Second Time Single: Preparing For Promise After Pain // Relationship Goals: In Real Life (Part 4) // Michael Todd

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God will transform your life. Do today's message.

I don't ever want to present that following God is easy.

I don't ever want to present to you that doing

what God asked you to do will always make you

feel good. I wish that would have happened before I

got up here. It's the fourth time I've cried in

twenty twenty six and this only were only three months in. Huh,

that's for me. That's a world record. You needed that cry.

I did too. You hear me and ain't nothing wrong.

But sometimes I told somebody I almost preached the message

today called tender hearted, because I felt that one of

the greatest attacks of the enemy is not to take

you out, is to take your tenderness when you stop

caring about people, stop caring about things, and stop caring

about how it affects people. And I never want to

become a professional Christian or a professional pastor. I never

want to do this automatically. I want to stay tender

to God's voice, and I thank God that those moments

can still happen. I thank God for his grace. Somebody

else needed.

That said it don't always.

Love.

Yeah, Lord will perfect concerned. It's telling you that sooner.

Turning enough. Thing turning off for me yourself. Give God

a shot of praise. Nah, I said, if you believe

it for yourself, it's turning around. Look at your neighbors,

say it's turning around for me around. Come on, look

at one more person, say it's turning around, turning around,

it's turning around for me. I don't know why tears

feel so heavy because you're sewing. Hey, that soul in

tears will eat thing joy. You better quit rob.

God's gonna give you something to cry about because hey,

that's soul in tears will reaping joy. Hey, somebody ought

to just say I got something to cry about.

I got something to cry out because hey, that's soul

it tears. We'll repin John.

I get this time to riffing joy. It's gonna be

worth to tears.

It's gonna be worth.

His because hey, that's soul in tears will repin John.

If you've been crying over anything, you might want to

get excited.

Say that soul. It teas how rebit joy. The seasons

are changing your time.

Say that so it is. We'll read bit jod. We

believe your word. God, it's turning around. It's turning.

Take a leap and say it's turning around for me.

Shut it up, me, it's turning around, Goose, it's turning

turnround for me.

Well praising right now like you just got the report.

It's turning. It's turning for me. Oh my god, I.

Got to move because I'm about to get happy on that.

I was sewing. I was sewing for a future that

I haven't walked into yet. I'm sewing for another level

of toy, another level of peace, another level of satisfaction

killed by the Holy Spirit. It's turning around, turning over

for me. He turns my morning. What's up in a dance?

Some of y'all, y'all haven't danced in a.

That's up.

Every tier? That's up, boy, that just changed everything, every tier.

I'm sewing for something.

I'm not wasting a tear in this next season.

Somebody better hear me. I'm not wasting a tear.

It's coming back multiplied and it's coming back with joy.

That's what I needed today, My God, I needed that.

Every tier, every tier, every tier. He bottles them all. Huh,

every tier. Joy is coming in another level, coming up

and crying so much, crying yourself to sleep, trying to

figure out the next season. It's not wasted.

He's about to do something that could not.

Be done any other way. Every Tier is coming back

up as Jay. Yeah, Joy, Showy in my family, Showy

in my soul, Showy in my life, Shoy in my heart,

Joy in my mind.

It's coming back Joy.

Yes, sir, Charles, every tier we sew Abby Avery's here.

All right, all right, y'all, that just made sense of

the last season for some of us.

Bryce, the tears aren't wasted. I'm telling you right now,

a harvest of joy, y'all. Get ready for the best

rest of the year. It's a harvest of joy. N

You don't gotta receive it.

But some of us we've been crying too long. It's

time for a season change.

We need the joy of the Lawyer because it will

be our strength.

Yes, sir, all right, all right, Well that frames this

whole message. Sit down, I got forty minutes. You want

every moment of this message, y'all. Gotta lead that in

the in the thing, lead that in the broadcast, cause

it's gonna make all this makes sense. All right, Well,

welcome to Transformation Church, where we believe in God and

we let the spirit move. And I felt a burden. Honestly,

I wasn't gonna preach today. I talked to Charles two

days ago. I like, bro, you got you got a

starmon ready, and he always got one locked and loaded,

and that's my dog. And I told him last night,

I was like, I'm fifty fifty whether I'm gonna preach tomorrow.

I said, I'm gonna wake up in the morning and

if God's like, nah, you got it, then I'm gonna go.

If not, i'ma be like you got it. And that's

the beauty of having partnership. And I woke up this

morning with a burden. And the best messages are not

something that I've planned all week. I'm praying, I'm harvesting,

I'm writing stuff down. I'll be having fifteen different messages

ready for y'all on Sunday. But I need God to

give specificity on what he wants to say, because the

right thing at the wrong time is not a blessing.

Y'all got what I'm saying. But today in this relationship

goes I in real life, y'all gotta help me with

the end. This is week four. I think it's week

four of relationship goes. Help me in real life. We

wanted to actually work in real life, and I believe

that God wants everybody to win in relationships. But I

also think as I went to the Holy Spirit about

who I was supposed to talk to and what I

was supposed to say today, he told me that there

was a group that were that was forgotten in this

scope of relationships that today I needed to speak specifically

to a group of people who are in this room,

watching online, watching in the correctional facility that have been

usually not acknowledged when relationship series happened, and and and

a lot of times it's focused on the people who single,

people who married, people who confused. But today I want

to preach a message for a new group of people

that are entering the chat. Write this down. Today's message

is for the second time single, the second time single

to today, I need to preach to a group of

people who are preparing for a promise after pain. Today

I need to talk to the people who need to

prepare after pain, and for everybody, this is going to

apply to you, because many times, if a message is

not directly for you, it's for somebody you're supposed to touch.

And a lot of people tune out messages if it

doesn't apply today situation. But they don't know what they're

about to run into with their children, they cowork, or

they boss. And God was trying to give you preparation

for that thing, and he was like, oh, that messages

for them, No, no, no, no, it's for you to be

a liaison hands in feet of God to somebody else.

So I need everybody taking notes today, and I need

you to play your cards right because I don't want

you to end up second time single. Okay, maybe that

was too quick, because some of you, when you don't

adhere to what God is asking you to do in

the season, you forfeit your opportunity to make something good great.

I'm going too fast already, okay, so let me slow down. Today.

I have to talk to the people who are looking

for what to do after the devastation. How do I

have life after the divorce, life after the disaster, life

after the disappointment, life after the deadbeat baby daddy? How

do I move on with life after the domestic abuse?

Life after Watch this a detour? How many people's life

have taken the detour you didn't expect? Oh, come on, y'all,

you was not expecting to be in Tulsa, Oklahoma in

twenty twenty six, in a tornado this weekend, asking yourself, Lord,

why me? Somebody said, he we hear God, We obey you.

God.

There are people in this room and under the sound

of my voice that don't know what to do with

life after DIDs. Distance that was created by raising a

special needs child. See, I'm talking to people who are

in a niche right now, special people who raise facial

needs children. The divorce rate is so high because their

whole life then goes to being concentrated on raising this

child that they both feel hopeless and in despair about

what do we do after the diagnosis? Oh? God, the

church don't want to talk about just pray. Hold on,

you got to give me some practical How am I

about to look? And look? They don't want to make

love to me no more. They don't want to How

do I deal with it after the disaster? I wasn't

planning to lose them like that. That wasn't a part

of the plan for me and my family wrote we

charted out the course. How do I live relational life

after a destructive decision? Now, nobody wants to talk about it,

but one decision could change your whole relations landscape. Oh

y'all don't want it. Y'all want to play with me?

Off of here. One decision, one wrong test message, one

forgetful night. Okay, let me stop. I'm in people's business

too much right now? What do I do with life after? Discovery?

Y'all know what I'm talking about? Discovery? You are doing

things one way. You find out that it's the wrong way.

Now you want to do a God's way. But I

only know the way that I've been doing it. People

who are deciding to not live in an alternate sexual lifestyle?

How do I do life after? I've already been with

these type of partners in those type of how do

I do life after? And nobody in the church wants

to talk about it? But the truth of the matter is,

what do we do with the life relationally after somebody dies?

Who you gave your life to? I pray it don't

happen to nobody. But what happens when you're staring death

at the door with the person that you love. Second

time single? And the truth of the matter is so

many people try to protect themselves when they get single again,

that they never let themselves be open to what God

may have for them because I never imagine this. I

can't deal with it. And what that is saying when

you get down to the court is there's an area

that I will not let God develop in me. Period.

I've been hurt too bad. God. If you want this

area of my life, you're gonna have to pry it

out of my hands. And he said, you want that

hard heart, keep it because it truly is a decision

of what we do after. So today, if you are

second time single, if you are dealing with any of

the things that I've been talking about, or you know somebody,

I believe today is going to encourage you because I

believe being single again is not the end. It can

be preparation for a divine alignment. I gotta speak this

oil to your soul right now because some of you

have been so discarded, so hurt, so frustrated, And for

all those who not in the relationship. Take notes, because

this is gonna help you pick right the first time. Okay, today,

I believe that you can experience, by God's grace, relational

Watch this restoration. Write that down. I want relational restoration.

And some of you it doesn't even have to be

with a romantic partner. It can be relational restoration with

a child. You have been a parent without connection to

your kids, so this applies to you too. They've been

far away from God. Y'all have had some breaches that

I ain't never and you ain't never, and you said

some words I shouldn't have had you or you couldn't

have done this, and da da da da, and there's

been a gap. Today. God's saying, I'm believing that by

my word, there can be relationship restore. If somebody just

needs to get a glimmer of hope in your mind

right now, what would it look like for me to

actually not be mad at them when I saw them?

Some of y'all they even thought of that. Every time

you think about them, you think bow, bust them in

the face, trip them, put something in their food. I

know you you watched too many of the Netflix documentaries,

but what would happen if you saw them and you

could actually think the best form that would be restoration,

when you wouldn't have to jump over an evil thought

to think a good one. Okay, restoration. Have you ever

watched the movie and only saw like the first thirty

minutes of it, or you ever watched the book and

only read the first chapter? And then somebody that's cool

because most of us feel like we're a better writer

and director than the people who write and direct movies. Oh, y'all,

come on right now, y'all know we'd be like, I

know what's gonna happen. She to killer and they gonna

get together at the end. How many people like that

when y'all watch stories and movies? First chapter of a book.

It's cool until somebody who saw the whole thing asked

you what you thought about it, and it'll be like, so,

how did you like the book? Boy? How did you

like the book? You remember that part? I mean, tell

me the part that you were my book And it's

one of those things that you try to put together,

the dots, you try to connect it because you didn't

read past the beginning. Today, I came to tell you

how devastating would it be that you stopped living after

the first chapter of your relational life. For those who

are second time single or will find themselves in this

position your first chapter, write this down is not your

last chapter. A whole story can change in one chapter

of a book. So some of y'all need to today

decide by faith. I'm turning the page. I'm turning the page.

I know this last season has been despaired. I know

I've hated all men for the last decade, the male man,

the amazon man, I hate them all. That was your

pain talking though. Could we make a decision today? All

men are bad because you ain't met all men, these absolutes.

All women ain't mean and downgrade and talk. They're not

because you ain't met all of them. But some of

us have decided that our relational chapter is over because

we had a bad beginning. And today I want you

to tell yourself by faith. Flip the page. Come on,

say it, say flip the page. What could happen this

year if you would open up your heart to see

what God had for you relationally? God is not finished

writing your story. I gotta believe this. Either Romans eight

is real, Lord, it's not. It either is all things,

even this first bad chapter or second chapter. Somebody'll on

your sixth chapter and it's still bad. Turn the page,

turn the page, because all things are working together for

the good of those who are calling that love him.

So today I want to help you because there is

a relational story that I want to bring your attention

to that everybody loves to preach, but they don't have

the context to it. Today I'm preaching the story of

Ruth and Boas. And most ladies look at bow Ass.

He paid. The Bible tells us he's a man, a

good stature. The Bible tells us that he shot and bawling.

I don't know how I look, but all the girl

like you. But I think everybody skips the part of

this story that is actually the intention of how Ruth

even is discovered by Boass. Because Ruth is second time single.

Did y'all know that Ruth is not just somebody looking

for a man. This is her after devastation, after grieving,

This is her after losing everything. She gets paired up

with her mother in law, Naomi. And you can read

this in Ruth one, two, three, and four. I can't

go through the whole thing, but I'm gonna point out

some descriptions for you. Literally, Ruth loses everything that made

her secure in the first chapter of Ruth. What chapter

did she lose it in? This is why you cannot

stop believe in God, because the end is gonna be

better than the beginning if you posture yourself right after

the loss in the first chapter. I'm about to preach

this thing Ruth chapter one, verse one, preparing for a

promise after pain. In the days when the judges ruled

in Israel, a severe famine came up on the land.

So a man from Bethlehem and Judah left his home

and went to live in the country of Mohamman, taking

his wife and two sons with him. The man's name

was Alimelech and his wife Naomi. Their two sons were

Mayhelon and Gideon. I don't know, Just try when you

reading the Bible, just try. People be so deep with that.

Kk I'm gonna make his own nag still get the point.

They were from Bethlehem to the land of Judea and one,

and when they reached Moab they settled there verse three.

Then Alimelet died. Hold On Naomi's husband died was left

with her two sons. Then the two sons followed after

their daddy and they died hold on. One married a

woman named Orprah and the other one named a woman

named Ruth. But about ten years after their relationship, both

of them died. They left Naomi alone with her two

sons of her husband. So it's three women that are

now walking in life, second time single. Now, for most

of us, this is when you would get your cup

of wine, put on movies, eat all the things that

bring you comfort, and call it in after a decade

of being in real relationship. This wasn't somebody that was

dating somebody. This was a decade that ends in devastation.

Ruf loses her person, which was her husband. She loses

provision because back in that time, if you didn't have

a husband, that means that you aren't secure. They literally

were in the middle of a famine, so she cannot

run to the grocery store and get food. She loses

her place, She ends up having to move cities to

be able to follow with Naomi, and she loses her

protection from being in a relationship. She lose all of

this In chapter hows Mike, why are you saying this?

Because some of y'all have finished reading, and it's only

chapter one. You stop believing. And it's only chapter one. Yes,

your relationship has sucked for seventeen years, But what if?

What if this was the backdrop to the greatest relation

will come back in history? It's only chapter why, and

Ruth is about to show all of us what to

do when we find ourselves in chapter one. Drop down

to verse nine. This is her mother in law, Naomi decide,

you know what, I'm in a foreign land. I got

to go back home where I know stuff. I'm leaving y'all, babies,

y'all stay here, hopefully you find a new man. But

I got to go home. And this is what happened

verse nine. May the Lord bless y'all with security of

another marriage, because I got to get up out of here.

Then she kissed them goodbye. She kissed Orpra and Ruth goodbye,

and they all broke down crying. No. They said, we

want to go with you to your people. But Naomi replied,

why should you go with me? Can I still get birth?

Give you other song? I can't do nothing for you, girl,

Go find you a man. This is the interpretation she's saying,

go do it verse sixteen. But Rufe replied, don't ask

me to leave you and turn back. I gotta go forward.

I cannot go back. Yes, I lost everything, but I'm

not about to stay here and die with it. I

gotta go forward. Wherever you go, watch this, I will go.

Wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be

my people, and watch the strongest statement, and your God

will be my God. Now I want you to understand

the point that I didn't write down, but the Holy

Spirit just dropped it on me. When you literally are

coming out of devastation, you just might need somebody to

hold on to. She literally didn't say I'm gonna make

this plan. She said, whatever you do, I'm gonna do.

I think there was a prophet Ludacris. He said, when

I move, you move, just like some of y'all studied

with me. What I'm saying to you is, sometimes you

don't have the strength to make it up. You just

need to follow or mimic somebody you pray. I'm gonna pray.

I don't know what to say what you're saying. I'm

gonna say what you're saying. This is why it's important

to be around the right people because sometimes you don't

have the words, you don't have the practices. The best

way to get in shape is gonna work out with

somebody in shape. Why because I don't know what this

move is the reason I got a trainer is because

I need to know what does this do? Y'all hear

what I'm saying. And I don't even gotta know the name.

I don't gotta know what muscle it works. I don't

have to know how this applies. If I watch you,

somehow my form changes, somehow I desire changes. And some

of you have been going in life after devastation by yourself,

and today I want you to grab on to somebody

who at least has some practices. We're gonna see in

a moment. Naomi ain't out of the woods. Naomi still

got her issues. That's why around here we believe in progression,

not perfection. But you might want to find somebody with

some practices, some principles. You cuss your kids out, find

somebody how they discipline their kids without cussing their kids out. Johnny,

stop it or I'll take your stuff. I'm saying you

might have to watch this mimic before you see a miracle. Okay,

So I just need to give you a few steps

to do after you find yourself in second time single. Okay,

this is gonna help everybody number one make a decision

based in faith, or let me say it like this,

make a faith decison. The reason why most people never

come out of the season that they're in when they're

in the second time single is they stop believing God

because if God was good, this would have never happened. Oh,

can we talk about it? If God was good, this

would have never happened. I would have found out about

this before. He been a player for this long. She

been creeping this long. Why would I lose them like that?

Why would he even let us get married if he

was going to be tragically taken like that? Why could we? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?

And what ends up happening is then the whys of

this fallen world. The whole tactic of the enemy is

for us to lose our faith. But I want you

to see very distinctly that when something bad happened, Ruth

had to anchor her faith immediately. She had to make

a decision of faith right now. The easiest thing would

have been for her to stay where she was at.

But she chose faith over familiarity. She chose purpose over

the past. She chose a covenant over comfort, and she

chose forward over fear. How do we know that she

goes with Naomi to a place she ain't got no

connections in. She literally is like Abraham when God says,

go to the land, I will show you. The only

way you go to somewhere and don't know where you're

going is by faith. Somebody say, by faith for you

to get in the place you need to be. Relationally,

God may ask you to go to unfamiliar places like counseling. Okay,

some of y'all might have to show up in unfamiliar

places like therapy. You might have to show up in

unfamiliar places like the doctor's office. Why are y'all so

scared to go to the doctor. You're praying that what's

real can't be healed in a different way. And I know,

and I'm especially talking to black people. What is wrong

with you? Yo? Thad been hurting for sixteen years and

you and I plead the blood over you gotta go

get your blood checked? Oh God, no, I'm there's cheers

for stuff. Y'all hear? What I'm saying. I'm just I'm

literally telling you right now it might take a step

of faith, and some of y'all faith's decisions is not clear.

I was devastated because that's what happened. But you still

the Bible says the just shall live by that's even

when it sucks, even when it's unfair, even when it

doesn't feel like this should have happened, I still have

to You don't get a pass on using faith just

because you're in a hard season. I'm telling you from

what I know. Some people be like God time out,

time out, time out, time out, and God's like that.

I'm sorry, but it don't work like that. I'll comfort you,

I'll encourage you. I'll be there with you. I even

told you, in this world you will have trouble, but

take her because I've overcome the world. And everybody be like,

but God, can I get a twenty four month break?

Come on? Can anybody be with me? Has anybody asked

God for a twenty four month break? Bills paid? Losing weight,

no workout? Yeah? Can I just have good? You say?

Ain't wanted good hair, growing good? But faith without? Oh,

y'all know the Bible. Faith without works is dead. And

so I found out that Ruth did something that all

of us have to do when we're second time single.

We have to make a faith decision. And I want

to just say this for those who desire to be

in a relationship again in real life, your next relationship

should come after your next level with God God. If

your relationship with Him didn't grow, you may not have

used the season that God has you in in the

best way that you could. And that's what Proverbs three

five and six is. Trust in the Lord with all

your heart, lean not to your own understanding and all

your ways. Acknowledge him. And what is he gonna do?

Direct your pack? He's saying, would you just please level

up with me? And Ruth shows us you know what,

I'm gonna trust the God that this woman is God.

I'm gonna know God better. So if you find yourself

in a second time single situation, make a faith decision

to know God better. Second thing I need you to

do if you're in second time single situation, identify the loss,

but don't accept the label. See this is not just

happening to Ruth. This also happened in Naomi. She lost

her husband first and I want to go to Ruth

chapter one, verse twenty, because Ruth was in her first chapter,

but so was Naomi. And the this book of the

Bible is not called Naomi. And I think this might

be a little bit of reason why it's not called Naomi.

It's because of Naomi's stance when she became second time single,

was not necessarily the stance of faith. Watch it. She said,

don't call me Naomi.

No MoU.

Instead, Oh this happened to me, call me Mara, for

the Almighty has made my life bitter, very bitter for me.

I went away fool, but the Lord has brought me

home empty. Why call me Naomi when the Lord has

caused me to suffer and the Almighty has sent such

tragedy upon me. I can't even be mad at her situation.

I want to be I want to be clear with you.

She has every right to feel what she feels. But

she blamed God for what he was trying to use,

not as something that happened to her. He uses the

things because we're in this fallen world that happened to us,

as places where he can get glory, redemption, and transformation

out of your life. But she decided to label the

season instead of just identify with the pain she was feeling.

Let me say it to you like this. It's okay

to identify with the grief, but don't let it become

your identity. This hurts, this sucks. I don't want to

be here. Why would this happen? But she named herself bitter.

Don't call me nothing else but bitter. And you might

have not named yourself bitter. But I want you to

know that all of us have named ourselves something. There's

something that we have started calling ourselves that nobody else

knows that we call ourselves, but we try to rename ours. No,

I'm just I'm just, I'm just shy. But God's called

you to do things on a big scale. How can

you Why would you claim that title? Why? I'm just

not a people person. Hold on, but he called you

the people. You can say like I'm getting more comfortable.

You don't have to identify what. You don't have to

disassociate with what's happening. I'm getting more comfortable talking to people.

But I'm not a people person. That's a label. And

when I'm asking you, church is what label have you accepted?

Even tried to convince other people to call you. I

don't know about you, but when you're young, if you

don't like your name, you be trying to make up

new names. Y'all. Anybody ever make up a new name

for themselves? And did it stick? Did it not? You know,

we have a pastor and associate campus pastor here that

tried to rename himself Blaze. Pastor Blaze? Would you stand up? Pastor?

Will heck ing Bob at one season of his life

was trying to get people to call him Blazes based

on how much weed he was smoking. He wanted that

season to identify him forever pastor Blaze. Thank god it

didn't stick.

No, no, no.

But what I'm what I'm saying is I'm using that

as a light joke. But I'm just saying, like some

of y'all have identified as lonely, identified as angry, be angry,

but don't accept the label. And because Naomi accepted the

label of bitter, I bet it worked against what God

was trying to give her in her life. Some of

y'all have just accepted, well, I'm just a mean person.

What what? No?

No, no, no, no, no. You're hurting and hurt people hurt people,

and you've been ignoring and fighting counseling and therapy and

and accountability and transformation. But please don't own the label

because that's not who God created you to be. Does

everybody hear what I'm saying? And I need you. I

don't got time, but if I sat down with you,

we could identify either a known label or one that

you've accepted that only you know that you need to

divorce yourself from. But I love God because even when

Naomi decided that she was gonna be bitter, God still

saw her better. Do you know that the name Mara

the only time it's recorded in this is when she

said it. Every place after this you can reach chapter

one two three fold, they never call her Mara again.

It's almost this the guy got girls shut up Naomi

like she was, like, I'm Mara, but girl be quiet

and Naomi and so Naomi in Ruth and Naowei in Ruth.

And he was calling her who she was until it

started to change who she was. And some of y'all

need to say, I'm blessed, I'm happy, I'm.

Secure, I'm faithful until.

It starts to line up with the identity that God

has given you name yourself whatever you want. God's not

acknowledging it. Okay, that's the grace of God. All right,

let's keep going. Third thing, if you find yourself second

time single, that disappointment still your diligence. If you find

yourself in a second time single situation. A lot of

times this is where people their productivity goes down because

they think somehow that their calling and their purpose is

now forfeited because they don't have that person. And I

know it's quiet in here, but I got to talk

to a lot of people that this never gets talked about,

and so church people don't even know how to deal

with this, Like, let me just pray for you, Lord,

bless them. Thanks. But the truth of the matter is

I needed you to tell me. How can I still

be diligent when my heart is hurting? How do I

still encourage somebody else when I don't feel encouraged? Come on,

let's get practical. How do I actually wake up and

command my day and joy? And I actually feel like

everything is stolen from me? Ruth Chapter two, verse two.

It says, one day Ruth the more About said to Naomi,

let me go out into the harvest field to pick

up the stalks of grain left behind by anyone who

is kind enough to let me do it. Naomi replied,

all right, girl, go ahead, my daughter, go ahead. So

Rufe went out to gather grain behind the harvesters, and

it so happened she found herself working on a field

that belonged to that the relative of her father in law, Alimela.

What I'm saying is, your relationship is not on the

other side of just disappointment. It's on the other side

of diligence. What is God placed in your hands to

still work even though you're in a season where it

feels like I shouldn't have to do this, And God

is requiring all of us watch this, to choose productivity

not pity. Okay, I know it's a hard word. I

know she practiced a worth, ethic, responsibility, and self respect.

Watch this. Her healing strategy was productivity, not pity. It

was part of her healing to actually pick up what

she had in front of her and do everything she

could with it. Now, I know this takes the power

of the Holy Spirit, because some of us, when we

get sad, all we want to do is sleep. Can

I get an amen? Sometimes when we get disappointed. All

we want to do is go into our little cave

and quit. And God saying, hey, that's not the strategy

that you need to do. If you're deciding to get

redemption in your relationships, if you want redeemed relationships, what

could you be doing right now to stay productive? The

productivity made her meet her person. Some of y'all ain't

gonna meet your person because you don't do nothing productive.

Oh God, one clop. Everybody's single. So I'm just telling you,

I'm it's a little. It's a little. It's a little

right because y'all tight. What I'm saying is some of

you are never you're not. God's literally preparing the meetups,

the connections, the actual, the actual being able to see

each other in places that you can't be without productivity.

Check back with me in ten years. Where you being

at the house. While you be at the house, cause

that's the where I feel safe, that's my cocoon, that's

my that's my wound swear. God is making me I

feel that? And where did the purpose take you? Some

of y'all won't come to church. It's just too many people.

But you want to be with somebody, just write it

down as a point a second time single strategy is

productivity not pity. Proverbs thirty one seven. This is scripture

that wrecked me for a lot of years of my life,

and I want you to take it down because this

is for men and women. She does not eat the

bread of idleness. A woman that and a man that

is product productive, they don't eat the bread of idleness.

You ever been to Texas row House? Now? Now, I

don't even know what their main thing is that they serve.

What is it state? What? No, No, it's supposed to

be state because there's like some horns or something. But

what Texas Roadhouse is known for? What is it that

them rolls? Now? I want you to go with me,

just for one second on the idea of idleness being

those rolls. They want you so full on what is

easy to obtain that you have no appetite for real meat,

real nourishment. Idleness makes you think that somehow this is

the better life. Man. I ain't doing nothing, bro, Like

I'm getting this social Security check. I'm getting this. Didn't

my family help? No, I'm in your business. I don't

do nothing. You live at this limit that doesn't trust

God in a just as long as this investment comes on,

I got six people, and it makes you idle, and

your idleness becomes an idole. Being unbothered and comfortable is

more important than my commitment to God. And it says

idleness shouldn't be the bread we eating. He says, I

need you to be productive because I called you here

for a purpose. And if you find yourself second time single,

this is where Ruth wins because she says, I'm devastated,

but I'm still gonna do what God's called me to do.

Her healing was in productivity, not pity. And then guess

what she did. If you find yourself a second time single,

I only got two more. Keep your character. I don't

know what happens when some people get single again. They

just wile out. It's like, well, I guess, I guess

we're gonna try every flavor. Come on, read between the lines.

I guess I'm not gonna have any standards, or I'm

gonna make so many standards that nobody will ever be

able to hurt me again. Come on, you eat on

one side of the And the thing about Ruth, and

she kept her character. Write this down. Integrity invites interest. Oh,

that was good, and y'all didn't even catch it. When

you live in integrity, people are interested in you. Dang.

They always do what they say, They always look like that,

they always have that attitude. This is what attracted Boas

could have had anybody in that society. It's the theologians

say it's a miracle that he's even single. But Ruth

chapter two, verse eleven says, yes, I know. Boas replied,

he's talking to Ruth. But I also know about everything

you have done for your mother in law since the

death of your husband. I have heard how you have

left your father and mother and your own land to

live here among complete strangers. What he was saying is

your reputation precedes you. If your reputation precedes you, does

it speak well of you? If you find yourself in

a second time, single situation, what is your reputation teep

your character. This is not a season to wild out

and forget the principles of God. It's a season to

dig deeper in to find out your self worth, to

know what God has called you to to stand on

business even when nobody's looking. That's what integrity he is,

and she demonstrates integrity loyal humility, kindness, respect because character.

Watch this authenticates compatibility. How do you know if you're

equally yoked with somebody, It shouldn't be by how fine

they are. It has to be by character. And a

lot of people are disappointed fifteen years into the relationship

because stuff starts falling, gravity starts taking effect, people start

changing and aging because you married them for what they

looked like on the outside and not what they look

like on the inside. Character is the thing that authenticates compatibility.

I'm with you because we match on a level that is.

This is how we're gonna act. This is how we

tell the truth. This is how we prioritize God. This

is how we laugh at stuff. We don't laugh at

stuff like that because that's evil. Chapter three, verse one,

This is where we end. One day, Naomi said to Ruth,

my daughter, it's time that we find you a permanent home.

You got to get up out of here. Just want

to say, y'all ain't read in there, okay, so that

you will be for real provide for because you got

to stop beating at my table. Bo Ass is a

close relative of ours, and he's been very kind by

letting you gather grain with his young women. Tonight he

will be winnowing barely gathering grain with his young women.

Tonight he will be winnowing barley at the threshing floor.

Now do as I tell you. Now, this is very

spiritual and very practical. Listen up, take a bath, put

on some perfume and address, Put on your nicest clothes,

brush your teeth. Then go to the threshing floor. But

don't let boys see you until he is finished eating

and drinking. Be sure to notice where he lies down.

Then go and uncover his feet and just lie down

there with him. He'll tell you what to do. Woman

of God, Hey, woman of God. But look at Ruth's response.

I'll do everything you say. Amen and amen. No, I'm

afraid here. This is the point that this was wise. Counsel.

Huh.

I think there's a message there for all of us.

There is. I want to say it in a point,

change your wardrobe while you're waiting. The reason why she

was telling Ruth to change her clothes is because customarily,

when you become a widow, you stay in your widow

to close. You want something greater than this, change your clothes.

You want to come out of this. Stop telling everybody

you are that just by the way you present yourself.

You don't want to be a thug no more. Brother,

Buy some pants that fit, Come on listeners, be you

don't you don't want to be thought as a thought.

Put on something else. Put on something else, like change

the wardrobe to where you believe, by faith you're going.

And I believe this is a physical sign, but it

also was a spiritual sign. You don't want to talk

certain ways, stop listening to a certain stuff.

You don't want to see certain things out on your life,

stop watching those things and.

Let that be the visual image you have. Put the

wardrobe bone for where you're going. Somebody needs to hear

me say that by faith, Put the wardrobe bone for

where you believe it.

Take a bath.

If I tell you that, If I send you l

MO rubber dub dub and I'm saying you going somewhere,

take a bath. Watch this. She had to prepare by

faith for what she was believing for. That's Mike, Why

are you saying this because there are a lot of

people in here who are paralyzed, stuck, confused, frustrated. Because

you found yourself in a season where it's like dang.

I don't want to be hurt like that. Again. I

wasn't expecting for this to happen. But what do I do.

I was in a real good relationship with that person

and we almost got to being married. If something got

broke off for I thought they would have won. Or

you don't have to have been married before. I'm just saying,

if you find yourself out of relationship with someone and

now you're in this disconnected season again, maybe it's not

a punishment. Maybe it's a season for you to connect

to God deeper and prepare some of you need to

trade in the frustration of the last season for the

faith of the future. God has more for you. Somebody

say forward, say it like you got faith. Somebody say forward,

and ladies, while you're waiting on your bowl. Ass I

heard the old preacher say it like this, don't settle

for any of his relatives. Y'all know what I'm talking about.

Broke ass Poe ass you you know what I'm saying.

Don't settle for them, ye chief ass Uh, don't settle.

Make sure he respects your ass. Ass a Z respect

a Z.

Yeah.

I just had to bring it up. I had to

bring it up because some of y'all, you wouldn't pick

him for your enemy, you wouldn't pick him for your children,

you wouldn't pick him for your daughter, but you entertain it.

Bitterness will make you settle. I'm done. This is your

life right here, And what happens in our lives is

sometimes things happen. Are you valuable, priceless, made, crafted, designed, beautiful? Life? Hurt? Pain, frustration,

broken homes, abuse, molestation? What happens when life hits very

fragile people? What happens when they get broken just that quick?

And what happens when they're still a remnant that you

try to show people the most complete side of you,

so maybe they won't see, maybe they won't see the

hole in my soul. Maybe I present this on Instagram

and Facebook, and maybe I show everybody that no, no, no, no,

we're pretty much good until something else happened, and now

we're left with fragments. And this is where we say,

what can God do with somebody like me? I only

come to church to gather the pieces. I only pray

to try to just get them so they don't hurt

nobody else. But I don't know if anything good can

be done with all my pieces. I'm a mess. I'm hurting.

But I found out about this ancient Japanese art. It's

the art that takes broken pieces, King Suji, I believe

is what it's called. And it would take a vase

like this, and what they would do is they would

take all of the broken pieces and put it back

together with gold or platinum. Could you put a picture

up of this vase that has now been put into

a master's hand. I want you to look at what

restoration could potentially look. This is now sold for over

ten times the value of what the broken usually discarded.

By faith, I believe this is the season you're coming into, Relationally,

that Joel two twenty five will be real over your life.

I will restore everything that the locust has tried to steal.

By faith, I need somebody to believe it. You're coming

into a season of more value. You're coming into a

season that the last season will not define. I'm gonna

turn the page and keep reading. I'm going to see everything.

I want you to notice that this same vase is

now put behind glass, It's protected and put on display.

I pray that this next season for you, relationally, God

puts you in a place where he increases your value.

He protects you, and he puts you on display for

his glory, standing all over this place. Take a picture,

because this is you. Relational restoration. Why because God will

write a love story after divorce, after disaster, after disappointment,

after a deadbeat, after domestic abuse, after deception, after a detour,

after distance. God is the one who still writes love

stories after loss. Everybody, listen to what I'm saying. After loss,

he still writes love stories. Somebody's gonna hope again. Somebody's

gonna believe again. Some of y'all who've been keeping her.

You You've been keeping her your girlfriend for twenty years.

Man of God, the time has come, Tysa, Mike, why

is this important? Everybody? You gonna miss the best part

of the message. Stay right here for one minute. Do

you know.

Who?

Ruth gets remembered as she has a son. Because God

restores everything, not just to Ruth, but to Naomi too.

Through Ruth, everything they thought they lost, protection, provision, legacy,

they get it all back. Ruth and Boaz get together.

They have a son. Her son's name is Obed. Obed

has a son named Jesse. Jesse has a son named David,

King David, and David is in the line of Jesus.

If if Ruth doesn't take this posture of faith in

being second time single, it affects Our Savior. Who could

you be delaying their destiny based on your willingness or

unwillingness to go into this next season by faith? They

called Boas the Kingsman redeemer, and back in this day,

if you study the actual culture, if somebody was widowed

or lost their husband, you would find the most financially

reputable person in your family line, and they were to

marry so that they could at least be provided for.

What ended up happening is Naomi was relatives of Boaz.

But by Ruth following Naomi, they get in connection and

he becomes their kingsmen redeemer. What they couldn't provide for themselves,

He provided what they had made debt and they couldn't pay.

She provided. This is a type and shadow of our Jesus,

our Lord, and our Savior, who then comes as a

type of Boaz to say, what you can't provide for yourself,

I'll provide for you what sin made a debt and

you could not pay. I'll pay for it. Today, you

might be in this room and you're saying I need

a Kingsman redeemer. That song I believe my redeemer lives today.

You need to experience the Restorer and the Redeemer. If

that's you, Under the sign of my voice, I feel

something very powerful happened. I'm gonna pray for two groups

of people. I'm gonna pray for somebody number one that

wants to receive Jesus as your redeemer. It's the greatest

decision I've ever made. I don't care where you've been,

how much money you've made, what you're planning on doing

after this. The greatest decision you can make right now

is to give your life to Jesus Christ. It took

me from being a liar, a manipulator, addicted to pornamnography,

somebody who was so dark in my heart. And it

didn't make me perfect, but it made me progressing. And

I'm on a path right now that I'll never get

off of until I meet him face to face. But

I'm telling you it has given me so much peace, understanding, revelation,

and it's changed my family line because I surrendered to

Jesus today you have an opportunity to be in right

relationship in real life, and I want to pray for you.

If that's you on account of three in this room

watching online on the panda at wherever you're at right now,

somebody sent you this today. I want you to give

your life to Jesus, and I'm telling you it's the

greatest decision you'll ever make. One you're making the greatest

decision of your life. Church. I need you to pray

because somebody's eternity is in the balance right now. Two

is going to be written in the Lamb's Book of

Life for all eternity, and you're going to get to

spend forever with Jesus. Three, if you want to make

Jesus Christ your personal Lord and savior, why don't you

lift your hand right now? I see you, I see it,

I see you. I see you, ma'am, I see you.

Brother.

Come on, I see and more than that, God sees you.

Can we thank God. If you're watching online, come on,

put it in the chat Glory of God. You know

why this is so important because the Bible says all

of heaven rejoices over one person one. And I saw

several hands in here, and I know there's more online

for the benefit of those coming to Jesus today. Because

we're all a family. Nobody prays alone. Can we pray

this prayer together? Say God, thank you for sending Jesus

as my redeemer today. I believe he lived, he died,

and he rose again with all power just for me.

Here's my life, Change me, renew me, transforming. I'm yours.

I repent from the old, and I move forward into

the new. I'm yours forever in Jesus' names. Jesus, Amen,

can we celebrate all over transformation to Oh, y'all can

do better that? Can we celebrate Welcome to the family.

If you just decided for Jesus, would you do me

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The alter team comes and I know some people have

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And if you're online, I want you to receive this moment.

The worship team is gonna sing. People are gonna exit

if you need to get your kids. And then there's

other others of us that gott to stay in this

for a second because we don't want to repeat another week,

another month, another year, walking with this same level of brokenness.

We want God to put us back together again. I

hear that song that says, Lord, make.

Me he Lord, may me, Lord.

This can be your prayer, say, may me, He's putting

the pieces back together, may me. If you need prayer

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