Lessons on Friendship 5 (Trust Management in Friendship l)| Rev. COS Fawenu

Don't be left in the dark. Get proper understanding of life

through the Word of God. My people perish for lack of

knowledge. The Word of God is an

illumination which gives direction.

Remain placed as Reverend was far and illuminates your mind

with the Word of God with all simplicity and clarity.

So the topic. Is lessons of friendship.

We are taking the 5th. Leg and the particular focus for

today is trust management in friendship trust.

Management in friendship permit me if to this message we sound

more like reading out. Poetic lines.

It's most likely that the most significant aspects of the

message today would. Sound more like real loud.

Poetic line And because of that you will have the bigger

responsibility. Of training the court properly.

In order for you to be able to. Break them down for.

Better assimilation. I pray that the Holy Spirit that

has inspired my heart we also. Give you a quick.

Understanding in the name of Jesus, I have just prayed.

In the name of Jesus, now equally I will expect the youth,

the young persons. That are in the house.

To listen more, more attentively, I'm.

Pleased allow what we're going to learn today.

To guide how you conduct. Yourself when the season of.

Valentine arrive in few weeks to come, are you aware of that?

In few weeks to come, the season of.

Valentine will arrive, so please allow some of the things that

I'll be teaching. Today, maybe for two other.

Weeks to guide your condoms. And for the Oasis?

Youth, in particular those of. You who have responsibility of

coordinating the activities of the youth and clearly that the

teenagers church please plan your.

Program and conversations around some of the things that I'll be

sharing with. You when you are planning for

this year. Destiny Earth Seminar It will be

very important that you use this material.

To. Drive conversation around the

issues that I'll be raising in a way that address your peculiar

situation within your. Youth Community.

But then let me also bring this one in.

If you are the. Type that he has messages.

Once. And then you just walk away from

it. This particular message or

sessions is not one of thought. Message is to be.

Treated as such. It's a message that you will

have to stay long on it until you take in the nutrients.

That I need. You will need.

Those nutrients for your spiritual depths.

And. For your.

Emotional maturity. And of course.

For healing too. As the case may be for I know

that. By way of your interaction,

relationship and engaging in. Friendship.

Some of you have suffered. Emotional world, but I guarantee

you in the Holy Ghost. That there is healing in the

house this morning. In the name of Jesus, it's very

possible that some of you may be carrying the odds or the injury

you sustained from misplaced trust.

The topic we are considering is trust management and friendship.

So some of. You may be carrying the odds or

the. Injury you have sustained from

misplacing your trust in a friend if we will be a.

Colleague at work if we will be a pastor in church.

If we be. The A partner.

You are. Trusting the Lord that.

You will get married to. And of course, where you follow

the trend in our society today. Particularly in the church.

Community in Nigeria, the social media.

Is currently at worst with. On hard of stories.

Even from all. Expected quarters, including

from church authors. Many people are presently

bearing the wounds. That are very deep, some life

threatening from broken. Relationship and so on.

And so forth. So today, trust.

Is becoming a major victim into this relationship trust is

becoming a major 50 in. Today's relationship.

It can be very terrible. When you mistake an.

Enemy for a friend you. Expend trust.

On a relationship with somebody that can betray you or even

abuse you. I pray that.

God will give you. Wisdom to manage your trust.

Because that's a. Lot of implication both on your

spirituality. And on your emotional stability?

In case you have ever experienced the.

Injury caused by betrayal or by any other.

Negative issues of. Trust in your relationship as I

bring the word. Of God, this moment.

The Lord will heal your wounds. In the name of Jesus.

I said the Lord. Will heal your wounds.

In the name of Jesus, listen to me and listen.

Good, I have said this before. Maybe I should put it

differently. The first time I said it, I.

Said friendship. Is secret what I mean?

What I meant when I said is that.

Friendship is not cheap friendship.

Is something more than casual Friendship is costly.

Friendship is what is costly. You don't just go into

friendship only to get. And I pray that even where you

will get, you will get the right thing.

Hallelujah, you will get. The right thing.

In the name of Jesus, so you go into friendship.

Also to contribute so. When you are into friendship,

what transfer in? Friendship is both deeply

spiritual and critically. Emotional.

I've said two very important things where you are in

friendship, what transpire between you and your friend is

both deeply spiritual and. Critically emotional, so the.

Effect of friendship is not just transactional.

OK every time I need urgent to key he.

Said urgent to key. I pray that that urgent.

To key. OK, will not become an.

Exchange for your destiny. In the name.

Of Jesus, so the. Effect of.

Friendship is not just transactional, it is

transgenerational. It is transgenerational and we

have studied how. What's the people?

Said inherited profited him. Praise the name of the Lord.

Praise the name of the Lord. And of course, what's Solomon

and King Haram? Inherited profited them, but

it's not always so there are people.

That inherited bitterness and their life that was supposed to

be better. God destroyed.

So friendship is not just transactional, it is

transgenerational. And.

This is the reason I. Pity young persons that think

that sex is. All that relationship is all

about. Pretty young.

People that think sex. Is all that relationship or

friendship is all about. For.

Solomon, yes, inherited a very. Wonderful and good heritage in

his father, but there's a second site to it which I will open

your eyes to before we begin to. Deep dig deeper into the issue

of trust. Solomon did not just inherit the

blessings of relationship. Established by his father,

David, you know, by the time we're studying Iran and.

Solomon OK, we. Were looking at the positive

side of the blessings that Solomon inherited.

Because of the relationship. That he had with Habiba, the

father of King era. It was a very profitable.

One, but may I say to you. Because friendship is not just.

Transactional, but transgenerational, that

sometimes you inherit both the blessing and the body.

You inherit good words, the blessing and the body.

So Solomon did not. Just inherit the blessings.

Of relationship established by his.

Father David equally inherited the.

Body that evolved with them. Let's take our bearing from

First King chapter 2. We'll read the first 2 verses.

We jump to verse 5 and stop on verse 10.

First King chapter 2. Now the days of David Dunner

that he should die. OK.

And you know the point of the death of.

A patriarch. Is also the beginning of.

In inheriting substance. Give that.

Blessing or courses or body? Now the days of David Jonah.

That he should die and the chance Solomon is.

On saying I go. The way of all the Earth.

You thou strong, therefore I'll see you thyself a man.

And then between verse 3 and 5. S 3 and.

Four he was. Talking about wonderful things,

OK. Pleasant inheritances, but from

verse 5 that there's a body. You will also inherited the body

of the wrong. Relationships that I entered and

the battles thereof that I could not finish, you will have.

To take the battle of. I mean to hope I.

Pray in the name of Jesus, you will not.

Inherit the battles of your father's.

That's why I said. Relationship friendship is not

just. Something casual.

It's not just something transactional, it's something

trans generational. Moreover, first wife now knows

also what you have. The son of Ruchiruai did to me.

Wonderful friend, wonderful partner.

You want to. Look at it officially.

OK. Somebody very close to David

you? Want to look at it?

From the family level, somebody. Very close to David and.

What? It did to the 2.

Captains of the Horse of. Israel unto Habner, the son of

Nah. Unto Amasar, the son of Jetta.

Whom is new? And shed the.

Blood of war in peace or the deputy?

O darasi dafi di loro. Solomoni O Madafi de Lugodos

embassy, I pray in the name of Jesus.

You will not inherit the wrong things.

From your parents, in the name of Jesus, so.

Solomon was not the one that has.

Direct relationship with Dua. It was his father, David.

But Joab now has created a trouble for.

David, who we now remedied Who? Will redeem the.

Situation it is Solomon. And that's why I said when it

comes to the translation dimension of.

Relationship that can be a. Transfer of either blessing or

body or boot. So rather than for Solomon to

start on the ground. OK, the.

First assignment he has to do was how?

Will he do a way? And eliminate the wrong

association around the truth. Womb is new and shed the blood.

Of war in peace, and put the blood of war upon.

His ghetto that it was about his loin.

And in his shoe that were on his.

Feet were seized do. Therefore, according to thy

wisdom, and let not his white head go down to the.

Grave in peace now if God did not give.

Solomon, the wisdom on how? To go about it by what the

public knew. About about Joab.

Relationship to David are you with me and.

Solomon does. Come up on the troll.

And started to walk against Doha.

The society we blame Solomon. Do you agree?

Because they were never part of this conversation when his

father was given the instruction that this man that looked like a

good man. OK, it's a bad element in the

system. AM I talking to somebody?

So he inherited, not. Only the blessings of

relationship. That his father engaged in.

He also inherited words. The body, so the.

Point I am pushing very hard is that relationship friendship is

not just transactional, it is also what transgenerational do.

Therefore, account of that wisdom and let Lord is why I had

go down. To the grave in peace.

Imagine Solomon did not apply wisdom, he just had that message

and then the second. Day he make a pronounce a.

Pronouncement he made a decrease.

Go and execute Joab. The old city will rise in opera

against Solomon. Am I talking to somebody?

If you know the. Kind of position.

Joab occupied in the Kingdom and the many battles in fourth.

And the many death secret he helps King David to keep.

When David killed Wire, the husband of Basheba, who has.

Executed it. Who kept the secrets?

Joab verse 7 was still kindness of the of Basila the Galadite

and. Let them be of.

Those that eat at that. Table.

For so they came to me. When I flared because of.

Absalom thy brother. So it's transgenerational.

You inherit. The blessing you also inherit.

Words the body for verse seven. It was the blessing, and behold

now as. With this see me the.

Son of Gira a Benjamin. Of boring.

Which cost me with a grievous course in the day.

When I went to Mahinhal. But he came.

Down to meet me at the Jordan and I swear to him by the law

saying I will not. Put it to death with the sword.

From here, David is proving to be a very delicate father.

Very what delicate father? You understand better as I push

the teaching further, setting up his son.

To inherit his enemy. Yes, the man offended him.

The man came and. Pleaded and he.

Pretended that it is all over but he's about to die and he say

I am transferring. The man to you, go and deal with

him. So if you are not a wise son.

OK. You will not enjoy your whole

life. You'll be dealing with the.

Problem created by your parent. Problem of relationship created

by your parent. Now, therefore.

Hold him more, not ruthless. For thou and a wise man, and

knowest what thou want us to. Do unto him but his.

Warhead bring down down. To the grave with blood.

Yet the mission that Solomon had.

To fulfil. Is the mission that was

accomplished with a hand that is not guilty of?

Blood. David was to build the temple,

but God said you will not build the temple.

Because your hand is. Full of words, blood and was not

even careful that now this assignment to build the temple

has been transferred to. Solo mode, he's also trying to

say. Put.

Blood in your hand. If not for grace and wisdom,

will Solomon be able to build the?

Temple, now that his father is. Also making him to begin.

To. Shed blood.

Set him up to to to shed blood. You see, this life is deeper

than we. Take it AM.

I talking to somebody. So Davis left with his father.

Own Barcelona I was. Buried.

In the city of Davie. So from here.

We can deduce that the chief. Problem of some people is.

Not from the friend they. Made, but from the friends they

inherited all these. People that his father was

handing. Over to him to deal.

With OK. On the surface, they were

friends of his father. Are you with me?

But at the 2nd loop, by virtue of certain things that happen.

In the course of their. Relationship.

They were actually enemies. To David and David.

Did not have the boldness to confront them and deal with

them. So, Solomon.

Was likable. He was just starting his

Kingdom. Everyone respected.

Him. Are you with me?

But now his father is saying inherit my enemy.

So if you are not wise. To take charge of your own

destiny, you will quality in needless enemies.

That will require you well. To hold on to.

Past grievances and stereotypes. So the enemy.

Of my father must be my enemy, the enemy.

Of my mother must be my enemy, the enemy.

Of my uncle must be my enemy. You inherit needless enemy.

That will. Feel obligated to take side.

Or seek revenge. So you feel obligated to either

take. Side or seek revenge.

Revenge. For what?

Revenge for offences? That were not committed against

you and that's the way many of you are living your life.

The trouble you bring upon yourself, OK, We're not your own

trouble. Like just inheriting or that.

People's enemy, So you. Equally inherit needless enemy.

That will require you to. Let or allow historical

conflicts dictate present relationship.

All this. Trouble that David was putting.

Solomon. Into were historical conflicts

historical conflicts how? So so you how it?

Happen even among communities. Hello community to.

Community historical conflict that does.

Not have anything. To do with you new generation I.

Will take it upon yourself. So, historical conflicts.

With dictates of pressure relationship.

They are not wise. You will narrate needless

enemies that will require you to allow the weight of history and

emotions that are passed down to influence present dynamics.

Negatively, which ought not to be.

And of course. In your own.

Innocence. As a matter of fact, there are

people. Who hate you simply because you?

Fail to inherit their enemies you know there are uncles that

we. Hate you simply because.

You did not inherit. This enemy.

There are Royals, fathers who we have to simply because we don't

inherit their enemy. Am I talking to somebody when

they are allowed to? Say no more, Shakini.

When I say this, I am. Speaking from the point of.

Personal experience because I have observed it, I have

experienced it. There are people who we

personally. Call me, I said of.

Course, we love you. You're a wonderful brother.

We love your messages. You are a man of integrity.

We will appreciate your leadership and capacity.

But this your political friends? And I asked them.

What is your business with my? Political friend, how have they

offended you? Because of what?

People are saying about them we don't expect you to gravitate

towards them and they were not the one.

Who called me Are you? With me, they don't understand

my own mandates. Am I?

Talking to somebody. And if I were not wise, I was

stupidly inherit their so-called and.

So there are many quarters where enemies are available for

inheritance. There are many quarters where

enemies are available for inheritance.

Let me point to some of them in the family setting, particularly

in the polygamous room. Press the.

Name of the Lord God. Has lifted your step brother and

is in a. Position to help you.

But because your mother didn't love your stepbrother.

OK. Even when your stepbrother.

Is innocent. You also inherit.

Him as your enemy from your mother rather than be a

peacemaker and set to the issue now that you are a child of God

even though you come from a polygamous room.

Seek for peace. Don't have to be problem.

You will need wisdom to do it. May the Lord grant you wisdom

you will need discernment to. Do it.

With regard to discernment in the name of Jesus.

If you will allow those. People to walk or you don't sit

down one day why am I actually fighting on why am I fighting

sister so you've got this problem should not be there all

because on both sides you have. Decided to inherit your.

Mothers or fathers? Am I talking to somebody and

there are fathers like Baby? OK, we will not deal.

With their. Problem.

They will transfer them. To you the way, David.

Was transferring those things to Solomon Neighborhood is another

quarters where enemies are available for inheritance.

In the neighborhood. You just discover that in the

neighborhood, the person you. Gravitate to us does not.

Like the other neighbor and that other neighbor has not done

anything wrong to you, but this other person draw you.

Close. So that you can join.

Hand. To fight the other person you do

have even the place of work. Then community to community

press the name of the law, the patriarchs of the community that

had issues among them, they are long dead and long gone.

OK, and for no reason. OK, you just vow.

I cannot marry from that town. OK.

Why can't you marry from that town?

That community, That our community.

Were never friends. In the 21st century.

He's got talking to somebody. Ditto for tribe and then

political enemies. Hello, you are not a politician.

Are you with me? But you hate.

Article more than OB OK. Who was once a running mate of

article who may probably work. Again with article in the

future. Am I talking to somebody?

Just wake up and. Face your own.

Destiny so I can go on and on and on sighting platforms where

enemies are Boku for inheritance and only those who are not wise,

OK, we'll be inheriting other people's enemy.

So friendship where you understand.

Stand it. For the background of maturity

and mental sanity, it is more about personal trust.

Mutual good. Than about primordial.

Sentiments. Are you with me?

So there's a need. For you to reorientate.

Yourself about friendship, that friendship.

Should not be about primordial. Sentiments.

Don't pick a friend. Based on primordial sentiment

and don't make somebody. Your enemy based.

On primordial sentiment, friendship, if you understand it

properly from the background of maturity and mental sanity, it

is more about personal trust. Can I trust this person and if I

gravitate towards this person? Can there be mutual good?

So from the background of maturity and mental sanity,

friendship is more about personal trust, mutual good and

has nothing to do or should have nothing to do with the model

settlements. Let's consider a few phases of

the scripture that deals with issue of.

Friendship and. Why trusts should drive

friendship Proverb 1824 A man that had friends must see

himself friendly, and there is a friend that sticketh closer than

a brother. If the Lord will help you.

And you will choose where. You will discover that you will

not just have fear whether people around you that will only

be there. To help you lick the finger.

Of oil, let me put it Italian, like that, Waste said among my.

People will always put. The Araya Vanilla Vanilla tea.

Again, OK. That's when there is.

Only on your finger to. Lick There are people around.

You to come and lick. It but if it is a blood they run

away from you. Praise the name of the Lord now.

So if you will. Go into friendship and

relationship. Well guided and your friendship

is not driven by primordial sentiments such as I have

highlighted. You will discover that.

You will be in a. Position to be a good.

Friend, you can attract good people.

More often than not, your. Friend is a reflection of who

you are you will always attract your time.

Am I talking to somebody so a man that had friend must see

himself friendly and as a friend that stick it closer than a

brother. Proverb 27 five and six open

review is better than secret love so which means where your

friend is to see based on trust and not on primordial sentiment,

you will discover that the. Boldness, even your

relationship. Not sacrificing.

A true friend. OK, we'll.

Be able. To stand up to you.

And say my friend, on this matter we will not agree because

you are wrong. Are you with me SO.

Open rebuke is better than secret love.

I will be able to. Trust your friend, OK even.

When by error by wrong. Judgments.

It did something. To you, that is not pleasing.

OK, you will take it as. Open a book.

Which is better than what? Secrets love because some people

will claim. To love you but they.

Will not be able to stand up and be open to defend you.

Are you with me? A good.

Friend OK will be able. To stand up.

Against you where? You are wrong in the public.

And then? It will also be able.

To stand up to support. You where you are to be

rubbished? Am I talking to somebody?

You will be balanced. Hopeful rebuke is better than

secret law. Verse 6.

Proverbs 27. Faithful are the wounds.

Of a friend now. Before you will be able.

To. Operate friendship at that

level. Trust must exist.

What do I say must exist trust, faithful are the wounds of a.

Friend, but the kisses. Of our enemy are deceitful, I

often. Leave you to pray.

I don't know whether you take. That prayer seriously, that in

your relationship you will not mistake deception.

For reception that day when Judas.

Came. OK.

I. Didn't come with a hot.

Slap. On the cheek of Jesus, but it

came with a. Gentle kiss.

That was a deception, and there are many.

People like that, OK, And if you are not wise, you will mistake

deception for? What reception 1717 of Proverbs?

A friend love it at all time, and a brother is born for

adversity. A friend loves at all time.

When things are going well with you is there.

When it is the other way around, is what is there.

So what is it that can make you? Have such kind of friendship

because among all that levels of relationship, friendship is.

Top notch, hello. Friendship is what is top notch.

There are deep things that your friend will know.

About you that your. Friend may not be aware of.

Am I talking to somebody? Except you make your wife your

friend. There are deep things.

A friend. Outside will know about you that

your wife may. Not know Detroit or husband am I

talking to somebody and that's why.

Even my relationship, if it is not addressed to the level of

friendship, it's just. My husband and my wife.

It has limitation. Our Lord Jesus Christ when he

was relating. With his disciple it was.

A master disciple relationship. But it got.

To a point, Say at this point I no longer call you my disciple,

I call you my friends. You rested to level.

What friendship? So what makes friendship so

exceptional among? Other levels.

Of. Interpersonal relationship is

trust. Trust must initiate friendship.

Don't gamble with your destiny. Don't call somebody your friends

that you cannot trust. Any claim to friendship without

trust is for school. Any claim to friendship without.

Trust is what's for school. It is self delusional.

To claim to be in. Friendship with a person that.

Cannot trust you. You are deceiving yourself.

If you take for a friend, somebody.

That cannot trust you and then on your part too, it is

fraudulent to. Claim or pretend to be a.

Friend in the recess of the war to.

A person you do not trust. Oh, my covenant friend.

And acetone is by yeah. Yeah.

Am I talking to somebody? It's fraudulent on your part.

That you cannot trust somebody. And you say that person.

Is your friend and of. Course it is delusional.

If you take for a friend. Somebody that you know very

clearly that this person don't trust me, of course I said there

are other levels of relationship it's.

OK, to be a partner. It's OK to be a recruiters to

anyone but to. Call the relationship pressive

trust must be staked. Hello to call somebody a friend.

Trust must be invested, and from both sides.

It's not just I. Trust you don't trust me it.

Must be about I trust you and you do what?

You trust. Me so essentially trust.

Is the soul of friendship trust? Is what the soul of friendship?

The focus is trust management. That's what we're looking at

today. But somebody would say.

If you are saying trust. In the soul of friendship.

How about love so we are trust in the soul of.

Friendship, love is. Its backbone.

Love is what? The backbone of friendship, but

before you talk. About love, you must first talk

about trust. It is trust that gives life to

friendship. What gives life to friendship?

Trust and that is why friendship is expensive, emotionally

expensive because if you have. Gone all through.

The road to the point of no return, I discovered.

That trust is not there. You'll be devastated.

Am I talking to somebody so trust give life to friendship

where there is no. Trust friendship does.

Not. Exist.

You will be calling it friendship, OK, but it's not.

Friendship where there is no trust, Friendship does not

exist. For love, love only coordinates.

And sustain what trust commenced.

Hello. Trust, we commence it.

Trust with. Triguide are you with me?

You will not bring in love to. Coordinate and to sustain it.

So in the contest of friendship, I carry.

God beg you, brothers and sisters, fathers and mothers,

children and mentees, I carry. God beg you in the.

Contest of friendship you must trust.

Before you love and nowadays. OK, when you are thinking about

who to marry, OK, jokingly we say you want to do sushi before

you do sushi. Are you with me?

Before you do, sister, will you do?

Before you say brother. I would do.

Trust. Before you love.

And that's why I have. Pleaded with you that.

In the course of the programs you are going to be having

during the Valentine's season, let's what I am teaching you

now, from the center of your discussion, go and beat it.

Go and talk. About it, but you will.

Discover that at the end of the day, what I'm saying is a

Destiny protective mask is what? A Destiny protective mask.

In the context of friendship, you must trust before you what?

You love if you put. Love.

Ahead of the convincing. And a reasonable ground for.

Trust emotions will take over. That's where it's delicate.

To put love ahead of. Trust once you allow love.

To take the lead before you have.

A convincing and. Reasonable ground for trolls.

Emotions will take over there. You are going to.

Become dull. To signals of betrayal.

That's why they say love is blind.

Hello. That's why they say what love.

Is blind. It means that love had that

capacity. To make you dull.

To signals of betrayal. Even when the person is

intentionally doing. You evil, you love.

Will make you generate justification for it.

Am I talking to somebody? So.

And the reason you must hear this advice is because

friendship with past emotion. Friendship with Demand your

emotion Friendship with Tap from your emotion Friendship with.

Drain your emotion I. Mentioned to you in the course

of previous studies that emotion.

Is part of the capital or the major capital you pay to sustain

friendship? But I beg you.

Emotion must not be the. First Capital you will invest.

First invest intellect before you invest emotion.

Years back I taught you here that a man that will.

Give a room in your. Heart must pass through the.

Corridor of your mind. Am I talking to somebody?

A man? A woman.

That will give a room in your. Heart, because your heart is the

seat of emotion once it gets to your heart.

Recently suspended. Are you with me?

So therefore a man. That will occupy a permanent

room. A woman.

That will occupy a permanent room in your heart as a friend

must first pass through. The corridor of your.

Mind there? You'll be able to interview

there. You'll be able.

To check, there you'll be. Able to assess sincerity of

purpose, so friendship with tax emotion.

Don't allow emotion to be the. First, capital you interest, you

invest into friendship. Why?

Because trust is so expensive that.

It must not be. Invested outside deep

intellectual considerations. Don't invest trust outside deep

intellectual consideration. You must come the course.

You must do what? Did you hear what I said last?

You must do what you can the 'cause that's what you do when

you are taking that person through the corridor of your

mind before you open the door of your heart.

So you must count the 'cause. You must be convinced.

That the long term. Benefits outweigh the emotional.

And other. Demand you will cure.

In the cause of friendship goods.

And that is why I advocate very strongly.

I recommend very strongly. I advise very strongly.

Maybe I command you or commend you that friendship must not be

rushed. Friendship must not be what?

Rushed. It will be allowed to evolve,

that's why I classify. Friendship to you.

As both organic and mechanic, mechanic and I recommend to you

the organic type of friendship. Because the organic one will.

Evolve. It will take time, it will pass

through natural processes. It cannot be manipulated, it

cannot be organized. So let's.

Your friendship be more. Organic than mechanical don't

force. It with.

Oaths and emotional outbursts. Many of you are forcing.

It if truly. You are my friend.

If you truly, you will. Marry me.

Let's let's let's. Enter Covenant.

That's mechanical. It's not organic.

Am I talking to somebody and they can come with them?

Monique Calle, you are setting yourself up for betrayal.

You are forcing it. You are harassing it.

There are some of you you are using.

Your your your. Feminine nature, OK of being

able to easily breakdown in the motion, OK to force it and then

reminds not interested. But the way you always.

Cry on him. Cry on.

Him, you'll be feeling guilty. And if I leave, it's not going

to be. Good and.

Then the person is going on, not on that, not on that empathy,

but it's going on that same party.

I think I should. Repeat by saying friendship.

Must not be rushed. It will be allowed to evolve.

Let's be more organic than mechanical.

Don't force it with oats. And emotional abuse.

And of course, why do? You need to take oats as a child

of God. If you must wear and go through

aquatic ritual to sustain friendship, then there's.

No soul. Born.

Born out of trust in it, if there is trust.

Are you with me? You will not have to.

Go through that process of occultic ritual to sustain the

friendship. And of course.

Such is not. Love if you do it.

Rather, I call it self-inflicted bondage.

Self-inflicted words. Bondage.

Because we have to go. On OK even when all the signals

are there that you should not continue.

But because the moment you came together, you do blood boots.

What is people teach us is let your years.

Be yes, your no is no. Anything outside that is saying

that is dividing. Am I talking to somebody?

We are looking at the topic trust management in friendship

and these are the deep things. Of relationship beyond Who do I

marry? I don't want anybody tomorrow to

hear and say even in Oasis they don't teach us a marriage

seminar. What marriage seminar can be

more than this? If you are put your heart to

what we are teaching you. Am I talking to somebody?

So whether private blood oath? Before any shrine or anything

like that, they are on unhurriedly on Christian.

Let your years be. Yes.

Anything otherwise is a sin. I feel tempted to stop, but it's

important. So that we have the.

Correct. Flu.

But I will come back. Next week to also let you know

this, when I say don't rush it, I must say friendship cannot be

spontaneous. Hello, I'm not saying friendship

cannot be. Spontaneous.

I'm not saying it. Cannot be loved.

At first sight. It can be but its.

Growth must not be sporadic. Love can be spontaneous.

But the growth of it. Must not be sporadic.

That's why I said don't trust it so when it occurs.

To you when it comes. To your mind OK when you see

that? Brother.

When you see that person. And your heart is warm.

Towards that person, I'm not. Saying cut it off or perish the

thoughts. Allow the thoughts.

Are you with me? But don't let the growth be

sporadic. Let's.

Whatever. Click.

At first sight have time to go allow.

For you to truly flourish. Let there be some intentional

effort demonstrated, and let there be consistency.

So friendship can be spontaneous.

But its. Group must not be sporadic, it

can just click. At four sides.

But for you to truly. Flourish.

There needs to be some. Intentional efforts and

consistency, so the growth of love and.

Friendship must not be like random and all over the place.

Sarcophagic dripping stones where somebody is just take

managing it. OK, the person is all around

you. When the when the friends are

there. But the same person.

Can slap you in the secrets. When I know AM.

I talking to somebody. So when we are talking about

trust, we are not saying trust is not abstracts.

We are not. Saying trust is something that

you will see and. Say it is white.

Gray or yellow in colour? So trust may not be totally

proofable empirically, but let it stand on a rational

reasonable. Ground I live for Julie.

Hello. But when it is there, you know

that it is there if you don't suspend your.

Brain if you don't suspend. Your mind?

Am I talking to somebody? Deception is not too difficult

to discover. The moment you don't put.

Love ahead of trust am I talking to?

Somebody it will be very easy for you to.

Detect deception when you. Put love ahead of trust.

It. Will not allow for rational.

Evidence, but when it is. Trust it will be.

Based on convincing grounds that can serve as regulator.

For over boiling love. Love can be over boiling.

Are you with me? But.

When trust is there, it is trust and the elements of trust, the

casualties of trust. OK.

The things that trust does will serve as regulator for over

boiling love so that the moment. You say there is love there,

particularly romantic love. And at the.

End of the day, there is trust deficiency.

Run for your dear life. If your boiling love will not.

Lead to emotional. Bonds, trust must be established

before love is suspended. The same thing I said before is

what I'm saying. Again in a different way as we

close. That if.

You're boiling, love will not. Lead to emotional bonds.

Trust must be established before love is suspended.

Trust is the core, the essence of friendship, while love, like

I said earlier, is the backbone. Love is the backbone, providing

structure and support trust. Give friendship its depths.

Hello friendship. Has depths where there is trust.

If there is no trust and only love.

Is shallow trust. Give friendship in death and

love. Give.

It stability and strength. I am not saying.

Don't love, are you with me so. What I allow trust?

To. Give your friendship depths

then. Long without setting.

To give it stability. And strength.

And of course, it is not one without the other.

That is the balance. It is not one the other.

Sometimes it's a solution of the egg and the chicken.

I want to see which one comes first.

You see the egg or the chicken intentionally.

OK, allow trust. To take the lead, God.

Bless you, I say. God bless you in Jesus name.

It's a. Flow.

That I will I. Will not want to.

To break but I have to so it is in the same light we are going

to. Continue next week.

I said about older people, we are doing damage control about

younger people. You have opportunity to set it

right. Praise the name of the Lord.

God bless you in Jesus name. We believe you'll be blessed by

the ministry of this message. You will do well to be the doer

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