Pr Henry Wright- Deeper Relationships Pt 5

Adventist Radio London.

Inspiration for the song should be finished with Leviticus, all

the laws and statutes and commandments, sacrifices, How did you do?

Did you cheat? Just skip over some of it? Well,

numbers will have a few begats for you, but more

narrative now will come in. So I pray that you're

being faithful. We're just now a couple of months, maybe

two and a half months from the Revelations Seminar October

fourteenth through November the twenty third, So start inviting people,

getting them lined up. We'll open up on that Sunday night,

the fourteenth, and then Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday for the

next five weeks. Right in the fellow Paul looking forward

to that experience together On the twenty fifth of August,

when did I say I want to meet with all

of our mothers who are nursing babies. We have not

been treating you right, and we know that, and your

place where you usually have been able to come has

been adjusted, and we're about to make some final decisions

and we need the input of our mothers who are nursing.

But let me say this to the rest of us.

If you walk into a room where mothers are nursing,

and you're not a nursing mother. Get out of the room. Suddenly.

It's an uncomfortable moment, and we're trying to provide. But

I want to have a discussion with the nursing mothers

on the twenty fifth, and then today after service, I'm

meeting with our deacons, very important meeting. Pray that the

deacons will stay by James the first chapter and verse nineteen.

Our subject today, Deeper Relationships, Part five. The focus listening

like a Christian. What did I say? We dealt with

talking like a Christian. Now we'll deal with listening like

a Christian James one and verse nineteen. The Elder reddit.

But I want us to read it again together James

one nineteen. Will you join me? Wherefore, my beloved, I

need more people reading again? Wherefore my love it? Let

every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow

to wrath. Now note the order hearing comes before speaking,

and let me try that again. Hearing proceeds speaking, or

as you will learn shortly, the word here in the

Bible is ready, the word for listen. We'll get that

in a minute. But before you talk, before you open

your mouth. You need to open your ears. You're not

getting it yet, but it's it's going to sink in

because if you can get this principle, your ability to

communicate will go up one hundredfold. The weakest part of

human communication, Thomas Moon, is not talking, but listening. Many

a controversy, misunderstanding, ya argument between two people would not

occur if somebody had really listened to what was being said.

I'm gonna have to help you, amen, Amen. So that's

the focus team today. We're gonna look at that. We

gotta wrestle with that because because Mike, we're missing something

here and this wonderful gift David Harrison we have to

communicate is being crippled and corrupted and limited and compromised

because a big half of it is not being practice.

Shut up and listen for once. Let's pray Lord help

us now. Amen. I want to begin. I want to

begin with a statement that I've found for you in

the book Jesus Calling. I want to read this together.

Read this together now. If you're familiar with the book

Jesus Calling, this very popular devotional book. I'm reading it

through for the third year. It's written as if Jesus

is talking to you. Let's read together. Watch your words diligently.

Words have such power to bless or to womb. Would

you agree with that? Yes, we all agree with that.

Read On. When you speak carelessly or negatively, you damage

others as well as yourself. Hope those downstairs are reading

with us. Keep going. This ability to verbalize is an

awesome privilege. What kind of a privilegeome some privilege? Read On?

Granted only to those human beings can talk, not grunt,

not growl, not crow, not chirp. We talk. Awesome, Awesome,

we talk. Reading On, Reading On, you need help in

wielding this mighty power responsibly read. Though the world applauds

quick ridted retorts, my instructions about communication are quite different.

Let's read. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and

slow to become angry. And she, in writing her book

rightly translates the word here into listen and to listen,

be quick to do what and not quick to talk?

Quick to listen? Are you quick to listen or quick

to talk? And when someone is quick to talk, do

you pause to listen or are you quick to talk?

Right back? Pause for a moment and confess your sense.

Let's continue reading this marvelous statement here, it's almost done. Ah,

ask come on, ask my Spirit to help. Whenever you speak.

I have trained you to pray help me Holy Spirit

before answering the phone. And you have seen the benefits

of this discipline. Simply apply the same discipline to communicating

with people around you. If they are silent, pray before

speaking to them. Pause, pause, no, mo, you know absorb that.

Do what read on? If you are talking, pray before responding.

These are split second prayers. Now on, the conversation is

getting heated and your mindsets help me, Lord, Now some

of you've done that. You just didn't obey what you prayed,

and you've done it. They get into you. You feel

your temperatuizing. How many of you know what I'm talking about?

And you're not sure how the next word's gonna come out,

and you say, Heaven help me. It would be good

if having prayed that prayer, you would just not speak

and ask yourself have you heard what was said? Let's

finish up. Now, let's finish up. These are split second prayers,

but they put you in touch with My presence as

positive speech patterns replace your negative ones. The increase in

your joy. I don't know how you are, but negative

conversations really wear me out. I know you mean, I

mean you may hang in there tough and and you know,

give tit for tat, but when it's over, you've lost

something of yourselves. Well, I read this statement last August third,

this past Friday, just before I got on the plane

to fly to Florida to preach in Fort Laudaville, Florida.

The Lord has a way of preparing me for the

sermons I'm going to preach. We were late leaving, got

on the plane Harold Sandford and the I let announced

that the reason why we were late because the equipment

needed repair. There was a break problem and they had

fixed the brake. Well, I fly so much, I don't

really pay a lot of tension and stuff like that.

And I assume my usual position in the aisle seat,

eyes closed to sleep all the way to Fort Lauderdale.

Next to me is a brother, and I found out

later his wife. The plane is powering up. I hope

the mechanic wasn't sick when he worked on the plane.

Then he he says, he's looking at me now, right

in my face. You wonder you think they checked all

the parts of the plane except even the break. I said,

with ice in my voice. The mechanics are professionally trained

by Southwest Airlines, and I'm sure the plane is thoroughly checked.

Then he says, but now I've named him Mel for

melancholic Mel. He says, you know Southwest Airlines planes. I've

had some problems recently. He looked me right in the eye.

You hear about the one where the hole came in

the roofs. His companion leaned forward. She said, he's never

flown before, listening like a Christian, And I leaned forward.

She said that when he's nervous, he talks listening like

a Christian. The pastor failed. The white listened and then,

trying to salvage some form of Christian demeanor, I said, now,

my brother, I have flown so and so and so on,

so many miles, and so forth and so on. It's

the safest manner of transportation. Black lives, so forth, and

so on. My whole tone is changed, and so forth.

He looked at me, he said, thank you. And of course,

then I did you really listen to that story? Did

you really listen to that story? You see it's the moon.

I latched onto words, his wife latched onto him. Now

we have learned in our trek in relationships that God

is a relationship. You did that well this morning, Carlson

went back to what I really appreciated God's relationship. We're

made in this image. Therefore we're made to relate. Remember

that we've gone through all that God's relationship is held

together by love, and therefore our relationships must be held together, Paula,

by love. All right, we got that, And then we

learned even further in the Book of Matthew the fifth

chapter that even Scott, when we have unideal relationships Tracy,

God still expects us to respond in love. Remember the

person asked for one code, what give them to walk

with me one mile? Do what walk two miles? And

then it goes on to say, you know, be kind

to those that despite for the usual. So God is

concerned that we be able to relate no matter what.

Then we learned in our first sermon about communication that

we have been given by God two things with which

we must communicate. Mind and mouth. What did I say?

And the main tool of the mind and mouth are words? What?

And that words are conveyed in context, both physical and emotional.

The emotional is attitude, the physical and facial expression, tone

of voice, body language, and circumstances. All we could learn

all if we could learn to listen to each other,

not just to words, but to the person. But I

would suggest to you, sister Saturday, before we get into

the sermon, listen to me, that listening takes a selflessness,

that talking does not require. See, when you're talking to someone,

then your mind is on what you want to convey.

Is that not correct? So talking, in a sense is

more self centered, Carlson. But to listen to a person,

not only must you close your mouth, you must stop

your mind from running. Is anybody listening to me now?

Because this is very important to listen, you must stop

your mind from running and open yourself to the other

person's words. But not just the words, the context of

the words, the facial expression, the tone of voice. You See,

if I had really looked at my brother mel by

the way I found out the name was Melvin, if

I'd looked at me, if I'd looked into the face

of Melvin the melancholic, I would have realized that there

was something there beyond just eye contact. He was trying

to gain from me some assurance that it's gonna be

all right. Now, think herb about the fact that we

have been given the responsibility as God's people, Conrad, Now, listen, folks,

this is a serious sermon. We've been given the responsibility

of as God's people to be the last day warning

voice to the world. Are you listening to me? We

are to speak the truth in love. We are to

present to them the cold hard facts of the last

days and the promise of God soon to coming, soon coming.

So with that kind of responsibility, if there's any group

of people who ought to be good talkers but also

good listeners, it's the people of God's remnant Church. And

we must be able to listen Arland, not just to

the words. We must hear the pain in our society,

the hurt in our society, the hunger in our society.

But mother than that, we must be able to hear

that in one another. So when she says, what are

you doing coming here so late? And the tone is

not right, can you hear the anxiety that her husband

be safe? Or do you rare up because you're a

grown man and nobody should be telling you when you

ought to be coming in the house. I'm serious, folk.

Listening requires selflessness. Listening requires taking yourself off the front page.

I will submit you today. That's the weakest part of

human community is listening. I will be further suggest that

many conversations fail not because of what is said, but

because of what is heard and understood. There is a

sense in which the word listen and the word understand

are synonyms in the Bible. It's interesting that the word

listen itself only appears in the Bible one time, but

the word here appears thousands of time. Listen to some

of the texts Isaiah six ' ten Isaiah six ' ten,

so you can pick up this idea of here is

listen and understand Isaiah six and verse ten. These are

some marvelous texts that I'll have to rush through them.

Isaiah six and verse ten. Make the heart of this

people fat, and make their ears heavy, and shut their

eyes lest they see with their eyes and hear with

their ears, and do what and understand? You see that

the hearing and understanding are used aster changeably with their

heart and convert and be healed. So Celia in the Bible,

Listen in the Bible, and don't you don't listen well

unless you understand. Well, you've heard me say it. I

say this all the time when I'm doing premalal counseling

for couples. The goal of marriage is not to always agree,

But the goal of marriage requires that you understand. Even

if you disagree with the person, you need to understand.

But the reason why we can't settle for understanding. We

spend too much time trying to win. We want to win.

Here's another text. There's another text, Jeremiah five twenty one.

Jeremiah five twenty one, and again, I can't wait here

now this old foolish people, and without understanding? Which have

eyes and see not? Which have ears and hear not?

That's a very favorite phrase in the Bible, having ears

and do what. Obviously, the word here has got a

different meaning than just being able to pick up sound.

You have ears. The Bible is saying, but you don't understand,

How good at you? How good are you at understanding

another human being? You see? To understand someone takes patience.

You can't rush into understanding someone. I'll say amen for you,

No amen, you just can't. You just can't. Understanding takes time. See,

that's why a lot of folks, you know, really, they

get married too soon. You haven't been listening enough. Listen

for a while, minimum of a year. Listen for a year,

Listen for a year. Listen, listen. I'm doing a lot

of kissing and hugging. Listen. Keep your hands to yourself

and listen, yes, because your mind gets all fussed up

if your hands are not to yourself. Everybody's quiet, So claude,

here I go, Amen. But listening requires time and patience.

Look at the Look at the we're in Jeremiah and

Jeremiah six and verse ten. To whom shall I speak

and give warning that they may hear behold their ear

is uncircumcised. Circumsition was cutting away what was not necessary.

Watch it now, And when you watch it now, when

you're listening, you gotta cut away with it's unnecessary. And

what's unecessary when you're listening is your own self, your

own feelings. I got an assignment for you this week,

but to practice listening one of the greatest, one of

the greatest victories for some of us sitting here, and

I just keep working on Folks calling and say they're trying,

but One of the greatest victories for many of us

sitting here is just the ability not to talk, just

don't say nothing, or to say only what's necessary, because

some of us are just rated ta ta ta ta

ti too quick, and it just wears people out. I

don't know about you, just wears people out there, wears

people out. And you're saying, you know, Inhale, do something,

but stop talking, stop parkingh eas it you twelve and

verse two, you go twelve and verse two, son of man,

thou dwellest in the midst of a rebellious house, which

have eyes to see, finish it? Finish it? Come on

and see not they have ears to hear and do

what That's a consistent and even Jesus himself picks it

up in Mark eight eighteen. So this concept of having

ears Lisa Edward and not being able to hear is

the Bible's way of saying, this stuff on the side

of your head has no use if what goes in

it does not convey into real understanding and listening. So

the word here in the Bible is very often described

used to describe the act of really listening. And then,

as we have seen in this brief textual evidence. The

concept of listening is attached to the capacity to understand.

Do you listen like a Christian? See the issue for

today's sermon. As we talk about deeper ready relationships with

God and with man? Is are you a person who

is growing in your ability to listen? Yes? And does

that ability include the goal of understanding, though not always

agreeing with another person? How are you doing? One of

the issues that constily arises with the pastor when I'm

doing marital counseling or premarital counseling, is the issue of listening.

Women often complain about this more than men. But my

experience is, though women give themselves credit for being listeners

than men, better listeners than men, women tend to be

selective listeners. You give yourself way too much credit hearing

what they want to hear, and not always what's being

conveyed by the man with whom they have the relationship. Brethren,

could we say amen? Now, this has to do in

some cases with the general difference in the wiring of

male and female brains. For instance, and put my picture

up here, let's go back through some things. We know

that the human brain has two main hemispheres, two main

what and they are left and right? What are they?

They are left and right? Then those two hemispheres are

divided themselves into two sections called quadrants. What are they called?

And the upper quadrant, which we will see in this

picture is a The upper quadrant is the quadrant that prioritizes.

The follow me, The lower left quadrant organizes, the upper

right quadrant visualizes, and the lower right quad lower right

quadrant harmonizes. Basically, then the left quadrant is more cognitive,

the right, the right. The left hemisphere is more cognitive

and the right hemisphere is more emotional. In general, what

word did I phrase that I use? Say it again?

In general, most men operate out of the left, most

women out of the right. In general. Doesn't mean that

women don't listen cognitively. It doesn't mean that men can't

listen emotionally. But in most cases, men listen more for

the facts and the issues. The woman listens to it all.

She listens to the face and the eyes. Come on, ladies,

you know you do. And that's why you think you're

better listeners than us. You're just different listeners. And so

you have this clash of listening styles because when the

woman's telling something that happened to her. She's given a

lot of stuff that men consider to be fluff. How

she felt, and then she sighed, and she was trying

to think of what to say, and and and and

and then and then her eyes looked at me, and

and he's sitting there, and he's saying, if she would

just get to what happened, just just just tell me

what happened. In the meantime, say with me, I'm making

your smile purposely because I'm getting ready to get hurt

on you in the meantime, in the meantime when he's

coming with just that, that, that, that, And she's still

sitting there, she's trying to say, well, what really happened?

And she'll say it. She yes, you have the nerve

to say, well, I mean, what really happened. That's what

the reaction is. But I just told you what happened,

because he's going to do And then, of course then

she gets a little suspicious because she thinks he's leaving

stuff out purposely. How many of you all know I'm

telling the truth. Don't get your hands up. Yes, now

now now, now, now, now, now, now, now now now

now now now let's go back to our picture. Go

back to our picture. If you are in a upper

left and you're in you are you are you're you are,

you are a choleric, and so you tend to listen.

Those clerics are take charge, bossy that the the the

the the choleric wants to control the conversation, and so

they're only listening for those things that they can manage.

The lower left, the melancholic, they are listening. They listen

very impatiently. They're very facts oriented. Anything that's not facts

is a frustration or boring. The seguine, they listened for

all the thrills and thrills. Did the sunshine while you

were talking? Was the breeze blowing when you were coming?

Was the grass salt? You know? And of course, because

the opficit of the melancholic is just about ready to

eat his elbows off, he's just and then the the

the the phlegmatic, they listened more quietly. They listened more quietly,

and they think about the lesson. But melancholic, I'm the phlegmatic.

You can't tell whether they're listening at all. And so

with mel with the fleg matter, you're saying, did you

did you hear what I said. You want a reaction?

Are you fue so far? Now? Listen to your pastor.

My heart is full of love for you. I want

you to grow as Christians. We have to grow as Christians.

The only human being that ever lived on this planet

who listened perfectly with Jesus. He wants to come into your.

Heart and saw your ability to listen or not listen

as an announcement as to how much of Jesus possesses you.

That's the hard part, Carlson, that's the heart part. My

inability to listen to my wife and abilit you to

listen to my friend, my anabilitue to listen to the

man sitting next to me who's never flown before. And

I want to sleep that moment. Christ was not allowed

to control the pastor. My mind was on myself. I

worked hard all week, I was tired, I barely make

I got on that plane. I wanted to sleep, and

the brother's worried about whether the mechanics checked everything or not,

and frankly, I don't care. Totally missed his sphere, totally

missed his uncomfortableness, totally missed his need for a human

touch and concern Angie, I missed it. Why Henry Wright

was wrapped up in himself. And then the wife embarrassed,

she knew he was agitating the customer, the person on

the in road trying to make peace. A listener. She

knows her spouse well, so she's listening. He's never he's

never flown before, and when he's nervous, he starts talking.

The member speaks you on Sabbath, and their voice is agitated.

But in that moment, all you can think about is

that you don't have time. You came to church to

worship the Lord, came to church to praise Jesus Christ.

And a member speaks to you in an agitated manner,

and all you can think about is how you feel,

and you have no capacity at all to relate to

how they feel. And so then their irritating words are

responded by your more irritating words, and the situation escalates.

Are you listening to me? And Satan stands there quietly

and applauds one more failed communication, And then we go

further and judge the person. I named him mel for melancholy.

I'm a melanchola that takes a lot a nerd. I'm

a melancholic because when you're being self centered, you don't

see yourself the way you should, and you tend to

blame on the other person your failing. The fact is,

as a melancholic, my mind said, I hope they did

check it right, because that's how I think. And quite frankly,

when he talked about the hole through the roof and

Southwest it took place a few months ago. Every time

I get on Southwest, I think about that because I'm

a melancholic. But no now but watch me, watch me

or watch me. But now with mind on self, I'm

good at seeing somebody else's fault, but not my own.

Watch me, don't say men too quickly, because I'm talking

to you about you. Wester defines the word listen as

a conscious effort to hear, a conscious effort to hear.

Say it a conscious effort to hear, and then he

says it means to attend closely, to give heed, to

pay attention by listening. The definition of the dictionary is

full of challenge. Listening requires paying attention, mental effort, and

a willingness to give heed. That means be affected by

what you hear. Did you hear what I just said?

Real listening means that you, James, won't just hear me

and listen. You're going to be affected. I didn't say

agree affected. A real listener cannot ignore another person. A

Christian listener doesn't write somebody off. See one of the

problems with people who are signment, for instance, sign with

people don't like to hear negatives, nor do phlegmatics, and

so if they are something negative, they just write you out,

even though maybe something they need to hear. And the

thing about cholerics and melancholics, they're defensive. When they hear something.

They don't write it off. They won't take it off.

You tell me, I'm gonna tell you both reactions are

bad or you listened to me. See if you don't,

if you don't give, if you don't give your ears

to Jesus, you will fail because the self in you

is so strong, and let you give it to Jesus,

the self in you will send you to hell. There's

no access. Then over and over again, and Carol, I

was thinking about this as a developed this sermon over

and over again. At the end of every message to

the Seven Churches, Jesus says he that hath an ear

to hear. Come on, somebody, let him hear. Let him

listen to what to who to who? To what? The spirit?

The spirit, the spirit, that same spirit that Isaiah says

is a voice behind you saying this is the way

walk in it? Did you listen this week? Supposing we

dropped to our knees as a church family and said

about the grace of God, we're going to become the

Lord's best listening church, our attitude toward the community would change.

There's a lot of pain out there. Our attitude toward

our co workers would change. We got people that are

we work with that are hurting and they irritate us.

But the fact is we've never listened to what's behind it.

Sorril poinician woman, Sorril phinician woman comes, Master, Master, help me.

He tests her, He tests her. I don't deal so

many words with the dogs. She responds, But the dogs

even get crumbs. He responds, go thy way. Your daughter's

healed because Jesus didn't listen just to her words. He

listened to her need. His listening power is so great

that when a woman touched him and it's you went out,

He says, I I feel virtue leaving me Ellen White

says that all that she was was in that touch.

He heard her whole life. He hears so well when

you pray, he hears your whole story, lessens and responds

according to what he feels inside of you. What a

listener is, Jesus Christ, our Lord. In order to listen,

I'm almost done. In order to listen, you must be

able to follow Ephesians five and verse twenty one. That's

cool there, How should be listened? How should be listening?

That's the section of the storm I'm in now, Ephesians

five and verse twenty one. We love to skip over

this text, but here it is, brother Peters, I'm gonna

read it to you. Visions five twenty one. You see

it there at church. Here I am submitting doing what

say that word? Y'all? Mmm? Yourselves? How ah? We got

the rest of us? Sorry, one to another. See you

and your companion about to have a serious conversation, and

both of you, before the conversation begins, decide you will

submit to the other person, not win the argument, not

out dual verbally, or mate or your partner. But I'm

gonna submit. The minute you make that decision, you switch

the tenor the tenor of the conversation, you switch it.

Are you able to do that? Are you going to

the conversation looking for their weak points when I can

come in Because some of us are verbally sharp and

we're just waiting for the week moment, we can stick

the knife of our words at them and render them

helpless because we want them to submit. But I just

read a text and said do what one to another.

I love the genius of scripture. One thing about listening.

Listen to me now, one thing about listening. If David

and Simon are having a conversation and they know the

conversation may be not gonna go too well, both have

to make a decision in their mind. Here's the decision.

While you're talking, I'm not going to be thinking about

what I'm going to say. If you want to give

yourself a listening test next time you're in a conversation,

it's kind of difficult. Ask yourself. Was I really listening

or was I thinking about what I was going to say.

If you were thinking about what you were going to say,

you were not listening. I told you before. Let me

say it again, without apology, let me repeat myself without

a policy. Real listening requires emptying your mind of self

and your thoughts and absorbing the other person's. And this

is painful because sometimes the thoughts of the other person.

You don't want to hear their thoughts because some people's

thoughts are goofy and ridiculous. But remember, you're listening like

a you're listing like a I mean, you know there

are people that you talk to. They don't make they

don't make any sense, and nothing they say it makes

any sense. I mean, have you ever been in a

conversation where you're just praying, Lord, let let the roof fall,

let anything, let let let let let let a tragedy

come in right now, because I need to get out

of this converse. You've been there, coming on. I'n'na sit there, pious.

I want to get out of this conversation. Either let

me get sick or they get sick. Anything. And some

of you you're laughing, but some of you have said, Paul,

thank god you came up and got me. I just

I was trying to. I was trying to. Now you

know you've done this with folk in the church. Oh,

I'm so glad you came up and said something. Trying

to figure a way to get out of this conversation.

Mm M. Supposing listen to the pastor supposing the Lord

sent the person to you that day. I'm serious, folk,

I'm not trying to make you feel bad. See if

we if this, if this sermon doesn't work for us, really,

then why are we preaching it? Why are we sitting

here saying, Amen, supposing the Lord sent that nuisance person

to you that day? Cause I have to confess that

on the plane last Friday, that's exactly what happened. And

I failed the Lord, at least initially. I tried to recoup.

I ain't giving myself a lot of credit. And you see,

I'm sitting there now after this over, and I'm saying,

you are the dummy who's gonna preach a sermon next

Sabbath about listening. And you see shore that morning, I've

read my worship all this about, and I've read it. Amen.

Let me let me underline this. Amen, thank your Lord

for these words. It's counseling. See. Fuck, this thing is

got to get real. If it's not real to you,

we're playing games. Yeah, thank you, Lord underlined it. Lord said,

m M no, no, because he does the same thing

to you. So you've heard this sermon today, and he says, Amen,

pass this right. You watch this week. You watch this

week because for most of us saitting here, God is

not satisfied with our listening, having ears they hear not

Revelation one in verse three my final text. I don't

know where this sermon is help or not, but I

pray that it has blessed to see that readeth and

THEI that do what church and keep. Oh wait a minute,

did you did you see that elder here? Come and

do what? Ah ah? Proof of listening is a change

in behavior. It's the most important person to hear is

the Lord. But proof that I've listened to the Lord

is change in behavior. Can I get a witness? You see,

if you're in a love relationship eric with somebody and

they're talking to even stuff you don't want to hear,

and they're asking of you. You see, a lot of

us get involved in relationships. We many of us are

in relationships. We have no idea what a relationship costs.

A relationship costs you real relating costs you.

Some of you.

You cannot stay the same and be in a close relationship.

So the person's talking the person's sharing, the person has needs,

the person is hurting, the person's afraid, the person's not sure.

So where the person's in doubt, the person needs words

of assurance. And you're so wrapped up in yourself. You

know the main reason Audrey Levison, while the Lord one

of the main reason why Lord gave us marriage? Would

you teach us how to relate? And the most important

thing in a marriage is communication, I'll say, amen, amen.

And the most important part of the most important part

of communication is listening. So let me go out and

ask it to the marriage here. Don't raise no hands now,

don't raise no hands. The spouse maybe sitting next to you.

You know you're lying. Do you listen to your spouse?

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