Drunk In Love // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 2) // Michael Todd

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If you've been in a professional church before, We're not

one of those. I just I like real, I like authentic.

I like what God does somebody say.

In real life.

How many people want God to move in their real life? Now,

for the fifteen fake people that didn't raise your hand,

we see you. But I think that too much of

our church experience has been ethereal and I believe that

God wants us to experience His goodness, his grace, his

wisdom in real life.

So I have a burden to preach to you today.

In a way that it would affect your real life.

I don't want shares and amens and quotes that don't

show up in your life. Okay, there are a lot

of people that want to go viral.

I want to add value.

The Bible tells us that there are some people that

will never read Mark Luther John, but if we are

living epistles, they will read the Book of Say your Name.

I can't wait to read the Book of the Kwan day.

Come on, say your name? Your life is going to

be the book of Do you know there's no more

powerful book than the.

Book of your name?

Y'all?

Y'all didn't hear me? I said?

When people read of what Jesus has done, they read

about the woman at the well, they read about the

man who was healed of his blindness.

But what about when they read about.

You and how God heals you, feels you took you?

I gotta stop. Where is anybody that's gonna be a

living epistle?

The Book of Abbey, the Book of Charles, the book

the Book of Becca that feels good, the Book of

Becker that feels good.

And the reason I'm saying this is because so many

times we approach the word of God like a historical fantasy.

But this is the only message where God is still

breathing on people and.

Living in lives.

And so I just want you to know today I

believe God is gonna unlock something that you're gonna write

about one day. I only got fifteen people that believe

with me, But your keys are gonna remember fifteen to

twenty years from now. I don't necessarily understand everything that

happened in Ecclesiastis, and I'm a little confused in Leviticus.

But I watched and read.

The life of Patricia, and I watched that in a

hard season, Patricia would seek God with all she had,

and she only had two dollars to a name, but

she would pray over that two dollars, and that somehow

miraculous God would multiply. Y'all, they know about fish and lows,

but I know how he turned that thing in the

book of your life is more powerful.

That's why we overcome the enemy by the blood of

the Lamb. That's what Jesus did. But the words of

our own testimony, what happened?

Watched this in real life? Oh, y'all thought I was

gonna wait to start preaching in fifteen minutes.

Get your notes out.

Today we are in week two of a series we

are calling relationship Goals. Help Me in real life, because

I believe that God wants you to win in relationships

in real life. You don't have to be bitter the

rest of this life. You don't have to think that

everybody's out to get you for the rest of this life.

The Bible tells us that God desires for as it

is in heaven it to be here on earth, or

it could be said, as God has already designed it

in heaven, he wants a carbon copy in real life.

So if there's no sickness in heaven, then he wants

no sickness in real life. So you have to believe

in healing because that is the vehicle of faith that

we use to get healing in real life. Okay, So

today I believe that we have to start with the

thing that affects all of us is our relationships. Let

me just ask a very blanket question. How many people

want to be better in their relationships? Come on like, okay,

So that's basically everybody in this room. If you're listening

to this, it's not an accident. I believe God wants

to say something to you very strong through his word,

to help you win in all of your relationships. Let

me say this one more time. This is not about

your marriage only. This is about your watch this connections.

Relationships are all about connections. Some of us have connections

with people that we have not actually valued in the

way that they actually impact us.

Let me give you one.

I'm not gonna go down a whole list. But your

barber is a connection that impacts you ladies, your beautician,

your hairstyle is hey, okay, y'all know it because depending

on whose chair you sit in.

And they start rubbing on.

That scalp and start talking about their issues and start

talking about other people's problems and start I have seen

more people get ideas for seeing in a barber chair,

just in the atmosphere going to the barber shop. Wasn't

thinking about blusting, but here in the cut, and that's

a connection. Like I'm just going to get my haircut,

but where you get your haircut could affect you, actually

cutting up your relationship.

But you think it's just about the marriage.

It's about all your relational connections. So the reason this

series is so important is because there may be things

affecting you. I've been going to him for fifteen years

and you have been stuck for fifteen years too.

It's not that important. Maybe it is.

I'm just submitting to you. Is where you go to

eat and that bartender who knows your order, what happened?

It's quiet in here. I'm just saying that group of

friends you go, that gym you go to, and you

know it's a whole gym.

Y'all. Don't want to talk. Y'all, don't want to talk. Y'all,

don't want to talk. I'm going to work my quads.

You're going to delay your life.

Come on, you might need to go to the gym

with the eighty year olds. Hey, George, Hi, Marian, they're

up there with eights.

Y'all. Don't want to talk for.

Real, because every day you're fighting temptations, seeing people in

leggings and tanked.

They don't want to talk. No, I go to him

because he just makes me feel seen. He understands.

There's a lot of people that understand, and if you

would have self discipline, you could understand without him helping

you with your glue bridges.

Pawser, Mike, why are you saying this?

Because many of the relationships we are devaluing actually are

impacting the way that we actually live in relationships. So

today I just want to let you know what the

goal is. Somebody say, pasts, Mike, what's the goal? Say

it like you mean it.

What's the goal? Write this down? The goal is healthy relationships.

The goal is healthy, not just.

To be connected, but be connected well and right and

healthy relationships. Watch this come from healthy individuals.

It's not them, it's me. Say it with me. It's

not them, it's me. Why is it me? Because I'm

the only one that can change in my control. It's

not them, it's me, And then watch this.

Healthy individuals are built through self awareness and surrender. And

there are a lot of people in this room right

now who are not aware that there's some issues that

you have relationally.

Picking your pickers broke.

And most people have too much pride to even evaluate

because of the good times that they have had.

With these people.

Have you ever seen that movie that Tom hangs his

in and he becomes best friends with a volleyball Wilson Castaway,

that's the name of it.

Do you understand that enough time spent with anything.

Can develop a relational soul tie. You can spend a

lot of time with something and develop feelings for it.

You can develop an actual priority around it. You can

actually make room for it and make it something. It's

not that man was talking to a volleyball. Gave it

a name Wilson because that's a company who made the volleyball.

But some of us have to just become aware.

I'm praying that you would become more aware of the

areas in your life that God needs you to watch.

This word surrender, okay, And then last one's self awareness

and surrender are the substance of a healthy soul. What

is your soul. It's the thing that God cares about

more than anything. It's your mind, your will, and your emotions.

He did not come to save your body. He made

your body as a vehicle for your soul and your spirit.

And most of us were only concerned about our body

and how our body feels, and what our body wants

and what our body. But what you don't understand is

the part of you that's more you than the you

that you think is you, is your soul and your spirit.

I went to a funeral this week, a wonderful woman.

She lived ninety three years. And I went up to

see the body, and the body was laying in the casket,

but the thing that was.

Not there her soul.

Everybody was crying over the body, but her soul. The

only thing that made it different is that it was

vacant of the.

Thing that actually makes you you.

And God places a high value on your mind, your will,

and your emotions.

Let me prove it to you. Third John, Chapter one,

verse two.

It says, beloved, I pray that you prosper some they say,

prosper in all things.

Stop.

God wants you to prosper in everything. Not everything everything.

God wants you to prosper in Eric. He wants you

to prosper in your life, in your love, in your finances.

He wants you to prosper in your dougie. Y'all, y'all

don't want to y'all. He wants my dougie to prosper.

Ah, some of y'all is just I'm just saying, like,

think about it like that. He wants you to prosper in.

But watch what he compares the prosperity to in your

rest of your life. Look what the standard is. I

want you to prosper in all things and be in Hell,

I'm not even gonna touch it, just as your just

as your soul prospers. So God says, hey, come here,

let me see your soul. I'm going to copy and

paste the health of your soul to every other area

of your life.

No no, no, no, no no no no.

I don't want see all gets. I don't want to

see your talents. I don't want to see none of

your managerial skills.

I don't want to see your ability to care.

I don't want to see how's.

Your soul, how's your mind, willing emotions? And depending on.

How wealthy that is, that's what I'm gonna put.

In every other area of your life. If that what's

the match for match dollar for dollar.

Wealth to wealth that God brought to us, we would

take more care of our souls and the thing that

impacts our souls almost more than anything else. Or I

can say it like this, nothing impacts and injures quite

like relationships. Can we be honest that there are some

of us still hurt from something that happened to us

over three decades ago.

There are people that have hurt us.

Relationally that they don't even know they hurt us, and

every time that.

We see them, it continues to impact us.

The reason you don't want to go there, the reason

you don't want to talk to them, the reason that

you don't.

Want to go to that birthday party, the reason.

That you sent them a gift instead of showing up,

is because not that you don't care or you don't

want to care. It's because there's something that I have

not acknowledged is an continual injury, and I'm still hurt

over it. Can somebody just be hot with me, humble,

open and transparent and just by show of hands, you

ain't got to talk to them. I'm not telling you

to go confess at this moment. How many people are

still hurt by something that happened to you?

Relationally?

Let's be honest, pastor, Mike. Why does this matter? I've

moved on, have you? Because everybody that's come into your

life that even resembles that.

You ready to knuck if you buck.

Yeah down, Dale, I got some thugs.

In this church.

And if the word of God for our church this

year is what forward, you might have to go back

to heal some of the things that have been wounds

for you.

To actually move forward. Okay, so pass some Mike. What

do you want us to do? First thing?

I need you to know write this down. God desires

and designed us to be in relationship. It's his design.

Humans are hard wired for connection.

You can act like you.

Don't want it, guess what you need it. It's the

first place in the Bible that God said it's not good.

For a man or a one man to be alone.

So I want you to.

Know that as much as you deny it, you still

need it. As much as you've been hurt by it,

you still need it. As much as you're trying to

run away from it, you still.

Need some of y'all.

I'll never and I won't and it be Oh my

good body, y'all are so.

All that is is protection.

You're trying to keep yourself safe from something that really

hurts you really bad, and we see you, and today

I want to let you know that maybe you just

need to take that guard down just a second and

realize that God desires and designed for you to be

in relationship. Okay, but it's hard to build healthy relationships

on a broken foundation.

Do y'all hear what I'm saying.

People are building mansions on top of cracked and faulty foundations,

and so today I need us to go backwards, to

go forward, to be able to build our relationships right.

And if you build your relationships right, that means you

build it healthy. And if you build it healthy, it

then becomes the breeding ground for everything in your life

to prosper.

And I want you to win in relationships.

So when I start started thinking about all the broken

places in my life. I realized that they was mostly

broken before Natalie. They got exposed with her, Oh God,

but they were broken before her.

Please do not mistake.

The place where you find out as the place.

That it happened. Oh God.

Just because that job exposed that you're mean, doesn't mean

you started being mean there.

Just because that.

Relationship exposed that you go to things that aren't good

to make yourself feel better. Don't think the relationship did

it to you. You gotta find the root, because what

happened is the fruit.

Me going off. That's the fruit.

Me going to figure out to talk to somebody else,

that's the fruit.

Me trying to numb the pain. That's the fruit.

But I want you to figure out where the root

of the problem is because until we pull the root,

any real gardener knows you can cut it down with

a lawnmower.

But it's gonna do what grow right back up.

Until you go down to the root of the relational pain,

you dig a little deeper, and you pull that thing up,

it will always be just on the brink of breaking

through in.

Your life again.

But I believe, by the power of the Holy Spirit,

that there are some people in this place that are

about to go to the relational root in this series

and some of the insecurities and the pains and the burden.

I need somebody to believe this right now that have

been keeping you sick and toxic for years. Somebody say

it's coming up. And as I realized that there were

things that were broken in me before I got with

my person, I started to study the word and in

the OG series of relationship Goals, I did this whole

talk about before the person, and I'm gonna give you

a crash course on it right now, and you need

to go study it later. But let me give you

six things that God gives you before he gives you

a person.

Okay, so everybody write these down.

Real quick, before God gives you a person.

This is what He gave Adam before Eve.

He gave Adam his presence, He gave them a place

to be, he gave them provision, he gave personality, he

gave purpose, and he gave parameters. That's all before he

gave Adam a person. And this is what I need

everybody to recognize, especially my people who are single right now.

Adam was full of purpose before he met Eve. Does

everybody hear what I'm saying right now. Adam was not

waiting on Eve to get started on what God had

called him to do. And some of y'all have been

waiting when I get my person, because I know I'm

supposed to start a Mariag's ministry. Start a singles one first,

and start working on yourself and become who God's created

you to be. Why are you saying this? Write this down.

If you are waiting for a plus one to step

into purpose, you're playing yourself.

The purpose can happen with you.

They should be added to what God has already doing.

Don't wait to start running till they get there. Start

running and let them catch up. Oh y'all, don't hear me.

Some of y'all gotta understand. Y'all are slowing down to

wait for somebody who never was gonna run the race anyway.

Oh God, the reason why.

There's so many options is because you're in the stand

and you're supposed to be on the track.

Okay, let me stop.

Some of y'all have to start running after God, running

after purpose, do the thing, open the business, buy the house.

Oh God, Well, I just wanted to make sure.

You know, because two incomes, and I watched this YouTube

video on how you know double incomes.

And and God can bless you.

He can supply you with everything that you y'all don't

hear what I'm saying.

Some of y'all have.

Put off the blessing waiting for him, waiting for her,

and God says, I can do it through you.

I'm the God of everything. What if you're the.

Blessing that they need when they get to your situation.

Somebody says, start now.

If you're not spending time in His presence, if you

haven't found the place that God has called you to

be in, if you're not seeing provision in the space

that God has called you to, if you don't recognize

and love your personality and who God's created you to be,

if you don't walk in purpose, and if you don't

have boundaries or parameters, please stop praying for the person

because all they gonna do is complicate this. I can't

even go I'm gonna have to do a whole dating,

like a whole dating sermon on this thing, because this

is what I need everybody to understand. If you're single,

it's not a punishment.

This ain't my.

Message today, but some of y'all have been calling preparation

a punishment. Some of you have been so discrens in

the season or so checked out of what God is

trying to do to prepare you that you are now

not even wanting or desiring what He.

Still has for you.

Today, I want to let you know that God wants

you to win in relationship.

Okay for somebody get to the point. So if we're

in this series.

And we're talking about relationships, I need you to stop

believing the lies about relationships because what ends up happening

is you have so many people telling you things that

you don't know what is the truth. Many people are

information fatigued. You think everything is on the same level

because it's coming to you, but every source is not credible.

When people with no kids start giving parenting advice, it's

like child goes sit down somewhere with your dumb self.

You don't know nothing. Do you understand what I'm saying?

And I was one of them, I'd be like, if

you have kids, and.

Da da da dah, and my people would be looking

at me like and now I get it, because pride,

what have you thinking? You could tell somebody who actually

does it. It's like broke people telling people what to

do with money.

It's like, you're just asking me for fifty dollars. How

do you know what I'm supposed to invest in. What

I'm saying is I have to every week bring.

Back the fact that this has to be the standard

for how we're going to build relationships. It is not

the balloon popping on Instagram, YouTube and TikTok. It is

not your favorite social media. It is the word of God.

Why are you saying that because he's the manufacturer? You

cannot get right instructions from a person who did not

create the actual thing. People have experiences with it, but

it doesn't mean they know how it was intend to work.

And for the next five weeks, we're only consulting with

God on what he says about relationships. Can I get

one big a man? Can I get one big a man?

So watch this.

The reason this is important I'm just trying to systematically

teach you is because culture is a department store full

of dupes. Y'all know what the doupe is, right, something

that's counterfeit.

Somebody said, right here is right here? The bag I

walked in like.

Anybody, Okay, anybody have been duped before and actually thought

they were buying the real thing, thought they were participating

in the real thing, thought somebody really loved you and

liked you, but all they.

Wanted was the thing that they wonted. Guess what you were?

You were duped and culture will continue to sell you

these lies about relationship that actually will have you out

here thinking you got the real thing, and it is

all counterfeit, fake And there are too many people that

I see that are being fooled by the fake.

This is why God's word is so important.

Quick question, Is there anybody in here that has been

recently engaged, like recently got engaged?

Is there anybody in here recently engaged? Who do I see?

Somebody hands? Hey? How long y'all been engaged? You confused?

Two months?

Y'all planning and get married soon? Or is it Thursday?

Tuesday? Hey, this is a relationship goes in real life.

You gotta ring, sweetheart. Okay, are you fine with me

coming to test and see if it's real? I have

a diamond tester right here.

Look at him, he said, come to keep big doll. Okay,

we gonna see, we gonna see, we gonna see.

Anybody else want me to test the ring as I'm here?

Hold on, no, no, no, no, let me see your great

big mama gave it to you. Let's see if it's real.

Hey, y'all, is what you got? You got? Is that? What?

What's your name? J? C? And Sebastian. Now I don't

have to do this. That man said I.

Worked too hard.

You got people to call if it's not huh.

All right, So red means real, green means fake. All right.

I don't know if this is a smart decision. No,

all right, let's try it.

Okay, I gotta take the cap off. Let make sure

I'm working this right. No, it's not gonna hurt. Hold on,

hold on, lord?

Is this? Oh? Hold on? This going green? Hold on?

Let me hold on, let me hold it. It's rad Jah,

It's rad Oh gone, thank you.

Where y'all going for your honeymoon? Where y'all going for

your honeymoon? Y'all gonna be here. I'm gonna give you

a thousand dollars for a honeymoon here in the city.

All right, make sure they get that after service. All right?

Who else is ring I'm testing it here? Who's ringing

about testing huh.

You don't want to test it? Hold on, why are

you holding his hand?

Here?

You're who else? Somebody said, my my diamond ear rings.

See see, I need everybody to understand something real quick.

Everything what you want you? You want to see it?

Over there?

What is? It's a ring?

No?

I feel the spirit of delusion over there. I don't

m m hmm. The Holy Spirit stopped me right there,

he said, don't do it. Huh. I'm trying.

I'm trying to give you a point that everything seems

real until it's tested. What culture, what culture is selling

seems real until it's tested. Polygamy seems real until it's tested.

And I wanted to tell you that, by God's word,

it's a dupe. And I'm telling you that God's coming

to test people's relationships. And why they're falling apart is

because they weren't built on a solid foundation. Christ is

my firm foundation, the rock on which I stand when

everything else around me is shaken. Never been more glad.

Why because I put my faith in Jesus. Hear me

say this to you. Culture always sells a counterfeit of

what Christ created. It cannot be a counterfeit if there's

not a real thing. So the reason why marriage is

supposed to be the goal is because that's what the

manufacturer invented. Everything else is a copy of a copy.

And so what I need you to know is the

fact that there's a copy proves.

That the real thing is valuable.

There has never been a lowie bag made that was

not already made.

By the manufacturer.

They're copying at a cheaper value what actually does have value.

So the very proof of counterfeit relationships means the real thing.

Is out there. And this is why, Oh, I feel

the presence of God. And this is why, as people.

Of God, we have to understand what God says about

our relationships about me being brother to brother and sister,

the sister and worker, the coworker and manager, the coworker

and father to son and mother to daughter.

I gotta figure out how to do those right in

real life. Okay, So.

The reason why people always settle for the copy is

they don't want to pay the cost.

So, so a healthy relationship is gonna cost you. I'm

just trying to give y'all some We only in week two, y'all.

I saw how your.

Face looked last week, and I was like, I don't

think they can take another one like that. I got

to come up for a second just to give you

some handles to be able to understand. Listen, a real

healthy relationship is gonna cost you your pride. Yeah, a

real healthy relationship is gonna cost you going first, I'll

apologize when they apologize.

Well, I apologize when they apologize.

You say something, You say something, if you say something,

and I'll say the thing that I.

Need to say. If you say so, someone get all

sort of thing you need to say. And it's just

a cycle of people that are hurting other people.

A real healthy relationship watch this. It's going to cost

you time.

Yeah, I can't tell you. There has not been one

time that my wife says can I talk to you?

That it's a good time.

I mean, I be on my way out, I'm already

late for a meeting, I got a date, and she.

Like, can I talk to you?

I'm like yes, And you know it, it's can I

talk to you? That is not a one sentence, sir.

It starts something like this.

While I was thinking, oh no, some of you have

not seen the relationship you want because you won't give

it the time You give Netflix, you will sit down

and watch an unrated movie for an hour and a

half easy, get to the end of it and say

that was that was stupid and not think it about

it ever again. And if somebody wants to talk to

you for thirty minutes face to face, sit down on

the table without technical.

Devices, being counselor and talk.

Your kids want to talk to you, not on the

rush into somewhere, but just just listen to what I'm saying.

I know that seems disrespectful to you, but listen to me.

When your kids are begging you to listen to them.

You won't even know.

I ain't nobody gonna distance, make me up in my house,

and I'll probably give you.

Some probabut and you do all of that. You didn't

even hear me.

I'm trying to tell you something about me that I'll

never tell you again.

The relational wound starts, the crack forms, and.

Today I just I gotta address a counterfeit that I'm

seeing in culture that I just need to correct real quick.

As we move in this series, I have to correct

the idea that culture.

Is selling us about how love is supposed to feel.

One Corinthians thirteen gives us clearly how love is supposed

to feel. But actually we've been sold this idea that

love is exhilarating and euphoric and all consuming and almost hypnotic,

and it's a fantasy of uninterrupted bliss, and it's pleasure and.

Enjoyment all the time.

It's insatiable, and that's a lie.

Love is none of those things.

And what ends up happening is everybody is selling this

idea that the most fulfilling love is the love that's

just whimsical and free and just free flowing and just

going the way that I don't know what interpretive dance

I'm doing right now, but it's this idea of being

drunk in love. Matter of fact, that's what I'm a

title today's sermon, drunk in love. Every time I see him,

and every time he says something, and every time she

walks in, and every time she says daddy, y'all hear

what I'm talking about, every time I smell, oh my god,

just BRADYO cologne on me.

And as I was thinking about that drunk in love,

I've been thinking. I've been thinking.

Nobody listen makes wise decisions when they're inebriated. You will

not make wise relationship decisions.

When you are intoxicated.

And I thought about this that a lot of times

people are making bad relational decisions because they're running from

something that they didn't have in their foundation, and so

they don't want to feel so they start doing things

that they know are uncharacteristic and they wouldn't even tell

their kids to do. But because it's in the moment

of how I feel, then I start going with it.

And I get inebriated by the feeling and the idea,

and I'm doing stuff I would never do, and you

make me feel so alive.

Drunk. And so I went and got these drunk glasses.

I don't know if you've ever seen these before, but

these are supposed to imitate what it looks like for

somebody to be intoxicated, and I haven't really seen.

Oh shoot.

But the crazy thing is, I'm gonna try to preach

the rest of my message. Oh Jesus, I'm gonna try

to reach the rest of my message.

This there's wow.

This place just turned into Madison Square Garden.

Am I going the right way? Hold on?

Wait?

Am I going the right way?

Because to me, it looks right, and to me, it

feels right. How I'm handling this relationship feels right.

And I have five hands, all right.

What y'all don't understand is I feel something here, but

it looks like it's over there.

Right now, I'm in danger.

Because what I think I'm seeing and experiencing is not

the real thing.

Let me that was way closer than I thought it

was gonna be.

I can't read one of these. You think maybe I

should take them off? Maybe you should take that relationship off.

I feel like I look good.

I feel like this is how I been, and nobody's

come to save me yet. I feel like the last

time I tried to be honest with somebody. Today, I'm

asking you to take them off, to take off the

illusion of what your relationship is creating for you. Passor

Charles can be real fast, because the crazy thing about

it is I was getting dizzy and I didn't think

that this was going to be good. But I want

you to just stand right there, walk in a straight line,

just straight to me, simple, go back, put these on.

Now, walk to me. Stop. Do you see how.

Much more cautious he has to be, how.

Slow his movements are come on.

Just walk to me now now I want you to see, boy,

you look crazy.

What should be easy.

Has now become difficult because I'm intoxicated by the idea

of love instead of what love is in real.

Love is patient, love is kind.

Love does not watch this one keep any record of wrong?

How many of y'all.

Have a parole list for the person you say you're

in love with? You know the date, the time, the hour,

what they was wearing.

Is it love?

The reason I'm showing you this is because I think

some of us have been making bad decisions relationally, because

we've been intoxicated with the idea of love.

He's still back there looking stupid, but relationally, when you

bring that God to Thanksgiving, so do you. Summer's coming

and some.

Of y'all gonna look just like this, Spring breaks on

the way, and some of y'all gonna look just like this,

and nobody's even expecting it to you because you and

dms and secret chats and people don't even know, and

you got your stuff on Vanish and you sending notes

at the office and.

You're doing all that. You look dumb because you.

I'm sorry, Charles, Thank you for using Thank you and

that's what I'm believing. God's gonna make the scales fall

off of your eyes. Yep, I'm believing by the end

of this series something is coming off.

And you're throwing away bow there it is.

I'm just trying to let you know scales are falling off.

In the name of Jesus, I believe that scales are

falling off your eyes relationally, and y'all need.

To believe it right now.

Scales are falling off my life.

I will not be confused. I will not be in

delusion about what the relationship actually is.

There are too many people that are relationally under the influence.

And Pastor Mike, and.

I just hear, I hear my older saints being like,

what can he teach me about this? And I know,

I know, I know, But these have been areas that

nobody has talked about in so long that you haven't

even started to think my marriage after fifty years could

get better.

Do y'all?

Do y'all hear what I'm saying, Like, y'all just exist together.

Y'all a great business partner, the kids are happy.

Like you do your thing, I do my thing, and

we come together and we play gravel together like you

got to. But what if what if the most passionate

days of your life.

Could be literally at the point of you actually get

healed in your soul. So instead of watch this being

drunk in love, what if you became sober in your soul.

What if you were sober in your mind, your will

and emotions that every time you made a relational decisions

like no, I can't No, actually I really like you,

but I cannot connect with you like that. And you

don't got to tell them all of this, but you

are like I see traits of toxicity in the area of.

Telling the truth. And I know my past. I used

to be a liar, So.

If I'm around somebody with those tendencies, it makes me

feel better to go back into those tendencies.

And so no, bro, it's all good man. We're gonna

have to pass on that.

And that might be passing on money, and that might

be passing on connection. But what you did was value

your soul over the bad. And I want you to

hear me say this. Your soul health is more important

them material wealth. When's the last time you made the

right decision for your soul and not your salary? What

does it profit a man to gain.

The whole world and lose his soul. All I'm trying

to do is be hot, y'all. Matter of fact.

Let me be real hot, because I'll be up here

just telling it. I honestly just to make a confession.

I've never been drunk before, like never in my whole life.

Page said, Wow, I know you thought because I was

wild and stuff, I'll turn up with you. But that's

just sprite, like I don't need. I'm a high on

life yet, never been drunk before in my life. I

just like celeush, she's better. But what ends up happening

is I have been intoxicated. See I've never been drunk

on a drink, but I have been intoxicated with insecure.

And I've been lit on lust. Oh come on, I've

been faded with fear now.

I know everybody not admit it, but I've been intoxicated before.

I've been tipsy on temptation and wasted with.

My own wants. I have been.

Gone on greed. You gone, padrone. I've been gone on greed,

doing whatever I had to do to feel that place

in my soul that told me if I had more, if.

There was more in the bank account.

If I could be able to do more, then I

would somehow be more. And God says, you're everything I've

called you to be. We just got to uncover it now.

And when you get love wrong, it messes up all

your relationships. And when you get relationship wrong, it shrinks

the quality of you.

Oh God, some of.

You feel like your life sucks. It's not because it does.

It's because your relationships do. I meet people and be like,

you live in.

Tulsa, Tulsa, Oklaha, Alma? What do y'all have? Cars?

There is it cows just going down the street.

I'm like, man, y'all are whacked and under exposed.

But this is the thing is any place is a

good place with the right people. The reason why you

want to move is because your relationships are bad and

you think a new location will produce new relationship At.

My man, ain't in Tulsa.

You don't know that.

You haven't met every man in Tulsa and you don't

go nowhere.

Okay, let me stop, because I'm gonna have to do

a whole You hang out with your girls all the time.

He can it finds you because you're covered up by

all your gan and go somewhere looking nice by yourself. Period.

I'm just trying. I'm just trying to I'm trying to

help you because your life is better. Watch this where

your relationships are better, and some of us have been

so closed off. That's why I'm telling you right now

you need to be sober in your soul. This is

new language to add to your prayer. Father, make me

sober in my soul. Father, God, I'm emotional right now,

but make me sober in my soul. I need to

make this decision, not by being swayed by them or

dad or mom or dad or family or friends. Make

me sober in my soul. Let me give you a

bible for it first, Thessalonians, Chapter five, verse five. So

then let us not be like others who are asleep,

but let let us be awake and sober.

Wake up after you get drunk, for real, What do

you have to do? Go to sleep? That's the first

thing y'all got to do. Go to sleep. I gotta

sleep this off, and you sleep it off. And then

the next thing you have to do is what wake up?

Wake up?

Another way you can say it, grow up. When I

was a child, I acted like a child. I reasoned

like a child. I did things like a child. I

went and got drunk before I had to take a test.

I did dumb stuff.

But when I got older, when I woke.

Up, when I grew when I growed up, I put

those childish things away. It says, wake up and get sober.

For those who sleep watch this sleep at night, and

those who get drunk guess when they get drunk too

at night. But since we belong to the day, or

the light or the sun is coming, let us be sober,

putting on faith and love as a breastplate and the

hope of salvation as a helmet.

Wake up and get sober in your soul.

Because I've said it before, but I want you to

get it in your heart. Soul health is more valuable

than material wealth. You may have been intoxicated by love,

but I believe by at the end of this series,

you're going to be sober in your soul. You know

what can happen when you're sober in your soul. You

can apologize. It's very hard to apologize when you're intoxicated.

When you're intoxicated on pride, you can't say my bad

what I said was true, but the tone that I

came with you didn't deserve that. That was me and

I got to work on that. I got to go

back and get some better language. Do you know some

of y'all could have a better relationship this week if

you just said sorry.

Say sorry to your kids. You broke your promise to.

Them, But they didn't know all I have to do

to be able to get them.

They're not supposed to their kids. You're the parent. They

didn't choose to come here.

You chose to have them though, So just hey, I

know I told you that we were gonna be able

to spend this time. I'm not making any excuses. I

want to say I'm sorry. I want you to believe

my word. You mean the world to me. And next time,

I'm gonna make a promise or I'm gonna amend it

before the time so that you can have a proper expectation.

I love you. Y'all want to come to the altar

and they can't care ski damn it this so harda.

You want to get intoxicated with emotions, you want to cry,

And what I'm saying is when that's all done, sober up,

wake up, and you gotta go do the hard work.

Okay, here we go. So so I'm gonna I'm gonna

just lay.

That foundation one more time so you can get a

picture in your mind that I hope you never forget.

There are four foundational things that every person needs.

To build healthy relationships.

This theory was taught to me and my wife by

our counselors Acoustics who literally have over the last five

years helped me and Natalie through God's word and through

therapy and theology transformed our life. And I believe part

of the reason He has taken us through this process

is so that we could give it away to the

Body of Christ in a way that allows you to

be able to understand it and apply to your life.

He doesn't want this to be ethereal.

He wants you to be healed in real life. So

I told everybody last week these are the foundations for

any set successful relationship.

The first thing you have to do is be seen.

Say it with me. You have to be and if

you are going to have any type.

Of real stability, you have to feel safe. And if

you have pains in your life, because this life is

full of pain, somebody needs to come and care for you.

Somebody needs to tell you it's gonna be all right.

You have to be soothed. And when you.

Get proper relationship attachments, that means the connections are secure.

People don't just come in and out. People don't just

tell you one thing and leave you high and dry.

Then you will be able to be secure. Which one

of these do you not have? Or let me frame

it a different way. Which one did you not get?

Because the truth of the matter is you couldn't supply

yourself with this. You got introduced to this through the

parental structure.

That you were given. And I just want to let

you know the enemy's plan.

That's why I got to talk about marriage and the family,

because at the end of the day that God wants

you to feel seen and soothed, which usually are nurturing

capacities that come.

For the mother.

And so what ends up happening is many times as

the enemy tries to attack fathers in the household, he

tries to take security out and safety out and tries

to make you now build a life just being soothed

and seen. But because that mama is bitter now and

she can't even stand to see you because you look

like your daddy, and you get reminded, and she still

got to drop him off. Now she don't have no

time for you, so she don't soothe you. Ain't got

time for all that we're struggling over here.

Happy birthday to you.

This is real life, I see.

And the only time you get seen is when you

do your makeup.

Girl, that's cute, when you put your clothes together, when

you joined the palm squad, when you were good at volleyball,

when you started performing.

So you're trying to feel.

The love gap that you have, oh God, with just

being seen. So now you can't go out the house

and looking regular, because the only way I get loved,

the only way I get seen, the only way somebody

notices me is if I'm better than everybody else. And

now I got to compare myself to people, and now

my literal attachments are jacked. That jocked up because of

what I didn't get. Or maybe you.

Have that parent that never let you. They soothed you.

No no, no, no no no, don't let them go

through anything. They only soothed you. Mama boy.

I'm just saying right now, you can't go through any

hard things because anytime there was something, all you got

was soothed and what you needed to be as well.

It's secure to know.

Yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, we fell off the bike, but

we're secure enough to get back on it.

It hurt, but we gotta figure out how to ride

this bike.

And because you didn't get this now, when somebody challenges you,

when somebody doesn't come and coddle you every time that

you it is quiet in this church today. All I'm

saying is I don't know what it is for you,

but I need everybody to start evaluating what did you

get and what didn't you get? And let me take

it up for all the parents. What are you giving

and what are you not giving? Yeah? I know you

had the kids, but do you see them.

Do they feel soothed? Are they secure? Are they safe?

Why are you saying this, pastor Mike, Because they're forming

their relationship identity right now. The reason that you got

to heal this stuff and get relationship goals in real

life is because what.

Is not transformed is transferred, Pastor Mike.

What is it supposed to look like? Well, let me

give you the way it's supposed to look like. If

you actually are seen and soothed, you start to get assertive.

You can have an opinion at a young age. You

can actually say what you want without getting beat Eat

all that food. I'm full.

The dysfunction of poverty in your mind is now making

me overeat because you see me leaving something on the

plate as a disrespect to your hard work.

But it actually is a boundary of what my body needs.

And if you now tell me I can't get up

until I eat all of it, I am now forming

ideas that I have to do everything they say. I

shouldn't have an opinion. I shouldn't tell people when I'm

actually hurting. I shouldn't tell people how I actually feel.

I shouldn't be able to speak up because every time

I do, I get put back in my place. They

don't see me, they're not trying to help me in

this moment.

And so now, how do you end up in an

abusive relationship? I can't tell you that's too hard. I

don't like that. Don't talk to me like that. There's

no boundaries. Oh my god.

But if you do it right and somebody sees you,

then you can say this and it doesn't threaten the relationship. Yesterday,

somebody invited my kids to a birthday party, and I

just assumed both of my big girls wanted to go

to the birthday party. So I told the person that

and they came over to pick the kids up. And

then right when I was like I was like, bella

such and such as coming over to pick you up

for the birthday party, and.

She was like, I don't want to go.

And there was something in me was like, you don't

want to, but I had enough emotional intelligence at the

time to be like, baby, you good. Instead of telling

her that she had to go, I asked her what's

going on, because usually she would want to go and

I could have pressured her and all this stuff. And

I was like, no, no, no, you don't want to go.

She's like, I just want to stay home. I just

want to be here with you guys. And at that moment,

the Holy Spirit was let her stay home.

She just was assertive and said what she wants. This

doesn't hurt.

Anything, because I want her to have a voice. So

when your nappyhead little boy come up and try to

talk to let me stop.

If you do it right, I'm still a father. Pray

for me.

If you do it right, If you are seeing Sue

secure and safe, then you become confident you like you'll

learn stuff because I'm secure, Like I'll learn how to

do something else because I'm Sue. I don't have to

try to be to be what you think I am.

I can actually be proficient in something you don't know

nothing about. Your relational partner should be smarter than you

at stuff. Oh my gosh, they don't want to hear

that I'm the man of the house. Boy, two are

better than one. If it's two of you, we lose.

There are stuff that Natalie can do, and she is

more competent in and I don't make her feel less.

Stand I don't shoot.

All these dudes like my wife can't make more to me,

Make more to me, Make more to me, Please make

more to me.

Natalie is looking for makeup contracts right now. She's like, no,

I'm the front, But Glorie l Finty, whoever.

Make more than me? Why? Why are we? Oh? But

if you're not secure.

As a man, the zeros make you be threatened by

their competence. Oh my god, y'all, I'm preaching up here

right now. This is why you can't stand.

Her doing what she's doing or he doing what she's.

Doing, because it doesn't make you feel worthy. In more so,

you would rather keep your partner at a lower level,

which keeps y'all at a lower level, than to build.

Both of you. Oh God, And if it's done right,

healthy relationships.

We're talking about healthy say healthy relationships. This should be

every person that when you now are assertive.

And competent, now you can start working on purpose.

And when I find my purpose and I find purposes,

because I believe your purpose can continue to evolve, I

will always be the pastor of this church. This is

part of my purpose right now. But because I am safe,

and I'm secure, and I'm soothed and I'm seen, there

are certain things that I can start exploring without thinking.

Are they gonna leave me? Are they gonna abandon me?

Are they gonna be threatened by me? Can I ask

them a question?

Can I disagree?

Can I be an individual and still be connected to you?

Do you know how many people are in relationships that

don't actually all the.

Way show up? There are so many people under the sound.

Of my voice right now that are in relationships where

they think they know all of the person. And you

probably know fifteen to twenty percent of them because their

foundation was not secure. They don't feel able to be

assertive enough to say no, I don't want to go there,

or I don't want to go there anymore. Well, we

used to go there all the time, and this used

to always fund your boat.

I don't like it anymore. At some point we stopped.

Me and Natalie used to go to Cheddars every week,

three times a week, because you can eat two whole

meals at Cheddars for thirty two dollars. We would go

Cheddars and get that spinach dip and the croissants. And

that's why I was up here big, because I ate

all the croissants. And at some point what used to

be very familiar were just like, I don't want to

go there anymore.

That's okay if you have healthy connections.

And if you build it right, watch this, I get

to become Watch this me.

Everybody's just trying to be themselves, and.

The places where you have the healthiest relationships is where

you can show up as all of you.

The reason that there are certain people that get to

see all of me is because I feel say, secure,

soothed and seen. If I don't feel that around you.

You don't get me. You get a piece of me,

of a sliver of me.

Come on, and when you find me yourself, guess what

gets formed? And this is what most people are missing.

Identity. Oh I'm cooking.

The reason why a post or a meme can change

your whole life view is because something was cut out

down here and you're trying to form your identity based

on somebody else.

Most people are starting with this. This is just who

I am because.

I had nobody to make me feel safe, seen, secure,

or soothed.

So I'm gonna make who I want to be. This

is my identity.

I am a puppy.

Real right root here, my.

Right rot.

My pronouns are pupp puppy.

Because I wasn't.

Safe, secure, soothed, or so I'm gonna make it up.

Y'all didn't give it to me.

I am the archbishop prophet to the nations. You just

made up a title on Facebook and asking people to

send you seventeen dollars and seventy two cents. You made

it up because the people in those church, in that

church you grew up in, they didn't make you feel safe.

He was abusing you.

In the back, and you weren't secure, and you weren't soothed,

and you weren't seen, so you went to Facebook and

made it up.

You can't build nothing on this.

If your identity starts with your idea.

You can't build nothing on this.

Reading too it as deep as you want to, but

if you're the originator of it.

It's gonna crumble.

But if you build it on the solid foundation, then

you get identity. And gus what happens when identity is

just me me?

Then I find you. Now I know if we are.

A soul match, because I don't need a soul mate.

The only one that is the mate from my soul

is God. But I do need somebody that matches me

on this level. Somebody say, get on my level, Get

on my level, get up. I'm still getting the only

way that I know if they're on my level, if

we are built the same, not physically but in our soul.

So I've done the hard work to not even be

perfect in these But no, I'm self aware. Hey, I

have a problem with attachment. So you're gonna say you're

gonna go with your boys, and I'm gonna think automatically,

you're cheating on me.

Do you see?

So I need you to reinforce to me that you'll

never leave me, that you're actually for me, because when

I was young, my dad wasn't there, or he.

Made promises, or he cheated on my mom or he said.

And so I know that I have an unhealthy attachment

when it comes to security.

So I'm telling you this because.

Sometimes when I'm talking it's not what I really want

to do.

But I'm still working out how to heal.

The part of me that doesn't trust what you are saying.

And I see the pictures and I see the hoops,

and I see you at the thing because I do

have your location on. But having a location on it's

not really about you. It's about the security that I

didn't get and the security that I need. Do you

see how you could actually move forward in health without understanding?

But without it is just what you hiding?

WHOA, I'm just going to hope that's what they call

it now, hooping scoring I'm just trying to give you

how quickly a need watch this can turn into a battle. Wow.

They're actually trying to tell you what they need. But

because they are watched this, either unaware or unwilling, they

turn their legitimate need into an unwarranted battle. All right,

I'm done, y'all have had enough for today. Woe this

When it becomes the right of your life, this is

when it becomes so good. This is when you're able

to go in every area of your life and be.

Like, WHOA, I love it.

That's what it's supposed to feel like when it's built right.

And for those who are divorced or second time single

or trying to figure it out without this, you end

up building something that is compromised. And then guess what

we try to do. We try to raise kids on that.

And so.

If we put our kids on top of this, this

is the family I believe for. This is what I

pray for. But the truth of the matter is I've

never felt secure, and I don't really feel safe with you.

Do you know the thing that's moving right now because

you were never seen. There's somebody else's.

Life that is affected.

By you getting the foundation of your life in relational order. Today,

I'm asking every person under the sound of my voice

every time, how many of your children are just barely

holding on?

And for some of us, it's never even been built

to this place. So what they're doing is looking at

your example.

That didn't work at all, And then they're saying, you

know what, just build it all about you. This is

your life. Don't care about nobody else. Get your degree,

get your money, do all this other stuff.

I didn't have none of it. You ain't gonna have

none of it, and we just gonna.

There's not even room for anybody else here. This is

why we don't witness to anybody. That's why we can't

care for our brother this is why we can't embrace

other ethnicities.

This is why we can't.

It's because our relational foundation was only built big enough

for one. But if God's word tells us the only

way that the world will know that your mind is

for your love for one another, he's saying, we got

to go back to the basics, and we gotta be

sober in our soul.

So pasta, Mike, what do you want me to do?

I want you to start with you very simple. I'm

just gonna say them so that you can write them down.

These are the things that you need, you need to

take you out of it. Where's this one you you

need to take you out of it? Well, I don't

do counselor take you out of it. Well, it is

a waste of time. There's a waste of money. Take

you out of it.

Mm hmm.

We ain't starting with you. You don't know what you need.

You have no clue you wore that outfit to that

we can see.

No, I'm just here it is. Let's go back to

the basics, because if.

God is not enough, no person ever will be. Did

you hear what I just said to you? This is

the truth. You have to believe. I'm seen by God.

I'm secure with God. God cares for me, so he'll

soothe my dang and I'm safe with him cause I mike,

no person can heal this in you. God is the

only one can meet this need. Your parents watch this.

We're supposed to reflect it, but they weren't the originator

of the image.

Oh God, Oh God. So if you didn't even get

it from.

Your parents, and they're gone, or they're stubborn, or they

don't want to work, or they.

Don't it's okay. God says, I'll be the father to

the fatherless.

I set keep and who are out of family, I

set them into families. The spirit of adoption is here.

Come on home. Who I feel the presence of God.

And some of you, my brothers and sisters, are about

to come home, and you're gonna hear our Father say

I see you.

How make you feel safe?

I'll care for you and soothe the pain, and you

can be safe with me and secure with me. Four

things a sober soul believes. Number One, I am seen

by God. If your soul is gonna be sober, you

need to know I am seen by God. Somebody say it,

I am seen by God. In Genesis sixteen thirteen, we

are introduced to.

A name of God.

It's el Roy el Roy, and Hagar says this, And

some of y'all know who Hagar is. Hagar is the mistress,

the slave woman that Abraham and Sarah pulled into the

equation when they didn't want to wait on God.

So they didn't want to wait on God, so they said, well,

we might.

As well do a plan on our own. And they

have a baby named Ishmael. But then Sarah gets mad

because this.

Girl ain't gonna be in my house.

You're like, you invited me here, And it was a

whole real Housewives of the Desert. I don't even know

where they was at going crazy. And you can read

it in Genesis sixteen that Hagar is crying out to

God because she was not seen by the very people

who were supposed to take care of her.

You used me for.

What I could produce, and you threw me away. And

God begins to prophetically speak to her and say, I'm

gonna bless you. I'm gonna make Hagar actually prosper. He

gonna be wild, but he's gonna be able. And she

goes through all this stuff. And because God saw her

in the middle of her depression, her loneliness, the heartache,

the heart break, the isolation, this is what she says.

You are, Elroy or God who sees me.

I came to tell somebody right now. You may have

not been seen by.

Your earthly mother or your earthly father.

You may not have been seen by that coworker or

that manager or that pastor. But today, Elroy, God who

sees is telling you I see you. Four things A

sober soul believes I am seen by God. Second one,

I am safe with God.

Proverbs eighteen ten. The name of the Lord is a

strong tower. The righteous run into it, and they.

Are what say, you've been running to everything else. Jesus,

I need you in this sit you run to one.

The third truth a sober soul believes. If God soothes.

My pain, I don't got to keep running to that

and him and her and accolades and followers and upgrades.

I don't have to run to that. God is the

one who soothes my pain. Matthew eleven twenty eight. Come

to me all who are weary, and I will give

you rest for your soul.

And the last truth a sober soul believes is I

am secure in God Romans eight thirty eight.

And there will be nothing that will be able to

separate us from the love of God. Can you think

about like there's nothing my kids can do to not

be my kids?

That's what God's saying to you.

Throw a temper dantrum, walk away from me, do your

own thing. When you get hurt, come on back. I'll

be the one to soothe you. And today I'm just

letting you know God wants to meet your relationship goals

needs so that all your other relationships can be built

off of a sure, secure foundation.

Standing up all over this place.

Today, I want to pray with anyone that knows that

they need to be sober in their soul that there

are areas that you may have missed and it's hard

to build on the foundation. That's not sure today before

everybody leaves, we will be gone in three minutes. But

I think God wants to do a rest storation work

on you today. My wife has an old school car

and it's been restored. That means there were things that

were created that could go into the car now that

weren't invented when it was made, So the car is

not just back to how it was.

It's better.

What if God said, I know you missed it, but

I'm the God that can make you. Somebody should shout

just for the possibility. Like what if God said, I

know he wasn't there, and I know they didn't have

the bandwidth to give you that, and I know that

wasn't a part of the cards for you.

Tragedy struck. Your grandma raised you.

You had an aunt that took care of you, found

out there was family secrets and your aunt really is

your mom or your I mean, guys, we live in

a falling world. You are adopted or if you don't

even know, you've been fending for yourself since.

You were whatever it is what if God says.

I'm the one that will restore the years that the

enemy has stolen from you. Today, if you know you

want to be sober and your soul, would you lift

your hands. I'm just gonna pray a prayer over you.

Father in the name of Jesus. We need your hand

to touch our souls. Father God, we want to be transformed.

But this is tender. This is stuff we ain't never

even thought about, Father God and talked about, and we

need you to do a work on the inside of us,

Father God that allows us to.

Know that we are seen by you, that we are safe.

In you, that we can be soothed and cared for

with you, Father, and that we are secure and there's

nothing that can break our relationship.

Today, Father God.

Would you give us the relational restoration that we need.

Come on right there, Father, everything I didn't receive from

an earthly parent or.

An earthly caregiver.

Father God, today I thank you everything I didn't receive

in my first marriage or my relationship. Today, God, I'm

asking you, wow, feel in every hole in my soul,

Jesus in the name of Jesus, I feel that, Father,

feel in every hole in my soul, every vacancy, every cavern,

every place, Father God, where I've been trying to perform,

to receive what you give freely in the name of Jesus.

Feel every hole that is in my mind, will and emotions.

Today I declare restoration. It is why you came, Jesus,

to seek and save those who were lost. Do the

work that no man can do. Who I feel the

presence of God in this place, y'all, and we surrender.

So take my heart and mold it. Take my mind

and transform. This is your prayer, and take my way.

Conform it said to yours. Come on, would you just

lift your hands. We're about to leave, but just tell God, take.

My heart and mold.

And take my mind.

Transform. I want to be more like you. Take my whill.

And conform, sid to yours. Two yours, Oh.

Lord, just one more time.

Lift your hands real, Sid, Take my heart hand molded, Sid,

take my mind, change me God, transforming, and take my whell.

I feel your presence, God said to yours, touious.

If you were in this room and you've never accepted Jesus,

this is the first step to get in your relational

foundation restored.

Because your soulmate is God, so he.

Sent Jesus so you and him could get back in

right relationship with no pastor, no priests, no prophet, just

you and him and all you got to do.

According to Romans ten and nine.

Is confessed that he is God, and he died on

the cross from you, and you will be saved. Now

the rest of it, he's gonna help you with He's

the only one. If you give him your heart, he'll

help you change your habits. And that's good news for

us because if we could do it on our own,

we would have already done it. But today, the Savior,

our friend, our father, wants relationship goes with you. So

whether you're in this room, or you're watching online, or

you're watching from a jail cell, today is the day

of salvation. And I'm telling you the reason this is

so important to me is because the thing that took

me from being a liar, a manipulator, addicted to pornography

and put me in a place to be in relationship

with God so that I could become a progressing man,

not a perfect one. And today I stand before you

saying this is the greatest one decision I've ever made

to put.

My life in the hands of the one.

Who manufactured me, the Creator, and I want to give

you a chance.

Church.

I need y'all to pray.

Right now because there are people whose lives are in

the balance right now on the counter. Three, if you

want to accept Jesus as your personal Lord and savior,

whether you're in this room or you're watching right now

on the counter, three, I want you to shoot.

Your hand up.

And you're not gonna confess everything to me. I believe

one day you're gonna get in a tribe and get

around good community and you're gonna confess, because that's where

healing is gonna come, according to John. But today you're

saying I want Jesus. One. You're making the greatest decision

of your life.

Two.

I'm telling you your eternity will be secure and your

name will be written in the Lamb's Book of Life.

If you want to receive Jesus and get into relationship. Three,

shoot your hand up in this place all around. I

see you back there, I see you right there. I

see you over that transformation Church. I see you in

more than I see you. God sees you.

Glorad to God.

And for every person that made that decision, that transformation.

In church where a family, nobody prays alone. So what

everybody just lip their hands and pray this prayer for

the benefit of those that are coming to Christ. Say God,

thank you for seeing me, soothing me, securing me, and

making me safe.

Today I give you my life.

I believe that Jesus died just for me, and today

I repent and I turn to you, Change me, renew me,

transform me.

I'm yours forever in Jesus' name. Amen.

Can we celebrate, y'all? I need the biggest shout.

Of the day.

All of Heaven is rejoicing over one that comes to Christ.

Welcome to the family.

Hey, listen, if you just pray that prayer, the altar

workers come to the front. If you pray that prayer,

I want you to text save to eight two eight

two eight two. We want to send you some information

and walk with you and let you know that God

is about to transform your life. And listen to me.

If you know there's some deep work, some deep rooted

stuff that is happening in your heart right now and

you need agreement in prayer.

I want you to come up for prayer. The worship

team is gonna sing for.

Just a few more minutes, and if you're watching online,

do not log off. I'm gonna come pray for you personally.

I'm gonna go to the back and I'm gonna.

Pray for you.

So start putting your prayer requests in the chat right now.

Today is a day of healing. Today God is gonna

sober you and your soul. And as we move from

this place, I'm telling you, let God continue do to

work on you all week. Don't just put anything in

this week, stay open so that He can do the

work in you.

Amen, I say amen, Could you.

Just lift your hands on your way out one more

time and say take.

My heart, say tang my.

Thank you for joining us today. If you said that

prayer and accept it Jesus into your heart, it's the

best decision you could ever make. We want to celebrate

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