Lessons on Friendship 2 (The Principles of Clubbing to Climb) | Rev. COS Fawenu

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and clarity. Last week we started to study or

glean lessons from biblical characters on friendship.

So the topic has been lessons on friendship, and we're learning

the principle of clothing to climb.

You unite, you relate. You keep complaining that

together you make progress. That's what is intended by the

coinage clubbing to climb. And we started to prove into

what to look for in the potential frame.

And for it starts, we mention substance.

I like the fact that great friendship must be characterized

by mutual reciprocation and not service expectation.

Lots of people go into friendship with selfish

expectation as a gain, mutual reciprocation of love, of

respect, of kindness, even of charity.

So friendship should be a symbiotic relationship.

Now that word symbiotic is a common biological term where

relationship is mutual and of course the benefit is not just

one sided. So friendship to be a symbiotic

relationship built on contribution from both ends and

not a parasitic relationship where contribution is limited to

only one side and consumption is tilted to just one side.

So it is expected that friendship when is going to be

ideal, proper and of course last and satisfied both the spiritual

and social purpose of keeping company.

It must be symbiotic, and by that I mean that contribution

should be from both end. It must not be a parasitic where

one is draining the other. So contribution must not be

limited to only one side and consumption must not be treated

to just one side. And of course, this is

essentially the reason every potential friend should come

into friendship with the reasonable mayor of substance.

You know, we're probing to what to look for or look out for

before you choose a relationship or you stay in a relationship.

So and of course, we clarified already that substance, where

we'll use the term substance, it transcend material resources,

OK. It's about being resourceful.

It's about being resourceful. And we for our character study,

we studied the example of David and Jonathan.

Are you coming abreast with what we did last week?

So, we studied the example of David and Jonathan from their

friendship. We noted that both of them were

men of substance in their own right despite belonging to

different social background. Jonathan was of royalty, David

was coming from a peace and background.

So whereas David was not from a royalty background, he was still

not an empty gold digger in the relationship.

He was still capable of contributing substantially to

the relationship. So they did not come to the

palace with weight or weapons. Nevertheless, it came with both

kinetic and non kinetic scheme and I will explain one.

It was a musician and of course it was a warrior.

So it's non kinetic scheme, which is his skill in music.

You know, it's not a forceful kind of scheme.

That's why I described it as non kinetic scheme.

It was that non kinetic scheme of knowing how to play the hap

very well in such a way that you can inspire the Spirit of God

and also make deliverance to happen.

So it was that skill that introduced him into the palace

with the hap. Then not only that, he also

asked the connective skill of Potentia, OK, And that

introduced him for a second time in the palace with the head of

Boulayas, praise the name of the Lord.

So his ability to fight war, the potential to fight war, OK, the

Goliath that every warrior, all the generals in the army

obviously were running away from, he confronted Goliath and

it came to the palace with the evidence that it was the one

that killed Goliath. And I said to you that the CD

you are building today, the certificates you are acquiring,

this key that you are acquiring is your own head of Goliath.

One day it will be needed. I pray in the name of Jesus that

your potential will not go into a waste in the name of Jesus.

So for somewhere chapter 16 so from there we saw how is non

kinetic ski of music force introducing into the palace for

some I succeed. I read from verse 14 But the

spirit of the Lord, the spirit of the Lord departed from soul,

and an evil spirit from the Lord troubled him.

And Saul servant said to him, build now an evil spirit from

God troubled thee. Let our Lord now command thy

servants which are before thee to seek out a man who is a corny

player on an app. Now that skill is what I call

non kinetic skill and it shall come to pass when the evil split

from God is upon thee. That is a play with his hand and

thou shall be well. It was a soft skill, but very

strong in effect. Praise the name of the Lord.

And Saul said unto his servant, Provide me now a man that can

play well, and bring him to me. Not a man that can just play,

but a man that can play well. Please, whatever is your skill,

learn how to use it well. Am I talking to somebody?

So they don't, they didn't just leave.

Just anybody that can play, it is somebody that can play well.

So if you are singing, singing well, if you are drumming, drum

well, OK. If you are an athlete, be good

at it. Praise the name of the Lord.

So be excellent in all that you do.

One day, one day it will introduce you to the palace.

One day, one day it will end you the truth so and so said of the

servant. Provide me not a man that can

play well, and bring him to me. Then answer one of the servant,

and said, Behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite.

That is corny, not a word. That is skillful, that is

excellent in playing. And the mighty villain man.

Can you see how the two combined in just one man?

OK, The soft non kinetic skill of playing well.

OK and the strong kinetic skill of fighting well.

And a mighty valiant man, and a man of war, and prudent in

matters. So in other words, a maridos

skill with wisdom to manage them.

Prudent in matters. Many of you are skillful, but

you are not wise. And so your potential is going

into a waste. Many of you are skillful, but

you don't know how to explore the financial side of your

skill. Praise the name of the Lord.

You are so good, but you are not making fortunes because you are

not prudent and a comely person and the Lord is within.

That is very important. That's very important.

During the second service. I'm going to be speaking on

that, Very important. A number of people have had

messages about purpose and the usefulness of purpose.

OK in fulfilling destiny. OK, And yet they have discovered

purpose and they are not making ends meet.

Why? Because they understand divine

purpose, but they lack divine presence.

Understanding divine purpose and running to pursue your divine

purpose. Without divine presence we still

amount to nothing. Am I talking to somebody?

So the reason David could amount to so much from his potential

was because he understood divine purpose.

He applied his potential and he had the divine presence.

These three things are very key. You have the potential, you must

apply the potential to a purpose, but with the support of

the divine presence of God. The liberals labour in faith

when God is absent from the efforts.

Am I talking to somebody verse what now verse 19 wherefore

source sent messenger on to GC and said send me David a song

which is with the sheep and as they will return from the

slaughter of the Phillies time now let's now go to chapter 17.

It's from there, we are now going to see where he applied

the Kinect is key of being able to fight war and as they return

from the slaughter of the Philistine have not took him and

brought him before soul with the head of the Philistine in his

hand one day. OK, you have the connection, the

head of Philistine will be requested.

What have you done in the past? What exploits?

OK, have you done in the past will be requested.

What are you? Have you been building your CV

for the fighter day when the expected and unexpected

opportunity we arrive. Praise the name of the Lord,

Praise the name of the Lord. And so these were the things we

did last week and have expanded on today.

We are still going to push further on these two great

friends and if time permit us, we may take on another

character. So from the relationship of

Jonathan and David, we can classify friendship into two

types. One, there is the organic

friendship. During the reflection session

last week, I did mention that you don't force relationship

otherwise it will not work. It must be organic.

So there is organic friendship and then there is mechanical

friendship. What is the first category and

Sami Church the second category, mechanical friendship.

So friendship is achievable organically and it is equally

achievable mechanically. In other words, friendship do

evolve and friendship can be organized.

Hello, friendship do evolve and friendship can be words can be

organized. Even marriage which is a type of

friendship are we together? It can evolve organically and

sometimes it can be organized by matchmaking.

So the type that I evolve naturally is the one I describe

as organic type of relationship and the one that is organized is

the one that I described as mechanical kind of friendship.

But friendship is better when it is an organic relationship than

when it is a mechanical one. Do you agree?

Friendship, it works better when it's an organic relationship,

when you can hone the relationship.

It's not anybody that forced you into it is not anybody that

actually compel you or kajo you into it.

So an organic relationship is one that grows from natural law,

is the type that grow from neutral aspects.

It is not arranged with selfish interest or ulterior motive of

opportunism or exploitation. Part of the weakness of

mechanical kind of friendship is that more often than not,

there's always an ulterior motive behind it.

Sometimes the motive could be a kind of exploiting the other.

Most of the time you see opportunities going into

mechanical kind of friendship. So but for organic relationship

it grows from natural laws, it grows out of mutual respect,

appreciation. It is not far arranged with

service interests or ulterior motive of opportunities,

opportunism or exploitation. So a mechanical friendship on

the other hand is premeditatively arranged.

Organic relationship can be spontaneous.

Are we together? It can be spontaneous, but for

mechanical friendship it is premeditatively Irene and built

on self-centered expectation, self-centered expectation.

So, but the relationship we find between David and Jonathan can

fall easily into the organic kind of friendship because when

you consider these two guys, David and Jonathan ordinarily

and where you base your judgement on social

consideration, Jonathan will not descend low to have a shepherd

boy as his most intimate friend. You know, Jonathan was already a

Prince in the palace. David was a shepherd boy in the

in the wilderness. So ordinarily and where you base

your judgment on social consideration, Jonathan may not

want to descend. No, to have a shepherd boy as

his most intimate friend. Yet nobody can do him into

becoming an intimate friend to David.

And it was not David that made the first move, it was Jonathan

that made the first move to draw David to himself.

So it was an organic kind of friendship that evolved

naturally out of mutual love and respects.

So based on social consideration, Jonathan would

rather hire a David as his servant, maybe to keep the

palace animals and at most because he was a brilliant man.

Maybe as an Amor biara, because Jonathan himself was a fighter.

Praise the name of the Lord, maybe as an Amor biara.

So that is the best you expect if you base the judgment on

social conversation. But the very first day that

Jonathan met Devi, he responded organically to Davis Kill with

respect. That's why I said the best kind

of friendship is one that evolved organically because it

comes with mutual respect. His first response was not to

hire him as a bodyguard, A bouncer or hire him as somebody

who would keep the the family pets.

So it was not taken of Hayari Devi as a bodyguard.

Rather, you respected him as a national hero.

When he saw him carrying the head of Bulayat in his hand, you

respected him as a national hero worthy of his royal room.

We're going to read that scripture again.

We read it last week too. We are he had to remove his own

royal room, OK and place it on on Devi.

And also Debbie responded very well by winning more victory

over the Philistines. And already somebody that keep

Goliath should be fair. They should be able to kill

anybody, including King Saul. Am I talking to somebody?

But he also responded responsibly.

By winning more victories over the Philistine, without ever

contemplating mutiny, without ever contemplating overthrowing

concern, in spite of his power and popularity.

For Samuel 18. For Samuel 18, And it came to

pass when he had made an end of speaking.

Are you from verse one? And it came to pass when he had

made an end of speaking on to soul that the soul of Jonathan

was neat with the soul of Devi. I mentioned to you that

friendship is a relationship that has grown beyond handshake

to happen it. So the soul of Jonathan was made

with the soul of David and Jonathan loved him as his own

soul. Who persuaded Jonathan into that

relationship? Nobody, in spite of the fact

that socially he has David out. Yet there was disrespect that he

accorded David and Saul took him that day.

I will let him go no more home to his father's house.

Then Jonathan and David made the covenant because they love him

as own soul. We are going to see soon that

organic friendship. We start as contacts, not as

contracts, but a mechanical friendship.

We start as contracts and when the contracts end, the

relationship also end, the friendship will also be

dissolved. So as Saul took him that day, I

will not let him go no more home to his to his father's out that

verse 2 of chapter 18. Then Jonathan and David made the

covenant because in love him as his own soul.

So if we start as a contact, not as a contract, praise the name

of the Lord, and from there it will grow into a covenant.

Today you see ministers of the gospel use the word my covenant

friend carelessly. And the same brother he called

his covenant friend, he will backstab the brother.

And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him.

So he replaced his shepherd gown with the royal roof, and gave it

to David, and his garment even to his sword and to his bow, and

to his gadoo. That's fine.

And David went out. We are so ever saw something and

behave himself wisely, not rudely.

And Saab sent him over the men of war and he was accepted in

the sight of all the people and also in the sight of Saul Saban.

You see reciprocation. He never thought of mutiny.

He never thought of exploiting his power, his military prowess

and his popularity with the people to overthrow, to

overthrow king. So.

So we see reciprocation then after the death of Jonathan,

David also did not forget the household of Jonathan.

You know, eventually David rose to become the king and as he was

consolidating on the truth, as he was constituting his cabinet,

he remember his late friend and he brought his son on board.

The people said Second Samuel Chapter 9.

2 Samuel 9 · chapter mention

I take those but one from there for time and they will say is

there yet any that is left of the hours of soul that I may

seem kindness for Jonathan's sake.

So, and I said the idea kind of friendship, the biblical kind of

friendship is a symbiotic kind of relationship where

contribution is from both end, not the situation whereby on one

end that is contribution on the other end, the only thing you

find is consumption. So when it was time for Devi to

also reciprocate in reciprocated.

Well, why? Because in by that spirit I

taught you few weeks ago, the spirit of indebtedness.

That spirit was actively at work in Devi.

He recognized the good that his friend Jonathan did to him as a

loan that must be paid back. So if you are going to be a good

friend, you will not take kindness as your entitlement,

You will take it as a loan. Hello.

Kindness that anybody does to you.

You won't take it as an entitlement.

You will take it what as a loan. That was the kind of spirit that

made David to also get to this one.

I said as I'm constitute my cabinet OK, the family of my

great friend Jonathan must be considered.

And he said is there any that is left of the household of soul

that has I mean seem kindness for Jonathan sake.

So he understood kindness as a law to be paid back.

So organic relationship like I said.

Must not end as a contract, it must continue as a covenant.

When you are into a relationship and issue came up and issue can

easily end relationship including marriage.

I suspect that that relationship, that friendship

OK, has not been able to grow from contact beyond contract to

a covenant level. Am I talking to somebody?

So organic friendship will always start as contacts.

It will grow into a transgenerational covenants.

And may I draw your attention to this?

Distance is never a barrier to an organic relationship.

Promotion is never a barrier to an organic relationship.

What do I mean by distance? It is possible you relocate OK,

and you are no longer together in the same geographical space.

It is not because your friend has located you.

Now begin to shop for another friend.

You will discard that even at a distance.

There will be more anger for yourself, more respect for each

other. So the center applied to

promotion. OK, you were friends together in

the secondary school and then suddenly one get to the

university, the other is not there.

And that is the relationship. It's either the one does not

understand the concept of organic relationship and then

became full of himself and he said I can't go along with you

again. Or the other one who has not

moved ahead became jealous of because of the priority complex

decide to disconnect. So not until you are able to

meet the two of them and study them critically, you may not be

able to know where to please the blame.

It could be one that has move ahead there.

You know, that felt like I'm I'm not too big for this kind of

relationship. It ought to be or sometimes it

could be the other one that is yet to move on that become

jealous or become so imperial and decide to to disconnect.

But for organic kind of relationship, the type that we

found between Jonathan and Debbie, it it eventually grew

from contact went beyond contract to a transgenerational

covenant. It became a transgenerational

covenant is the reason when David got to the truth, he

thought about his little friend and brought the son on board.

Am I talking to somebody? So if distance relocation or

promotion and your friendship, it was never a covenant

relationship that evolved organically.

Thank you Father for the help we have received again this morning

to bring your cancer to your people.

I ask, O Lord, that from this understanding you will help them

to build relationship and friendship that will fulfill

your purpose in the name of Jesus.

I pray in the name of Jesus, in your pursuit of purpose, the

divine presence will not be lacking in Jesus name.

God bless you. So next week we are going to

move to another example. If you are clap to clap it, well

it is for Jesus. Next week we are going to take

on the example of King David, King Iram and King Solomon.

King David, King Hiram and King Solomon.

Next week, Prince, the name of the Lord don't.

Believe in the dark. Get proper understanding of life

through the Word of God. My people perish for lack of

knowledge. The Word of God is an

illumination which gives direction.

Remain placed as Reverend was far alone.

Illuminates your mind with the Word of God with all simplicity

and clarity.