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Inked Part 4 | How Can I Forgive? with Chris Schlotterbeck

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  39. before we jump into our final talk of our series

  40. called Inked and be discussing different tattoos

  41. from our partners, I just felt inclined that

  42. we open in prayer and ask God to come. Come and

  43. search our hearts. So Holy Spirit, come. God,

  44. we're just thankful for this day. We're thankful

  45. for Memorial Day weekend to kick off the summer,

  46. God. We just ask that your hand would be upon

  47. every word that I speak, God. May they be your

  48. words, not mine. And more importantly, open our

  49. hearts and our minds to receive all that you

  50. have for us, God. May we leave this place changed.

  51. May we leave this place better than when we came

  52. in. In Jesus' name, amen. All right, so about

  53. a year and a half ago, while doing laundry, that's

  54. right, laundry, like a normal Monday morning,

  55. I was switching the wet clothes from the washer

  56. to the dryer so that they could dry. And suddenly,

  57. in doing so, my back locked up, and I found myself

  58. on my hands and knees for about 10 minutes in

  59. excruciating pain. As I slowly began to sit up,

  60. trying to figure out what I did that would have

  61. caused so much pain and discomfort, I never figured

  62. it out. But just like Chris, I went on about

  63. my day and just pushed through. I approached

  64. this back injury like I do most everything in

  65. my life. I can handle the pain, and eventually,

  66. you know something? It's just going to get better.

  67. The problem is, it never got better. The discomfort

  68. moved from my back, down my leg, into my foot,

  69. and to this day still affects my everyday life.

  70. Eight months after the injury, yes, I'm hard

  71. -headed, I finally went to the doctor because

  72. I tried physical therapy, a chiropractor, and

  73. stretch after stretch after stretch. An MRI soon

  74. revealed that I had a disc bulge that hit up

  75. against nerves down in the lower part of my back.

  76. I'm happy to report that the disc seems to have

  77. returned to normal and my back is strong, but

  78. nerves can take up to two years to fully heal

  79. if they ever heal at all. Now, I find myself

  80. struggling with a past hurt that still hurts.

  81. I find myself struggling with a past hurt that

  82. still hurts. And I can't walk in the freedom

  83. to do everything that I want to do every single

  84. day. Before the injury, I ran my first half marathon.

  85. Since the injury, I've only been able to walk

  86. because jogging or running is very difficult

  87. when your right foot is partially numb. You don't

  88. know exactly where it's going to hit or where

  89. it's going to land. I don't have the freedom

  90. to do everything that I want to do because I

  91. am struggling with a past hurt that still hurts.

  92. Well, here's the reality, HTV. Our minds and

  93. our souls are very similar to this injury. See,

  94. we can experience all of this while having one

  95. of the best days of our life. Picture it. Everything's

  96. going right. We're smiling. We're happy. We're

  97. full of energy. And then suddenly, out of nowhere,

  98. we hear something. And we go from being real

  99. happy to real sad in the split second. We can

  100. hear someone's name mentioned and our day is

  101. ruined. We can see a post on social media or

  102. read a comment and our memory is triggered. We

  103. hear about an event, we drive by a place, we

  104. listen to a song, and all of a sudden we go from

  105. real happy to real sad. And we're left wondering,

  106. what just happened? Well, those instances are

  107. called triggers. And those triggers remind us

  108. that we have a past hurt, That still hurts. And

  109. that pain hasn't been dealt with correctly because

  110. it still hurts. The song we listened to, it wasn't

  111. that big of a deal. What that person said to

  112. us was not worth ruining in our day or our week.

  113. See, these instances were not where the injury

  114. happened. They just triggered the emotion that

  115. reminded us that a past hurt that is still hurting

  116. today. And if that past hurt is hurting, we can't

  117. walk in the freedom that God wants us to walk

  118. in. And this is where we find ourselves as I

  119. share our first tattoo. Let's take a look. Amber

  120. writes, I got this tattoo to cover up the one

  121. I originally got for my oldest daughter who was

  122. adopted. It was done by a street artist and I

  123. chose to cover it with flowers that represent

  124. multiple loved ones. The forget -me -nots are

  125. for my daughter but also my foster mother who

  126. never forgot me even when I made it very hard

  127. to love me. The roses are for my grandmother

  128. that I never got to see after I went into the

  129. system. See, she called CPS on my mother. Her

  130. actions both saved me and caused me terrible

  131. heartache. Her favorite song was The Rose. The

  132. roses are also for my mom whose favorite color

  133. is purple. I loved her and forgave her a long

  134. time ago. She did the best she could and has

  135. overcome many hardships. The sunflowers are for

  136. my great -grandmother. I miss her dearly. She

  137. and my grandmother created the best memories

  138. I have before going into the system. This tattoo

  139. is a reminder of people I not only love, but

  140. whose stories are important. Those stories are

  141. a part of where I've been and what God's brought

  142. me through. So as I was reading that testimony

  143. from Amber, I began to reflect on the pain and

  144. the experiences that all of us have as we walk

  145. through this journey called life. We are a broken

  146. people living in a broken world. And as we interact

  147. with one another, chances are hurts and pains

  148. are going to result. But quite often what happens

  149. is we get hurt and we don't deal with it. Because

  150. it's too painful or we don't know what to do.

  151. Then that hurt, unfortunately, turns to anger.

  152. Then that anger over time turns to bitterness.

  153. And then bitterness turns into what the Bible

  154. refers to as a hardened heart. And this hardened

  155. heart changes the way we live. It changes our

  156. insecurities, how we interact with people. It

  157. changes who we let into our life. And it changes

  158. who we trust and how we treat others. Have you

  159. ever lost it and snapped on someone and then

  160. 24 hours later you're like, that was completely

  161. an overreaction. Then as we reflect, we realize,

  162. well, they didn't show us the respect that we

  163. deserved or we didn't feel valued. And they touched

  164. on something or triggered something from our

  165. past causing this sharp response over a hurt

  166. that we experienced years ago. It's that hurt.

  167. that still hurts, and it changes who we are as

  168. people. And God says, I don't want you to live

  169. that way anymore. I don't want you to explode

  170. on people. See, those past hurts keep us from

  171. responding to the call that God has on our lives.

  172. He keeps us from walking in the peace, the love,

  173. the joy, and the confidence that God wants us

  174. to walk in. See, God has a prescription for our

  175. past hurts, which leads us to our first thought.

  176. See, forgiveness is... freedom. Forgiveness equals

  177. freedom. Let's read Ephesians 4, 31 to 32. Get

  178. rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words,

  179. and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

  180. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted,

  181. and here it is, forgiving one another, just as

  182. God through Christ has forgiven you. See, the

  183. great physician says, if you want To go through

  184. the process of healing wounds, I have the answer

  185. for you. It's called forgiveness. See, we know

  186. that just trying to walk out forgiveness, it's

  187. a painful process. But I believe it's a process

  188. that is worth it. And not only that, it's one

  189. that's commanded. Look at Colossians 3, 12 to

  190. 13. Since God chose you to be the holy people

  191. he loves, you must close yourselves with a tenderhearted

  192. mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

  193. Make allowance for each other's faults and forgive

  194. anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave

  195. you, so you must forgive others. And I get it.

  196. This is a difficult subject. Some of you are

  197. thinking, Chris, it's the kickoff of summer.

  198. Forgiveness? Really? Because I know as soon as

  199. I mention that whole word, some of us get defensive.

  200. Emotions can even... In fact, some of you are

  201. so wounded, you know, so hurt that when someone

  202. even mentions the word forgiveness, you want

  203. to throw it out and fight. You're like, I'm not

  204. going there. I've tried. It's too hard. It's

  205. too painful. You don't know what I've been through.

  206. And I don't. I don't know all the pain you've

  207. experienced in this life. I understand that you've

  208. been through painful and traumatic circumstances.

  209. And I want to acknowledge that. In fact, just

  210. this week. I was accused in an email to Little

  211. League International that I don't care about

  212. children. I only care about winning. And this

  213. is a direct quote from that email that was sent

  214. to Little League International. He should be

  215. in jail with how he runs that Little League.

  216. It's disgusting, despicable behavior. So when

  217. receiving that email from Little League International,

  218. I understand that situations happen to everyone.

  219. In fact, I was attacked for simply serving our

  220. community and making it a better place. And you

  221. know what happened in my heart? I became angry.

  222. I became upset because all those claims are unjustified

  223. because little Johnny wasn't batting second and

  224. playing every inning. And because little Johnny

  225. wasn't batting second or playing every inning,

  226. mom got upset. I get it, but I'm human. I became

  227. angry. By Wednesday morning, my workout routine

  228. was not normal. It was actually full of rage.

  229. Probably one of the best workouts I've had all

  230. year. Because my character had been attacked

  231. for no good reason. But I am coming out the other

  232. end realizing that this was a simple lesson that

  233. God was trying to teach me about forgiveness.

  234. And he wanted me to walk right through it. And

  235. I believe that God wants all of us to do the

  236. same this morning. I believe that's not an accident

  237. that you're here. I believe that God wants to

  238. highlight different areas of your life where

  239. unforgiveness reigns so that you can walk out

  240. of this place free and whole. Why? Because God

  241. has a better life for us. He wants for us to

  242. walk in freedom and forgiveness. And that only

  243. happens when we deal with the bitterness, rage,

  244. anger, harsh words. And slander. Which leads

  245. us to our action steps. The forgiveness process.

  246. And notice I said it's a process. Because there

  247. are times. When things happen to us. When situations

  248. happen to us. And we respond. And it's not a

  249. big deal. We forgive. It was an event. It happened.

  250. We move on. But for those deep wounds. Like when

  251. someone leaves and we're abandoned. or someone

  252. abuses or neglects or hurts us to the point where

  253. there's trauma, forgiving those wounds is not

  254. an event, it's a process. A process of working

  255. through the pain, and we have to allow God in

  256. to do the work which leads to freedom. We have

  257. our first step, and that's we have to acknowledge

  258. the pain. See, acknowledging the pain is essential

  259. to the healing process. Because when we hold

  260. on to unforgiveness, you know what's produced?

  261. Anxiety. Upon anxiety, upon anxiety. See, the

  262. pain from those experiences fester and they begin

  263. to come out from the inside out. Meaning the

  264. pain of the unforgiveness that we feel on the

  265. inside works its way into our everyday lives.

  266. In other words, stress. Worry. Anxiety. And that's

  267. why it's so important to list the different pain

  268. and grievances that we've experienced when God

  269. brings them to light. We have to acknowledge

  270. the different people that have hurt us over the

  271. years. And I want to encourage you, this is a

  272. process. And it happens as God highlights the

  273. different aspects of pain that we struggle with

  274. through the years. Until we acknowledge and face

  275. the pain in our life, listen, you're not going

  276. to be able to forgive it. We can't pretend there

  277. isn't pain there. For some of us, we just put

  278. our head down, we move on. And I get it. That's

  279. quite often what I do. I deal with the pain,

  280. it will go away. But to experience freedom, we

  281. have to acknowledge the pain, face it, feel it,

  282. and then forgive it. And the best example that

  283. I've found in the Bible of acknowledging pain

  284. in our life is the story of Joseph. Joseph is

  285. a story where we could find a person that would

  286. struggle with this forgiveness process. The people

  287. who were supposed to protect Joseph, his older

  288. brothers, they abused him. They were jealous

  289. because they thought he was dad's favorite. So

  290. one day they just sold him into slavery. They

  291. were going to kill him, but they thought, no,

  292. that's too much. We'll just sell him and allow

  293. him to be a slave. He was taken as a slave to

  294. a foreign country as a kid and would spend year

  295. after year after year of his life in slavery

  296. or in prison. While the brothers went home and

  297. told dad, oh, he died. An animal killed him.

  298. So this would be a person that has every reason

  299. to hold on to bitterness and unforgiveness. Now,

  300. I can't get into the whole story. I'm going to

  301. encourage you to read it this week in the book

  302. of Genesis. But God does this miraculous work

  303. in Joseph's life. And while he was a slave, while

  304. he was in prison, he suddenly became the second

  305. most powerful man in all of Egypt. And then many

  306. years later, there's a famine everywhere. So

  307. the people have to go to Egypt to get food to

  308. stay alive. And Pharaoh puts Joseph in charge

  309. of all that food. So Joseph's brothers, the very

  310. ones who sold him into slavery, now have to come

  311. and beg for food for their families to remain

  312. alive. With this background, we're about to watch

  313. Joseph enter into the forgiveness process. Now

  314. remember, Joseph, he's been holding it all together.

  315. He's now a powerful individual. He's running

  316. the entire country of Egypt. He's got a large

  317. staff. He can't be weak. He can't allow the past

  318. to haunt him, to take him down. Thinking he's

  319. past that pain, we read this in Genesis 45, 1

  320. through 2 and 4. Joseph could stand it no longer.

  321. There were many people in the room, and he said

  322. to his attendants, out, all of you. So he was

  323. alone with his brothers when he told them who

  324. he was. Then he broke down and wept. He wept

  325. so loudly the Egyptians could hear him, and word

  326. of it quickly carried to Pharaoh's palace. Please,

  327. come closer, he said to them. So they came closer,

  328. and he said again, I am Joseph, your brother,

  329. whom you sold into slavery in Egypt. Now, quite

  330. often, those verses are quickly moved past to

  331. one of the more famous verses in the Bible, Genesis

  332. 50, 20, that reads, you intended to harm me,

  333. but God intended it all for good. He brought

  334. me to this position so I could save the lives

  335. of many people. Hopeful, meaningful. And as people,

  336. we want to gravitate to that verse. But just

  337. five chapters before, this is the first time

  338. we find Joseph acknowledging the pain in his

  339. life. Joseph was weeping and wailing so loud

  340. as he enters this first step of the forgiveness

  341. process that it was heard houses away. The word

  342. traveled all the way to Pharaoh that his second

  343. in charge was in pain. And see, Joseph began

  344. to face it. He began to feel it. Why? So he could

  345. forgive it. We can't forgive what we don't acknowledge,

  346. which leads us to our next tattoo. Let's take

  347. a look. Tina writes, In the quiet moments of

  348. reflection, I often find myself drawn to the

  349. tattoo that adorns my arm, a vivid emblem of

  350. my journey through darkness, pain and ultimately

  351. profound healing. This tattoo is more than just

  352. ink on skin. It is a powerful symbol of survival,

  353. love and the enduring light that has guided me

  354. through the shadows of my past. Twenty years

  355. ago, I made the courageous decision to uproot

  356. my life and my children from a world filled with

  357. fear and violence. On February 14, 2005, armed

  358. with nothing but hefty trash bags and a small

  359. U -Haul truck, I embarked on a journey from Albuquerque

  360. to Hagerstown, seeking refuge from the trauma

  361. that had consumed us for nearly a decade. Each

  362. mile we traveled was an act of defiance against

  363. the darkness that had once defined our lives.

  364. My tattoo serves as a constant reminder of that

  365. journey. It features a heart beautifully drawn

  366. and anchored by intricate Celtic knots, signifying

  367. the unconditional love that surrounds us. At

  368. its center lies an infinite knot representing

  369. the boundless love that we all deserve, yet often

  370. forget to extend to ourselves. Underneath it,

  371. three simple words resonate with my spirit, I

  372. am here. This phrase holds deep significance,

  373. echoing my journey from a place of despair to

  374. one of gratitude and purpose. After leaving this

  375. abusive relationship, I find myself in a dark

  376. pit of sorrow. Just six months after I escaped,

  377. overwhelmed with pain and despair, I sought not

  378. death, but a way to feel something other than

  379. the anguish that echoed in my heart. In that

  380. moment of desperation, I slashed my wrist, not

  381. to end my life. but to cry out for repentance,

  382. forgiveness, and the ability to reconnect with

  383. my own humanity. Through the pain, I was met

  384. with a revelation. I was still here, alive and

  385. deserving of love. The act of tattooing over

  386. those scars not only transformed my narrative,

  387. but also marked the beginning of a new chapter.

  388. The heart and knots symbolize the love I have

  389. cultivated for myself, my children, and my husband,

  390. who has stood by me as an angel through the journey.

  391. This tattoo is a celebration of survival, a testament

  392. to the angels who have walked alongside me, and

  393. a reminder that healing is a journey, one that

  394. continues to unfold. In embracing this light,

  395. I have learned to see myself through a lens of

  396. love and acceptance. The scars of my past no

  397. longer haunt me. Instead, they serve as markers

  398. of resilience, strength, and beauty that can

  399. emerge from the darkness. Friends, we have to

  400. acknowledge Our pain. Which leads us to our next

  401. step. We have to surrender our right to punish.

  402. And I get it. This is a difficult step. This

  403. is a painful step. In fact, after receiving that

  404. email this week, my first response, of course,

  405. was anger. Then rage. Then I chose to forgive.

  406. But then the very next day, which would have

  407. been Thursday, I began to think, how do I make

  408. them pay for those lies? And I believe that's

  409. just how the human heart works. We want to get

  410. made up for, but then God leads me to Romans

    Romans 12:17–20

  411. chapter 12, verses 17 through 20. Never pay back

  412. evil with more evil. Do things in such a way

  413. that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all

  414. that you can to live in peace with everyone.

  415. Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that

  416. to the righteous anger of God. For the scriptures

  417. say, I will take revenge. I will pay them back,

  418. says the Lord. Instead, if your enemies are hungry,

  419. feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something

  420. to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning

  421. coals of shame on their heads. See, in real life,

  422. the forgiveness process... is a process because

  423. true forgiveness means we forgive, we release

  424. the offender or the person that hurt us from

  425. that situation. And that means we can't continue

  426. to bring it up over and over and over again,

  427. those of you that are married. We can't use it

  428. as a crutch to punish the offender or others

  429. that hurt us. We must remember that forgiveness

  430. is about freedom for us first and then for others.

  431. Now please understand, forgiveness is not justifying

  432. their actions. Forgiveness is not saying what

  433. a person did to us is okay. It's not okay that

  434. you abandoned us. It's not okay that you hurt

  435. me. It's not okay that you lied. It's not okay

  436. that you abused. My forgiving you doesn't justify

  437. those actions. Forgiveness is not letting someone

  438. off the hook. In fact, forgiveness is not a guarantee

  439. for reconciliation. Forgiveness... It's for us.

  440. It's about us. It's God working in us to release

  441. us, free us from the pain of the past, which

  442. leads us to our next step, our third step. Then

  443. we begin to pray for the offender. And we all

  444. can laugh because this is probably the hardest

  445. step along the process. And please understand,

  446. it's a process. We pray for them. We pray for

  447. the person that hurt us. And now some of you

  448. are thinking, well, where is that in the Bible,

  449. Chris? It's from Jesus, Matthew 5. You have heard

  450. the law that says, love your neighbor and hate

  451. your enemy. But I say, love your enemies. Pray

  452. for those who persecute you. It's a process.

  453. And it starts with God. God, would you bless?

  454. You may not even be able to say their name. It

  455. may take weeks before you can even say their

  456. name. And then when you can say their name, you

  457. may say, God bless John. You know what he needs.

  458. And that's it. But then you may say, God, you

  459. know what he did. And of course, remember, it's

  460. a process. Right? It's a process. Forgiveness

  461. is for me. Right? Because why? What happens in

  462. our hearts when we hold on to unforgiveness,

  463. hurt turns to anger, anger turns to bitterness,

  464. bitterness turns to a hardened heart. And that

  465. changes the way we live, changes who we are as

  466. a person, how we feel about others. Every time

  467. we can humble our hearts and pray that God would

  468. bless those that have hurt us and extend grace

  469. to them, you know what happens to our hearts?

  470. They soften. They allow love to come in. We allow

  471. God to break into our hearts every time we pray

  472. for that person that hurt us one layer at a time.

  473. Romans 12, 14. Bless those who persecute you.

  474. Don't curse them. Pray that God will bless them.

  475. And see, when our heart is free from unforgiveness,

  476. then we can experience the peace and the joy

  477. that God promises. It's painful. I get it. But

  478. it produces freedom, which moves us to our fourth

  479. step. Be open to reconciliation. Again, back

  480. to Romans 12, 17 through 19. Never pay back evil

  481. with more evil. Do things in such a way that

  482. everyone can see you're honorable. Do all that

  483. you can to live at peace with everyone. Dear

  484. friends, never take revenge. And this is a challenging

  485. step. Because, again, of the pain we experienced

  486. in the past. So let me say, there's a big difference

  487. between forgiveness and fellowship. They're not

  488. the same thing. Forgiveness, it's something that

  489. I do. It's something that we do. I decide to

  490. acknowledge what happened. I decide to go to

  491. God and to ask that God would allow me to forgive

  492. them and not punish them. I decide to pray for

  493. the people that have hurt me. I decide, choose

  494. to forgive. Fellowship, on the other hand, takes

  495. two people. Fellowship happens if and only if

  496. true repentance comes from the offender, not

  497. fake repentance. And some of you are like, well,

  498. Chris, what's fake repentance? Fake repentance

  499. is, well, I am sorry if that hurt you. Fake repentance

  500. is, I am sorry if my words were misunderstood.

  501. Fake repentance is, I am sorry if my actions

  502. happened because of a substance. They're excuses.

  503. That's not repentance. True repentance looks

  504. like this. Genesis chapter 50 back to Joseph's

    Genesis 50 chapter mention

  505. story, verses 16 and 19. So they sent this message

  506. to Joseph. Before your father died, he instructed

  507. us to say to you, please forgive your brothers

  508. for the great wrong they did to you, for their

  509. sin in treating you so cruelly. So we, the servants

  510. of the God of your father, beg you to forgive

  511. our sin. When Joseph received the message, he

  512. broke down and wept. Then his brothers came and

  513. threw themselves down before Joseph. Look, we

  514. are your slaves, they said. But as Joseph replied,

  515. don't be afraid of me. Am I God that I can punish

  516. you? Notice the brothers' response. They said

  517. they were wrong. They asked for forgiveness,

  518. said they were sorry, and then threw themselves

  519. at his feet. That is true repentance. But even

  520. if there's true repentance, hear me out, it does

  521. not mean there will ever be fellowship because

  522. sometimes it's just not possible. Fellowship

  523. can't happen because of the past hurts that have

  524. been done to us. Paul tells Timothy in 2 Timothy

  525. 2, 23 to 25, again, I say to you, don't get involved

  526. in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start

  527. fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel,

  528. but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach,

  529. and be patient with difficult people. Gently

  530. instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps

  531. God will change those whose people's hearts they

  532. will learn from the truth. So we gently, Paul

  533. tells us, tell others that they hurt us and allow

  534. the truth to win out. And if God changes their

  535. heart, maybe fellowship can happen. But then

  536. Paul also uses a baseball analogy with Titus,

  537. the three strike rule in Titus 3, 9 through 11.

  538. Do not get involved in foolish discussions about

  539. spiritual pedigrees or in quarrels and fights

  540. about obedience to Jewish laws. These things

  541. are useless and a waste of time. If people are

  542. causing divisions among you, give a first and

  543. second warning. After that, have nothing more

  544. to do with them, for people like that have turned

  545. away from the truth and their own sins condemn

  546. them. See, God wants us to work toward reconciliation.

  547. But there's cases when this is difficult. Like

  548. when addiction is involved or abuse is involved

  549. or mental health is involved. Not all situations

  550. are going to end in fellowship. We forgive, yes,

  551. but that does not mean that fellowship is always

  552. going to happen, which leads us to our final

  553. step. We pray for divine strength, healing, and

  554. freedom. We have to get involved in the process

  555. of inviting God into this forgiveness. We need

  556. the Holy Spirit's power to empower us to walk

  557. through these steps. Because quite often we want

  558. freedom. We don't want the pain in our hearts

  559. anymore, but we just simply don't have the power

  560. to walk it out in our own strength. It hurts

  561. too bad. I mean, there's a reason that Jesus

  562. added these words to an everyday prayer that

  563. he was teaching his disciples, Matthew 6, 11

  564. through 12. Give us today the food we need and

  565. forgive us our sins as we have forgiven those

  566. who sinned against us. It's an everyday prayer.

  567. Jesus understands the pain, the suffering that

  568. we walk through because he walked through it

  569. himself. And he desires that we forgive, what?

  570. Every single day. 2 Corinthians 13, 11. Dear

  571. brothers and sisters, I close my letter with

  572. these last words. Be joyful. Grow to maturity.

  573. Encourage each other. Live in harmony and peace.

  574. Then the God of love and peace will be with you.

  575. See, when we walk through this forgiveness process,

  576. he promises there's freedom on the other side.

  577. It's painful, yes, but there's freedom on the

  578. other side. And that freedom comes when we read

  579. 2 Corinthians 12, 9. Each time he said, my grace

  580. is all you need. My power works best in weakness.

  581. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses.

  582. Why? So that the power of Christ can work through

  583. me. God works through our weakness, works through

  584. our pain, works through our suffering, works

  585. through our hurts so that we don't have to do

  586. it on our own. If you feel like you don't have

  587. the power to forgive, that's when you pray and

  588. you invite the Holy Spirit. God, I need to forgive.

  589. I want my heart free from the pain. Fill my heart

  590. with your love and your grace so that I choose

  591. to forgive the person that hurt me, Matthew 19,

  592. 26. Jesus looked at them intently and said, humanly

  593. speaking, it's impossible. But with God, everything

  594. is possible. See, God can walk us through the

  595. pain that we feel that we may be experiencing

  596. right now because there's power. In the name

  597. of Jesus. As we walk through that pain, as we

  598. extend that forgiveness to others, and we declare

  599. the power of Jesus' name, there is freedom. And

  600. we must remind ourselves that forgiveness is

  601. a process, much like the pain and numbness that

  602. I've been experiencing for the last year and

  603. a half from an injury that I thought was pointless.

  604. I was doing laundry, God! When in reality, God

  605. wanted to teach me, about the power of forgiveness.

  606. God wants us to leave the pain of the past in

  607. the past and to walk in the freedom and the power

  608. of forgiveness. Will you stand with me? So as

  609. I was praying about how to close this talk, this

  610. series, I felt like God highlighted to me that

  611. all of us, if we're honest, have past hurts and

  612. pains. And for many of us, we've buried them,

  613. we've moved on, we've kept working, we work hard,

  614. we go back to school, we study, we read the Bible,

  615. but every time there's a trigger, that pain comes

  616. back. And I want to encourage you, as I was sharing

  617. this morning, maybe God highlighted different

  618. areas of your heart where that pain and that

  619. emptiness comes. Well, I looked up and jotted

  620. down a forgiveness prayer that I'm going to invite

  621. all of us to pray together. as we lay down this

  622. unforgiveness, as we lay down this hurt, and

  623. we move on free, redeemed people of God. Amen?

  624. So if you'll turn your attention to our screen,

  625. I've put it on the screen for you. On the next

  626. page, there's blanks for the person that's hurt

  627. you and what has taken place. And I want to invite

  628. you to pray this with me as we move towards freedom.

  629. God, I am ready. To stop pretending the pain

  630. in my past is not affecting my present. Today,

  631. I declare I am getting rid of this hurt, anger,

  632. and unforgiveness. I choose as an act of my will

  633. to forgive for In Jesus' name. God, I thank you

  634. for making me whole and setting me free. God,

  635. I completely forgive and place it in your hands.

  636. In Jesus' name. Amen. Now, I believe that that's

  637. a prayer we should pray every time God highlights

  638. an area of your heart that's hurting. That we

  639. release those people, we release that pain, and

  640. we give them back to God, and we allow that freedom

  641. to reign in our life so that we can truly be

  642. an example of Jesus to this world. It's a process,

  643. but it's a process that's worth it because Paul

  644. challenges us to end the race, to win and to

  645. cross that line whole, healed, and delivered.

  646. Now, for some of you, you're in this place and

  647. you can extend forgiveness because you're not

  648. in a relationship with Jesus. We believe there's

  649. individuals that come into our midst each and

  650. every one of our gatherings where they're distant,

  651. far from God, or have never started that journey.

  652. And we pray this prayer every Sunday at each

  653. of our gatherings because we believe God wants

  654. people to come home. So as we pray it together,

  655. search your heart. If you're running from God,

  656. mad at God, distant from God, or never began

  657. that relationship, Today's your day to pray it

  658. with us. Let's pray. Jesus, I'm broken. I'm full

  659. of doubt, shame, regret, sin. Change me. I believe

  660. you're God's son. I believe you died for me.

  661. Make me new. Set me free. Fill me with your spirit.

  662. Help me, God, to serve others and further your

  663. kingdom. In Jesus' name, amen. So if you prayed

  664. that prayer, let me know so I can give you some

  665. next steps. We have a baptism coming up this

  666. summer. There are several words of knowledge

  667. I need to share with you. Our prayer team is

  668. here on the right and would meet you and pray

  669. with you because we believe God wants to heal

  670. you. You have left ear pain or pressure in the

  671. ear. Your left ankle on the inside is causing

  672. you discomfort. In your left arm, you have muscle

  673. or nerve pain from your shoulder to your elbow.

  674. You have pain in the outside part of your right

  675. foot near the sole. You have left shoulder pain

  676. on the outside, pain in the inner thigh of your

  677. left leg. Your big right toe is pounding. That's

  678. pretty self -explanatory. There's a person here

  679. who has back and hip pain and you had an operation

  680. that wasn't successful. So if any of those are

  681. you, our prayer team would be here on the right

  682. to pray for those needs or any other need that

  683. you have. Doesn't just have to be those because

  684. we believe God wants to meet you, heal you and

  685. set you free. Amen. Next week, we kick off our

  686. new series in June called Come Holy Spirit. We're

  687. going to be discussing the Holy Spirit for five

  688. weeks in June, who he is, what he does, how he

  689. empowers us, and how he radically changes lives.

  690. It's going to be a great series of learning about

  691. the power of walking in the miraculous. Thank

  692. you for joining us online. I am going to my left.

  693. So that door will remain closed. Just relax.

  694. If you need to run out, go to my right and give

  695. my wife a hug. It'll probably actually be longer

  696. than mine because she's going to hug everybody

  697. who goes out that door. So, you know, it's probably

  698. better to go left. Love you guys.