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Angela Stackhouse: Unveiling Stories-The Heart of HeavenEarth Church | Ep. 003

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  1. What would it look like to start a community that was really,

  2. it's for the people like Jesus would be for? Welcome to Heaven Earth

  3. Church. I'm Ross Stackhouse, the founding pastor of Heaven Earth

  4. Church. From the start, our heart has been to be a church for

  5. people who don't fit neatly into church. We want to meet people

  6. where they are and know their stories. Because in every story,

  7. there is God's story. And this podcast is just about that. It's

  8. about inviting you into the stories of the people of Heaven Earth

  9. Church. So let's turn to the story.

  10. Hello, good people. Welcome to the Heaven Earth Church podcast.

  11. My name is Brad Miller and I'm the producer and one of the hosts

  12. of the podcast. And today we have as our special guest. Her name

  13. is Angela Stackhouse. And we welcome you to the Heaven Earth Church

  14. podcast. Angela, tell us a little bit about you. Tell us, first

  15. of all, where do you come from? What's hometown for you?

  16. Hometown's Shelby County. I grew up in Fairland and went to Fairland,

  17. a small rural school where Ross, my husband, also went. So.

  18. Yeah. And my family still lives there mostly, and now we're

  19. of course in Greenwood, so still pretty close.

  20. Yeah.

  21. Yeah.

  22. So did you meet Ross in high school then?

  23. I did. I actually met him in middle school. Middle school, yeah.

  24. Kind of grew up together.

  25. Wow. He's a grade behind me, so we weren't interacting all the

  26. time. But when we got into high school, he was in advanced math

  27. and I was just in regular math, so we ended up lining up there.

  28. So we spent a little more time together then.

  29. Well, awesome. And then. So did you ended up getting married,

  30. I don't know, Shortly after high school. I don't really know.

  31. Help me out.

  32. Yeah, no, we actually. Let's see. So we started dating in high

  33. school and I was a senior and he was a junior, and then I went

  34. off to IU for one year, which a lot of couples do. Kind of had

  35. a lot of breakups throughout college. The year, let's see, it

  36. would be 2010. So two years after I graduated from college, we

  37. got married. So we had a pretty long time together. And then

  38. sometimes not together, but mostly together.

  39. And we should, you know, I get that, of course, but I get. And what

  40. we want to say at this point and be a part of our conversation

  41. is that Ross Stackhouse is the pastor of Heaven Earth Church. You

  42. were just a part of the ongoing mission and ministry here,

  43. but let's learn a little bit more about you, particularly kind

  44. of some of the formative things that happened in your life,

  45. either growing up or in your family that you grew up with, school

  46. or whatever. What were some of the things that were. Kind of helped

  47. shape the person that you are?

  48. That's a good question. One that I don't probably reflect on

  49. terribly much. I grew up in. I guess what you would consider, at

  50. least my immediate family was a nuclear family. Both my parents

  51. are still married today. I had a younger sister that was from that

  52. marriage. But then I also had two older siblings, an older brother

  53. and an older sister from my mom's first marriage. So we had kind

  54. of that dynamic where they would kind of be living with us sometimes

  55. and then living with their dad sometimes. Grew up in the country,

  56. actually. I started out in Carmel, and I went to school there

  57. first till first grade, and then I went to. We moved to Fairland.

  58. That was quite the transition, moving out to the country. And one

  59. that really. I loved living in the country. I would say probably

  60. one of the biggest influences. My parents were both small business

  61. owners, so my mom had a diner and my dad had a hardware store.

  62. Okay.

  63. And that was kind of. It led to kind of a charm childhood where

  64. I got, you know, go to these businesses and work and then eventually

  65. actually really work, flavor of small.

  66. Business, entrepreneurship, that type of thing.

  67. And got to spend a lot of time with my parents, which was nice.

  68. And my other family, my dad's father helped. My grandpa helped

  69. him. They owned the store together. So I got to spend a lot

  70. of time with my grandparents. Another thing that was definitely

  71. formative is that both my older siblings struggled. Have struggled

  72. with addiction their entire lives. Heroin addiction, specifically.

  73. So I got to see as a child growing up, kind of how that was

  74. impacting their lives for the negative. And it definitely kind

  75. of put me on the straight and narrow. I didn't want to do any,

  76. you know, anything that. That they were doing at the time. And

  77. then also my sister had four. Has had four children. My parents

  78. have raised. So starting when I was 12 years old, Eli was my sister

  79. became pregnant when I was 12 years old. And then Eli was born

  80. when I was 13. So I really have basically four younger siblings.

  81. Even younger than my sister Maria. Yeah. And that was definitely.

  82. I mean, that's been a huge impact in my life.

  83. Well, that's really a part of informing the person.

  84. Yep. And their addiction has too. I mean, it's an awareness I

  85. have.

  86. So let's talk a little bit about your life of faith. You know,

  87. you're in a part of a faith institution here, Heaven, Earth,

  88. Church, now, but people come to be a part of a church for lots

  89. of reasons. And obviously your husband's the pastor here. That's

  90. one reason. I know we'll get into some of that, but yeah, let's

  91. talk about your faith story, about how you came to faith in the

  92. first place and how that's kind of been a part of forming your

  93. life, part of your faith story.

  94. So after we moved from Carmel back to Shelby county, my mom's from

  95. Shelbyville originally, so I think she felt a little more called

  96. to get us what she considers back into the church. We started

  97. going to the church when I was probably 11, 12, 13ish that she went

  98. to as a child, which was First Baptist in Shelbyville, which is

  99. part of the American Baptist Church. There are a lot of different

  100. Baptists, and they have. I know growing up, I didn't realize

  101. that there were all of these different flavors of Baptist, but

  102. American Baptists have. For instance, they'll have, like, women

  103. preachers, which is different than some Baptist religions. I was.

  104. I think it's a little bit more like. Like, I was allowed to do certain

  105. things that I know some of my other Baptist friends weren't. Like,

  106. I could read Harry Potter, for instance, just to give people kind

  107. of an idea of what it was like as far as kind of the flavor of what

  108. you would hear on a Sunday. There was definitely more fire and

  109. brimstone than what I would hear Ross talking about. Now, there

  110. were some things that I think happened in the church that harmed

  111. other people. I don't feel harmed by them, but I was part of

  112. the. The era that grew up in purity culture, which was a big deal.

  113. I went to church camp a lot, and that was like, one of the themes

  114. one year for the entire church camp was like, true love waits. I

  115. kind of grew up in that era, but I'm a really big rule follower.

  116. So I actually liked having.

  117. She liked it.

  118. I liked having this from the security.

  119. Culture type of thing. It gave you a real kind of rigid set of parameters

  120. to live within, right?

  121. Yep. And the church kind of as a whole, did, too. I felt like some

  122. of the stuff that I realize now is probably dogma, it might not

  123. have come straight from Jesus's lips or even some of the

  124. stuff that we see in acts. It, I think, for me, and I know many

  125. people have a very different experience, it helped me because

  126. I was prone to wanting to follow the rules. So it helped me

  127. kind of create a framework for my life.

  128. Yeah.

  129. So.

  130. So how did that upbringing there kind of evolve or Influence

  131. you as you and Ross started your life together. And where kind

  132. of where you at now? How has your faith journey evolved?

  133. It's evolved a lot the older I get, and I think a lot of people

  134. probably have the same experience. I realize that the world

  135. is not black and white, that there is so much nuance to the world.

  136. And that a black and white framework, while it might have worked

  137. for my younger life, and it really even works a lot for my life

  138. now. I mean, I'm still a rule follower. I work in compliance. That's

  139. what I do. I realize that it doesn't always work when you're applying

  140. it to the greater world. I've definitely had some faith crises

  141. along the way where it didn't seem like things really, you couldn't

  142. reconcile them with a black and white framework. And so that

  143. was difficult at times. And I also had. There was a lot of evolution

  144. where for me, I realized growing up, the discussion, a lot

  145. of the discussion was about how to get into heaven. And that

  146. was really foundational to my faith. How the choices you need to

  147. make to get into heaven. I definitely had a faith crisis when

  148. I realized that it meant if certain people are getting into heaven,

  149. that means certain people are going to hell. And I looked around

  150. me and there were so many people in my life that weren't following

  151. that strict, like a plus B equals C guideline for how to get

  152. into heaven, but they were really, really good people and like,

  153. pillars of my life.

  154. So you had some dilemmas that you were dealing with?

  155. Yes.

  156. Kind of based on your faith teaching compared to your life experience,

  157. Right?

  158. Yeah. And that. That was troubling to me. I think it probably

  159. led to me to that becoming. Not just. It wasn't just that realization.

  160. If there were certain people in my life that were going to hell,

  161. then that wasn't. I wasn't gonna be able to continue in that

  162. mindset. And I know for a lot of people that that still is kind

  163. of their.

  164. Did you come to any kind of resolution or place of understanding

  165. where you. That you're at now? So take us there.

  166. I think so too, or I think I have. I think. And Ross was very

  167. aligned with me too, by the way. We had a very similar. I mean,

  168. we both grew up in a rural area that kind of had a similar kind

  169. of feel, even though he went to a Methodist church and I went

  170. to a Baptist church. Eventually. When you look at the

  171. Bible, I think in its totality, you realize that it's actually

  172. that the question is not actually how to get to heaven. The

  173. prevailing question that it's actually a lot more about relationship

  174. with God. That has helped me a lot. I'm not focusing so much on

  175. where everybody is going. I'm focusing more on how do we live out

  176. our relationship with God in relationship with others. And that's

  177. been really helpful to me in my faith.

  178. So it's gone from kind of a little bit of dogmatic to more relational.

  179. How relate to Jesus and to others and how they're all integrated

  180. together.

  181. Yes.

  182. Your life of faith is being lived out. You are a part of the

  183. Heaven Earth Church, and we're here on the Heaven Earth. Tell us

  184. about how you end up getting connected to Heaven Earth Church

  185. in the first place and kind of what are you involved with now?

  186. Yeah, it started out with kind of a funny story, actually. I told

  187. Ross before he became a pastor that I was adamant with not going

  188. to be a pastor's wife, which, of course is a ridiculous thing to

  189. say, probably. But again, I grew up in a Baptist church where

  190. I felt like there was a prototype or a stereotype for what

  191. a pastor's wife did. And I didn't feel like I fit that stereotype.

  192. Just taking a slight aside, give me a couple nuggets of what

  193. was burnt in your brain about that.

  194. Like, they led children's church all the time. A lot of them

  195. didn't work, which is totally fine. It's just that I knew I wanted

  196. to work in my life. They played the piano. I don't know how

  197. to play the piano. They always sang on Sunday. Yeah.

  198. So those are some of the things stereotypical. I just wondered

  199. if your experience was similar. Let's go back to your. How

  200. you got connected with heaven or church. And where we left it at

  201. was you told Ross, I don't want to be a preacher's wife in the

  202. kind of traditional sense. So what has that evolved to you now

  203. and kind of. How did you get started here?

  204. Yeah, and the reason I told him that is because he was in theology.

  205. He was in a theology program, and he wanted to be a professor.

  206. Well, he got rejected from all of his doctoral programs. His sister

  207. sent him a job interview or not a job, a job description for

  208. opening at a church in Carmel. And I was like, I don't want to be

  209. a pastor's wife. He went ahead and applied despite me. He was really

  210. good at preaching. He'd never preached before. He'd never done

  211. anything like that before. And they did, like a practice sermon

  212. with him. And I went to it and I was like, okay, I think I might

  213. have to be a pastor's wife. He became a pastor in the Methodist

  214. Church, which is kind of leading to Heaven Earth Church. He

  215. was at that Carmel church. He was there for, like, six years. Thankfully,

  216. the stereotypes that I had in my mind about being a pastor's wife

  217. were not really stereotypes that I saw an action there. So I

  218. didn't. It ended up being fine, like, a lot of things I worry

  219. about. And then it came time to. Within the Methodist Church,

  220. they move people around. Pastors get moved around to different

  221. churches. And it came time for him to move to somewhere else. And

  222. to make a long story short, he ended up leading the charge of a

  223. church plant. Brad, you probably know more about it than

  224. I do in that, like, the different technical terms, but a

  225. church plant in Johnson County. That's how Heaven Earth Church

  226. originated. And it was a house church at first. We were meeting

  227. in our house every week. It's always had a recovery church component.

  228. So there was also a recovery church meeting going on. But, yeah,

  229. it's really grown from there. I can't remember exactly the details

  230. about how we ended up in this building, but even that was really

  231. felt very ordained.

  232. What was your initial feelings in that first year or so about the

  233. church? Were you kind of thinking, okay, this is a little

  234. wobbly. This is something cool going on here? What were some of

  235. your emotions? Because it's not only about starting a church.

  236. There's family life, there's marital life, there's transitioning

  237. to new community, things of that nature. And really, with a new

  238. church plant, you do not have a community that's supportive of

  239. you.

  240. Initially, I will tell you that I really struggled with the

  241. idea that our family would be uprooted every so many years because

  242. of Ross's calling. I struggled because I struggled as a woman, because

  243. I had a job that I liked, and I didn't want to be uprooted and

  244. moved around away from my job. And I didn't want my kids to be uprooted.

  245. So honestly, knowing that we were going somewhere close in proximity

  246. to where we were before, which was in Shelby County, I was actually

  247. very grateful that we were going to be trying to do this. I

  248. remember making a joke that I was going to lay in front of cars

  249. to get them to come to our church because I wanted it to work,

  250. because I want to be close to my family. I don't want to move to

  251. Fort Wayne or something.

  252. Any new adventure is a little bit dicey, if that's right.

  253. Exactly. So I felt good about it. Knowing that we would still have

  254. at least our family within an hour of us, you know, and still be

  255. able to see them and participate in family stuff. And

  256. with a church plant, if it goes well, then it usually lasts

  257. a little longer. And you're not uprooted every, you know, five

  258. years. So I was also excited about that prospect, although it

  259. is scary because it's a parachute drop, and oftentimes those

  260. don't work.

  261. Tell me about a time in that era of forming the church and getting

  262. involved with the community and things that you have chosen to

  263. be involved with in the life of the church where you kind of had

  264. a. An aha moment. Okay, this might work. And this is kind of cool.

  265. You have a moment like that kind of. That.

  266. I remember during COVID we had. I can't remember if it was the

  267. beginning of COVID or if it was toward the end of COVID where

  268. we decided we would meet outside. I guess it must have been

  269. further along because I don't think people were meeting at all.

  270. But we decided to have an outdoor meeting and, like, outdoor

  271. church service. And I just looked around and I couldn't believe

  272. I looked at all these different people that we didn't know,

  273. you know, like, two or three years earlier. And it was just. It

  274. was very inspiring to see all of these people that somehow had

  275. made their way to our church that we had not even known. Like,

  276. there was no relationship, and now there's a relationship. And it

  277. was very organic, too. And so that was really. That felt really

  278. neat. And we've had a couple services, like the Christmas service,

  279. which a lot of people tend to. You know, your whole church ends

  280. up kind of coming to that, and you see everybody in one place, which

  281. sometimes you don't do. And those moments have been really. It's

  282. not all about the numbers, but there is certainly something about

  283. seeing everybody together.

  284. It's kind of the validity that comes with seeing a group of people

  285. there. Every end endeavor has its times of challenge and of stress

  286. and crisis. So if you don't mind, tell me. Tell us about a kind

  287. of a lump in the throat moment that you've had in the life of the

  288. church that you're kind of like, okay, I.

  289. Know exactly what it is for me. So there was a time, and it was

  290. shortly after Iva was born. I think it put us again in the middle

  291. of COVID So I was already feeling probably isolated, and we

  292. had started meeting in the church. Church service in the church,

  293. you know, as opposed to, like, meeting outside during COVID and

  294. stuff. So it must have been pretty far on. We didn't have a lot

  295. of kids coming at that time. I was really the only one with kids.

  296. I found myself coming to church with my children. Ross would

  297. have already left in the morning. I found myself getting the

  298. kids ready to go to church, to take my children to the back, to

  299. watch my own children, to not even be around anybody, and then

  300. to come back home. And I found that to be very. It was difficult

  301. for me. I don't. I'm not a person who likes to be told what

  302. to do anyway. And sometimes a pastor's wife can feel so pressured

  303. to do something, even though nobody's telling her to do it.

  304. Goes a little bit to the stereotype. You had children's ministry,

  305. and.

  306. And the line gets blurred where you're saying, is this my decision,

  307. or am I compelled to do this, even though nobody's said it? And

  308. that was difficult for me. And I was going to a counselor at that

  309. time, and I talked to her about it, and it eventually got to

  310. the point where I told Ross, I'm not coming anymore. I'm gonna

  311. stay at home. I'm gonna watch the service at home while the kids

  312. play in the comfort of our own house where I can actually hear what's

  313. happening. And until we get, like, a better structure in place,

  314. that's what it's gonna be. And I felt. I've told you before, I'm

  315. a rule follower.

  316. Yeah.

  317. So that was very difficult.

  318. So that really went as good as great. You personally, and I'm sure

  319. it had its challenges, family wise, marital wise, all that stuff.

  320. It was hurtful to Ross, which I don't blame him. But it was one

  321. of those moments that I had to be, like, authentic to myself.

  322. You had assert yourself to be. Because I sensed that there was.

  323. This was a moment when you kind of felt something kind of slipping

  324. away, some sense of. Of this was just not working here.

  325. I felt my autonomy slipping away. Like, I. I didn't have control

  326. over that decision. And it was a decision. It felt like it was harmful

  327. to me at the time. Not that Ross was actively doing that. I want

  328. to be very clear. Ross wasn't harming me. It was just the position.

  329. It was the circumstances.

  330. Circumstances were happening that were as they were. But let's

  331. talk about a moment, a cool, high, holy moment, when you just

  332. kind of knew that this isn't just kind of a deal where this organizationally

  333. is going to work, but this is a God thing. This is a holy thing.

  334. This is something bigger than myself. And bigger than a lot of

  335. things. Have you had a moment like that?

  336. I think it was our very first harvest gathering that we had, which

  337. is something that we have come to do now. Every year it's another

  338. time in the church. You know, I've mentioned that we have. I don't

  339. know that I mentioned that we still have house churches going,

  340. but we also have our recovery church. I have mentioned that. And

  341. then we have our normal Sunday gathering. There are a lot of different

  342. people that oftentimes don't come together at once. And we had

  343. a harvest gathering where everybody did come together at once.

  344. And it wasn't for the church service. It was to just be in community

  345. together and to see each other. It was a moment where we were

  346. all eating together. I felt like we were doing. Even though it's,

  347. you know, a modern flair with cell phones around and stuff, it

  348. felt like we were doing something holy and connecting to

  349. something that people have done forever. Like commune together,

  350. eat together, and just celebrate together.

  351. Kind of a connection kind of with something that's a little bit

  352. traditional, a little bit historical, but in the context of

  353. a new church plant.

  354. Yeah. So that was special.

  355. That was a God thing, right?

  356. It totally was, yeah.

  357. If you were not married to the pastor, do you think this is the

  358. type of church that if you lived in this community, you moved

  359. here for whatever reason, Is this the type of church you might

  360. want to either be attracted to or seek out? What is it about this

  361. place that you might be attracted to in that regard?

  362. I definitely think it would. Although it is hard to. Ross and

  363. I have grown. I mean, we got together as children and we've been

  364. so influential on each other in the past that we've taken. It's

  365. hard to imagine what type of person I would be without him. But

  366. I can only answer with a present mind. Yes, it's definitely

  367. a church I would want to come to. I love how we have a very diverse

  368. group of people. Maybe not racial diversity, but socioeconomic

  369. diversity. We have the diversity that you see with people

  370. who are in addiction or recovering from addiction versus

  371. people who aren't. That's a big, you know, a big difference.

  372. We have a lot of political diversity. I really value that in

  373. my life and in my children's lives. I don't want them to be part

  374. of. Even though the experience that I had in my First Baptist Church

  375. was a positive experience, it was very one dimensional in a way.

  376. Like I wasn't exposed to a lot of people and that wasn't First Baptist's

  377. fault. I mean, it was, you know, just a little town church and

  378. that's just the people that come there. But I'm thankful that

  379. we've created a space where we do attract a of different kinds of

  380. people. I think because there are so many different people on so

  381. many different journeys. My hope is that people would feel welcomed

  382. no matter where they are.

  383. Given your interaction you have with people in the church, because

  384. the point of entry for many people is through the pastor Ross,

  385. and then you're right there as well. What do you think would keep

  386. you here? But what you hear people talk about why they stay a

  387. part of Heaven Earth Church.

  388. I mean, I hesitate to say this because it's one of the things Ross

  389. and I always talk about should not be the premier thing. But Ross

  390. is a very gifted teacher. I think he's been given a lot of gifts

  391. and I know for sure that's one of the reasons people stay is because

  392. when they hear him preach, I think it feels very meaningful to

  393. them and to their lives. But there's a lot outside of teaching

  394. and preaching in a church, and a church should be a much more vibrant

  395. offering than that. The fact that we're small is a big draw to

  396. me. I'm not a big person who likes the great big church where

  397. you feel like you're kind of just going to check a box sometimes.

  398. And I mean, any church can really be that. Like you're going

  399. to check a box. But I feel like we're hopefully building the

  400. opposite of that. Like you really can feel connection and you

  401. can feel like convicted without being judged. And I think

  402. that's a difficult balance sometimes.

  403. I see connected and convicted, but without being judged. I think

  404. that's an interesting way of putting it. And so I think that's

  405. kind of the struggle a lot of people have. They do not want to

  406. feel guilt driven, but they want to feel responsible. They want

  407. to feel kind of a connected to something greater themselves that

  408. they can invest in that is something that would be make a. Make

  409. a difference. Because I believe people really, many, many

  410. people really want to make a difference and they're transformed

  411. by that. So I'd like you to tell me a story, if you will, Angela,

  412. about a person or situation here in the life of the church where

  413. you really seen something happen that changed either a person's

  414. life change or a situation change where life change took place.

  415. I mean, there have been people that came initially. I mean, they

  416. were some of our very first church attendees that are still here.

  417. There are some that are no longer necessarily Attending our

  418. recover church. But Ross is still connected with them through

  419. other organizations, and their lives and their testaments are very

  420. compelling, especially to other people who are trying to obtain

  421. sobriety.

  422. Mission statement of the church that is displayed quite prominently

  423. is we exist to make a lasting impact in our community. Yeah, tell

  424. me about that. What does that statement mean to you?

  425. Well, it makes. I mean, we were talking this morning during

  426. church, and Ross was recounting a story that really made

  427. me think about how when you're connected to the vine, and I think

  428. that's kind of church speak, but when you're connected to Jesus,

  429. that you can't help but flourish. And this is not prosperity

  430. gospel. You can't help but feel like your cup can overflow.

  431. And that cup. I had this image in my head today of one person's

  432. cup overflowing to flow into other people's cups. I think our

  433. church tries to embody that. We make connections throughout the

  434. neighborhood, throughout the neighborhood, throughout the community,

  435. with a lot of different organizations that are already doing

  436. really important work. We've also. Ross and team have also created

  437. the Heaven Earth Spaces organization that is trying to make

  438. not only housing, but places for nonprofits, physical places for

  439. nonprofits to use. And so downstairs in the basement, we have

  440. resources of hope. That's one example they offer. They're basically

  441. a store for foster parents and foster families help get resourced

  442. for their foster journey. And then the house that the church owns

  443. is also now part of Heaven Earth Spaces. The church does not

  444. own it. Heaven Earth Spaces owns it. Heaven Earth Spaces owns

  445. it. And it has a family that lives there now that gets reduced

  446. rent. And we're trying to expand that. Heaven Earth Spaces

  447. is trying to expand that. So that's like a very real example of

  448. that.

  449. So you see that impact. I guess what I'm getting at is that

  450. statement is a real thing. It's not just a trite thing to put

  451. on the wall somewhere, right?

  452. Yeah. No, I think it's one of. I mean, it is. It's certainly something

  453. that is. You can see it in the lifeblood of the church.

  454. One of the things that's said about Heaven Earth Church in one

  455. line is if you feel you don't fit in church, you fit here. Is that

  456. true?

  457. Or for people who don't fit neatly into church, is that true?

  458. And how do you see that lived out?

  459. I think it is true. I know for certain that there are many people

  460. who have felt harmed by some of the institutional churches that

  461. they encountered as children that have found a safe place to exist

  462. here and try to grow their relationship with God. I have always

  463. felt like I fit in a church, so I'm not a person that can personally

  464. attest to it. But Ross has also felt like he doesn't fit neatly

  465. into church, and I would agree with that. And so I think he's tried

  466. to build that and the people around him have tried to build that

  467. here. I think it has worked. I don't think that we get very caught

  468. up. I mean, we are a United Methodist church, but you're not

  469. gonna hear us talking about it that often. You're not gonna hear

  470. us talking about a lot of institutional stuff or even using

  471. a lot of churchy words because we don't wanna alienate people who

  472. might not, you know, have that insider speak. I think that there

  473. are a lot of small intentional decisions made fits here.

  474. And they're doing okay.

  475. There are, yeah. Oh, yeah, definitely.

  476. Let me just ask you if there's somebody who came to in your life

  477. outside of the church, meaning a co worker. You know, your kids

  478. are involved with athletics and other things, that kind of stuff.

  479. If you're talking one of the other moms and there's somebody that

  480. came to you and said, okay, I just got some issue in my life. It

  481. might be job related or marital or, you know, health or whatever.

  482. They got some issues in their life. Do you think you'd be comfortable

  483. inviting them to be a part of Heaven Earth Church as a part of

  484. responding to their need?

  485. Yeah, I definitely would. I think we have something. I think

  486. what we have here is something very special and different than what

  487. a lot of people perceive church to be. It has a very vulnerable

  488. community that comes along with it. And I think that's one of

  489. the most powerful tools in the face of really any kind of adversity

  490. is vulnerability. And I think that people would benefit from that.

  491. We joke a lot because one of our biggest evangelists for this

  492. church is actually an atheist. It's a woman in Franklin who has

  493. sent like five people to us. It's just really funny to me that

  494. she's constantly sending people to our church because of what

  495. she has seen, even though she's atheist.

  496. Yeah, isn't that cool? Tell us a little bit about one cool thing.

  497. Tell us the names of your kids and then something cool about each

  498. of them.

  499. Okay, so I have Boaz, who's 8, Iva, who's 5, and Juniper, who is

  500. a year, almost a year and a half. Boaz is the typical oldest

  501. child. He's a rule follower. Like his Mommy. And he has a heart

  502. of gold. His teacher said that he is a friend to everyone. That

  503. was one of her main pieces of feedback she gave us in our parent

  504. teacher conference. Iva is like a ray of sunshine. She is on

  505. the go all the time and wanting to do some sort of activity

  506. all the time. I mean, making things out of materials you wouldn't

  507. even think could really amount to anything. That's her superpower.

  508. And then Juniper, who's the caboose? We're not having any more,

  509. if I have anything to say about it. And I never say never anymore,

  510. because Ross became a pastor like you said. So I don't want to

  511. tempt fate here, but most likely, she will be the last child

  512. of ours. She has really just been. It's been such a joy. She is

  513. so funny and just so cute, and it just tickles us every day getting

  514. to watch her. I mean, all four of us, because the kids are older.

  515. She was born when I was four and a half, so we just all. She's

  516. like the little princess that we just do whatever she wants, basically.

  517. She's awesome. And I still don't know how you get that top knot

  518. thing working on her hair there. And here you are, you're raising

  519. a family. You're planting the church. You're doing all the things

  520. here. Tell us about Ross. Tell us whatever you want to tell us about

  521. Ross. Good, bad, ugly, anything but any.

  522. So I remember when I was in high school before, I had really

  523. had serious relationships, because I wasn't really that kind

  524. of person that had a lot of serious relationships and. Or any

  525. kind of relationship, just to make that clear. I was very independent.

  526. That's a better way of putting it. I didn't really need anybody

  527. else. I remember telling myself that I wanted to find somebody

  528. that was genuinely a kind person. Like, that was kind of like

  529. the number one attribute that I wanted in a partner. And Ross is

  530. one of the most genuinely kind, empathetic people that I have

  531. ever been around. I mean, he has people. You know, we all have

  532. people in our lives who have, like, done something to us and, you

  533. know, that you feel victimized by. I feel more victimized on his

  534. behalf than he ever does on his own behalf. He just gives people

  535. so much grace. Amir. I mean, it's truly, really wonderful to watch.

  536. Well, just one last thing, and that is just. Is there anything.

  537. Just any word of encouragement or anything else you'd like to share

  538. with the Heaven Earth Church?

  539. I mean, if it's the Heaven Earth Church community, we're happy

  540. to have you here. And if it's anybody else who's not part of the

  541. church, just I hope what I've talked about today makes you feel

  542. welcomed and makes you feel like a child of God, because that's

  543. important.

  544. Well, thank you. Our guest today on Heaven Earth Church podcast,

  545. Angela Stackhouse. We thank you for joining us here on this podcast,

  546. which is all about a church that's looking to make a lasting

  547. impact in our community.

  548. Thanks, Brad.

  549. We want to thank you for spending time with us today. My name

  550. is Ross Stackhouse, the pastor to Heaven Earth Church. And you may

  551. think out there that your story is over, but in fact, your

  552. faith story may just be beginning. If you want more information

  553. about our church or you're interested in the next step, you

  554. can go to heavenorthchurch.org Otherwise, we look forward to being

  555. with you next time at the Heaven Earth Church Podcast.