Pr Henry Wright - Deeper Relationships Pt 4

Adventist Radio London inspiration for the song. We have been

for some time now dealing with the theme deeper haven't

we deeper prayer, deeper devotion, deeper Bible study, deeper health,

And a few weeks ago we slipped into this business

of deeper relationships under the thesis that most people who

will miss heaven will miss it over people. Human relationships,

more than any other thing, mess us up. I'll say

amen for you, amen. People will mess you up. And

we've said over and over again because you can't escape them.

You can't escape people, even if they put you in jail.

There's people in jail. Can't I get a witness in

this place? Go to the hospitals for the people, isn't it?

And even if you're in the car by yourself driving

on the highway, all beside you driving cars are people. People.

So they are humankind's greatest problem. And most of us

have getting along with people issues, whether we admit it

or not. And anyone who quickly says Cliff, I have

no problem getting along with people, they are lying to

their teeth. You may not have a lot of problems,

but you have some problem with somebody. And so this

relationship part. We started by talking about God. We said

that God is a relationship, father son, Holy Spirit. And

I find Daria that is no accident that God presents

himself as a relationship. And then we immediately understand then

how we are created, Meshack, because as you have father, Son,

Holy Spirit, the Holy Trinity, we have man, woman, children,

the human trinity, don't we? And we went want to

say that this Holy Trinity is sealed together, Brother McCoy,

by love for God is finish it love. Therefore, we said,

Harold Sandford, that if we're created in God's image, Gabrielle,

then we're also created to be able to love. Satan

understood this, Keith, and so when he tempted mankind, brother

reed to disobey God. Immediately we found Jacob Conte fracturing

in the human relationship. We took you there last Sabbath

in the second service. We remember well that conversation between

Adam and Eve after sin, and basically Adam sells out Eve,

does he not? And the fracture. Listen, the fracturing of

humanity and their relationship took place right after sin. So

human relationships are complicated by the sin problem. By what

put it simple sentence. I like simple sentences. If we

did not have sin, we'd get along. Isn't that something

so obvious? Richard? Right after in front of you. If

we didn't have sin in us, we would get along.

So then the pastor's gotta keep calm before he gets

into his real stuff. So then, if you're having problems

getting along with people, is because you have a sin problem.

Oh y'all so good? Did you hear these people? Claud

I can just shut up and let them preach this thing.

They got it. If you're having trouble getting along with folks,

you have a sin problem. That's obviously they have one too.

But one of the principles we're stressing in these sermons

is that the only way you can be better Richard

Gordon Jr. In a relationship, you got to take care

of yourself. See, we're too busy trying to fix the

other person and the relationship. I wish somebody would say, man,

that's our problem. We don't want to fix us. And

as an experienced counselor, I know the times that people

come trooping into my office with problems, and I know

before they open their mouth the purpose is the one

has brought the other for me to get that other

one straight. They've not brought them to get them straight. Now,

they don't say that. In fact, they even Passley say

I know, no, I know I have some faults too.

Is if that's some great announcement that this is a

momentous confession. Yeah, I have pat faults too, pass I

want to say, yeah, that's news. The hard thing to

grasp I'm gonna have in a minute. It's a man induction.

The hard thing to grasp, hard thing to grasp is

how much fixing I need. Now, let's pray, Father, as

we speak to your word today, speak to our hearts

in Christ's name. Amen, I'm gonna focus today on just

one aspect of the human relationship. Ron talking talking now now, now, now,

you you may want to loosen yourself up by just

conscientiously and mentally admitting that you have mouth problems. Yeah,

that's all right, just's just say that, just just just reflect,

Yeah that would most of us have hoof and mouth disease,

mostly mouth, very little hoof. We say things that we

should not say. Come on, and worse than that, Griffith,

we say them in ways we should not have said them.

In fact, sometimes for most of us, from any of us,

the problem isn't what we say, it's how we listen

to your preaching with the pastor all precious you are

in my sight and the Lord is smiling now because

you confess your sentence. It's how I said it. And

of course the problemeric with words is once they're out there.

See if we could just think about that before we

crack our lips. Once they're out there, you cannot snatch

them back because God has created the human brain with

an ear that immediately connects to the mind, and then

those words are convolus into the brain, the cerebral cortex

lodged there and they cannot be forgotten. Now after twenty years,

you may have trouble recalling them, but they are there,

she said, He's saying, yeah, so words, words. I want

to talk about words, Richard for a little while. I

will has much to say about words. The human relationship

is to be bonded, developed, evolve through love through what

the two ways that we express love there are two ways,

only two ways, words and deeds. Words and deeds. The

only way I know somebody loves me is by their

words or their deeds, true or false. It's it. That's it.

Words and deeds. Some of us are better at deeds,

some of us are better at words. Some do pretty

good with both. But words and deeds are the ways

that we express our love, our relationship, our valuing, our intent,

our regard, our appreciation, our disfavor. Words and deeds. The

two reasons why I want to talk about this, first

because words really do mess us up. And secondly, Jermaine

and the Joya, what's concerning the pastor? We are now

rearing a generation that does not know how to talk.

They know how to text, come on you, and I'm

not sure that some of us have awakened to the

fact A Brothers just dwife that we have a situation

where where the generation we're rearing does not know how

to sit and have a face to face conversation. Is

the pastor telling the truth? So sore? There's a couple

of reasons here, Shiryl, Well, I need to deal with

this because we have an adult problem and we have

a generational problem. So that so that face to face

and think about it, think it, think about it. The

most profitable communication comes when two people can look each

other in the eye and express what's on their mind.

Isn't that true? Such conversations, when done correctly, can be

immensely fruitful and restorative and productive. That will be elementary

for a minute. Our two main physical tools for communication

are mind and mouth. What are they here? It is so?

What you got mine in my mouth? And mind and mouth?

Their main tools are mind and mouths. Main tools for

communication are mind and Mouths. Main communication tools for communication

are words words. This connects with this, and then we communicate,

whether it be French, Spanish, English, whatever, through words, words, words,

awesome things words words, but words of still being elementary,

you better listen to your pastor and then go back

and buy this and listen to it again. But words

are conveyed in a context that is both physical and emotional.

The emotional part of words out is at it. It's

not just me that we say things, but the attitude,

the ambiance. Do you recognize them when you say certain

things to people? Marry Bangura and you have a certain attitude.

That attitude is stronger than the words. In fact, your

attitude can totally distort the words. Are you at me

so far? Let me have to spend two sermons on this.

But I'm laying the groundwork mind mouth, and the mind

and mouth use. Words and words are conveyed through an

emotional ambience called attitude and then but it doesn't stop there.

We also convey our words through physical medium. See not

just attitude, but facial expression, Huh are you with me?

Tone of voice, huh, body language, and circumstances. See a

lot of times it ain't what you said, it's when

you said it. Some of us are terrible at timing. Yes, yes,

are you thinking with me? I'm gonna go back through

this again. The emotional ambiance of words is attitude, what

is it? But then the physical the physical context of

words is the facial expression frowning or smiling, the tone

of voice harsh or saul, the body language, and of

course the circumstances. And so because of these things I've

just listed, verbal communication between man and man and man

and God, but particularly between man and man is one

of the most powerful and influential things that we do.

And so my subject, do you know how to talk

like a Christian? Now let's break some of this down.

Let's break some of this down. It's interesting that language

and words is included in the Ten Commandments. Exodus twenty.

Use your bible Exodus twenty and verse sixteen. Are you

in Exodus twenty? Good? Because I was in Genesis twenty,

and that won't help us at all. Here we go

Exodus twenty, verse sixteen. Now let's read it together. We

know this commandment, but I want to think about it now.

In the context of this sermon, thou come on everybody,

verse sixteen, Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy

neighbor words and communication. And if you read Ellen White's

comments on this commandment in the book Patriarchs and Prophet,

you realize this is doing deal with way more than

just lying. It's dealing with Deborah Safford, how you convey

your words. Let me give me an example. Bear false witness.

If I love my wife and I convey to her

in words that are harsh in that moment, I'm lying

about my love. I'm gonna say it again. I will

say it again. If I love my wife and I

convey words to her that are harsh than in that

moment I'm lying to her about my love because my

love being harsh, but my mouth is. Wasn't that a

good sentence? I worked on it all nay, Yeah, because

I wanted you to get that. I wanted you to

get I wanted you to see that. The commandment is

walking all up in your stuff, morgan lying here. If

you convey words, you see. But the lies bigger than

that false witness. I'm a Christian, and Christians act like Jesus.

So if my mouth is not acting like Jesus, then

I'm lying about my relationship with Jesus. It's a deep

commandment to a bottomless well. This commandment. Are you listening

to your pastor so? This thing is serious. The commandment,

the law spoken by God, written with his own finger,

trumps up into my mouth and calls me a liar,

a false witness if my mouth does not convey my

real feelings, or misrepresents my feelings, or misrepresents my relationship

with Jesus Christ, let the church say, man, So we

start with the commandment, but then proverb and these I'm

laying down before you, now some some some kind of

general principles. Look at Proverbs seventeen twenty seven. And I

know now, when I be able to finish this sermon,

that's all right. God will forgive me, and in time

you will too. I'll come back to it proverb seventeen

twenty seven. I was amazed folk as I did my

research how much the Bible has to say about talking.

And the more I studied, I said, well, God considers

this to be a major problem. Probably seventeen twenty seven. Oh,

do you see this text you're reading with me? He

that hath knowledge spareth his words that the Hebrew says,

a wise person watches what he says. See some of

us who have a tendency to be motormouth just talk

aus me feel like it and brag on it. I say,

what's on my mind? That's your problem. You just announced

your problem. This is no time for bragging. What are

you boasting about? Because I just read a texta says

that the of wisdom watches their words. And the reason

why you can't just say it because you feel it

is because you have this commandment that says you may

be a false witness. But it's bigger than that. I

got more text voice, bigger than that. So let's just

pause now because we need to as we go through

this to knee, step by step, we need to reflect.

Am I a person who thinks before I speak? Am

I a person who feels I have the right to

say it because I'm grown. Because the subject of the

sermon is not do you know how to talk? That's

not the subject of my sermon. The subject is you

want to talk like a Christian as God would speak.

You see you see if if you can be hanging

on a cross with your hands nailed and your feet

impeled and say, Father, forgive them, come on, somebody. There's

a level of communication we must always aim for. Some

of us are getting there. Some of us have learned

to keep our tongue when we're upset. God bless you.

The world's a better place. The problem is you just

don't do it all the time. But some of us

are growing. Some of you are sitting here right now

as I'm preaching, with wounds in your soul because you're

thinking about stuff you said that, by the grace of God,

you wish had never left your mouth. Some of us

have broken relationships because there's things we said. And some

of us have terrible relationships on our jobs and with

family because we've never learned to think before we speak. Now, now, Churel,

that leaves me to another text, Oh, Colossians four to six,

you're rushing there Colossium's for six. And you should go

back and take mark these texts in your bible and

then read them in privacy, praying for God's grace to

possess your tongue. Colossians four. This is a marvelous text here,

Colossians four and verse six. Let your speech be all

the way with with what yes, seasoned with salt. I

love these Bible texts season with sault, that ye may

know how you ought to answer every man, hay Lord,

have mercy. What a goal leland to reach for. To

be a person who knows how to speak to everybody

as a pitiful amen. That's a worthy goal. After all,

ladies and gentlemen, have we not been called by God

as his witnesses in the last days? People who are

going to people who are going to witness for God

need to know how to talk. That's why, Sybil, you

weren't given your family your family, so you got them

two children. The conversations between you and Robbie are to

be examples to your children as to how to talk. Oh,

my Lord, see some of us learned improper talk from

the folk we grew up with. It's all right, say

a loud amen. They may be sitting here, but it's okay.

You may love your mother and father, but some of

us learn curse words from mom and dad. Some of

us learned angry tones from mom and dad. One of

the versions of this passage in Colossians reads, watch this,

watch this. Be gracious in your speech. This is the

message Bible as the thoughts for say, I love this,

this is great. Be gracious in your speech. The goal

of Peterson has all it. He works that Greek word.

The goal is to bring out the best in others

when you talk to them. Did you hear that? Tink

about it? Now? Think about it. Now you're talking to

your spouse. You're talking to your spouse, the person you

live with. Is what you're saying, going to bring the

best out in them? That was a proper response you

just gave m. That was a good response. You need

to be thinking about that, one brother. That wasn't an

a man's statement. That was a you know, sometimes the

Bible just goes back. That was a serious text of scripture.

Didn't Peterson work with that? In fact, I didn't finish it.

I didn't finish it. It got excited. I didn't finish it.

Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring

out the best in others when you talk to them,

not put them down, not cut them up. Who excuse me, Lord,

have mercy. Now you put that with the other text.

Think before you speak. You realize you can't. You can't

do Colossians for six unless you practice Proverbs seventeen twenty

seve it. You got to think quite because you cannot

afford for your words to rip somebody up just cause

you feel like him. Yeah, Wow, I don't mind nerves.

I'm gonna give me a peace of my mind. That's

why some of us have no mind. Left too many

pieces spread all over the place. That was a good statement. Wonder,

there's nothing left. Peace with the kids, peace with the wife,

peace with the husband, peace with you. Ain't got nothing left,

blithering idiot. Yeah that's something, isn't it. Yeah, So here

we are, and then of course, and then, of course,

and then of course beyond the family situation. God, and

I come right back to it in every sermon. I

keep coming back to it because some of us have

not learned yet heard that the church is the laboratory.

See the home, that is the acculturation, that is the training. Place.

But the laboratory to practice proper speech is with the

church members. How do you talk to your fellow church members?

And some of us don't have good reputations there, and

our attitives about it trouble me. Well they just have

to live with it. Well you keep that up. The

hobby wind up living in heaven without you. This thing

of speech is powerful, and of course everybody knows there's

the way in the world the preparassing in peace Discerm

without stepping on his own toast because we all have

faults here, some of us rassele more Keith, because we

have the melancholic temperament, the calaric temperament. Clarics just pop off.

Now they calm down, the pop off and then they

get over it. They give over it. Leave you bleeding

in this bleeding in the street. Now, what's your problem?

What's your problem? Yeah, they going on to Clark hen

because the Clark's not melancholics. Melancholics holds up and you

ain't gon mean, you be bleeding bent over and they're

going on, they whistling, what's your problem? Melancholic is holding it,

holding it, holding it. The sign wind just says stuff.

Didn't even think about the effect. They happy, figure everybody

else's happy. And the phlegmatic won't say what they need

to say until they're so pushed it comes out terrible. MM.

And the and the basis for it? What's the basis

for it? Sin? Our problem is a sin problem. Our

problem is a sin problem. Now, we talked about these tools.

We talked about these tools. Let me break it down.

The first tool we have is the mind. What is it?

Proverbs twenty three seven? Proverbs twenty three seven. We knowing

pretty good, I might be able to finish Proverbs twenty

three seven. And I'm not gonna rush this because this

is just two important folks, just too important, and I'm

praying for all of us to have victory. I want

CPC to be an exemplary church, wants to be exemplary Christ.

And we can do this. Don't, don't, don't. We can

do this. I know we're smiling. We can do this.

Proverbs twenty three seven. All right, we're gonna talk about

the mind. The mind is too now now watch this,

watch this because this text is very very very important.

Proverbs twenty three seven. You see it. I'm in the KJV.

Read with me for us he thinketh in his heart.

So is he? Pause here, we don't need the rest

of it. Pause there, your mind and the mind listen.

The mind is in the mind is an accinulation of

everything that you are up until the moment that you

open your mouth. The mind is daily, monthly, already being

influenced by all kinds of circumstantial stuff. The mind is

who you are. The mind is the sum total of

you up to this second. And the Bible says, as

the bye, as a person thinketh, that's who they are.

Another text you just says your thoughts betray you. So

what comes out here is the result of what's stored

up here. Dirty mouth, dirty mind, swearing mouth, swearing mind,

offensive mouth, offensive brain, unfeeling mouth, unfeeling mind. Are you

with me? Your words, the tone, the timing are all

telling on you. And let me be perfectly frank and serious. Now,

if you could measure what's your mouth is doing to

your reputation, some of us would shut up more because

your mouth is making you unpleasant to be around. Your

mouth is making you a poor witness for Jesus Christ,

and your mouth may be slaying those closest to you.

As a man thinketh, so is he. Proverbs four twenty

three keep thy heart with all diligence, And the word heart,

and the Old Testament is the word for mind. So

let's read about the word mind in there. Come on,

keep thy mind, everybody again, keep thy mind with all diligence,

for finish it out of it are the issues of

life here. You are constantly bombarded, constantly bombarded, constantly bombarded.

And as a result of things we've been through, Glenn sometimes,

I mean even some of us have been sexually molested.

Some of us have grown up and without knowing our parents.

Some of us grown up with with the abusive people.

Some of us have some of us have grown up

in poverty and so forth, and so so we have

grown up with issues with issues. This is why when

people come to me who've been courting, and you come

to me too soon, you ain't heard enough issues out

of that person's mouth, only knowing I have only known

each other three four months, and you're ready to get married.

You want to You want to hang around a bit

longer and get all the issues here, the misues, the

issues up here. You know, anybody can act right for

three or four months. You want to catch them in

all kind of situations, so that the issues focus bad

defined issues. After you say I do, get them issues out,

get all them issues squeezed out, let them catch you

on a bad day, and let you catch them on

a bad day, and then see what issues arise. I'm

going to make in sense to you because the Bible says,

out of the mind come the issues, the issues, the issues.

So we have to be careful about this because this

influence is this. And so then Jesus understood this. Jesus

understood this. Go to mark. Jesus understood this. Mark one

to twenty three. Jesus understood this. So here's what Jesus said. Man,

this is a mess. This text is a popper, Jesus said.

Jesus said, starting in verse twenty one of March seven,

for from within, out of the heart, what works you

Go there, let's read it with mine. Come on, For

from within, out of the mind of men precede what

evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, coveteousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness,

and evil eye blasphe me, pride, foolishness. All these, all

these evil things come from within and defile the man.

Those are the issues that need to be sniffed out

before you say I do. And so let's put it

in a simple sentence of brother McCoy. The problem with

the mouth is not here, right, it's here, it's here.

The problem with the mouth is in your mind. I'm

not gonna try to finish a folk. Listen to your

pastor just just just just listen to me. Let me,

let me, let let me love you with my words.

Every time you open your mouth, you have an opportunity.

Every time you open your mouth, you have an opportunity.

Every time you speak a word, you have an opportunity.

Next sentence, The opportunity cannot be shaped by the other person.

The opportunity must be shaped by your relationship with Jesus.

Do you know how to talk like a Christian? And

the day is far spent, It's over, It's long past over.

The time has passed by when the members of God's

church can make as their excuse for a faulty mouth

the actions and words of somebody else. A Paul is

bragging now, but not on himself. I I'm in Philippians,

for I can do all things through Christ, who gives

me strengths. There's no greater victory here, the preacher, There's

no greater victory in a moment, Tanya, when you would

cut loose, when your mouth would be a fault. No

greater victory then when you just pop button it off.

Just hold it. You talk about a moment of victory.

Just hold it and then lashing out at you. Just

hold it. They're saying stuff, you know, Then just hold

that and feel the sirge of the holy ghost inside

of you, that same holy ghost that rested on Jesus.

The Bible tells me, though he tread the wine press alone,

and though that he opened up, how do you do

that when you're God? Because he knows his words can destroy,

He better hold his mouth. He better not say what

if feeding hands will wither and Roman guards will disappear.

He had to hold it. He said. No, I'm gonna

give Henry munroll right the same power if he as

for it. If he stops giving himself permission and making

excuses for his sorry self. They made me mad. If

you that week you ought to stay in bed all day, Wow,

nobody can make you anything. Stop using that flame excuse

for un Christian conduct. Be a man, be a woman,

straightened up and take responsibility for your mouth. Wow, I

don't care if you had a rough week all week.

Don't walk in CPC thinking we all got to pay

for it. Keep yourself under him. That is your savior.

And you'll find as you climb these little mount embrass

as you climb these molehills, you'll find as you as you,

as you're creating your as you're creating yourself. Keith and avenue,

an avenue where the spirit can work and give you victory.

And you start enjoying, You start enjoying it, you start

you walk away, smarty hot didn't get me, didn't get me,

didn't get me. Can you imagine him standing there, and

the and the and the and the soldiers of hair

and are spitting in his face. Ellen White says he

never answered hair in a word. He better not half,

He better not have such insults to the King of

kings and lord of war. If he had cracked his lips,

Herod would have withered right there. Some of you have

cracked your lips, and people you love have withered and died.

Loving them has died. They don't tell you, but you've

wounded them. So bad. They can hardly stand it. How

dare you think you have the right to do that?

Cost you upset? Stop dumping your sorry pain on other people.

Be mad enough, woman enough to bear your own pain.

How dare you make somebody in your home suffer because

you got an attitude? Take your burden to the Lord,

leave it there, leave your spouse alone, set your children free.

I'm not gonna respond to that. I'm gonna leave that alone. Daryl,

Why don't you play something on them keys? He's praying

the song. Have thine own way, Lord, have thine own way.

Thou art the partner. Finish it with me? I am

to Clay. Isn't that sweet? My mouth? Folk? I love

you so much. I'm trying to move us to another

level this year, Pastor determined. I'm pouring my heart out

before the Lord and before I preest these sermons. I'm saying, Lord,

I want a pastor a bunch of Christian people. I've

been at this thing for forty six years. I want

to pastor Christians people. Christianity is no longer in the

sabast New quarterly people. Christianity is not in case. They

listen to him, saying queeple who's Christianity is written all

in their cerebral cortex. It pours up, it pours up.

They can't hold it in. I want a pastor church

like that. I know we're able, and you need a

pastor like that. So you got to pray for me.

It's bar heads. I'll finish this in a couple of weeks. Father,

it's a lot to take on, anything about it. Jesus

is I've prepared the sermon. You kept telling me this

is so simple. Why does that have to be breached?

But it does. It's so obvious. But the problem is, Lord,

we talk all the time. We talk so much that

we don't give thought to the fact that we're doing

something powerful, awesome, either destructive or productive. So we must

begin this prayer by saying that the words of my

mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in

thy sight, O Lord, my Strength, my Redeemer. Let's say

it again together, folks. Let the words of my mouth

and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight,

Oh Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer. That is our prayer,

that is our testimony. Now you want the Lord to

look down upon you. Now you want the Lord to

look down upon you and to help you. If that's

the case, like me, right now, you're raising your hand

toward heaven. You're raising your hand toward heaven. You're raising

your hand toward heaven. And now your challenge, your heads

are bowed, your eyes or close, your challenge for the

incoming week. I don't know how you did this past

week with the assignment, but your challenge for this coming week.

If I can't say it right, I won't say it

at all. If I can't say it right, remember body language,

Remember facial expression, Remember tone of voice. That's an ambiance,

remember attitude. If I can't say it right, I won't

say it. I don't say that with me. If I

can't say it right, I won't say it at all.

My appeal now, if there is some soul here today

but offered Jesus the gift of their life, you want

him to have his way in you today. You've been

thinking about becoming a part of CPC, maybe coming forward

from Bible studies, maybe simply to transfer your membership. You'd

like to do that right now, Just slip from your seat,

come forward at this moment you're here. Somebody will do that.

Where the pastor finishes his prayer. Just come, Lord God,

you've spoken to us today a strong word. It's a

strong word that has come from your book. We will

not be able to do this without your help. We

are beset with sin and self. We will need your help.

You will need your help to get to the sabbath

and keep quiet. If we can't say it right to

get started today, we will need your help. Bless us

to that end in Jesus' name. And the people said,

was this a benefit to you? Serious stuff, isn't it?

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