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The Power of Honor

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  1. So you think about honor like it's really hard to be honoring somebody and get offended by that person

  2. Right, because you're seeing their value despite so you're if your heart and your focus is this person is love the value by God

  3. And they can see the violist thing and I just be like okay God loves you

  4. You know and so I love you and that anchors our our attitude and it anchors our relationships with people

  5. We become unoffendable imagining unoffendable

  6. Welcome to the city light church podcast. Thanks for joining us today as we look into God's word and discover the hope and truth that he has for us

  7. If you want to connect with city light church feel free to visit us at citylight nyc.com that city light

  8. NYC.com

  9. Pastor Boyan Jansik and his team believe that the power of the Holy Spirit is already working in our hearts and minds

  10. As you listen to today's teaching remember that you are deeply loved by God

  11. That you are surrounded by his grace and that he has a real hope and a future for you

  12. Well, I want all of you to put your hands together from my brother and my friend our guest minister for the days actually one of our own

  13. His name is Brian Anderson

  14. You

  15. The sting testing who we are live

  16. Hello second service

  17. I'd like to just start by opening in prayer for what's going on in the world right now in Iran

  18. Uh, if you just bag your heads with me lord Jesus

  19. We ask for your

  20. Peace in the middle east lord and I ran Israel and United States as the unit us has gotten involved

  21. Father, we ask for your wisdom and your grace to be upon our leaders

  22. President Trump and all the military leaders father that you would give them wisdom in this season like never before

  23. And father, we pray that the church would be a source of hope in this time lord Jesus as as our neighbors and friends

  24. Look for answers and and sense fear

  25. Father, we'd be a voice of hope and a voice of peace in the midst of turmoil in the name of Jesus we pray

  26. and then

  27. Well, it's good to be speaking here again. I've got an exciting message

  28. Although you know on the on the face of it. It's one of these topics that you know

  29. I don't think many of us understand. I know I certainly didn't understand this this topic

  30. Whenever I thought about the the power of whenever I thought about honor

  31. I thought about maybe like you know nights at the round table or like a night you know in shining arm or getting like knighted or

  32. Or something like that, but I'm speaking today about honor and how the Bible views

  33. Honor and honors really is really based in

  34. God's value for each human and

  35. He's expressed that value by sending his own son and shedding his blood

  36. To set us free from sin and so we see that

  37. From the father's very heart

  38. He values us is so highly so highly that he would see he would send his own son to die for us

  39. And so the blood of Jesus gives us a sense of the value of humanity to God and and the Bible teaches us that we

  40. Also should value our fellow man and we should value them so highly that they sense and experience a little God through our lives

  41. And so we get to participate and cooperate in the love of God

  42. To people and it's a pretty awesome thing

  43. I remember when I first came to city light. I was a backsliding Christian for 13 years and I had

  44. I was I felt so so dissonance from the Lord was something was drawing and calling me to

  45. To come and get some spirituality in my life and I remember walking into a service

  46. In the East Village sitting down in the back back back of that church and experiencing the love of God

  47. It woke me out of a deep sleep spiritually woke me up to the fact that I had a father in heaven who loved me

  48. who had a purpose and a calling for my life and

  49. So much was spoken in in experiencing God's love that I can't even today even put into words

  50. I just knew he loved me and I knew I was forgiven and I knew he had a plan on a purpose for my life

  51. And so sitting in the back of that church my life was forever changed in this church

  52. And then people began in this church to to disciple me and mentor me and encourage me in my faith

  53. And in my connection to this church has has has has let me stand here today a total miracle

  54. I shouldn't be alive. I should have had I should have overdosed. I should have I should have been in depression

  55. You know, I remember going to a doctor one time and getting depression medication

  56. To try to feel to try to not feel my pain and it didn't work

  57. And so then I tried drugs and alcohol for years and and that only numbed it because every time I get sober

  58. The the reality of the world would come crashing in again, and then I'd have to kind of go die back in

  59. I'd been through two divorces. I was estranged from my son and my life was a total mess until Jesus Christ

  60. started putting it back together and

  61. And you all are a part of that testimony and and at the part of the testimony of

  62. Me coming to the Lord and in a few months later my then-girlfriend now wife coming to the Lord

  63. How do you say ha? You got a a beautiful five-month-old baby a three-year-old downstairs a 12-year-old who's not with us this weekend

  64. And they all love the Lord and it's just been a miracle to see what the Lord has done in our family

  65. So I want to thank and bless and honor this church the the leaders of this church pastor bow pastor bow

  66. For their steady hand their love their service

  67. Saying the tough things that we don't want to hear sometimes watching over us watching over our growth and development and

  68. Like pastor most said, I'm homegrown in this church

  69. So if you don't like the product. It's you talk to the talk to management

  70. But praise praise God you know it's you know

  71. It's all I can do you know if I'm asked to do something in this church my attitude is

  72. Yes, every single time. I don't care what it is that you asked me to do

  73. You know, I'm gonna say yes every single I owe such a debt of gratitude to this church

  74. Praise God

  75. All right, so let's get into it. What it what is honor?

  76. Honor is to value or esteem to treat with reverence

  77. Deference respect because of the intrinsic value

  78. In scripture it sometimes is

  79. used

  80. To to to mean to listen to or to pay attention to

  81. Honors first a condition of the heart, but then it's it's demonstrated by our actions and our words

  82. Sometimes in scripture it even means to give money to

  83. So so who does God call us to honor?

  84. I'm gonna go to first Peter 217

  85. Honor all people

  86. Okay, that's a pretty straightforward one

  87. You know, I started wrestling with a concept of honor when I had a a business partnership that went south and

  88. I reached an in-pass where I thought the the new business I'd left a big law firm with a very stable salary

  89. I was as it was launching out into a new entrepreneurial venture and suddenly what seemed like this great lucrative thing

  90. was turning belly up and I found myself in all kinds of turmoil

  91. Terminal emotionally. I was about a year into my new walk with the Lord

  92. Still pretty young in my faith and so my first my first instinct was to defend be defensive and to start

  93. Trying to protect myself so I threatened and I lashed out and I tried all these different things and nothing was working

  94. The partnership wasn't going the way I I I hoped it would and

  95. I can't get into details because the Lord's taught me to honor the people that I got into if I would

  96. But I did I went to the Lord and and I I felt the Lord say honor people and trust me

  97. and

  98. That didn't seem like a good solution because I didn't see a path forward with it with the partnership

  99. So I and then I also didn't know what it meant to honor people

  100. So I said okay Lord. What does it mean to honor people? I knew one scripture

  101. one scripture about

  102. You know honoring your mother and your father and that was the only honor scripture I knew

  103. But I knew it came with a promise that it would go well with you in the land

  104. And then you'll live a long life

  105. I said okay, so that sounds good honor seems to have

  106. favor and grace attached to it

  107. Let me try it. So I started by just changing my words. I stopped

  108. speaking insult and

  109. criticism and gossip about these people and started speaking

  110. Grace in fact as I started speaking my heart started changing and I started wrecking

  111. I started realizing that actually was was experiencing love for the very people

  112. I was in a fight with and that I was having a disagreement with and then the Lord started to show me that he had put them in my life

  113. To open a door for me and just like a mother and father goes before you and to make a way for you

  114. They were gonna make a way for me into the business world that I had no inroads to

  115. You know New York is a predominantly

  116. Jewish real estate world and I'm not Jewish and I'm an outsider and these guys were giving me an intro to all of these

  117. relationships inside of that community and

  118. My perspective completely changed and I started to speak highly of them

  119. Especially when they weren't around. It started talking to people about how they made away from me

  120. They opened doors for me and I began to bless them with my words and I noticed a shift

  121. Completely in in in in in my relationship with them. It was spiritual because there was nothing

  122. There was nothing new new no new facts had emerged

  123. But suddenly we were just starting to get along and suddenly I was experiencing favor and grace

  124. It went a place where it was just strife and bitterness and I felt twisted up inside and angry all the time

  125. And so I started I started realizing and having a revelation of the power of honor

  126. I said where else is this in the scriptures? Is there something besides the parent verse that

  127. Talks to us about honor and then

  128. Sure enough. There's a whole bunch of scriptures

  129. I'm not I'm gonna try not to cover as many as I try to get to in the first service because that was a lot

  130. But I'm gonna try to pick out the the key ones. I'm still learning Pastor Moe

  131. So got the training wheels on still

  132. Let's go to

  133. Matthew 13

  134. 54

  135. I think this lays out the principal pretty well

  136. When he'd come to his own country he taught them in their synagogue so they were astonished and said

  137. Where did this man get this wisdom and these mighty works?

  138. Is this not the carpenter son is not his mother called Mary and his brother James Joseph Simon and Judas

  139. And his sisters are they not all here with us where then did this man get all these things

  140. So they were offended at him. I just want to stop here for a second

  141. He says they they recognized the way that he had wisdom and mighty works

  142. But they were offended with him

  143. It's it's a weird verse he goes on to say the weird people I should say because they

  144. They didn't embrace the gift on his life. They rejected the gift on his life

  145. They rejected the minister he was bringing to them because they he was common to them

  146. He was known to them. They knew his upbringing. They knew where he came from they knew his pedigree

  147. Maybe he didn't go to Harvard

  148. Maybe he wasn't from the upper crust

  149. Maybe people who do the things that he did or supposed to come from a different walk of life

  150. Well for whatever reason they dishonored him and Jesus said to them a prophet is not without honor except in his own country and in his own house

  151. next verse

  152. Now he did not do many mighty works there because of their unbelief

  153. So we see we see

  154. Jesus speaking about honor and we see that Jesus says a

  155. Prophet is not with honor except in his own house

  156. So he's he's tying

  157. They're unbelief to dishonor and the implication is had they honored him

  158. They would have seen many mighty works

  159. Their dishonor stopped what god wanted to do their dishonors

  160. broke

  161. broke the flow of the spirit into their lives and it makes me ask the question

  162. How often do we do that right? I mean if Jesus Christ experienced that and they saw his mighty works

  163. But still kept him at an arm distance because it didn't match what they were expecting to see

  164. How often do we block the favor and the grace that god wants to bring into our lives because we dishonor the person that through whom it's supposed to come

  165. We dishonor the the messenger and we can't we discount their value

  166. The Lord doesn't discount anyone's value in fact

  167. He shed his blood for all humanity and so we're supposed to honor all people and if we would

  168. Posture our hearts with honor we could receive from anybody and god could use anybody in the body of Christ

  169. Even unbelievers in the business sense like I was speaking about a moment ago to open doors for us

  170. If we would be willing to honor and to bless instead of to hold on to grudges to hold on to offense or to treat his common

  171. Let's look at

  172. Let's look at what what does a culture say about honor? You know, we we have such a we have such a skewed view of honor

  173. Honors not about us. It's about blessing others. It's about valuing others our culture uses of honor like this

  174. It says you need to defend her honor, right? You got to get violent

  175. If our culture says you disrespected me. I need to defend my honor

  176. So I've got to get violent to

  177. Make you respect me

  178. Honor is not something that you can

  179. Demand it's something that you're supposed to give

  180. So honor is is is outward focused

  181. Jesus demonstrated the greatest honor we could ever receive by shedding his own blood for us

  182. And so he left us as an example of how we are to honor all people

  183. Honor doesn't look to the politics. It doesn't look to the sin in someone's life. It doesn't look to

  184. Their status their beauty their intellect their race

  185. It just looks at the fact that they are a human being with tremendous value to god

  186. Go to go to a psalm 8 if you would

  187. Psalm chapter 8

    Psalms 8 chapter mention

  188. So let's flip forward to the

  189. I don't have the verse here, but you crown him with glory and honor. So this is talking about humanity and

  190. and

  191. The psalmist is writing and saying

  192. What is man that you are mindful of him? You made him a little lower than the angels you crown him with glory and honor

  193. So the lord created us with honor. He created us with value. We were supposed to be the object of his affection

  194. Sin separated us from that and caused a chasm between us

  195. But he never stopped loving and cherishing us. He never stopped

  196. valuing us and so our there it is

  197. You have crowned him with glory. You made him a little lower than the angels and crowned him with glory and honor

  198. Psalm 8.5

  199. So our job is Christians is to reflect Jesus and

  200. He showed it paid the ultimate price by shedding his blood for us

  201. And we're supposed to reflect that same honor. So when we're talking to people when we're ministering to people

  202. um

  203. Boy the spirit of God shows up when when you honor them when you start to to value them and and see them as as

  204. Special to God that he shed his blood for that person that's in front of you. It doesn't matter

  205. What they're protesting it doesn't matter

  206. You know what kind of sin they're in it doesn't matter how they've treated you when you when you just when you when you return

  207. Good for evil when you return honor for dishonor when someone insults you and you honor them instead and you bless them

  208. And you love them and you say you have you have value

  209. The spirit of God shows up because he's trying to turn that per he's he's trying to reach that person

  210. He wants them to experience his love and so the Lord is turning us into ministers of reconciliation

  211. That see people with the value of Jesus and see people

  212. With the through the eyes of the blood of Jesus instead of the way we tend to look at people which is their failings their shortcomings

  213. um

  214. The Bible teaches us to honor many different things. It's teaches us to honor family and marriage

  215. To the things that society

  216. dishonors the most

  217. um and there's promises that come with it um

  218. There's a promise with your if of honoring your parents

  219. I mean, notice how it doesn't say honor your good good parents

  220. Just says parents

  221. Why is that like why would God want us to honor

  222. people who don't deserve honor?

  223. I mean, it's just a reflection of his heart right he it's the Bible says that while we are still sinners Christ died for us

  224. And so he it's the honor is never about you deserve my respect. It's I'm giving it to you even though you don't

  225. Because Jesus gave me his life even when I didn't deserve it

  226. So we're just reflecting what we received so honor is honor is a honors honor something you do want to wrestle with because

  227. You you need to get uh

  228. dishonor out of your life. You need to get criticism out of your life

  229. You need to deal with offense in your life if you're going to let the love of Jesus flow through you to you and through you

  230. and a lot of times uh we uh

  231. We have a hard time with honor because we have a hard time with receiving God's love

  232. And we're receiving his grace and recognizing that we are sinners saved by grace

  233. And it's because of the grace at honor on our lives that we can give that freely away

  234. We're self-critical. We're unforgiving our of our own failings and so we're critical of others

  235. And we think somehow by controlling and and demanding that we're going to get our way and the Lord is actually

  236. calling us to uh honor and trust and let go and watch what he does

  237. So he made it really easy like imagine if he had said

  238. honor this category of person not don't honor this category

  239. But that sometimes once in a while do and you'd be kind of like running this like matrix

  240. Okay, you know and everybody would get it wrong right he just said i'm gonna make it easy

  241. honor everyone and leave the details to me

  242. I'm gonna flow through you and bring grace and favor into the situations where you minister and honor

  243. And so wow that's like that make that takes the burden off doesn't it all I have to do is love people and honor people

  244. And then the Holy Spirit shows up and then he super charges my

  245. Natural abilities with his grace and his favor so that I can minister to people

  246. So that's all I've got to do. I got to get my heart aligned with God's heart for people

  247. If I want to see change in my world if I want to see change in my family change in my neighborhood change in my community change in my business

  248. I need to honor the person on that phone call

  249. That is driving me crazy

  250. That's offending I need to honor that person at work who's managing me the wrong way

  251. I need to honor that person who's on the other side of the political aisle for me and and and

  252. Begin to reflect that with my words and with my actions and then just watch what the Holy Spirit does

  253. It's really exciting guys once you get this it's like this is something that's more caught than taught

  254. I think you have to get you sort of have to just get a aha moment with it

  255. I hope some of you get it right now. Just Lord. I want to just I want to simplify

  256. My treatment of people to honor and love

  257. Okay, and we sometimes a lot of times in the church we talk about forgiveness being unconditional

  258. But then when it comes to things like honor where we pick and choose and there's a reason why the scripture gives us different

  259. Measures because it shows us where we're blocking the Lord where we're blocking the Holy Spirit

  260. Like you may kind of have the forgiveness thing down like I don't think I hold the grudge anymore

  261. But why you know but but you're not letting the full life of God through you because flow through you because you haven't learned to honor

  262. The extra step then you know after you okay, I forgave the person now. I'm gonna honor that person

  263. I'm gonna put them I'm gonna I'm gonna see them with value

  264. And when you see what someone through that with value with the eyes of Jesus

  265. You can't help but prophesy you can't help but speak to their value and call out who they are you can't help but

  266. You know, I'm not talking about some weird thing

  267. I'm talking about calling out the life of God and them calling out the purposes of God over their life calling out

  268. The value that he deposited from the beginning of time the Bible says that he he predestined us for good works

  269. That we should walk in them every single one of us

  270. And so when we value someone we start to we start to call that out of you look. I see in you

  271. This thing of honor or this that thing of honor. I see in you a love for people. I see in you an ingenuity

  272. I see in you a creativity. I see in you this this thing of honor and

  273. God loves you and God wants to use that and God sees that God values you

  274. So we're supposed to be ministers of the very love of Jesus that we received in our lives

  275. And at a time like this where there's so much political turmoil so much division so much arguing

  276. We can honor people without agreeing with them

  277. You know the you don't have to have the same politics at all in fact

  278. We're called not to agree with sin

  279. But that doesn't mean we we stop honoring people and loving people

  280. And so when we keep that honor and that love first we can speak to people calmly like you get in the conversation

  281. I get these conversations and in business all the time where

  282. People are trying to get me into offense. They're trying to prod and poke me in a negotiation

  283. To be offended and then you lose your control you lose your ration and you sort of just lash out

  284. Then you've lost the battle

  285. But when you can stay in honor when you can stay in love

  286. Your it keeps your head cool calm collected and you can have a conversation and you're the entire time

  287. You know, Jesus loves this person

  288. You know how dare I insult them?

  289. Jesus died for this person. How dare I

  290. Lord it over them or abuse them in some way

  291. So we need to recover

  292. That the awe of of our salvation that that wonder of the love that we've been showed in Jesus and show that to others

  293. So honor for for family and marriage

  294. There's a this favor there too

  295. The Bible says that he finds a wife finds a good thing it obtains favor from the Lord

  296. So you always see this connection honor and favor so

  297. We all want more honor and favor in our life. We always sorry. We want more favor and grace in our lives

  298. We need more favor and grace in our lives to do the things that God's called us to do

  299. We can't do them without his favor and without his grace

  300. honor

  301. Keeps us in a position our hearts in a position

  302. Where we're aligned with the things of God and we're cooperating with his moving

  303. Without the honor and the love of God in our lives where we step out of alignment and we block some of the flow of his grace and power in our lives

  304. All right honor for authority. Oh, this is a tough one

  305. Our culture teaches us to question authority

  306. um the Bible teaches us to honor authority and again

  307. It's it's it's it's it's it's not about um

  308. The authority being perfect. He talks about ungodly authority

  309. Being honoring of a godly authority. We can have an honoring heart towards ungodly authority and not follow everything

  310. That ungodly authority tells us to do. There's lots of examples of honorable disobedience in the Bible

  311. Shadrach Mishik and Abendigo ended up in a furnace for not bowing the knee to what the edict was which is a to worship other gods

  312. But they didn't lose there. They didn't stop. They didn't dishonor the king Daniel ended up in a lion's den

  313. And still

  314. honored the king he said oh king lived forever when he was pulled out of the the lion's den

  315. He still maintained his

  316. Uh honor of the king in his respect

  317. Even while being mistreated and when we do that we show that we are a different a different world

  318. Because the people don't respond that way

  319. Jesus was was a radical because he didn't respond the way that they were expecting him to respond he didn't defend himself

  320. When he was mocked and beaten he took it he knew where he was headed and he knew what it was for

  321. But he said an example for us that we don't lash out when we're when we're mistreated and wronged

  322. Instead we honor and we love and as we do that the love of god flows through our lives

  323. We sense the fear of the Lord for people in our relationship with the people that we treat people with

  324. With honor as a as a holy thing and not as a common thing

  325. My uh there's there's honor for there's honor for the over looked

  326. Um

  327. So often in our society. It's all about the celebrity. It's all about the one with the biggest intellect

  328. Uh the best looks the most money

  329. Those are the people that we honor as this as a society. That's not what the Bible teaches at all

  330. In fact Jesus

  331. On multiple occasions that don't prevent the children from coming to me

  332. And why were the disciples doing that because children were not as important right

  333. But to Jesus they were they had the same value

  334. And so he would he would bring them in and say you know the kingdom of heaven is is of such as these

  335. And he would he would honor and he he called it out for disciples

  336. If you want to be great you got to be the servant of all you got to honor all

  337. Right even the little ones even those little you know

  338. poopy diaper

  339. Children that we have you know our children just you know have have have are to be given honor

  340. They are

  341. They are precious to Jesus

  342. And he he he shed his blood for them just as much as for us and for

  343. um and and and we as a society often

  344. dishonor

  345. And categorize people and instead of

  346. realizing to Jesus

  347. Jesus honors all

  348. My father is uh when we we had we had a joke at at our house growing up that

  349. My dad would go to the grocery store, which was like five minutes away for eggs or milk real quick

  350. And he'd come back two hours later

  351. Really because he was such a social

  352. Person that he got caught up in conversations

  353. But the thing with my my father that I love about him so much is

  354. He really reflects the heart of God because he takes the time for

  355. Every single person does it wouldn't matter if it was a a former student

  356. He was a schoolteacher for a while wouldn't matter if it was

  357. Somebody in the in the shopping aisle. He just met that wanted a conversation

  358. He could tell that they were lonely. He was he would take the time and

  359. Everywhere you go in my father people people he gets stuck in conversations

  360. But people love him because they feel seen and heard by him

  361. As you remember one of the translations of honor

  362. Has a connotation of to listen to and

  363. What would happen is if we were that type of

  364. Of honoring to people that we see in our daily lives our co-workers

  365. Our bosses our friends our neighbors that we take the time you know New York City puts puts

  366. The value of schedule way above

  367. Taking the time for people especially people you know that aren't of the same socioeconomic class as us

  368. Are in our lives. We we avoid eye contact. We avoid connection in the city because we don't have the time

  369. In Jesus had the time

  370. You know, and I see that reflected in in how my father would interact with people growing up

  371. He always took the time and it didn't matter. There was nothing in it for him

  372. You know, he was just he wanted to show the love of Jesus

  373. It's powerful guys

  374. Um

  375. There's that there's a generational honor that I believe the Lord wants to restore to the church

  376. You see it in

  377. Luke 117 when John the Baptist was

  378. Was a fulfillment of the prophecy in Malachi of turning the hearts of the fathers to the sons and the sons to the fathers

  379. I believe the Lord wants to bring a an honor back that's to intergenerational

  380. The God is the God of Abraham Isaac and Jacob there

  381. He's a God of generations and it's always been a cultural norm at least in the United States for one culture to one one

  382. Generation to reject the prior generation for sons to reject the ways of their fathers

  383. And the that's not the heart of God the God God wants the one generation building on the next generation

  384. So that our faith builds and yes the the Lord may reveal a new thing bring new revival want some old things to end

  385. But we do it with honor and we include the generation before us as we raise up and the week we only

  386. Care for the next generation that's coming up and we don't just make fun of there

  387. You know, they're jargon and they're in their their ways, you know, I've I've felt this

  388. This thing about parenting recently where I feel like the Lord

  389. Has been teaching me to not laugh too much of my children

  390. Um because they do a lot of funny things

  391. But I don't want them to feel self-conscious by laughing at them all the time and by not taking them seriously

  392. I want to just talk to them

  393. Even when they're saying that most ridiculous things

  394. And make them feel heard and valued because I want them to always feel included in in conversation

  395. And I want them to feel that we're really seeing them and not just seeing them as a joke

  396. And I think you know intergenerational in the church we need to be that way, you know, we need to

  397. Make the effort to understand the culture that's not like ours when you make the make the effort to

  398. Understand the next generation or the older generation and value the wisdom value the zeal

  399. That we offer each other and really see the church united generationally

  400. Special honor a special honor for church church leaders the Bible talks about

  401. Double honor for elders first Timothy 517 says that we are to count worthy of double honor

  402. Especially those who labor in word and doctrine

  403. So the Bible also says that the the people in who are leaders of the church watch over our souls

  404. Which is an incredible passage because

  405. I didn't I didn't know we needed that right like

  406. Christianity in America is so individualistic that

  407. I thought it was just a relationship with God. It's not it's a relationship with God and his people

  408. And if you don't have a relationship with the people his people you won't very long have a relationship with God

  409. And and there's there's a there the thing about deception is when you step out of fellowship

  410. The first time you step out of fellowship

  411. And this is what happened to me before I had my 13 year back sliding when you first step out of fellowship. Guess what happens

  412. nothing

  413. It feels like nothing happened all you you have more free time the weekends are free

  414. Oh, I'm gonna get take up on you hobby. I'm not going to church anymore. I still love God

  415. But you know, I feel fine and I feel free and you know nothing's nothing's missing

  416. the problem is

  417. Your the Jesus said that if you build your life on his teachings you're building it on solid rock

  418. And if you don't if you ignore his teachings you're building it on sand

  419. And when storms of life come your house will crumble and fall if you don't follow his teachings

  420. And he and and the Bible is very clear

  421. That our our faith has to be walked out in relationship with other believers and deep covenant relationship

  422. Not fickle flaky see you once a weekend maybe for a few minutes relationships

  423. It's vital to our faith it can't be stressed enough

  424. um

  425. And our church leaders watch over our souls to protect us

  426. We're often likened in scripture to sheep who need a shepherd or or a protector

  427. And there's a spiritual power there. There's a spiritual authority there to watch over and protect

  428. Do leaders sometimes make mistakes? Yeah do meet do other scandals and churches? Yes

  429. That doesn't change the gospel that doesn't change the Bible and we are we are we are called to stay in fellowship

  430. To move through the storms of life be that house built on the rock and and stay in fellowship and stay

  431. Connected with people and not stop stop honoring what the Lord says is honorable

  432. Yeah, man

  433. So some things that honors honor does

  434. It's an active surrender and trust in the Lord

  435. It's a matter of the heart or reflection of God's heart for us

  436. Well, we're still sinners Christ died for us. It's unconditional as a heart posture

  437. It recognizes and values authority while not missing the overlook

  438. So it's top down and bottom up. It notices the unnoticed what also respects authority. It's beautiful actually

  439. um

  440. Honor honors others focused rather than self-focused it embraces authority

  441. uh and authority figures in our life

  442. It acts towards people as unto the Lord

  443. It requires trust in the Lord

  444. It rebuffs and repels offense

  445. So think about honor like it's really hard to be honoring somebody and get offended by that person

  446. Right, because you're seeing their value despite so you're here if you're if you're heart and your focus is

  447. This person is loved and valued by God and they can see the vileist thing and I'll just be like okay

  448. God loves you, you know, and so I love you and that anchors our our attitude and it anchors our relationships with people

  449. We become unoffendable imagining unoffendable

  450. I'm still working on it

  451. um

  452. Requires honor for requires forgiveness and love

  453. honor

  454. Is the surest way to develop godly character

  455. If you live and honor towards people and you're unoffendable boy

  456. That's pretty that's pretty good character

  457. Okay, because Jesus said we're to turn the other cheek and that's one of the hardest things to do

  458. It doesn't make us weak it makes us stronger to be in the face of offense and honor and bless and return good for evil

  459. That's the hardest thing to do punching back is the is the instinctive thing to do

  460. um

  461. Lashing out is the instinctive thing to do if you ever noticed when you when you get done gossiping about people you feel dirty

  462. Have you ever tried like blessing people when they're not around talking highly of them

  463. It's the opposite

  464. It feels amazing

  465. You know boy past or mo he is so anointed

  466. He's had such an influence in my life man. I don't know where I'd be without him

  467. You know those types of things imagine if that got back to him

  468. You know imagine if somebody said go Brian was talking about you the other day and he said, you know, you really blessed him

  469. Now now like three or four people got blessed in that chain

  470. It's the so we need to start we need to start

  471. Seasoning our language with more and more of that building people up reminding reminding ourselves and others of all the people

  472. Have played a role in our development

  473. There's a special honor for the for the body of Christ in fact if you go to first Corinthians

  474. 12 there's a very interesting sequence of scriptures that I mean that I'm still like spending a lot of time with

  475. Paul is talking about communion and he's talking about properly honoring the body of Christ

  476. And then he shifts into an analogy of the body of Christ being believers that are interconnected with each other

  477. And it's such a beautiful thing because he's going from talking about communion where we take the

  478. You know the body and blood of Christ and we and we honor what he's done

  479. And then he says you are the body of Christ and he's talking about being discerning of the body of Christ being respectful of the body of Christ and and and

  480. And by doing so he's elevating in our eyes

  481. How important the church body is?

  482. He goes on to talk about how each part of the body is interconnected with each other

  483. And that we receive what we need from other people

  484. And he says that you know in Ephesians he said each person is given a grace

  485. Of a measure of grace from Christ and again in in first Corinthians

  486. 12

  487. Verse seven

  488. He said that the manifestation of the spirit is given to each one for the prophet of all

  489. so

  490. Paul is

  491. Paul is showing that

  492. That the value of the body of Christ is that when you're connected into the body of Christ you get what you need spiritually

  493. Which you also receive from heaven gifts to give to other people in the body of Christ

  494. So the whole spiritual gifts chapter which which which is sandwiched between him talking about communion then the body of Christ

  495. and then the love of God is

  496. Is intended to say all this all this stuff you get from heaven is to bless others

  497. The only actual there's one spiritual gift that's for building ourselves up and that's the gift of tongues

  498. Everything else is to give away

  499. So if you're not connected in a relationship you're not experiencing any of the life flow of of Jesus through your life

  500. The relationships is where all of that happens

  501. So there's a whole part of your faith that hasn't even started yet until you're in relationship with other believers

  502. And so you have to you have to get rooted and grounded

  503. In a church and vulnerable relationships where the life of God can flow through you all of the gifts of the spirit

  504. Are God so honoring and blessing

  505. Relationships in the church that he super charges and blesses you to give more away to others

  506. Imagine that I mean

  507. God is is so affirming and

  508. Blessing and calling us into relationship that he tells us an interconnected body where every single part is necessary

  509. New we can't live without any part of the body we need all the parts and every part has value and as you connect

  510. He's going to supercharge your love and your grace towards others with gifts to give away to those people

  511. And then he talks about honor in that same chapter chapter 12

  512. He says that that the parts that we see that the parts that we often overlook

  513. Are deserving of more honor and so he's calling us to actually surround the weaker parts of the body with honor

  514. What does that look like so?

  515. We had some people over for a barbecue the other day

  516. We're all sitting around eating we had the little kids out where they're running around

  517. Kind of we're on in a circle and all the adults are just you know mesmerized with the kids

  518. They were like these kids are so cute. They're amazing. I said I know

  519. Um to accept for sometimes or not

  520. And they were they were they were the life of the party. We were

  521. Completely focused on their every word

  522. They're every they're every little joke. They're every little funny nuance and

  523. That's that's what Paul's talking about about giving greater honor to the weakest among us

  524. None of the adults in that circle are saying well what about me? I want some attention

  525. You know, we we were just fixated on the kids as the natural

  526. weakest among us that needed the most attention and love and that's the way the body the body of crisis supposed to be

  527. We have a new believer who comes in and doesn't know anything about anything

  528. That's okay

  529. There's a bunch of us who are going to surround you and and and help you and love you to walk out the things of God

  530. And we're all going to do our part. It's not there's no clicks in the body of Christ. There's no

  531. Hey, this is my little group over here. There's my little group over there

  532. That's now what God's called us to. I mean, it's okay to have your group of friends

  533. That's totally fine, but we are supposed to be looking out for the weakest among us and surrounding them

  534. With love and letting the gifts of God flow through us and think sometimes in the commit charismatic church

  535. We get it completely wrong because we go to a conference or something

  536. We say I want more spiritual gifts in my life

  537. But we have no relationship connection to anybody

  538. So there's no point like the spiritual gifts are still flow in covenant relationship with the body of Christ

  539. The church that were planted in and committed to and that we're willing to go through the hard times with

  540. You know some of us are one offense away from leaving the church or one wrong conversation away

  541. And the Lord wants to change all of that. He wants to say make a decision

  542. Plant your feet and stay and only then can I start to develop and you the character that I've that I want to develop in your life

  543. He's going to use

  544. Conflict with people sometimes to develop your character. He's going to use being misunderstood sometimes to develop your character

  545. He's going to use

  546. Human relationship and friction that happens there to develop you into who he wants you to be

  547. But if you abort the process all the time you'll never grow up in the Lord

  548. You'll always go to a new church where they feed you a little bit and you feel fat and you never use it

  549. And you wonder why don't I flow in the gifts of the spirit why why don't I have this call on my life

  550. Well, you've never understood the value of the body of Christ you never plugged in and Paul's giving us a road map

  551. Right here. He's saying you belong to a body you plug in and then you start to bless

  552. Through relationships and the Lord will give you the favor and the grace on your life

  553. Now remember the honor the honor that that Paul's talking about for the for the for the weaker members in the body

  554. What does honor do honor puts a draw on the anointing in people's life?

  555. So he saw that in that first scripture by Jesus could not do

  556. Many mighty works because of the unbelief the offense and there was no draw. There's no honor

  557. So when we honor people in our midst, you know, we start to we start to receive

  558. Things from them that are on their life that we need the Bible says that every part of the body is necessary

  559. So we put a draw on that and we begin to learn things from each other through the spirit

  560. So, you know, if you want to maximize your growth in Christ

  561. You know invest in a relationship and honor your brother and sister in Christ. You know begin to draw out

  562. A spiritual spiritual anointing from them you'll be able to draw out the gifts that are on their life

  563. We all have them you know nobody exempt

  564. We all have gifts in our life of the Lord is trying to activate and what wants to pull out of us

  565. Through the honoring culture that he's developing this church has it this church

  566. And all I'm trying to do is is elevate it so we're more aware of it and more focused on it

  567. The reason I'm standing here today is because this church has it this church

  568. He's got it like in spades and if you're newer to this church plug into this church

  569. Because the relationships it might seem like a mundane thing again

  570. We need to honor that thing and value that thing and the life of God will start to flow

  571. It doesn't matter who start with the person that you're closest to start with a life group start with some

  572. Connection and just start investing and being faithful those few relationships and watch what God does in your life

  573. It's not going to be this big flashy thing all of a sudden

  574. But you're going to start to feel the life of God flowing through you and to you as you connect with people

  575. And and and remember we're called to honor and lift up our brothers and sisters and as we do we're actually

  576. Pulling them into their destiny in God. We're pulling the anointing of God out of them

  577. And so that's why I think the Bible says to surround with the weaker members with greater honor because we're pulling them out of a place of weakness and to strength in in Jesus

  578. So father as the worship team comes up father. We just

  579. We bless you Lord. We want to be a church who understands honor. Father. We want to be a church who

  580. who

  581. Blesses and honors our brothers and sisters father forgive us for treating us common the things that you

  582. Call holy father

  583. Forgive us for treating as a mundane the things of of the spirit father the things of of your body father

  584. Causes to have a new on appreciation for your church

  585. Causes to have a new on appreciation for the power of honor

  586. That we make participate in the life of Jesus. We might participate in the ministry of the cross to the world around us

  587. Father and let us start in this church by building each other up father

  588. As your word says we are to outdo each other with honor and in Romans father

  589. We are to outdo each other with honor. So let this church be a church that speaks life that speaks life in front of people and behind their backs

  590. Father, let this be a church whether

  591. Criticism is rarely heard or never heard. Let's father. Let this be a church where we surround the weakest among us

  592. That they may grow in the in the strength in the knowledge of the Lord in Jesus mighty name

  593. Amen

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