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Lessons on Friendship 6 (How To Manage Trust & Regulate Love in Friendship) | Rev. COS Fawenu

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  1. Don't be left in the dark. Get proper understanding of life

  2. through the Word of God. My people perish for lack of

  3. knowledge. The Word of God is an

  4. illumination which gives direction.

  5. Remember, place as Reverend goes far and illuminates your mind

  6. with the Word of God with all simplicity and clarity.

  7. Welcome back to The Cave of Truth excavation, because as I

  8. reflect on how the Holy Spirit has been leading us in the last

  9. three weeks, we have actually been going beyond just sharing

  10. revelation about friendship. Rather we have been doing

  11. excavation of eating truth about relationship in general.

  12. I don't know whether you took notes of that we have been doing

  13. or what we have been doing in the last six weeks.

  14. It's not just sharing revelation about friendship, but rather we

  15. have been doing excavation of hidden truth about relationship

  16. in general. So turn to your neighbor NIA of

  17. our Pharaohs say welcome back to The Cave of excavation.

  18. And I guarantee you that today promises attaining another

  19. deeper level of excavation of Kingdom mystery.

  20. And may the Lord quicken your understanding to receive the

  21. hard truth that will help your destiny in the name of Jesus.

  22. I have just prayed and I can hear that woman aligning with us

  23. in the spirit. I say may the Lord quicken your

  24. understanding to receive the truth that will help your

  25. destiny in the name of Jesus. So we are not just digging for

  26. water, we are digging for trails.

  27. We are digging for trail and today we are going deeper.

  28. Tell somebody we are going deeper.

  29. Now before we lay our finger on the focus for today, it's

  30. important that we do equip review of the concluding parts

  31. of last week's study. Last week's study, if you

  32. examine it critically, it was a two in one session.

  33. The first session we examine our law to inherit enemies and that

  34. eventually drove till into the second session where we commence

  35. a study on trust management in friendship, trust management in

  36. person. And we have to do that part

  37. because a mind that is be clouded with sentiments cannot

  38. love correctly. When your mind is be clouded

  39. with sentiments, you will not be able to love correctly.

  40. So love, which is the adhesive that bind people together in

  41. friendship. Do you know that you know what

  42. an adhesive is? Gum.

  43. The adhesive that bind people together in friendship is love.

  44. But where your mind is be clouded with sentiment, you will

  45. not be able to love correctly. And that was the reason we

  46. before we start to look at trust management in friendship, we

  47. first examine the subject of you not inheriting your neighbor's

  48. enemy. Why love can only thrive and

  49. friendship can only flourish where trust is genuine.

  50. Where trust is what's genuine in any form of relationship.

  51. Once trust is wounded, love will be damaged.

  52. Once trust is wounded. Once trust is affected

  53. negatively, love will be damaged.

  54. The way you preserve love is by protecting trust.

  55. Once trust is wounded, I said love will be damaged.

  56. If you want to preserve love, the assignment you must commit

  57. yourself to is to protect trust. So you preserve love by

  58. protecting trust. And I did mention very

  59. emphatically, and I explained the concept properly, that

  60. friendship is the highest level of interpersonal relationship.

  61. Friendship is the highest level of interpersonal relationship

  62. OK, when even when you are married are your spouse is not

  63. your friend, you don't make it a point of duty to make your

  64. spouse your friend. You will discover that you will

  65. see share intimacy with others get that is deeper than the why

  66. you are with your spouse. Am I talking with to somebody?

  67. So friendship, been the highest level of interpersonal

  68. relationship, must be built on trust.

  69. It must be built awards trust. There is no security for love

  70. where trust is missing. When trust is not there, your

  71. love is not secure. So there is no security for love

  72. where trust is absent. Then, among many other issues

  73. that were raised last week for consideration, I equally stated

  74. the following poetic lines for your meditation.

  75. I'll quickly run over them before we start to engage the

  76. focus for today. I did mention that what makes

  77. friendship so exceptional among different levels of

  78. interpersonal relationship is trust.

  79. You can have an accuters, OK, You just relate at the platonic

  80. level and at that, at that platonic level, your mind is

  81. actually not there. Your mind is prepared for any

  82. damage that may come. Are you with me?

  83. But once you call it friendship, trust must be there.

  84. So and it is that trust that makes it exceptional, that makes

  85. it the chief of all forms of interpersonal relationship.

  86. And I did mention that when we talk about this trust thing, OK,

  87. is it a colour thing that we will be able to describe by its

  88. colour? Is it a matter that we will be

  89. able to describe it by its weights?

  90. Are we able to now put it into calculation?

  91. I said this is the mass was you can was it way this particular

  92. wait there you'll be able to say it is excellent or less than

  93. excellent. Am I talking to somebody?

  94. So trust still exists in the abstract realm.

  95. So it's not totally provable empirically.

  96. And I think that was what made one of you to ask that question

  97. last week, that if we say trust must precede love, for how long

  98. will love with until we are sure that trust exists before we dive

  99. into the ocean? Praise the name of the Lord.

  100. Yes, trust may not be totally provable, provable empirically,

  101. but it must be standing on a rational and reasonable ground.

  102. I will not be able to describe the colour.

  103. I will not be able to describe the texture.

  104. OK, but where it exists there are certain characteristics that

  105. will be present that will convince you that trust is here

  106. and when it is not there, you will also be able to say trust

  107. is absent. So your trust must be standing

  108. on the rational and reasonable ground.

  109. You don't assume it. You know what?

  110. Assume it. You must experience it.

  111. And I pray in the name of Jesus the Lord will give you faithful

  112. friends. You will not fall into the hand

  113. of those who will deceive you and destroy you in the name of

  114. Jesus. So love on the other hand,

  115. different from trust, may not allow for rational evidence.

  116. But trust must be built on rational evidence for love,

  117. because it's an emotional thing. It may not allow for rational

  118. evidence, but trust must be based on convincing grounds.

  119. That can serve as a regulator for over boiling love.

  120. Love can over boil Hello. Love can do what it's over boil

  121. and we have to be regulated so but we are trust is not does not

  122. precede it. You will not have the capacity

  123. to regulate love from over boiling.

  124. So if you're boiling love therefore will not lead to

  125. emotional bonds. Trust must be established before

  126. love is expended. Trust must be established before

  127. you start to expand love. Love is like a capital you bring

  128. into your social business. Do you know friendship is the

  129. social business. Hello, Friendship is what a

  130. social business. So at the capital you bring

  131. there to treat which is love. So before you start to now

  132. expand the love, throw in the love, OK, you must be so sure

  133. that trust is there. So if you're boiling, love will

  134. not lead to emotional bonds. Trust must be established before

  135. love is expended in the social capital markets of love.

  136. So when we talk about trust, it is the core, It is the essence

  137. of friendship. Love, on the other hand, is the

  138. backbone. Love is providing structure and

  139. supports. Love is providing structure and

  140. supports. But the core, the essence of

  141. friendship is what is trust. So it is trust that give

  142. friendship its depths. Friendship not built on trust is

  143. starting on a shallow ground. Friendship not built on trust is

  144. standing on what shallow ground so but when trust is there, the

  145. friendship will be deep. So it is trust that give

  146. friendship its depths. What what?

  147. What love does is to give it stability and strengths.

  148. So you establish the depth of love by trust.

  149. Then when you bring in love, it will give it stability and

  150. strength. So essentially it is not one

  151. without the order. So they must go hand in hand

  152. simultaneously. Of course, the the rhetorical

  153. question will always exist which one should precede the order.

  154. Sometimes it's a situation of the egg and the chicken.

  155. You see the chicken that comes before the egg or the egg that

  156. comes before the chicken. So by the time you hug you for

  157. the chicken, you eventually discover that without anybody

  158. telling you, you also have to hug you for the egg.

  159. Praise the name of the Lord or which one confess the chicken or

  160. the egg. If you say the chicken, you said

  161. the chicken come before the the egg, OK, or the egg came before

  162. the chicken. So that's the way trust and love

  163. relates sometimes. So this week we are going to

  164. focus on how to manage trust. How to manage trust and regulate

  165. love and friendship. Since the two of them must

  166. coexist for friendship to be deep and stable.

  167. Trust we give its depths, love we give it stability.

  168. So for friendship to be deep and stable, both must be present.

  169. How do you now manage trust and how do you regulate love and

  170. friendship for love? Love is desperately impulsive.

  171. Love will not ask for your permission before it will start

  172. to lead you. Affair by a beauty.

  173. Do you understand what I'm talking about?

  174. So love is desperately impossible.

  175. And that is why I want to argue that trust must precede love,

  176. especially when we're talking about friendship that may

  177. eventually leave to marriage. So love is desperately

  178. impossible. It is more extremely expensive

  179. when it is supported by a form of trust that is merely

  180. speculated and not properly calculated.

  181. You want me to explain that I said love is desperately

  182. impossible? It will not ask for your

  183. permission before it starts to drive you gay, sometimes not

  184. even wise. You can drive.

  185. You can drive you much? Am I talking to somebody there?

  186. It will not become more extremely expensive, very

  187. costly, when it is supported by a form of trust that is merely

  188. speculated and not properly calculated.

  189. Remember, I already established the fact that in friendship both

  190. trust and love must cohabit. They must exist.

  191. While we give it depth, the other we give it stability.

  192. But love will be outside your control.

  193. You can control trust and that is why you must not play with

  194. the form of love that is supported by a trust that is

  195. merely speculated. He, just as you, is honest, is

  196. sincere. You don't make deliberate or

  197. intentional effort to prove the trust.

  198. Am I talking to somebody? So love is extremely expensive

  199. when it is supported by a form of trust that is merely

  200. speculated and not properly calculated.

  201. So nobody should therefore experiments with friendship,

  202. with a trust that is merely speculated and not properly

  203. calculated. Even the lover boy King Solomon,

  204. you know, King Solomon, the lover boy King Solomon, in spite

  205. of his gyration, in spite of his Randy nature, you know he's a

  206. very Randy personality. In spite of his Randy

  207. personality, he was still careful enough to identify the

  208. dangers associated with the impulsive nature of love.

  209. You already agree with me that love could be desperately

  210. impulsive and King Solomon so and the man in spite of that was

  211. take careful enough to identify the dangers that are associated

  212. with the impossible nature of love in Songs of Songs.

  213. Songs of Solomon, chapter 2 and 7, chapter 3 and 5, the same

  214. verse, I mean the same text was repeated verbatim in those two

  215. verses. Chapter 7 of verse 2, Song of

    Song of Solomon 5:3

  216. Songs, Chapter 5, verse 3 of I mean verse 7 of chapter 2 and

  217. verse 5 of chapter 3 said, I charge you, Oh yeah, daughters

  218. of Jerusalem, by the rules and by the ends of the fee that you

  219. steer not all nor awake my love till he please, till the

  220. safeguards are put in place, till the boundaries are

  221. established. Please don't wake up my love

  222. because once you wake it up it will be outside my control.

  223. I have had Doctor Bob tell young people here severally don't warm

  224. the Oval when you are not ready to big.

  225. Hello. Don't warm the Oval when you are

  226. not ready to do all to big. Because you warm the Oval, you

  227. are not ready to big the Oval. You overheats by the time you

  228. put in. You do if you get bonds.

  229. Am I talking to somebody? So it's almost the same thing

  230. that King Solomon was saying in his poem Here I tell you, your

  231. daughters of Jerusalem, you daughters of Jerusalem, close

  232. your cleavage. You daughters of Jerusalem, stop

  233. wearing trousers, OK? That depicts all the contours in

  234. your body. Don't wake up, my love, because

  235. you may tempt me to rape you. Let's put it wrong that way.

  236. Am I talking to somebody because I know myself?

  237. You know, I put myself in the position of Kintulu now because

  238. I know myself by the time I almost go right or now, I can do

  239. anything. But today we behave even in

  240. church as if these things are not real.

  241. Love can be desperately words and proceed until the safeguards

  242. are in place. OK don't jump into it until you

  243. can trust that brother that he will treat you like his own

  244. blood Sister don't start courtship because that's the

  245. Bible recommendation. When he was talking to is it

  246. titles or apropos Paul was writing either titles or or

  247. Timothy. How is to relate with different

  248. age groups in the church. He said for the young women,

  249. treat them as your sisters. Love is an is an Oval with

  250. emotion as it's fire. You know, an Oval that use for

  251. baking. So love is an Oval with emotion

  252. as it's fire. The fire that born in the Oval

  253. of love is what emotion so and if that fire is not regulated if

  254. we born any food place in it. I pray you will not get your

  255. destiny destroyed on the platform of relationship in the

  256. name of Jesus. And so the reason you must put

  257. trust ahead of love is because trust is easier managed.

  258. Love is difficult to regulate. Trust is easier managed but love

  259. is difficult to regulate. Why love is emotional?

  260. Why trust is rational? Love is emotional, but trust is

  261. what rational You. You can subject trust to

  262. intellectual query. We almost that control love will

  263. not allow you to be reasonable. That's why they say love is

  264. blind. Hello.

  265. It doesn't mean that love is not seen.

  266. Love is seen, but love will not allow you to reason.

  267. Hello, are you with me? The truth about love is that

  268. love by Cuba even for parents when you are raising your

  269. children, the one that you have emotional attachment to OK, you

  270. condo certain things that organization not condo and then

  271. all that people will be seen. It's be you do baby or you and

  272. that's why when they tell me Emma kill me I came by gay OK,

  273. they are telling me you fare anything back back go back.

  274. Am I talking to somebody? Emma Keo Mauniya came back the

  275. trust of Winnipeg. He failed.

  276. Second, you put him by back Uber.

  277. Because love is emotional. But for trust, trust cannot

  278. happen without a decision to give it.

  279. Hello, are you with me? When he trust the one, so you

  280. take a deliberate or intentional decision to either give it or

  281. not give it. So I'm trying to establish the

  282. reason why I continue to advocate that trust must precede

  283. love. Don't throw your love on

  284. somebody you cannot trust. Economic Padilla City no any

  285. form of scrutiny, no any form of due diligence and then you are

  286. already swimming in the ocean of love or do any will be alone.

  287. Lord congestion Abdami or do you feel if, if, if, if, if, if if

  288. we all know it's got talking to somebody.

  289. So trust cannot happen without your decision to give it because

  290. its in your, its in your pocket to control.

  291. So before trust can happen, you wear the evidence.

  292. You want to see the evidence. Before trust can happen, you

  293. consider the risk to reach a conclusion.

  294. Love, hello love may not take calculated risk, but trust will

  295. not accept all reasonable risk. So what is the biggest

  296. difference there? The biggest difference here is

  297. that you can control trust, but love control you.

  298. You can control trust, but love controls you.

  299. So for trust, it is something you can choose to give or you

  300. can choose to withhold it. Trust Apple under the atmosphere

  301. of conscious decision, conscious words.

  302. Decision for love, on the other hand, is awful.

  303. In for lamprey, love can sweep you off your feet to the degree

  304. that you can't control who you fall for or how you feel.

  305. Love can be that impossible. Love can be that arrogance.

  306. Hello. Are you with me?

  307. Love is good, OK? But love does also respect your

  308. intellect. It doesn't respect who you fall

  309. for. I mean, doesn't control.

  310. It will control who you fall for.

  311. It will also control how you feel.

  312. So. If you want to put it

  313. differently, you will say trust is like a gate that you open or

  314. close, but love is the floor that comes to Rossi in I'm

  315. pushing the gates and when floor comes, OK except you channel the

  316. floors, it will flow everywhere. You can even enter your bedroom.

  317. Am I talking to somebody? So you must put trust in place,

  318. OK, as the channel, OK, that will control the flood of laws.

  319. So that's why I keep on emphasizing again today the way

  320. I did last week, that law should be invested into where trust is

  321. suspected. The reason I use the word

  322. suspected is because I already told you that it is still

  323. abstract. You cannot empirically prove it

  324. please the name of the law, but you must be able to suspect that

  325. trust is here. I know the way this one is

  326. saying I am. I am in Lagos, OK, And what I'm

  327. seeing on my phone is releasing. Am I talking to somebody?

  328. Are you saying it's trustworthy, it's likeable?

  329. It's likeable and it's lying to you.

  330. If you allow a man that is lying to you to lie on you,

  331. so law, take it and walk by it, run your destiny by it.

  332. Love to be invested into only where trust is suspected.

  333. So don't expect trust suspected. Lay your hands on the signal

  334. that trust is present before you open the lid of your emotion.

  335. I'm giving you cost to chew each of the statements I am making.

  336. OK can take you weeks if you go back and sit down and meditate

  337. on these matters. So lay your hair on the signal

  338. that trust is present before you open the leads of your emotion.

  339. Why the bottle of love? Once it is opened it does not

  340. have a controlling valve that regulates it.

  341. I like him trust to a gate that you can open and close, and I

  342. lack a love to a floor that will not have respect for the gate

  343. and want to push it and enter everywhere, so the bottle of

  344. love wants to open it. It does not have a controlling

  345. valve that can control it, so love can only flow this way.

  346. In an atmosphere of trust, love can only be profitable.

  347. In an atmosphere of trust, if you put your love where trust is

  348. absent, you will have your fingers to bite later, either

  349. sooner or later. Am I talking to somebody?

  350. Do we have a biblical position for this?

  351. Do we have a contest in the wave of God in late with us to

  352. establish all these that we are seeing?

  353. You have had it said over and over again and properly recorded

  354. in the Bible, particularly in the epistle of the apostle of

  355. love, John, that God is love. Is that not?

  356. But don't forget this God. That is the crime, as love is

  357. also the truth, is also what the truth.

  358. So don't be deceived, anybody who does not have regard for

  359. trust cannot truly love, cannot love.

  360. Truly anybody who don't have regard for trust, who don't have

  361. regard for integrity, who have been regard for transparency.

  362. Because there's a need for us to also break down this word trust

  363. that we are talking about. What are the things, OK, that

  364. you can see? What are the character traits?

  365. What are the elements? What are the kind of heartbeats,

  366. OK, that you see in the pressure?

  367. You say this is trustworthy. So yes, God is love, but is also

  368. the truth. Jesus reveals himself as the

  369. truth that must be trusted, as the way to the Father.

  370. Hello. For God so loved the words, OK?

  371. But for us to be able to appreciate the love, respect the

  372. law, and embrace the law, Jesus first reveal himself to us as

  373. what? The truth.

  374. So trust me, OK, And after you have trusted me there you enjoy

  375. my love. That's the concept.

  376. So Jesus will serve as the truth that must be trusted as the way

  377. to the Father. John 14 says Jesus said unto

  378. him, I am the way, the truth and the life.

  379. No man comment unto the Father bought by me.

  380. So there was a claim made by Jesus, I am going to the Father.

  381. If you read from Basuan, I will take you with myself.

  382. The way a young man we approach you.

  383. I will say I want to bring you to the bottom of my father.

  384. There will become my beloved wife.

  385. Then the disciple were very smart.

  386. Can we really trust this claim? So I just did not dismiss them

  387. for asking for a grant to be trusted.

  388. You go this Gospel Saint John chapter 14, Jesus was making a

    John 14 chapter mention

  389. claim by the disciples. We're asking for a grant to

  390. trust the claim. I just did not dismiss the

  391. query. But I said I am the win, the

  392. truth and the life. No man commented to the Father

  393. bought by me. So he was saying I am worthy of

  394. your trust. And that was the proof he

  395. presented as the evidence of His love and the basis for the faith

  396. that He demands that will fail me to draw the line.

  397. And I said for you the different between trust and faith.

  398. Faith will be difficult to display when trust is not first

  399. established. What Jesus was asking for there

  400. was their faith. Are you with me?

  401. He was asking them to display faith and he was saying is

  402. possible for you to do because I've established the ground for

  403. you to trust me. So friendship.

  404. Is not an exercise of faith OK? It belong to the realm of trust.

  405. Faith may come later. Hello in.

  406. Pura in double dates. Are you with me?

  407. Opera. On double date.

  408. With Africa AM. I talking to you daughters.

  409. Of Zion, daughters of Zion. Are you listening to?

  410. Me. So don't subject.

  411. Friendship don't subject Koshy, don't subject future partnership

  412. OK to faith, let trust come first.

  413. Let trust from the background for the faith.

  414. Want to exercise that tomorrow will be good.

  415. We are going to make great couple.

  416. Before you say we are going to make great couple, let there be

  417. trolls. So it's not.

  418. It's not an exercise. OK, that is suspended in faith.

  419. You build a bedrock of trolls before you bring in faith.

  420. Am I talking to somebody? Tomorrow will be great.

  421. I said tomorrow will be great, but if tomorrow will be great,

  422. you must be a serious somebody to be otherwise I'm going.

  423. To be living in. Sad deception.

  424. So just was saying. I am worthy of your trust.

  425. And that is the evidence of my love.

  426. And the basis for asking or demanding for your faith.

  427. So he commanded trust. To demand faith.

  428. Hello the. Man who we demand your love of

  429. faith in Him, that you should go together, must first command

  430. your trust. So a man upon.

  431. Or a woman upon you will invest your love must command your

  432. trust. The man, the woman.

  433. Upon whom you will invest your love most Force command your

  434. trust. What is the lesson laws will be.

  435. Invested into where? Trust can be tangibly suspected.

  436. I have said that before loves to be invested into where trust can

  437. be tangibly suspected. So don't throw out your love

  438. carelessly. Don't make.

  439. The issue of trust. And afterthoughts don't.

  440. Make the issue of. Trust and afterthoughts.

  441. Never you treat love. Like a mushroom phenomenon.

  442. Never you treat love. Like a mushroom, phenomenal love

  443. will want to be treated that way.

  444. It is you that we say no you back and.

  445. When the sun comes. Up it deserves.

  446. Hello. That's the muscle.

  447. Phenomenal. Something that grow

  448. spontaneously but cannot stand the test of time Love will want.

  449. To be pampered that. Way OK, it is you that we say

  450. no, you're better at me AM. I talking to somebody.

  451. So don't treat love like a mushroom phenomenon.

  452. Yes, it may happen spontaneously, but you must give

  453. it through room to grow systematically.

  454. Love at four sights The first time you meet you warm.

  455. Up to yourself. Something inside you tell you

  456. that this. Is the man Something inside you

  457. tell you this is the woman? You get back home.

  458. You are only on the bed. You cannot sleep.

  459. You close your eyes. You are dreaming about

  460. wonderful. That is the spontaneity of.

  461. Love, but please my son, please my daughter, give me time to

  462. grow systematically. It must not grow sporadically.

  463. It is only allowed to start spontaneously.

  464. Let the growth be. Systematic, not sporadic.

  465. And then may I drop this again? With you give it attention.

  466. Do. Diligence with.

  467. It by meditation test love before you taste it.

  468. Test love. Before you do what you taste it.

  469. Hello young persons in. The house, Are we together?

  470. Please hear me correctly. The bed is.

  471. Not the place to. Taste.

  472. Love. Debate is.

  473. Not a place to test law sex. Is not an experiment.

  474. It is. An experience reserved for.

  475. Marriage. Are we together?

  476. Sex is not an. Experiment.

  477. It is an. Experience reserved.

  478. For marriage. So when I now say test low

  479. before you taste it, this is what I mean.

  480. Dive in the head, let the mind. Go in first.

  481. Before you put in your hearts. Dive in the head.

  482. Before you submit your hearts into any relationship, what?

  483. Does this means? It means getting to know

  484. somewhere. See how the handle.

  485. Challenges. This also means.

  486. Engaging in interaction before intimacy sets in.

  487. Many of you don't know the difference between.

  488. Interaction and intimacy. Intimacy is a level that.

  489. Is deep. Are you with me?

  490. Interaction is a level that is casual and general, so test love

  491. with. One question.

  492. Asked differently. One question, but.

  493. You asked what differently at different time, at different

  494. scenario. Same question you asked.

  495. OK, when he is happy on his birthday, ask the same question

  496. when he is angry. So test it with one question

  497. asked differently and what the consistency of the answer I.

  498. Am not providing the. Answer to somebody who asked the

  499. question that how do we establish trust before we bring

  500. in love? A trustworthy person is.

  501. Known by consistency. A trustworthy person is known

  502. by. Words consistency kill a Toto,

  503. SU, atomas or me. They speak from the.

  504. Abundance of their hearts. Their mouth is not disconnected

  505. from their hearts. A lot of people today, their

  506. mouths and their heart, are disconnected.

  507. And the government? Principle for communication OK

  508. is that you speak from the abundance of your hearts.

  509. Am I? Talking to somebody.

  510. So test. It with.

  511. Same question, one question ask differently in different

  512. situation. And then watch for the

  513. consistency, because a trustworthy personality is known

  514. by consistency. Probe what?

  515. You already know the. Information.

  516. You have about your. Potential friend.

  517. Your will be husband. Quotes and UN.

  518. Quote your will be wife quotes and UN quote.

  519. The established facts. You have gotten but not from

  520. him. Probe that information and watch

  521. where whether there will be honesty and transparency.

  522. You. You have had somewhere OK that

  523. you wrote to a head five times before you could pass English.

  524. Hello. And the evidence?

  525. Is with you. You are discussing and he said I

  526. passed my wife at First City all 10 years a.

  527. Christian should not lie. But even if.

  528. He will lie if. We will lie OK to attack

  529. importance to himself among his colleagues.

  530. Should he be lying to you that says you will live your life

  531. together, the rest of your life together AM.

  532. I talking to somebody so pro what you.

  533. Already know? And what if there would be

  534. honesty and transparency? How again do you test?

  535. Watch for. Harmony.

  536. Between presentation and manifestation, these are two

  537. different things. Watch for harmony.

  538. Watch for synergy between presentation and manifestation.

  539. Presentation is what a man profess about himself.

  540. Manifestation is what you find out he does.

  541. Hello. Presentation.

  542. Is what a man? Claim about himself what a man

  543. call himself for you. Are you with me?

  544. But manifestation is what you later find out he does, so watch

  545. for harmony. Between presentation.

  546. And manifestation. I will know the roofer.

  547. I will know the back. There are many of them like

  548. that. This we talk you to believing

  549. that they are everything. They should talk you to believe

  550. they are excellent. They should talk to you to

  551. believe that. Oh, they are making millions.

  552. Then what against? Double face actions I will bring

  553. We're going to go into character study from next week to begin to

  554. see how this apply in practical life.

  555. What against? Double face.

  556. Action. How do I mean by that?

  557. Somebody that is. Presenting himself humble and

  558. and caring. And it is only you that deserve

  559. that. You can slap any of that gate.

  560. You escorted him to. His to his to his home.

  561. OK, you are you are over here. I always talking at the top of

  562. his voice and shouting down his mother and.

  563. Then my time is coming out. To to miss you is is is a

  564. perfect gentleman. Hello AM.

  565. I talking to somebody so watch against double.

  566. Faced action. You are not the only one that

  567. deserve respect or that people should do so.

  568. You would disrespect your friend will one day serve you the same

  569. meal. So these are the foundations.

  570. For trust, these are the things you watch out for before you

  571. say, oh, I can trust him. I therefore control my destiny.

  572. Into his hand or into our hand? Then do background check.

  573. You will have convictions. Within you it is very

  574. subjective, so don't cast such convention in concrete until you

  575. have received confirmation from independent people.

  576. AM I? Talking to somebody.

  577. So you. May have your conviction.

  578. By what you are saying, OK, but also do background check to

  579. receive confirmation from independent people.

  580. That is what is called due diligence.

  581. Do what? Due diligence, OK, If you meet

  582. at University of Illori, OK, The opportunity you now have to meet

  583. with the secondary schoolmates, OK?

  584. And they are talking. Listen.

  585. Hello. Do what?

  586. Listen. You met a master of Villorian

  587. who? Is on Bible church.

  588. He has taken up the nickname of only Ghost Dove.

  589. Are you with me? But divine.

  590. Providence made it possible. For you to meet.

  591. Him in the company. Of the secondary schoolmates on

  592. the EE, quickly describe that you are there or change the

  593. poster. You need to cross check again.

  594. Has there been a time? OK.

  595. When? He made AU turn and he has

  596. abandoned that lifestyle of Echo AM.

  597. I talking to somebody, so whatever opinion.

  598. Your emotion give you. Treat it as premonition.

  599. Pending the time of confirmation from independent minds.

  600. So let the confirmation you receive.

  601. From independent mind either prove.

  602. You right or prove. You wrong and that's why.

  603. I said earlier. That put trust ahead of love.

  604. As I went down today to continue.

  605. This week. This is what I am saying.

  606. Lay your hand on evidence before you display your confidence.

  607. Before you go in. With your full chairs and

  608. confidence, first lay your hand on evidence.

  609. I did mention it. And I'm saying it again, suspect

  610. trust, don't just expect it. Don't go by premonition, go for

  611. confirmation. Trust should be intentional.

  612. It should be. Invested where?

  613. Love. Can grow.

  614. Don't. Just scatter trust around.

  615. Be mindful of where it lands. And when I said suspect?

  616. Trust before you invest love, don't just expect it.

  617. I am in essence saying be designing with your love by

  618. making trust a top priority. Be designing.

  619. With your love. By making trust a top priority.

  620. Yeah, me again. Daughters of Zion, young men of

  621. valor, lay your. Hands on.

  622. The signals that trust is present before you open the lead

  623. of your emotion. Because like I said earlier, the

  624. bottle of love, once it is opened it does not have a

  625. controlling valve that can regulate it.

  626. So be aware. Of the science of.

  627. Trust before pouring out your emotions because once love is

  628. out is hard to control. Love like a force of nature.

  629. Trust is the foundation. That keep you from getting messy

  630. and by. The grace of God.

  631. From next week will commence character study that will

  632. further help you to understand these subjects.

  633. I love you with the love of Jesus, but can I trust you that

  634. you will walk by these teachings?

  635. God bless you. Don't be left in the dark.

  636. Get proper understanding of life through the Word of God.

  637. My people perish for lack of knowledge.

  638. The Word of God is an illumination which gives

  639. direction. Remember please, as Reverend was

  640. far alone illuminates your mind with the Word of God with all

  641. simplicity and clarity.