joy/fully w/Scott McConnell

Thank you, thank you. Good morning and good morning to those online watching now or later.

I know that there are times where I watch online either during service or after and

a lot of times it shows that someone else is watching too. So I'm glad that we have

that. It lets us stay connected to other folks and on days like today that I preach my mom

posts it and all her friends watch on Facebook. So it's a great resource for us to have.

My name is Scott and I get to help with the teaching here at the house which I very much

enjoy. I have a hard time staying warm so I stay pretty bundled up and today I actually

have an excuse to be bundled up and to whine about it being cold. Sometimes I comment at

72 degrees and I'm still bundled up and whining but today I have a better excuse. I do take

sips of water pretty often because my mouth gets dry so just heads up on that as well.

I'll take my first sip. I always forget to take the lid off before I come up. The question,

what's something that irritates you? I'd love to hear a couple answers. Something that irritates

you. Bad drivers. Oh yes sometimes our loved ones can bug us a little. Any others? Things

that irritate you. Hair in the hair brush. I have my own drawer for my own brush because

I don't like hair in the hair brush and I know as soon as I pull out of the drawer if

someone couldn't find their brush and went for mine. And it's like it's one of those

things it's irritating because it's one of those things, okay my spouse used my brush

no big deal but that's not what's going through my head. Someone else's hair is in my brush.

I need one more that one was fun how about one more. Roommates definitely. J.C. Talking

on the phone in a movie or talking in the theater yeah definitely. Have you ever done

a yell like stay off your cell phone. I've been in the theater where someone's on their

phone and you know it's dark in there so nobody can see so somebody will just yell hey be

good stay off your cell phone and all of a sudden it turns off real quick. And then I

heard loud chewing. Chewing can definitely be one thing. We weren't super strict at my

house but you know there were some expectations for dinner so when people don't have those

it can be a little challenging and yeah I'll take that as a last one messy eaters and we

have a two year old. You say Scott you can't judge a two year old for being a messy eater.

Yes I can. Yes I can. When that food is all over it's on my shoes it's on my chair it's

on my sweatshirt it's on the floor it is everywhere. So yes messy eaters that's a thing for sure.

One thing that that I can find irritating is when someone is trying to manipulate me.

I really don't like that especially with false flattery. I would have thought door to door

sales would have been out in 2024 but believe me they're alive and well. Someone came to

my door trying to sell a security system the other day and for some reason I thought I

need to be nice I need to listen to the pitch. So I listened to the pitch and it was actually

it was a really good pitch. Even though I already had a security system installed in

the last year he wasn't done he was trying to switch that one out for another one and

he was trying to say he could integrate his into this one even though it was a different

company and I knew that probably wasn't true but he was making a good case for it. And

so he said next time I come to your neighbor's house since I put one in for them can I stop

by and talk to you a little more and partially get rid of him partially out of respect that

he had given a good pitch. I said sure oops knock knock knock and each time he would knock

and I would answer he would say I don't want to bother you I don't want to bother you but

and I'm thinking in my mind if you don't want to bother me there's a very simple solution

to this don't come to my door anymore. But he was he was good at what he did but I did

feel like he was trying to he was working the angle of your neighbors are getting this

system and you know all the different angles on it. So that definitely could be there.

Sometimes someone could invite you to something and there could be a little manipulation behind

it you know like hey I'm having a party and I don't really care if you come or not it

doesn't matter. All of my really good friends are going to be there and I think we're pretty

good friends so I'm sure you'll come but if you can't make it that's fine but Jenny and

David and Phil are going to be there. They can all make it. So sometimes people they

like to mess with us a little bit and now we're going to switch for a minute we're going

to switch to the Apostle Paul and Second Corinthians chapter 8. If you want to go there you can.

2 Corinthians 8 · chapter mention

You don't have to. I'm going to do a summary as I'm known to do and as I always say when

I when I do a summary please feel free to ask later how did you come up with that or

why did you interpret it that way. That will never offend me. I respect that and appreciate

that. I do my very best to study and make sure that when I'm when I'm using scripture

especially when I'm summarizing it that I do so faithfully but I make mistakes and I'm

always usually a lot of times if if somebody's upset by something it's because they didn't

understand where you were coming from. And so I always prefer to be able to address it

that way. Now Paul starts by talking about a group of people called the Macedonians.

He's talking about their neighbors. He's writing to a church in Corinth that he knows really

well and he starts it off this way. You won't believe how much the Macedonians are giving

to the other churches. It's amazing. They're giving so much and you guys gave a lot last

time too and you guys are really good at like everything else. You help people you're kind

to each other. So I'm sure you're going to give for the offering this year for those

who need it in other churches. And if I were sitting there and I were listening to the

letter by Paul I would be a little frustrated because it sounds like there's some false

flattery in there. And it sounds like there's a little bit of manipulation in there and

a little bit of pressure in there. Let's go ahead and look at I'm going to I am going

to read a little bit from it. Second Corinthians chapter 8. Make it a little bigger. And chapter

2 Corinthians 8 · chapter mention

8 verse one in second Corinthians he says and now brothers and sisters we want you to

know about the grace that God has given the Macedonian churches in the midst of a very

severe trial. Their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity.

So you say look they gave a lot. They exceeded our expectations. And then he says down in

verse seven but since you excel in everything in faith and speech and knowledge and complete

earnestness and the love we have kindled in you see that you also excel in this grace

of giving. And then he goes on in verse eight to say I am not commanding you but I want

to test the sincerity. I'm not telling you you have to but if you don't I've already

told people how generous you are and it'll make me look really bad. And if you don't

it'll make you look bad too. But you don't have to. No pressure. No pressure. And I wonder

how they felt about that. They had a history of Paul had a history of writing them some

pretty tough letters sometimes. He could be a little aggressive. And so he's writing this

to them and up to this point in the letter I can imagine that some of them may have felt

frustrated. Some of them may have felt pressured. Some of them may have thought we've given

before. Why wasn't that enough. Why is Paul asking this of us. And I think a lot of us

have had experiences where we have felt pressured or especially in the church setting or in

a faith setting felt shame maybe when it came to giving. And the sermon as you can see the

series up there is fully and what we're going to talk about is joyfully giving going from

a place of shame or a place of pressure to a place of being able to give joyfully. A

lot of us have been in situations or seen situations where giving in the church was

abused. I was in a church where it was my first time there. Beautiful church. Nice suburb

of Chicago. And the car the parking lot was full of brands of cars I didn't know existed.

There were infinities. There were there was Lexus Acura all kinds of vehicles that I didn't

even know about yet. And they were beautiful and we walked in and there were columns and

there were books sitting out in and bookshelves and we got in and the person who was doing

the offering said everybody hold up your wallet. And so we were expected to stand up take out

our wallet and hold it up. And he said if your money if you still have room in your

wallet for more money then God wants to fill it. If your groceries aren't overflowing with

food then you're not receiving God's full blessing. And what was the key to receiving

God's full blessing? Give that money. Hey and what does that shirt say today? It's only

money. As soon as I saw that today I was like okay. You know so yeah exactly exactly. You

know so they're they're saying there at the church it's only it's only money. So give

some to us. I've seen it before on TV so many times and sometimes I stop and watch just

at the audacity for one thing. When someone is saying hey send me this one of my favorite

sayings and it says a joke is the check is in the mail. And if you ever watch those you've

heard that phrase you know if you if you send something in today the check is already in

the mail. God's blessings are coming back to you tenfold. You know then they have the

people on there you say you know I sent five hundred dollars to such and such ministry even

though I didn't have money for rent and someone gave me two thousand dollars because of blah

blah blah blah blah blah. Another pitch that we've seen before is I got I got this letter

in the mail and it was specifically addressed to me as if this person really knew me. And

it made me do a double take even though I see him. Scott I haven't talked to you in

a long time. I know you're a generous person and I really need to ask for your help. And

it went on to describe this orphanage in Chicago that was going to close down in the next two

weeks if they didn't receive a certain sum of money. And then I tried to figure out how

did they get my information. I have no idea. I wasn't connected with them in any way anything

like that. We've probably maybe been in that situation too where we were pressured or shamed

being told if you don't give this bad thing is going to happen. We've been in those situations

manipulation guilt shame. It's not good. But if we go back and look a little further into

what Paul has to say the apostle Paul. He goes down further. And he says if the willingness

and this is chapter I think it's 912. No I think it's 812. I can look it up for you later.

I put the verse number not the chapter number here. It says for if the willingness is there

the gift is acceptable according to what one has not according to one what one does not

have. When it comes to giving joyfully. It's not based on what we do or do not have. Joyful

giving is not giving a certain amount or a certain percentage. Joyful giving is giving

from what God has already blessed us with. He goes on to say each of you should give

what you have decided in your heart to give not reluctantly or under compulsion for God

loves a cheerful giver. And that's where I like the word joyful joyfully giving. And

God is able to bless you abundantly so that in all things at all times having all that

you need you will abound in every good work. Now I hesitated to put that last verse in

because it's been misused and abused so many times that it's almost scary for someone in

my situation to talk about God's blessing because it could be turned and used so easily

and so quickly for manipulation. But I think it helps if we think about who we're listening

to here. The apostle Paul he did not walk around with money bags. He was beaten. He

was jailed. He was shipwrecked. He listed off all of those things. And in fact he made

it a point wherever he went that he didn't take a salary from the church or money from

the church that he was working at because he preferred to work with his hands and provide

his own. So the idea that Paul was thinking that if you give God's going to fill up your

cupboards and fill up your wallet we know is not what he meant. What he meant is that

God would fill up their hearts and God would be able to use that gift to bless others.

Joyfully giving. I think of Jesus in Mark and in Luke. He tells a story about a widow.

Mark 12 verses 41 through 44 says Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings

Mark 12:41–44

were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple. So the money was in

a place where you could watch people going up to put it in and you could see what they

were giving. And so Jesus was sitting watching what people were giving. So I'm assuming other

people were doing that too. Many rich people do in large amounts. I imagine somebody saying

hey could somebody help me back here. I've got a bag of money I'm going to put in the

offering and it's huge. I can't pull it up by myself. It's really hurting my back because

I brought so much money. I imagine someone else maybe exchanging their their five dollar

coins to nickel coins so that they'd have a bigger bag to put in. When you put it in

there it drops and it sounds heavy. Calling us to say OK but a poor widow came and put

in two very small copper coins worth only a few cents. Calling his disciples to him

Jesus said truly I tell you this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the

others. They all gave out of their wealth but she out of her poverty put in everything

all she had to live on. And when Paul preaches to the Corinthians when he's writing to them

he's writing to them about I don't want you to not have what you need. I want there to

be equity. I want us to be able to share our blessings with those in need. Paul wanted

for the Corinthians whatever it was they were able to give to be able to participate in

what God was doing. Because he knew that would be a blessing to them. He wasn't looking for

a certain amount but he didn't want them to mess that mess out on being a part of what

God was doing. Now I want to transition here and share since we are here at the house.

And I am preaching about giving joyfully at the house. Why I choose to give joyfully to

the house. I choose to give joyfully because I appreciate and I'm excited about the things

that happen here. And sometimes when we think about giving we feel like we're we imagine

these big goals of things that need contributed to. And I think about how giving from a joyful

heart provides somebody with a cup of coffee for us to serve in the lobby. Name tags to

know who each other are. Markers for kids to draw with. Those little things that aren't

about being able to give a large gift but being able to give joyfully in what God is

doing here at the house. Now I also want to mention something else and this worked out

in my favor. I'm so sorry that Pastor Greg isn't feeling well Cindy. But. I'm sure he's

watching. We love you Pastor Greg. But I texted him earlier this week and I said I think I

need to talk to you about you a little bit and I know you won't like that. But here's

why. And so he agreed. The reality is that when we talk about a church in our situation

where we have a pastor a large part of the budget does go to the pastor. And so it raises

the question of who is our lead church who is our lead pastor that is at the church that

we give to when we give to the house when I choose to give to the house. First of all

I believe that he is a man of character and that matters to me. His wife and his children

from what I have seen in his home and in the community love him very much. That is not

true of every pastor's family. I grew up amidst my grandpa's a pastor my uncles are pastors.

I grew up in a lot of that. We grew up enjoying church that wasn't true for all of them. Not

all of them were there on Sunday morning singing and enjoying especially if their dad was leading

worship. And I think that speaks a lot. I also wanted to mention some of the things

that I know that by giving joyfully. My pastor is able to do. And some of the things that

we might not think of immediately creating the graphics. Not only singing songs but writing

songs. The books that we use for our community tables those materials are written by Pastor

Greg a lot of things. There's a book out there that you can ask for that explains the different

things that we do. He goes to buy cups of coffee with folks and that's paid for by the giving

of the church. And so I think about how many cups of coffee people have gotten to have

in the community. Through Pastor Greg and through Pastor Jen. Can you wave at us Pastor

Jen. You might not know this but it's Pastor appreciation weekend. And so I'd love to just

take a second since she is here to say thank you to Pastor Jen for all of the things that

you do. This singing the loving the preaching the hugs opening your home meeting people

in the community. And so these are some of the ways that help me to give joyfully at

the house. I will yeah I think I'm closing. I'll close with this. There are things that

there are people that I've met here at the house that I wouldn't meet at any other church

I've been a part of. And there are people that I've gotten to talk to and hear their

perspective. That I wouldn't hear any other church that I've been a part of. And there

are parts of my story that I've been able to share that I haven't been able to felt

comfortable sharing. At any other church that I've been a part of. A lot of those churches

just they had a pretty narrow set of what they a checklist of what you needed to believe

and especially if you were a leader in that church. And a lot of times I didn't fit that

checklist very well. And so I appreciate that I'm able to be a part of a community where

that happens. And so what if you're new. First of all I'm sorry that you're hearing. I invited

a friend for the first time to hear a giving message. Sorry Amanda. It wasn't on purpose

it was just opportune. But for those of us that get to be a part or wherever you're a

part of whether you be online or whether you're visiting from somewhere else. I want to invite

you to pray about being in a place where you can give joyfully. We can participate in what

God is doing here. And it in a tangible way. And I hope that Paul and Jesus and I clearly

ranking third in that list have made it clear that God is not looking for amounts. He's

not looking for percentages. Those can be good goals. It can be part of the church tradition.

But that is not what we are measured by. There is not shame for what we're not able to bring.

There is joy and celebration in the kingdom for what we are able to. And if you've been

hurt in the past by a leader who was dishonest or is manipulative. I'm sorry for that. I'm

sorry that you experienced that. And if your experience has been hearing about those things

from others and that's made you uncomfortable. I'm sorry for that. And we work really hard

here at the church to make it as low pressure of an environment as possible. We reference

that you can bring something up after service or before service if you'd like to. We try

to make it as low pressure as possible so that people don't have to have that feeling

of being pressured or having that be put on you. But every once in a while I think we

do need to be reminded that giving is a part of our tradition. It is part of scripture

and it is part of what makes our church able to do what it does. Let's pray Pastor Jen

if you come up. Father we thank you for inviting us to be a part of what you are doing. A special

place like this can't exist outside of you. I don't think people can be brought together

in this way. I don't think you can happen. I don't think love can be shown without your

spirit and your love leading and guiding us. And I pray that you would help us to set aside

some of the guilt trips we've heard. And I pray that no one would feel that in their

heart today. I pray that you protect anyone from hearing anything other than grace and

love and invitation. I pray that you would help us to continue to show love and do that

increasingly because we know that there are others in our community who need the G be

a chance to be a part of someplace special in Jesus name. Amen.