Anger Danger: What You Don’t Know Is Hurting You // Triggered (Part 9) // Pastor Tim Ross

Welcome to Transformation Church Podcast, where we represent God to

the lost and found for transformation in Christ. We're so

glad you're here and wherever you're listening from, we believe

God will transform your life. Do today's message.

Hi, I love y'all. It's good to see you.

So excited that I get the opportunity to be a

part of this series.

And to further the.

Dialogue around getting to the epicenter of our crash outs.

This Triggered series has hopefully brought.

Some things to the surface for you.

What you have to understand is that whatever doesn't come

up and out of your body through words will come

up and out of your body through actions. And so

we're trying to give language to the things that trigger

us because because without language, your body and your brain

cannot heal. So my assignment today is very surgical. You

probably won't find many opportunities to shout.

Through this message.

You will find many opportunities to ouch through this message.

But I think it's imperative that we deal with one

of the main triggers specifically, and it's anger. We have

to deal with our anger. And I'm in my Miusman

Rod bag today. I'm in my doctor Mousman Rowbag. I

got slides for days. I think this message should be

over around three pm. I got power points and slides

and bullets, and we have QR code all the notes,

so all the notes. Just put your pen and your

paper away and just click and just take pictures of

everything we got on the screen. Because there's too many

notes for y'all. Okay, I see you with your highlighter, sir,

and your pen. Put it back because it's too much.

Huh.

You'll never pick your head up again. If you go down,

it will never come back up. It's too many bullets

and it's too many notes. I you got a whole

laptop out, sir, So go ahead. You are a court stenographer.

Clickity clackett. I'm fine with it. So are you all ready?

Okay? I want to do some declarations today.

I like to when we have something this labor intensive,

I like to open up a declaration. So if you

have your Bible, put it in the air. If you

got your phone, put it in the air. If you

don't have either one of those, just put your hand

in the air and repeat after me. All right, today,

now louder. Today, the Holy Spirit is about to speak

to me about my anger. After today, I.

Will know.

And fully understand that my anger is God given. It

is not something that is bad. It's actually good. But

it can become bad if I don't know what to

do with it. But after today, though, like for real,

after today, I'm gonna be good in my anger. Let's go,

Let's go, let's go. See. That's how you open up.

That's how you build an expectation for what God's about

to do. If you're taking notes on this message, please

write this down. The title of this message is anger danger.

If you're taking notes, the title of the message is

anger danger. What you don't know is hurting you, anger danger.

What you don't know about your anger is hurting you

by your head. Let's pray over the word show we

Holy Spirit help us.

With our anger.

Amen, y'all know, I'll pray quick. I'm the one you

won over for Thanksgiving dinner. We'll eat all the food

while it's hot. We'll pray for the nations. After that

really got you over there, didn't it. I'm doing I'm

doing this message in six movements. Everybody say movements. I'm

doing this message in six movements, and I've purposely used

the word movements because our anger actually needs to move.

When anger doesn't move, that's when it starts to erode,

hurt us, kill us on the inside.

So this is six movements. Movement one.

What I want to talk to you about is our

Ancher scripture, the Biblical permission and boundary of anger. I

want to talk to you about the Biblical permission and

boundary of anger. First, let me say that God created

us in his image. So all of the emotions that

we have God has. We do not possess an emotion

that God doesn't already have. He gave us the emotions

we have because He created us in his image. Here

is the scripture. I can take you to several but

I want to use this one as our case study. Ephesius,

chapter number four, verses twenty six and twenty seven says

this be angry. It says be angry, and then there's

a comma commas mean you pause. So those two words

be angry is not a suggestion. It's a command. Be

angry because there are gonna be some things in your

life to be angry about, and when those things.

Come, be angry. Do not sin. You can be angry,

yet do not sin.

Do not let the sun go down on your anger.

So not only is it saying yes you can be angry,

but no, you cannot sin.

Don't hold it too long, don't.

Wake up like this, Go to sleep like this, then

wake back up like this. Whatever anger you find in

your body, we're gonna have to quickly put some words

to it because we don't want to get through the

entire day into the night. Go to sleep and wake

back up with it. Because anger that starts to brood

and fester overnight and over days take roots, and those

roots are gonna produce fruit that we don't want in

our lives. Verse twenty seven says, and do not give

the devil a foothold. Somebody ever tried to close your

door in your face, and you'll be like, don't give

him that, because if he gets that, he gets in.

Chop that foot off, write all of this down.

To take pictures of it. Anger is not a sin.

There's so many people, especially in the Body of Christ,

that think the emotion of anger.

If I even feel anger, then.

I must be unchrist like, I must be ungodly, I

must need to kill more of my flesh. No, anger

is an emotion. It gives us information about things that

have gone wrong. Anger is a God designed emotion. Anger

becomes sin when it becomes expressed destructively, dishonestly, or repressively.

So my anger is not bad.

It only becomes bad when I'm not honest about it.

It only becomes bad when I act on it out

of context. God commands you to feel the emotion, but

stewart the response. I can feel all the anger, but

I have to stewart the response. Yes, you made me mad,

but I didn't have to cuss you out.

The anger I feel about what you did.

Is valid, but I didn't have to punch you in

the throat though. I mean, no, what you did really

did offend me, but I didn't have to slash your tires.

I was angry with your content online, but I didn't

have to make that nasty video about you.

I was just angry.

The problem isn't anger, it's unprocessed anger. It's the anger

that you never take time, thank you, Holy Spirit, to

bring before God, let alone anybody else. We won't even

be honest with God about our anger, which.

Brings us to movement to say movement to trauma.

Inform framework what anger actually is let's talk about what

anger actually is.

Anger is information.

Before I go any further, give this tech team a hand,

because they when I tell you, these are the best

notes I ever seen on the LED screen of my

entire life.

I'm trying to focus this way, but it's too cute

over here.

I like what they've done. Anger is information. It signals

that something feels wrong. All of our emotions are information.

I'm happy? Why am I happy because I got a raise?

I'm sad? Why am I sad because I got demoted?

But when it comes to anger, A lot of times

we don't have words for it.

I'm angry? Why?

Oh no, it's seems that something is wrong. It can

be information that a boundary was violated, a need was

ignored and injustice was perceived, a wound was touched, or

an old memory got activated. Ooh that hit. Y'all got

some old memories that get activated? You forgot about it

until they reminded you of it, and then you like,

why am I so mad today? What did they say?

What did they do? Anger lives in the body first.

You know you're angry based on what shows up in

your body.

It don't hit your head first. It hits your body first.

Anybody's ears get hot when they get angry. Bros clapping,

He is like, my ears are hot right now.

Feel you tight?

Chest, jaw clinched, that temple, pulsating sheet rising, shallow breathing,

racing throats, tunnel vision. Anybody shake when they're angry. Anybody

ever made you so mad? You like, you know what

everything you've done to me? The annoycing is all over her.

No it's not. That's not the anointing. That's a different

shaky hand.

Right there. You got one more time. Anger isn't the problem.

Suppression is unprocessed. Anger becomes unspoken, Anger becomes distance stored,

Anger becomes depression ignored, Anger becomes overreaction.

Anybody ever or.

Reacted to a situation because you was angry, but you

never actually articulated it. And then it just all spilled out,

and everybody in the room was like, I don't think.

I just asked you what flavor of ice cream?

You wont it? I did not know that the ice

cream was gone. But you're still mad about something seven

years ago you never addressed. And so now you have

a tallly of offenses in your ledger that you never

brought up, and then one day you don't bring that up,

you bring get all up. Anger becomes dangerous when it

becomes your interpreter. Ooh, help me with this, Holy Ghost.

When anger becomes the filter by which you read your relationships,

anger begins to rewrite motives because you're looking through the

lens of your anger. Now you're rewriting everyone's motives according

to the anger that you have unresolved on the inside

of your body. Anger begins rewriting, meaning. Now this is

when people start getting cynical.

Somebody blesses you, you were like, for what.

Do you know? We live in such a cynical, bitter,

angry society that if you bless somebody, they're like, what's

the catch, and you like, it's a Starbucks coffee sir, Stop,

there's no catch.

It's just a latte.

Receive it, Hey, pay for the pay for the car

behind me.

The car pulls up.

Hey, that person in front of you paid for your

food for what?

It's just waffle fries, sir.

Just.

Anger begins to rewrite memory. When anger is unresolved, it

is unresolved.

All your memories.

Get revised. Thank you, Holy Ghost. Oh, I'm gonna say

that again. When anger is unresolved, all your memories get revised.

So the whole marriage has been bad.

Yeah, yeah, it ain't ever been good.

But you looked very happy at Disney World. I wasn't

even happy then. He was a fake smile.

But you reduced your vows and your ten year anniversary

and you were weeping. I was mad, but you told

them you loved them. I didn't mad it. I've gone through.

This has all been in my therapy sessions, my counseling sessions.

I've heard it all. Anger begins rewriting identity. Not only

do you not see others the same, you can't see

yourself the same. Because let's not get it twisted. Not

everybody in here is mad at somebody out there. Some

of us are mad at who we are in here,

which brings us to Movement three. Everybody say Movement three

triggers and dysregulation. We have to find crime in the

crash out, and since most of our triggers center around anger,

we have to figure this part out. First thing I

want you to know about this is that a trigger

is not a sin. It's a signal. Anytime we're triggered,

it's not sinful to be triggered. This entire series is

not to get you never to be triggered again. You

gonna be triggered. But when you're triggered, what do you

do with the trigger? So it's not a trick, it's

not a sin to be triggered. That is a signal, okay,

something's gone wrong. A trigger is the moment your body

remembers what your mind forgot.

The body is what keeps the score.

Mentally, you can forget a lot of stuff, your body

will not forget a thing. There's a story told of

a little baby whose parents ran the water that they

were gonna bathe their baby in a little too hot,

and so when they got ready to sit the baby

down it it scaled them and they immediately picked up

their legs and started crying. Now, this baby I'm talking

is months old when it was getting this bath. The

next time that the water was drawn and they got

ready to lower that baby in, that baby put them

legs all the way up.

To its ears.

It did yoga mid descent because the body kept the score.

We are in the same environment where there is water running,

and I remember.

The last time I got burned.

I don't even have language or words to articulate the

pain that I felt the.

Last time you tried to submerge me in this water.

But my body knows that if I'm in this situation again,

legs up, You're not about to get get me again.

Put your hand on your chest. Repeat after me. I

will be kinder to my body's reminders. Say it again.

I will be kinder to my body's reminders. Your body

is not betraying you, it's informing you. We've been through

this before. I'm not really trying to spaz out, but

this seems familiar. It's so much Okay, okay, disregulation equals

my body feels unsafe. Get this even if I am safe.

I gotta say that again. Body dysregulation is my body

feels unsafe even if I am safe. Anybody beside me

have environment to a trauma. Environmental trauma means that you

grew up in a home or a neighborhood, or in

conditions that were very dangerous or they were very unsafe.

I grew up in the hood. I grew up where

gunshots just.

Those weren't fireworks.

They was shooting. Okay, helicopters call them the ghetto birds.

Everybody from La understands them ghetto birds flying and flashing

lights in the backyard. To this day, if I go

to a restaurant because of my environmental trauma, I will

never sit with my back to a door. If I

get to a restaurant late and somebody's already in the chair,

I need to be and.

I'm like, hey, man, you good.

And they're like yeah, I'm good. I'm like, hey, are

you against me having that seat? And they're like, uh,

I mean why. I'm like, do you have a gun?

And they're like no, I'm like I do, Get up.

I need to sit there.

You gonna want me in this seat.

If somebody in the one in three hundred thousand chance

wants to come in this cheesecake factory and set it off,

you're gonna want me to get off too quick. You

want me here, sir. You don't want to be there

if I because then I gotta.

Turn around and then the alignment. Okay, let me.

Tim who's coming after you a cheesecake factory. Nobody but

my body says, don't have your back.

To the door.

So even when I'm safe, that this regulation is, I

feel unsafe.

Even if I am safe.

When triggered, the nerve system shifts into fights, flight, freeze,

or fond Where my fighters at? When somebody audibly whooo

when you're giving a police signal, you're telling us you

have priors, your testimony service is valid, ma'am?

Where are my fighters?

Whoopoo?

Are those are my Those are my fighters? Where are

my people that take flight?

You run?

You're like, bye, right, You're like danger dysregulation, baye, hang

up the phone, leave the presence, leave the house. I'm

out right, I don't I don't have time for it.

I'm leaving.

Okay, good?

Where are the people that freeze?

You?

Just like.

Your body gets disregulated and you're like you just turn

into a possum. You're like, maybe if I stand real still, they'll.

Won't see me anymore. How many of us fawn?

Fawn is when you're just like you just try to

make the situation better. You're you're just like, oh.

No, you know, I love you.

No, don't be mad. I made your sandwich, your sandwiches.

Do you want cereal?

I'll give you cereal?

Will you can? You not?

I'm just this real stuff. And I appreciate a church

that's honest enough.

And I hope all of us that are watching live

and tconation be honest enough to identify where you are,

Identify who you are, Identify how your body shows up

in these instances. This is where anger often shows up.

You don't have to calm down to find Christ. Christ

meets you in the moment that you crash out. He's

not He's not like so when you're finished crashing out,

come find me. Said another way, I hope we get

to the point where that we can.

Go straight to God in.

The crash out, like we've identified it in our body

and we're like God, right now, I am so angry.

I'm ready to spend the block. Eleven people know, please

don't spend the block.

Crisis present in the spike, not after it. He's present

in the shutdown. He is present in the overwhelmed Thank

you Holy Spirit. The disciples crashed out on the boat

when Christ was sleep. He didn't come out and.

Go calm down to understand what all the shocking awe

is about. It's just win rain.

Me because he couldn't say God, me, oh I am.

He's present in the eruption. He's present in the eternal collapse,

the internal collapse, He's right there. He wants to be

right there, and we have to stop running from him,

Thank you, Holy Spirit. We have to stop being believers

that try to go into his presence like we got

it all together, when he knows your ways and your

thoughts way before, he already knows how you feel, and

we'll still come to him and not even be truthful.

Your anger is revealing where your healing is calling. Your

anger is revealing where your healing is calling. Fine, if

you can point to your anger, I can point to

where you need to heal. If you can point to

where it hurts, I can give you what you need

to heal, which sprains me to movement forward, say movement

for art.

There are two types of anger.

There's only two types, exploders and imploders. There are people

that are explosive in their anger, and you have people

that are implosive.

In their anger.

There is an anger that acts outwardly and there's an

anger that acts.

Inwardly.

I want to give you my two biblical case studies

for explosive anger and implosive anger. The explosive anger, I

want to use Moses as the example. We know that

Moses has explosive anger because his narrative after this miraculous

saving of his life with his mother putting him into

a basket and floating him down on the now river

and he is drawn out of the water by Pharaoh's daughter,

he is raised in Pharaoh's house. There is an internal

fight that he has had for years and years and years,

understanding that his identity is Hebrew, but that his upbringing

has been Egyptian, and holding the tension of those two

finally overflows to him seeing an Egyptian harming and hurting

one of his Hebrew brothers by descent, and he rises

up and kills the Egyptian like on site, like no,

like hey man, what are you doing over there? The

explosive anger just comes out and he kills bro.

So here is.

What years and years of unaddressed anger does to Moses.

Adam and I spoke to Moses, saying, take the staff

and gather the assembly. You and your brother Aaron speak

to the rock before their eyes, and it will give

out its water.

Let me stop there.

They had already had in a previous situation, a moment

where they were at this same rock.

And they needed water.

To come out of the rock, and the instruction given

to Moses was to take his staff and hit the rock.

When he hit the rock, water gushed out enough for

everyone in the nation of Israel's thirst to be quenched.

They now come back to this same rock, and God

tells Moses this time, do not hit that rock. You

don't need to just speak to it. Okay, now this

is okay. I'm gonna take my time. You will bring

out water from the rock and give the community something

to drink. So Moses took the staff from adamize what what?

He took the staff from adaized presence as he had

commanded him. Moses and Aaron gathered the assembly in front

of the rock. He said to them, listen, now, you rebels,

shall we bring you water from this rock?

Okay? Can we just stop real quick? All right?

He's in the presence of the Lord Ada, and I

what would you like me to do? I want you

to take this staff, gather the assembly, you and your

brother Aaron speak to the rock before their eyes, and

it will give out its water. You will bring out

water from the rock and give to the community something

to drink. He's like, Hallelujah, thank you Jesus. Or not Jesus,

but thank you Adae Amen, And in between God's presence

and the people's presence, bro crashed out that quick, can

we just be honest about our humanity?

You can be in your prayer room for three hours

and come out of that.

Holy moment where the glory of God saturated the atmosphere

you listen to. You sustained four times in a row

and come out in two minutes, and your kids made

you forget all that glory came out of the presence

of God. You sustain, You sustain.

What in the.

What are y'all doing? Did not die? Got? Got?

Why is there water on this car? But why this?

Why is there chose?

And the table? I do you get?

Chose?

And the songs still playing in the background.

You sustain. You used to.

Stay listen, Now you reb house.

Sell every about his anger not only erupted towards the people,

it made him forget his identity. What's you're talking about?

Shall we bring you water on this rock?

Moses?

You ain't bring nobody no water? Why did you think it.

Was y'all all of a sudden?

This is God? Then Moses lifted up his hand and

struck the rock twice. With his staff. Let me tell

you how gracious God is. He did not penalize the

people for Moses's anger. Water came out in abundance because

the man of guy's anger does not mean that the

people need to be penalized. And the community in their

lives got drink. But Adam and I said to Moses

and Aaron, because you did not trust me, you will

not bring this assembly into the promised Land. Please write

this down. I know, I said, you can't write down everything,

but you better write this down. Anger will disqualify you

from the Promised lander. Will show enough disqualify you from

the Promised Land. God watched what Moses did, and Moses literally,

by definition, use God's name in vain because it has

more to do with what you than what you say.

It has more to do with what you do when

you use God's name in vain. It has nothing to

do with what you say. Most times it's what you do.

And what he did was misrepresent God to the people,

and in that one move, he lost the Promised land.

God said, you can't even no now from God's presence

to the people's presence. This wasn't one moment of anger.

This was forty years of unprocessed anger. Moses didn't just

get bad.

He had been mad and to come out and be like,

you want water?

Since I want so much water, Tiger?

Can you imagine the people Moses is angry?

Moses wasn't triggered by that moment. He was triggered by

years of moments. His explosion at the rock was the

overflow of decades of unspoken frustration.

Explode or to store anger as pressure.

I can't even go past that point yet. Exploders store

anger as pressure. You never know when the volcano is

gonna erupt. People around you stop trusting you because they

don't know which you they gonna get. We don't know

if you're going to be Bruce Banner or the Hulk,

because we don't know when that pressure valve is gonna break.

You just pop off, and we don't We don't know

when it's gonna happen. We don't know if it's gonna

be good morning, hey, good morning, or good morning good morning.

If you that mad at eight am, the sun went

down on your anger, and that's how you rose up

with it because you went to sleep on it. It

ain't going away because you slept it off, it's gonna

actually gain more pressure when it burst. The reaction is

disproportionate to the event. I talked about this earlier. When

you see people that have explosive anger when they do

pop off, it don't even match what we're doing right now.

It's like, hey, man, are we gonna go play golf

or we're not gonna I mean.

If y'all gonna play golf.

To say it, I'm tired of all this back and forth.

And it's like, you know what this. I don't even

think you're mad at me. I don't know. I think

you're mad your dad left and this pressure that you've

never processed. So now we're talking about golf, and golf

is your dad that never played with you. Moses obeyed

God with his feet, but disobeyed God with his heart.

I can't tell you how many angry preachers there are.

I had this visual earlier when I was just in

the back and just praying about this because I see

everything in pictures I saw. I just had a picture

of the preachers that be slamming on the Bible as

they're preaching, and the Holy Spirit just said, that's what

it's like to strike the rock in twenty twenty five.

Water is ready to come out. But they're so mad

about whoever they mad at. They had a counseling session Wednesday,

and they got a preacher sermon Sunday, But thirty minutes

of the forty five minute message is actually about the

person they counseled wednesday.

Pressure.

So now give you how many exploders do we have

in the room?

Thank you?

Be honest, you explode? Thank you. I just the honesty

is so refreshing. Good. Okay, because again, if you don't

know who you are, you're gonna continue to repeat the

same behavior until you can at least admit this is

who I am. So let me give you the implosive anger.

The how many imploters do we have in the room?

I'm an imploder? Okay? My dad, my older brother, and

my younger brother who's in heaven now, and my daddy's

in heaven now too. Wow. So they were exploders. I

grew up in a family with explosive men, and the

Ross temper was a disease within the family that we

kind of carried with some pride.

Oh he got that ross temper.

I didn't want the Ross temper, and so I wound

up the imploder. I wasn't explosive with my anger. I

was the imploter. I kept it in my anger went in.

So let me tell you who else was an imploder

in scripture, the older brother of the father that had

the two sons, so Luke Chapter number fifteen, twenty five

through thirty.

Here's what it says.

Now.

The older son was in the field.

As he came near the house, he heard music and dancing.

He called one of the servants and asked what was

going on. The servant told him, your brother has come.

This was the prodigal son that went out and spent

all his money, took his daddy's inherited, tricked it off,

did all kind of foolishness with it, and then came

back home broke, busted, disgusted, but still a son. Amen.

So the older son never left. He asked what was

going on vers. Number twenty seven. The servant told him,

your brother has come, and your father has killed the

fatic calf because.

He got him back safe and sound.

But the older brother, the older son, became angry and

was unwilling.

To go in.

Because implosive anger does not act out, it turns inward.

We withdraw, we get petty, right, We never gonna pop

off at you, and and and and get loud with you.

But we we will. We will punish you with our silence.

We we will turn our silence into violence because we

we can't confront you, we can't articulate our anger like

we want to, so so we just we just I

ain't going in there.

Oh they over here.

I'm not going in there.

Oh they gonna be.

At the family reunion. You know what, I have something

to do that day. Who's preaching today? I don't like

him because the last arm men wasn't that good. So

but the older son became angry and was unwilling to

go in so as father came outside and pleaded with him.

But he answered his father. And this is what happens

with implosive anger. When you push it in the corner,

it comes out like this. Look any imploders in the

room can relate. They pushed you, push you, push you,

and you fight it like Louck.

Let me tell you, Santing turned into a Dominican.

Let me tell you, Santing, what you're not gonna do.

What you're not gonna do? This a Dominican Italian Tim

calm down. I didn't get either one of them right.

That just mashed them together. Look, so many years I've

slaved for you, and you never neglected a command of yours.

And I never neglected a command of yours. Yet you

never gave me a young goat. Revisionist history. He was

waiting for a goat. He already got. This boy could

have had goat anytime he wanted. He never left the house.

And also he's the oldest son. Everything that was that

was in his father's house was gonna go directly to him.

It wasn't gonna go to his brother. But anger will

give you revisionist history about the way you see yourself

in the family unit. You never gave me a young coat.

So I can celebrate with my friends. But when this

son of yours, anger will make you distant, It will

make you reframe the relationship.

That ain't my mama, that's your mama. Your child is

tripping huh.

But when this son of yours came, the one who

squandered your property would prostitute. See how petty that is

you bringing up the past. This man has been restored,

he's been fulfilled. You oh, oh, you abought to the

one that been with all them holes. You got him over.

Oh you killed a goat for him, the hormonger. Oh

you let the alcoholic come over. Oh you had a

party for the alcoholic. Oh you got the crackhead here.

They get to come to the thanksgiving. Oh so the

crackhead gets to shit that. Okay, they get to have

ham to petty much the one who's scuding out your

property with prostitutes. Then you killed that fatted calf for

helm excamation money.

Hem.

The older brother held anger quietly for years. He never exploded.

He simmered. Imploder's store anger as resentment. They don't burst outward,

They collapse inward. Silent anger eventually becomes relational sabotage.

He followed all.

The rules, but none of the rules healed his heart.

Imploders think, if I do the right thing, then I'll

get the right stuff. But if your heart's not right,

you can do all the right things and still not

have Okay, thank you, Okay, you'll do all the right things,

but you can't enjoy none of the stuff. This boy

has never left the house. He has all his father's blessings,

but he can't enjoy it because he mad at somebody

else instead of praying for his brother, joining his father

in prayer for his brother. He mad at his brother

and then mad at his daddy for caring for his brother. Ooh,

how many believers are like that? You mad at when

of God's kids, and then mad at God for blessing

his kid when that's your brother. But that's no longer

your brother when they're not doing what you want them

to do. So that's them over there, which brings us

to movement five. Say movement five Jesus and anger the

redemptive bottle, because a lot of people like to justify

their anger with the fact that Jesus got angry. And

when Jesus got angry, he braided a belt and he

flipped over tables.

And that's me. I'm Jesus.

No, you're not. No, you're not. He can be in you,

but you're not him. Thank God, I'm not him. Thank God,

you're not him. We're not him. So this is Matthew

chapter number twenty one, twelve and thirteen. Then Ya Shua

into the temple and drove out all those selling and

buying in the temple. He overturned the tables of the

money changers and the seats of those selling doves, and

he said to them, it is written my house shall

be called a house of prayer, but you are making

it a den of thieves. We read this and we're like, yeah,

I'm Jesus. I'll flip the tables. Don't cross me. You

better try Jesus. Don't try me because I throw these hands.

It's a dope song. But it's not like our biblical posture.

We should not be throwing hands. We should be praying

for those that despitefully use us.

We should be loving our enemies. We should be treating

our neighbor like ourself. So Jesus expressed his.

Anger with clarity, not chaos. His anger was clean. It

was not contaminated by insecurity or ego. I gotta say

that part again. His anger was clean, It was not

contaminated by insecurity or ego. His anger produced alignment, not

a alienation. His anger protected the vulnerable, not punished the innocent.

Jesus shows us.

Anger can be holy when it is honest and directed. Well,

let me say this, let me say it this way.

Jesus flipped tables, not people. He only got rid of

what was not supposed to be in his father's house.

We should not be selling in the father's house. I'm

breaking this table. I'm not breaking you. You can be restored,

but what you can't do is pervert this atmosphere. I'll

never forget when I was thinking about this moment, I

was thinking about the.

One time.

We couldn't listen to explicit content when we were growing

up in our house. I had a hold in this

house my mom and daddy was the Pentecostal Huxtables. I

want you to thank Cliff and Claire, but speaking in tongues,

and that was Charles and Maxine Ross. And so they

told us, we don't want you listening to secular music

in the house, and we don't want you especially listening

to explicit content music.

Well, we had a stash of tapes, cause.

I'm fifty, We had a stash of tapes and my

mom found them and she broke them off, and then

she took a little pencil and pulled the tape out

and just started doing this eating the name of ayad

ya ya yah yah yah yah hoole shining dah yah.

I told you not to bring it in here.

Yah. Yeah, she broke the tape. She didn't break us.

She took out of our room what we didn't take

out of our hearts. That's a righteous anger. Again, anger

is information. Who am I actually mad at? Movement six?

At Movement six, last movement that we've done. How to

deal with anger before it deals with you? How do

we deal with our anger before it deals with us?

Point number one? You have to name it.

Who or what am I actually angry? You cannot heal

what you refuse to identify. We have to stop lying

to ourselves and telling ourselves that we're not mad at anything.

I got mad at God.

In a nuclear way when my brother got killed in

a car accident September seventeenth of twenty of twenty, two

thousand and four. He was killed in an auto accident.

A double tractor trailer put out in front of him.

He struck it blunt force trauma, died instantly. I was

angry with God for four months. I told him I'm

never gonna preach for you again.

I don't like you. And the language is.

Way more colorful than that. If you've ever watched my podcast,

it it was podcast Timmy. It was not Preacher Timmy. Okay,

so I went smooth off. Okay, he's a holy God,

and he's sovereign, and you can't. You gotta approach him

a certain way. He's a dad, he is holy, he

is sovereign, and he's a dad. Everybody in here, most

everybody in here, unless you were just in a crazy situation.

In a parental dynamic. You had that one moment.

Anybody had that one moment where you popped off at

your parent.

And look at you. You still here? Huh? You know

you should be dead, down in your grave. Your bed

should be your cooling board.

You think about it later, You're like, oh my, how

did I I should be dead?

I was not in my right mind.

My anger.

Was valid. The way that I expressed it was not.

God is so gracious that he let me have my

tantrum because I was telling the truth about my pain.

I was bitter losing my brother, and I took it

to his presence and he healed me.

Not instantly, but he healed me express it safely.

Anger is energy. It must move.

That's why we went through these movements, because I want

you to understand what it means to move.

Anger is energy. It must move.

Moses' problem wasn't feeling anger. It was avoiding expression into eruption.

We were doing counselor one time, my wife and I

and and she was like, Timmy and I, you know,

we don't we don't argue like we have conversations and

and we don't raise our voice. And I'm like, thank

God for grace, because when we first got married, I'm

just a naturally loud person and demonstra demonstrative and passionate,

and and that would shut her down.

And so I had to get a new voice.

I had to get an FMDJ voice, quiet storm. Hey babe,

I'm angry with you right now but always in forever,

this moment with you, it's just like a dream to me,

and somehow came true. Oh but I'm mad though, but

come and talk to me. I really want to know

your name. And it.

Worked, it worked, But.

Then she was like, and we don't call each other

out of you know, we don't. We never call each

other out of our names. And I kind of chuckled,

like and she was like, what, You've never called me

out of my name? And I was like, not to

your face. But I got it out of my body

in a safe place that didn't permanently damage.

Her perspective of me.

So whether that's in therapy, or getting the phone with

one of my friends, and I'm like.

You know what this oh.

This girl?

Ah, I can't stan at her.

But she's so pretty.

Though if she wasn't pretty, I leave her now. I

would leave her right now. But she's so fine.

But ah.

And walk in the house like, hey, babe, you good.

What are you eating today? Don't be Moses.

Moses should have been while he was still in God's presence.

He should have been like, I can't standing at people

out there. All they do is complain to get on

my nerves. I went up to get your your your commandments.

That came down. There was naked. There was nackad. Everybody

was nackad, having a whole orgy. I was gone for

like seven hours. How how we had just got the

Red Sea and I came back down there was but

booty naked? How is this possible? And my brother got

the nerve to say, you don't know what happened.

It was a golden calf. You don't just go. Don't

just come out of calf. Brother's a liar dog.

Then he should have just came out, hey, rock water,

That's what should have happened.

It didn't happen.

Bring it to God first. I just talked about this.

God is not intimidated by honesty. I just if you

don't get nothing else from today, I promise you he

does not care. You can talk as reckless as you want,

and when you get done with it, you're like, okay, okay,

thank you my God, thank you so much for being

a blessed savior, for being I mean, think about it,

like Peter looked your shoe with dead and the eye

and said, I'll never leave you.

Then deny them three times. You know what the Lord's

response was, breakfast. That's what I'm saying.

We can't be Jesus.

I'm not coming back for bro. I bless your fishing business.

You and your daddy's fishing business popped off because of me.

You saw all the miracles.

I blessed you with power to do the same stuff

I did. And then when I get locked up, you

denine me three times in front of a little girl.

And then I'm gonna make you my main pre eminent preacher. No,

I'm not where John.

At I mean PD.

I ain't gonna kick you off the set, but what

I am gonna say is you not the cap on

no more, I where is John? He's not intimidated.

Communicate before you accumulate.

That's spicy. Communicate before you accumulate. The older brother's silence

was decades of emotional dishonesty. Let me tell you what,

Let me tell.

You how imploders.

Let me tell you how we rock?

How you doing today? Fine?

Him? Are you good?

Yep? You see I'm a little distant.

I'm good. I'm good. Are you sure of? For sure?

For years I'm good, I'm good.

I'm good, years and years and years ago by.

I'm good, I'm good.

And then one day, look, you said you was good.

Let Christ redirect it. Anger can become clarity. Anger can

become advocacy. Anger can become compassionate. Anger can become purpose.

Anger can become healing. My sister, my god sister. I

was talking to her last night and she sent me this,

and I just thought it was profound. The inability to

regulate the nervous system is at the root of all violence.

If people learn to regulate their nervous systems, homicide, suicide, rape,

political unrests and wars would cease. Couples, families, congregations, communities,

and nations would heal if we can recognize our triggers

in the moment, disregulate and reregulate. Ain't nobody going to prison,

Ain't nobody being abused, Ain't nobody catching the case, nobody's

breaking a relationship, nobody's self sabotaging their career, their marriage.

Because we can actually own it, identify it, and then

allow God to heal it, the anger that we refuse

to deal with will become the crash out We never

saw it coming. Can I tell you how many people

in ministry and out crash out and go. I don't

know how I got here. It never came out of

your mouth, So it came out of actions your body,

Thank you, Holy Spirit. Your body is never gonna let

your mouth get away with the lies it's telling on it.

Hear me, your body is.

Your body is never gonna let your mouth get away

with the lies you're telling on it. You are not fine.

Stop saying it. I'm saying this out of experience, not

out of.

Theory. I got sexually.

Abused when I was eight years old by a neighbor

that live across the street from me. When I came home,

my mom said, how was your dad?

I said, eight years old.

I knew I was lying. I knew in this moment,

I felt like I could not tell the truth about

the experience that I was having because I was gonna

blow my whole family up. My daddy was gonna kill him,

my brother was gonna bury him. I knew it.

I just knew it. And I'm eight years old.

I can't know because then and then, Mama, we're gonna

be by ourself, and then we probably gonna have to

move back to like the hood hood because we just

like we got out of you know how you get

out the hood hood and you at you like in

a better part of a steel hood, but like this

hood got us swimming pool like you just okay, it's

a little upgrade. I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine,

I'm fine. I lived with that for eleven years of

silence between eight and nineteen years old, until my mom

caught me watching pornography and I couldn't no longer say

I'm fine.

And that night.

I told her the truth about why I was medicating

with pornography and masturbation.

And my whole life changed.

My life has not been the same since that day.

There was a progression of freedom and a progression of

healing that had to take place. But in the almost

thirty years that I've been a believer in Jesus Christ,

I've been in therapy for twenty eight and all I

do now is sit on the couch and try to

help people open up and tell the.

Truth about what their body has experienced.

Because if you can do that, then you can truly

live in freedom. So message is over anybody whose anger

has a hold on you more than you have a

hold on it. This is your auto call. Come now,

don't clap so proud of y'all, like super proud of y'all.

You can live with it. Don't let it live with you.

You can live with it, Just don't let her live

with you. We've lost too many relationships over it. It's

not cute no more. Maybe when we were little, oh man,

he got a temper. Bro that's bro and knock you out.

Don't cross him. That's cool at like fifteen, it's not

cool at twenty five. You look dumb. At thirty five,

you're alone. At forty five, nobody wants to hang with

you no more. I'm told my dad had a violent temper.

God did such a miraculous work in his life. I

still don't believe him. When he would tell me, man,

I had such a temper, my mom would tell him, oh,

daddy had a temper. He'd break everything, punch holes in walls.

Like when you look at when you come back to

yourself and the lamp is broken, it's like you need light. Though.

When there's a hole in the wall, you gotta patch it.

You break the relationship you got amended, And at some

point it's just like, okay, the anger, the anger is

a signal. What is it really telling me? It really

ain't got nothing to do with you. I keep taking

it out on you. You ain't got nothing to do

with it. I'm mad because I've been alone since I

was a child. I'm mad because I had to teach

myself how to be a man. I'm mad because my

mom actually thought I was competing with her for the

attention of my dad, who happened to be her husband.

I'm just mad. An ultra call like this is just

meant for you to just tell your body, like to

finally confess, all right, you were right?

That is me.

It keeps coming up and I can't keep blaming it

on all other stuff that's me. So I just want

to pray with you. For some of you, you might

have like a miraculous moment where you walk away from

this and you ain't never mad again. And for the

others of us, it's just gonna be some work. We're

gonna be triggered and then we're gonna have to make

the I can't do that. I can't do that. I

can't meet with them because I'm gonna say something crazy.

But God give me a week. I know I have

to meet him, but I let me get this out

in a safe place and so I can meet with

this person and engage them in a godly way. I

went through this earlier this year. I had a situation

in a business relationship and I was all the way

back in Inglewood. I was like, I'm gonna get this dude,

and the Lord was like, you're gonna get him. Vengeance

is the Lord's He will repay if there's a reason

why he's so possessive with the word vengeance is mine.

He can't keep us from emotion, but he keeps us

from the action because on our best day, we cannot

exact righteous judgment. On our best day, is still gonna

be wicked. So let's pray. Shelly, God, I thank you

for my brothers and sisters, for your sons and daughters.

I thank you that right now you give us grace

in our anger. God, I pray that whatever roots have

grown down.

Because of Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit.

I just want you to the Holy Spirit is just

telling me to tell you this, Your anger is valid.

I just want to acknowledge it affirmed that your anger

is valid. What you've been mad about is actually valid

the way you've been trying to handle it. It's not

they did hurt you, they did wrong you, they did

betray you, they did abuse you, they did lie to you,

they did betray you. You're not wrong fulfilling the anger.

But we cannot allow our reaction to be a mismatch

to God's. So Holy Spirit, I pray that you would

take our anger. We just put it before you right now.

We lay it on the altar, and we say, Holy Spirit,

help us to deal with this the way you want

us to deal with this. Help us to process it

the way you want us to process it. Help us

to heal the way you want us to heal. Help

us to see ourselves again the way you see us,

Help us to see the other person whoever offended us

the way you see them. God heal our hearts from

the inside out. We uproot the roots that keep bringing

poison fruit. We uproot the roots that keep producing poison fruit.

And God we allow the seeds of forgiveness and love

and purity and kindness to grow down new roots so

that we can produce new fruit in Jesus' name. Amen,

So bow, every eye still closed. I want to take

a moment.

If you're in this room or you're watching online, and

you've never accepted Jesus as your Lord and savior, You've

never fully given your life to him, not just in

an ethereal way, just in a small way, but you've

never laid your life down and said I cannot drive anymore.

I do not want control. I want to give everybody

watching online and in this room an opportunity to accept Jesus.

Some of you.

The reason you're so frustrated you've been fighting is because.

You feel like you had nobody to fight for you.

But I am telling you Jesus is the one you

have been looking for, and he is the only person

that can help you with this. So here's what I'm

gonna do. If you want to accept Jesus as your

Lord and savior. You want a fresh start with God,

you want a new beginning. I am gonna count the

three on an account of three. You're gonna raise your

hand in this room and online. And what happens when

you raise your hand is you're saying, I give up

control of my life.

I do not want it my way.

I ultimately want something bigger.

Better and stronger than me to live on the inside

of me and to help me actually do and become

who I say I want to do and who I

want to become. I'm gonna count to three, and you're

gonna raise your hand boldly in this room and online.

You want to accept Jesus. One, He loves you you. Two.

Today is the day of salvation. Three, lift your hand

all over this room and online. Come on you and

accept Jesus. I see you over here. I got you dog,

a whole family over here. I see both of you.

I'm so proud of you.

I got you, sister. Oh, come on, y'all, we got people.

I got you right here, my man, right here.

On the front. So proud of you. I see you, sister.

I got you hey, as a family, as a community,

can everybody pray this prayer out loud? Repeat after me, say,

Dear God, I admit I'm a sinner. I need a savior,

change me, transform me, make me new. I lay it

all down.

I am yours and Jesus say my pray. Amen.

Can we celebrate people who just made the decision to

follow Jesus.

And listen.

If you just made that choice today, it is the

best decision you could ever make in your life.

Your life is forever different. And here's the big thing

I want you to know.

One I want you to tell somebody, Tell somebody around you,

Text your mama, tell a friend, tell somebody you made

the decision. It's the best decision you could ever make.

And we'd also as a church who love to know

about it, if you text the word saved to eight

two eight two eight two. We're here to help you

now to follow out and live this life that Jesus

has called us to live.

And we're so proud you made that decision.