The Power of Relationships

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In life, we are most influenced by the books where

we read and the friends we keep. Now you know

why Christian camps continue to have BGRS sessions because we

understand the power of relationship. There is no greater power

here on earth, in bracket and eternity than relationships.

No greater power.

Number two, If you're not happy being a single, you'll

never be happy being a double. Number three, the one

you love the most is also the one you will

listen to the most. This is the truth. I love

my wife a lot, and I listen to.

Her a lot.

But I love God more, even more than my wife,

and so I listened to him most. You cannot bluff

or pretend or cheat this truth. Show me the person

that you listen to the most, and I'll show you

the person you love the most. So if you forget

to listen to your parents, it just shows you that

you love that someone else. Now I hope that someone

else is God, because only God should be higher than

our parents. Only God, only God, not even your spouse.

But anyway, I do love my wife a lot, and

I listen to her a lot, as I said, but

I listen to God more. And it shows you when

someone listens to someone else more, it shows you that

he or she loves that person more. So three truths,

and I will go back and forth to it again

and again.

All right, by the grace of God.

Okay, there is no greater power here on earth than relationships.

Let's deal with that. First.

I've seen in my lifetime of thirty five years of

men history, young people get into trouble with drugs, and

someone will tell me there is no power like drugs.

Once you get into it, you will never get out.

Alcohol is bad, and people have.

Been addicts and alcoholics and they become violent and they

have done stupid things, crazy things that they wish they

never did. Why because they were under the influence of alcohol. Powerful, powerful,

And some people will say there is no power like alcohol.

Others will say there's no power like pornography. People are

addicted to pornography, and they go like, oh, they're so

addicted to it. They feel so bad every time they

go into porn. What I want to say is that

even though all these are very powerful drugs, alcohol, porn,

you name, it all of other things, But there is

no greater power than relationships, because I've seen relationships overcome drugs.

I went to rehabs and saw people Christian rehabs and

saw people just with a little love from others, with

a little care and patience, were able to overcome drugs.

And I saw that also with alcohol.

Someone believed in them, someone cared for them, someone went

in the second mile, third mile even for them, and

help them to break out of drugs, help them to

break out alcohol. So when you see that, you and

people say that drugs is the greatest power. If you're

into you can never come out alcohol. And yet you

see that when relationship comes into help that person, they

can break out of drugs, and they can break out

of alcohol, and they can.

Break out of anything.

So really, at the end of the day, you look

at it and you realize, Wow, Actually, no matter what

power there is on the earth, if there can be

a relationship, you will still have a chance. In fact,

isn't our walk with Christ is a relationship. And that's

why I also said there's no greater power than relationship.

Also in heaven, in fact.

You know God in the first John, I think it's

chapter four, God is said to be the God of love,

or rather, God is love. Now didn't even say God

is power or God is you know this or that.

It mentions that God is love.

Because love is so powerful it can get you out

of any problem, every problem that you have ever experienced.

There is nothing difficult for the Lord because love triumphs

over all. Love overcomes everything, Love covers a multitude of sins.

That's what the Bible says.

And so I have come to believe that relationship is

the most powerful force on the face of the earth

and even in heaven, because when you to heaven, you

will see that nothing else really matters but your relationship

with God. If this is really the truth, Now you

know why Christian camps continue to have BGRS sessions because

we understand the power of relationship. Because I've done this

for thirty five years and going I've seen the most

potential young people, the most potential campus students, and even

young adults and even teenagers, the most you know, on fire.

Young people lose everything just because of a relationship. Have

you seen that before? You know, I'm not so worried

about what job they take. They can be a patrol

pumer attendant all the way to a CEO of a

multinational company. I'm not afraid about the job they do.

I'm not afraid about the country they go to. But

you know, I'm not afraid that you go to Africa.

I'm not afraid that you go to Timbuktu. I'm not

afraid that you go to even China. So I'm not worried.

You know what, I'm really concerned about everyone here in

this room. And if it's central was here, she will

echo me, she will say, yes, I'm afraid that you.

Will get into a wrong relationship.

Because it changes everything. I can't tell you enough how

much it changes you. I don't even care if you

got one million ring git for your pay every month,

you say, old pastor, money is even more powerful. Money

changes you. But listen, listen, money versus relationship. Relationship wins

all the time. So as a pastor and elders here,

different leaders here, you know, our greatest fear is that

you get into the wrong relationship, because I guarantee you

you will change because there's nothing like relationship. And so

if you're guarding your heart, if you're praying about what

job to take, if you're praying about what degree or

master's or PhD doctorate. You know, I'm doing my doctorate now.

And I know it's tough. It's tough. You're praying about

your you're praying really hard about everything else. I pray

you pray ten times harder for the man or the

woman that you will end up with. I have seen

people who have gone for camps year after year, come

up to the all the call and answer the call

to serve God full time, and they get the wrong guy.

That's it.

As soon as you get the wrong guy, I say goodbye. No,

I I do that as in, like, okay, I look

at by, I said, up said, look, look is it.

Huh she ended up with that guy.

Bye.

I know, I know I'm being cruel, but I've seen

it so many times. I just say bye, and sure enough,

in the next few months, the next few and people

think this, they think they're under control.

That's the thing. I am in control. You're not.

If it's the wrong girl, you will lose the plot,

you will use, lose the plan. You will lose your

very purpose besides your virginity, of course, But if you've

lost your purpose for living your calling, then you might

as well, not live. Your calling is your life, your

purpose is the reason why God gave breath to you.

But it's very important to understand this God your heart. Please,

I've seen how you got something very precious, know you was,

maybe you bought a new apple, imag whatever, And I

see how you guard it, you know, like you carry

it everywhere.

I'm asking you now.

That that girl or that guy that you will like

right your heart giving up to that person is even

more precious than twenty imax. And yet, and yet we

sometimes take it very likely.

I practically to me and my wife.

Actually almost and we see a person get the wrong guy,

a wrong girl, we almost feel like as a funeral

and said she's dead. Bury her, bury her calling, bury

her purpose, bury the very reason why she is alive.

Because now all she got is a guy, all she

got is all he got is a girl.

Bye bye.

No, seriously, I'm telling you right now, the reason why

I'm still standing here is because I got a great girl.

If you really want to change, watch your relationships change

for the better, even not just bgr no, even your

own friends. Now, in life, we are most influenced by

the books we read and the friends we keep.

The Bible says, you.

Know, company right will corrupt us, well, will corrupt even

the most innocent person in this room. And only God

knew that she was the right one for me, because

God knows our destiny, he knows where we're going, he

knows what he wants our lives to amount to.

And so he.

Knows because he knows that what I just told you

earlier was true. There's no greater power than the power

of relationship. So he knows that if he gave can

change anyone less than kenn A Chin won't get here.

Today's as simple as that.

If he gave Kenna Chin an equal or someone even

even more on fire than him, he's going to get

to wherever I want him to get to. If not,

say goodbye, have a funeral already, because it's bye bye.

Because there's no power on this earth like your boyfriend

or girlfriend.

That can change you.

From a very happy person and you become a very

sad person. Boyfriend from dressing properly and neatly, you certainly

dress even more sexy now, white boyfriend, he he he

can change you, and she can change you. You know,

is suddenly why why this person changed like that? Because

then there's nothing else, not even God can come and

tell you, girlfriend, boyfriend, you have the kind of power

on the other person. You understand that, and and and

and and God knew Kenneth Chin, I know where I

want to bring you. I know how I want to

use you. I've got to get you the right girl.

If you're ever getting married. No, no, you must at

least like her. Then you can pray for her as

in you know, Lord, is she the one? So I

remember praying. I said, Lord, I commit Sandra to you

if she's really the one for me, and will not

rob me off with all the calling and purpose you

have for my life, but will add to me, not

take away from me, but add to me, and inspire me,

and and and and go the distance with me.

And then after.

Three months, I go to church and Bassandra has a

new boyfriend. I saw her with this guy in church.

My heart was beating fast, and so I wanted to avoid.

I wanted to walk away, you know, walk fast. He

didn't see Kenneth. Yes, come, she said, she's so happy

to come, smiling. I introduced to you, my boyfriend. So

I ran on my knees and I prayed. I said, God,

why why now I've lost her? And God says, who

say you lost her, don't worry. Doesn't mean the person

is to get the means to be together forever. If

I have you for him and he, I'll make it happen.

Oh oh, but I saw that very close to you know,

very close, And I said, Lord, you keep asking me

to put her on the altar, but she keep moving.

I put her on the altar.

She keep moving, And God said to me, yes, Kenneth,

my son living sacrifice, will move. Please, don't take God

out of the equation when you're seeking for your life partner.

Don't ever take it because he knows the best for you.

Otherwise it won't be the best. It might be second best,

and that's not the best. It takes the best to

get you to your best legacy and your best destiny. Hey,

I'm a lawyer, finished my degree. She was a company

secretary working for a big company, and God knew we

were ripe. And you know, of all the seats in

the bus, she sat next to me and we talked

for six hours. Everybody else diping it. We talked and

I reviewed to her. I said, I've been praying for

you for three and a half years. But Senda, I

tell you this, I have surrendered you so many times

that you're not mine anymore, right, your God's. You know,

after a year or two, the desire is resurrendered, and

then you gotta how come I don't have the desire

anymore because the desire is not yours anymore. It belongs

to God. He takes it because you pass it on

to him so many times. She said, could you give

me six months to pray? I say, wow, three and

a half years plus six months, four years away. But

you know, I wasn't even upset because now it's no

longer in my hands because I've already given it to

God so many times. I don't have that that fleshly feeling,

that emotion that I have to have you because I've

surrendered you to God so many times. I now only

want the best for you, Sandra. If I am not

the best for you, I don't want you to marry me,

because if I'm not the best for you and you

marry me, I would cause your downfall. You want to

go to missions, you want to you want to go

to Nepal. I will be the hindrance to you. So

I surrendered you to God's away times. I am no

longer worried. Now God is in God's hands, and God

knows who's the best for you, Sandra, And if it's

not me, then don't. Let's not even start this. And

she felt the same for me, Kenneth. If I'm not

the best for you, we also should not carry on.

I said, yes, that's the way we should live. Otherwise

we rob God, and we rob the church, and we

rob the people many years from now, who we are

to minister to. As we stand here in camp, I

gave you a truth earlier. If you're not happy being

a single, you will never be happy being a double,

and you will go from one person to another person

to another person because you yourself are not happy inside

and you're hoping that your girlfriend and boyfriend can fill

up the happiness. They won't because they are human beings too,

and they will disappoint you.

Has Pascenra disappointed me before? Yes? Have I disappointed her before? Yes?

But our security has never been each other, It's been

the Lord. And so when Passendra doesn't make it as

the greatest wife on Earth, I have got to go

back to.

If I don't make it as the greatest husband on earth.

She has got to go back to a very very

important learn to be the happiest single, and when it's

God's time, you will be also the happiest double. Do

you know how when you put two happy people together,

the happiness is double. If you put one happy person

and another unhappy person, who's gonna rob who the unhappy

person is going to come to the relationship and rob

the happy person under the happy person. You used to

be very happy, You used to laugh, You used to

be so jovial, and you so yeah. But my guy,

my guy is also very emotionally draining. Why because because

he came as a minus one. I was a plus one,

and so plus one and minus one we become zero.

Worse still, I'm a plus one, he's a minus two,

we become negative one. No, but if a plus one

comes with a plus one, you get too. I close

the way I open, and the way I open was

if you find the wrong person, we might as well

call it quits. Now, when you find that person who

is not the person that God has his stuff for you,

you will begin to listen to that person, and your

parents' voices are no longer strong enough.

Now A girl a girl? Why are you? Are your

skirts so short?

In your mind, you know that your boyfriend says, can

you dress a bit sexier? And your mom goes, girl

a girl. You don't understand, and you know it's not

gonna be mom's voice anymore, gonna bead's voice anymore. There's

not even gonna be your pastor's voice ay more. It's

going to be the girl or the guy's voice. Because

you love that person more, you will listen. So you

want to see your friends change slowly, slowly, your friends change?

And what are they listening to?

Now?

They're listening to another voice and it's not even God's voice.

Whose voice are you really listening to? Today?

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