Sermon
A Conversation with Emily Halverson: Leading with Purpose at HeavenEarth Church
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What would it look like to start a community that was really,
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it's for the people like Jesus would be for?
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Welcome to Heaven Earth Church.
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I'm Ross Stackhouse, the founding pastor of Heaven Earth Church.
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From the start, our heart has been to be a church for people who
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don't fit neatly into church.
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We want to meet people where they are and know their stories.
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Because in every story, there is God's story.
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And this podcast is just about that.
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It's about inviting you into the stories of the people of Heaven
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Earth Church.
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So let's turn to the story.
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Hello, good people, and welcome to the Heaven Earth Church
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podcast.
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This is the podcast about a church that is looking to make a
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lasting impact in our community.
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And our guest today is Emily Halverson.
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She is the executive pastor of Heaven Earth Church.
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And we'll talk more about what that's all about here in just a moment,
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but we want to find out more about you personally, Emily, welcome
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to our conversation here today.
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Thanks, Brad.
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It's so nice to be with you.
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Absolutely.
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Well, Emily, why don't you just.
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Let's just kind of start.
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Here we are.
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The church is located in Whiteland, Indiana.
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But tell us about where you come from, what's hometown for you,
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and then maybe a little bit about what home life was like for
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you.
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Sure.
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Yeah.
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So I am not a native Hoosier.
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I grew up in Illinois.
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So close, but not, not, not here.
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So I grew up in Batavia, Illinois, which is a suburb of Chicago.
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It's a western suburb.
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And that area is actually where my dad's family's originally
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from.
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So we have some family history there.
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But grew up.
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Yeah, really, like my whole growing up was all in Batavia, all
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in one place.
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I lived in two different houses, but all in Batavia.
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And then after I went to college, I've now lived in a total
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of four different states.
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So my kids have a little different experience than I did where
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I was in the same town and they've been in more than that.
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But anyways.
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But I grew up in a Christian home, have a long faith tradition
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in my family, on both sides of my family.
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And so I grew up.
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I grew up going to church.
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I grew up singing all kinds of hymns and different songs.
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I grew up going to Sunday school.
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And just really, my parents spent some time in youth ministry.
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My dad was a teacher and my mom was a banker, but she stayed
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home and did home daycare when we were younger.
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And so faith was always just a big part of our family and our lives.
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And we went to a Few different churches as I was growing up.
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One of them is now a fairly large kind of mega church in that
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area.
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But when I was in middle school, we wound up back at the church
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my dad had grown up in, which was a free Methodist church.
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And that was a very small church comparatively.
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But going back there, we really connected with people in a
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different way.
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And it kind of, I would say that season of my life kind of really
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started my walk with the Lord in a different way.
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We'll go a little deeper with that.
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Tell us about how you kind of how that was a part of forming your
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faith, but maybe some kind of pivotal moment when faith became
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really real to you and you knew that, okay, this is going to
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be an important part of how I really just live life, even career
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wise or things like that.
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Tell me a little bit about your coming to Faith story.
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Yeah, so when I was about 14, I kind of had a season where I would
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say it was the antithesis.
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Well, it wasn't the antithesis of my faith story because it was
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a pivotal part, but it was the first time I really realized that
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my faith was my parents faith and it wasn't my own faith.
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And I kind of decided I can be a little bit stubborn sometimes.
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And I decided I wasn't gonna sing any songs if I didn't mean them.
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If I couldn't sing them and really mean them, I didn't want to
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sing them.
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And so that was kind of my.
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My journey in church for a little while.
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And then the summer after my freshman year in high school, I went
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to.
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I had the opportunity to do a mission trip that I don't exactly
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remember how I got on the mission trip.
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I just remember going, that I was, I was gonna go.
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And so we did some work in Rochester, New York.
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We worked with an inner city church there and just worked with
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a lot of different kids.
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We did a vacation Bible school and did kind of a puppet ministry
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kind of thing.
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And.
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And it was actually like there was a little.
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There was a little girl there who kind of stuck with me all week.
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And she came from just.
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She had a really rough background and story and, and she
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at the end of the week, like she.
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She said she wanted to know the Lord and kind of she came to
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know the Lord.
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And I in that moment had this experience with the Lord where I
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felt like the Lord said to me, like, if she can believe in me, why
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can't you?
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And that was really kind of, I think, the moment where things kind
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of got really, really, really real for me.
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And kind of broke through some of my maybe cynicism and, and just
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my need to have everything answered.
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Maybe kind of a journey, a process that kind of evolved over
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time.
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Sure, yeah, yeah, I, I mean, when I like in.
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Yeah, for sure.
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And when like my very first memory of praying, I was five and
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I was sitting at the kitchen table with my parents and I was talking
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to Jesus.
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And so I grew up very much appreciating faith in Jesus and I
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loved the community and I loved being part of all of that.
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But as I kind of got into my teenage years, that was when I really
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kind of owned it.
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And it meant different things to me.
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And kind of directly after that trip, I went on a marine biology
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trip because that had been my plan.
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I was going to be a marine biologist.
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And so having those two experiences back to back, the mission
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trip and then the marine biology trip again, really felt the
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Lord was kind of calling me into a different path.
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And so that path led you into your education and eventually you
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made a connection with your husband Adam.
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And so I know we're kind of skipping ahead a little bit here
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in your story, but tell me about some maybe pivotal moments
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in those parts of your journey, whether it be educationally
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or career wise or getting together with your husband.
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Any long things along the line were kind of pivotal, kind of in
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your face story.
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Yeah, so.
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So I decided I was going to go to Greenville College, which is now
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Greenville University, but to study ministry.
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So that was really the shift in me.
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I had been planning to go to study, go into the sciences and I
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shifted to going into ministry and so the program there and that's
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where I met my husband.
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While I was at school, I really had a sense of a call into
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missions and like a really have always had since I just, I've
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really had a heart for the Middle east for a really long time.
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And so there was a day that I was praying just over, over that.
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And long story short was that that was kind of pivotal to my husband
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and I getting together in college.
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But we started dating in college and then both really felt
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called into the ministry.
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And so we've spent the last 20 plus years kind of working out what
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that looks like to do ministry and to have a family and do those
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things together and honor both calls.
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So.
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So I'm just curious, as you said, they had this particular call
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in the Middle East.
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Have you been able to travel to the Middle East?
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Yeah, so my husband spent a semester in Egypt when he was in
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college and then when it was 2005.
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It was actually right at the time that the tsunami hit India because
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I remember we didn't know about the tsunami.
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We didn't hear about it because we'd been.
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We were traveling right at that time.
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And so we found out a few days after it had happened, but we were
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in Egypt.
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And so we were there for two weeks on what we called a vision
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trip.
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So we were really kind of praying over like, are we supposed
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to come here like now?
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And really felt like what the Lord kind of spoke to us in that
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trip was not right now.
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And so.
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Which was kind of surprising.
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We're like, okay, so we kind of came back home and I was youth
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pastoring at a church.
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So we stayed at the church and kind of walked that journey for a
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little while.
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And then we, a few years after that kind of started down a church
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planting road and so we moved to Wisconsin and we were there for
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10 years doing church planting work.
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And then we were planting a church.
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As a couple kind of co pastors or something like that.
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Okay, all right.
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Yep.
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And then we wound up moving to Michigan to do some work with Middle
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Eastern populations in Michigan.
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Okay, very good.
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Well, what eventually led you then to land in, in Whiteland, Indiana
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and to eventually get connected with heaven or church?
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What got you here in the first place?
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Yeah, so when we kind of discerned that our season in Michigan
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was coming to an end, we were looking for what was next.
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And my husband had.
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We had a connection just through some different ministry channels
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with, with, with a gentleman down here.
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And he offered my husband a job and so he took it and we moved.
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So that's the short story.
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Yeah.
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Because you, you both, you and he were both involved with ministry
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situations.
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And just to backtrack a little bit, it's my understanding that,
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you know, there were some, some experiences in that that were
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a little bit tough.
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Is that right?
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You know, absolutely.
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Experiences that maybe you kind of put some perspective on ministry
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for you that you came to this community with.
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Right?
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Yeah, yeah.
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So we were, in one way or another.
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We've been in ministry since both of us, since we were in high
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school, which is a little while ago now, so 20 plus years and
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kind of through that.
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And we, and we've, you know, we both held different positions
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at conference level and so from local church levels to conference
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levels and involved in some national things with our denomination.
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And so we've seen ministry like on lots of different sides from
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lots of different angles.
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And so when we leaving, leaving Michigan was very difficult
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and happened in some Ways that just made us kind of rethink the
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organizational part of church.
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And find yourself a little bit guarded, a little bit hurt?
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Oh, absolutely.
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Yeah.
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It was an incredibly difficult season leaving.
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There's a lot of confusion.
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There's a lot of frustration, there's a lot of hurt.
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There's a lot of.
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My mom heart felt very much like my family had been hurt by.
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By individuals who were in charge of things.
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And so we really decided by mom.
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Hearts, you mean people actually hurting your own children
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or hurting other people or.
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Go there a little bit with me for a minute.
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What do you mean by mom heart?
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Yeah, well, that's a good question.
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I would say both ways.
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So I very much saw interactions that hurt the local
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church from conference leadership.
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And I also saw in my own family what.
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The way that we were treated in that process, just the effect
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that it had on my kids and what felt like just blatant disregard
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for, like, the humanity of people.
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And that all felt very contrary to leading in a way that
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Jesus leads to me.
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And so we were.
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I'd say it's pretty fair to say we were pretty jaded coming out
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of that.
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Out of that experience.
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You come to Johnson County, Indiana, Greenwood, Whiteland area.
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So it seems to me, from what I'm picking up on here, Emily, that
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really ministry wasn't really the focus when you came here, or
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wasn't.
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It was not.
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Well, that wasn't really in your mindset at that time.
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When we left, what we decided is that I was gonna go to grad school,
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and I was gon to do a degree in organizational leadership.
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So I was starting a degree.
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And we were going to take a break from.
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From ministry and all of the different ways that means so.
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And from the organization.
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And so we took a leave of absence.
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That was how the designation was with our denomination.
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And so we took a leave of absence and I started school at Gonzaga.
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And Adam, my husband, he started this job.
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And part of coming here was we thought we were actually going to
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be involved with another church that's part of our denomination
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when we moved down here and then.
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And it's a wonderful church, doing really great things, but just
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as we were here and kind of got settled, just realized that the
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healing that we needed to do, the hurt that we had, was pretty
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deep.
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And the healing that we needed to do, we needed to be a little farther
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away.
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And by farther away, you mean some distance from this denominational
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kind of structure type of thing.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Our denomination is very, very, very connectional.
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And so there were Just lots of reminders all the time of that.
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So we needed to be farther away from that.
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Sound like you didn't feel like you were quite fitting it?
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No, for sure.
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Definitely not.
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And saw some things that we couldn't unsee.
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That really just kind of.
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You just made us reconsider a lot of things.
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When you see things like that, they impact you and cause you pain
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and grief and loss and, you know, and your.
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Whatever your higher vision was, has been.
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Been diminished a bit.
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So tell us a little bit.
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So you moved to Johnson County, I don't know, two, three
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years ago.
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I forget.
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Yeah, we moved here in the fall of.
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It was August.
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Well, it was split because my husband and the girls moved down
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first.
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I have three kids and we actually, we knew we needed to be
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in the Indy area, but we didn't know where.
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And we had from the time my husband accepted the job until when
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school started down here.
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It was two to three weeks, depending on which school district.
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We had to move really fast and yeah, we had to move really fast.
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And actually we.
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We live in.
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In Greenwood and we picked Greenwood really just because my
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girl.
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My oldest is really into.
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Both of my girls are now.
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But my oldest at the time really wanted go someplace that offered
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First Robotics.
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And my second oldest, she really wanted to go someplace that
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had an orchestra.
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So that landed us in Center Grove because they started a week
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later than Perry.
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And so we said, well, okay, so we.
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You make decisions for all kinds of reasons.
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That's right.
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So that's where we landed.
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And yeah.
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And so then we.
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For the next.
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They came down here and started school and we kind of over
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the next month were.
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It was a kind of progressive move when my son and I joined.
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What I want to get.
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You didn't move to Indiana from Michigan to somehow get connected
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with Heaven Earth Church?
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Absolutely not.
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This wasn't on your radar.
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Not at all.
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That type of thing.
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So tell me how heaven or church did get on your radar.
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How did you have an awareness of it in the first place and end
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up even checking it out?
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Yeah.
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So we.
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I like to say we were casually dating in different church.
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We did that for a little while in Indianapolis and after about six
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months, kind of.
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That was actually our first.
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After we decided we weren't going to be part of the church that
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we came down and thought would be a part of.
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We spent just a lot of time kind of looking and trying to figure
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out that piece of our journey.
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And so we kind of went casually dated this other church
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for a while and Kind of just decided there were some things that
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we just decided it wasn't the place where we needed to be.
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But it did kind of open the door again to like being involved
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in church.
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And so then anyways, fast forward about another six months
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and I was looking for volunteer opportunities in Johnson
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county and actually came across Resources of Hope on some
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list.
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And so I was looking at what it was and through that process then
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found Heaven Earth Church and saw Ross's blog and saw some of the
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videos he did and talking with Upstream Prevention and just different
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things like that about the work in the community and kind of
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their beliefs.
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And.
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So it seems like the partnership having to do with community
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oriented organizations was attractive to you.
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It kind of scratched an itch for you going back to a little bit
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of your, your socially awareness things with even the least
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and things like that.
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Is that a fair thing to say?
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Yeah, it definitely was.
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We saw in Heaven Earth a place that had had similar theology to
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where we.
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To kind of where we came from.
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Being, being a.
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Being a female pastor.
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That kind of already narrows the.
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Narrows the field for churches.
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Not that everybody has to agree with everything, but it just
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already kind of limits your.
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Limits your pool.
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And so there was theology here that matched ours.
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So there was like biblical theology, but then it was also practical
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theology and how the church was walking that out and how we saw
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them partnering with groups and making impact in the community.
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And so, yeah, we absolutely wanted to.
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So tell me about the first time you came to a worship experience,
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a conversation, as we, let's say, around heaven or a church.
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Tell me about your experience kind of in.
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As a church person, a church professional who had been a little
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hurt and jaded about coming into that experience.
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What were you looking for?
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What were you, what was your antenna up about on that first time?
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And what did you just tell me a little bit about that experience
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the first time you came?
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Yeah, I was extremely guarded, Extremely guarded.
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I did not bring my children with me and we came in and sat in
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the back and just paid attention to a lot of different things.
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And one of the things that struck me right away was so again,
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I was in a leader.
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I was in a organizational development.
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No, organizational leadership program.
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So I, I'd spent about a year and a half at that point really studying
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like leadership and intentionality and all kinds of things
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around that.
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And so one of the things I noticed right away was ways that
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Ross intentionally acted that like, reduced a power differential.
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So one thing that can happen with professional clergy is there
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can sometimes be a distancing between clergy and non clergy people
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in a church and kind of almost like a hierarchy can develop.
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And I sensed like none of that here, which was actually really comforting
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to me and stood out to me a lot.
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And so, and there were, there were things actually about that day,
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I remember that kind of reminded us of the church that we
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had planted in Wisconsin when we were there.
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So there was kind of almost a sense of familiarity that way.
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And so it was.
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But beyond that, I mean it was, it was friendly and people turned
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around and said hello to us right away and, but also kind of
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like gave us space.
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It wasn't, it wasn't like overwhelming, but it was definitely
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welcoming.
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And there was a lot of.
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It felt like space to just be present and experience.
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And then we kind of hung around afterwards.
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I think I remember being.
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I don't think we said anything in the conversation that day.
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I don't think maybe we did.
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I don't think so.
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But that struck me just even that it was a conversation and that
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it actually was a conversation.
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And we stuck around afterwards and spoke with Ashley.
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She kind of.
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We were talking to her for a while.
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I think we were reading something on the back wall.
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I don't remember what it was but.
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And so we.
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She came over and started talking to us and we talked to her
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and she's like, you might want to talk to Ross.
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Like, let me introduce you.
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And so then we met Ross and talked to him for a while and.
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And then we've been here ever since.
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So it sounded like you had first experience and your husband
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Adam was with you.
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I presume that you and he both.
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But I'll just particularly talk with.
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You were checking it out on several levels.
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There is kind of a personal spiritual level.
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There was a kind of an emotional level, interpersonal with
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other people.
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There was kind of a bit of the.
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Kind of.
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The academic kind of a thing.
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You kind of check it out organizationally, see how it's working
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organizationally and then theological as well as well as this.
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I'll just call it the.
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It factor kind of the warmth factor that I think a lot of people
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are looking for.
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Am I accurate at all in kind of how you saw what this was going
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on here?
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Yeah, absolutely.
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I think all, all of those antenna were up.
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Yeah.
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So then you end up having a conversation with Ross.
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You met him that day.
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Yeah.
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So tell me about how that, that conversation with Ross when
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you were able to have a.
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Either.
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Either one on one or you and your husband and he together to have
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a Conversation.
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Tell me.
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Tell me about that.
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I.
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Yeah, I.
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We.
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We laugh about it sometimes.
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Like, him and Ashley and I talked about it periodic last year,
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because what stands out in their mind and mind is how guarded
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I was, so.
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But I think what, again, what struck me was just, like, the honesty
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and the authenticity.
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Like, there's.
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There's something very, very authentic about Heaven Earth, where
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it's not pretentious and it's not a show, and it's not.
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It's not trying to be the next big thing.
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Like, there's a.
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Like a real authentic, like, man.
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We're on this journey together, and we really do believe
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in Jesus, and we really do believe in the Holy Spirit, and he
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works, and we, like, want to leave room for him to work and acknowledge
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that.
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And then.
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But then.
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So we just.
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We kept.
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We kept coming back, I think, because of that.
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But also there's something about.
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I want to say it's in the DNA, but I don't know if that's the right
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metaphor.
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But there's something about Heaven Earth being here that allowed
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us to heal.
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So, like, we had.
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Sometimes I say we had done a level of healing on our own, like
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our family had, but it allowed us to heal in community, which allowed
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our healing to kind of go on another level.
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So we're gonna talk in a minute here about your role now as
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executive pastor, but let's just kind of go a little deeper in
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what you're talking about right here.
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Yeah.
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Even if you weren't on staff here, would you still be going to
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church here?
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And basically, what keeps you here?
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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I would.
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Heaven.
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I say this all the time, but Heaven Earth has really good soil.
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And so what I mean by that is that there is a lot of things that
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are done very, very intentionally here, from, you know,
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the.
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The way things are set up in the sanctuary to the partnerships
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that are pursued, to the.
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The language that's chosen to.
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Not that every word is, like, preplanned.
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That's not what I mean.
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But just, like, in terms of how we talk about things, it's very.
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It's very intentional.
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And all of that work, you know, we.
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We came in.
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I think the church had been in existence for, like, five years already,
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but we could see, like, the cultivation of all of that soil,
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and it just.
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It was really fertile ground for healing and for growth and for
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life, really, like.
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And so I think there's something about being authentic with
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your own story.
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And sometimes when you're in leadership, at least we were kind
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of brought up in Leadership where you're.
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You're not really allowed to fail as a leader, you're not really
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allowed to hurt as a leader.
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You're supposed to kind of toe a line, and that can.
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Right.
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And our.
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Not that our intention was ever to be inauthentic, and I don't
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know that, you know, but there's something about that pressure
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that when it's removed and you're kind of allowed to just be
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a human, that's a good thing.
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So you would stay here.
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And so that kind of leads me, one of my key questions I'm looking
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to understand from people who connect with heaven or church, what
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keeps you here in the first place?
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What keeps you here?
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So that's kind of what we're there.
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But you.
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You've gone to a different level.
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You've not only came, saw what, saw something, saw you liked
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it, decided to stay.
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But the process evolved where you became one of the pastors here,
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the executive pastor.
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So tell me how that situation played out, because it happened relatively.
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I forget exactly.
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You started in as about a year, a year or so after you started
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coming here, you joined the staff here.
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So tell me how that part of things evolved.
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Sir, I told Ross no.
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First he asked me, and so we started in January.
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He asked me in May if I would be interested in doing some work
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for the church, and I told him no.
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And then in August, a few months later, so I had just finished
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my degree and was at a little different place, and.
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And actually I was driving down 31 one day, and I was at 31
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in Whiteland Road, and I, like, looked over, and I saw.
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Because you can see the church from that intersection.
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And I just was thinking, man, I really love that church.
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Like, I just really love our church.
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And was probably the first moment of, like, maybe I could be
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a little more involved.
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Like, was where that first.
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I don't know, that seed.
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Whatever started to grow.
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And so then I kind of said to Ross in August, I was like, hey,
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you remember when you asked me that question about, like, coming
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to work here?
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He's like, are you still interested in that?
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And he's like, yeah, yeah, I would be like, let's talk more.
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Um, and then it was about a.
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And then I didn't start until December, so it was a little bit
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of a process of.
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Of that all moving.
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But, yeah, I decided to come on staff, really, because I don't.
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I don't know that I could work for another church right now.
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Well, not right now, because right now I'm working here.
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So I started work for another church.
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But again, like, there's something about this place that that's
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just, it's just.
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I just come back to it's good soil.
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And so it's soil that I feel like I want to be a part of and I
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want to work in.
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And yeah, want to be a part of is slightly different than being
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one of the pastors you have invest.
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Invested.
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You were invested in this church.
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Not certainly kind of a spiritually and mission wise, but
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you know, you've invested into it and part of your life, your professional
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life, as it were.
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I know we.
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So tell us a little bit what it means.
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So what, first of all, what in the world is an executive pastor
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and what do you do?
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Yeah, it's a great question.
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Basically I make things run.
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That's pretty much what I do.
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Um, so it's executive in, in that sense.
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Like, so I, I do a lot of, really a lot of kind of organizational
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development work.
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Like that's a piece of the work that I do.
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That's more the executive part of my job is what are the systems
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that we have in place.
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So when, when things grow, there comes a point where you go,
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what was working here at the, you know, when we were this size?
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It's not.
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We're going to have to like, how do we, how do we scale that?
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And I mean that in a really healthy, like, natural way.
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Like a tree has to get bigger roots if it's going to grow bigger.
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It can't just have its little root system.
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Its roots have to grow too.
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Um, and so there, there was a connection with my, with my degree
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that I saw on that level.
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Um, you know, the, my, my church answers.
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I think it, there was, there was definitely a lot of work that
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like the Lord had do on my heart to make me willing.
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I don't want to even say that because I don't think he made me
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willing.
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But I very much felt like I had a choice and there was a choice
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before me and I felt like it could be a good choice and one that
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the Lord was gonna.
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Was leading me to.
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Not that I had to say yes, but I saw an opportunity where I could
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use my gifts in those ways to help the church.
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And so that's what I've been trying to do.
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So.
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And it really, when I was hired, my, my job has really kind
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of morphed and shifted over the last, over the last year as it's
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developed and kind of things have crystallized a little more and
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exactly what that means.
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So all that to say I do a lot of, A lot of that, like system building
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and I work with a board and I.
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Think a fair amount of behind the scenes thing from what somebody
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might.
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If when somebody gets to a Sunday morning worship conversation,
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they're more likely to see you in a music level or I know you also
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do writing and you do some other things of this, of this nature.
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Tell us how these three areas of your life and the work kind of
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intersect to maybe be helpful to people.
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The music, the writing, the leadership development.
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Tell me about how a lot comes together if that person is coming
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into church, how that might be helpful to them.
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That's a great question.
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So my heart is to like, I, I think that what people would see
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is they'd see connections between things.
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So songs and like flow and so whether it's the AV stuff or like
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the people on stage or, you know, we have a lot of conversations
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about hospitality and I don't, I don't run the hospitality team,
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but, but just we talk a lot about how do we be consistent and
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have a consistent presence in who we are and what we do here.
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And part of that is doing team building.
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So I don't lead worship, but I lead the worship team.
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I don't lead worship every Sunday, but I lead the worship team.
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So I'm working with leaders who are leading on a Sunday morning.
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I'm working with.
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So you have put together the music, you have put together the
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flow of worship, things of this nature, as well as some of the
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things as well.
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So in the life of the church here, Emily, tell me about a time
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when you kind of had that aha moment.
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That, okay, there is something here that I get it and I think other
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people get it, that the aha moment regarding the church and that
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this might work, this just might be, you know, there's something
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here.
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You know what I mean by that?
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Kind of an aha moment?
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Kind of a, A moment when you said, okay, let's go.
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Hmm.
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That's a great question.
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I have to.
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I didn't prepare for that one, Brad.
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My kids love Heaven Earth.
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And so watching them feel comfortable here and welcome here
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and seeing how they respond here has been pretty profound for
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me.
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Like I said, I was a youth pastor, so like connecting with teens
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was kind of.
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Has always been a part of me.
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It's different when they live in your house.
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And so watching them engage I think is maybe my.
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Has been my biggest like, okay, this is, this isn't just about
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me personal.
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Didn't it?
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Yeah, it's not just about me.
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It's not just about Adam.
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It's about like, it's a place our whole family can really be and
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engage.
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And so that's a cool moment.
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Tell me that about a lump of the throat moment when you thought
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either in this church experience, maybe in some other experience,
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a lump of throwing when you're thinking, man, this, you know, there's
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something going on here that just ain't right that I need to do
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something about.
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I don't think I can say that.
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No, you know, I don't, I don't.
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Here's what I'm going to say.
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I don't.
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So, like, I can think of a couple times where I was like, whew,
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what just happened?
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But, but what I actually want to say more is that I think what
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I saw, like, even in just like Ross and Ashley, like, I know the
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work and the commitment that it takes to do ministry work and
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it.
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And I know the toll that it takes.
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Um, and so I think there definitely were times where I saw
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just that I saw the toll and I kind of thought like, I, I think
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there's ways and I actually we, we started being involved with
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the music.
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That was the first way that we, that we started being involved.
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Um, because when you lead worship every Sunday, it's just,
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it, it's, it's tiring.
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Like, it's beautiful and it's life giving, but it's also work and.
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Yeah.
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And so that was kind of the first way that I.
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And I remember and I filled out our questionnaire on, on the
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website.
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But again, I told you I was really guarded.
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So like, I didn't put in all the information.
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I like, I left lots of spots blank.
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You mean you put in it right away, music leader or whatever?
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Well, what I did put in, as I put it in kind of differently.
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I said, I meant, I said something about like the piano and
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the gem bear have been my companions in worship for many years
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or something like that.
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Like, I kind of like stuck it in there.
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Yeah, but, but that was really like the first way we got involved.
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And then there was actually for the harvest gathering.
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Nope, nope, nope.
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It was so summer Sunday, I think.
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Well, it was one of them.
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One or the others.
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We just asked Ross.
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We were like, hey, would you like some help with music on this
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on this Sunday?
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And so that was kind of how it started.
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Tell me then about a God moment that you've had here at Heaven
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Earth Church where you think, okay, there is just something.
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There's a bit of the holy here.
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There's something special here that is a holy moment that I see
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it not only for myself, but I see it happen kind of in the body.
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Oh, there's.
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I've had a lot of those, but normally they come in the conversation.
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But there.
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There have been so.
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And I think what I would say with that was, is like, like the
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conversations are not always comfortable.
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They have a way sometimes of pushing on spots that are maybe a
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little tender, especially like the first year that I was here.
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And.
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But they also, like.
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But it was done in a way that was really, like, good to make me
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think and consider.
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And so, you know, and I was think.
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I'm thinking too.
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Like, there was.
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I, like, I think about, you know, a day that Ross came out with
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a cardboard side and wrote, you know, homeless on it and talked
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about homelessness.
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I think about the day that he baked bread during the service and
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we had.
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And like, we ate.
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That was the bread we used for communion.
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But there was an experiential nature to that.
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I think about things that I thought about in terms of the Lord
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really being like, are you paying attention to that one?
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Because you probably should.
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Or.
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And a lot of that came through, like, some of my stubbornness
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and.
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But in my healing, but also, like, really challenging, encouraging
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good ways.
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And there's something about processing journeys together that
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happen in that conversation and hearing other people's perspective
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and being reminded, like, okay, we're out.
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Like, we really can be on this journey together.
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We don't have to agree.
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Ross says a lot.
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He says, you know, you don't have to agree with me, but together
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we're seeking to be in unity with Jesus.
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And I love that.
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It's a.
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It's not just a line, but it is a line.
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But I love that saying, that phrase because it's like, we, like,
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there's an acknowledgement, like, we do our best to follow the
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Lord, like, faithfully, but there's also, like, we're not gonna
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get it right all the time, but we're.
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We're trying to walk with Jesus and like, we don't have to
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be agree like a hundred percent on everything, but we can
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still be in fellowship and.
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Follow him together in that agreement, in that fellowship.
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Yeah, I'm.
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I'm a real advocate for when life change happens, something cool
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happens.
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Tell me a time when you witnessed some transformative change
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in somebody's life that's happened out of the result of the
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mission and ministry of Heaven Earth Church.
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Were you seeing somebody transform?
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So there.
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So I.
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So the.
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The people that come to mind.
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Like, we're in.
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So we do these things called.
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Things called get to Know yous.
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And so we go and we have.
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We have lunch after church, and the very first one that we went
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to.
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So we'd only been at the church about a month.
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Like, there was a group of us there who most of us are.
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Are still here, I think all.
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But maybe.
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And in some ways he's still kind of here, but really, like, we're
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all still part of the church.
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Everybody that was part of that group.
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And what has been cool to see is the different ways and at different
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points, the transformations that have happened in each of those.
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Each of those people.
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And some of them, you know, some of them, it just.
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A lot.
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But a lot of it comes down to, like, different ways, like, people
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are coming, like, have come alive and.
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And just getting to hear their stories.
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A lot of it revolves around healing, but a lot of it also revolves
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around, like, finding purpose and meaning and walking that out
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and then seeing how.
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You'Ve seen that happen in people.
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Yeah.
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And then, like, seeing their connections grow and just the way
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they're seeing the Lord move in their life and the way he's connecting
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them with other people.
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And so it's just.
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It's cool to kind of, like, be on that journey together.
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Speaking of important people, I want to bring it around to this
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and the, like, in the last couple minutes we have together,
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tell me something about your family.
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Just something cool about the people that you live with.
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Your family, your.
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Your husband and kids.
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Tell me their names and then something cool about it.
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Sure.
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So Adam is my husband.
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Natalie is my oldest.
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And then Kaylee and Jamon.
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And we are all musical in one way or another.
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So that's one thing sort of about just our family.
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It's kind of a big part of our.
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Our family.
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But then Adam, I.
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I say that everybody loves Adam, and he doesn't like it when
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I say that, but I say that.
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But he's just, like, super personable, so, like, he'll make
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you laugh.
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And, um, he just.
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He brings a levity but, like an intentionality to.
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To situations and.
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And he can fix, like, pretty much anything that's broken.
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If it's broken, he can fix it, probably, or he knows somebody who
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can.
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Um, Natalie loves robotics, so she's.
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She's part of Red Alert, and she is getting ready to finish up.
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She's a senior, and so she's finishing her year and looking at
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colleges and is excited for that next step of her journey.
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She's Also a lifeguard.
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So she works as a lifeguard and teaches swim lessons.
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Kayleigh is, she is a violinist and she also is a really
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amazing artist.
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And so they do all kinds or she does all kinds of.
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All kinds of creative endeavors.
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And then Jamin is my seventh grader and he, he, he loves soccer,
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but he also just has the biggest imagination in the whole
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world.
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And he's a really, really great chess player.
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So if you want a game of chess, he will probably beat you.
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He could take on the chess masters or whatever.
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So I want to come back to Natalie just for a second.
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You said she's in robotics.
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I want to kind of put it couch it this way.
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I know you're involved with the robotics family, parents and
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so on.
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What I'm going to put into what I'm going to getting at here,
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Emily, is this.
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If somebody you knew through robotics, parents stuff came to you
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and just got to know you a little bit and became.
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You became friendly with that person.
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And let's just say she's a person in similar age and similar
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situation with kids as you are, but had some issue in life,
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whatever it is, marital, financial, job, health related.
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He came to you with just some need.
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Would you feel comfortable inviting her to be.
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To come to heaven or church kind of as a part of her of a journey
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of healing for her?
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Yeah, yeah, I would, I.
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And what would you be the things you would say to her specifically
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to say here, here's how this might be a little help.
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Mm.
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I think what I would.
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Obviously context would dictate it a little bit, but I think
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what I would say is, you know, you like it's heaven.
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Earth is not about having everything together.
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It's about taking a step to, to put yourself in a place where
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you can heal and that.
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Yeah.
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Like it's a.
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It's a place where you can be who you are and be seen and be reminded
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that you're not alone and that the Lord loves you and that the Lord
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wants to meet you where you are and we want to meet people where
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they are and we want to walk with people and journey together.
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So.
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Very good.
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I want to kind of bring this conversation home with two questions
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here.
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They have to do with the pivotal to the life of the church.
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Prominently displayed in the church is a mission statement that
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goes something like, we exist to make a lasting impact in this
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community.
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What's that mean to you and is it real?
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Yeah, I actually think it is real, what it means to me.
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So I'm going to start with that Part of the question.
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And then I'll get to the other part.
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I think one of the things that we talk about here is our partnerships.
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And so we talk about like, we don't.
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Heaven, Earth doesn't try to do everything.
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Like, we can't, we can't do all the things.
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But what we can do is be connected with and help you connect
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with other organizations in the area that are like doing things.
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So that's one thing.
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But the other thing is part of, part of that partnerships is
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being a place that people trust.
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So there's an element of being like, if we say, you know, we want
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to meet people where they are, are we doing that?
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So we ask those kinds of questions all the time, like, how
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are we living into our mission statement?
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Like, it doesn't just sit on our banner.
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Like, we talk about it all the time.
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You know, how are we living into our values?
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Are we living, Are we missing?
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Like, where are we missing?
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And then like, how can we be more intentional about seeking that?
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So there's that kind of mindset here of like, we don't want
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to just say things.
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We want to actually like, tangibly do the things to help us
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do that.
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So I think about like the, the housing coalition and different things
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that have kind of come out of the waters one way or another of
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this place.
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And so when we say we want to make a lasting impact, that, that's
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a, that's a holistic meaning.
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And so, um, I guess that's maybe getting into what it means
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to me.
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Well, yeah, and the follow up is similar to it then kind of, I
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kind of take it as kind of a motto or a saint of the church is
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that if you don't fit in church, you fit in here.
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Yeah, the same thing.
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What is that real?
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And if so, how is it real?
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For me it's real.
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And I think that's the heart that's, that's here.
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I think there's a lot of people here who've been hurt by church.
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I think there's a lot of people here who for various reasons
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feel like they didn't fit well in church.
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Sometimes that's like, sometimes that's an intellectual
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level.
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So sometimes it's.
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I ask a lot of questions and my questions weren't welcomed in
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church.
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You can ask your questions here.
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You know, sometimes it's a emotional level.
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Like I was in deep grief and I was told to get over it and just
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move on.
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If my.
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And that's what having faith look like.
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It's not what you're gonna find here.
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You know, sometimes it's what.
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Whatever other thing it is, you know.
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But so we have a lot of people who've had a lot of negative experience
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with church and a lot of hurt, a lot of trauma, whether it's from
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church or from other areas of life.
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And so I think what we really strive to be is true to that.
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Like, we're on this journey with Jesus and sometimes and it's
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up and down and back and forth, but we keep practicing.
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And so it's an environment that just encourages that.
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And we don't have to be all right.
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Like, we don't have to be perfect.
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We're not perfect, but we can keep practicing.
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I love that imagery to keep practicing.
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Well, any.
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Just the words that you would want to share, just kind of a.
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Kind of a concluding thought you may have to someone who might
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be able to see or hear what we've shared here today.
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What would you share either to the Heaven Earth Church community
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or to others who may be checking.
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Checking out the church.
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Yeah, I would say, man, if you're thinking about.
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If you're thinking about coming, like, we would love to have
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you, we'd love to meet you, we'd love to hear pieces of your
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story if you want to share those with us.
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We try really hard not to force things at Heaven Earth.
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And so I would just, I would encourage you, like, if you're looking
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for.
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If I don't know if you're looking for a community, if you don't
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know what you're looking for, come by.
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We just.
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We'd love to have a cup of coffee with you and, and just, yeah,
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learn your name and just, yeah, just be present to you and
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to our Heaven Earth community.
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I guess I would just say thank you.
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Thank you for the opportunity to be part of this church.
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Thank you for the opportunity to work at this church.
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Thank you for helping me heal in my journey and for journeying
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with me.
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So it's, it's.
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It really is a.
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It really is a joy to work here.
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And that's something that I really didn't think I could say.
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Four years ago, I wasn't looking to work at a church again.
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And I'm really glad I said yes.
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So love the way you put that.
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Really glad I said yes.
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So her name, Emily Falferson.
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She is the executive pastor at Heaven Earth Church.
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You need to get to know her.
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We thank you for joining us here on the Heaven Earth Church podcast.
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All about the church is looking to make a lasting impact
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in our community.
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We want to thank you for spending time with us today.
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My name is Ross Stackhouse, the pastor to Heaven Earth Church.
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And you may think out there that your story is over, but in fact,
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your faith story may just be beginning.
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If you want more information about our church or you're interested
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in the next step, you can go to heavenearthchurch.org Otherwise,
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we look forward to being with you next time at the Heaven Earth
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Church podcast.