20260614 Biblical Womanhood Sunday Sermon Tim Dickmann

So we're going to begin this morning with the

role of women in the family. I know some of the

men are very happy to get off the men, right?

We've literally been hammering the men lately.

But we're not done. Because husbands, you need

to hear all these things. Because these are things

that you should expect in your home. Remember,

you're responsible for everything. You're responsible

for your wife. You're responsible for her attitude

for her actions for all that goes on So you're

still not off the hook. You still have more to

hear and more to apply and to use It's easy Preaching

to the men because I'm a man and so I preach

it to myself when I'm preaching to you guys I'm

not giving myself a pass or anything like that.

I see my own failures as I preach to you guys

what you should be doing. I see my failures in

the past and how I still am not perfect in those

things. It's a lot harder to preach regarding

wives and women because it's just hard to point

things out to people. It's hard to say things

sometimes that might be hurtful or offensive.

or all of those different things. And so I really

struggled this week as I tried to put my thoughts

down in how I should put them down, how I should

present these things. Again, trying to be true

to the Word and honest with the Scripture and

glorifying to God. So hopefully this morning

will be beneficial and helpful for everybody.

We're gonna begin again in Genesis again I'm

gonna say this is nothing new. This is something

that I've said before but I just want to again

point point it out here So in Genesis 1 26 through

28 we have Then God said let us make man in our

image according to our likeness And let them

let them rule over the fish of the sea over the

birds of the sky, over the cattle, and over all

the earth, and every creeping thing that creeps

on the earth. God created man in his own image.

In the image of God, he created him. Male and

female, he created them. God blessed them, and

God said to them, Be fruitful, and multiply,

and fill the earth, and subdue it, and rule over

the fish of the sea and over the birds of the

sky, and over every living thing that moves on

the earth. I'm gonna go ahead and read also verse

18 there. Oh no, I'll just wait. I'll wait on

that. So that's chapter one there. That's the

beginning. And so we talked about this already.

God created male and female. I think I said something

that one guy I was listening to said you could,

the way that all this is said there that the

man and the woman, they're like opposite. So

they're the same, but they're opposite of one

another. So they're the same in the sense that

they're created in the image of God, right? Man

and woman, we all bear the image of God. We are

image bearers, and we've said that. Hopefully

we're clear on that. Hopefully we're clear on

the responsibility that we have as image bearers,

that we are to reflect God in the way that we

live, the way that we act. We are His representatives

here on earth, as Adam was. to represent God

in the very beginning there. So we're different,

but we're the same in that sense. We are equal

in God's eyes. When we deal with wives and husbands,

men and women, the idea of authority and submission,

there is no lesserness or one inferior in the

eyes of God. We're the same. Okay? Make sure

we understand that. We talked about in Chapter

218, we'll read it here in a minute, but it says

here that why was Eve created? Why did God make

Eve? What was the need there? Because Adam, there

was something deficient, right? He needed someone.

He needed a helper. Someone to come alongside,

to be a helpmate to him, to help me. And so,

there's not this idea of... One is better than

the other one is superior to the other they're

equal They have different roles, right? That's

what we've said time and again different roles

different responsibilities That that does not

make one less than the other so make sure that

we're clear on that make sure we understand that

and So you men make sure that that is your view

of your wife. She's not less than you Women are

not less than men Okay, don't understand me in

that way. That's not what I'm saying. I want

to be clear there But we are different and we

have been given different roles and different

responsibilities Understand me in that regard.

We're not the same in that regard. We're different

were both given commands there. They were told

there to be fruitful, to multiply, to subdue

the earth, all of these things. So they were

both given these commands to subdue, to do these

different things. And so I want us to understand

that as men, we talked about what is our role?

What are we subduing? What are we taking dominion

over? And all of those things. Women, the same

applies to them. They are to subdue, to take

dominion, to rule in their realm, in their role.

Take responsibility for those things they've

been given So I will read here in chapter 2 verse

18 Then the Lord God said it is not good for

the man to be alone. I will make him a helper

suitable for him So then we have the account

of Eve Why Did God make Eve? Why did He create

Eve? Because there was something lacking in man.

It was not good for us to be alone. We needed

a helper. Okay? Men, it's important for you to

understand you're not an island. You're not isolated.

You're not independent. Okay? Wives as well.

You women, you're not independent. The idea of

some strong and independent man out there just

doing it on his own. Where do we find that in

Scripture? It's not there. Strong, independent

woman who needs no man. We don't find that in

Scripture, right? Once again, that's the world

saying what it wants to say to make itself feel

good, to reject God. to reject his word. We were

made to be in relationship with one another.

We were made, we talked about this, relationship

with God. And so this is a good and a needful

thing, to be in relationship one with another.

It applies to all areas of our lives. I'll probably

deal with this a little bit more later on in

a future message, but in the church, right? The

same thing. We have relationship here. There

is a need for one another. Just as there is in

the husband -wife relationship, they need one

another. There is something there that is helpful,

beneficial, and useful, and God -honoring. So,

Eve was created. as a helper for Adam. And again,

we should understand this was God's intent for

a woman. To be a helper and to fulfill that role

in your life, in your marriage, is to fulfill

God's design for your life. That is a good and

a wonderful thing. That is I will say this again

later probably the place of blessing when we

when we embrace the role and the responsibility

that God has given us and We seek to glorify

him in that role in those responsibilities in

those things That is the place of blessing When

we reject God's design when we reject God's commands

when we reject all of these Clear biblical scriptural

things and we say I'm gonna do it this way Yes,

I'm gonna get married and I'm gonna have a husband

But I'm gonna we're gonna live together the way

I want to and he's gonna be a help to me and

I'm gonna lead That's not a place of blessing

That's nothing but disaster waiting to happen

So be clear, following God's design for your

life is a place of blessing. It's a place of

happiness. It's a place of joy and contentment.

That's where we all want to be in every aspect

of our life, following God's design for us and

His leading. Okay. If you remember, we talked

about what is a biblical man, what does he look

like? And we talked about the spiritual aspect.

That if you're going to be a biblical man, if

you want to be a godly man, a man who is following

after God, you have to know, you have to be spiritual.

You have to be maturing spiritually. And it's

the same for women, right? We're created in God's

image. We should be image -bearers. What does

that mean? It's the same for men and women as

far as what it should look like in the sense

of being faithful, being true, being honest,

being holy. All of those things apply to men

and women the same. We should all be striving

to be like God in that way. Be ye holy as I am

holy, God said. Be perfect as I am perfect in

another place, right? That's all of us as Christians

desiring to reflect God in that way. And so it's

important that men, you understand that you are

to encourage, help, foster your wife in this

way. Maturing spiritually. Wives, women, you

have the responsibility to mature spiritually,

to grow, to understand who God is. to understand

His Word, to understand your role as a woman

in this world, to understand your responsibilities

as a wife, as a mother, as a member of the church,

a member of the community, all of those things.

You must take responsibility and grow in these

things. Do we all understand that it's not just

men who should be sound doctrinally. Right? You

women should be sound doctrinally. You should

know who God is. You should know God. You're

reading this book by Packer, right? Knowing God.

There's a lot of deep things in there. And those

things are for men and women. Just as a man should

be sound in doctrine and truth, Wives and women

should be as well. There are not two classes

the super spiritual and the lesser spiritual

We're all the same in that regard. We should

all know God and Note the truth of the word and

so you have to take responsibility in that regard

You have got to mature spiritually So I wrote

down here Luke 10 38 to 42 it's the it's the

The story there of Mary and Martha. Mary chose

the better part there. She wanted to sit at the

feet of Jesus to learn, to hear Him. Women, wives,

mothers, the same. Sit at the feet of Jesus daily,

continually. Grow and mature in your love and

your knowledge of Him. So to be a godly woman,

you must be in the Word. And so, again, just

as men, you have got to devote time to studying

the Word. You have got to devote time to prayer.

You have got to be consistent in memorizing.

You have to be at the meetings of the church.

All of those things, those benefits and graces

that God has given us, You've got to take advantage

of those things. It's not okay for your husband

to come to the meeting for you to stay home.

Because you've got home things to take care of,

right? No, that's nonsense. You both have to

grow. You both have to mature. Let me say this.

This just come to my mind here. When you young

folks, and old folks, really anybody, There are

there there come times in our lives with children

and everything else that goes on that Sometimes

somebody can't come to the meeting. So your kids

are sick. So I'm just gonna stay home there You

know one two, three, whatever four ten, whatever

it is. They're sick. They can't go. What do we

do there? Is that the whole family just stay

home then? No Why should the whole family suffer

just because? somebody's sick Everybody who can

comes to the meeting And then whoever comes to

the meeting can go home and say, well, here's

what we learned today. Here's what was talked

about. Here's what was preached on. Here's what

was shared. Here's a testimony that was given.

Here was a prayer request that was answered or

that was given. So just because the whole family

can't come to the meeting doesn't mean, or just

because one person can't come to the meeting

doesn't mean the whole family should stay home.

The whole family shouldn't suffer any more than

we have to. Yes, we're a family. Right? We do

things together. That's wonderful, right, and

good. And that's how we want to be. But when

something hinders us in that way, the rest of

the family should go to the meeting. Be there.

Alright. Side note. So, grow. Grow in Christ

-likeness. Grow in humility, submission. and

all of those things. Spiritual. Spiritual growth

is necessary. If you want to be a godly woman,

if you want to be a godly wife, if you want to

be a godly mother, this is where it's at, right

here. Sitting at the feet of Jesus, learning

from Him the way you should think, act, speak.

and all that's involved in being a woman, wife,

or mother, or all three. All right, so... Let's

look at a few verses here, then, in the New Testament.

1 Timothy. 1 Timothy 2. So 1st Timothy 2, we'll

begin reading here in verse 11. I'll begin in

verse 9 until we get to context here. and entire

submissiveness, with entire submissiveness. But

I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority

over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam

who was first created and then Eve, and it was

not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being

deceived fell into transgression. But women will

be preserved through the bearing of children

if they continue in faith and love and sanctity

with self -restraint. So what I want to point

out first here in that passage is the difference

between men and women. Do we see there a difference?

Adam was created first, then Eve. And so what's

Paul saying here? He's letting us know there

is a place, there is a role here of authority

and submission. Adam and Eve, they're in the

very beginning, not lesser. but two different

responsibilities, two different roles in this

relationship. And so that's what I want to point

out there. That's what Paul says, that Adam was

created first and then Eve. And so he is in a

place of authority. And Paul goes on and elaborates

on that some more. But I want us to see that.

The other passage here is, we already read it

here, But it goes along the same lines. It's

the same idea here. That's just Paul's point

verse 12 Why should a woman not teach? So that

she does not usurp authority over a man because

the man is in the authority he is the authority

Okay, same thing there Adam first then Eve authority

subjection submissiveness Not less than but two

different responsibilities, two different roles

in the family and in the church. I've pointed

this out as well, and I'll just read it here,

but back in Genesis, what was the issue there

with the curse? We've said this before in chapter

3 verse 16, to the woman he said, I will greatly

multiply your pain in childbirth. In pain you

will bring forth children, yet your desire will

be for your husband and he will rule over you.

Eve was cursed in her role. Her role would be

childbearing and submission and she was cursed

in those things. Just as Adam was cursed in his

role as a worker and a provider and in the authority

in the home. He was cursed and she was cursed

in their roles, okay? And so this idea of submission

is going to be difficult. So I want to make sure

we understand it may be difficult, but this is

how it is supposed to be This is God's design

This is God's instruction to us It's important

that we understand that All right, so that's

one difference and we've talked about that when

we talked about men leading and being an authority

in the home I Harped on that time and time again

And I hope you men understand your place there.

And I hope you women understand your place there.

One of submission to your husband leading. We

could talk about all the, oh, well, if he doesn't

lead right or all of those things. Yes, no doubt.

It's difficult at times when your husband's not

leading in the way that he should or he's leading

in a harsh way. That doesn't negate your responsibility

to obey God. It just means it's even harder.

Husbands, understand that. Lead in a way that

is easy to submit to and to follow. Lead in love.

We've talked about all of those things. But it

doesn't mean you don't have to submit just because

it's difficult. just because he's not doing it

the way he should. Again, Peter talks about that,

right? In regard to unbelievers, that through

your submission to him, you'll win him over.

It's the same in a Christian marriage. Through

your submission, what? Hopefully his sin will

be made clear to him. He'll repent. He'll do

better. He'll move on. You'll be a helper to

him in that way, all right? A helper. Okay. Couple

of the passages here and first Timothy again

first Timothy 5 9 So Well, let's read it. Let's

read it here. Paul here is giving instruction

for widows. All right So I want you to hear what

he says about widows what they what their life

has looked like a Widow is to be put on the list

only if she is not less than 60 years old having

been the wife of one man having a reputation

for good works, and if she has brought up children,

if she has shown hospitality to strangers, if

she has washed the saints' feet, if she has assisted

those in distress, and if she has devoted herself

to every good work. But refuse to put younger

widows on the list for when they feel sensual

desires in disregard of Christ, they want to

get married. thus incurring condemnation, because

they have set aside their previous pledge. At

the same time, they also learn to be idle as

they go around from house to house, and not merely

idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking

about things not proper to mention. Therefore,

I want younger widows to get married, bear children,

keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for

reproach." What's Paul's instruction there? What's

he say? What does he say this widow this woman?

Who's to be cared for with widow indeed these

widows who are to be cared for by the church

What does their life look like? It's been one

of faithfulness right and he tells us what that

faithfulness is But then he also says those widows

who are young he encourages them to get married

and to fulfill their role as what? wives bearing

children keeping the home and all of these other

things So we see here what Paul expects in the

home, what he expects women to be doing, what

their role is to be, and what their lives should

look like. So in case you missed it, let me just,

I have here a list that he gave us there of things

that should be involved in the lives of wives.

Bringing up children, he says. Talks about hospitality,

washing the saints' feet, assisting those in

distress, devoted to good works. In verse 14,

bearing children, keeping house. These are things

that women should be doing, that wives should

be doing. Those are your responsibilities. That's

what God has designed for you. Those are different

from the roles of men. Okay, do we understand

that? Men are to be working, providing, leading.

Women are to be doing these other things. Again,

it's not as though it's exclusive that men aren't

to be hospitable, right? Obviously we're all,

there's commands throughout scripture, we should

all be hospitable. But Paul here specifically

notes these things in regard to wives and to

women. This keeping house, managing the family

affairs, or the master of a house. That's what

Paul expects. Those are things that are your

responsibility as a wife. Managing the affairs

of the home. Again, ultimately who's responsible

for these things? The husband. Right? We talked

about that. The husband is responsible to see

to it that these things are done. To see that

your home is in order. To make sure that you

are doing or having done everything that needs

to be done. Wives and husbands working together.

We've talked about this. Working together with

one goal in mind. Moving forward together. But

the wives are responsible for these things in

the home managing the home now That's part of

being a help helper that's the part of the help

me that's what Adam Needed was a helper a help

me What does that mean to be a helper to be a

help me to your husband? Have you given any thought

to that have you considered that? Tried to consider

that this week So I can write some things down

make a list again for you So here are some things

that I wrote down now again. This is not Everything

okay, these are some things that I thought of

things that I thought were helpful things that

are a help to me Okay Support so being a helper

being a wife who helps your husband. I just want

us to understand this. This sounds to the world

insanity. It sounds sexist. It sounds male chauvinist

for me to say these things. This is God's design.

This is what God has intended. This isn't my

idea. So understand that. The world hates what

I'm saying to you this morning. Alright? And

that's fine. We're not here to please the world.

But I want you to understand how counter -culture

all of this is. How completely opposite of everything

that you'll hear. You tell this to some woman

in the world, she'll be like, you're crazy. You

what? You want to serve your husband? That's

your... That's your goal, is to be a helper to

your husband? Why? What about your dreams? What

about your hopes? What about your aspirations?

What about your career? What about you? You,

you, you. So, support his leadership. How can

you be a helper? You can support his leadership.

Encouraging him to lead all right so again some

men. This is where they they struggle with this

and so as a wife You encourage that you help

that and again. It's not by nagging Not by being

that dripping faucet over there, but it's by

encouraging him in there Doing ways they're finding

ways to help in that and then you men Lead So

support his leadership, encourage him to lead.

How about giving counsel to your husband? How

about that as a help? Have you ever thought of

that? I mean that is, my wife is a great counselor

to me. In so many ways, dealing with kids, dealing

with other people, seeing things from a different

side, that is a wonderful help to me. Hopefully,

hopefully you wives understand. And hopefully

you husbands encourage your wife that she has

your ear. Say whatever you need to say. Tell

me whatever. I'm willing to hear, I'm willing

to listen, I'm willing to reconsider. Talk to

me. Be a help to your husband in that way. Again,

managing the affairs of the home. The cleaning,

the cooking, the groceries. The children, right?

Teaching, training, instructing your children.

Again, all of this should be under the authority

of the husband, but you're together in this.

You're a great help to him. Help in those things.

I mean, my wife pays the bills at home. When

we first got married, I did. And then she began

to do it. That was great. One less thing I had

to do and she was happy to do it. And so it was

a blessing to me. Be a help in that way. Providing

for all the different needs in the home, the

clothing for the kids and all these different

things. That's a great help to your husband.

Encouraging and supporting your husband's responsibilities.

So encouraging him in his work. any ministry

opportunities that he has, whatever it is, encouraging

him in those things, being a help to him in those

ways. Companionship. I mean, that's a big one

right there. That's one, I mean, when you look

at Adam there, when you look at Adam in the garden,

that's one huge thing that was lacking. He looked

at all the animals. He had no one there. There

was no companionship for him. And so God gave

him Eden. And so that is a huge help to him,

is being a support and a companion to him. One

that he can rely upon. One that he can pour his

heart out to. His fears, his doubts, his concerns,

all of those things to help and encourage him

in those ways. praying for him. Do you pray for

your husband? A helper to him. A helper in his

goals and his dreams. Whatever, hopefully again,

godly, good things and supporting him in those

things. Those are some ways that you can be a

help to your husband. I wrote down here, she

is a help as she fulfills the role God has put

her in. As you do what God has called you to

do as a wife and as a mother, you are a great

help to your husband. To neglect or reject your

role that God has put you in is to be a hindrance

and a discouragement to him. Again, the place

of blessing. Doing what God has called you to

do where he's called you do to do it Okay We're

not nearly gonna get through what I have written

down here, so I'm trying to think what would

be a good spot to stop here Just along these

same lines then let me just say this just a couple

of a couple of Proverbs Proverbs 12 Proverbs

12 for An excellent wife is the crown of her

husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness

in his bones. Think of that. The good and the

bad. How is a wife described there? As a crown.

As you fulfill the role that God has given you

as a wife, you are a crown to your husband. What

is a crown? I wrote down here. Dignity, honor,

blessing, favor, status, strength, a visible

sign of blessing and prosperity. An excellent

wife is a crown. There is nothing of greater

value. in the life of a husband than a wife who

is excellent, who fulfills her role that God

has put her in. That word excellent is the same

word... Let me see if I can find it. It's the

same idea that Ruth is described as. Ruth 311

Now my daughter so Boaz here is talking to Ruth

now my daughter do not fear I will do for you

whatever you ask for all my people in the city

know that you are a woman of excellence Ruth

was a woman of excellence the story of Ruth is

a this phenomenal Who Ruth was what she did?

the hard worker that she was, the way she provided

for her mother -in -law, the way she went out

and sought out this husband, this Redeemer. An

excellent wife is a crown to her husband. Be

that crown. What is a crown? Is it something

tucked way back here in the corner that nobody

sees, nobody talks to, nobody knows about? No

It's the first thing everybody sees This crown

upon your head that is an excellent wife She

is seen by all she is known by all to be this

excellent woman a Wife is not a lesser person

a woman is not a lesser individual She is a crown.

She is a glory Understand that you men better

treat her that way Has this crown as this thing

of great value and it's precious to you But the

reverse is a horrible thing but she who shames

him is like rottenness in his bones How does

she shame her husband? She leads rather than

submits. The home is in chaos. Refuses to do

those things they've said they should do. There's

no discipline. There's no order. There's no managing

of the home. The kids are in disarray. Half clothed,

running around naked all the time. Say that tongue

-in -cheek because you know how little kids are

running around naked all the time running around

your diaper But you understand what I'm saying.

That's rottenness to in his bones. All right

Financially I put down here overspending if you're

a wife who's overspending that's not a help.

That's not a crown That's ruin That's ruining

the bones financial room And then Proverbs 14

.1, I'll just read this. The wise woman builds

her house, but the foolish tears it down with

her own hands. So that excellent woman, she's

building her house. She's helping her husband.

The foolish woman just tears it down. She's ashamed,

and she tears her home down. So be that help,

be that encouragement. that godly woman that

the Lord has called you to be. Next week we're

going to again look at some other things here

regarding wives and women, mothers in particular.

So that's all for today. Amen.