SAM 2026 : A Peaceful Domain (Ibugbe Alafia) | Interactive Session

Who is this of Wisdom Bible Church, The Church of a distant

Christian narration? When we speak about a peaceful

domain, I'm sure once we understand what a domain means,

a location, a place of habitation, a place of where you

really a place of living, and then we are able to marry it

with peaceful. Of course we know what being

peaceful means. Be peaceful means void of chaos,

void of confusion, void of pains, void of pains.

And I, and I want to add that intentionally because there's no

way you can be, you can have peace when you are in pain.

So if there's if there's, there's lack of pain, there's

lack of confusion in the house, there's clarity, there's peace,

there's joy, there's everything is in place there.

We say that domain, that place of habitation is a peaceful one.

And this is the intention of God for our lives.

That was how he created hidden. That was how he created hidden

peaceful. And that's what he wants us to

continue to enjoy, you know, even though a lot of things had

gone wrong, but Jesus Christ came as a redemptive prize to

ensure that we are restored back to that original plan.

And I don't want anybody here to say that it is not possible.

It is possible, Amen. And I pray God will give it to

us in Jesus name. Good evening Mummy and our

mummies. God bless you.

It's a privilege to share this table with you and good evening

everyone. Good evening everyone.

The Lord will grant all of us peaceful domain in Jesus name.

Now. We've been hearing about the

matter of peace and peaceful domain since the beginning of

Psalm 2026, Solemn Assembly of Models 2026.

We have heard Mummy preach to us, teach us on this subject.

As I was coming in this evening, I was hearing the voice of the

servant of the Lord Prophetess still addressing the same

matter. OK, sometimes it is not enough

to know what something is. You know what something is

better by trying to know what it is not.

Because there are times, there are times that will will come up

with a position on a matter, right?

And the position we actually put up is not what that thing is.

So you know what, something is better sometimes when you get

somebody to explain to you what that thing is not.

So therefore, I will like to approach my own response to

Mummy's question on what peaceful domain is by saying a

few things that peaceful domain is not.

Is that clear? All right, So one of the things

that peaceful domain is not is that it is not mere silence.

It is not mere silence, OK? Because today we are people who

live in homes, who live in relationships.

We are people who work in places, we are people who run

businesses. And because of the reality of

conflicts that most necessary come up, because two different

personalities from different background, having different

temperaments, are trying to cohabit, are trying to occupy

the same space, live together, conflict becomes necessary.

And because of that, one party may decide to just ensure that

anytime I get home, whatever this woman does, I will keep

quiet whether she's positive to me or not.

I will just be silent. So peaceful domain does not

necessarily means mere silence. OK.

Another thing that peaceful domain is not is that is not a

suppression of pressure. Is not a suppression of what?

Of pressure where things are inside of you, OK, but you just

deliberately decide to suppress it.

Now, if you suppress it beyond measure, medical practitioners

will tell you that that is dangerous for your health.

Therefore, Mama Demura, Mama demura, Mama demura, all right,

so that all is actually not experiencing peace.

Are we together? Another thing that peaceful

domain is not is that it is not pretense or fake compliance.

Amen. It's not fake compliance.

Where are we together? So this when we try to suppress

pressure, when we try to fake compliance, when we try to just

maintain silence, it does not imply that we have peace, Peace

of Mind ourselves. It does not imply that our

domain is peaceful. Thank you.

With what he has just told us, he has, he has, he has gone fine

to my notes because we are coming there.

Because where there is peace, you will also enjoy good health.

And so we are coming there. But let's try to just continue

from that question I asked and I want us to bring it down a

little bit, Carlosino reality, this is the issue of peace that

we are talking about. How can it manifest between the

husband and wife? Between the immediate family?

What's it called now? Immediate families and the

extended family members Sheng Katimo Soyawa or Ara Lafiatan

Soy E Buguia Lafia because this peace starts from yourself,

Peace within all starts from you from yourself.

Internal peace now extending and with disciplines.

Precisely siblings and we have case studies as I told you

because me jealousy man setting envy man setting X-ray demand

setting cherry. And why do attack by most of you

Alana, We will not just gather and pray and pray and go.

We will have time to really sit down and talk so that we pray

with understanding so that when what today we have prayed

certain prayers. I don't know whether we took

notice when we are praying. My children will not be against

one another. Sema, passing back my children

will not support the enemy. To support your title, let's sit

down and talk, and then we now pray.

So many times when we get to the

house, we meet. In laws time any problem when

our associate professor was stuck in the other time once all

of the suppression of, say, emotion.

Because I know your your husband has siblings.

Her husband is the first born in their family, so one year old

lady. She's also the first boy in her

own family. One year old lady.

First born. First born.

OK, the husband is the first son, second born but 1st son.

Hallelujah. How did you manage?

Hallelujah. Well, Mommy had actually started

very well, and I want us to continue in that.

We want to be practical. I didn't know she was going to

mention that. I had it in mind that when I get

to this table, I am going to say that we shouldn't be theoretical

about this evening's discussion. If we really want to go out, you

know, with a lot of values from this meeting, we must bring it

down to being practical. And so please, when we are

talking, I don't know if I'm speaking for others, like Mommy

said, take note. If there's anything that you

think what we are saying is contrary or what we are saying

is not applicable in your case, or what we are saying is

different from what you think can happen, please let us know.

Because this is the House of God and this is a theatre, this kind

of a meeting is a theatre where a lot of operations can happen

so that by the time we are going out, we go out better.

And I pray that God will help us in Jesus name.

Now the, this case study you sent to us when I was looking at

the story of Naomi and Ruth, the story of my mother-in-law and

myself also came to me when I was analyzing that I because

when I read scripture, I tried to bring it to to life and say

if if I AM here. And even though the woman was

trying to explain to her that, and the woman said, no, only

death is going to separate us, there was something that that

Lady saw in that woman that made her to be so attached.

Amen. And there was something also

that was in roots that made the woman to accept her in the

manner that she accepted her. Toffi dicbey, or I want the

oriber lawless in law. So in the case of my own

mother-in-law, there's no human being that is perfect, but

there's a scripture that came to my mind.

I wanted to say you should help me, Sabra.

I later found this the book of Matthew is a popular scripture.

The book of Matthew, chapter 5 verse 16.

Matthew 5:16

He says let your light so shine before all men let your light so

shine. Two things description called us

believers. He called us light and salt and

see people have pressure pressure.

See, let me tell you, for celebrity there is no perfect

mother-in-law and there is no perfect wife.

But when you are a child of God and you allow the scripture to

guide your life, your journey will be easy.

Incidentally, my mother-in-law is a Muslim.

My father-in-law is a Muslim. When I was coming to marry my

husband, they thought I was the one who converted him.

But I met my husband as a Christian.

My husband got converted first year in school.

I met him third year in school but you know 1.

So they were like hey, the person that took our son and it

is normal. Is it not normal?

It's normal. But my attention when I was

getting married to them was that my husband was the only person

that was born again in that family.

My attention was on Jesus, how are you going to win in this

family? Kilo chef win.

And I didn't want that to continue.

So that means I was going to pay the price and the price tickets,

tickets. I know a sister so I've seen a

lot of experiences and I put all of these experiences together

and I said this is what I am going to do and I'm believing

God that to say anybody like our family members me told my wife

me told my wife, you are call me.

That's all they would rather want to be part of us.

So it was my decision and I was praying and I was thanking God

and I'm me and I was trusting God.

But my. My mother my like I said, my

mother-in-law is not perfect, but she's the mother of my

husband and I want every mother in every wife in this house to

listen to me carefully. I your thought Tony Yahoo at

Yahoo because of that. So when I say whichever one I

mentioned. And it is the responsibility of

the man, for example, to set that boundaries and to let the

the family knows that this is this your space.

My mother because Tabernacle 25 years for example, they unfair

because to fight them with more family all teeny life don't live

and I want my family. You cannot come and pluck him

out of that family completely only work PO nissi peace.

Even though I was every woman woman like in space.

Yeah, but I know that it's an unrealistic target.

Me knew that they said yeah if you want peace you cannot sense

unrealistic target. But it's going to be just me and

my husband in our space. Police Shelley.

I was speaking to a lady in my church recently.

I said when I want you to place your mother on salary.

True or false for those number of years, but she was able to

send the four of you to university.

So if a woman or a man had labored over a man.

And the woman must know only importance.

Are you sorry, Bhagwala? And she said, I want to teach a

lullaby, praise the name of the Lord.

My mother-in-law did not have a peaceful marriage.

She didn't even have any joy. I will send it to you,

father-in-law. And the woman did not run away.

She did not die. She did not give up.

Why? Because she was thinking, One

day this child will rise. Praise the name of the Lord.

So boundaries, boundaries problem, the principle of

accounts and what is what applies to the left must apply

to work to the left. To the right only principle

praise the name of the Lord, because home.

Can you share your colony home and your major loony home for

the superior That is Bible perspective.

The Bible said the two of them will become one ABI.

And the Bible says the man and the woman will join together to

form a home. So if your mother can come to my

house, my mother can also come. If your siblings can come, my

siblings can also come. Competition, competition.

See for example, my mother-in-law.

My mother was sick. She has been with me since June,

May last year. Maybe I told you October, but I

know me sick. She couldn't even talk to my

husband because she knew that my husband was going to say no.

She called me and said one more, one more.

Now the testimony is everybody in my family and my husband

family is they are now Christians.

Praise the name of the Lord from a Muslim.

Those people will now say she don't come to their house.

So the mother didn't know where to go and she was dying and she

knew that my mom was with me. She couldn't call my husband was

I was going to say no. So the woman called me and I

said, and I want the I want the lonely praise the name of the

law. So post your competition.

There was a need for her. She had to come.

There was a need for the first person to also come.

She came. The law will help us in Jesus.

Name are we getting some things I'm not comfortable with the

noise I am hearing from the back there.

Those of you that I think was now who better can learn in easy

and call you because. I am the only woman in your

life. Your mommy will come say.

Welcome man. Your husband want to send

something to his parents? You frown your face.

So that some young girls will say

they don't want to meet their mother-in-law at home, so they

don't want to meet her alive. That is the meaning that they

don't. I don't want a brother that has.

If if you're a guy and a lady sounds like you, for me it's a

red flag. It's a red flag even when a lady

tells you that. Sonia and Sonia, Animal welfare.

It's a red flag, yo. In fact, if I were you, I will

run. So a mirror.

OK, I'm a man. I want my only trouble.

Yeah, yeah. Woman shaking in trouble.

In fact, let me shock you, Mommy, me troublesome my own

mom. But that is why you need to be a

Christian. If you're a Christian, when

something is white, you will call it white.

When something is black, you will call it black because

somebody is your mother or because somebody is not is your

father. In fact, if I would tell my

husband and my husband is also like that, he was OK.

So I disrespect because we are not permitted to disrespect our

parents for any reason. But like I kept saying, boundary

my way, my creative boundary should not ever tell me.

Now she's my mother. 70 percent of every true of us.

So that is the truth. OK And another thing I want us

to know is that if you are a young lady and you are saying

you don't want to meet your mother-in-law alive, it means

you are also praying that you yourself will not be alive to

reap the fruits of your own neighbor too.

Indirectly that is what you are saying.

So that will not be your portion in Jesus name.

If you are a young lady here, don't join them to say that that

Lord bless you in Jesus name because whatsoever you sow, you

will reap. God will help us in Jesus name.

Now let's move to siblings and we have case study of Esau and

Jacob. They were giving back to same

day same woman raised by the same father and mother and I

think they sought the same breast but one said I am hungry,

I'm fainting. What?

Hello fainting. It ain't my brother.

No, no, no you can't faint. I have food but they sell me.

Your bad right? I get my jealous city 1 bed.

Give me what is in your hand before I give you food.

And in this prayer point, there is a prayer point that says I

will not be as a parent, I will not, I will not 'cause is it

conflict between my children, something like that.

I will not be the reason why my children would be against each

other or one another as a parent.

In the family of Jacob and Rebecca, Rebecca, that family is

not a good example to follow. Isaiah No Jacob, Isaac and and

Rebecca. The family of Isaac and Rebecca

is not an enviable family. You have two children, just two

boys. The father chose one and the

Bible gave us the reason. Baba, He loves his soul because

the woman to the mother of the house can see Jacob.

Jacob, she loved Jacob and the woman said, I heard your father

say he wants to bless today. Jacob, let it be upon me.

Just do what I say. Go, go and do this.

Go and do this. I know my husband bless you,

bless, bless me. And if he calls you and.

Within siblings. How do we do that?

Hallelujah. I would like to read a verse in

the Bible. Romans chapter 12, verse 18.

Romans 12:18

Romans 1218 If it be possible as much as lies in you live

peaceably with all men. You see this issue of peace of

peaceful domain that we are talking about.

We must understand that anywhere the domain is, the domain could

be the home, the domain could be at work, the domain could be the

church, the domain could be your career, your place of business,

right? This issue of peaceful domain

does not happen automatically. You have to intentionally pursue

it. It doesn't happen automatically.

It must be intentionally pursued, right?

Why? Because we are humans.

We have different temperaments, we have different expectations,

we have different understanding, we hold different perspective

about life. And therefore, from that verse

that we just read, if we are children of God, born again,

lovers of God, the Bible is very, very clear about it.

It is my responsibility to intentionally seek peace.

It is my responsibility to intentionally seek peace.

So if we now bring it into the relationship of siblings.

So I must deliberately work at ensuring that there is peace

between me and my brothers, between me and my sisters.

Now, if that is going to happen, I must have this clear

understanding that the personality of my brother is

different from my personality. The way my brother think is

different from the way I think. The way my brother reasons is

different from the way I reason. I may have my expectation, OK,

but I should prepare myself to. I should expect I should I

should look out for the best I should expect the best but

prepare for the worst. Hello.

And at this point, I am telling you one of the principles that

God helped me to track very early in life and apply to my

relationship with people is that I expect the best from you, but

I prepare for the worst. So if, if you put off an

attitude that is very negative, a behavior that is very

terrible, I don't get disappointed because in the 1st

place you didn't give me an appointment.

Are we together? So I don't get disappointed.

So I, I, I will, I look out for the best, I prepare for the

best, OK, But I don't get disappointed when the wars come,

All right. And therefore, personally, I've

learned to live with people no matter who you are, even at

work, I learn to live with people no matter who you are, no

matter what attitude you put up. All right, So within, within the

sphere that we stay together, I give, I create, I create my own

environment, I create. I don't allow anything to tamper

with my peace. I don't allow anything to tamper

with my with my joy. OK, rather than allow anything

to tamper with my peace than tamper with my joy.

Most often than not, I will choose.

I will, I will choose humility, excess, in fact, sometimes

excessive humility. All right, just to ensure that

nothing tampers with my joy, with my peace.

All right, so I give you your space.

I create the space of joy for myself and maintain it.

So between siblings, it is normal that conflict will come.

One of the things we must understand is that conflict is

a, is a necessity in relationship.

Is that OK? Conflict is a necessity in

relationship, but you must prepare your mind to convert

that conflict to something positive every time, every day

as you relate, even among among your siblings.

So it is normal for siblings to have conflict based on different

reason. Sometimes the reason could be

what is initiated by the parent, sometimes it could be carried

over over childhood conflicts depending on the temperament

that individual carries. Some some some grown up siblings

today fights to finish, not because of what happened today,

but because of what had happened while they were were children.

So at that point we begin to ask questions about your faith in

Christ, your relationship with Christ, your ability to forgive

and to let go of the past. Then things like envy, things

like jealousy and stuff like that comes primarily down to the

matter of your relationship with God.

So you build your relationship with your siblings from the

premise of what the Bible dictates should be your life,

the characteristics of your life as a as a Christian, the Lord

will help us. Praise the Lord.

I want to add to this because all of us here are potential

mothers. Whether you very soon you either

become a mother-in-law or a mother to a bride.

The mother's role in this siblings rivalry is always very

heavy. You know, at times when the

children are growing up, one may be having money than the other

and your comments matters. I thank my mom.

You know, she's late now, but something happened between me

and my mom that I had to stop. Is this one of my younger

brother is having he is OK to the glory of God.

So when he comes once in a year, he gives her everything for one

year and you know, everything for one year is ready.

And those of us that are around, those are our monthly cake is

somehow. So my mommy, when they now come,

she will celebrate the one in a year.

He's just like, ah, oh, mommy, do you know all this syndrome?

Mommies, you do it. Oh, you know, we do it.

And the thing was creating trouble.

So one day as I entered, she now said to me, Mommy, OK.

Yeah. One said yeah one one Day 1 day

mommy we were commenting we were Tiki Ibashe Bidemi Timuri as she

said that statement in the eyes of all my siblings more more

reaction where we pay you know more to see all of the mommy so

alone Bawashi what discharge you one quarter daily mommy effect.

1 Because of that statement, they told my husband.

My husband said I should not say anything because that's what

pastor is saying. If you don't go and beg at the

end of the day #1 #2 we have to be patient with each other.

Ah, two weeks ago. Oh my.

Now to me, you know, I'm, I'm speaking reality.

Honestly speaking, there are some of them like them Cordeni

apologize, I want Cotuabe washing Cotillo Dalara siblings

in what 20 So sorry people by so sorry one more so sorry.

The last thing I want to say on it is honestly speaking, respect

is a tool in Asia. Only respect Antiguan Binolawa

killer coche because no man degenerates.

God forbid it for anyone. 20 people. 10 people. 20 people.

Why? Because only respect.

May the Lord help us in Jesus. Once you saw the NEPA, our will

be Papa. You know our way.

Yeah, we come on my dawa la le lani and one more cherry allefy

Omo woman allu A compa about my woman is taking you.

Hello compa. So we pay.

There's something positive to in the life of that one into

positive responsibility in that positive traits

character. Emma Fee Omaki you can lose you

around. You see, Bola, Ebola was the one

that that fetch water, but I was the one that has always helped

me. Bola is the one that is the one

that I've been working, working system.

But if you can, you can now for all siblings.

For all siblings. We committed shape attacking #1

only we pay. It is natural with every man,

every human being, to always look at what you like outside,

forgetting what you have inside. So tell your law school.

Tell your exam possible go pass it you want to Yeah below the

fact you go pass it your lawyer for two months we pay you will

know me. I want catalog to positive.

So look inward and look at those things that are positive about

your life. Don't behave yours of of him

Yeah Coco time of delay delay EKG siblings on my image when we

pay car zoom assumption assumption my brother is a

reverend reverend cause money the 100,000 naira.

Not knowing what is going through I 10, 1000 liability 1

100 and 50, 1000. Let us behave maturely in our

relationship as siblings. Don't assume we pay for me, for

me E Monte onala koja E montopesias.

Praise God next time. God bless you.

One more thing then we take questions.

Please get your questions ready. Now we are going to be talking

about how to maintain peace between husband and wife.

Husband and wife So and where there is peace, you will enjoy

good health condition so. So how do we maintain peace

between husband and wife? Hello.

Praise the Lord, I want to start Mufer Berry by ako eja kiya woo

Yu jiya woo Yu Anikin Mubadibe she was she's a reap Ek beni

nothing. Many men lock out their women,

other people no matter what. I appreciate.

Let me give you 3 examples to that.

Number one. That's one #2

how do you pick that number? One more more family, Toshi

weekly about 20 something years now.

Why am I saying this? By the time you allow your wife

to be your wife, understanding. Or join any PCT cocoduro or just

I wouldn't about the new year weekly or call mitimo Fe yo OE

minani so sorry before que why my people No Lori for marriage

is not separated. Husband and wife is not

separated or just about the new understand the alarm open check

for marriage. Now I want to say two more

things before I know my time is not your hope.

I want to so that's what I'm saying me mobile ethic body.

I will bring it to myself. I'm not joking.

No, I'm really like Ketu because it is whatever you push into her

that she comes out to it. May you not push nonsense into

your wife. So man, that is why they call

you bridegroom. It is your responsibility to

groom in the in the in the atmosphere of God, not in your

own selfish atmosphere because some men are selfish or ASU.

Yahujeto Delhi. How do we relate to that?

Oh, funny, but it is the truth. Now let me now say this.

Number one key to having peace in marriage between husband and

wife. Number one, study each other.

Study your wife. Study your husband.

International I'm I'm talking about bits in Larson arello MI

ko bakini. So you need to study kilo komi

fair in every aspect is even up to food.

For example, in our marriage he says it and he says it.

That's what is like first daughter mean like and the Bible

is ever correct. You see by the time you study

each other differences Eleni differences Eleni even though

she told the assure or she told it the way we talk at times man

the way we talk to our husband. They don't understand at times

the way they talk to us. We don't understand God open the

misunderstanding in war or lower and that's why the Bible cancels

us that we should be seasoned. We should let our words be

seasoned with salt. Let me tell you a practical

story that happened last week. I prepare that this food and I

took it to church. Did you say that's what I did?

I said the time I was doing that.

If he is not in tune with Christ, it is enough for anybody

to pick offense and in good faith, in good faith.

So at times we talk, our utterances may not be seasoned

and we may not even realize it, but immediately he, he was able

to correct me. I'm sorry that I, I don't know,

go your kings about me, the robot or you don't come in the

Mefishi and Katimushi. Now coming to that, that's my

practical experience. Do you know how many of those

practical experiences that we are?

Understanding is a word and I want to give us a tip on

understanding. Can you pray to God help me to

know my husband help my husband to know me coldly because when

you know your husband and your husband know you, you are free.

Thomas your wife said this your husband will say no yeah woman

cocaine sorrow Bay because God has given you that wisdom to

know him and you know it's it's training like King Lehman's

mother is training is different. You came from two different

background and how do you cope so that understanding is a thing

you must yearn for so that your marriage can.

Understanding. I just want to add something

shortly. Sherry problem.

Tell me read you, you know, marriage a most people a

marriage, church marriage. I want experiences.

And like she said for example, but how do I, but I know my own

mother also be one major 1D14 our major almost like.

Meanwhile, family OK, because this issue of salvation is a big

deal to me because at the end of the day I might give account.

I want account. I can't relationship.

I know account leadership. Because this is what the

scripture says. The Lord will help us in Jesus

name. So on the marriage table I need

a lot of things. I need a lot of things.

Then. Oh, Mario, Oh Mario, by the

grace of God, Amen. Thank God for that.

Praise the name of the Lord. Why so poor communication

problem? And let me tell you the truth,

whether you like it or not, as far as God is concerned,

marriage, marriage in the headquarters of forgiveness.

Forgive for what? Last marry.

And I really see some people over my dead body.

And you are not ready for marriage even if you are 30

years, even if you are 40 years. Because let me tell you the

truth Sir, several times then drop microphone because that

issue of sibling. So I could avoid the careless

talk. University primary school.

Yeah, he called fellowship, defensive projects.

Shame of me. Great.

But in the family of masters, my preferable primary exam, Lola.

And it's because I want more money.

And Timmy to Milo. I began the country.

He comes back first. He comes back first.

Second to the last. That's my child.

That's my boy, let me tell you. So you must play your game very

well. My play game more, Rebecca.

Play very well prophecy here. I'm not sure why that is how a

mother or a father should behave and relationship to shape.

At the end of the day, let us forgive.

So about forgive. Peace is an atmosphere, Peace is

not just anything, it's an atmosphere.

So by the creates that peaceful atmosphere, a lot of things can

go wrong for for instance, prayer will not be answered.

Who wants to be wasting prayer? Who wants to be wasting fasting

30 years ago? The Lord will help us in Jesus

name. See about the opportunity to

join me Mama sorrow Sherry as our family.

I want my own family, all my want to blow me.

It is not the same story, Timoni fella.

What broke me understanding? OK, how will you?

We were going through certain things recently.

You know what the guy did? He sent me 50,000.

The guy came to learning that was how he started

business. Later he travelled to big

business is a confirmed million millions of naira new business

500 million. So if you are a believer, you

will know it's a stage anybody don't lose hope on anybody,

anybody because. One house.

Thank you very much, Ma. Let's have it quiet, please.

Marriage or a marriage Neopolopo by Oman camelara to do pay apart

from BI churches a program maybe once in a year or twice in a

year discusses you of relationship discusses you of of

marriage. We don't have a curriculum that

deliberately prepare us for marriage.

Our artwork. Our artwork.

Better planning preparation for wedding.

Most often than not, our preparation is for wedding, not

for marriage. Taba mache wedding by our many

suits. Mushima Tony I want bridal train

mushima tuni Dubai not to my lushi wedding gown cake me can

you know at the Lagos not to my shake cake South Africa need

fashion designer to my design. Every thinking, every tuning of

the mind is is about the wedding, not marriage.

And if there is anything we learn about marriage, we

formally learn them OK watching how our daddy and mommy are

doing marriage or did marriage. And often even our parents don't

sit us down to educate us in fact.

So everything they tell that most of our parents will tell us

about marriage, they are from the negative angle, never from

the positive constructive angle that intentionally prepare us

for marriage. I want not one that by one one

hello book preparation wise for wedding, not marriage.

So our our daughter Wan BTRT Wedge 30 Marie, I want to

encourage you, please consciously, intentionally and

deliberately prepare yourself for marriage, school yourself

for marriage. And how can you do that?

You have materials to reach. You have people to talk to, OK.

You have mentors around in the church that you can move closer

to and consciously learn. You have models around that you

can approach and talk to and say on the matter of marriage.

I want an understanding on this area, on this issue.

So don't depend on what you hear people say or what they, what

you see on the television. Another gentleman prepare for

Nollywood me and what you see in Nollywood are not realities.

Hello. They are their physics on

Nollywood. They are not the realities.

Are we together you watch Nollywood 11 young man that just

got married wants to go out with the wife passenger side.

Hello, I can tell you go into into marriage my sister.

Hello delay 5 minutes Are we together?

Are we together? So get proper schooling to

prepare you for marriage. Now listen, listen to this and

listen very, very, very well because of our time.

Let me leave the the the anger of the young people and come to

those of us that are already married.

Tori will pay. I want to train you are

consciously, intentionally for marriage.

We got into it, We had wrong expectations, and because that

expectation was wrong. Hello, at the day one new Walla,

Tiberi Walla and the llama Magbelo number one thing, the

first thing we must learn is that there is what we call the

dynamics of relationship. And this is the way I explain

it. The first stage is the stage of

attraction. Stage of attraction, you get it,

you got attracted. Everything that she does is

perfect. Are we together?

But the nature of man is such that familiarity breeds

contempt. So from distance that respect

will be there, that honor will be there.

But by the time you get closer and you continue to relate for a

while, after one, one week, two weeks, one, one month, go, go

perfection. Yeah, obviously drop percentage

Yammer drop. Why?

Because from the stage of attraction that brought you

together, you have stayed together enough to begin to move

to the stage of discovery. So at the stage of discovery,

you begin to see what are positive and most of the things

that are negative because most time it is negative that we

amplify as humans. So by the time you not begin to

amplify those things that are negative, you not begin to enter

into the third stage called the stage of conflicts.

All right, That conflict is necessary for you to actually

mature together. Now what's next thing you will

move to will be determined by how well you are able to master

and handle conflicts. OK.

If you handle it positively as an opportunity to learn and know

more about your partner, then you move gradually into the

stage of recovery. We resolve the issue with

maturity, with understanding. And at that point you have known

more about him, you have known more about her.

All right. And the cycle continue.

The conflict got resolved and the attraction comes back all

right, and you run the cycle again until you begin to see

another reason for conflicts, resolve it, recover and come

back. For people that are unable to

manage conflict very well, OK, instead of recovery, they enter

into crisis. And it is at that stage of

crisis if it is at the level of caution not about serving a

breakfast tobacco, any marriage at that stage of crisis, not the

issue or not the boss into divorce.

So we need to understand the dynamics of relationship that it

is a cyclic thing. So, and this is the way I also

conclude with it is that when you go into marriage, go there

to catch phone. Hello, go there to do all.

So Bukala can also behave like this.

Hello, enjoy yourself, catch the phone, adjust my trolley and

move on. Say another thing, back to your

Lola, catch the phone, adjust my trolley and move on.

Understand this that marriage is a permanent institution of

learning and you have a cause to learn for life.

That cause is your wife. You have a cause to learn for

life. That cause is your husband.

So keep learning that man till death do you part, or till Jesus

Christ come catch from when you see things that you didn't

expect, mutually handle it, discuss it, and move on with

your life. God bless you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Hallelujah, Hallelujah.

Please can I get somebody that can move round with this

microphone? It is time to take our

reactions, questions, addition, subtraction.

OK, I can see one hand here. Yes.

Amen. 2, 2222 3333 OK, Pass on Mrs. Bukola fawenu #1, Dickness

Ruti dohu #2, Brother Daniel #3 number Oh, OK, number 45.

Thank you. Praise the Lord, praise the

living Jesus, please. I would like to explain my

question in Yoruba language, at least for better understanding

from my own end and to the listener.

And my question is based on siblings, conflicts among

siblings. And in fact, this is not a

distant story. It's not a it's the problem is,

let me say, in my family, not my nuclear family, not the

immediate family, but the accident family.

I have two boys, two brothers. I don't know will I call it a

trade? Because I don't even know how

to. And this issue is not getting to

the extent pay toba sorrow the elderly 1.

Business. I.

To the extent.

I get to know garage.

Because before then, foresee money.

Are you sure we will forgive? See, he had no explanation for

his reason. Condition situation, Next

message. 2 Take note of the question #2.

Praise the Lord, I want to direct my question to our daddy,

Professor Bob Fawen, when he was explaining to us the other time.

He may mention that peaceful to me is not a mere silence.

So I now I now want to ask because people do say that that

we should for peace to reign, that we should maintain silent.

Maybe one person is angry so for us to allow peace to reign that

the other should keep silent. And our daddy was saying that

peaceful to me is not a mere silence.

So that then I want to revert to what mummy when our mummy is

preaching yesterday, mommy cite a sample One saw a sample when

she she was living in a with one neighbor that misbehave.

I think mommy cite a sample yesterday if we can remember,

but we never wanted to jump in, but there was a date that one

comically, I think I remember. I won't call me then, never.

One day that will call me. She just carried all her things,

both the bath and the tray, and mommy went inside.

So mommy was silent, but Daddy was said that peaceful domain is

not a mere silence. Can we now say that what Mommy

did is not a peaceful domain? Thank you, mark #3 #3.

Praise the Lord. OK, here's my question I want to

ask is it good as a as a youth, as a single person to pray

respect of praying for your future wife?

So I used to believe that was years ago.

I used to believe that God has one person, that Lady, that

person that you are supposed to marry.

So I used to pray that the shape of the person, like how the

person should look, the curves, the height, the the completion.

So. I used to.

So. So is it good, is it good to

pray that kind of prayer for your future wife?

Yes, please repeat your question.

OK, I said that is it good? Is he advisable to pray for

pray, like to to pray specifically for what you want

in your life? The corpse, the.

Complexion, the eyes. The complexion, the eyes, do you

understand now #4? Good evening.

I have two questions. Hello.

Hello. The first one is in a situation

where the parents they are separated and the children they

are the children are divided with different mindsets towards

each other because the father loves the first daughter so and

it shows it to them In an institution whereby they are

separated, the parents they are separated.

So the children they have different mindsets towards one

another because the father loves the first daughter so how can

the first daughter change? Like how can the first daughter

made amendments as the as a believer?

So that's the first one. The parents are separated.

They are separated and then children.

Now they have different mindsets.

Towards one another. Because the father loves the

first daughter. The first daughter.

Daughter. And the father, he used to show

it within the children, OK, So how can me or the first daughter

as the believer, as the first, as the believer, yes.

How can she reconcile all other siblings?

Yes. Then the next one is yesterday

you, you told us about internal peace.

Internal peace. I said an internal peace.

It start from within, that even I am at the midst of chaos,

still want to remain calm. It's a deliberate decision

within yourself. So in a situation where, OK, I'm

this kind of person that if there is any issue, if there's

anything, I want to address it. Like I'm this kind of person

that I always shout. I always shout, OK, I have

there's a there's a misunderstanding between me and

someone, OK? And I want to address it.

I always want to shout and be like, why did you?

I want to shout and every other thing.

But after the shout and all my body will calm down and

everything is settled. Does this still mean I'm still

maintaining peaceful domain or I still need to remain calm?

I not said anything even at the midst of chaos, and we didn't

mean I'm not at peace unless I say it out.

OK #5. Praise the Lord, I want to make

myself. As an example, I actually come

from a Muslim home and precisely from Illori, and I don't know if

we know how Illori religion is. So OK, I came from Illori and I

don't know if we have idea on how iloring Muslim is so hard

and if you are the only Christian among them seems to be

difficult on all sides. And I didn't stay with my

parents, I stayed with my mom. So this iloring people make it

so difficult that when I gained admission they were not ready to

release my citizenship. They made me to release

citizenship for me. They made me understand that I

need to come back home and change to a Muslim before they

can release my citizenship. So one way or the other, I had

to use another citizenship, which is Illori West, where they

use mixed name when Illori, Illori W use Muslim name when

Illori E use both Muslim and Christian.

So I did their citizenship. So and again, when you go, most

times I don't go. You're not always welcome as a

believer. They see your sieve.

Who are you? You are not welcome at all.

So in that in that kind of situation, what can you do as a

Christian? So.

Are you are you taking more questions?

From who? Some people are still raising

their hands up, some people are still indicating to ask

questions. Let's answer the five questions

we have on table before we allow for other questions.

Now we have listened to the questions.

Some questions are directed to some of us.

So where do we start from #1? Praise the Lord for that.

The first question by my pastor Mummy, what that brother did for

him. He's full of memories.

Truth be told, anywhere that situation should have been

prevented. We are talking, we, we.

Now the brother is travelling. The younger brother went to the

garage to remove clothes from his body.

Whether he asked him to remove his clothes or they removed the

clothes, the truth is garage better not outside.

Number 2. Yes, solution number one.

In as much as prayers will heal his wound, that brother is not

healed and until he is healed, he won't relate to normal.

In fact, let me tell you something, the better than God

help us to settle. It is as bad as that.

But we can pray if mothers can pray.

Solution number one. Number two, you still have

another work to do with our brother.

But truth be told, if I talk to my interest, if we not be able

to express His pain. Have you ever come across people

like that? So it will cost you to pay a

price of praying and getting close to him #3 solution.

So the brother himself should learn.

I don't know how to say it, Sherima.

Truth be told, because there is spirit woman, you will have a

God will tell you. The coast is clear, the only one

is so tough but somebody held that little one in bed so bad

baby. So no my approval we have to

assure me no war I understand so bring them together and the Lord

we handle that in Jesus name. Please let me answer one more

and children that have different mindsets is similar charity,

liberty separates, but we can pray love into existence.

That's first daughter. Is she a child of God?

She's a believer. Other siblings, are they

children of God too? All of them are born again, OK?

Actually, I was the one that asked her.

I was the one that owned the question.

The other children, they are not believer, but they are just

Christian. They are just Christian

churchgoer, not a believer. The other ones they are, they

are not Christian or. They are Christian.

OK, OK, OK. They are churchgoers.

Yes. OK, OK, But the first daughter

is born again. There is nothing in life that

you cannot pray about. There is nothing.

I think I said it yesterday. Pray about everything.

I told us. Don't categorize it.

OK, this one I will pray about it.

This one we handle it myself. This one I will ask people for

to help me. If we are going to ask for help,

you still pray about it. So number one thing is take this

case to God and be sincere. I hope you did not contribute

because when the Daddy is by your side, I hope you didn't

contribute to the hatred or envy or whatever that is now coming

from other siblings. So if you are sincere, are you

getting me? You take it up in prayer and

pray about it begin to commit their heart into God.

One after mentioned their name as you are praying that God.

I want you to step in into this case after the matter of pray

and you know you have prayed and you have prayed through.

You will now start to speak to them one after the other in a

peaceful manner, not to justify yourself that you realize that

what Daddy did was wrong because I think that was the problem of

between Jacob and Esau. The Bible says because of the

myth that Esau normally give the Father.

Office. So you will now begin to after

prayer, 1 after the other, led by the Spirit of God.

So you need the only ghost to live in fact.

Listen to the Holy Spirit, let him lead you, let him guide you,

who to call first, what and what to say and tobacco.

Be sincere. Don't, don't, don't allow the

seats or anything. Be sincere and let God lead you

by all means if God is your heart that you are sincere and

you want to allow peace because without which no one shall sit

alone and holiness. So not hiding anything.

Are you getting me? And you will see how God will

step in into the matter, because it will help you with back you

and it will make all things beautiful.

Are you OK? Sorry.

Pastor, Sorry Pastor missus, the question that you asked because

now I won't play any role I see by SCDC what's what is the

mother's rule. Mommy won't share anything

because. Which

is very profound. And don't be sentimental about

it. Individual individual

differences. I.

Possible so.

1990 9. I.

Everything for me from that point,

I started begging. My sister-in-law had two kids.

And I played my role in Victoria

Island. Because.

Sorry genuinely you have to play that role.

The Lord will help you in Jesus name.

Hallelujah, the next question. Yes, ma'am.

Yes. Peaceful domain is not mere

silence. Is not mere silence.

I put response here. We use it within context silence

Timomi put put up has a context situation.

Timomi Dacke show you a ghost situation and he told the Insinu

educated she was mature to to size up that person and let let

him let her go with her character.

On the attitude to my put up so contest is silenced.

Oh yeah, to Cynthia so so now you are in a marriage

relationship you and your husband what's in doing as in

the morning as a young jail Quatiahu a young soon a young

washing ship a young government on me.

But undoing then to allow peace. Let me just be quiet.

To allow peace. Let me.

No, that's not correct. It's not LD in time.

Bomb me Omar. Omar backfire to buy, to buy

explode, any other idea? I talk about you.

So what we are now for the kind of peace we are talking about in

that kind of situation is communication, communication,

effective communication and that kind of communication will be

effective if you put certain things into consideration that

you don't approach it with fights, fire for fire, sodomy,

then you look for the right timing to communicate that issue

to speak out your mind. Right.

Timing, right timing, very, very important to our members to

repair Mansoro. You must speak, but time you're

speaking, then you must study your partner, time with your

Roman war lady, time study your wife, study your husband to know

the time. The peaceful domain is not mere

silence. This will come when you

communicate, when you speak your mind, and when you speak your

mind and communicate at the right, at the right time.

In fact, about communicate in fact only best to make you

happy. I am doing my best that I think.

I think I'm showing love to the RCP of friends.

Wouldn't be happy. So communication matters a lot,

and effective communication at that matter.

God bless you. I'm sorry.

Can you imagine? So

everything about family is communication.

Everything is communication about communication here.

Any problem with you, let your words be sitting with salt.

Solution our responses because I've called goals.

Marriage is called goal. In fact, when they must score

any goal or join, they win. So for example this thing is not

well placed. Because you don't want the thing

to be placed on the table and win, but I want partners.

Praise the name of the Lord. Married men, raise your hands.

Married women, raise your hands. Don't start once you cannot

finish influence by the way you consistently live.

The Lord will help us in Jesus name and question.

I have met Mensa as a matter of principle.

If I write, I mean later, six months, I read the right

situation. CFLS or or C don't let it just

go. But I know because you must talk

about it, Director number 1, because sometimes.

Muslim comfort OK from the lady from Illori Question one year.

One year Answer a question one. You you, you have answered your

purpose. Maybe his mommy that will not

answer this one. I'm referring to the what mommy

shared yesterday when she was preaching what happened where

she stayed before with that their neighbor.

And I said I said what mommy did by just carrying about and trade

that the woman threw away. Is it a mere silence?

Silence because mommy did not just to allow to allow peace to

rain because something happened yesterday because of what mommy

shared with us yesterday. So something happened when we

are going home what can happen as I am on my on the 1st lane

maintain my lane and I'm going no any car at my front no any

car at my front. I just hear car at the side of

the my car. What happened?

I see that this Marwah he was trying to one one more park

where he's supposed to. So he now tried to maneuver and

pass the middle. So in the course of passing the

middle, he just touched my car so we could I couldn't wait

because I'm on the first day. I don't know, maybe there's any

car coming at my back so that it did not cost another thing I was

doing. So I sat on the man that why are

you people driving like this? He said, are you not the one

that eats me? I say it's you, you are not at

my front. You touch my car I decide so he

enter his moral and he was going.

I was not sure that whenever he stopped to carry passenger.

I will stop and address him That what you're supposed to say is

sorry Madam. Once you said sorry, I'm OK, but

you are still trying to claim the right that I'm the one that

eat. Where did I eat you Are you at

my front? My car did not have any issue at

the front is I decide that you touch my car.

So my children was now when I now meet the man thank God he

was going along our side and I later met him and I stopped him

and I tried to explain in the cause of explaining my boss was

raising I'm not abusing but my boss was raising that you see me

as a lady and you are trying to cheat me.

And he was. Insisted that I'm the one I why

did I thank so? My neighbor they were around

just to call the story. Sod my son, I said.

Mommy, you have shouted too much.

Why do you not shout that? You know you see what mommy

share with us in the church. That's the song.

As soon I keep quiet and the thing will be painting me inside

that this man is cheating on me, riding me.

So I was trying to explain to him, but I want to ask mommy

that. So what's mom that's neighbor

teach to mommy? It's pain, mommy, but mommy

wants peace to reign and to just carry about inside.

Is that a mere silence? That's what.

Hallelujah. Different cases, but one

principle. You will be faced with different

issues. One principle.

For every other driver that they are mad Amiko Musawani Rd. safe

to lose saw see yourself as the only person that is seen on the

road. The way you will handle issues

on the road may be different from the way you will handle it

from the neighborhood. I mean the way you handle that

of the neighborhood will be different from the way you

handle between your yourself and your spouse and your children.

But principal, you must be intentional about

it. Now

anything. So.

Are you getting me SO?

If it's.

You know, so when they saw a lonely.

I. 20, 1000.

So. What is the meaning of this?

So. You continue.

To. 15 years ago. A sweat.

So. I want anyone 50, 1000, maybe 15

years ago. I'm sorry to say this in church.

Every child of God must get to that point of intentionality

where you will now sit down and say this is how I want to live

my life and how it is going to glorify God while there were my

shirts. For God will help us in Jesus

name, Amen. Praise the Lord, I want to react

to that Muslim sister. That Muslim sister, Yeah.

You see, the truth of the matter is what we have said in the

whole of the lowering W. They don't take, they don't.

They always say to us that they don't have Christians there.

Actually, there are Christians there, but the truth is they

fail to recognize them. This is how you will live.

The Bible says when the way of a man pleases the Lord, he will

make his enemies to be at peace with him.

Pray for their salvation. Live correctly at a point in

time when you pray well. God will pave way and

circumstances that we make them acknowledge the God that you

serve. In fact, after a while they will

be telling you just to see calling your Muslim name talk by

that it is real. Do you understand so all you

need to do is not to backslide, but to pray the more in fact,

their hostility towards you should challenge you to become

an intercessor. In fact, whatever they are doing

to you now, any of them that that is she's not this you note

their name and keep playing. That is also so person must see

the light that I have seen. I think you are more comfortable

with that. The Lord bless you more in

Jesus. Please, are you a member of this

church? No, you are invited.

You came from school. OK Not see.

Oh, Claudia be wear one suit. Last suit.

Sidewall Rd. OK, please, I will like you to

see me. Not today, Abby.

I will book an appointment with you.

You see me today and I will now give you an appointment so that

we can discuss or I take your WhatsApp number and then we'll

discuss. Praise the Lord.

I think we are OK for Daniel. Your question Your question I

will note it, but go and post your question on the app see I

want you to see Carly love your question is OK, am I down name

on the 13th of June during Oasis Youth Connect program, we have

relationships of on the 13th you know now.

So what does it mean because you call a ton of your question,

see. So go and upload your question

If you want to put your name, if you want to put that as

anonymous, anyone. So we handle your because so we

handle that question in June by the grace of God, praise the

Lord. The program is 4:00 PM tomorrow

brothers and sisters, Mommy's and Daddy.

Program continues tomorrow 4:00 PM.

God bless you in Jesus name. We want to appreciate our

ministers, those God has used for us this evening.

We are so grateful. We say thank you for coming,

Thank you for using yourself. The love will reward you in the

mighty name of Jesus, Eshay Ghani Adupe.

God bless you in Jesus name. Who is his of Wisdom Bible

Church, The Church of a distant Christian narration?