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Wisdom for Self-Control - Proverbs

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  1. We're in the book of Proverbs. You can turn to Proverbs Chapter

    Proverbs 25 chapter mention

  2. 25. We've been going through the

  3. book of Proverbs for our summer series, studying the wisdom

  4. writings found in Proverbs, and as you came in, you should have

  5. got a bulletin that said Instructions for Life.

  6. That's really the the main theme of all of the ways that we're

  7. trying to understand wisdom offered by the Proverbs, and how

  8. Wisdom and Knowledge and Understanding turns into the way

  9. we're supposed to live our lives.

  10. The instruction as we've been going through this, and you

  11. think about all of the Weekbyweek themes that we've

  12. looked at, you could almost retitle the entire series

  13. Instruction for Relationships. Because really, when you study

  14. proverbs and you really meditate on what they're saying, they're

  15. teaching us how to live well by the fundamental need that we

  16. have for relationships. And so by way of review, just

  17. think about everything we've talked about so far.

  18. The very beginning of our study said that the beginning of

  19. wisdom is the fear of the Lord. So you got to get your

  20. relationship right with God before you receive any of His

  21. instruction. And then as we went week by

  22. week, it was really relationship by relationship.

  23. And we talked about the necessity for having wisdom in

  24. the way that we use our words to not talk about each other

  25. rudely, to not gossip, to not have our our our mouths out of

  26. control when we use our speech. And then we talked about the

  27. relationship we have with our friends and friendship and

  28. wisdom and how to be a good friend and the importance of

  29. friendship. With that we contrasted

  30. friendship and family and neighbors.

  31. And then we last week looked all the whole theme was husband and

  32. wives, and what wisdom says about the importance of getting

  33. those instructions right. Next week we're going to look at

  34. parenting, how to be people who understand wisdom and

  35. instruction not just for our lives, but how to impart it into

  36. the lives that God has given us to care for.

  37. And so you think about all of that.

  38. And apart from the fear of the Lord, there is one relationship

  39. that really sets all of the others into order, and it is.

  40. It's one of the most frustrating relationships of your life.

  41. It is inevitable. This person follows you

  42. everywhere, and you can't get rid of them.

  43. And they're the the first one that is really responsible for

  44. your problems and the last one to accept blame.

  45. And of course we're talking about not your motherinlaw or

  46. your unavoidable neighbor or the frustrating family member that

  47. you see at all the functions. We're talking about you, the

  48. fundamental relationship other than your relationship with God,

  49. and this relationship has everything to do with that.

  50. One is the relationship that you have and the responsibility you

  51. have to put yourself in order. And as much as we live in a day

  52. and age that tries to find blame and point the finger for the

  53. problems of our world and the problem of your life at everyone

  54. but you, the Bible is clear that one of the great enemies of life

  55. is yourself. And so today we are going to

  56. look at the very important topic, maybe the topic that sets

  57. all wisdom into motion, which is the topic of self-control.

  58. So we look first at Proverbs chapter 25 with one of those

    Proverbs 25 chapter mention

  59. great proverbial pictures starting in verse 28 to look at

  60. the the, the, the theme or the picture of self-control by

  61. actually looking at something else.

  62. It says in verse 28 of Proverbs, chapter 25, whoever has no rule

    Proverbs 25 chapter mention

  63. over his own spirit is like a city broken down without walls.

  64. So we have Hebrew literature, the likening of one thing to

  65. another. And this wisdom says, if you

  66. can't rule your spirit or in this sense put your passions,

  67. your spirited desires into order, you can be likened to a

  68. city that has no wall. The walls have crumbled down.

  69. And we we do a little bit of historical context for this, but

  70. not something that's hard to grasp.

  71. We don't live in a day and age where walls are a necessity for

  72. a city, but we are not far removed from that being the case

  73. for most of human history. For a city to actually have a

  74. society, a civilized people group inside of it, that has a

  75. functioning economy, has a functioning justice system, you

  76. have to have borders and those borders have to be protected so

  77. that city can be secure. And an ancient reader would read

  78. this and it would be a matter of fact that if that protection

  79. that comes by the way of a wall, so that the enemy can't get out

  80. or can't get in and justice can't get out, the wall goes

  81. down and the city eventually comes to ruin.

  82. We just went to Israel. And it was in some ways a study

  83. of the prosperity and the demise of Israel based off the security

  84. of the wall. When this is when the king was

  85. ruling and the wall was secure and Israel was being blessed.

  86. And this is when Israel worshipped idols and the walls

  87. came down and the enemy came in. And with that picture in mind,

  88. we now have an understanding of what the Bible is saying about

  89. how God made us to live. That we ourselves are a little

  90. functioning society within ourselves, and we have all sorts

  91. of passions and desires, and those things need to be ruled

  92. with a garden, in in in fenced. And when we can't control our

  93. passions, we are a disaster waiting to happen.

  94. We are a city that is waiting to turn into rubble.

  95. And you think about the great problems of your life and how

  96. often they have the word self right in front of them, and it

  97. is all flowing from a lack of selfcontrol or a lack of your

  98. ability to put your desires into order.

  99. Think about these words times you've experienced when you've

  100. been selfdeceived. Hard to see through that one,

  101. and all of the ways that in selfdeception you are letting

  102. the destruction come into your life.

  103. You don't know what you don't know.

  104. You don't know how you're fooled.

  105. Self pity when you become the center of all of the things that

  106. you're focused on and all of your energy goes into just how

  107. hard and how horrible your own life is.

  108. Self conceit in the other way, how great you are.

  109. Self importance, self centeredness, self indulgence,

  110. all eventually pointing you down a road of one form or another of

  111. self harm. It's been said that all

  112. temptation leading to sin is in fact an inside job.

  113. And as much as we look out and blame everyone else, the Bible

  114. says so much of the rubble of our lives is due to a lack of

  115. selfcontrol, the inability to rule over our own passion.

  116. And so today we're going to look at what the proverb say.

  117. Here's some wisdom and instruction so that the walls

  118. that encompass your life would not break down and that you

  119. would not allowed all of those self qualifying problems come

  120. into your life and allow your life to turn into rubble.

  121. We'll look at what is essentially wisdom for

  122. selfcontrol in three parts as we look for the Proverbs to speak

  123. to us. We have the first part, which is

  124. the warning, what the proverbs will tell us, much like the

  125. crack in the wall, here's what will happen if you don't have

  126. selfcontrol. And then secondly, we'll we'll

  127. look at the reward. Wherever there is a reward, a

  128. warning, it is to help us to see the reward.

  129. And then finally, and maybe the most important part, how do we

  130. actually rule over our passions? How do we go from people who

  131. feel out of control to feel the the joy and the reward of having

  132. a life that is well ordered? And so we'll spend probably the

  133. most time looking at the key to selfcontrol.

  134. But we start with the warning, which is fairly obvious how many

  135. of you have felt at times. There's something in your life

  136. that has lost your control that you once ruled and now it rules.

  137. You and the proverbs Will will look at 2 proverbs and they'll

  138. essentially gives us warnings with two lens a nearsighted

  139. warning and a farsighted warning.

  140. Essentially saying if this happens to your life and

  141. selfcontrol is something that you can't control.

  142. There is immediate effects and there are longterm effects.

  143. First the immediate it says have you ever found honey?

  144. Eat only as much as you need less, you be filled with it and

  145. vomit. So here's an an ancient

  146. predicament. You find the honeycomb and it

  147. doesn't say to not enjoy it. Honey is something sweet.

  148. It can be therapeutic. It can be something to be

  149. enjoyed. But what it is saying is do not

  150. overindulge in the good thing that you have found.

  151. In other words, there are sweet things in life that can make you

  152. sick. And one of the ways that the

  153. warning for the immediate can be plain to see is that we live in

  154. a culture of overindulgence. We live in a culture that has

  155. taken many of the sweet things of life and of God and of our

  156. modern world, and they have offered them to us with such a

  157. high amount of volume that they eventually make us sick.

  158. I mean, think about all of the ways we could think of modern

  159. examples. I doubt any of you are

  160. struggling with honey this morning.

  161. If you are, you came to the right service.

  162. Stop eating so much honey. But you're no doubt struggling

  163. with one of the many ways that you could be indulging in our

  164. culture. How many of you have felt like

  165. you just pull out the phone too much and you scroll through your

  166. preferred app too much? It's a sweet thing that will

  167. eventually make you sick. How many of you have enjoyed

  168. small leisure time in video games and then just turn it into

  169. something that you give over to everything?

  170. How about checking emails or sports scores Or stocks Or news

  171. alerts? Watching TV, movies?

  172. YouTube. You work too long.

  173. You stay up too late. You party too hard.

  174. You worry too much. You fear the future.

  175. You can't stop your racing, mind.

  176. You lust after everything and certainly something on the list

  177. is a way for you to understand the overindulgence that we live

  178. in. And the immediate says put the

  179. brakes on with the 1st way that you get the warning because the

  180. the example of honey gives a very immediate danger to eat too

  181. much. You actually hate to get so

  182. graphic in church, but I happen to just be reading the Bible.

  183. Eat too much and you will vomit. It's it's nature's way or your

  184. body's way of pulling the emergency brake on something you

  185. should no longer do. The the idea being if you have

  186. to go through that intense of a lesson, hopefully you now

  187. realize that is not a good thing for your life.

  188. I was watching the movie Sandlot.

  189. How many Sandlot fans are out there?

  190. Classic movie. I find no fault in it so it can

  191. recommend it to anyone. There's a moment of

  192. overindulgence where selfcontrol was lost.

  193. The the, the ragtag bunch that practices at The Sandlot beats

  194. the the rich kids across town. They they win the baseball game

  195. and they go out to celebrate, go to the County Fair, and as

  196. they're walking in, one of the kids pulls out some chewing

  197. tobacco, he says, What do you guys want to take some chewing

  198. tobacco? And they all take it and they go

  199. on the tilt, the whirl, and they they get the result of something

  200. coming out to say you shouldn't do that ever again.

  201. And as they're leaving with stained shirts, the narrator

  202. says. From then on we decided to stick

  203. to bazooka bubble gum. That's good short sighted

  204. warning so that you don't continue down a path that will

  205. eventually turn your life into selfcontrol with longterm

  206. effects and everything on the list that we just listed.

  207. Hopefully you've had moments when you've overindulged with

  208. your spending, You've overindulged with drinking or

  209. eating or enjoying the leisure time, and something has happened

  210. to, say, pump the brakes on them.

  211. Most of us are stubborn enough to pump right through that to go

  212. right through the initial warning, and that's why the

  213. proverb say okay, if vomit isn't a good enough lesson, let's get

  214. a longer case view of what will happen if you don't control your

  215. passion. So now we come to the next

  216. warning, which is the long view. Proverbs Chapter 23 don't mix

    Proverbs 23 chapter mention

  217. with wine bibbers. These are not your social

  218. drinkers. These are people who have

  219. committed to drinking every day, every chance they get their

  220. alcoholic for wine or with gluttonous eaters of meat.

  221. Again, these are not people who are enjoying the occasional

  222. feast, but they eat meat to the point of gluttony.

  223. Overindulgence as a definition now of their life and look what

  224. happens. The drunkard and the glutton

  225. will come to poverty. You do this long enough, you

  226. spend all your money on wine and meat on feasting, and you're

  227. going to lose your money, and drowsiness will clothe a man

  228. with rags, so you'll be poor in rags.

  229. This example, specifically with alcohol, is just as current

  230. today as it was when the proverb was written.

  231. We just went my family and I just went to New York, and it is

  232. what I call the Vacation Bible school for my kids as we look

  233. out on humanity. And there were times when I got

  234. to do the real lesson of a long view.

  235. Not just warning my children about bad choices, about losing

  236. control with something like alcohol or drugs, but actually

  237. pointing to something that was rags and poverty and without

  238. judging, without trying to lay a burden on the person who had

  239. fell into this lifestyle with all compassion in my heart for

  240. the predicament they find themselves in.

  241. When I found people on the street that were living in rags,

  242. it was a great time to say this is what happens if you go down

  243. that road. And of course, these are extreme

  244. examples. We can preach an entire sermon

  245. on temperance specifically for alcohol and food, but the idea

  246. is to take the examples and expand it into any area of your

  247. life. Or have you have lost the

  248. ability to rule over your passion, and now your passion

  249. rules you? It is not going to just cost you

  250. a hangover on the weekend or an overdraft fee once or twice.

  251. What the Bible is saying is if you lose control of your

  252. passions, eventually it will take you down a road where you

  253. are no longer in control of your entire life.

  254. We don't belabor this because the problem with self-control or

  255. lack thereof, is largely self-evident, and every single

  256. one of you can look out into the streets and see the example, or

  257. look into your life and be warned of the path that you're

  258. currently on for all of the ways you do too much of the category

  259. that the Lord is convicting you in right now.

  260. So as we stated, we look at the warning so that we can focus on

  261. the reward. The proverbs are full of warning

  262. and reward and it is always to point us to the reward.

  263. The Bible does not want to put us in a spiritual straitjacket

  264. and fear wrong steps, and in fact it points us to say this is

  265. the way that God designed your life so that you can enjoy your

  266. life more. So now we look at the reward and

  267. we start with what I find to be a a good time to look at

  268. selfcontrol defined. So if you collected all of the

  269. different ways that wisdom and knowledge and understanding lead

  270. to instruction so that we can control our life, here's a

  271. working definition. Consider this.

  272. Selfcontrol is the ability to use sound judgment or wisdom in

  273. choosing the important thing over the urgent thing, resulting

  274. in long term health rather than short lived pleasure.

  275. This is what is being offered through the Wisdom writing.

  276. As I said in Proverbs 3, trust in the Lord, His design His

  277. priority for your passions. Reorder them so that you're not

  278. living for the urgent pleasures, but you are making decisions for

  279. longterm health, and it will be health to your bones.

  280. Wisdom will in fact add years to your life.

  281. It will bless all areas of your life.

  282. Wherever your passions are properly ordered and you begin

  283. to use sound judgment, there will be a longterm reward.

  284. Here's one example, a proverb explaining the reward in the

  285. area of maybe the selfcontrol. One O 1 lesson, which is how we

  286. all need to practice selfcontrol with our words, with the words

  287. that are really an overflow of our thoughts and our heart, and

  288. how we can actually find selfcontrol for our inner

  289. selves. It says he who guards his mouth.

  290. The the now. The the the picture of the wall.

  291. Picture it now, not just around your whole life, but around your

  292. mouth. The wall guards the mouth and

  293. you preserve your life. But he opens wide.

  294. His lips shall have destruction. Where the guard of selfcontrol

  295. covers any category, you are leading to life.

  296. Open wide your mouth and see what happens to your

  297. friendships. See what happens to we just

  298. talked about marriage, husbands and wife.

  299. Let's see what happens when the wall of your mouth just falls

  300. down and you open wide your mouth and watch all of the

  301. destructive path that will follow.

  302. And conversely, find out what happens when you choose your

  303. words wisely and you bridle your tongue like like we bridle

  304. horses to put it under control. And find all of the ways that

  305. your words will actually be used to bring life and encouragement

  306. and enhance your relationships and extend your health.

  307. And again, this is just one way the proverbs give us one

  308. category, but the idea is that the reward is plain as well.

  309. There's a new documentary out on all of the ways that we can

  310. watch documentaries about people who are are worth viewing

  311. because they did something that the world would consider great

  312. with their lives. One that I enjoyed growing up in

  313. the 80s and 90s was Arnold Schwarzenegger's because he was

  314. the last action hero. Literally, That was his movie

  315. and he was a man of just giant muscle.

  316. I don't need to explain that to you.

  317. He's like the most popular muscle man of all time.

  318. And in the movie he's 22 years old and he is a specimen of

  319. muscle and he's winning Mr. Olympia at 22 years old.

  320. He has migrated to from Austria to the United States.

  321. He's learned English, he's mastered his body, he's won the

  322. medal that that he set out to win.

  323. And he said to master my body I had to master my mind.

  324. Which means that the reward is self-evident.

  325. If you are able to master your mind, to make good decisions

  326. about your physical health, to make good decisions about how to

  327. exercise, your reward will be self-evident.

  328. We don't have to. I don't have to convince you.

  329. That when you do well in the categories of discipline, there

  330. is all sorts of net benefits to your finances, to your body, to

  331. your relationships. So what we have to ask more

  332. deeply is how do we actually master our mind?

  333. And we don't do it just by looking at the few people

  334. throughout history that have found a category of success.

  335. The goal is not to make all of you bodybuilders, because no

  336. doubt Arnold Schwarzenegger master one area of his life, but

  337. not all of his life. There are certain areas of his

  338. life where there is no doubt cracks in the wall.

  339. So we now look to the wisdom writing to say okay.

  340. The danger is clear and the reward is obvious.

  341. But how, in fact, do we take lives that are out of control

  342. and put them into control? So we'll spend the time looking

  343. at the proverbs that offers us some insight into how we can

  344. grow from the word of God into disciplined lives more and more

  345. and more. So we start by looking once

  346. again where we started. Proverbs Chapter 25.

    Proverbs 25 chapter mention

  347. I find it helpful sometimes, not always with the collection of

  348. wisdom being somewhat fragmented, But in this case,

  349. it's really interesting to read the verse right before the one

  350. we started with. Look what it says.

  351. It is not good to eat too much honey, So to seeks 1 to seek

  352. one's own glory is not glory. Whoever has no rule over his own

  353. spirit is like a city broken down without walls inserted

  354. into. The proverb is a warning not

  355. just about unruly lack of selfcontrol, but at the center

  356. of it is someone who's seeking their own glory, the proverb

  357. writer said. It won't be glorious.

  358. Seeking your own glory is like eating too much honey.

  359. Neither one of them are good. Seeking your own glory is

  360. parallel with losing control of your passions.

  361. In other words, this is a matter of who you're worshipping.

  362. Every decision where your passion controls you is Putting

  363. you at the altar of worship is serving you foremost, more than

  364. God and more than others, your appetites and your desires and

  365. the way that you use your mouth and make your decisions.

  366. When you are seeking your own glory, you are walking towards a

  367. city of rubble. And so one first step in

  368. considering is this is who is at the center of the decisions

  369. you're making. Now we get to a proverb that

  370. warns us what not to do. Because some of you may hear

  371. this message and think, okay, I get it.

  372. Got to try harder. I have to take control of my

  373. life. I have to take it back.

  374. I have to do things that will make me a more disciplined

  375. person. I'll set my alarm before I leave

  376. church and wake up earlier. I'll read my Bible more, and I

  377. myself will eventually overcome my lack of discipline by working

  378. harder. But look what the proverbs say.

  379. A wise man fears and departs from evil, but a fool rages and

  380. is selfconfident. So what we're not talking about

  381. is just doing better. On both scenarios, you're still

  382. at the center of the story. You're still at the center of

  383. the attempt to save the the the city in ruin.

  384. Consider this quote. The danger is self becoming over

  385. controlling is just as dangerous as being out of control.

  386. Anorexia is no better than diabetes.

  387. Legalism is no holier than than lust.

  388. You cannot repair the southern wall by removing bricks from the

  389. north tower. This is not a message to say

  390. Christian. Do better by picking yourself on

  391. your by up by the bootstraps and just say no to sin and grit your

  392. teeth and stop being out of control.

  393. This is a fundamental message that is the beginning of your

  394. faith and it is the endurance of your faith and it is in fact

  395. where all control comes from and ends.

  396. It is a message that points us right back to the name of God

  397. himself, apart from which there is no name under heaven by which

  398. men can be saved, including your own, for your own problems.

  399. And to get this point, the Proverbs require us to crack the

  400. Riddle. Remember Proverbs?

  401. Often times unfolding a Riddle to solve an enigma.

  402. And when we think about the metaphor of the city wall, I

  403. want you to take it to its end. Imagine the wall does come down.

  404. Imagine the enemy is now approaching the border where the

  405. wall once stood and they are coming to ransack the city.

  406. A wise person would not simply stand there and try to put the

  407. bricks back up. We go back to Proverbs chapter

    Proverbs 14 chapter mention

  408. 14. It says the wise person fears

  409. evil and departs. Where do they go?

  410. And now we get our answer from the Proverbs Proverbs chapter

    Proverbs 18 chapter mention

  411. 18. The name of the Lord is a strong

  412. tower. The righteous run to it and are

  413. safe. There's another picture of a

  414. wall, but there's this really important part of the the

  415. defense of a city not simply with the wall, but the tower of

  416. refuge. For when the wall is under

  417. breach, for when there is a crack, when there is an enemy,

  418. there is one last place of defense, and it is the tower

  419. where all the people seeking safety would run to, and they'd

  420. come to the top. The last final high point to to

  421. outrun your enemy was the tower itself.

  422. And when the wall goes down, the people run to the tower.

  423. And when our walls crumble because of our lack of

  424. selfcontrol, we do not rebuild the wall.

  425. We call upon the name of the Lord to seek refuge in the

  426. tower. It is the only way that we can

  427. ever find the perfect balance between a lack of selfcontrol

  428. and the replacement of legalism. Because if the sermon stops

  429. without pointing us to God, you will either feel condemnation or

  430. you'll feel pride. Some of you will feel condemned

  431. because you do do the things too much.

  432. And you say, Yep, once again I remember I'm not worthy because

  433. I overindulge and I can't control myself and I don't have

  434. good practices and I don't have good habits and I'm not

  435. discipled. And others you will say, well, I

  436. am if it's up to me, if it's going to be, it's up to me.

  437. And I wake up early and I come to church and I do everything

  438. right. And so now we have condemnation

  439. and we have pride. And one is not better than the

  440. other. There's lust and there's

  441. legalism. But there is one way that our

  442. lives can find the perfect control.

  443. It is not by taking back control.

  444. It is giving up control completely.

  445. It is to say to God, the Tower of Refuge.

  446. I need you. In your moment of weakness.

  447. He is your one defense. In your moment of success, he is

  448. your righteousness. In your moment of temptation, He

  449. is the only way that you can find the perfect wall of defense

  450. for your life. As I was meditating on this at

  451. this exact moment, as I was meditating, I was in my office

  452. yesterday, which is actually my car parked in the shade, and I

  453. was like, Lord, I I'm beginning to understand for my own life

  454. how important it is for me to continually run to the tower,

  455. but how can I see the picture clear?

  456. How can I just remember time and time again that you are the

  457. Tower of Refuge? And as I was contemplating that,

  458. someone pulled up and parked right next to me and they looked

  459. over and I looked over because we're parked in the shade.

  460. And as she's looking at me, she holds up a sign that says Jesus

  461. loves you. And I thought, that's the

  462. answer. That is exactly what I needed to

  463. hear. Because the name of the Lord is

  464. a high tower has a deeper meaning than what this proverb

  465. even understood. The name of the Lord in fact,

  466. has been revealed as Jesus the Christ.

  467. And through the revelation of the name of the Lord, we don't

  468. just get the answer for self-control, we get the answer

  469. for all of it, salvation and cleansing, which is called

  470. sanctification and how we can actually walk in the power to

  471. live our lives under the defense of the name of the Lord.

  472. It is in fact the covering of the power of Jesus, given to us

  473. freely through His Spirit. So I want all of us, whether

  474. you're saved or whether you're listening to this and you're

  475. thinking, Lord, this might be my cry for salvation.

  476. I want you to consider this powerful moment that Paul is

  477. writing to Titus about this very topic, the topic of how to live

  478. with a life of self-control. He says this, the whole chapter

  479. is about self-control. And then he says, here's the

  480. key. The grace of God that brings

  481. salvation has appeared to all men, to those who are condemned,

  482. to those who are living with self-righteous pride.

  483. All men have received the grace, the undeserved favor of God for

  484. salvation, to not just rebuild the wall brick by brick, but to

  485. be plucked out of the rubble, rubble and put into the tower.

  486. And how? How does this look when the

  487. grace of God brings salvation? It appears to all men.

  488. What does it do? It teaches us that denying

  489. ungodliness to acquire selfcontrol, denying worldly

  490. lust, we should live soberly, righteously and godly in the

  491. present present age. It appears in two ways.

  492. The love of God poured out through Jesus Christ, saving us

  493. and sanctifying us, pulling us from the rubble and then getting

  494. all the dust off of our clothes and cleaning up our faces and

  495. binding, bounding up our wounds. It is saving us and it is

  496. sanctifying us. And this is the fundamental

  497. difference in how we answer the question for selfcontrol or

  498. selfmastery between religion and Christ.

  499. Because up until the point where we actually look at the key to

  500. selfcontrol, we have done nothing to separate ourselves

  501. from humans desire to just be discipled people.

  502. All religions are trying to point people to better lives,

  503. that have a better understanding of how to control the wild

  504. passions of the heart. But what religions say, without

  505. exception is that you must pull yourself from the rubble and you

  506. must clean yourself. That you must do more, that you

  507. must try harder, that you must grit your teeth, that you must

  508. come and understand more about how to clean yourself up with

  509. all of the religious things to do, the services to attend the

  510. money, to give the missions to go on.

  511. It is an all an effort to prove your worth.

  512. It's all dependent on what you can do.

  513. But the message takes an entire 180 turn.

  514. When we hear the message of salvation by grace and

  515. sanctification by the Spirit, it goes from what you can do to

  516. what God has done. The grace of God has appeared

  517. through His Son, Jesus Christ, saving us and purifying Himself,

  518. purifying us for himself, his own special people.

  519. This is the joyful practice of not selfcontrol by controlling

  520. yourself, but selfcontrol by giving control to God.

  521. And I think about how to understand this message through

  522. how you teach this message. Because any one of you who have

  523. ever been a parent, I see new parents.

  524. So you will need this message soon.

  525. Any one of you have ever raised children, preached this entire

  526. message. The message of the warnings for

  527. lack of selfcontrol. You better clean your room and

  528. do your homework. The reward of selfcontrol.

  529. I'm going to give you an allowance and you preach the

  530. message all the time, over and over and over again, because

  531. children are walking examples of the lack of self-control.

  532. I love them, but they have no self-control at all.

  533. They don't know how to put themselves to sleep.

  534. They often times don't know how. They don't know selfcontrol to

  535. to eat. They don't know the selfcontrol

  536. to stop just wanting to eat ice cream.

  537. They don't know the selfcontrol to to work hard and do their

  538. homework. And they need little Holy Spirit

  539. guides to say this is the way to live.

  540. And here is the fundamental breakdown in your parenting.

  541. Here's when it goes really well and here's where it doesn't work

  542. so well at all. You are either teaching your

  543. children selfcontrol through the law or through love.

  544. You are either saying if you don't do this, if you don't do

  545. this, I will punish you and your life will be horrible and your

  546. life will be miserable. So you better do it because this

  547. is the law of the house and if you don't do it, you'll be

  548. condemned as soon as they leave your house.

  549. They will go on a entire journey of self discovery and freedom to

  550. get out of the burden of the law.

  551. And then there's the moments where we do it in love.

  552. Because I love you. Because I am your father who

  553. cares for you. And I want nothing more than for

  554. you to do well. Listen to my instruction.

  555. Obey the household rules. And when you do it in love, it

  556. is the practice of what God is doing for all of us.

  557. You're no longer condemned. You are living under the grace

  558. of this household. You're living in a way where

  559. love will build you up, in the way that you should go, so that

  560. in all the ways I want you to know obedience.

  561. It is so that you have selfcontrol to preserve your

  562. life. And it is with this in mind that

  563. God offers us the free gift of His Holy Spirit, the free gift

  564. of His guide for our lives. And look what it says.

  565. Galatians Chapter 5. I say then walk in the Spirit

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  566. and you'll have a lesson in learning how to do that.

  567. Walk in the Spirit in the morning as you start your day,

  568. praising God and having him fill you once again with His life and

  569. His ways. Walk in the Spirit as you open

  570. the Word and study the the teachings of Wisdom to point you

  571. in the way that you should go, that you would have the control

  572. of the Word over your life. Walk in the Spirit as you pray

  573. and seek Him. Walk in the Spirit as you

  574. practice all of the ways that Wisdom instructs your life, and

  575. if you do that, you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

  576. In other words, you shall not have an unruly spirit.

  577. You no longer live with your flesh telling you what to do.

  578. And Paul will go on to say all of those ways that lust of the

  579. flesh can so easily play out and so easily turn our lives into

  580. rebel. And then he says, But the fruit

  581. of the Spirit, for those of us who have received the free gift

  582. of salvation to be born into his Spirit, to walk in his spirit.

  583. The fruit of the Spirit is love. The fruit of the Spirit is joy,

  584. peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

  585. gentleness, and self-control. The one that ties all of them

  586. together. Against such things there is no

  587. law. It is the power of the Spirit to

  588. willingly be controlled by the goodness of God.

  589. And so the message does come in two ways.

  590. It comes in salvation, and it comes in sanctification or

  591. cleansing. Some of you need to look at your

  592. life and confess and admit to God, who brought you to hear

  593. this message today, that you have allowed the walls to turn

  594. into rubble. You have allowed the

  595. overindulgence of your passions to lead you down a path of

  596. destruction. And your moment with God right

  597. now is to say, I want to call upon your name to be my strong

  598. tower, to be my refuge. This is your moment of

  599. salvation, which is free. It is the grace of God to all

  600. who believe, And for those of us which is all of us who have

  601. experienced the power of the born again, life to be

  602. regenerated by God, to choose rightly to walk in his ways.

  603. We come time and time again to say Lord, fill me anew, cleanse

  604. me anew. For the little ways that there

  605. is cracks in my wall, I have put self at the center of worship

  606. once again sanctify me. God, cleanse me so that my

  607. self-control would really be your control of my life.