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Inked Part 4 | How Can I Forgive? with Chris Schlotterbeck
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down, and they will be sure to reach out. So
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before we jump into our final talk of our series
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called Inked and be discussing different tattoos
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from our partners, I just felt inclined that
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we open in prayer and ask God to come. Come and
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search our hearts. So Holy Spirit, come. God,
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we're just thankful for this day. We're thankful
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for Memorial Day weekend to kick off the summer,
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God. We just ask that your hand would be upon
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every word that I speak, God. May they be your
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words, not mine. And more importantly, open our
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hearts and our minds to receive all that you
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have for us, God. May we leave this place changed.
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May we leave this place better than when we came
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in. In Jesus' name, amen. All right, so about
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a year and a half ago, while doing laundry, that's
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right, laundry, like a normal Monday morning,
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I was switching the wet clothes from the washer
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to the dryer so that they could dry. And suddenly,
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in doing so, my back locked up, and I found myself
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on my hands and knees for about 10 minutes in
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excruciating pain. As I slowly began to sit up,
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trying to figure out what I did that would have
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caused so much pain and discomfort, I never figured
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it out. But just like Chris, I went on about
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my day and just pushed through. I approached
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this back injury like I do most everything in
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my life. I can handle the pain, and eventually,
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you know something? It's just going to get better.
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The problem is, it never got better. The discomfort
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moved from my back, down my leg, into my foot,
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and to this day still affects my everyday life.
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Eight months after the injury, yes, I'm hard
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-headed, I finally went to the doctor because
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I tried physical therapy, a chiropractor, and
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stretch after stretch after stretch. An MRI soon
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revealed that I had a disc bulge that hit up
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against nerves down in the lower part of my back.
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I'm happy to report that the disc seems to have
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returned to normal and my back is strong, but
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nerves can take up to two years to fully heal
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if they ever heal at all. Now, I find myself
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struggling with a past hurt that still hurts.
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I find myself struggling with a past hurt that
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still hurts. And I can't walk in the freedom
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to do everything that I want to do every single
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day. Before the injury, I ran my first half marathon.
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Since the injury, I've only been able to walk
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because jogging or running is very difficult
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when your right foot is partially numb. You don't
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know exactly where it's going to hit or where
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it's going to land. I don't have the freedom
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to do everything that I want to do because I
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am struggling with a past hurt that still hurts.
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Well, here's the reality, HTV. Our minds and
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our souls are very similar to this injury. See,
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we can experience all of this while having one
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of the best days of our life. Picture it. Everything's
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going right. We're smiling. We're happy. We're
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full of energy. And then suddenly, out of nowhere,
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we hear something. And we go from being real
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happy to real sad in the split second. We can
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hear someone's name mentioned and our day is
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ruined. We can see a post on social media or
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read a comment and our memory is triggered. We
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hear about an event, we drive by a place, we
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listen to a song, and all of a sudden we go from
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real happy to real sad. And we're left wondering,
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what just happened? Well, those instances are
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called triggers. And those triggers remind us
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that we have a past hurt, That still hurts. And
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that pain hasn't been dealt with correctly because
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it still hurts. The song we listened to, it wasn't
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that big of a deal. What that person said to
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us was not worth ruining in our day or our week.
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See, these instances were not where the injury
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happened. They just triggered the emotion that
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reminded us that a past hurt that is still hurting
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today. And if that past hurt is hurting, we can't
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walk in the freedom that God wants us to walk
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in. And this is where we find ourselves as I
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share our first tattoo. Let's take a look. Amber
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writes, I got this tattoo to cover up the one
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I originally got for my oldest daughter who was
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adopted. It was done by a street artist and I
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chose to cover it with flowers that represent
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multiple loved ones. The forget -me -nots are
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for my daughter but also my foster mother who
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never forgot me even when I made it very hard
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to love me. The roses are for my grandmother
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that I never got to see after I went into the
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system. See, she called CPS on my mother. Her
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actions both saved me and caused me terrible
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heartache. Her favorite song was The Rose. The
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roses are also for my mom whose favorite color
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is purple. I loved her and forgave her a long
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time ago. She did the best she could and has
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overcome many hardships. The sunflowers are for
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my great -grandmother. I miss her dearly. She
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and my grandmother created the best memories
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I have before going into the system. This tattoo
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is a reminder of people I not only love, but
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whose stories are important. Those stories are
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a part of where I've been and what God's brought
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me through. So as I was reading that testimony
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from Amber, I began to reflect on the pain and
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the experiences that all of us have as we walk
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through this journey called life. We are a broken
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people living in a broken world. And as we interact
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with one another, chances are hurts and pains
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are going to result. But quite often what happens
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is we get hurt and we don't deal with it. Because
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it's too painful or we don't know what to do.
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Then that hurt, unfortunately, turns to anger.
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Then that anger over time turns to bitterness.
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And then bitterness turns into what the Bible
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refers to as a hardened heart. And this hardened
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heart changes the way we live. It changes our
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insecurities, how we interact with people. It
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changes who we let into our life. And it changes
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who we trust and how we treat others. Have you
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ever lost it and snapped on someone and then
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24 hours later you're like, that was completely
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an overreaction. Then as we reflect, we realize,
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well, they didn't show us the respect that we
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deserved or we didn't feel valued. And they touched
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on something or triggered something from our
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past causing this sharp response over a hurt
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that we experienced years ago. It's that hurt.
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that still hurts, and it changes who we are as
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people. And God says, I don't want you to live
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that way anymore. I don't want you to explode
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on people. See, those past hurts keep us from
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responding to the call that God has on our lives.
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He keeps us from walking in the peace, the love,
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the joy, and the confidence that God wants us
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to walk in. See, God has a prescription for our
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past hurts, which leads us to our first thought.
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See, forgiveness is... freedom. Forgiveness equals
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freedom. Let's read Ephesians 4, 31 to 32. Get
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rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words,
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and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.
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Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted,
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and here it is, forgiving one another, just as
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God through Christ has forgiven you. See, the
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great physician says, if you want To go through
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the process of healing wounds, I have the answer
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for you. It's called forgiveness. See, we know
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that just trying to walk out forgiveness, it's
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a painful process. But I believe it's a process
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that is worth it. And not only that, it's one
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that's commanded. Look at Colossians 3, 12 to
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13. Since God chose you to be the holy people
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he loves, you must close yourselves with a tenderhearted
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mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
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Make allowance for each other's faults and forgive
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anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave
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you, so you must forgive others. And I get it.
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This is a difficult subject. Some of you are
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thinking, Chris, it's the kickoff of summer.
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Forgiveness? Really? Because I know as soon as
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I mention that whole word, some of us get defensive.
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Emotions can even... In fact, some of you are
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so wounded, you know, so hurt that when someone
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even mentions the word forgiveness, you want
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to throw it out and fight. You're like, I'm not
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going there. I've tried. It's too hard. It's
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too painful. You don't know what I've been through.
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And I don't. I don't know all the pain you've
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experienced in this life. I understand that you've
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been through painful and traumatic circumstances.
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And I want to acknowledge that. In fact, just
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this week. I was accused in an email to Little
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League International that I don't care about
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children. I only care about winning. And this
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is a direct quote from that email that was sent
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to Little League International. He should be
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in jail with how he runs that Little League.
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It's disgusting, despicable behavior. So when
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receiving that email from Little League International,
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I understand that situations happen to everyone.
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In fact, I was attacked for simply serving our
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community and making it a better place. And you
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know what happened in my heart? I became angry.
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I became upset because all those claims are unjustified
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because little Johnny wasn't batting second and
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playing every inning. And because little Johnny
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wasn't batting second or playing every inning,
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mom got upset. I get it, but I'm human. I became
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angry. By Wednesday morning, my workout routine
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was not normal. It was actually full of rage.
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Probably one of the best workouts I've had all
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year. Because my character had been attacked
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for no good reason. But I am coming out the other
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end realizing that this was a simple lesson that
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God was trying to teach me about forgiveness.
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And he wanted me to walk right through it. And
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I believe that God wants all of us to do the
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same this morning. I believe that's not an accident
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that you're here. I believe that God wants to
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highlight different areas of your life where
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unforgiveness reigns so that you can walk out
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of this place free and whole. Why? Because God
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has a better life for us. He wants for us to
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walk in freedom and forgiveness. And that only
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happens when we deal with the bitterness, rage,
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anger, harsh words. And slander. Which leads
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us to our action steps. The forgiveness process.
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And notice I said it's a process. Because there
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are times. When things happen to us. When situations
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happen to us. And we respond. And it's not a
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big deal. We forgive. It was an event. It happened.
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We move on. But for those deep wounds. Like when
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someone leaves and we're abandoned. or someone
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abuses or neglects or hurts us to the point where
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there's trauma, forgiving those wounds is not
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an event, it's a process. A process of working
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through the pain, and we have to allow God in
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to do the work which leads to freedom. We have
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our first step, and that's we have to acknowledge
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the pain. See, acknowledging the pain is essential
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to the healing process. Because when we hold
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on to unforgiveness, you know what's produced?
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Anxiety. Upon anxiety, upon anxiety. See, the
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pain from those experiences fester and they begin
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to come out from the inside out. Meaning the
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pain of the unforgiveness that we feel on the
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inside works its way into our everyday lives.
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In other words, stress. Worry. Anxiety. And that's
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why it's so important to list the different pain
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and grievances that we've experienced when God
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brings them to light. We have to acknowledge
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the different people that have hurt us over the
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years. And I want to encourage you, this is a
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process. And it happens as God highlights the
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different aspects of pain that we struggle with
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through the years. Until we acknowledge and face
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the pain in our life, listen, you're not going
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to be able to forgive it. We can't pretend there
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isn't pain there. For some of us, we just put
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our head down, we move on. And I get it. That's
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quite often what I do. I deal with the pain,
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it will go away. But to experience freedom, we
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have to acknowledge the pain, face it, feel it,
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and then forgive it. And the best example that
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I've found in the Bible of acknowledging pain
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in our life is the story of Joseph. Joseph is
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a story where we could find a person that would
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struggle with this forgiveness process. The people
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who were supposed to protect Joseph, his older
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brothers, they abused him. They were jealous
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because they thought he was dad's favorite. So
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one day they just sold him into slavery. They
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were going to kill him, but they thought, no,
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that's too much. We'll just sell him and allow
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him to be a slave. He was taken as a slave to
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a foreign country as a kid and would spend year
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after year after year of his life in slavery
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or in prison. While the brothers went home and
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told dad, oh, he died. An animal killed him.
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So this would be a person that has every reason
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to hold on to bitterness and unforgiveness. Now,
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I can't get into the whole story. I'm going to
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encourage you to read it this week in the book
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of Genesis. But God does this miraculous work
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in Joseph's life. And while he was a slave, while
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he was in prison, he suddenly became the second
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most powerful man in all of Egypt. And then many
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years later, there's a famine everywhere. So
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the people have to go to Egypt to get food to
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stay alive. And Pharaoh puts Joseph in charge
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of all that food. So Joseph's brothers, the very
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ones who sold him into slavery, now have to come
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and beg for food for their families to remain
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alive. With this background, we're about to watch
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Joseph enter into the forgiveness process. Now
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remember, Joseph, he's been holding it all together.
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He's now a powerful individual. He's running
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the entire country of Egypt. He's got a large
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staff. He can't be weak. He can't allow the past
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to haunt him, to take him down. Thinking he's
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past that pain, we read this in Genesis 45, 1
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through 2 and 4. Joseph could stand it no longer.
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There were many people in the room, and he said
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to his attendants, out, all of you. So he was
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alone with his brothers when he told them who
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he was. Then he broke down and wept. He wept
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so loudly the Egyptians could hear him, and word
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of it quickly carried to Pharaoh's palace. Please,
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come closer, he said to them. So they came closer,
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and he said again, I am Joseph, your brother,
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whom you sold into slavery in Egypt. Now, quite
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often, those verses are quickly moved past to
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one of the more famous verses in the Bible, Genesis
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50, 20, that reads, you intended to harm me,
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but God intended it all for good. He brought
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me to this position so I could save the lives
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of many people. Hopeful, meaningful. And as people,
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we want to gravitate to that verse. But just
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five chapters before, this is the first time
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we find Joseph acknowledging the pain in his
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life. Joseph was weeping and wailing so loud
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as he enters this first step of the forgiveness
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process that it was heard houses away. The word
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traveled all the way to Pharaoh that his second
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in charge was in pain. And see, Joseph began
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to face it. He began to feel it. Why? So he could
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forgive it. We can't forgive what we don't acknowledge,
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which leads us to our next tattoo. Let's take
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a look. Tina writes, In the quiet moments of
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reflection, I often find myself drawn to the
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tattoo that adorns my arm, a vivid emblem of
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my journey through darkness, pain and ultimately
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profound healing. This tattoo is more than just
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ink on skin. It is a powerful symbol of survival,
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love and the enduring light that has guided me
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through the shadows of my past. Twenty years
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ago, I made the courageous decision to uproot
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my life and my children from a world filled with
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fear and violence. On February 14, 2005, armed
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with nothing but hefty trash bags and a small
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U -Haul truck, I embarked on a journey from Albuquerque
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to Hagerstown, seeking refuge from the trauma
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that had consumed us for nearly a decade. Each
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mile we traveled was an act of defiance against
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the darkness that had once defined our lives.
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My tattoo serves as a constant reminder of that
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journey. It features a heart beautifully drawn
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and anchored by intricate Celtic knots, signifying
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the unconditional love that surrounds us. At
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its center lies an infinite knot representing
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the boundless love that we all deserve, yet often
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forget to extend to ourselves. Underneath it,
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three simple words resonate with my spirit, I
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am here. This phrase holds deep significance,
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echoing my journey from a place of despair to
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one of gratitude and purpose. After leaving this
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abusive relationship, I find myself in a dark
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pit of sorrow. Just six months after I escaped,
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overwhelmed with pain and despair, I sought not
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death, but a way to feel something other than
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the anguish that echoed in my heart. In that
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moment of desperation, I slashed my wrist, not
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to end my life. but to cry out for repentance,
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forgiveness, and the ability to reconnect with
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my own humanity. Through the pain, I was met
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with a revelation. I was still here, alive and
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deserving of love. The act of tattooing over
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those scars not only transformed my narrative,
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but also marked the beginning of a new chapter.
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The heart and knots symbolize the love I have
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cultivated for myself, my children, and my husband,
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who has stood by me as an angel through the journey.
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This tattoo is a celebration of survival, a testament
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to the angels who have walked alongside me, and
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a reminder that healing is a journey, one that
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continues to unfold. In embracing this light,
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I have learned to see myself through a lens of
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love and acceptance. The scars of my past no
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longer haunt me. Instead, they serve as markers
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of resilience, strength, and beauty that can
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emerge from the darkness. Friends, we have to
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acknowledge Our pain. Which leads us to our next
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step. We have to surrender our right to punish.
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And I get it. This is a difficult step. This
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is a painful step. In fact, after receiving that
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email this week, my first response, of course,
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was anger. Then rage. Then I chose to forgive.
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But then the very next day, which would have
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been Thursday, I began to think, how do I make
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them pay for those lies? And I believe that's
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just how the human heart works. We want to get
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made up for, but then God leads me to Romans
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chapter 12, verses 17 through 20. Never pay back
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evil with more evil. Do things in such a way
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that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all
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that you can to live in peace with everyone.
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Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that
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to the righteous anger of God. For the scriptures
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say, I will take revenge. I will pay them back,
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says the Lord. Instead, if your enemies are hungry,
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feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something
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to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning
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coals of shame on their heads. See, in real life,
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the forgiveness process... is a process because
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true forgiveness means we forgive, we release
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the offender or the person that hurt us from
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that situation. And that means we can't continue
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to bring it up over and over and over again,
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those of you that are married. We can't use it
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as a crutch to punish the offender or others
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that hurt us. We must remember that forgiveness
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is about freedom for us first and then for others.
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Now please understand, forgiveness is not justifying
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their actions. Forgiveness is not saying what
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a person did to us is okay. It's not okay that
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you abandoned us. It's not okay that you hurt
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me. It's not okay that you lied. It's not okay
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that you abused. My forgiving you doesn't justify
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those actions. Forgiveness is not letting someone
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off the hook. In fact, forgiveness is not a guarantee
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for reconciliation. Forgiveness... It's for us.
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It's about us. It's God working in us to release
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us, free us from the pain of the past, which
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leads us to our next step, our third step. Then
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we begin to pray for the offender. And we all
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can laugh because this is probably the hardest
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step along the process. And please understand,
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it's a process. We pray for them. We pray for
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the person that hurt us. And now some of you
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are thinking, well, where is that in the Bible,
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Chris? It's from Jesus, Matthew 5. You have heard
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the law that says, love your neighbor and hate
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your enemy. But I say, love your enemies. Pray
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for those who persecute you. It's a process.
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And it starts with God. God, would you bless?
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You may not even be able to say their name. It
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may take weeks before you can even say their
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name. And then when you can say their name, you
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may say, God bless John. You know what he needs.
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And that's it. But then you may say, God, you
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know what he did. And of course, remember, it's
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a process. Right? It's a process. Forgiveness
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is for me. Right? Because why? What happens in
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our hearts when we hold on to unforgiveness,
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hurt turns to anger, anger turns to bitterness,
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bitterness turns to a hardened heart. And that
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changes the way we live, changes who we are as
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a person, how we feel about others. Every time
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we can humble our hearts and pray that God would
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bless those that have hurt us and extend grace
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to them, you know what happens to our hearts?
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They soften. They allow love to come in. We allow
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God to break into our hearts every time we pray
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for that person that hurt us one layer at a time.
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Romans 12, 14. Bless those who persecute you.
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Don't curse them. Pray that God will bless them.
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And see, when our heart is free from unforgiveness,
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then we can experience the peace and the joy
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that God promises. It's painful. I get it. But
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it produces freedom, which moves us to our fourth
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step. Be open to reconciliation. Again, back
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to Romans 12, 17 through 19. Never pay back evil
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with more evil. Do things in such a way that
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everyone can see you're honorable. Do all that
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you can to live at peace with everyone. Dear
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friends, never take revenge. And this is a challenging
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step. Because, again, of the pain we experienced
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in the past. So let me say, there's a big difference
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between forgiveness and fellowship. They're not
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the same thing. Forgiveness, it's something that
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I do. It's something that we do. I decide to
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acknowledge what happened. I decide to go to
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God and to ask that God would allow me to forgive
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them and not punish them. I decide to pray for
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the people that have hurt me. I decide, choose
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to forgive. Fellowship, on the other hand, takes
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two people. Fellowship happens if and only if
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true repentance comes from the offender, not
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fake repentance. And some of you are like, well,
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Chris, what's fake repentance? Fake repentance
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is, well, I am sorry if that hurt you. Fake repentance
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is, I am sorry if my words were misunderstood.
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Fake repentance is, I am sorry if my actions
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happened because of a substance. They're excuses.
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That's not repentance. True repentance looks
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like this. Genesis chapter 50 back to Joseph's
Genesis 50 chapter mention
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story, verses 16 and 19. So they sent this message
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to Joseph. Before your father died, he instructed
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us to say to you, please forgive your brothers
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for the great wrong they did to you, for their
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sin in treating you so cruelly. So we, the servants
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of the God of your father, beg you to forgive
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our sin. When Joseph received the message, he
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broke down and wept. Then his brothers came and
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threw themselves down before Joseph. Look, we
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are your slaves, they said. But as Joseph replied,
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don't be afraid of me. Am I God that I can punish
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you? Notice the brothers' response. They said
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they were wrong. They asked for forgiveness,
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said they were sorry, and then threw themselves
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at his feet. That is true repentance. But even
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if there's true repentance, hear me out, it does
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not mean there will ever be fellowship because
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sometimes it's just not possible. Fellowship
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can't happen because of the past hurts that have
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been done to us. Paul tells Timothy in 2 Timothy
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2, 23 to 25, again, I say to you, don't get involved
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in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start
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fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel,
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but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach,
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and be patient with difficult people. Gently
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instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps
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God will change those whose people's hearts they
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will learn from the truth. So we gently, Paul
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tells us, tell others that they hurt us and allow
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the truth to win out. And if God changes their
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heart, maybe fellowship can happen. But then
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Paul also uses a baseball analogy with Titus,
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the three strike rule in Titus 3, 9 through 11.
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Do not get involved in foolish discussions about
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spiritual pedigrees or in quarrels and fights
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about obedience to Jewish laws. These things
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are useless and a waste of time. If people are
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causing divisions among you, give a first and
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second warning. After that, have nothing more
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to do with them, for people like that have turned
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away from the truth and their own sins condemn
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them. See, God wants us to work toward reconciliation.
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But there's cases when this is difficult. Like
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when addiction is involved or abuse is involved
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or mental health is involved. Not all situations
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are going to end in fellowship. We forgive, yes,
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but that does not mean that fellowship is always
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going to happen, which leads us to our final
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step. We pray for divine strength, healing, and
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freedom. We have to get involved in the process
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of inviting God into this forgiveness. We need
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the Holy Spirit's power to empower us to walk
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through these steps. Because quite often we want
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freedom. We don't want the pain in our hearts
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anymore, but we just simply don't have the power
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to walk it out in our own strength. It hurts
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too bad. I mean, there's a reason that Jesus
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added these words to an everyday prayer that
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he was teaching his disciples, Matthew 6, 11
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through 12. Give us today the food we need and
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forgive us our sins as we have forgiven those
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who sinned against us. It's an everyday prayer.
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Jesus understands the pain, the suffering that
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we walk through because he walked through it
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himself. And he desires that we forgive, what?
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Every single day. 2 Corinthians 13, 11. Dear
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brothers and sisters, I close my letter with
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these last words. Be joyful. Grow to maturity.
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Encourage each other. Live in harmony and peace.
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Then the God of love and peace will be with you.
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See, when we walk through this forgiveness process,
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he promises there's freedom on the other side.
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It's painful, yes, but there's freedom on the
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other side. And that freedom comes when we read
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2 Corinthians 12, 9. Each time he said, my grace
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is all you need. My power works best in weakness.
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So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses.
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Why? So that the power of Christ can work through
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me. God works through our weakness, works through
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our pain, works through our suffering, works
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through our hurts so that we don't have to do
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it on our own. If you feel like you don't have
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the power to forgive, that's when you pray and
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you invite the Holy Spirit. God, I need to forgive.
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I want my heart free from the pain. Fill my heart
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with your love and your grace so that I choose
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to forgive the person that hurt me, Matthew 19,
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26. Jesus looked at them intently and said, humanly
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speaking, it's impossible. But with God, everything
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is possible. See, God can walk us through the
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pain that we feel that we may be experiencing
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right now because there's power. In the name
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of Jesus. As we walk through that pain, as we
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extend that forgiveness to others, and we declare
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the power of Jesus' name, there is freedom. And
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we must remind ourselves that forgiveness is
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a process, much like the pain and numbness that
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I've been experiencing for the last year and
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a half from an injury that I thought was pointless.
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I was doing laundry, God! When in reality, God
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wanted to teach me, about the power of forgiveness.
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God wants us to leave the pain of the past in
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the past and to walk in the freedom and the power
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of forgiveness. Will you stand with me? So as
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I was praying about how to close this talk, this
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series, I felt like God highlighted to me that
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all of us, if we're honest, have past hurts and
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pains. And for many of us, we've buried them,
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we've moved on, we've kept working, we work hard,
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we go back to school, we study, we read the Bible,
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but every time there's a trigger, that pain comes
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back. And I want to encourage you, as I was sharing
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this morning, maybe God highlighted different
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areas of your heart where that pain and that
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emptiness comes. Well, I looked up and jotted
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down a forgiveness prayer that I'm going to invite
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all of us to pray together. as we lay down this
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unforgiveness, as we lay down this hurt, and
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we move on free, redeemed people of God. Amen?
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So if you'll turn your attention to our screen,
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I've put it on the screen for you. On the next
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page, there's blanks for the person that's hurt
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you and what has taken place. And I want to invite
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you to pray this with me as we move towards freedom.
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God, I am ready. To stop pretending the pain
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in my past is not affecting my present. Today,
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I declare I am getting rid of this hurt, anger,
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and unforgiveness. I choose as an act of my will
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to forgive for In Jesus' name. God, I thank you
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for making me whole and setting me free. God,
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I completely forgive and place it in your hands.
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In Jesus' name. Amen. Now, I believe that that's
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a prayer we should pray every time God highlights
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an area of your heart that's hurting. That we
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release those people, we release that pain, and
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we give them back to God, and we allow that freedom
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to reign in our life so that we can truly be
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an example of Jesus to this world. It's a process,
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but it's a process that's worth it because Paul
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challenges us to end the race, to win and to
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cross that line whole, healed, and delivered.
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Now, for some of you, you're in this place and
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you can extend forgiveness because you're not
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in a relationship with Jesus. We believe there's
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individuals that come into our midst each and
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every one of our gatherings where they're distant,
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far from God, or have never started that journey.
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And we pray this prayer every Sunday at each
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of our gatherings because we believe God wants
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people to come home. So as we pray it together,
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search your heart. If you're running from God,
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mad at God, distant from God, or never began
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that relationship, Today's your day to pray it
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with us. Let's pray. Jesus, I'm broken. I'm full
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of doubt, shame, regret, sin. Change me. I believe
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you're God's son. I believe you died for me.
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Make me new. Set me free. Fill me with your spirit.
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Help me, God, to serve others and further your
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kingdom. In Jesus' name, amen. So if you prayed
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that prayer, let me know so I can give you some
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next steps. We have a baptism coming up this
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summer. There are several words of knowledge
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I need to share with you. Our prayer team is
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here on the right and would meet you and pray
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with you because we believe God wants to heal
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you. You have left ear pain or pressure in the
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ear. Your left ankle on the inside is causing
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you discomfort. In your left arm, you have muscle
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or nerve pain from your shoulder to your elbow.
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You have pain in the outside part of your right
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foot near the sole. You have left shoulder pain
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on the outside, pain in the inner thigh of your
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left leg. Your big right toe is pounding. That's
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pretty self -explanatory. There's a person here
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who has back and hip pain and you had an operation
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that wasn't successful. So if any of those are
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you, our prayer team would be here on the right
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to pray for those needs or any other need that
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you have. Doesn't just have to be those because
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we believe God wants to meet you, heal you and
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set you free. Amen. Next week, we kick off our
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new series in June called Come Holy Spirit. We're
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going to be discussing the Holy Spirit for five
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weeks in June, who he is, what he does, how he
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empowers us, and how he radically changes lives.
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It's going to be a great series of learning about
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the power of walking in the miraculous. Thank
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you for joining us online. I am going to my left.
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So that door will remain closed. Just relax.
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If you need to run out, go to my right and give
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my wife a hug. It'll probably actually be longer
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than mine because she's going to hug everybody
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who goes out that door. So, you know, it's probably
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better to go left. Love you guys.