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Gods At War Part 4 | Intimate With idols with Chris Schlotterbeck

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  6. the message. How's everybody doing? Feels good

  7. to be inside, nice cool breeze, right? It's been

  8. a little warm outside, but that's okay. We love

  9. summer, and we love the warmth, and we're excited

  10. about what God's doing in our community of faith.

  11. Thank you for joining us from home and welcoming

  12. us into your space. So we've been discussing

  13. for the month of July that there are gods at

  14. war within each and every one of us. They battle

  15. for the primary position in our lives, and we've

  16. learned that so much is at stake. Because whichever

  17. God is victorious gains power and control over

  18. us. Ultimately, the God you choose, the God I

  19. choose, determines our direction, our desires,

  20. our thoughts, and our future. Yet for so many

  21. of us, this entire concept of idolatry is something

  22. that's been missed. Last week we even mentioned

  23. that if you grew up in church, you are likely

  24. not to even hear about it. And a lot of times,

  25. growing up in church can turn that into religious

  26. rules and rituals. We have discovered through

  27. this series that idolatry is one of the biggest

  28. problems that God addresses head on throughout

  29. the Bible. Listen, more than a thousand verses

  30. speak to this issue. More than 50 of the commandments

  31. in the first five books of the Bible are directed

  32. against it. It is one of only four sins in all

  33. of Judaism that could have had the death penalty

  34. attached to it. Idolatry is something God took

  35. seriously. And yet, for those of us living in

  36. the United States, it's simply dismissed as irrelevant

  37. and unimportant. Something that's in the Old

  38. Testament that we no longer struggle with. But

  39. nothing could be further from the truth. Everything

  40. rides on this issue. Everything rides on this

  41. choice. That you and I will make every single

  42. day. Will I worship God? Will I follow Jesus?

  43. Or will I worship something else? And how we

  44. answer that question makes all the difference.

  45. See, there's a war for our worship. Even this

  46. morning when we gathered for corporate worship

  47. to start this gathering, many of you were in

  48. such a rush just to get in here. You're late.

  49. You're trying to check your kids in. You rush

  50. in through the doors. By the time you get through

  51. the doors, the first song is already halfway

  52. over. You're trying to find a seat. You can't

  53. find a seat. There's too many people standing

  54. up, too many arms in the air. It's too loud.

  55. It's too dark. Now you're frustrated. The second

  56. song's starting. You can't even engage God because

  57. you're unprepared. We're unprepared. We're unprepared

  58. to meet. and engage God in worship because we're

  59. distracted. We're late. Kids are running, yelling

  60. at us. I'm in a fight with my spouse. Who knows

  61. what's going on? So suddenly our minds, they're

  62. focused on everything else other than the worship

  63. that's happening. You're looking at the people

  64. around you. You're thinking about the things

  65. you have to do the rest of the day. You're even

  66. thinking about what happened yesterday. And all

  67. of that distracts you from connecting with the

  68. living God. Who or what will control our hearts?

  69. That's what this has been all about. We have

  70. seen in this series that the sins that we struggle

  71. with is not just that there is a sin in our life

  72. that we need to address, but there's something

  73. behind that sin. There's a root issue. And those

  74. root issues are the false gods that's warring

  75. in our heart. And it explains the struggle of

  76. that particular sin. But we also learned last

  77. week that idolatry, in and of itself is a sin.

  78. And this happens when many of the good things

  79. in life, you know, the gifts that God gives us,

  80. have become too important to us, and therefore

  81. cause us to sin because we've put them ahead

  82. of God himself. Tim Keller writes, sin isn't

  83. only doing bad things. It's more fundamentally

  84. making good things into ultimate things. It is

  85. building your life and meaning on anything, even

  86. a very good thing, more than on God. Sin is primarily

  87. idolatry. And throughout this series, here's

  88. what we've been called to do. Examine your heart.

  89. Are there good things in your life that have

  90. become a God thing? Have I made that good thing

  91. more important than it should be? As John Calvin

  92. wrote, the evil and our desire typically does

  93. not lie in what we want, but that we want it

  94. too much. We want it too much. And this certainly

  95. is true when it comes to the final subject that

  96. we're going to be studying and discussing today,

  97. the gods of love. The evil is not in loving these

  98. things, it's that we love them too much. Which

  99. leads us to our first thought. You see, relationships

  100. have the potential to replace God. So we're going

  101. to be discussing a very familiar story from the

  102. Bible. It's in the first book of the Bible in

  103. Genesis chapter... And what do I mean by gods

  104. of love? Well, these are the people who we love.

  105. These are the people who God has called us to

  106. love, yet sometimes they can replace God in our

  107. hearts. These are the gods that Augustine would

  108. have referred to as disordered loves. In other

  109. words, they are legitimate loves that have gotten

  110. out of order in our lives. And it's because they're

  111. legitimate that they can also easily become way

  112. too important to us. And in Genesis 22, we're

  113. going to look at Abraham, and Abraham is called

  114. to sacrifice his only son, Isaac. But today,

  115. I want to read this story through the lens of

  116. idolatry. I want us to see that God is calling

  117. Abraham to lay everything down. This is what

  118. we read in Genesis 22, verse 1. Sometime later,

    Genesis 22:1

  119. God tested Abraham's faith. Now, everyone say,

  120. test it. See, the writer, the author of this

  121. book tips us off right here that this is a test.

  122. This is only a test. It's as if they want us

  123. to know that God is only testing Abraham. He's

  124. not going to actually let him go through with

  125. it. Because there's no place ever in the Bible

  126. where God allowed a human to sacrifice another

  127. human. In fact, his commands are directed against

  128. it in the book of Deuteronomy. So he tests Abraham.

  129. He says, Abraham. God called, yes, he replied,

  130. here I am. Take your son, your only son, yes,

  131. Isaiah, whom you love so much, and go to the

  132. land of Moriah. Go and sacrifice him as a burnt

  133. offering at one of the mountains which I will

  134. show you. So what does God say? He says, I want

  135. you to take a three -day journey into the area

  136. called Moriah, and there's a specific mountain

  137. there that I want you to sacrifice your son.

  138. So again, God is asking Abraham for everything.

  139. How do we know this? Remember, Abraham and Sarah,

  140. they've been promised this boy decades earlier.

  141. When he was 100 and she was 91, there was still

  142. no child. Yet God kept his promise. The miraculous

  143. happened. They had a little boy and they named

  144. him Isaac. Isaac means laughter. An appropriate

  145. name. I'm sure Isaac brought all kinds of laughter

  146. into their home. And they were probably like

  147. any other parents who would go into the room

  148. at night just to watch them sleep. Just to make

  149. sure their child was comfortable and resting.

  150. Maybe they would sit on the front porch and watch

  151. him play. And as they watched him play, they

  152. became nervous. Be careful, be careful, don't

  153. hurt yourself. Because they couldn't imagine

  154. if anything would happen to him. They remember

  155. when he was a little baby and they squeezed their

  156. arms around him and hugged him so tightly and

  157. said, I love you. All of us have people like

  158. this in our life. People that just mean everything

  159. to us. Now, I know love is a word that has become

  160. pretty common in our culture. I mean, we can

  161. love our favorite sports teams. But who is it

  162. that you have a hard time imagining life without?

  163. Maybe for you, like Abraham and Isaac, it's a

  164. child. They quickly become our reason for living.

  165. There's something about the way they look at

  166. you, the way they smile, the way they quietly

  167. talk to you. They become our reason for getting

  168. up, our reason for working. They can become everything.

  169. Maybe for you, it's a husband or a wife. Maybe

  170. for you, it's the pursuit of a husband or wife

  171. that has become a God for you. After all, in

  172. our culture, romantic love and relationships

  173. are held up as the ultimate human experience.

  174. There's all kinds of books that have been written

  175. with romance as the subject. In fact, romance

  176. novels bring in over a billion dollars a year,

  177. covering a third of the entire fiction market.

  178. Many movies have love or romance as the theme.

  179. Romantic love has inspired works of poetry and

  180. art. And a lot of songs have been written. In

  181. the name of love. Whitney Houston sings, I Will

  182. Always Love You. Ed Sheeran sings, Thinking Out

  183. Loud. Lyrics about growing old together with

  184. the person you love. John Legend declares his

  185. love for a person, flaws and all, in all of me.

  186. Even Elvis sings about how he can't help falling

  187. in love. And those songs, right, they captivate

  188. their audience. People sing them. But who would

  189. you sing those songs to? Who is it that you would

  190. do anything for love? For Abraham and Sarah was

  191. Isaac. Isaac was God's greatest gift to them,

  192. a miracle. And it also turns out that it's his

  193. greatest test for them. And this is what can

  194. happen in our life. It's our greatest blessings

  195. that can also become our greatest tests. If you're

  196. anything like me, right, I have a spouse I don't

  197. deserve. Maybe you've been blessed with children

  198. even though you were told you wouldn't have children.

  199. Do you have a job that you love? Or maybe you're

  200. financially well off and you can afford even

  201. the greatest conveniences that many people can't.

  202. Maybe you have experienced a miraculous healing

  203. encounter with God and gratitude has since waned

  204. into apathy. What gift from God has become too

  205. important in your life? We must remember when

  206. it comes to our relationship, God wants them

  207. to be the means of growth for us. Proverbs 27,

  208. 17, as iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens

  209. a friend. We can't allow a relationship to become

  210. an idol, which leads us to our next thought.

  211. Worship is prioritizing Jesus first. See, we

  212. have a lot of definitions for worship. Many of

  213. you believe that it's when we walk in here and

  214. sing. But here's the reality, it's so much more

  215. than that. Will the blessings of God become competition

  216. for him? Or will the blessing draw us closer

  217. to him? See, we're ready to find out in our story.

  218. We're continuing on in Genesis 22, three through

  219. 10. The next morning, Abraham got up early. He

  220. saddled his donkey and took two of his servants

  221. with him along with his son Isaac. Then he chopped

  222. wood for a fire for a burnt offering and set

  223. out for the place God had told him about. Let's

  224. just pause there for a second. Abraham shows

  225. us something here about beating and overcoming

  226. idols or gods that were within our heart. He

  227. doesn't put it off. Notice, he doesn't wait.

  228. He doesn't pray. He does it. God told him. He

  229. responded. Early the next morning, he wakes up.

  230. He obeys God. And too often, when it comes to

  231. temptation, when it comes to overcoming sin,

  232. when it comes to overcoming these idols in our

  233. life, we put it off. We blame it on someone else.

  234. We wait patiently. for the Lord when he's already

  235. spoken to us of what we're called to do. But

  236. also notice, Abraham was a very wealthy man.

  237. In fact, the Bible tells us he's one of the wealthiest

  238. men of his day, yet God does not say to him,

  239. like last week, go sell everything you have and

  240. give it to the poor. Why? Because money for Abraham

  241. was not a false god. It was Isaac that was competing

  242. for the number one position in his life. And

  243. God puts himself in direct competition with his

  244. son Isaac and he says, you're gonna have to choose.

  245. And he does the same to us. Let's continue on

  246. the third day of their journey. Abraham looked

  247. up and saw the place in the distance. Stay here

  248. with the donkey. Abraham told the servants, the

  249. boy and I will travel a little further. Notice,

  250. we will worship there and then we will come right

  251. back. And I want you to notice, pause again,

  252. the word worship. This is the first time it is

  253. used in the Bible. And there's a principle in

  254. seminary called humanetics. And humanetics focuses

  255. on the principles and methods of interpreting

  256. the Bible. And we were taught when interpreting

  257. scripture, you try to understand the meaning

  258. of a word, you need to pay attention to the first

  259. time this word is used. So the first time the

  260. word worship is used in the Bible is right here.

  261. And it's used to describe a man who is sacrificing

  262. something great for who? For God. It's used to

  263. describe a man who is declaring with his life

  264. that God is what matters most. See, worship is

  265. not something that takes place here on Sunday

  266. mornings alone when we gather together and we

  267. sing songs. Worship takes place every single

  268. day when we make a declaration that says, God,

  269. you matter more to me than this. Fill in the

  270. blank, whatever this is. You matter more to me

  271. than alcohol. You matter more to me than drugs.

  272. You matter more to me than sex. You matter more

  273. to me than money. You matter more to me than

  274. this relationship. And every day we have the

  275. opportunity to worship when we say, God, you're

  276. what matters most. So let every day be a declaration

  277. of worship for you in your life. Let's continue.

  278. So Abraham placed the wood for the burnt offering

  279. on Isaac's shoulders while he himself carried

  280. the fire in his knife. The two of them walked

  281. on together. Isaac turned to Abraham, there's

  282. something wrong. Father, Abraham replied, we

  283. have the fire in the wood, the boy said, but

  284. where is the sheep for the offering? Oh, God

  285. will provide a sheep for the burnt offering,

  286. my son, Abraham answered. And they both walked

  287. on together. When they arrived at the place where

  288. God had told him to go, Abraham built an altar

  289. and arranged the wood on it. Then he tied his

  290. son Isaac and laid him on the altar on top of

  291. the wood. Abraham picked up the knife to kill

  292. his son as a sacrifice. And see, we have to put

  293. ourselves in that position for a moment. And

  294. we want to pause there and talk about our disordered

  295. loves. How would you do with a test like this?

  296. See, this is a test. of the first two of the

  297. Ten Commandments. You shall have no other gods

  298. before you, and you shall not make for yourself

  299. an idol in the form of anything. And an idol,

  300. if we're really honest, can certainly take on

  301. the form of someone we love. And quite often

  302. in our society, that's what happens because our

  303. society puts so much attention on true love.

  304. And when we make the people that we love more

  305. important than our relationship with God, that's

  306. idolatry. When we look to our relationship with

  307. a person to do what God wants to do for us, that's

  308. idolatry. And this really happens to many parents

  309. today trying to raise the alpha generation. I

  310. am raising a member of the alpha generation.

  311. And let's just say that that name alpha is legitimate.

  312. See, when we give control of our life over to

  313. our kids, then they have the power to determine

  314. whether I have a good day or a bad day. When

  315. we give the control of our life over to our kids,

  316. they determine whether I'm an angry person, a

  317. depressed person, an overwhelmed person that

  318. is struggling with life, true or false. If you're

  319. raising the alpha generation, you are saying

  320. true. See, the Bible tells us that the joy of

  321. the Lord is our strength, but when we allow the

  322. joy of our children to become our strength, we're

  323. not very strong. And we all need to reflect.

  324. Is there a relationship that determines whether

  325. or not you're a joyful person? Is there a relationship

  326. that determines whether or not you're a peaceful

  327. person? Is there a person or people in your life

  328. that you're living to please? Does everything

  329. in your life revolve around making your children

  330. happy? And if you answer yes or could see someone

  331. in any of those, by definition, that is your

  332. God. What you live to please becomes your God.

  333. It could be a child, it could be children, maybe

  334. it's a spouse that has become the controller

  335. of your life. Maybe it's friends and even parents

  336. that control the outcome of your day because

  337. you're depressed and full of anxiety. See, we

  338. have to realize that worship is what Paul challenges

  339. us to do in Romans chapter 12. And so, dear brothers

    Romans 12 chapter mention

  340. and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies

  341. to God because of all he has done for you. Let

  342. them be a living and holy sacrifice, the kind

  343. you will find acceptable. This is truly the way,

  344. notice, to worship him. Don't copy. the behavior

  345. and customs of this world, let God transform

  346. you into a new person by the change in the way

  347. you think. Then you will learn to know God's

  348. love for you, which is good and pleasing and

  349. perfect. Paul challenges us to take our different

  350. roles, our different responsibilities, our different

  351. resources that he has given to us and give them

  352. back to him. He's talking about our whole self,

  353. our entire being. What does it look like for

  354. you? For me, right, what are the things that

  355. identify and make me who I am? Well, I'm a husband.

  356. I'm a father. I'm a brother. I'm a son. I'm a

  357. pastor. I'm a friend. I'm a mentor. I'm a coach.

  358. I'm a crossfitter. I'm a storyteller. I'm a history

  359. maker. These are just a few of the different

  360. roles that make me, me. Then there's my personality

  361. and all the different ways it works out in all

  362. those different roles. And I've even mentioned

  363. that the resources that God has given me to supply

  364. for those different roles, that's what makes

  365. me me. And throughout my day, I'll operate within

  366. those different identities in several different

  367. time frames. Paul says this. He says in all those

  368. different areas that you operate in, give them

  369. all to God as a living sacrifice. In other words,

  370. don't be in control. Why? Because it's holy,

  371. pleasing, and worship to God. In other words,

  372. everything I do in all those different capacities

  373. in my life are to be done for Jesus. And when

  374. we do that, our tendency to create idols in our

  375. life and in our relationships diminish, which

  376. leads us to our final thought. Some of you are

  377. thinking, well, am I making a relationship an

  378. idol? Well, when a relationship becomes the source

  379. of satisfaction and significance, it can be a

  380. false god. There's your answer. We learned in

  381. week one that God is a what? A jealous God. He

  382. wants to do those things for us. He wants to

  383. give us satisfaction. He wants to give us significance.

  384. He wants to give us happiness and joy. I mean,

  385. there's some very graphic language in the Old

  386. Testament book of Isaiah to help us understand

  387. how it feels to God when we are guilty of idolatry.

  388. See, this picture is painted for us. As one of

  389. us having an affair on God. That's how he feels.

  390. See, when we make something more important than

  391. him in the Old Testament, God sees it as spiritual

  392. adultery and he's jealous. He's hurt and he's

  393. angry. And this is what we read in Hosea 1 -2.

  394. When the Lord first began speaking to Israel

  395. through Hosea, he said to him, go and marry a

  396. prostitute so that some of her children will

  397. be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate.

  398. How Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning

  399. against the Lord and worshiping other gods. God

  400. is literally comparing the people of Israel to

  401. Gomer, Hosea's wife, who was a prostitute. And

  402. just like the people of Israel, we struggle to

  403. let go of our sin. We struggle to let go of our

  404. idols throughout this life. Even when we have

  405. so much love to receive. Even when we can connect

  406. with a living God, we find fulfillment elsewhere.

  407. Hosea and Gomer's relationship is a beautiful

  408. metaphor, a picture for God's relationship with

  409. his people. Although God was hurt by Israel's

  410. sin, by their choice to pursue relationship with

  411. idols, they were what? They were still his people.

  412. And I want to challenge you, when you experience

  413. feelings of guilt or shame or unworthiness, Or

  414. regret, chances are you've turned your affections

  415. onto someone or something else and God is convicting

  416. you to change. He's inviting us to change because

  417. he loves us. But you also have to understand

  418. he's not going to share us with anyone or anything.

  419. How do I know that? Well, Jesus told us this

  420. in Luke chapter 14. He has this large crowd following

    Luke 14 chapter mention

  421. him. And it's interesting, you notice, when you

  422. read through the Gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke,

  423. and John, when there was a large crowd following

  424. Jesus, I believe it made him a little uncomfortable.

  425. I don't think he liked the crowds. How do I know

  426. that? Because every time there was a large crowd,

  427. he would always tend to say something about their

  428. level of commitment, and then what would happen

  429. to the crowd? They would just slowly walk away.

  430. Well, here's what he says in Luke 14, 25 to 26.

  431. A large crowd. Here it is with following Jesus.

  432. Picture this. Remember, large crowd means thousands

  433. of people. Jesus turns around and says to them,

  434. hey. And he's saying to us this morning. If you

  435. want to be my disciple, if you want to follow

  436. me, you must by comparison hate. Everyone say

  437. hate. Everyone else. Hate everyone else. Your

  438. father. Your mother, your wife, your children,

  439. your brothers, your sisters. Yes, even your own

  440. life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple. Now,

  441. I don't know about you, but when I read that

  442. and I think hate, that's pretty strong words.

  443. How do I know that? Because I tell my little

  444. alpha child never to say hate. Ever. We don't

  445. use that word. You don't hate anything. But Jesus

  446. is telling me to hate them? Well, see, the Bible.

  447. consistently tells us to love people, right?

  448. But yet here Jesus tells us to hate people. Well,

  449. we have to understand what this word hate means.

  450. Because there's a big difference between how

  451. we understand hate and how the Jewish culture

  452. understands hate. When it's translated hate here

  453. in the Jewish culture, it was communicating a

  454. lesser love. The New Living says you must hate

  455. everyone else, notice, by comparison. It's comparison.

  456. The other thing for us is that we tend to equate

  457. words like love and hate to emotions and feelings.

  458. But that's not true for the first century. Like

  459. when we say I love you and I hate you, it's full

  460. of emotion for us. But in the first century,

  461. these words did not communicate an emotion or

  462. a feeling. It was about a level of commitment.

  463. And Jesus is saying your commitment to me, your

  464. level of commitment to me should be such that

  465. there's no other commitment. Doesn't matter about

  466. your mom or your dad or your children or your

  467. spouse. I'm first. And you say, man, that's pretty

  468. harsh. But here's the reality. When we get that

  469. commitment right, then all of our other relationships

  470. are going to thrive. All of our other relationships

  471. are going to thrive. I mean, why do you think

  472. I tell couples that are playing house? When they

  473. come to me and say, hey, we need to get marriage

  474. counseling. We want to get married. And I learn

  475. that they're playing house. And you say, Chris,

  476. what does that mean, playing house? You're living

  477. with someone you're not married to. We're all

  478. adults here, right? You're playing house. So

  479. in other words, you're a five -year -old that

  480. just built a house and you're living in it. You're

  481. playing house. But you're an adult. I say, well,

  482. move out and live separately for the next eight

  483. months before you say I do. Why would I do that?

  484. Well, do you want your relationship to thrive

  485. and be blessed? Then you should follow what God

  486. tells us to do. That's why. So if you're playing

  487. house here this morning, you might want to reevaluate

  488. your priorities because chances are your priorities

  489. are prioritizing the relationship over God. I

  490. love you though. When we put someone else in

  491. place of God, we make that relationship a false

  492. God. And it's the most destructive thing we could

  493. ever do to that person. How do I know that? Five

  494. things that happen when a relationship becomes

  495. an idol. First, there's unrealistic pressure.

  496. See, when we turn our spouse, our girlfriend,

  497. our boyfriend, Into a God substitute, we're putting

  498. incredible pressure on them because we're saying,

  499. I want you to do for me what God wants to do

  500. for me. I mean, some of you are feeling in your

  501. relationship right now. You have this incredible

  502. pressure that a significant other is putting

  503. on you because they're unhappy and they look

  504. to you for happiness. They're stressed out, they

  505. look to you for peace. Their world is falling

  506. apart and broken and they look to you to fix

  507. it. And you're under all this pressure. You want

  508. to know why? It's because you're not God. And

  509. they're asking you to be God. 1 John 1 .8, if

  510. we claim to have no sin, we are only fooling

  511. ourselves and not living in the truth. No one

  512. is perfect. We can't put pressure on the ones

  513. we love to make us happy. Another thing that

  514. happens is we have false expectations. And it's

  515. funny, if you're in here and you're playing house,

  516. chances are all five of these, you're like, oh,

  517. crap. See, we often put false expectations on

  518. our children because we look to them to the source

  519. of our significance. Why do you think so many

  520. children no longer play sports by the time they

  521. get to high school? Because mom and dad lived

  522. through them to live out their own failures.

  523. And now by the time they're in high school, they

  524. hate it. Because everything about their life

  525. is based around their success and their failures.

  526. And then they can't get good enough grades. They

  527. can't win enough trophies. And the problem is

  528. we've exchanged our relationship with God to

  529. our relationship with our children. And instead

  530. of asking God to be our source of significance

  531. as a person, we throw it on our children. We

  532. want them to be our life. And that just simply

  533. can't happen. Do to others as you would like

  534. them to do to you, Jesus taught. So let's do

  535. the same for our children and our spouses. Another

  536. thing that happens is unreasonable disappointment.

  537. Any false God will disappoint you. It doesn't

  538. matter if it's money, physical pleasure, success.

  539. It doesn't matter if it's relationships. Any

  540. false God is going to leave you disappointed.

  541. And if you're kind of the person that's generally

  542. disappointed in life, chances are you're disappointed

  543. because you've made something other than God

  544. a false God and it's letting you down. Of course

  545. it's letting you down. Only God can satisfy us.

  546. John 16, 33, I've told you all this so you may

  547. have peace in me. Where do we find our peace?

  548. In God, in Jesus. Here on earth you're going

  549. to have many trials and sorrows, but take heart,

  550. I've overcome the world. When we are asking people

  551. to do what they were never created to do, when

  552. we're asking someone to meet a need that they

  553. were never meant to meet, we're asking them to

  554. be God. which is just setting them up for failure.

  555. Another thing that happens is undeserved criticism.

  556. Jesus says, don't judge others, and you will

  557. not be judged. Do not condemn others, or we'll

  558. all come back against you. Forgive others as

  559. you have been forgiven. See, whenever someone

  560. isn't meeting our expectations when we're in

  561. a relationship, it's like we feel like we're

  562. being let down. And then when we're let down,

  563. what do we do? We lash out with criticism. And

  564. let me just highlight, criticism is poison for

  565. any relationship. Marriage, family, children.

  566. When there's constant criticism because you want

  567. the person to fulfill you, they're never going

  568. to meet your needs. If you show me a person who

  569. is constantly critical and always negative and

  570. always nagging, never happy, that means they

  571. don't have their delight in God. They're looking

  572. for someone, they're looking to something to

  573. fulfill them and satisfy them and they complain

  574. and they whine and they're negative and they're

  575. critical. You have anybody like that in your

  576. life? Some of you can't be honest because they're

  577. sitting right beside you. So don't say anything,

  578. please, because it's my fault. Listen, it's not

  579. fair to ask a human to be divine. Only God can

  580. fulfill those things. And finally, there's unhealthy

  581. comparison. Pay careful attention to your own

  582. work, for then you will get satisfaction of job

  583. well done. You won't need to compare yourself

  584. to anyone else. Ultimately, this is what destroys

  585. all relationships. You look to someone else,

  586. your spouse. Your significant other to fulfill

  587. this longing in your heart. They don't fulfill

  588. it. They don't meet the needs. And then you start

  589. to see these qualities in other people. And you

  590. begin to think, oh, if I was only with, I would

  591. be all satisfied and happy. They would meet my

  592. needs. And see if we exchange a relationship

  593. for that. it's only gonna get worse. Because

  594. what you're doing is you're unconsciously comparing

  595. a person to God and that person always falls

  596. short. It's not just that we look to our spouse

  597. to be God, but some of us try to be God to our

  598. spouse. And that's just as dangerous, let me

  599. say. When we make statements like, I'm gonna

  600. be responsible for this person's happiness, I'm

  601. gonna be responsible for satisfying this person,

  602. you're setting yourself up for failure. Or if

  603. the thought even goes through my mind that I

  604. can change that person. Or you know what's even

  605. worse? When you see two spouses trying to be

  606. God to one another. When the wife says, I think

  607. I can change him. When the husband says, I know

  608. I can change her. You know what that's setting

  609. yourself up to here? Let's get ready to rumble.

  610. Hey, all you married couples, you're welcome

  611. for the counseling you just received. Bob Russell

  612. talks about what he called the top button truth.

  613. The idea that if you get the top button wrong

  614. and you're buttoning a shirt, all the other buttons

  615. won't line up. All of them are off. But if you

  616. get the top button right, the rest of the buttons

  617. do what, church? Fall into place. And see, when

  618. we get the top button right in our relationships

  619. with our kids, our spouse, our friends, the person

  620. that we're dating, whoever it is, when we get

  621. the top button right and we prioritize our relationship

  622. with Jesus, friends, everything else falls into

  623. place. And let me say this. If you're in a relationship

  624. right now that's causing you disappointment and

  625. frustration, Instead of giving more attention

  626. to that relationship, instead of turning in to

  627. Dr. Phil to see what you need to do differently,

  628. instead of buying one of the million self -help

  629. books that tell you how to fix your life, instead

  630. of spending hundreds and thousands of dollars

  631. on a counselor, take your focus off the relationship

  632. and put it where? Now listen, I'm not saying

  633. those things are bad because they're all useful.

  634. But I'm saying quite often we run to those things

  635. for a savior and they fail and we're left miserable

  636. because we're not prioritizing the top button

  637. first, which is our relationship with Jesus.

  638. Which leads us to our one action step that we've

  639. been walking through throughout this entire series.

  640. This has been a great series, hasn't it? Defeating

  641. idols in our hearts. You want to defeat some

  642. idols in your hearts? Listen, just go all in

  643. with God. Sell out. You know, last week I challenged

  644. some of you to start tithing because God said,

  645. test me. Right? For others of you today, I want

  646. to challenge you, go all in with God for a month

  647. and see how your life is radically transformed.

  648. Prioritize him when you wake up. Prioritize him

  649. when you go to sleep. Prioritize him at every

  650. meal. Prioritize him in every workplace situation.

  651. And suddenly your life will be transformed. Abraham

  652. is... His son bound on the altar. He raises the

  653. knife to kill his son. And at that moment, the

  654. angel of the Lord called to him from heaven.

  655. Abraham, here I am. Don't lay a hand on the boy,

  656. the angel said. Don't hurt him in any way. For

  657. now I know that you truly fear God. Now what

  658. was this again? A test. Then Abraham looked up

  659. and saw a ram caught in the thorns with a thicket.

  660. Then he took the ram and sacrificed it. As a

  661. burnt offering in the place of his son, Abraham

  662. named the place Yahweh year, which means the

  663. Lord will provide. And to this day, people still

  664. use the name as a proverb. On the mountain of

  665. the Lord, it will be provided. God provided the

  666. sacrifice needed as Abraham was faithful to lay

  667. down the idol that he had placed in his life.

  668. Will you go all in with God? And what does that

  669. mean? Well, Jesus summed it up pretty easy. Matthew

  670. 22, and he says, you must love the Lord your

  671. God with all your heart, with all your soul,

  672. and with all your mind. Go all in. With everything.

  673. That's the first and greatest commandment. And

  674. the second is pretty simple. Just love your neighbors

  675. yourself. Jesus is reminding us that when we

  676. make the main thing the main thing, when we focus

  677. on loving God and putting him first and loving

  678. our neighbors comes really easy. But quite often

  679. what happens in the church is we want to love

  680. our neighbors and love our neighbors and love

  681. our neighbors and we forget about God and then

  682. we get burnt out and spent and full of religion

  683. rather than full of the Holy Spirit. You don't

  684. have to end world hunger tomorrow. You're not

  685. going to heal every broken heart in the world.

  686. It's just not physically possible. Jesus is saying

  687. the most important thing you can do in your life

  688. is go to him first. And then get filled with

  689. the Spirit and love others. He makes it simple

  690. because we are elementary students. When it comes

  691. to a relationship with God, we're elementary

  692. students and we're always gonna be. But he's

  693. inviting us to go all in and put him first. That's

  694. how we make a difference. Now this week, I had

  695. the opportunity to share a devotional at the

  696. Thursday night church softball games, and I was

  697. led to share Paul's challenge to press on. In

  698. Philippians chapter three, Paul says these words,

  699. I press on to possess that perfection for which

  700. Christ Jesus first possessed me. Now basically,

  701. Paul is describing his relationship with God

  702. in three words, I press on. You guys remember

  703. the game tag or chase when you're in elementary

  704. school? Right? We all remember it, right? It's

  705. funny. In that game, no one ever wanted to be

  706. it. Right? No one ever wanted to be it. And then

  707. typically the teacher had to pick someone to

  708. be it. And then they're like, I don't want to

  709. be it. Here's the crazy thing. Paul is describing

  710. his relationship with Jesus. He says, make me

  711. it. Paul says, make me it because I'm going to

  712. pursue Jesus. That's the most important priority

  713. I could ever put in my life. Paul says, I will

  714. press on. Will you press on this morning? Will

  715. you stand with me? So listen, I was praying this

  716. week about how to conclude this series, this

  717. talk today. And I felt compelled that we as a

  718. church need to corporately repent and say, God,

  719. forgive me for putting idols ahead of you. Because

  720. I believe that if you were to examine your heart

  721. in all four of these talks, I guarantee you every

  722. single Sunday there was something that we could

  723. point to and say, yep, that's it. Yep, that's

  724. it. Yep, it's that person. Yep, it's that thing.

  725. And it doesn't matter what it is. When we lay

  726. it down at His feet and experience His grace

  727. and forgiveness and choose and declare to go

  728. all in, that's when we experience freedom. Amen?

  729. And it doesn't have to be a Sunday morning thing.

  730. It doesn't have to be, well, I felt it on Sunday,

  731. but Chris, I'm not feeling it tomorrow. You can

  732. do the same thing we're doing right here today,

  733. tomorrow, and Tuesday, and Wednesday, and Friday,

  734. when all those choices are presented to you.

  735. Does that make sense? So we're going to pray

  736. a simple prayer together. I want to invite you

  737. to pray these words with me as I pray them. And

  738. we're going to lay down our idols. We're going

  739. to invite the Holy Spirit to come. And then the

  740. worship team is going to lead us to declare in

  741. our worship, in our singing, to go what? All

  742. in. All in. All in. We're going to go all in.

  743. Because when we go all in, everything else falls

  744. away. Let's pray together. Holy Spirit, come.

  745. Forgive me for putting someone, something in

  746. place of you. I choose to follow you, to put

  747. you first. Empower me, Spirit. To focus on you,

  748. God, and loving my neighbors. In Jesus' name,

  749. amen. Now listen, there were several words of

  750. knowledge I want to share. The prayer team will

  751. be here on the right to pray for you. If any

  752. of these are you during the worship, please come

  753. get prayer. You have muscle issues in your hip

  754. that extend to your knee. You have pain in your

  755. right knee that's causing you to limp. You have

  756. numbness in your left leg that extends all the

  757. way to your toes. You have stomach issues in

  758. the lower part of your stomach. You have tingling

  759. in your hands that won't stop. You have a scratched

  760. cornea in your right eye. If any of those are

  761. you, we want to pray for you right here. And

  762. if you need to give your life to Jesus and the

  763. Holy Spirit is convicting you, get up here and

  764. do it. They will lead you through that peril.

  765. They will change your life forever. Amen? Now

  766. I want you to stand and rejoice and sing with

  767. me and declare that you are going all in. Why

  768. are there people? I love you guys. Holy Spirit,

  769. come. Let's sing.