a scar right here where the kidney was removed.

The scar is always there. It is permanent. I can't

hide it. It's very visible. But the reality is I

could touch it all day long and there's no more pain.

And in life, you're going.

To have scars, but there shouldn't be any more pain.

If there's scars and there's pain, you need to go

before Jesus and ask him to heal you of your

secret wound and your silent cry. Today, I want to

talk a little bit. Now, let's pick up the story.

Let's go back to the story of where we are.

Some years later in verse twelve. Some years later, Judah's

wife died. Okay, what says you thought it was good?

Up? Till now, get ready, get ready.

After that time a morning was over, Judah and his

friend keyword Hurrah, the Adulamite went up to Timna to

supervise the shearing of his sheep. Someone told Tamar, look,

your father in law is going up to Timna to

shear the sheep. Remember he sent her away. He made

her a promise. Okay, this is okay, let me not

say it. I'm not going to give it away. Tamar

was aware that Sheila had grown up, but no arrangement

had been made for her to.

Come marry him.

And you need to see that Tamar is the victim

in the story.

She's the one.

Who has secret wounds in silent cries. And I'll break

it down in a few moments. So she changed, what's that? Yes,

I'll add this word because you're gonna hear. In her desperation,

she chained out of her widow's clothing and covered herself

in a veiled to disguise herself. Then she sat beside

the road at the entrance of the village of in Them,

which is by the road of Timna.

Judah noticed her and.

Thought she was a prostitute, and she could she covered

her face she dressing like a prostitute. She's showing some

skin right now, and she knows that's her father in law.

You still liking this story, it's in your holy b

I B l E. So he stopped and made a

proposition to her, let.

Me have sex with you intercourse.

Let's get it home. Oh not at least for a

couple minutes, he said, not realizing.

This is stupid. This is stupid.

Watch us, not realizing that she was his own daughter

in law. How stupid you can't even recognize your own

daughter in law? Hm?

How much more? How much will you pay to have

sex with me?

Tamart ass negotiation going on right now?

About three months later? Excise meute, we're gonna stop there?

Is that it? Yeah, we're gonna stop there. That's part two,

Part two. We'll come back to it. Don't worry, we'll come.

Back to it. You see somebody, let's you read on.

We're gonna come back to it. Right now.

Today we're gonna talk a little bit about the subject

of secret wounds and silent cries that come from daddy issues,

the passivity of a dad, the abandonment of a dad,

the lack of attention of a dad. We're gonna talk

about mommy issues. We're gonna talk about family drama, whether

it's your aunt, your uncle.

Your cousins, your siblings.

We're gonna talk about broken homes, whether it's foster care,

Section eight, single parents, divorced holmes, orphanages, projects you grew

up in, or.

A widow's home.

Today, we're gonna talk about dysfunctional house, an arguing house,

a house full of strife, anger division, a house that's

full of rape, incess, substance abuse, physical and emotional abuse.

How many to remember the old.

Song by the Temptations, Papa was a rolling stone. It

was the third of September, a day. Always remember, I

know you don't know that.

Why what the heck? What's going on? Really?

Why is this messy, complicated Ibama Field intense perverted.

Story in my Bible?

Because God wants us to relate, because he relates. If

you want to act like your life is together, and

you have your act together, and you come from a

perfect family, then God bless you. But if for a

moment you want to relate, that's what the Bible is

trying to tell you, trying to say, I identify with you.

That's what Jesus is saying, this is my family lineage,

and I identify with you.

To tell you that you're not the only one with

a secret wound in a silent crime.

To tell you that I God can redeem your story,

no matter how.

Nasty and perverted it is.

And God's saying, the devil wants to erase you from

my family, but I will not erase you, skip over or.

Edit you out.

The Bible says, all things work together for the good

to those that are called. The Bible says, what the

devil meant for evil, God will turn it to good.

And the Bible says, this will turn out for a testimony.

I'm gonna give you this amazing scripture right now in

Matthew in Matthew one and in verse number one and

in verse number three Matthew one, the account.

Of the genealogy of who.

Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham.

Get ready, get ready, get ready. Watch this verse three.

Judah fathered Perez and Zarah by Tamar Perez father Hesron has.

Ron fathered Aran.

Who is the genealogy we're talking about, Jesus.

These are his grandparents.

Tamar was his great great grandmama. You talk about his grandmama.

You talking about Jesus right now. He didn't come from

a perfect tree line.

He didn't come from royal blood. He didn't come.

From holy or Thou people, and yet he was holy.

It doesn't matter where you come from. All that matters

is what you allow God to do through you. Oka,

messed up, Jack, deb torp shame and embarrassment you're dealing with.

Imagine people talking about Jesus and his grandmama, Tamar in

the lineage of Judah. God can redeem your story. There's hope.

There's hope. There's hope, there's That's why the stories in

the Bible to tell you may have started one way,

but it ain't gonna end that way.

Baby, it ain't gonna end that way. I know you don't.

You don't want to show no emotion because you're being ministered.

To right now.

It's okay, here's a few points that I want to

share as we pick up the story. Now here, we're

gonna land it. Now here's a you. We'll have read

a whole chapter right now. Twenty four now, Wat says.

About three months later, Judah was told Tamar, your daughter in.

Law, has acted like a prostitute. Now because of this

she pregnant. Who baby that? Whose baby is that?

And now because of this she's pregnant.

He says, bring her out and let her be burned.

Judah demanded.

As they were talking her, talking to taking.

Her out to kill her.

She said this message her father in law.

I love this.

The man who owns these things made me pregnant. Look closely,

whose seal and cord and walking stick are these? See?

To pay her for a prostitution. He was going to

give her a goat, but he didn't have the goat.

So she said instead, until you give me the goat,

give me your seal, your cord, and your walking stick

that has your name on it and your label, so

she kept it. Now he finds out that his daughter

in law is pregnant, he's quick to judge her.

Let her be killed in stone right now.

And she goes like this, does this look like something

you recognize?

Look closely.

Judah recognized them immediately said this, she's more righteous than

I because I didn't arrange for her to be married.

I drove her to this in her desperation. She had

to do this. I failed her as a daddy to

marry my son Sheila and Judah, and Judah never slept

with Tamar again. When this time came for Tamar to

give birth, it was discovered that she carried twins. While

she was in labor, one of the babies reached out

his hand. The midwife grabbed it, tied a scarlet string

around the child's wrist, announcing this one came out first.

But then he pulled back his hand out and came,

and his brother came.

His brother.

Wait what, the midwife explained, how did he? How did

you break out first? So his name was Perez, and

you just read Perez. So here's the first she got

in the Bible right there.

So that's for the three.

Mexican came out of this Jewish relationship. Let's talk about

Let me give you four quick points with the twelve

minutes I have left. Number one is his bad choices

produced bad circumstances, which equals loss of conviction. The first

thing he recognize that says he left his family in

the beginning.

The second thing is he married wrong.

He married a Canaanite woman, someone outside of covenant.

He raised his sons they were wicked.

It's where he raised his family, he slept with a

prostitute and he had a wrong friend that encouraged him

to go with this prostitute. So we see nothing but

bad choices that led to bad circumstances in his life

which made him lose which He was a Hebrew who

loved God. His dad's name was Jacob, but he's not

living out his I'm a man of faith.

I know who God is.

I used to go to church, but my lifestyle doesn't

represent that.

Now, how did that happen?

Because I've made some bad choices in my life, producing

bad circumstances, and I've lost my convictions. Bad circumstances should

not be an excuse to compromise your convictions. You can't

compromise your beliefs. You can't compromise your integrity, your value,

your ethics, nor your morals. You cannot afford to do

that in a world full of temptation or no matter

how hard your life is. Compromise allows you to eliminate

the God factor. You won't be in his will, you

won't have His ways in your life, and you won't

have the Word of God in your life. You won't

operate in his favor and in his blessings when you

live a compromise life. So quote Michael W. Smith, it

reads like this. Behind every act of compromise is a

Christian who is living for this world rather than the next.

When I was seventeen years old, I stole all these

avocados from the neighborhood. I packed up this nineteen seventy

Ford al rancho all in.

The back of avocados.

I drove to Pico Rivera to a Mexican restaurant.

I had put a deal together.

That the owner would buy all the co avocados from

me so he could make an abundance of wacamole, and

then I'd sold them. And then I went and bought

some marijuana, and I stood on the street corner and

I became a small time.

Little drug dealer. Little did I know that that night

I would.

Be busted, hauled off to the police station, strip searched,

and then my parents would have to come and pick

me up.

How did that happen?

Bad choices which led to some bad circumstances.

Because now I'm grounded and there's a.

Lot of difficulty that's going to come into my life.

Though I was raised in a godly home, though I

knew better, but I had lost all my convictions because

of the people that I hung around and because of

the choices that I made. The second thing is selfishness

destroys what we were meant to create, what we were

meant to build, produce, keep, reproduce, fix and solve, help,

change and bless Judah is not doing that right now.

He's living a very, very very selfish life and he's

not living out as God given purpose.

He's destroying things.

Oh Nan was supposed to perform his duty and fulfill

his duty, but he didn't out of selfishness that took place.

How did Judah not know that that was not his

daughter in law? Because the lust got the best of him.

It's no coincidence. Is this the first.

Time that he's gonna be with a prostitute? Probably not,

just create a lifestyle for him. So it's all nothing

but selfishness that's destroying something. I'm supposed to be a blessing.

I'm supposed to raise a godly family. I'm supposed to

change in generation. I'm supposed to impact, but I'm not

doing it because I'm living a selfish life.

That's what staking plays in Judah's life.

The broken lies to Tamar leads her to a place

of desperation. Daddy, you promised me that you would give

me an air, and you broke your promise.

And now that's led me.

To take control of my life and live a desperate life.

That's how desperate she will be, all because of a

broken promise, a broken vow to her, and that will

lead her to a place of desperation. That's in her

life because selfishness takes.

From somebody rather than gives.

Selfishness puts my needs in front.

Of your needs.

Selfishness is a lack of unconditional love.

I'm going to give you a quote by Ed Cole,

and I love this quote about selfishness.

The counterfeit to the trinity is me, myself and I.

Selfishness.

All of that is self centeredness, self talk, self indulgence,

self promotion, self righteousness, self rationale. All that leads to selfishness.

Let me give you a thought here today. The thought

is this, what do you think the number one just

royer of marriages? Do you think the number one destroyer

of marriages? Infidelity, lack of communication, financial pressure, abuse, crisises,

blended families, unrealistic expectations, in activity.

Pride, and pettiness.

Do you believe that those are the number one reason

that destroys a marriage. No, those are symptoms. Those are symptoms.

We are dealing with symptoms. You got to go to

the cause of what's destroying a marriage. And here's the

one word, the one word that destroys marriage. Selfishness. You

forgot that you got into that marriage on what I

could do for you.

Now a turn what you're going to do for me?

And out of selfishness now comes infidelity. And because the

selfishness now comes abuse or financial p problems or everything else.

The number one thing that you and I have to

deal with in our lives is dealing with the selfishness.

And Judah is showing nothing but selfishness in this story.

The third thing is silence covers the wrong instead of

confronting it, he sends her away just I just want

to send the problem away. I just want to ignore it.

I just want to avoid it. So I'm gonna sid

we don't talk about it, don't bring that up to

me anymore, don't put me on the stop spot anymore.

And the reality is this is the silence covering the.

Wrong instead of confronting it when it's wrong. It's wrong,

and we've got to confront it now. We'll work on

it together, we'll deal with it together. But silence never

solves anything. Ignoring and avoiding never solves anything. And he

just wants to silence the issue in his life. See,

because here's the reality. All of us have ghosts in

our past, the ghost of guilt, shame, sorrness, condemnation, embarrassment, remorse, humiliation, regret,

past and grief. But ghosts have to be confronted with prayer, forgiveness,

changing relationships, going in for counseling. That you don't ignore

these ghosts, you confront these ghosts. Here's the second thing

I know.

All of us have closets.

I like this one. Things Nobody in your family can answer.

Things in your family. We do not discuss things in

my family. Nobody knows about things in my family. We

do not discs us privately. They're hidden secrets. Things we

don't talk about, things we don't ask about, things we

don't know about. These are behind it. We don't open

that door. I don't know whose son that is. I

don't know whose mama that is. I don't know how

that family member of God. We don't talk about it.

We don't talk about the rape, we don't talk about

the incests, we don't talk about all the abortion, we

don't talk about things like that.

But the reality is.

We all have these, and we all have these. God

wants us to confess them to him. That's when the

healing is going to begin. This guy is jacked up

and tore up. It's not until he says you are

more righteous than me that his healing starts. He said,

I'm coming out of the closet. Now, I'm not blaming

nobody for what took place. I'm taking responsible. Girl, you

would have ever got down to be a prostitute. If

I would have kept my promise, you would have never

done what you did in desperation. And now I take

full responsibility for what I did. And it starts bringing

healing to a generation. It brings healing to the family,

It brings healing to children. So silence can silence can

cover up the wrong. It must be confronted. And we

are really really good at masking and covering up with excuses, rationale, ignoring, justifying, pretending,

an avoidance. But it will find you out. Your staff

is going to come out one day. Your court is

going to come out one day. It's going to tell

on you the reality. And we can mask and cover

up things of secrets with alcohol, and we do it

with drugs, men and women. We do it with sexual promiscuite.

I didn't have a daddy, so I lay with all

the men in my life that come my way. I

don't think I deserve a good man. We deal with

it with yelling, we deal it with threatening, we deal

it with being a driven person or a perfectionist, all

because we're trying to cover up things. It's amazing how

vocal we can be about other people's sins rather.

Than our owns. He was about ready to stone her.

It's amazing how we could get on tangents over someone else.

You know, those young people are doing.

This, and yet we're gossipers. There's people live in these deviant,

perverted lives, but we're not tithing. Watch out what you

are so passionate about. So he going to destroy her,

But dude with a prostitute and it's your daughter in law.

And so amazing how vocal we can be against sin.

And the Bible says he that without sin needs to

watch himself. To cast the first stone. So Judah's repentance

breaks the cycle of silence.

It absolutely does. And last of all, it's amazing how

vocal we are at blaming others. Blaming others.

He blamed, if you look the scripture, very very slowly,

he blamed Tamar for his son's deaths. No, the Bible

says they were wicked, they're wicked boys. But he secretly blamed.

Her for those deaths.

And that's why he didn't want to give the third

son up, because he thought that she'd kill him one

way or another. But the reality is, it's amazing how

we can blame others for our hurts. Let's blame COVID,

Let's blame Biden, let's blame Trump. Let's blame the man,

whoever the man is. It's a man's fault. Let me

blame my ex It's not my fault. If only, if

only I had this, I did it because.

I blame it on my skin color. I blame it

on my race.

But Willie George says this in this amazing quote. And

then we'll go last point and we're done. God can

do little for those who think their problems are everybody

else's fault.

Here's my last point. The last point.

Our fear creates distance and separation rather than safety for

those around us that we love, protection, security, comfort and peace.

The fears that we're living in is actually creating distance

and separation.

Jared Jared losing his last son. Jueared of losing his reputation.

If you go back and read the story, he feared

losing his reputation, but he did not fear losing his bloodline,

or his family lineage, or his family blessing or heritage.

Where this woman cared more about the family name than

this man did. He didn't fear not having an air,

so he operated in a level of fear in his life.

Let me show you some common fears, but they're often

fears that affect men. Men have a fear of failure.

Men have a fear of commitment. Men have a fear

of incompetency. Men have a fear of not having enough

enough money or having a good career. Men fear again

not having a career, fear not working, fear they fear.

They fear being weak, not being able to handle the challenge.

Men fear rejection. Men fear being judged.

Men fear not measuring up These are real fears that

all of us as men face. But there's fear, and

our fears create separation. And we cannot allow our fears

to create separation from our friends, or our mates, or

or our children. We've got to confront and we've got

to deal with those fears. And the way we deal

with those fears is with faith. I'm going to have

to trust God. I overcome my fears with faithfulness. I've

got to start doing faithful things. Now, we overcome fears

with finishing well. I will not only do these things

faith and good actions, but I will consistently do them

day in and day out, and then I will lead

with fruitfulness.

I will do it forever.

This will begin to bring healing to our families when

we begin to move from fear to faith, to faithfulness,

to finishing well.

To becoming fruitful in our lives. I end with this.

I went through the TSA line not too long ago,

and the guy behind me, as I was getting my

luggage kept tripping the TSA alarm. So you know, they

pull you out of the line and now they're gonna

wave the want and it goes off, and you know,

please take your shoes off, take off about blah blah blah,

patting him down, and go through again, and go through again, and.

It just keeps it keeps tripping, and just keeps tripping.

And then he remembered, he said, you know what, I'm

over hearing the story because it keeps tripping, it keeps

going on.

He says, you know.

What, several years ago, I had surgery and I have

screws in his shoulder. And that's where it's coming from.

And the reality is this.

Is that God sees every aspect of our lives. What

man doesn't see, God sees, and what you've forgotten about,

he doesn't forget about. The story is an amazing story

of hope for all of us today, amazing story of hope.

The reality was is that God used Tamar to birth

the lineage of Jesus. He used Judah to get his

life right. And that tells tell us if you're Judah

the person that caused the pain, or your Tamar, the

victim of the pain, God can heal you both. And

this is a pretty pretty intense story so that all

of us could say, I think I'm somewhere in that story.

Mine might be in there somewhere. Father, I just thank

you today God that no matter where their secret wounds

in silent cries. I thank you today in this story,

thank you Holy Spirit that when Judah confessed, he brought.

Healing to Tamar got.

When Judah confessed, all she wanted was the approval of

her daddy.

And there are so.

Many men that are still seeking the approval of their dad,

the acceptance of my dad.

My dad may be long in God, my dad may

be alive.

But today I just want you as men, to understand

and to hear God. He validates you, He accepts you,

and he approves you. You don't have to live out

your anger anymore or your secret wound and silent cry.

She finally got the approval. And I pray today God

ministers to the brokenness of your life today and whatever.

You're holding on to, whatever it might.

Be as the victim or as the person that did it,

I pray that you bring forgiveness to those that have

hurt you. Maybe there's some reconciliation that someone needs to do.

Pick up the phone. I'm not sure how it's going

to go down. I just heard of a four star

general his son, I mean the four star Our general

worked worked, worked, worked, and just neglected his son, and

the son became a Christian. He had so much unforgiveness

toward his daddy. His daddy was a success in this

world's world's eyes. He was a four star general. But

he never hugged him, He never loved him. He never

took him the ballgame. He never had time. He picked

up the phone. He said, Dad, I want to come

and see you, and he just said, Dad, I love you,

and I just want you to forgive me.

For me holding unforgiveness towards you.

That father never acknowledged his sin, He never said he

was wrong. I don't know how these stories will end.

I just know you.

Need to hear God and do what God tells you

to do to bring healing enclosure to you. I pray Lord,

there's redemption in every one story today that can produce

a Jesus manifestation, a Jesus experience, a Jesus blessing in

all our lives in Jesus name.

Amen, can we give the Lord a clap offering?

That one was a little bit thick One't that some

of you need to go back and read that chapter again,

because I didn't read completely everything and just kind of

let it minister to you by the Holy Spirit. We're

getting ready to leave this church. Thank you so much

for coming to churchmen. Nor in the Bible does it

say if you go to church, you'll go to heaven.

Show me in the Bible where it says that go

to church you'll go to heaven. Show me the Bible

where what chapter are you gonna quote?

What book are gonnaquote? Don't say that.

Tell me where in the Bible does it say if

you're just spiritual, you do crystals, you do rosaries, you

do beads.

You'll go to heaven. Show me. Show me spirituality in

the Bible.

Show me where it says you're you do good works,

you're a humanitarian, you give your money away, you're kind

to people, You'll go to heaven.

So it's not in the Bible.

You know why it's not in the Bible because those

are works, and you can't work your way out of

hell and you can't work your way into heaven. That

was the purpose of Jesus coming to this earth to die.

It's the only work that God acknowledges. But somewhere along

the line, we just think that if I'm basically a

good person and I try to the best of my ability,

and I'm a veteran, and I give money away and.

Our stands ups for the causes of this world.

And I may not believe in Jesus, but I may

have this blender of eclectic beliefs of Mohammed and Allah

and Hadi Krishna and al Ron Hubbard and Jesus and Hinduism.

Then I'll make it in.

No heaven is paid by one person, the blood of

Jesus Christ. Do you know, whether you've studied or not.

Buddha never said he was God. He never said that

he was God. Do you know that Mohammed never said

he was God. Hadi Krishna never said he was God.

Al Ron Hubbard never said he was God. There's only

one person that said he's God. His name is Jesus.

He said, I'm the Way, the Truth. And this guy

is either the biggest phony on the earth or he

is who he said he is. Because he's the only

person with the empty grave.

That's more than enough.

Reason for me to accept him, believe in him, and

to follow him. If you're ready to make that decision,

I'll invite you. Or you want to rededicate your life

to the Lord. You once served the Lord and followed him,

but you've drifted away.

Then come back.

When I count to three, you raise your hand and

we'll pray for you. Be the best decision you've made.

One two, one, two three, wherever you are all across

this auditorium.

God love you, God bless you. Let's say this simple prayer.

Say, Dear Lord Jesus, you know who I am in

front of all these people. I acknowledge my need for you,

and I recognize that you alone can save me from

my sins, and you alone are the God of heaven.

And so today I ask you to be my Lord

and savior. Now give me the courage to follow you. Amen,

God bless you. Lissa, would you come and pray us

out and give us some final information?

Absolutely so.

Family, I saw a bunch of hands raised, and if

that was you tonight.

We want to give you some additional literature.

That way you can just be prepared for the decision

that you made tonight. So if you just follow the

screen and go to ww dot grow Dot Faith and

it will get you connected and plugged in. So just

a reminder, family, we will be in the courtyard tonight

and whether you want to serve and Patriot youth, or

maybe you want to serve in Patriot kids, or just

find out a little bit more information. You're gonna have

that opportunity. And also our missions team is gonna be out.

There as well, so we're gonna all leave together right now.

Heavenly Father, we just thank you so much for everything

you've done. Father, Lord b thank you for the message

that went forth and landed in our hearts and planted seeds. Lord,

I pray that this would sustain us, Father God, and

that it would provoke us to.

Dig a little bit deeper. Father and Lord, we just

thank you.

I pray that you would cover and give them traveling

grace as they head home tonight.

In Jesus name, we pray

Amen, Amen, Family additional prayer, is it gonna be in

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