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  1. Adventist Radio London inspiration for the song.

  2. Hello and welcome to the weekly podcast of the Community

  3. prayse Center, Alexandria, Seventh day Adventist Church. We're glad you

  4. decided to join us today by downloading and listening to

  5. this week's featured message. We pray that you allow God

  6. to teach and inspire you while you listen. Delivering this

  7. week's message is Community Pray Center's Senior Pastor Henry Write.

  8. Let's pray our Father, Oh, do we want you to

  9. take away anything in us that rebels against our creator?

  10. And so into this worship we acknowledge your presence. We

  11. don't invite you because you are. You are our host.

  12. We're in your place. You were here when we arrived

  13. this morning. In our end we beg into our study

  14. of your word, at the words of our mouth and

  15. the meditations of our heart. May it might be acceptable

  16. unto thee O God in Jesus' name, Amen, for dealing

  17. with deeper relationships. I call it part three subtitle marriage

  18. the Mother of all Relationships. This is not a sermon

  19. on marriage. Thank you Silver, Thank you Great Blessing. This

  20. is not a sermon in ladies on marriage. And the

  21. way that you might think. Let me remind you of

  22. some things that I am concerned about. I'm concerned about

  23. our relationships with each other and God as a whole, okay,

  24. and then our quest for the deeper. We've talked about

  25. the deeper study of the word, deeper devotions, deeper prayer,

  26. deeper worship, all of that, deeper health, many things we've

  27. touched on. But the Lord has led me to spend

  28. some time with you. Six sermons, maybe eight, I can

  29. see ten deeper relationships. I never finish on this subject.

  30. And we've said because we're going there, because because most

  31. people are going to miss heaven over people. So I've

  32. not dreamed up these subjects to fill in space and time.

  33. Many of you sitting here right now are having difficult

  34. times with other human beings, and those difficulties are sapping

  35. you of spiritual wherewithal you're barely making it. The relationship

  36. is eating you up like a cancer. I'm not talking

  37. about boy, girl, man, woman stuff. I'm talking about just

  38. relationships with people getting along. If you're a man with

  39. a brother, with a boss, with a friend. Because we

  40. have said in our relationships we are me oriented. I

  41. deal with people, not based on their needs, but based

  42. on mine. Now, folk, that's just the truth of it.

  43. And you can sit here pious all you want. That's

  44. just a fact. You would be amazed how much better

  45. your relationships would go with anybody, spouse, friends, whatever, if

  46. you could get you out of the way. But in

  47. the relationship, you're battling for space for you, territory for you,

  48. rightness for you. We battle to win rather than to understand.

  49. And so we skew the simplest relationships because we're always

  50. measuring their success based on how I feel, totally ignoring

  51. the Christ example, who says in Romans five eight through Paul,

  52. Christ commends his love to us in that while we

  53. were yet centers, Christ died for us. That is, Christ

  54. took into account our need, not his, our posture, not his,

  55. our dilemma not his. And it's difficult for us to

  56. do that. And the reason it is is that there

  57. is a relationship called marriage, which God intended to be

  58. the mother of all relationships, and the stewing and twisting

  59. and distorting and maiming and crucifying and corrupting of that

  60. relationship has reduced brokenness everywhere. Many folks sitting here never

  61. knew their mother and father, and if they did, the

  62. relationship was sorry. And so what God wanted to do

  63. with marriage never happened for you. Or even in situations

  64. where the marriage appeared to be good, because the two

  65. people in it still are always stewed. Then there's still

  66. some twistedness says that God passed us. Not in the dictionary,

  67. don't look for it. There's still some twist listessays that

  68. got passed on to you. In some cases you don't

  69. even know, you're not even aware of it. And till

  70. you get into a relationship yourself and you realize how

  71. messed up you are, how am I doing so far?

  72. I'm doing good because it's truth. I'm speaking truth, the

  73. truth as it is in Jesus. So we scuffle, we're

  74. broken and rebruised. And what I will suggest you today

  75. without apology, is that correcting this disease in you will

  76. only come in the same degree as you find your

  77. relationship in him who produced the first relationship, the great

  78. fixer of all human messes. His name is Jesus. Giving

  79. in to him makes it easier for you to give

  80. into others. And this was the Jesus example was it not.

  81. Jesus came to this earth, and he taught us how

  82. to give in, because and and and and and there's

  83. no there's no, there's there's there there's no greater giving

  84. in than him. Because he who thought it not robbery

  85. to be in the face of God, made himself of

  86. no reputation, took on himself the form of man and

  87. that of a servant. Jesus showed us how to give in,

  88. how to keep your mouth shut, how to exercise strength

  89. and dignity, how to appear to lose and yet always win.

  90. Come on, somebody, we have to study Jesus. Before we

  91. do that, let's look at this thing called marriage. We've

  92. said that God is a relationship. Remember that father son,

  93. Holy Ghost. He's a relationship. And we've said that the

  94. relationship of God first John four and verse eight is

  95. based on love. So God is a relationship father son,

  96. Holy ghost. And the glue that holds the father son

  97. and Holy Ghost together is l ov What is that love? Love?

  98. And therefore them we want to say, we're made in

  99. God's image, so we are made also to love. God

  100. took his relationship father son, Holy ghosts and reproduced it

  101. in mankind, mother, father, children. The human trinity is an

  102. expression of the Holy Trinity, and the same love that

  103. binds them is to bind us, we learn. We studied that,

  104. and we went on to find out that therefore God's

  105. command to the human race is a twofold command based

  106. on love. He tells us in Matthew the twenty second

  107. chapter verses thirty seven to thirty nine, that we should

  108. love the Lord God, thy God without our hearts, sould

  109. in mind, and our neighbor, how as thyself, which suggests

  110. that people who cannot love other people have not learned

  111. to love themselves. We call it low self esteem. People

  112. with low self esteem can't love anybody because a person

  113. with low self esteem is always thinking about themselves. And

  114. you can't love other people while you're concentrating on yourself.

  115. Did you fall all of that? This law of love

  116. allows us to relate to other people, to relate in

  117. such a way that love actually gets in front of

  118. our own self preservation. Go to Matthew five thirty eight

  119. through forty eight. I just made a very important statement.

  120. I don't think you got it. True love allows you

  121. to get ahead of your own self preservation. Our join

  122. a true love keeps you from looking out for yourself first,

  123. and Jesus was trying to gently teach this in Matthew five,

  124. starting in verse thirty eight, where he says, finishing his

  125. sermonal amount or moving into section two of his sermonal

  126. the amount, he says, you have heard that it had

  127. been sent an eye for an eye, a tooth for

  128. a tooth. That is the that is the human rule.

  129. You get me. I get you, But I said too

  130. you verse thirty nine that ye resist not evil. Do

  131. what are you reading that? Do you understand what that means?

  132. That means don't be so quick to rear up when

  133. it looks like somebody is taking advantage of you. That's

  134. what that text are saying, resist not evil. Don't be

  135. so quick to get insulted, to get defensive. I'm glad

  136. that there is silence. We shouldn't say, amen, the stuff

  137. that we're not doing. Time for silence. We're not We're

  138. not doing this. It's time. Your silence was appropriate. But

  139. whosoever shall smite you on the right cheek turned to him.

  140. The others also, now we get tied up in the cheeks.

  141. He's laying down a principle and The principle is don't

  142. be so quick to rear up. And it's a natural

  143. tendency in human beings. We read it there in the text.

  144. Sister Haines read it. Boy, she got the most out

  145. of the word woman, didn't you when you read that text. See,

  146. I didn't know that that was gonna read the text.

  147. I just laid it on her back there in the

  148. back room, and sister war of word woman out she

  149. got the most. Almost maybe want to change my sermon,

  150. but she read it, didn't she So about rearing up?

  151. Rearing up adam us on the spotties, on the spotties

  152. buck naked. He's got a little apron on ondies and

  153. standing before God, and God is asking him, what in

  154. the world did you do? How did you get naked?

  155. And who told you you were naked? You ain't that tree?

  156. Didn't you? He's on the defense. What does he do?

  157. He raars up the woman. Now he rais up in God.

  158. He raise up a god, the woman that you gave me.

  159. I didn't put me to sleep. I didn't mess with

  160. no ribs. You did that. Now I'm purposely making you

  161. smile because you need to see the serous side of this.

  162. See how quick sin moved us to self preservation. That's

  163. my point, Baker, you cannot have a successful relationship with

  164. anyone if your first goal is self preservation. How do

  165. I look? How am I going to come out? What's

  166. the results for me? Remember the subtitle of these sermons

  167. is me, Myself and Them. So here he is standing

  168. there and Jesus is saying, but whosoever just might know

  169. to turn the other side Verse forty. If any man

  170. will soothe at the law and take away thy coat,

  171. let him have that cloak. Also, don't get hung up

  172. on clothes. Here he's laying down a principle. He's actually saying,

  173. watch it now, and I'm not preaching to you, I'm

  174. preaching to us. He's actually saying, in that human crisis,

  175. if somebody appears to take advantage of you, let it

  176. happen for the sake of being a Christian. Now, Missy,

  177. that's not us. No, we don't do that, Oh no, no,

  178. no no. We want them to know. At even even

  179. even if we let them get over, we go tell

  180. them I know you getting over.

  181. Now.

  182. Don't you think I don't know you know? Don't you

  183. think for one minute I don't know you taken advantage

  184. of me. Is that the way we are, come on somebody,

  185. that's the way we are. It's hard to reduce ourselves.

  186. The purpose of the marriage relationship was to teach these

  187. principles to the human race, and then children in the

  188. context of this relationship, growing up, breathing in the ambiance

  189. of practiced love with then as the next generation, receive

  190. and then practice, and then pass on, receive and then practice,

  191. and then pass on to you with me Church. The

  192. worst that was the cycle of God plan. The ingenious Satan,

  193. who was never able to crack the love relationship of

  194. the divine three, said I will crack the love relationship

  195. of the created three, and in that way indirectly bring

  196. pain to the creating three. Jesus said, I'll have none

  197. of it. I will become them and show you that

  198. in human flesh love can still reign. Somebody else to say, man,

  199. but but Satan was a genius of this, and so

  200. the rest of it goes on. So there we are, there,

  201. we are, there we are. And a sermon two weeks ago,

  202. well it's been three four weeks ago. Now we laid

  203. down these points. We are to bring Genesis one twenty six.

  204. Our relationship with God into our relationship with each other.

  205. That's the basis of marriage. Genesis one twenty seven. We're

  206. to bring who we are to the relationship. That is,

  207. we're to be who we really are. There's nothing worse

  208. in marriage than pretense. Let's be who you are. What

  209. we've got to learn is to be who we are

  210. in the courtship. So all this princing and dancing and

  211. problem are out and around in the courtship trying to

  212. impress somebody that ain't you opening doors and sending flowers.

  213. So many ain't you? You're raising expectations. Go on now, brother,

  214. you can't keep you stingy. Be stingy in the courtship.

  215. Then you can see so you can see you're stingy.

  216. Then if your marriage you stenjie, she can't complain. He

  217. didn't do nothing when he courted me. He can't do nothing.

  218. Now I'm preaching the gospel, Donna, good to see you

  219. preaching God's words. So be who you are. Genesis one

  220. twenty seven, one twenty eight, Cooperate, be fruitful, and multiply

  221. to eighteen complete one another and Genesis two twenty four

  222. and twenty five seek for unity and vulnerability. Okay, this

  223. was the ideal. Now now now, now when we started

  224. the book of Genesis, we we we we get this

  225. feel for what God had in mind. But I'm gonna

  226. go back to Genesis two twenty four and twenty five,

  227. and you're gonna go there with me. And please understand, Sherry,

  228. that I understand as I preach this, that most of us, yeay,

  229. I would say all of us, none of us, even

  230. those of us who grew up in a home jamal

  231. where there was mother and father, none of us saw

  232. as we grew up ideal love. Is that a fair statement.

  233. Now we may have seen something that was pretty close

  234. to it. Most of us are just glad we can

  235. you know, a lot of us are just glad that

  236. we can brag our parents stayed together. That's an accomplishment.

  237. Hickey's on their head, you know, but they stayed together.

  238. But for most people on this planet, we never saw

  239. love exhibited. So we come in and I'm taking time

  240. with this Regina so we can see. We can see

  241. very clearly glad to have Regina Barnes in church to dayia.

  242. It looks wonderful. So we can see the success that

  243. Satan has had. But also on this sermon today, I

  244. want to encourage you that as successful as he seems

  245. to be, God is a winner. But also the third

  246. thing I want to demonstrate in this sermon is that

  247. if you will get honest about how skewed you are

  248. and stop trying to put it on the other person,

  249. God can help you. As long as you're saying it's

  250. their fault. God can't do a thing with you. And

  251. before you better listen to me now, and before he

  252. will trust you with success, he must first see if

  253. you're willing to take low because he did. The servant

  254. is not greater than his massacre. Stop being drawn down

  255. to somebody else's level. They don't speak, so you ain't

  256. gonna speak now. We got two fools. You know. It's

  257. ridiculous folk, grown Christian people, and we've not allowed you know,

  258. I love you. We've not allowed the Christian faith to

  259. be triumphant in the human heart. God is waiting for

  260. his people to rise above the mundane. They don't speak.

  261. I speak. They're not nice. I'm nice. They won't call.

  262. I'll call, they won't say I'm sorry. I'll say I'm sorry. Hey,

  263. set yourself free in Jesus, stop being a slave to

  264. self and sin. So in this text, therefore shall a

  265. man leave his father and brother shall cleave and to

  266. his wife they shall be one flesh. They were both naked. Now,

  267. marriage is the first and oldest of human relationships. Do

  268. you agree there was a husband and wife before there

  269. was a mother and father. For there was a grandma

  270. and grandpa. For was a brother and sister. It's the mama.

  271. Marriage is the mama. So all relationships, do you like, Arama?

  272. All relationships start with marriage. Now you can see, therefore

  273. why the devil has worked Eric to mess up marriages,

  274. because even Sheryl, if it's not let's say, let's say

  275. let's say that there's a marriage, it's not going well,

  276. it's affecting those children. But then there are people who

  277. know about the marriage, so it's also affecting them. See,

  278. a bad marriage is a cancer in society because a

  279. lot of people can see. And of course what has

  280. happened now we've finally come to the point on planet

  281. Earth where a lot of folks don't believe in marriage

  282. at all. And the devil's just because he knew that

  283. that was God's foundation for human relationships. Children growing up

  284. and seeing mothers and fathers treat each other correctly, be nice,

  285. and even when they argue, settle it. Children seeing this,

  286. and they grew up saying, well, you know it's a challenge,

  287. but it can work. Now people are perfectly at peace.

  288. They don't marry, and they'll say with pride, I don't

  289. know a lot of folks to married. They ain't happy.

  290. Haven't you heard that? Some of you have thought it,

  291. and so we've excused ourselves into all kinds of twistedness.

  292. And so now you have Christian people who are very

  293. comfortable living together, unmarried, just us calm, talk about how

  294. much they love each other. And then you use world

  295. that we're committed. We're committed. Listen, when that brother goes

  296. down to the court, buys a license, makes you legally

  297. his so when he dies you'll get his stuff. That's commitment.

  298. Anything else is an arrangement. Commitment, it's putting your life

  299. and your stuff on the line. And see now that

  300. was not on page two, it's not on page three

  301. or page four. Now leave cleave. Now let's go through,

  302. go through quickly, leave the ability to make something else

  303. a priority. See leave mother and mother and father relationships.

  304. Let me keep hammering that own Glenn relation. A good

  305. relationship begins with being in a relationship with someone who's

  306. able to put you first before themselves. Leave, Leave your

  307. mother and father, leave, lead authorities, cleave. That's the commitment part.

  308. That's a commitment by the cementing one. Not uniminity. That uniminity.

  309. I have no faith in any couple tells me we

  310. always get along. Ye see your reaction doesn't make sense. Yeah,

  311. we've never we've never had an argument. What who are

  312. you married to? Yourself?

  313. Sho?

  314. Uniminity is not the key? Understanding is the what's the key? Okay,

  315. I gotta go through this fast. They did someplace else?

  316. Now now now now, and then the naked the vulnerability

  317. the key. The key to a successful relationship is wanting

  318. to be vulnerable. Unless you're willing to be hurt by

  319. the person you relate to, you don't have a relationship

  320. if you have to protect yourself from that person. And

  321. let me tell you them right now. If you ain't

  322. got the guts to get hurt, you don't have the

  323. gust to be in a relationship. Let me take it further.

  324. If you don't have the guts to get hurt. You

  325. have no business ever getting married. And that's why long

  326. before you get married, listen to me, that's why, long

  327. before you get married, Satan likes to batter you and

  328. beat you and pummel you. So you lose the courage

  329. to get hurt. Even in your relationship with Jesus, you

  330. cannot love him unless you're willing to get hurt. I

  331. read the Bible, whom the Lord loveth he chasing us,

  332. he hurts. You can't build a relationship with God without

  333. being willing to be hurt. Love, Rick choirs pain on

  334. planet Earth. That's why the Lord gave us the church

  335. gave us what church is full of what people? Your

  336. biggest problem. Church is for the people. And God intended,

  337. my dear brother, God intended let the church be his laboratory.

  338. So you sit there on this row of people. You

  339. don't know them, they don't know you. But here you're sitting.

  340. You get on buses with strangers, go on the store,

  341. go down to the downtown in DC, have to deal

  342. with people behind desks, strangers. I'm praying for strength and

  343. now not to pursue that. And so Rick, we have

  344. to have your patience, and God plants people all around

  345. and in the church. In the church, you see, see

  346. the Lord knows. The Lord knows that in the context

  347. surely of the church. The variety of folk know in

  348. the church, if you get along with the folk in

  349. the church, you're ready for heaven. Why because the church

  350. has everything in it, doesn't it. They don't look at anybody,

  351. just say a loud amen. All kinds of folks are in.

  352. This church, soft heart, calm, excited, mean nice in the church.

  353. They got baptized in the same pool you got baptized in.

  354. And they say, men to the same sermons you do.

  355. And they are in the church.

  356. And some of them are really really really bad saepe.

  357. And they're in the church. And God, in his great

  358. wisdom is the wise says, if you can cohabitate here

  359. in the church with all these various guys, and this

  360. that's why God brings He requires when you come in church,

  361. hug kiss, be nice, be sweet, bekind practice in the church.

  362. But I can't stand them, Lord, hug them, kiss them

  363. on Sabbath. I'm preparing you for heaven. But their cologne

  364. smells to high Heaven. Huged them in the church the

  365. breath always has garlic on it. Hug them, speak to them,

  366. shake hands like this in the church. Are you listening

  367. to your pastor sit on committees with them. They always

  368. got wild, crazy ideas. Love them in the church. If

  369. any man be in Christ, he's a new creature. Old

  370. things are passed away. To be quote these texts, we

  371. have no idea what we're saying can be cleaking up

  372. in the church, getting along with everybody, always inviting the

  373. same folk home, eat the same macaroni and cheese, Get

  374. somebody fresh in your house, walk up to somebody you

  375. don't know. I will say amen for you a amen. Now.

  376. That relationship, that relationship described in Genesis two, verses twenty three,

  377. twenty four, and twenty five, was a model of another relationship.

  378. One John five seven, First John five to seven. I'm

  379. not gonna finish the sermon today. I can see that

  380. right now. I'm not worried about it. You've already got

  381. enough truth. If I shut up right now, you got

  382. enough to go home and think about it. And I

  383. know that. Fir John five and verse seven. Look at this,

  384. Look at this, look at this, See for their what

  385. read everybody for their that do what Father, the word

  386. how it goes? And what about them there?

  387. What?

  388. Now? This is the same Greek word used from the oneness,

  389. the same Greek word that matches the Hebrew word in

  390. Genesis two and verse twenty twenty twenty four. It's the

  391. same oneness. See see. The oneness of the human family

  392. was to duplicate the oneness of the heavenly family, and

  393. then that unity was to influence of the relationships. Look

  394. at John seventeen. Look at John seventeen, John seventeen. See

  395. see look, look, look look verse twenty I pray THEE

  396. for these alone, but for them also, which they'll believe

  397. on me through their word, that they all may be

  398. what you see in verse twenty one, all may be

  399. what saying Greek word saying Greek word God, God, God,

  400. listen to me. God wants the weress of heaven to

  401. become the oneness of the marriage. And that same Greek

  402. word for one was to be the oneness of the Church.

  403. I'm not up. You're just beating my guns together talking

  404. about how we all to be one on the Church.

  405. That's Bible. And the thing that really really gets to

  406. me is when Jesus praised this prayer and John seventy

  407. for the church. He says nothing about Sabbath, nothing about law,

  408. nothing about dress, nothing about diet, nothing about time. He

  409. just prays that them folk in the church will get along.

  410. You have to practice it. You have to practice it, folks.

  411. This is not natural for us we come. We have

  412. all kinds of walls and insecurities and pretenses. God bring

  413. us the day when in the church we finally decide

  414. we don't have to pretend anymore. And then he goes

  415. on to say, look here, look at verse twenty three.

  416. I in them, thou in me, that they may be

  417. made perfect in what's the next word in that the

  418. world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast

  419. loved them, and as thou hast loved has loved them.

  420. In other words, if I can just get first the

  421. human family, mother and father to be the one. So

  422. they show the kids out to be one. And then

  423. these one folks come to the church with all the

  424. other one folks, all this oneness. Then when folks visit

  425. the church, that the world may know, that the world

  426. may know when the folks visit the church, visit CPC,

  427. they see all this one new They say there must

  428. be a God somewhere. We have never seen nothing like this.

  429. Watch how you act outre in the lobby of CPC.

  430. Where's that one spirit tuning off the arms of us

  431. just because they can't give you a seat standing in

  432. God's church? Baker, to go in God's house with me?

  433. Attitudes to worship the.

  434. Lord every Sabbath is a challenge to oneness.

  435. Now, the next thing I want to say is really

  436. going to disturb you, and I hope you can get

  437. over it. But it would be a wonderful thing if

  438. we came Sabbath after Sabbath and always sat in a

  439. different seat. Just think you might actually be able to

  440. worship without sitting next to people that you like. Wonder

  441. how that would feel. Now you're smiling, But folks, I'm serious.

  442. There's so many ways that we express our insecurities. Got

  443. to have my same seat in the church, up, sat

  444. up sack. People calling the pastor who are all them

  445. visitors sitting in my place? Pastor? You know, sometimes folk,

  446. I get some calls. I just say, Lord, I need

  447. your strength right now, because if I say what I'm thinking,

  448. I have to leave the ministry. If I come here

  449. to meet the lord who cares who I sit next to.

  450. Somebody say, man, Now, marriage was to teach us certain things.

  451. Are you with me? I'll do this and I'll close.

  452. We'll pick up next week. I'll be preaching for the

  453. morning service next weeks. We got to get up early

  454. if you want to get the rest of it. Sorry

  455. about that. No apology, No apology at all, good Ephesians. Ephesians,

  456. trying to get to something basic here, something basic here.

  457. Marriage was to do something. It's to be the mother

  458. of what all human relationships? All right, you got that part.

  459. All right, here's some things, baker. That marriage was to

  460. teach us. We were to transfer to all human relationships.

  461. Look at Ephesians five twenty one and twenty two. Ephesians

  462. five twenty one, twenty twos. Ready, what do you see there?

  463. Submitting yourselves how one to another in the fear of God?

  464. Starts there, starts there. Next verse says, wife, submit yourself

  465. to your own husbands. But the first verse twenty one

  466. kicks it all words. Relationships begin with mutual respect. What

  467. here's a question for you. Don't lie? Do you in

  468. general respect other human beings? Let me too quick, see

  469. some of us have formed the habit. In fact, we've

  470. given ourselves permission to downsize other people. We do it

  471. with a look. We make conclusions. See the way she's dressed.

  472. She ain't got no sense? Well, fun, we do this

  473. kind of stuff. Don't sit there a pious.

  474. Yeah.

  475. Successful relationships require a basic respect for another human being,

  476. their right to be, their right to exist, their right

  477. to function, their right to get in your way? Are

  478. you respectful to other human people? Just on a journal?

  479. Do you show people respect and regard? Not? Ready it?

  480. I love it? Thank God for Daryl who love that

  481. in my hand. Then then five twenty three you heard

  482. me say I was about to finish. So I mean

  483. I'm the one that said it five twenty three for

  484. the husband. Now watch this first? First respect? What's the

  485. first one we got to have? And I'm challenging you.

  486. Some of you answer too quick. Do you really respect

  487. of the human beings? I mean it is the way

  488. you treat people in general. Let's lift them. Do people

  489. feel better the way you talk to them, the way

  490. you look at them? Do you make people feel better?

  491. Do they leave you saying goodness? I'm serious, folk, and

  492. we have to start practicing. Where in the all right,

  493. five twenty three. Here it is for the husband is

  494. the head of the wife, even as Christ is the

  495. head of the church, and he is the savior of

  496. the body. Are you a person? Listen? Are you a

  497. person whose relationship with other people moves them to salvation?

  498. Goes back to the pastor's favorite question when they come

  499. trooping in my office, want to get married. Here's my fiance, Pastor, right,

  500. will you do counseling? I got one first question. If

  501. your eyes drop, ain't gonna be no counseling. Here's the question.

  502. Has this relationship brought you closer to Christ? And I

  503. want to see your eyes stay right in mind. If

  504. the relationship is not salvific, it is a waste of

  505. your time. Any relationship that does not send you to

  506. Heaven is sending you to hell. Relationships are to be

  507. salvation wise. That's why again, Denny and Esther, we have

  508. these relations with the church. As you relate to people,

  509. are you inspiring them to be saved? Or do you

  510. make them wish they had never come to this church?

  511. Marriage was to mother all this Ephesians five twenty five. Ooh,

  512. look at this. Look at this, husbands, your wives, even

  513. as Christ also loved the church and did what successful, profitable,

  514. meaningful human relationship says ought to be self sacrificing marriage.

  515. Who are sitting here today, who have children, Can your

  516. children testify that they have seen the spirit of self

  517. sacrifice between their mother and father, Dad giving way to mom,

  518. mom giving way to dad, Dad putting mom first, Mom

  519. putting dad first. Have they seen that sacrificing? And then people, people,

  520. people that you deal with. I was, so, it's a

  521. little thing, Daryl, But I was so proud of myself yesterday. Now, yeah,

  522. the brother, the problem I have with this traffic. The

  523. brother cut in front of me. Now, I drive an

  524. actor TL most people. I can go around when I

  525. feel like it. Yes, sir, I'll show you some gas

  526. tank and a heartbeat. But the Lord, the Lord, no, no, no, no,

  527. See I'm gross, said, I'm not just preaching you. I'm

  528. growing in Christ. See some of you all marching and mud,

  529. I'm growing in Christ. And so and so he cut

  530. in front of me, and and and I looked at

  531. what he was driving. I said. He said, turkey meat.

  532. Uh huh, some said, and then he had the nerve,

  533. had the nerve. Conte cut in front of me and

  534. then says, thanking me. It was I'm talking about self sacrifice.

  535. You're laughing. I'm talking about self sacrificed. And in that

  536. moment God gave me Victor. I said, Conrad. Human relationships

  537. that do not if Christ has not possessed you to

  538. the point that He moves you to give way to another,

  539. Christ does not own your heart. I gotta tell you

  540. like it is you give way? Do you know how

  541. to give way? Jens five twenty eight A Festians five

  542. twenty eight. For so men so ought men to love

  543. their wives as their Oh my goodness, he that loveth

  544. his wife. That's a very interesting text. First mutual respect,

  545. secondly love that says third sacrificial love eat Festians five

  546. twenty eight, selfless love. These are the things I didn't

  547. finish the sermon. These are the things. Go ahead, Darryl.

  548. These are the things that the marriage will pick up

  549. next week, next, next, next, next, next, Sabbath morning. These

  550. are the things that marriage was to teach us. Did

  551. you listen to your pastor today? Did you listen to

  552. your pastor today? I'm taking you somewhere. I'm taking you somewhere.

  553. How dare you leave this service today, going right on

  554. as if you didn't hear this. This is why most

  555. people will get married or not mature enough to get married.

  556. These principles take the mature Christian, but you lift your

  557. chin up. Pastor, I didn't know my mother and father.

  558. I had no example. I understand the pastor of my

  559. mother and father's marriage was a mess. I understand, Pastor,

  560. of the few marriages I know have taught me. I understand.

  561. That's why Christ came to this planet, lived in a

  562. home where his brothers and sisters didn't even like him,

  563. reach a Bible, grew up basically without his father, who

  564. married a woman half his age, and showed that even

  565. out of the mud, brokenness, a human being can be

  566. full of love. Somebody saying, man, get your chin up,

  567. calling on the ground, stop letting your past be your

  568. Swede driver. Reach out to Jesus Christ, ask for the

  569. courage to love, and then know He's gonna give you

  570. lots of chance to practice. Somebody say, practice, I don't

  571. give you lots of chance to practice. So my prayer

  572. for you, I appeal to you to ask this precious

  573. and wonderful Jesus to teach me. Teach me a love.

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