A Father's Embrace: Overcoming the Orphan Spirit and Living in Freedom

Getting a revelation of your son's ship will cure one of your greatest hindrances.

And what is that great hindrance?

It's an orphan heart, an orphan spirit, and it's completely opposed to the heart of

a son.

We all have some elements of the orphan heart and my prayer is that on this Father's

day we would receive the love of the Father and be healed of any orphanhood that we've

accumulated.

Welcome to the CityLight Church Podcast, thanks for joining us today, as we look into

God's Word and discover the hope and truth that He has for us.

If you want to connect with CityLight Church, feel free to visit us at CityLightNYC.com

that's CityLightNYC.com.

Pastor Boyan Jansik and his team believe that the power of the Holy Spirit is already

working in our hearts and minds.

As you listen to today's teaching, remember that you are deeply loved by God, that you

are surrounded by His grace, and that He has a real hope and a future for you.

Are you ready to celebrate Father's Day at CityLight Church?

Let's begin in Galatians 4.

I'm going to read verses 1 through 5.

And we'll really be getting into Galatians.

I know I keep threatening that for weeks now, but I'm waiting, what is the way the Bible

phrase is in the fullness of time.

So in the fullness of time, I'm going to begin the series on Galatians until then there's

going to be this snippet, but it contains a verse that really is appropriate to the topic

today.

Here, the Apostle Paul is contrasting the law, which is a system whereby you endeavor to

be approved unto God through your own self-effort and your own works.

You can never do that, it always ends in failure, that's the system of the law.

The system of grace that we're under is one where already approved, we're already accepted,

not through our own self-effort, not through our own works, but through the finished work

of Jesus' cross.

And in the entirety of Galatians, he's trying to set these Galatians free that are mixing

the two covenants together.

And here he writes, now I say that in air, as long as he is a child, does not differ at

all from a slave, though he is master of all.

In this context, he was saying that under the law, we were like children, and when you're

a child, under the law, there's really no difference between you and a slave, but later

you grow up and you come into the new covenants and you're a free person.

But is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the Father, even so we,

when we were children, under the law, we were in bondage under the elements of the world.

But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth His Son.

What does fullness of time mean?

It just means that the appropriate time.

Born of a woman born under the law to redeem those who are under the law.

Why did all this happen?

And why did Jesus come?

Yes, to forgive us of our sins, to die as our substitute in place for us.

But why ultimately was that we might receive this beautiful and precious thing called

the adoption as sons, which was mind-blowing to people under a Roman mentality?

Because to have adoption, they understood it in that particular culture.

That when you received adoption, there was no difference, none at all, between you and

a natural born son.

You not only had the same legal rights, but you were considered completely co-equal with

a natural born heir.

And what Paul is saying here is you have received this precious thing called adoption.

And under adoption, biblical adoption, you have the same level of sonship as Jesus.

And God the Father looks at you and receives you, loves you, and accepts you just as He

does Jesus.

And even for modern day Christians, this can be something difficult to receive and to

understand, because we always want to just put Jesus a little ahead of us.

We almost feel like it's heretical to say we're on the same level.

But He paid a colossal price to give us these things.

So it's actually heretical not to receive them.

I'll often ask, who's more righteous, you are Jesus?

And then people who don't want to be heretical, Jesus?

No, the answer is you're the same.

He's given to you his righteousness.

Who's more of a son?

You are Jesus.

And ladies, just now it is okay for you to say I'm a son.

Hey man, we're dealing with spiritual new covenant things.

Just now, it's okay for me to say I'm a bride of Christ.

Hey man, sweetie, just loosen up your shoulders, just a little bit.

She always wants to make sure I don't go too far, but it's too late for that.

So I'm a bride of Christ.

Somebody's going to record this and take it out of context.

Whatever.

I'm a bride of Christ, your son of God.

And so you have been made to stand on equal footing as a son.

And I will say this, that this is something that's easy to mentally ascend to.

And go, yeah, nice.

And with great difficulty comes the revelation, because we've been programmed so wrong.

But getting a revelation of your sonship will cure one of your greatest hindrances.

And when I say you're with an extended finger, I don't mean just yours mine as well.

Everybody's we as humans.

And what is that great hindrance?

It's an orphan heart, an orphan spirit.

And it's completely opposed to the heart of a son.

They're complete opposites.

The heart of a son rests safely in Jesus.

It's trusting, it's forgiving, it's grateful.

The heart of an orphan, it's like a walking mobile wound.

And to one degree or another, just by virtue of living this life, we all have some elements

of the orphan heart.

And my prayer is that on this father's day, we would receive the love of the father and

be healed of any orphanhood that we've accumulated, amen.

And so when it comes to receiving the love of the father, I've just found this, that

all too often people, myself included, they receive the love of Jesus easily, but the love

of the father, that's a little risky.

Because Jesus, I know he's very kind and compassionate, I know because I saw the pictures

of him walking around with the lamb, walking on a bed of flowers, so he seems like a pretty

nice guy.

He's not going to hurt me.

But the father, oh, what's the father like?

Who's the father?

What's his nature?

What's his character?

I'm so glad you asked.

The Bible says that Jesus is the express image of the invisible God.

That means if you want to see the father take a good long look at Jesus.

Jesus kept talking about the father, he kept talking about the love of the father.

Philip finally said, Jesus, show us the father and it'll satisfy us.

When Jesus turned lovingly towards him and said, Philip, have I been with you so long?

And you have not known me?

He who has seen me has seen the father.

Let's look at a couple of those scriptures, John chapter 5, verse 19.

John 5:19

Then Jesus answered and said to them, most assuredly, I say to you, the son can do nothing

of himself, but what he sees the father do.

But whatever he does, whatever the father does, the son also does in like manner.

There's like 20 different sermons at least, maybe 20 different series you can base off

of this one verse.

But here's just what I want you to gather from this verse.

If you want to know what the father would do, just look at Jesus.

He said, I don't do anything unless I see my father do it first.

Just think about that.

Jesus and his ministry and his day-to-day life, have you ever seen God do something?

You don't see, may not be the right word.

You perceive in your spirit.

You perceive God is doing something and then you get in on and you just follow God.

Jesus was like that all the time.

And so when he healed blind Bartimaeus, he perceived in his spirit, the father do that.

When he sat with the sinners, he saw the father do that.

When he flipped over tables and charged up the money changes, he saw the father do that.

Yes, both.

But if you want to know what the father would do and what the father is like and what his

nature is, what his character is, what his personality is, take a look at Jesus.

John chapter 12 verse 49.

John 12:49

This is important before I really get into today's message just to acknowledge that inadvertently

we may have a different emotion towards the father than towards the son.

Would you entertain that thought?

Look, I've made it my life since early on when I first got saved to know the father's

love.

And I was privileged to just a few years after I got saved to be part of a global revival

where the emphasis was the father's love.

But even as recently as, I don't know, 15, 16 years ago, I found myself sitting undergoing

inner healing, which I won't get into that too much.

I think some people get too caught up in that where they emphasize themselves too much

and forget about a relationship with Jesus and it can become, you don't want Christianity

to become just a giant therapy session, amen.

But I was going through a crisis in my life and I was there and I was receiving in and

it was good.

It was quality.

It was scriptural.

It wasn't goofy.

It wasn't flaky as a lot of it.

It just can be.

But one of the things they had me do was in a time of prayer, they said, imagine Jesus

is face, which you can't do that in your spirit and they said, what does he look like?

And I was there, I was feeling God's presence and I said, oh Jesus, he's, and I saw Jesus

is face.

And by the way, when you see Jesus is face, you don't see Jesus is face, like somebody

goes, what color was he?

No, you don't, you don't, what color was his eyes?

How was his hair?

Did he have gel in his hair?

You don't see him.

You perceive his face and I saw his face and he was smiling and loving and approving

and accepting that and I said that and they said, okay, good, now imagine the Father and

I went, huh, and I said, what does he look like?

And it was just like what I'd seen of Jesus except all like gray and I couldn't see clearly

and it was just a silhouette.

And when I expressed that and I knew right away what it meant, it meant that I was stumbling

at that time in my life and my understanding of the Father.

Like Jesus I was intimate with, Jesus I can hang with, Jesus I can pray to, but the

Father, he was less approving, he was less accepting, that's not the biblical reality, but

what I was carrying in my heart was exposed and then I could go and present it to the Lord

and he can touch it and heal it.

John 1249, so Jesus established, I don't do anything unless I see the Father do it first.

There he takes it even further, he says, where I have not spoken on my own authority, but

the Father who sent me gave me a command.

What I should say and what I should speak, verse 50, and I know that his command is everlasting

life.

Therefore whatever I speak just as the Father has told me so I speak.

So if you want to know what the Father would say, look at the words of Jesus.

If you want to know what the Father sounds like, read the red portions in your Bible.

You want to know what he would do, you look at Jesus, you want to know what he would say,

you look at Jesus, he and the Father are one and Jesus is the express image of the invisible

God and Jehovah God of the Old Testament is Jesus Christ of the New Testament and the devil

is after that revelation because he knows, listen now, he knows that you were success in

life and by success in life, I mean real success in life, not the world's definition of success,

but real success, peace, joy, yes prosperity, but not just financial, of course it includes

that, but that's just a side thing, real prosperity, the nothing missing, nothing lacking,

nothing broken piece of God, the righteousness, peace and joy that's in the Holy Spirit, real

success, it is yours in direct proportion to your understanding of the Father's heart.

I'm telling you right now, if you don't agree yet, you will, about 15, 20 minutes from now.

Your success in life is directly proportionate to you having a spirit of

sonship as opposed to an orphan spirit and we're going to compare and contrast, you say,

what is an orphan spirit? How do you get an orphan spirit? An orphan spirit is a closed,

wounded spirit. An orphan spirit, again we all have elements that some more than others,

but an orphan spirit can come by way of trauma, it can come by way of religion,

it can come by way of bad parenting,

we really can come by way of just walking down this road called life and God wants to set you

free from an orphan spirit which is traumatized and hurting and allow you to rest and receive joy

with the spirit of true sonship and so we're going to just compare and contrast and if this

doesn't make sense to you yet, it will in just a few minutes, I just want you to, as we begin this

journey, to be open-hearted and this is a different kind of Sunday, a sermon like this will probably

best be on a Friday night where we have more time and we can spend time and worship afterwards

because the Lord wants to do an operation on you. If you can get some of that gunk out of the way,

you can really do a deep work in you and have you find true liberty and so please resist the

temptation as we go through this list to think I really wish that friend that I had a falling

out with was here today. I really wish my skunk of a roommate was here or my spouse that I

bicker with so often was here. Imagine that God and his infinite wisdom started good to have you

here today and so open up your heart and see where you fit because we all have elements of this

and just know if you walk away saying that was a good message but I'm so glad I don't fall into

any one of those categories. You immediately know that you fell into every single one of those

categories and you are the very expression of an orphan spirit. Amen. Are you all ready? All right.

We're comparing and contrasting the heart of a son to the heart of an orphan.

One lives an abject misery. The other one experiences righteousness peace enjoying the holy spirit

and of course Jesus paid a very dear price and went to the cross so that you can receive the adoption

as a son and have the full privileges of a natural born heir that is himself.

Concerning the image of God, the orphan heart sees God as master. They see a harsh, cold and cruel

master. Somebody they have to work for not somebody they really want to spend intimate time with.

The heart of a son, there's an intimacy there. There's a delight there. They realize that they

are approved. Amen. They realize that they are accepted. They realize that they belong and so

they see God as loving Father. And one of the main things that Satan works on people is this

rejection. And by the way, that's also one of the ways you can catch and allow to fester this

orphan spirit through rejection. This is why Jesus has so many sayings about acceptance. He says,

come to me, whoever, whoever comes to me, I will accept, I will buy no means cast out.

And one thing I found is most people feel like they're the oddball. I realized that early on when

I began pastoring because people would come and confess that and each one would think that they

were the only one. And I thought I've always felt that and I thought I was the only one.

But everybody in their mind, because from the day they're born, Satan starts working this narrative

of a rejection in them. They feel like they're the orphan walking through the snow,

down some windy street in some city on Christmas Eve, cold and broke. And there looks like this warm

glow coming from a house and they warm up the window and they peek through. And inside is the family

and there's the stuff turkey and the fireplace is going and they're laughing and enjoying and they're

on the outside looking in. Have you ever felt that about your life? I have. Everybody feels that way.

That's part of Satan's assignment to make you feel like you're the weird one, you're the other one.

Everybody else is having the time of their lives but you're the one that's dejected and rejected

and that's why Jesus came with a message of not just acceptance but approval. He will accept

you and then when you come to him in faith, he will watch you in his blood and take all your sin away

and now you're not just accepted but you're approved and you're justified which means your

pronounce not guilty. That's the love of the Father. Hallelujah. And that's one of the benefits of

sonship. Dependency, concerning the subject of dependency, the orphan heart because it's been

hurt is independent and self-reliant. Can I get a New York City amen? Sounds like it's describing

New Yorkers right? Well there's some truth to that. The orphan heart has been hurt and so they're

mistrusting. They don't allow people in. Their life motto is if it's to be, it's up to me. They don't

want help. They're singing the Frank Sinatra song. I did it my way. The heart of a son is

interdependent, acknowledges need. By the way humility means that you have a neediness for the

Lord and when you've been made whole by the Father's love, when you've allowed him to do a deep work

in you, you can be open and you can be transparent and you can allow people to come in and help you.

Have you ever known somebody that's just like, I got this. I'll do it my own way. I'll do it myself.

They don't want to be helped. Really there's pride. It's manifesting pride but the source of it is a

pain. But when you have sonship, you know the healings, the Lord's healing touch so well that even

though you know, he looks, some people will hurt me. If I allow people into my life, I feel very

confident in sharing this with you because this is my calling. This is what I do professionally.

Professionally, I put my heart out there and let it get hurt. And then you know what? The Lord comes

as the bomb of Gilea that he is and then heals it. And this is what he was training me with before

the ministry because I said, Lord, you know, I keep letting people in. They just keep hurting me.

And I'm not just speaking in metaphor. I was praying that prayer. I was in college in

of sensitive. But I think I was sensitive if I was when I was 18, 19, 20, you know. I was Lord.

And are you getting missed the eye for me? It's okay. The Lord did this a long time ago.

And the Lord spoke to me in my spirit so clearly and it meant the world to me. He said,

they may, but I am the bomb of Gilea. And I will come and I will heal. You have, you stand in

the fork in the road. You can allow people into your life and some will hurt you. Or you can say,

all people are awful and all of them always hurt me. And now you've put up walls to keep people out.

But guess what? Those same walls that keep people out, they keep God out. And do not fall for the

lie that you will put up walls that will keep people out. But you let God in. It doesn't work that

way. By the way, I really believe that that's why some people are still masking up today.

Because I'm seeing it's so hot the other than you still see people with the masks.

And I'm going, all right, look, first of all, I want to say, do you own a time machine?

Are you, have you come here from three years ago? Then the Lord chills me out. And I think about

it. I'm like, this person is not worried about COVID. And then I'm looking and I go, you know,

there are some people with a really are putting up is a protective barrier against the world.

Because I have looked at some people in my neighborhood and some people sitting on a bench

alone and I'm looking, I see pain in their eyes and I see your hurting heart. And I realize,

this is why it's often, you know, when people go through a crisis, they'll take up smoking.

Like, why? What does that got to do with personal pain? You want to hurt your body? Go have

me donals. Do much quicker than cigarettes. But there's actually this desire to, you're

blowing the people away. You're blowing life away. You're putting up a protective barrier. You

don't, you want to be insulated. You don't want people in. That's actually one of the various

reasons why people can still be wearing masks today. I fully believe that's one of them. I'm putting

up a barrier. You know, why I'd get together in leadership, in church, whatever. They'll

always tell you always have cups of coffee. You know why you have cups of coffee? Because people

are a lot more social if they can hide behind a cup of coffee because they feel protected. You

can be a 350 pound man hiding behind a six ounce cup of coffee and you feel totally embold. Now,

I can talk this person because there's people hiding behind three millimeters of mask. How did I get

on this? Because when you're independent and self-reliant, you're putting up walls to keep people

out. But those same walls keep got out as well. When you have the heart of a son,

there will be an openness. I'm telling you this can set you free. You receive the Father's love.

You receive His acceptance and His approval of you. When you can walk the streets of New York City

and you realize, I'm open and I'm open to the blessing of God. I'm open to good things. I'm open

to Holy Ghost surprises. Satan wants to get you in a cowardly place of hiding. Do not let him.

Jesus paid too high a price. He shed his blood taking away every single one of our sins

so we can walk and be open and say, Lord, I trust you. You will protect me from the evil and I

welcome a hundredfold return. Wonderful of blessing upon me of good. Amen. Theology, the orphan heart

only understands rules. The orphan heart by nature is religious. It only understands

touch nut, taste nut, rules and regulations militantly cross every T, dot every I.

And then of course the orphan heart will then put their expectations of what they're striving

with on everybody else around in their life. Orphans are now fun to hang with. That's just the truth

when it comes to an orphan heart. The heart of a son, you don't live by the love of law. You live by

the law of love. Everything that you do is fueled by first receiving God's love. Hallelujah.

Pray for me, hon. Amen. This is one of those funny kind of messages. People tell me they

appreciate it but it's like that's a cricket sound by the way. All right. On the subject of security,

the subject of security. And the first service that went security and our security guard jumped

up and left into action. And so I was blessed to see his response though. I was like, this is nice.

I always wondered what would happen if somebody just came up and

stepped up to me. I'm glad we have. Would he beat you though past your moment? He wouldn't beat you.

The subject of security. The orphan heart is insecure. The orphan heart lacks peace.

When you have the heart of a sonship, you are resting at peace. You don't have anything to prove.

Get to that place in your maturity with the Lord and in your receiving his love where you don't

have anything to prove. I know the world likes to set it up so that they value judge you

and your accomplishments and your bank account, your resume. But all of that, it's for nothing.

Jesus, he didn't do a thing up until his baptism. He was a good Jewish boy living with his parents until

the age of 30. And didn't do a thing. Have you ever thought about that? He didn't do anything.

I went to Ethiopia and they had these like murals and there was Jesus,

there are these murals of Jesus taking these cracked clay pots and touching them and they would

turn into doves and fly away and like nice mural but it's unbiblical. The Bible is clear. He did

his first miracle. His first thing of note after his baptism. So he didn't do anything.

Yet when he came up out of the water, he heard the father's voice. This is my beloved son

in whom I am well pleased. What did Jesus do to earn such a statement? Nothing. It wasn't about what

he did. It was about who he was. A son. It's not about what you do. It's who you are. A son.

You have validation and affirmation apart from your performance.

And an orphaned heart is always trying to prove itself and is always measuring and weighing

and keeping score because they get their validity from that. And it's such a trap. Why?

Because people are fickle. You do know that right? To throw yourself worth on the tumultious sea

of human emotion that is a recipe for disaster. This people will like you one moment and then hate

you the next. I have experienced that personally. You see it in the scriptures where Paul and Barnabas

on Mars Hill, they go preaching, they love them. They said the gods have come down in the form of

men. That was some good preaching. The next day that same people, that same group that said the

gods have come down in the form of men. They was stirred up by the enemy and they took up stones

to stone them. 24 hours from hero to zero. And it was still that same crowd that laid palm branches

at Jesus' feet was the same crowd that cried, crucify him, give us Burabbas. So there's people

who can't go to sleep at night because they're still counting likes and waiting for just one more

to come in so they could just get that little boost of validation and affirmation.

We're all like this. When I say that, I'm not saying I do some people here. We all have an

element of that which we have to resist by receiving God's validation and affirmation and love.

Apart from God, we're all just a bunch of hungry animals just needing some attention. Where does

we are? But when you have the heart of a son, you can rest in knowing you have his validation,

his attention, his affirmation. You're the apple of his eye. The Bible says, he calls you out by name.

And if this isn't real to you, this is just pretty words and you say, it's a pretty words. I wish

that was real for me. Pastor, I'm glad it's real for you, but how would I ever get it to be real for

me? You have to allow the Lord to do open heart surgery on you and that doesn't come cheaply.

I mean, it's free in the sense that it was purchased with the blood of Jesus, but you got to let him

do it by spending some time with him. Sing a song to him. Read his word. Say a few words. Invite him

in. Say, Lord, I give you every area of my life. Lord, I give you access to my heart. Tell him some

secrets. You wouldn't tell another human. Yes, I know he knows them already. It's not for his

benefits for yours. Pour out your complaints, the Bible says before him. Open up. Confess his word,

even if you don't feel like it, if you struggle in any one of these areas of being an orphan,

speak God's word. I am a son. I have the same privileges as Jesus. I am accepted on the same

level as Jesus. I am approved by my Heavenly Father. On the same level as Jesus. I don't have

anything to prove to God. There is nothing that I can do that would cause him to add one more

drop of his love. He just loves me, thoroughly, completely, unconditionally. Amen. You have to

retrain your mind. And a lot of us, we've been programmed all of our life with wrongs,

thinking, thinking. And you can't correct thoughts with thoughts. It's impossible. You can only

correct thoughts with words. And what better word is there than the word, the word of God. So you

begin speaking his word. And then there's a Holy Spirit renewing of the mind that will set you

free. Amen. The need for approval, the orphan heart strives for the praise, approval,

and acceptance of men. Do you know when Napoleon was famous for saying, one of his statements was

it's amazing to me what a man will do for a little piece of ribbon. It was commanding troops.

People would run and risk their lives and do all sorts of crazy things so they can get a two-cent

ribbon sewed to their uniform so they could feel like now there's somebody. So you get that

ribbon right away, you want another ribbon. Maybe not, but then someone else comes in and they have

three ribbons. You're like, why they have three ribbons? I only have one ribbon and new lust comes up.

Which should all make us think of social media right now. Amen.

Mankind has never had to deal with what we have to deal with today because

comparison is the root of all evil. That's my thing. The Bible says money is the Bible's correct.

I'm wrong. I'm just saying right now. And social media is a comparison amplifier.

The orphan heart strives for the praise, approval, and acceptance of men. It is amazing what people

will do for pets, for pet on the head. An orphan heart that maybe never got a pet on the head

from the natural father. I've seen, I say, I've seen entire churches where the pastor's whole team

is just a bunch of orphans. The pastor manipulates them and plays weird abuse of games where he's very,

very close with them one moment, then emotionally cold the next, then gives them the pet, they're still

craving, then withholds it, and then he's got 20 men just following him, just to maybe sort of

hopefully get a little pet, a little, that a boy. You got a that a boy from heaven.

Amen. The heart of sonship totally opposite than the orphan's heart because of the heart of

sonship realizes and knows I'm totally accepted in God's love and justify that means

pronounced not guilty by his grace. Amen. The motive for service, the orphan heart

has the need for personal achievements as they seek to impress.

I learned this on first year Bible school. I'll never forget a speaker said this and I thought

that is truth and I need to remember it forever. They said you can do all of the right things for

all of the wrong reasons. And so even in Christianity if you have an orphan heart you can be doing all

of the right things externally. They look right but you're doing them for the approval of man

to be counted as one of the spiritual for natural accolades. And really the Bible says that all that

when the fire touches it it'll be wood hay and stubble because there will be a judgment for

Christians not a judgment on whether it's heaven or hell. If you've put your faith in Jesus

and trust in him for his righteousness your heaven bound your sins are forgiven you but there is

a judgment on what you did with your life here on earth and you'll get a reward accordingly

and what is the real test the real judgment is our motivation.

And if I'm if I'm coming here every Sunday because I want to be admired because I want to

feel important or anything like that then the fire touches it wood hay and stubble. What a waste

but if I do it because I want to see law so saved and existing Christians discipled and the name

of Jesus glorified then it says precious stones. Hallelujah. The heart of a son

service that is motivated by a deep gratitude for being unconditionally loved and accepted by God.

I pray that the 200 people that we had on that volunteer boat yesterday that every single one I

believe that I can it's the spirit that we've endeavored to cultivate nobody serves because

they feel their scoring points with the big guy but you serve you serve because you're grateful

and you know you're already unconditionally loved not based on your performance so now you want

to give back. Hallelujah. The motive behind Christian disciplines.

I feel like we need the worship team to come in do a quick set and we jump right back in.

Everybody with me?

Is this coming across a little too seminary? Okay sorry I'm exposing my orphan heart.

Do you like me still? Am I doing a good job? Okay I need a hug.

The motive behind Christian disciplines, the orphan heart, duty and earning God's favor.

I read my Bible because I have to. I read my Bible because then God will approve of me more or

like me more or they have no motivation at all because they're an orphan they feel like something

has owed them life did them dirty and so there's zero motivation but the heart of a son it's because

of pleasure and delight. It's not because I have to it's because I get to I want to. That's one thing

I was sharing with my I want to say barber but she's a hairdresser but it feels weird to say

hairdresser. I was at the barber shop with my barber and it was blowing her mind she was like

so who shows up on Sunday and she's coming from a particular mindset she feels like why would you

come to church if not because you're terrified and you have tremendous guilt and shame in your life

and I told her you know everybody who comes they know that God will love them just as much if they

don't come like they come actually because they want to and they want to know him more and they

want to sit under the word and they want to meet each other and have fellowship and come into the

corporate anointing and worship God together I didn't say that to her I secularize what I just said

to her but I helped to understand that they come because they want to not because they have to

I'll never forget her look it was like a blue or mine like that's possible yeah when you've been

forgiven of all your sins and you've tasted of his love that's how it is amen and that is the

difference between you covenant Christianity and dead religion and the difference between an orphan

heart and a new covenant heart of a son the motive for purity for holy living an orphan heart

must be holy to have God's favor thus increasing the sense of shame and guilt the heart of

the relationship they don't feel I have to be holy I want to be holy he's changed my life he's

changed my heart I want to be holy I get to be holy I get to be delivered from sin which has

always hurt me I don't want anything to hinder my relationship with God self image the orphan heart

suffers from self rejection from comparing oneself to others self rejection from comparing oneself to

others the heart of sonship is positive and affirmed because you know you have such value to God

I hope that if you've been coming here for some time or this is your first time you know that you

have value to God if you will allow yourself to marinate in God's love pursue a radical love

relationship with him the power of God will manifest in every area of your life

when I think of my job what's my job it's the same as your job my job is to receive truckloads of

God's love every day out of that everything will flow and I notice if I'm not doing that every day

one of the first things is more that orphan heart creeps in so quickly too so quickly the Lord

could have done a deep work for years but if I'm not receiving his love consistently in a few weeks

you don't want to be near me you don't want to know me right huh yeah

her most her most evocative response in church she was like hey man look she's giving an offering

she's waving a towel and giving an offering she liked that so much

if you ever wondered does does pastor boy on battle with pride no the Lord sent me her and she's a

great great solution source of comfort thanks baby the orphan heart seeks comfort and counterfeit

affections addictions compulsions escapism busyness hyper religious activity

I joked in the first service I said if you're single and you really want to stand out

go to a cafe and just sit there like a crazy person without a phone in your hand

doesn't that sound so insane like just put your phone down just sit there just

but you will immediately stick out as someone who can actually stand their own company for more

than 60 seconds and isn't terrified of being alone with their thoughts

the heart of sonship seeks times of quietness and solitude to rest in the father's presence and love

and this is a new challenge that's only about 10 years old

something I think about when raising our kids and we really try to have very strict and disciplined

guidelines when it comes to technology but I just I see how when their hour is up I mean it's

like taking the crack pipe away and they're good it's hours up the timer goes off thinking but it's like

and I think I remember for me like hours up in my infinite mind right remember that was

the norm and how like my kids are gonna have to receive training and how to be good company for

themselves and that's vital because so much of what happens between you and God it'll happen in

silence it's I don't make the rules it's just how it is the old-timers called it contemplative prayer

or meditative prayer new charismatic call it soaking old-time penicastles call it waiting on God

it's all the same it just means you're not talking you're being still and knowing he's God

and so much happens and Satan wars against that time and for a lot of us we can't we couldn't

20 years ago now because our dopamine receptors are fried from scrolling we can't

so we got to go back to the gym it's like going back we have to train ourselves so I recommend

and I know this is really scary starting out with 60 seconds of quiet time for some of you is

going to be the most terrifying minute of your week I joke but only because I've experienced it

you go to be silent before the Lord and that's 60 seconds will feel like an hour it'll just be

you and the Lord in silence and your mind will immediately drift and you got to just come back

mind Jesus just Jesus 60 seconds put in 60 seconds and the next day make it 90 and try to get up

to 10 minutes where you can be quiet with the Lord that I have many messages on this topic and for

some of you you're hearing it for the first time but there is great power in being quiet before the

Lord not much seems to be happening but he is putting gifts inside of you he is going before you

so much happens when you're quiet before the Lord when the Bible talks about praying for hours

do you really think someone is talking for hours like your prayer life may not be powerful because

you run out of stuff to say after five 10 minutes that's kind of normal and then you can pray in

tongues and then you go for another 20 minutes and then and then you know like when I talk about

how I've had seasons where I pray eight hours a day do you think I'm pacing back and forth and I'm

yes Lord and I'm shouting for eight hours like 80% of that is me being still before the Lord

hallelujah

peer relationships the orphan heart full of competition rivalry and jealousy towards other success

I just want to remind you that we're also trying to find ourselves here we're not thinking of our

roommate our old friend our spouse the person at the grocery store whoever the coworker

try to find ourselves here the orphan heart has a poverty lack mindset

and it thinks that because God bless somebody else that God is going to run out and there won't be

enough leftover for them it's a big what about me you're going to run out so I'm jealous I'm

envious I resent you getting something because I was always trained and the way I grew up was as if

you get there's less for me the good news is God doesn't run out he's a fountain that never runs

dry his cup overflows and so you can have the heart of a son where you have humility and unity

amongst your brothers and sisters as you value others and are able to rejoice in their blessing

and their success all of our attitude needs to be if somebody else gets blessed whoo what God did

for them he can do for me and God doesn't run out amen praise God handling others faults the orphan

heart accusations and exposures in order to make you look good by making others look bad the orphan

heart loves the gossip the orphan heart loves to point out other people's faults and critique them

because then they feel better about themselves they love to magnify other people's faults

so that they can mask their own I'll just be transparent right now and confess that I know I'm

delving back into an orphan heart if I become critical and more critical then I immediately I know

oh you know what I'm really saying is father I'm not feeling so loved lately I'm not receiving your

love for me so I'm becoming increasingly critical of people in my life the heart of

sonship love covers love covers the Bible says a multitude of sins as you seek to restore others

in a spirit of love and gentleness you are tolerant loving you forgive quickly by the way the

doorway you have to walk through in order to have the heart of a son you have to walk through this

doorway it's called forgiveness not for yourself but for others I'll never forget somebody very well

very well very very knowledge then quote unquote inner healing wrote books and all that I'll

never forget he just said once he just could speak seminars hours and hours on how to be made

whole on the inside he said he said I can sum up 99% of inner healing with one word forgive and the

whole place would awe because we want to talk about all these things and therapy this and inner

healing that you want to be healed of the inner baggage the doorway you got to walk through is

you know what there's some jerks in my life I release them I forgive them I cancel their debts

I truly forgive them as I have been forgiven you have to walk through that door as long as

your mad bitter angry easily offended you're struggling you're in misery you have an orphan

heart get up from under that thing rise up to being a son Jesus paid for that privilege with his own

blood view of authority an orphan heart will always expose itself when it comes to

its relationship with authority the orphan heart the orphan heart sees authority as a source of

pain the attitude as authority has always heard me starting with my dad my fifth grade teacher

my coach in high school my first boss they resent authority but you cannot ever be an authority

unless you learn how to be under authority and you will always be under authority

I'm under authority we have to joyfully submit to authority orphan hearts they come in all

different shapes and sizes but they also come packaged like this you know I don't want any leaders

and I don't really go to a church I just kind of go from church to church wherever the Lord wants me

I'm on assignment we're all the same you know we're all got children what's with this like rank

in order and God is a God of rank and order God is a God I know this is not a popular word right now

I'm going to say it because it's not a hierarchy God even structured the angels in hierarchy

they're not all the same there's the archangel the seraphim the cherubim

the regular ones that just hold your feet up bless your dash your foot against the stone

he said it up in rank in order and that spirit of the enemy operating through old wounds they left

to blur all those lines that's why an orphan heart your least favorite word is submit

it's like shoving garlic in a vampire's face oh I didn't even get to that bar lack of a heart

attitude of submission do you know the madman of gedara also known as legion you know what a legion

it's a Roman garrison of three to five thousand troops that means the madman of gedara had anywhere

from three to five thousand demons living in him when they found him you know how they immediately

knew he was cured and the demons came out it says they came and they saw him sitting sitting

what is sitting it's a sitting clothed in his right mind sitting as the posture of a disciple

he was sitting and learning and Jesus rebony the rabbi was standing and teaching

and he went from being the raving lunatic with zero submission in his life to sitting and go

do you know what an orphan heart is like nah you can't tell me nothing

I know it all I'm the smartest in the room don't come and speak and oh

and they're the ones who are just always banging their head against the wall

eh hallelujah the heart of sonship respectful honoring you see them as ministers of god for good in your life

Amen

view of correction or admonition

orphan heart difficulty receiving admonition correction

you must be right you gotta be right when you're not you gotta be right so you easily get

your feelings hurt and close your spirit to discipline if we look at somebody to come on staff

or specially come up on leadership I don't want to let the cat out of the bag this is one of my

secret things but I immediately start correcting and I'm not if you notice unless the Lord like lands

on me I don't offer much unsolicited counsel I don't I'm too busy with inbound solicited counsel

so do you does that make sense I don't I can see you like you're driving your car off a cliff and

like come to me I'm here but unless the Lord pricks me I'm not you maybe the cliff part was a little too

dramatic but I'll probably stop that but

in the Bible listen you could insert as a priest you can be a Levi if you had any scabs

did you know that do you know why the scabs are nasty

no because scabs because scabs are an un unhealed wound scars are good you can serve with a

scar that's where a scab used to be that's the wound that's closed up but a scab that's still tender

that's still touchy there may be some pus coming out and the only way you discover that is you

bring some correction to somebody have you ever people have an orphan hard you can give them a

compliment and they'll be like what do you mean by that there's so much hurt there's so much pain

there's so many scabs everything is a defensive like you look good today oh yesterday I didn't

what are you trying to say

you can't do it

God forbid you tell somebody you lost some weight oh thought I was fat

see it sermons like this why our attendance vacillates so much you know Lord builds it up

all right expression of love and orphans heart is guarded because it's mistrusting guarded and

confidential based upon others performance as you seek to get your own needs met or when you have

an orphan hard you really see people as a means to an end and you're a user by the way I'm not

talking about some people mystical people out there know my me and you all of us have elements of

this amen want to put our best foot forward present yourselves only in a good light I pray that every

single one of you have at least three people in your life not that you're married to not related

by blood three people one will do for starters that you can be you and you're still loved

and if you don't have that which is you that if you don't ask the Lord you are not meant to go

through life alone ask the Lord to put an actual friend in your life that you can be real with

amen and the real the sad truth is it's true though the older you get the more faith you're

going to need for that because the more difficult it becomes you're in your 20s this is a piece

of cake you're like yeah who's he talking to 30s a little bit more challenging and so you get

past your 40s you're like God squeezes friend out of a rock for me but I want one

the heart of a son open patient and affectionate as you lay your life in agendas down in order

to meet the needs of others and this is the blessing zone and the reason why some of us don't

have close friends the bible gives the answer is because we're not friendly

says if you want friends this is one of those mind blowing out of proverb you're like oh there it is

he wants friends should be friendly and so if you want friends then like be the friend that you

want and find people and just love them and don't condemn them and do something nice for them be

be a listening open ear and then you will reap from what you've sowed worship team come on up

I'm nowhere near done but I just wanted to give the illusion that I am so sense sense of God's presence

when you're an orphan your sense of God's presence you know sense God's presence

you think that God will reward you when you only do right I remember like two weeks after I

got saved thank goodness I was actually discipled and what that means is it was just some other

Christians who would listen to me and answer my questions but I didn't know how to allow the Lord

to do work in me and there was some things that I stopped doing other things and the guy who

led me to the Lord I said you know do you ever after you sin do you ever you know not feel God's

presence of 16 years old two weeks saved I'll never forget he turned to me said no I feel it more

I said what I thought you know he runs away when you sin he said no he comes closer to help you

it comes closer to heal you but we in our heads we think maybe we had authority figures or

parents who withheld affection when we did wrong and gave affection when we did right then we think

God the Father is that way and he's not he's not he's not so when you have an orphan heart

you relate to God based on your behavior you think he's looking at you conditionally but it's

unconditional that his love is the heart of sonship your sense of God's presence is close and

intimate the condition of the orphans heart is one of bondage the condition of the heart of

sonship is liberty concerning your position the orphan heart you feel like a slave the heart of

sonship you feel like a son like a daughter concerning vision the orphan heart full of spiritual

ambition the earnest desire for some spiritual achievement and distinction and the willingness

to strive for it a desire to be seen and counted among the mature you know what the most

miserable people are those who are in full-time ministry and they're doing it for affirmation

validation they are in a constant state of torment because it's never enough it's never enough

the heart of sonship to daily this is division this is the plan this is the goal to daily experience

the father's unconditional love and acceptance and then be sent as the representative of his love

to family and others concerning the future the orphan heart says I got a fight for what I can get

the heart of a son concerning the future realizes that sonship releases us into our inheritance

amen close your eyes lift your hands right now on this father's day 2023 I pray in the name of

Jesus how for an outpouring of Abbas love for you that the orphan spirit

would be healed in Jesus name that you have a revelation of adoption of sonship

at all the pain of yesterday go go

performance mentality that it goes bitterness goes striving it goes

which you realize you're as approved as you're ever going to be you're as accepted as you're

ever going to be you're as forgiven as you're ever going to be

ah

man

thank you Jesus thank you Jesus the callousness that goes hardness bye bye in Jesus name

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