Family Matters//12PM// Pastor Terrance Richmond

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Let's get into it. So today we celebrate family,

last week we celebrated marriage and every first Sunday we will

celebrate marriage and have Marriage Encounter.

How many people was here at last Sunday's Marriage Encounter?

Phenomenal every first Sunday, every first Sunday evening.

And there's childcare, Yeah, there's worship, there's games.

That meant it was phenomenal the other night.

And then every Wednesday for the next 7 weeks, we'll be faith and

family. We will watch this.

Invest in your family, don't just complain about it.

And I promise you, your family can have all the material things

in the world, but this world is in the condition it is because

families are in the conditions they are.

We talked about some stats in Canada at marriage, the marriage

matters last Sunday night. And man, the divorce rate is

very low in Canada. Watch this.

But the amount of people that want to get married is very low.

So it's not about divorce here in Canada.

It's about I'm just now fooling with marriage.

And then there's 30% of marriages where the couples are

in marriage but aren't happy. And the, the, the, the divorce

rate is the same in the world as it is in religious organizations

that should not be. Today is a call to families.

Today is a call to strengthen families.

Today is for those that are looking for family.

I believe you should first know what family is in God's terms.

We're in a time where the world is changing the definition of

family. I'm I'm sorry, but but a a child

was supposed to be born from the womb of a woman and the seed

from a man. Curriculum is telling kids they

have the choice and curriculums is telling families and there's

laws that are and will continue to protect kids to choose what

they want to choose. And church, at the end of the

day, we're not church if we don't teach on family, if we

don't teach on love, if we don't teach on marriage.

We're in a time where not only is the domestic family under

attack, but the church family is under attack, right?

Look at how we do church. We do it how we do family.

You get tired of people at your church, you leave and go find

another one and then watch this, put it on God.

But what if we did our domestic families that way?

Well, when I'm tired of my kids, I go get some different ones.

When I'm tired of my wife, I just choose to go get another

one. What about covenant, right.

But here we are. We are membership based more

than covenant base. And so our churches look like

our families do it overall, when I say overall, there's a lot of

healthy, amazing churches in this city.

And but when we're talking about what the church should

represent, it is a part of the family dynamic.

And so as we said in marriages the other night, as we work on

our marriages, this church can only be as strong as our

families, our marriages. And watch this.

We have to teach families how to fight for family.

We have to teach watch this. The family infrastructure in

church is being attacked. We want we watch this, Paul said

this. You have many teachers, very few

fathers. So we want to abolish the Oh,

that that language is weird spiritual.

Parents. Well, let's just go to the

Bible, right? Because the church was designed

to have parental our pastors aren't just accredited religious

workers. We, we, we, we the church should

be a family, not not a membership.

But when I find my church, I find my family.

And if I understand it's my family, then I understand I

don't run. From family, I fight for family,

I fight for unity. I hang in there, I get to know

you. Some of the stuff I run from you

for is because I don't know you. Some of the stuff I run from you

for is because I have undealt with trauma.

I have cultural biases. I have family hurt.

I have authority. Issues I got daddy issues in

these next 8 weeks 7 weeks we're going to.

Deal with all of that because I have unexpected or shall I say

unhealthy expectations for leadership based on family

dynamics and I believe the church should do a better job

at. Dealing with these issues head

on because right now we're under attack.

Watch this. But the enemy does an amazing

job at scattering us. Watch this.

Taking us to familiar not family.

Lot of people are looking for familiar comfortable not family

because family fight with anybody got siblings?

Have you have you I've seen some of y'all roll your eyes as soon

as you rose your raise your hand you.

I sure do. God, God, Oh my God, I can't

stand my sister. I hear you.

Some of us don't have good relationships with our parents.

Some of us have very tumultuous relationships, to be honest with

parents. And you, you, you watch this.

You got a lot of people who tolerate family, understand you

tolerate your family. But I believe that today and

these next several weeks can free us as a Kingdom community.

If we grab a hold, I believe there's some healing that's

going to take place, right? Because watch this, a lot of all

of our hurt in here has come from family.

And then we go out in the world and we hurt people or have

unhealthy expectations, no boundaries, too many boundaries,

walls. And then we bring on more hurt.

But if we just trace back to where the hurt started, somebody

that was supposed to love us, hurt us.

Psalm 127 says if God build the house, the builders only build

shacks. If God doesn't build the house,

the builders only build shacks. If God doesn't guard the city,

the night Watchmen might as well take a nap.

If God doesn't build the house, if he's not building your house,

if he's not building your marriage, then just consider

you're not building the house that God has planned for you to

build. If God doesn't guard the city,

then the night watchman might as well take a nap.

In other words, I could also say if the church is not in

authority in a city, then the the the city is doomed.

This word house in the Bible means family lineage, household

and legacy, Family lineage, household and legacy.

This scripture is telling us that God is the architect of our

household and our families. Not culture, not trauma, not

effort. Before we go.

Into the series guys, and we start dealing with wounds and we

start dealing with scars and we start dealing with patterns.

We start dealing, we going to deal with one topic one week

where we're dealing with it runs in the family.

Before we start dealing with cycles and trauma and

forgiveness and deliverance. We must go back.

Somebody say go back. We must go all the way back.

Back before the pain. Back before the dysfunction.

Back before the silent treatment.

Back before the patterns that chased us for years.

Back before the thief ever walked into the garden.

Back before the fights. Back before the fractures.

Back before the father wounds, the Mama aches, the missing

pieces. Before trauma touched you.

Before addiction marked you, before absence shaped you, and

before rejection named you. We got to go back to the

beginning. Because your story and my story

did not start where memories started.

Your family story did not begin where trauma.

Began. Your identity did not originate

where your insecurities showed up.

Your lineage did not begin where your lineage got broken.

Your story began in the mind of God.

Your story began in the mind of God.

Your family began in the imagination of heaven and your

destiny began in the blueprint of the Creator who never

improvises and He never reacts. Your story began way long before

the 1st scar, before the 1st spanking, before the 1st

rejection. It began in the mind of God.

You got to get that before we move on where you are today.

If it's not of God, it wasn't birth in God or through God.

You are. You are somewhere in your life

that God never planned. There's accesses in your life

that God never planned. You're moving places that God

never planned. God planned for you to stay in

the middle of the ring and fight that thing out and fight for

unity and have confidence and deal with your insecurities, Not

run from those insecurities when they're exposed.

Not run from your trust issues when they're exposed.

Family was God's first blueprint for blessing.

Family was God's first blueprint for blessing.

The first blessing that was ever spoken was spoken on family in

family for family. And that's why when you got an

independent spirit in the church and you in control of where you

want to go, what you want to do, you are also running from the

commanded blessing. This is why he says wherever

there's unity, I command the blessing.

Unity just does not happen. Unity is fought for, so he says.

I need unity to restore the blessing I commanded in the

garden. Come on somebody, because it in

the beginning. Me and Adam was on the same

page. Yeah.

Family was God's first blueprint for blessing.

Watch this Family was God's first blueprint for identity.

Family was God's first blueprint for purpose, and family was

God's first blueprint for generational impact.

Family was God's first institution.

Not school, not church. Oh, Oh yeah, yeah.

Not church, not systems, not children's church.

Family just was all in the village.

Didn't have to close your kids eyes because perversion was in

the earth. Family, it was nothing.

We had family. Kids was playing with the lions

and the bears. They was playing.

They wasn't running across the street when they saw, you know,

that was all blessing. Identity was blessing.

It wasn't Instagram if identity was from family, not Instagram.

Identity was not from your favorite author's book.

Your career was not based on what your daddy and your Mama

did. It was based on what God called

you to do. And Mama and daddy knew what God

called you to, and they raised you up in the way that God

called you to. Family is the reflection of

God's nature. God exists in relationship,

Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. He's a relational God, so

humanity is created for relationship.

Family carries generational purpose.

Watch this. You can't separate family from

destiny. Family is the 1st place.

Spiritual warfare attacks. If if if the devil is attacking

your job, it's because he is trying to bring poverty to your

family. It ain't because he's trying to

take money. The family it's the first place.

Spiritual warfare. Your household, your your

children. You can't be passive with your

kids. You can't just be their buddies.

Your house has a battlefield on it.

If Satan can break family, he can break future.

Family was not man's idea. Family was heaven's intention.

Before there was a curse. Watch this.

Before there was a curse, Troy, there was a calling.

Calling came before curse. Read it in the word.

Grace was not needed. Sin had no power.

Before there was dysfunction, watch this.

God created a design, and before there was sin, God spoke

strategy. Before there was brokenness, God

released a blessing. Before there was Sabbath, before

there was sacrifice, before there was church, before God

ever formed a nation, before he ever called Abraham, before he

established Israel, he established family.

Before there was a king, there was a son.

Before there was a queen, there was a daughter.

And the enemy has been trying to bury the beginning ever since.

Because if you ever rediscover where you started, you will no

longer accept where you settled. If you ever rediscover where you

started, you will never accept where you decided to settle.

If you ever rediscover what God intended, you will stop living

by what the world impose. If you ever rediscover the

divine blueprint for your life, you will not tolerate the

counterfeit pattern. Today we not starting with a

series to just talk about relationship goals and how you

can find this and find that. And no, no, no, we are stepping

into recovery mission, a generational renovation, a

spiritual excavation. We are digging past the rubble

of dysfunction to uncover the design beneath it.

The Bible does not start with trauma.

In the beginning there was trauma.

No, it wasn't. In the beginning there was the

Word. The Bible does not open with

betrayal. Now I'm asking you, in order to

receive healing, let this word go deep.

Some of you think you're healed because you're hard, but God

wants to unharden your heart today because you can be brave

while being broken, and it's in the tenderness of your heart

that God does miraculous things. Bible does not begin with

violence, silence, or shame. There's no shame in the garden.

Where'd you get that from? There's no trauma in the garden.

Where'd you get that from? But you settled.

That's just my life. There's no religious spirit in

the garden. There's no control, there's No

Fear in the garden. Where?

Where do we get that from? It starts with a family.

A man and woman was blessed by God, walking in purpose,

reflecting his image, stewarding his creation, living from his

presence, breathing his breath, carrying his likeness.

A family that was not fractured but fruitful.

A family that was not chaotic but called.

A family that was not reactive but ruling.

And a family that was not surviving but flourishing.

Sons and daughters. This is where God starts the

human story. Not what occurs, but with

covenant, not with dysfunction, but destiny, and not with cycles

but design. Watch this, he says.

Today before I heal what happened in their family, I must

reveal what I intended for your family.

Because if you watch this, if you think your family started

with pain, you will think pain is your portion.

And if you think your story began with brokenness, you will

believe brokenness is your identity.

If you think your lineage originated in chaos, you will

expect chaos to be normal. And there are people in this

room right now. You have settled with chaos in

your family. You think that's normal.

You think anxiety and mental illness.

You have settled up. I may, I may get it.

So let me live my life trying to prevent mental illness in fear

of it. No.

Let me help you today. You have a blood bought right?

To kick mental illness out of your family.

Because that was never God's plan, right?

Divorce was never God's plan. I'm sorry that you was braised

by a single parent. I'm sorry that your father

abandoned you. I'm sorry that uncle raped you.

I'm sorry that these two things took place.

But I'm here to tell you that if you do not heal, if you do not

understand what God's true intent was for you and accept

it, you cannot make the change for future generations in your

bloodline. But you are hearing this message

today because God says I am anointing you to make the

difference in your bloodline. I am anointing you to fight

demons that people didn't fight for you.

Yeah, Heaven is resetting the narrative for you today.

Laura, Heaven is resetting the narrative for you today.

Mark Heaven, watch this. He is refreshing memory.

He's refreshing memory all the way back.

He's about to speak to your spirit in such a way that you

remember being in the garden. There's going to be there's

going to be a witness inside of you during this series that say,

wait a minute, I, I remember, I kind of remember a place.

I, I don't, I can't describe it, but it's watch this.

Heaven is within us. If if Jesus is within you,

heaven is within you. So God is able to do a deep work

within us to call us back to the garden.

And that's called what it shows up in the form of Shalom.

Heaven is pulling you back to Eden today.

Back to design, back to intention, back to blueprint

that Hell has spent generations trying to bury.

Hell has spent generations to take you so far away from your

garden realities and you've accepted it.

Watch this and some of us will marry to have a partner to ride

the storm out with and then you marry somebody else who ain't

dealt with a trauma and y'all just re traumatizing one

another. How you going to marry somebody

that don't know they garden reality?

That's a red flag. A red flag and he didn't pay for

dinner. A red flag is he don't know

where he came from. A red flag is he don't know that

he was fearfully and wonderfully made.

A red flag is he don't know that God is a restorer and he don't

know that what the enemy That's the red flag.

A red flag is he don't know the word.

He don't know Jesus wept, that's a red flag.

He don't know on the third day he got up, that's a red flag.

Buy your own food. Treat him if he don't know

Jesus. Red flag.

Because from this day forward you will raise your children to

know that God is the Redeemer. God, He has the last say and if

we ain't in agreement that God is the way, the truth and the

life, if we ain't in agreement that he will open up a window

and pour us out a blessing. If he, if we ain't in agreement

that our children is going to be filled with the Holy Ghost, they

going to be baptized, they going to be believers, they going to

follow Jesus all the days of their life.

If we ain't in agreement then buy.

I buy my own lunchable. I don't care who my daughter

bring home. It's my job to resist the enemy.

I'm not. Oh, baby, it's OK.

No, no, no, no, no. Hell no.

No, no, no. What's this?

What's this? Because kids going to do what

they do. So I'm not going to agree with

it. No, he ain't coming in my house.

Now I'm not talking about a innocent, I'm talking about I'm

talking about like if somebody come home and and they willing

to listen. But if, if, but if if if, if you

were the man, that's. Contradicting how we raising

you? No, I'm not in agreement.

I'm cutting off the PayPal. I'm cutting off all that you,

you ain't getting no Uber Eats, none of that.

I don't know. We we, we need a sold one first.

I don't know his grand, I don't know I got to hang out with.

No, no, no, y'all don't think about that part.

Y'all have your child, have babies with them and now you got

to do Thanksgiving with that family, that family crazy.

I don't want my grandchild being babysat by that that family.

No, no, no. This is a family affair.

That's what we got to start fighting for.

This is why I understand the idea of arranged marriages.

It can be too much, but I understand.

I, I kind of understand. I'm like, I'm, I'm like, I, I'm

not going to do that, but I'm arrange a little bit.

I'm going to make a few arrangements in the shoot.

I'd rather arrange a wedding than a funeral.

Amen. Hallelujah.

All right, that that name wasn't even in this, in the, it wasn't

in the message. It's in my spirit though.

Amen. Yeah, this is not nostalgic,

guys. This is this is this is

revelation. Today God is saying to his

children, let me show you family, the family you were

always meant to carry, always meant to lead, always meant to

build and always meant to birth the family God intended is

today's Part 1 of family manners.

Generation to generation. We will talk about generational

healing. We're going to talk about we're

going to look in the Bible some areas where the father avoided

some battles. Watch this any any battle

avoided in a bloodline can lead to someone's life in the

bloodline, meaning death. We we will look at the

perversion in the Bible in families, right?

Yeah. How you get Ishmael and Isaac

impatient. So you going to create your own

family, not the one that God designed?

Hope you all ready man. The family that God intended.

There are three types of family. Somebody say 3.

Number one, the family you came from.

The family you came from, come on, even if you don't feel like

it, say Lord, thank you for the family you gave me yes,

Hallelujah. Some of y'all had trouble saying

that, but Amen. There's that.

We won't restore that today. Watch this because God, God, God

is using the family you was raised in for your story.

The family you came from watch this.

You came from something. Hallelujah.

You came from something, but you are not confined to it.

So you may have came from that family, but you're not confined

to that family. That This is why I wanted to

take the limits. Off of what you think your

future looks like based on the limitations your family had.

No, no, no, no. God's going to do greater,

better, take it further, wiser. You are the interruption of

stagnation in your bloodline. Hear me out.

You came from something, but you are not confined by it.

The family you came from. Watch this.

Imperfect. Yep, pattern formative.

Marked by both blessing and broken.

This is what people don't understand.

Although your family is broken, they are also marked by

blessing. OK, it's like the wells we

talked about Sunday. There is blessing in your

raggedy family. Guess what you got to do though?

Dig. You might just be called to be

the digger in your bloodline, but there is inheritance in your

family. There is goodness in your

family. Circumstances didn't allow Mama

and daddy, grandma or grandpa to do certain things, but now

you're aware. You got more knowledge, you got

more tools, you got more resources.

Now you got to dig to restore what God had planned for your

bloodline. I know no matter what my dad

life turned out to be, that was not God's design for my father.

So whatever the enemy stole from my father, I am going to make

sure it comes back to me and move forward to my children.

And that's what you got to see. For whatever reason, addiction,

whatever it may be, what God planned for your family is still

belongs to your family. Will you be the one to dig to

restore? Every family was blessed from

the beginning. So you're like man, mental

illness then wrecked my family. Watch this Kick It Out.

Because that wasn't God's design for your family.

You are the believer, you are the anointed 1.

You are the filled with the spirit 1.

And you can make a difference from this point forward.

This is the year that God rewrites the family story for

you. This is the year that God

rewrites the family story for you.

Come on, tell your neighbor. This is the year that God

rewrites the family story for you.

I'm gonna say it again. This is the year that God

rewrites the family story for you.

It's supposed to it's supposed to come up there.

It's supposed to come up. Is it the year that God rewrites

the family story for you? Come on, lift your hands and

until until the screen change is it.

This is the year that God rewrites the family story for

you. You see what you making these

people do? Why y'all raising your hand?

That pro presenter, there we go. Amen.

Hallelujah. They over there, right?

Now push the button. You're going there.

No, no. Amen.

Watch this. Here it is.

I got proof. I got proof.

I will restore or replace for you the years that the locust

has eaten, the hopping locusts, the stripping locusts, and the

crawling locusts. My great army, which I sent

among you, watch these. These locusts represent fruit

eaters. They have ate up your fruit that

belongs to you. And God says what I will

restore, Say he will restore. Number two.

Number two. You ready for this?

The second family is the family you create.

Watch this. Say I love the family I'm

creating. Amen.

The family you create. Watch this.

You got to get it. Every decision you make today

becomes the culture your children inherit tomorrow.

They don't. Watch this.

Your kids do not inherit decisions, they inherit culture.

You made the decision that started culture in your

household. Sheesh.

The family you create, your marriage, your children, your

decisions. Watch this and your household

habits. Watch this.

It is me and my wife fault that our kids stay up really late at

night time. So kudos to all the families

that go to bed at 7:00 and everybody laying in bed till 10

with their eyes open because it's just what time we go to

bed. Amen.

I listen. Our family, we we stay up late.

Bad habit. Good habit.

I don't know. I don't know.

There's people with amazing discipline turn out to be serial

killers. I don't, I can't.

I don't. I don't know.

You choose. Ain't no ain't no pattern.

It's your household. It's your household.

So stop. Don't, don't look, watch this.

Don't demonize families that don't do it.

How you do it right. I get it.

I get it. I'm going to say this in the

next 30. Why your kids?

I just awesome. Your kids eat nothing but

vegetables and drink water. Our kids eat chips.

Sometime don't demonize my kids because they eat chips and

sometime they eat healthy candy. OK, every household is

different, but I'll, I'll be at fault.

We, we, we, yeah. We, we stay up late.

We stay up late. We stay up late.

And we working on it. We've been working on it for

some years now, but we working on it.

Watch this. Your habits, your language, your

prayer life, your forgiveness, your forgiveness patterns create

a spiritual ecosystem. Am I talking to anybody today?

yo-yo kids watch. The other day my our kids was

teasing me and my wife and it was like y'all always laughing.

Yo. That's the part of the

ecosystem. We be playing with each other.

We flirt with each other and and and and and it just come an age.

But before my wife would be like stop it now we just old enough

to where it's like whatever, right?

It's a family. What is the sounds your kids

hear? What is the body language they

see? Do they see?

We notice when they we notice when daddy show Mama affection.

We notice when Mama show daddy affection.

Oh, we heard Mama and Daddy arguing.

Oh, but we saw daddy, we heard dad apologize, we heard mom

apologize. We didn't just hear mom and dad

yelling at each other. We actually heard them repent.

Oh, man, mom and dad used to go at each other throat.

Whoa, five years later. Wow, you guys.

Oh, they saw that they're they have hope that no matter what it

started like it ain't got to end up that way, right.

It's the family you create and you think they don't know

because they babies. No impartation.

Impartation. What kind of family are you

creating? The family you create this

family. Watch this.

This family reflects your stewardship.

Watch this. Be careful you can raise

insecure children. Watch this.

Some of the stuff you spank your kids about and point your finger

in their face and put them on time out about is because they

doing you. Some of the arguments you're

going to get with in with your kids is going to because you see

you and I just I asked you to do this just one time, one time

when you are disciplining your child for something you showed

them. I want you to repent for passing

that on to them. It is spank yourself and don't

ever do it again. Watch this.

Declare this with me, my house. Will.

Carry the aroma of heaven. Look at your neighbors.

Say no more stanky days. No more stanky days.

Hallelujah, like how hero passed that on like all nations.

When you say tell your neighbor, you more than likely are saying

something to somebody that really don't understand certain

things. I saw hero look over there and

she just she just looked her. She said no more stanky days,

right. If that was Grace or somebody to

see me like no more stanky days girl.

She like no more stanky days. Art pastor, our pastor.

Amen. Let my prayer be as the evening

sacrifice that burns like fragrant incense, rising as my

offering to you as I lift up my hands in surrendered worship.

May our family, may our house be a sweet Savior to your nostrils,

Lord, and #3 the family that God intended.

All you good note takers, what's the first family?

The family you was born into, The family you came from #2 was

the family you create. And then #3 very important.

Stop asking God to bless dysfunction.

Ask him to rebuild design. No, no no, some of us probably

could have some turn around in our families if we just went

with how it was meant to be versus asking God to put Cologne

or deodorant on stamp, right? We're asking God to bless areas

we're not. Willing to do the work to change

right understand any get any change God makes you got a house

it. So if you're not willing to

house the change, don't ask for the change.

Hallelujah the family that God intended.

Families thrive not because they are perfect, but because they

are aligned. Am I helping somebody?

Your families don't try to have a perfect family.

Watch this and stop hating on other families.

Promise you the IG families you see.

The family they not on, we might be the family that's not on

Instagram, It's the marriage that's not on Instagram.

The family that God intended is covenant centered.

It is identity aware, it is spirit LED.

It is generationally aligned built.

For greatness and built for purpose.

This is the family heaven designed by the Spirit, not by

trauma. The family that God intended was

not built by trauma. Watch this.

This is your declaration. We return to the blueprint of

God. Come on, say today, we return to

the blueprint of God. Now here we go.

Genesis 1. God created human beings.

He created them, God like reflecting God's nature.

He created them mail and what one more time He created them.

God blessed them. God did what blessed them.

He didn't say God blessed him. The blessing was on them, not

him. God blessed them.

Prosper, reproduce, feel the earth, take charge, be

responsible for fish in the sea and birds in the air, for every

living thing that moves on the face of the earth.

Watch this you guys. Made in His image and in His

likeness. The family is the foundational

unit of society. The family.

There is no better world without better families.

The plan of the enemy is to create a bunch of independent

spirited people and we were never made to be that way.

We need each other in his image next slide.

This thing is lagging. In his image identity was

transmitted when he says let us make man in our image.

Identity was transmitted through lineage, Legacy was secured

through offspring, and blessing was preserved through covenant

continuity. Understand.

Identity was transmitted through lineage.

Here it is. Take a daddy out the house, I

don't know who I am, part of me. Take a Mama out of the house.

I don't know who I am, part of me.

So I spent a lot of my years trying to find who I am as a

woman, as a man. And here humanity is because we

have not stewarded identity in the bloodline.

Watch this. This is one of the greatest

things I've learned since I moved here.

Now, some of you may not see this because this is your

homeland, but I grew up in a place in North America where you

raise your kids to be whatever they want to be.

And when they're 18, you put them out or that's when you're

selling them. It's time to get out, go in the

world, spend 4 years at least in college and pick up a bunch of

bad habits. Come home, go to church,

worship, have a good time, go back out there, figure it out,

date, do what you want to do, figure it out.

We got you home is safe and as good as you got that place.

But why is that the plan? And then I came to this country

and I see these big old houses, we'd like 3-4 generations living

in one house, not stacked up on top of each other.

But there's a, there's a, there's a, there's a quarter for

everybody. You got the, you got like 4

generations in one property and they taking care of each other

and they're taking care of grandma and they're taking care

of parents and the kids is helping with the family business

and they're investing in the property.

And then they're handing on tools as they're doing family

together. And for us, we push each other

out. And before we know it, Troy,

everybody in our family got a different plan.

They're raising a different house.

And then you go visit your grandkids with and your and your

daughter or your or your son, and you go over there for

Thanksgiving and you like what's going on here?

And that's what's happening. Then we teach our kids, you go

to this church and you go to that church.

You go here and you go there. Instead of teaching our kids to

learn how to be rooted, to be rooted in relationship, to

contend for love, contend for unity, to have the hard

conversations. Before we know it, our

grandkids. Is and watch this.

We respect each other. But what God intended for the

family has been lost in translation.

No, you go get that education and you you get out there and be

all you can not look at these other families.

I'm like, whoa, they're actually planning generationally, not

hoping generationally. And so for me, how I raised my

children now, man, it changed my mind.

Said that's why my wife is out there with Malachi.

That's why when he go away to college, we going to be right

there too. Some would say, oh, he going to

be soft for that. No, he ain't.

So tell me how it's worked out for those who didn't have the

support who didn't have went men in the beautiful right after a

game. If his heart meant the

conversations I'm able to have with my kids because he see I'm

a safe place and his Mama safe place.

We having some for real conversations.

Whoa, like for real watch this. I was somebody who who didn't

have a dad to talk to after the game when I had panic attack, I

didn't have a dad to tell me to lead me to show me the worship,

to show me how the family bloodline doing.

I didn't I didn't have that. But then we just like are afraid

because somehow culture has made us feel like if we if we do this

with our kids, it's harmful. No watch this.

The world is going to teach them enough.

They have school 6 hours a day. What you think they learning?

You think they learning what you want them to learn?

They they watching watch take their phones.

Guess what they looking at their friends phones watch this.

If your kids are under 13, they probably had access and seen

porn already and we don't want to do this.

No, spanking ain't the answer. They're exposed to it.

It's a different time. Your kid will see it if they got

a phone and if they got friends with phones and you can watch

this. You cannot get them a phone

today, 35 years old. Guess what?

They got friends. They got phones at 12.

But we're not contending. We're loose with family.

We're not guarding God's plan for bloodline.

Watch this. He's the God of Abraham.

He's the God of Isaac. He's the God of watch this.

Why would God repeat the covenant blessing to multiple

generations? The same 1.

He spoke to Abraham, he speaks to Isaac, the same one.

Why is God not switching the plan?

Why is God not switching? The lineage plan.

No, David, I asked you to build the temple.

Your son's going to build it, though.

I gave you the vision. Your son's going to build it.

But the way we do family in North America, this is Watch

this. The strength of the church is

being impacted with who we plant, who we pass the church

off to. You cannot build a family beyond

the image you carry. Hallelujah.

I need a sprinkler system up here, A water slide or

something. You give me a water slide or

something, Y'all tripping. Amen.

Hallelujah, No, we good, we good, we good.

I like sweating. I'm losing calories at the same

time, it's good. Don't be skinty after this he

says, and God bless them. Is that not what he say?

And God bless them. What does this mean?

And God bless them to empower, to speak into existence, to

authorize the he authorized you to prosper.

What are you doing in your family, Lily?

What are you doing? Like watch this.

Stop waiting for them lead the way.

You have been authorized to prosper.

The blessing is not emotional affirmation.

It is spiritual empowerment. Somebody say I'm blessed and God

said be fruitful. Is that not what he said?

What does that mean? To produce, grow and become

fertile? Watch this.

This is very important. This is not about reproduction.

When he says to multiply, it's not mere, oh, half a bunch of

babies. No, he's saying spread

influence. Influence must multiply from

your family. I just declare over you, over

you, you're blessed in the city, you're blessed in the field,

you're blessed coming in, you're blessed going out.

You're the head and not the tail.

You're, you're above and not beneath your lender, not the

borrower. In the name of Jesus, shout out,

My family is blessed. We'll end here at #6 We good.

The Lord bless you and watch, guard and keep you.

The Lord make His face to shine upon you and enlighten you, and

be gracious, kind, merciful, and giving favor to you.

The Lord lift up His approving countenance upon you and give

you peace, tranquility of heart and life continually and they

shall put my name upon the Israelites.

Watch this and I will bless them.

The scripture, the song says the Lord bless you Barack.

This is blessing is not comfort is blessing is capacity for the

Lord to bless you. He is bringing increase to your

family, to your bloodline to bless the Lord.

Bless. You.

To empower for success, fruitfulness and life.

Watch this. To empower for success.

Fruitfulness. And life as I was getting ready

this I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah. What God has called my family to

do we going to do it Yeah, like now we going to prosper.

We're breaking the spirit of poverty.

We're breaking these limitations.

We're breaking divorce. No, no, not just marriage that

tolerate but man my sons in the name of Jesus going to have fun

with their wives. They going to love their wives.

They going to get married once they going to be affectionate

with their children. They they going to communicate

clearly? No.

Yeah, we're a blessed to be fruitful, to be a family of

influence. To guard, he says to keep watch

this Lord bless you and Lord what keep you, The Lord bless

you. So he's taking.

He's saying I'm going to bless you.

This is my blessing. And then he says the Lord keep

you. This is my keeping.

What does that mean? To guard, watch over, preserve,

hedge and protect. Ain't no way your family's

supposed to walk around not knowing that the Lord is with

y'all. No, you talk to a a a a son,

daughter. Guess what, man, it's the legion

of angels. I told my son the other day, I

say, hey, when you go out on that court, I know you playing

against the top player in the country, but guess what?

You know how many angels with you, buddy?

You do you know what upper hand you got?

There's some guys out there that's just out there by

themselves and they talent. But boy, you, you, you want the

top players in the country and you got angels with you.

You better go out there like you got angels with you.

Not you ain't just put in the work.

You also know somebody that knows somebody that knows

somebody. Yeah, the the angels, when we

when we fly, you're going to be aware.

There's angels that are following your family, that is

covering your family, that's protecting your family.

Your family is favored by God. That's an awareness that needs

so your daughters, so your, your sons and so your family is not

out there looking for affirmation in these other

places. And if they do, they do.

But guess what? It's not going to be because you

didn't teach them. Some attack is because of

ignorance. Some attack is because you know.

So now because you know, Troy, I need to get you to not believe

what you know because I messed up and let you know.

This means that my family is meant to be kept by God.

Watch this, not by resources. My family is meant to be kept by

God. Not about trauma, not about

walls, He says. May His face shine upon you.

What does that mean? That means nothing is distant

from God. That means access, favor,

relational nearness, nothing hidden.

He's always with you. And then lastly and give you

peace. I mean, you could live in a

chaotic house, but the question is, can you be that beacon of

peace in your house? Can you be a peacemaker?

Or are you carrier of anxiety and worry and worried about

money? You're worried about this and

you're worried about that. Just know that in the beginning,

His plan for your family was peace, wholeness, integration,

stability. Nothing missing, nothing broken

was the Father's plan for you. Nothing missing, nothing broken

was the Father's plan for you. In the name of Jesus, I just

declare every area of your family that God's design is

restored. Every area of blessing that you

forgot, God is restoring memory. Every structure built by fear,

by trauma, every survival mechanism, every leaning on

human wisdom be dismantled in the name of Jesus.

And May God original design of heaven be restored within your

household. Today we plead the blood of

Jesus. We re establish the bloodline

around your address, around your household, around your family,

around your mind. And we declare that death has no

power over your household. Disease has no access to your

household. No identity formed out of

rejection will stand, no pattern birthed out of brokenness will

remain. And no false version of you will

survive this moment. And God is restoring you back to

the image that He breathed in the name of Jesus.

I speak alignment over your family.

I speak alignment over your children.

I speak alignment over your marriage.

I speak alignment over your employment.

I speak alignment over your dreams.

I speak alignment over your thought life.

I speak alignment over your habits.

I speak alignment in the name of Jesus and everything that is not

of him. Be broken and loose now in the

name of Jesus. I speak restoration over your

bloodline now in the name of Jesus.

In the name of Jesus, every area you have been disappointed by

family, you've been. Hurt.

You've been bruised, you've been abused, you've been you've been

cheated on, you've been lied to, you've been manipulated.

You've been emotionally taken advantage of.

Every area where you have been your your your father, instead

of being kind and loving and tender with you, used

intimidation on you. Forgive him.

Forgive her in the name of Jesus.

You are not a timid little boy. I come against the rage that was

birthed through your father's abuse and anger and emotional

manipulation. I come against it.

Now, in the name of Jesus, I come against the trauma of rape

and molestation. In the name of Jesus and I

declare that you were fearfully and wonderfully made.

You were created and thought of whole.

In the name of Jesus, you were thought of and created with

nothing missing, nothing broken but wholeness in every area of

your life. I declare forgiveness becomes

your reality towards your mother, towards your father,

towards your uncle, towards your coworker, towards towards

government officials. I just I declare that trust in

authority figures that God have ordained will be restored in the

name of Jesus. I declare patience be restored.

I declare fear loses momentum in the name of Jesus.

I declare intimidation loses its grip in the name of Jesus.

I declare poor self identification loses its grip.

I declare confidence rises up now in the name of Jesus.

I declare Jesus becomes your portion.

I declare the blessing of the Lord that makes rich becomes

your portion. I declare every generational

curse be broken now in the name of Jesus.

From abuse, from addiction, from pharmakeia, be broken in the

name of Jesus. Sexual immorality be broken in

the name of Jesus. Fear be broken in the name of

Jesus. In the name of Jesus, take your

hands off of that son. Take your hand off of that

daughter. In the name of Jesus, delayed

purpose. In the name of Jesus, be broken.

Now you are called. You are called by God.

You are anointed by God in the name of Jesus.

They might have forgot about you, they might have talked down

to you, they might have walked out of your life.

But in the name of Jesus, fear not, for the Lord did not give

you the spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.

In the mighty name of Jesus. You are anointed to prosper.

You are anointed to go. You are anointed to speak.

I declare where you have lost your voice, your voice be

restored in the name of Jesus. You have a voice, you are

confident, you are bold. Every religious spirit be broken

off of you, every political spirit be broken off of you in

the name of Jesus. You may have been sexually

abused, but you will not reoffend.

You will not hurt someone how you've been a hurt.

This is that year for you. You may have experienced

fatherlessness, but you will be a father for your children.

Fear not, you will be a husband to your wife.

Fear not, may not have a good relationship with your dad but

with your mom, but you can't trust those that God has put in

your life, Paul says. We have many teachers, very few

fathers, very few. And I will say that's one thing

the church is missing and that's one thing the enemy is fighting.

He just wants the church to be full of teachers and pastors.

But where's the fathers in the body of Christ?

Where's the spiritual parents in the body of Christ?

Because biological parents, you can only do so much, so long.

But my, my children besides me need spiritual covering.

They, they need spiritual aunties and uncles.

They need a spiritual family. Your spiritual family is not

there to fill. Holes.

That your parents left. No, no, no, no, no.

They're there to call you higher.

They're there to call you the purpose.

They're there to bring healing in your life.

Where, where, where, Where Your wholeness was broken.

So, Lord, I thank you that people that are wandering will

not just find churches, they will not just find programs,

they will not, but they will find their spiritual family.

Lord, strengthen the Church of British Columbia.

Strengthen the Church of Canada with spiritual authority,

spiritual covering, spiritual parents, strong spiritual

families, stronger than than programs, Lord, stronger than

systems. We need families in the church.

We thank you. We need families that show the

world how to hang in there and fight and love unconditionally.

Families that communicate well. I declare the enemy.

Your enemies are defeated, your enemies are defeated, your

family is restored. And if it just has to start with

you, I declare you are anointed to be the pioneer.

Look to some people yesterday around the table and I said,

man, we're the first generation of what we're doing right now.

So I know you can't find the strategy, you can't find the

blueprint. You're mad that somebody didn't

show you, but you're the first generation.

You are a pioneer, son, daughter, you are a pioneer.

You are anointed to start it. You are anointed to figure it

out. You are anointed to push through

disappointment. For God is doing a new thing in

the earth as He prepares His bride to come home.

Father, forgive us where we did not steward family.

Forgive us where we were not disciplined as a family where

you needed us disciplined. Forgive us where we gave our

children passes, where you called us to draw the line.

Forgive us for just being friends when they needed

parents. Forgive us.

Father, You've created boundaries in our lives.

You've disciplined us because you said you discipline knows

that you love. So Lord, may your church be a

beacon of light and community to restore family.

The reason why there's so much liberty to re identify family.

Is because the church may not be doing the greatest job to show

the world what family looks like.

We're just as divorced. We're just as running from

confrontation. Who are we?

You can't be anointed to break people free from something that

is holding you. How are we going to show the

world how to have the hard conversation if we don't want to

have it when there's healing in this room?

For some of you, it has to start with forgiveness.

Some of you you forgave, but you just don't know how to let go.

I will tell you that memories are not a sign that you're not

healed. You can remember and still be

healed. You can remember and still be

strong. You can remember and still be

whole. Watch this.

Jesus told us the love, guard proximity, family, friends, it

don't matter who it is. Guard proximity.

The reason why you got to create boundaries so that cycles can

die, calluses can fall off and moving forward with you.

Watch this. You're not just creating

boundaries for you, but you're creating boundaries so things

don't bleed into the next generation.

So lift your hands all over the room.

And as we sing this song together, let's have one thing

in mind. Let's be unified.

Let's be in faith that every family in here, and I know I'm

in Canada, there are people that are living in this country and

your family living across the world and you're believing for

your family. But I don't want you to be so in

pain for your family that you're not aware that God's doing a new

thing through you so that those that come after you will not

have to experience the same trauma you experienced.

You're not identified by your trauma.

Your parents experienced abuse. Your parents, some of us men,

our parents, all of us, our parents didn't know better.

Today we're just going to believe the best because that's

what love does. And we're just going to say,

God, my parents did their best. They did what they knew how.

And today I released them to you, Lord.

Lord, those are my dad is your son.

My mom is your mom. I mean your daughter.

Lord, I released them to you today.

I long I no longer carry that burden.

Lift your hands, sons and daughters, all over the room and

allow the Lord to minister to you.

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