Matthew 5: 31-32

God would he fill me and use me or to feed the people of God with mana from on high?

Christ is the true bread

Or let us see him

Father would you help us to understand your intention behind the sacred word this morning?

Father where there needs to be conviction or do we know that your spirit will do that?

Where there needs to be correction may your spirit do that

And where there's needed comfort may your spirit do that

Lord we need you this morning

Help us father to grow in our most holy faith. We pray this in Jesus name. Amen

About a hundred years ago theologian Andrew Murray some of you probably have some of his books

He wrote the following words

He said one of the words of scripture which is almost going out of fashion is the word covenant

There was a time when it was the keynote of the theology in the Christian life of strong and holy men

It made mighty men to whom God and his promise and power were wonderfully real

It will be found still to bring strength and purpose to those who will take the trouble to bring all their life under control

Of the inspiring assurance that they are living in covenant with a God who has sworn faithfully to fulfill in them every promise

He has given

When we talk about a covenant we need to understand what is a covenant biblically speaking

It is a solemn and binding relationship between two or more parties and it's meant to last a lifetime

We find many covenants in the scriptures we can go back we see the Abrahamic covenant the Noahic covenant the Davidic covenant

We see in the New Testament the new covenant but we also find in the pages of holy scripture that marriage is a covenant

It is a covenant between a husband a wife and the eternal living God

Now today the idea of marriage has actually changed at least in the western world particularly in our country

We no longer where I say society no longer looks at marriage as a covenant but rather as a social contract

They believe since it's a contract it can be broken by either party when they breach the terms of the contract

In other words here's what most people think we'll stay married as long as it's working for both of us

But if not if either one of us violate the terms we set up well we can end it and they do

And then they go into another marriage with the same mindset

But that is not at all the way scriptures view Christian marriage

Marriage according to scripture is a holy solemn covenant

It is a binding promise between a couple and God

In the Old Testament when you find two people entering into covenant with one another oftentimes you had a goat or a lamb that would be slain

And what they would do they would cut that animal in half and they would lay half the carcass here and half the carcass on the other side

So with the two halves of the animal lying there the people who formed the covenant they would walk through the slain animals

And here's what they would say may God do so to me cut me in half kill me if I break this covenant with you or with God

It's very serious there's a pictorial representation of what a covenant is meant to do last until death parts us

Now obviously today we're not cutting animals in half and we're not walking between parts

But the Christian couple they stand before a gathered group of witnesses and they make solemn vows to keep until death parts them

Traditional vows vows that I normally would say if I'm officiating a ceremony you would say something you would say more than this

But you'd say something akin to this to have and to hold from this day forward better for better for worse for richer for poor

In sickness and in health to love and to cherish until death do us part this is my solemn pledge before God

Upon taking those vows and then later consummating the covenant and sexual union

God then says a true binding covenant has been formed before him and it's not to be broken except by death

God does not allow us the freedom to break the covenant simply because we become disappointed or disillusioned where our suffering seems more than we can bear in marriage

God does not allow us the freedom regardless of the disappointment the disillusionment or the suffering that you think is more than you can bear

Remember the vows you took before him for better or for worse

Those vows are meant to be lived out

So it's a solemn oath before God you're going to honor each other you're going to esteem each other you're going to care for each other until death takes one of you

Now for the past several weeks or past several months we've been going through Matthew but for the past several weeks we've been going through the Sermon on the Mount

In the sermon the Lord Jesus is giving principles that govern or regulate life in the kingdom of God

In this sermon our Lord is showing how kingdom citizens how born again people ought to conduct themselves

And today we're going to see how they ought to conduct themselves in marriage

I'm talking to the people who are citizens in the kingdom of God

Now this is not a set of rules to be legalistically applied if you're doing that you're going to miss the point

Yes there are rules but it's not just about a strict interpretation although we want to get there

Our Lord uses very very strong language throughout the sermon and today's no exception you can read it yourself

And we're going to see him protect and defend both the sanctity and blessing of marriage

So right now we can see today in our culture and I always speak of the western world

There is no doubt a concentrated attack on the family

In particular on marriage in our own country marriage has come under tremendous attack and tremendous suffering

We've suffered a lot of losses there's rampant divorce rampant divorce tremendous sexual promiscuity

Cohabitation before marriage has become the norm and then of course our government says that homosexual unions now marriages are legitimate

And all those go against God's design for the home and the family

What was once considered normative and traditional in the western world no longer is

What I'm spousing today would be very much out of sync with our culture I would be the one not normative today

Several years ago the Barna poll they did a poll and they did different Christian denominations with the highest divorce rates

And the group with the highest divorce rates are actually Baptist

Only surpassed by those who say they are non-denominational which are just Baptist without a name is what they are

So marriage it's instituted by God it's created by God therefore he determines what is and what is not acceptable

He alone has the sovereign right to do that he created it he regulates it

Now what was the original intention that God had when he created man and woman in marriage

One man one woman in a sexual union that would be pure before marriage faithful after marriage and it would last until death parted one of them

That's it now I want to give some preliminary thoughts as we start to exegete the text

First of all God instituted marriage secondly God hates divorce he did then he does now

Thirdly divorce is never commanded yet it is sometimes allowed

Fourthly it is never a good option and yet is sometimes the only one

Now even during the time that our Lord was on the earth marriage was a hot button issue it has always been a hot button issue

She had the rabbis they were divided on what were acceptable grounds for divorce or not

Now you have to keep in mind at that time there was a very low view of women

Now that low view of women did not come from the scriptures

Instead at that time they perceived women as lower on the human level than a man

They considered her an object they did not look at her as a person and at that time she held no legal rights

The husband held all the power and thus he could do whatever he wanted whenever he wanted with her

Now by the time we come to the New Testament divorce had already become easy and common

By the way only men could initiate a divorce women were forbidden from doing so

A man could initiate anytime he wanted and a woman never had the right to do so at all

William Barclay in his commentary he says the woman in the eyes of the law was a thing

She was at the absolute disposal of her father or husband

She had virtually no legal rights at all

To all intents and purposes a woman could not divorce her husband for any reason and a man could divorce his wife for any cause at all

Now you have to keep in mind Judaism had been influenced by two prominent rabbis

Two prominent Pharisees Rabbi Chalel and Rabbi Shemai

Now both of those there's a lot of writings and you can go back extra biblical sources they wrote a lot

But both of these men held opposing views

They were both very influential they started rabbinical schools that were very influential

The interesting thing is they were friends but they were at odds with each other

Rabbi Chalel his views represented the liberal faction

Rabbi Shemai his views represented a more conservative faction

So the Talmud when we go back it records hundreds upon hundreds of disagreements between these two rabbinical schools

Especially concerning marriage and divorce

So do you know when the Pharisees they want to trip Jesus up

They go to him and they pose a question about marriage to see which side is he going to agree with

Is it going to be on Rabbi Chalel or Rabbi Shemai

Well Chalel allowed for divorce for almost any reason whatsoever any situation

Listen a man could divorce his wife for such trivial things as burning his meal

He could divorce her if he did not any longer find her attractive

If she would embarrass him in public or he deemed her to be too quarrelsome

He could just divorce her

Now what was even worse was at the time the line of reasoning had been upheld and promoted by leading religious officials

Remember that Rabbi Chalel was a Pharisee

He had influence. Now do you know the Pharisees they were the gatekeepers of purity

They believed and prided themselves on how well they kept the law of Moses

They did not see themselves as idolaters

They did not see themselves as any murderers which we looked at a few weeks ago

They certainly did not see themselves as adulterers

And here comes the Lord Jesus an obscure itinerant preacher out of Nazareth

And he's going to show these religious bigwigs if you will

That yes indeed you are guilty of adultery

How? Through divorcing your wives and remarrying

He last week talked about the lust remember the lust that was already in the heart

If you look at a woman with lust in your heart you've already committed adultery in your heart

He's exposing their hypocrisy

John MacArthur said that Jesus indicts the Pharisees for adultery because they were committing it by putting away their wives

The ease of divorce made it possible to avoid open adultery

Only little paperwork was required to legalize their lust

Jesus said that every time a man without a proper cause turned his wife loose to remarry he forced her into adultery

Which by the way made him guilty also

By divorcing his wife on grounds other than adultery a husband makes his innocent former wife commit adultery if she remarries

And it was assumed that she would

Now how in the world did they get to this place?

They had the law

Well you know the Pharisees they loved the law so they looked to the law of Moses to support their view

They went back to Deuteronomy chapter 24 as a legal justification for their actions

Deuteronomy 24 · chapter mention

Well what did Deuteronomy 24 say? Let's read it

When a man takes his wife and marries her and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness remember that word in her

And he writes her certificate of divorce he puts it in her hand and he sends her out of his house

When she is departed from his house and goes and becomes another man's wife

If the latter that is the first husband or if the second husband detests her and he writes her certificate of divorce and he puts it in her hand and sends her out of the house

Or if the second husband the latter husband dies who took her as his wife

Then the former husband that's the first one who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled

For that is an abomination before the Lord and you should not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God has given you as an inheritance

So here's a picture you have a guy he gets upset with his wife he divorces her he gives her a bill of divorcement she leaves she goes out of the house she marries a second man

He either dies or he divorces her the first husband if he says man I made a huge mistake he doesn't get her back

It's an impossibility

Now the debate among the rabbis was what constituted uncleanness as the grounds for divorce because look at the verse 1

Now some rabbis understood this uncleanness they said it included every type of improper shameful or indecent behavior unbecoming a woman even up to embarrassing him

Okay so they were using this word uncleanness to refer to any cause of dislike any cause that seemed good to him

Hey she burnt my toast she's out and you think I'm serious you think I'm joking that was literally one of the grounds that was written in the halal view

Now we do know that uncleanness has to mean something and I'm going to be honest today we don't know exactly what it means but we do know what it does not mean

It does not mean adultery it can't mean why because the law had already prescribed if adultery took place what should happen to both the man and the woman

You get stoned to death right?

Lloyd Jones says that well Martin Lloyd Jones in his commentary the word adultery is not mentioned in the matter of divorce for good reason

Under the law of Moses the punishment for adultery was death so there's no need to mention it

So the whole object of the mosaic legislation in this matter was to control divorce

In those days remember men had a very low poor view of women

They had come to believe that they had a right to divorce their wives for almost any and every kind of frivolous and unworthy reason

The mosaic legislation that is the law therefore it was introduced to regularize and control a situation that was way out of hand and become chaotic

And it was grossly unfair to the women and which in addition led to untold and endless suffering on the part of both the women and the children

Men were the only ones who were benefiting from this

So before the time of Moses before regulation came all the husband had to do was simply verbally say I want a divorce and they were divorced

That was it

It just didn't matter but what would happen to that woman then she could not ever say that regardless of how tough her situation was

Now keep in mind she couldn't work

Marriage was the only way that she could survive economically

If she did not have a certificate of divorce or a way of showing she was divorced and her husband put her out verbally

No other man is going to marry her because he thinks she's still married

So what's going to happen she is going to be forced to a life of begging she and her children

There's no place for her to earn a living on her own

So do you see how grossly unfair this situation is

You see how un-toward it is toward women

God cared about that so the law of Moses was given now listen carefully as a concession not a command as a way to protect women and children

Deuteronomy 24 accomplished two things

One it protected women and that the husband had to give her a written bill of divorce which then gave her a right to remarry she could prove it

Secondly it made the man slow down and think before he divorced her because once he divorced her and she became someone else's wife

If he said oh man I made a mistake I'd like to have her back

It can't happen it was an impossibility

It didn't matter even if that second husband had died it did not matter

So we see it made him slow down so this was trying to protect women and children here

Now let me say very clearly Moses never sanctioned divorce

He only regulated how it was to be done

Life long faithfulness to your spouse is and was always the goal

But under the law Moses said if you did write up a bill of divorce two witnesses had to be present and they had to sign it

And later on those two witnesses could be called on to testify to the validity of a divorce that indeed had taken place

So there's a lot of things going on here

But let me say this this bill of divorcement the certificate of divorce never made the divorce right

It only said a divorce took place

It was kind of like a receipt so you go and buy something the receipt doesn't say you made a good purchase or a bad purchase it simply says you made a purchase

The bill of divorce doesn't say whether divorce is acceptable or whether it's not acceptable it simply said a divorce took place

It gave proof and thus the woman who her only way of survival was to be married could marry someone else

Now God's intention was never to divorce but the time you get to Deuteronomy 24 these divorces were very common

They're very common because in Egypt they're very common Egypt had a low view of marriage where had Israel been for 400 years

In Egypt a lot of the culture influenced them so all these divorces were taking place

Moses is upset about it and so he steps in and he gave rules to regulate the practice

Again I have to say it is not a command at all it is a concession on the part of Moses

But I hope you're following we fast forward to the time of Jesus now

And the Pharisees looking back at Deuteronomy 24 seeing the word uncleanness and they say that gave them the permission to divorce and remarry with impunity

They could do it for any frivolous reason

And the Lord Jesus is going to radically alter the way that marriage is viewed

Now Matthew 5 does not give all the answers there's other explicit passages that talk about marriage and divorce

Matthew 19, 1st Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5 but I want to look at Matthew 19 for just a moment

Now notice the text here there's a group coming to Jesus who are they? The Pharisees same people

They came to Jesus testing him they don't like him they want to get him in trouble

So what are they going to do? What's a hot button issue that we get you in trouble with?

It's kind of like politicians don't like to be cornered into something so that's what people try to do

Well these people were experts like let's get Jesus let's catch him in his words ah let's talk to him about marriage

Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?

On its surface let me just say that's a pretty dumb question I would think the answer ought to be no for just any reason

But notice Jesus what he does he answered and said to them have you not read that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female?

He said for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife the two shall become one flesh

So then they are no longer two but one flesh now this is the part that I think we're missing today

Look at the end of verse 6 therefore what God has joined together let not man separate

Who forms the covenant? God

They said to him well if that's the case why did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce and put her away?

Wrong poor logic there he said to them Moses because your hearts were hard he did permit you to divorce your wives

But from the beginning it was not so and I say to you whoever divorces his wife except for sexual immorality

Pornaya and marries another commits adultery and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery

And his disciples the people who are with him they couldn't believe what they're hearing they're saying if such is the case of the man with his wife

Isn't should we even get married is it better not to marry?

Now let's look at this quickly in verse 3 the Pharisees were teaching that it was you could divorce your wife for just about any cause

Now why were they thinking about that? Rabbi Chalel remember the liberal view

So they're wanting to trap Jesus they're like hey Jesus do you agree with Chalel or Shema?

They wanted to see what his interpretation was but I love the Lord he's never caught he's never trapped

He did not answer their question instead he posed a question to them

He said oh you want to ask questions let me ask you this one have you not read Genesis?

Go back and see that God made them male and female he brought them together made them one flesh and that one flesh union is not to be broken

He takes them back to the beginning back to the original intention in the Garden of Eden where marriage was first instituted

Well what is God's intention? They become one flesh and it doesn't get broken

In other words God never intended divorce God joined that couple in a covenant

Verse 5 he said there be joined it's the word cleave it's the word to be glued together to adhere to one another

So marriage if we look at an illustration it's much like an epoxy or glue that cements two people into one new creation

But verse 6 what God has joined together

Friend this is the serious part God is the one who unites the couple and this is what makes divorce so terrible

Because it literally rips apart the two people who are never meant to be separated except by death

I have talked and counseled to many many people have gone through divorce and I've had so many people say I don't wish them to be dead

I don't wish them to be dead but it would have been easier for me had my spouse died than to have experienced this pain of divorce

I would have done better had that happened because divorce destroys a union that God made and never desired to be broken

Well look at verse 7 the Pharisees they go back they said if what you're saying is true Jesus and God didn't intend divorce

Then tell me why Moses the great lawgiver he commanded to give a certificate of divorce

First of all I would want to just jump out of my skin here Moses never commanded it

What he did command was not the divorce but he simply said if you are going to divorce you can't do it verbally

You've got to do it through the proper channels you've got to get a writing and it's got to be certified by two people

What was Moses doing? Regulating the practice to protect the woman who is vulnerable

Jesus comes back look at his rebuttal verse 8

He said you want to talk about Moses and his permission? Because your heart because of the hardness of your hearts

He allowed he permitted this but I love what he said in verse 8

But from the very beginning that was not the case

What was really the cause of divorce? Hard hearted individuals

The hearts of these men had grown hard toward their wives and they were unjustly divorcing them and Moses then said okay

I'm going to regulate it, but I'm not commanding it

But you have to follow the proper channels and again this problem had become so widespread

And in Jesus day once more we see these religious leaders these Pharisees missing the whole point of the law

People including themselves were divorcing their wives at that time for frivolous reasons

It would put the wife in a very dangerous and vulnerable place if there were no certificate

But the Pharisees the pure people right they had so corrupted God's law

They were teaching that it could take that divorce could take place for any trivial reason whatsoever

And Jesus was upset they were misusing and abusing the holy law of God

They were religious hypocrites and by the way they had missed the meaning of marriage entirely

Marriage is the building block of civilization

Friends it is absolutely crucial and important it's no wonder why God is so passionate about the sanctity of marriage

It's the stability of the home it's the stability for children

The marriage covenant is a single most important human bond

And you have these religious officials these so-called holiness experts blind and oblivious to God's true intention

Now some of you are jumping ahead you're like but verse 9 does say there's an exception pastor let's read it quickly

I say to you whoever divorces his wife except for sexual morality and marries another commits adultery

And whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery

Sexual morality is not the word for adultery there's a specific word for adultery it's this is the word pornea

From which we get the word pornography and it means any type of morality could be adultery could be homosexuality

Bestiality promiscuity incest prostitution you name it it's a blanket term

Jesus is not saying though immorality must lead to divorce

He said it may if you have one party who's gone outside the marriage and they had sexual relations with another person

They broke their covenant because their vow before God says I will keep these vows

Now I personally pastorally try I believe that restoration and forgiveness always should be the goal

But what do you do if the other person will not repent they continue in that adulterous behavior

I do believe the innocent party is allowed at that point to be divorced

Martin Lloyd Jones in his commentary and I wish I want to speak for hours on this and I won't don't get scared I'm not

Nothing he says is a cause for divorce say fornication

It does not matter how difficult it may be it does not matter what the stress or the strain or whatever can be said about the incompatibility of temperament

By the way that's today right what is most people's divorce irreconcilable differences

No nothing is to dissolve the indissoluble bond save this one thing

The person who is guilty of adultery has broken the bond and became united to another

The link has gone the one flesh no longer obtains therefore divorce is legitimate

Let me emphasize again he says it's not a commandment but it is a ground for divorce

And a man who finds himself in that position is entitled to divorce his wife and the wife is entitled to divorce her husband

Verse 9 this is but we have to be careful here he said any other reason than sexual immorality and then you remarry

You're now in an adulterous relationship if a man marries a woman who is divorced for any other reason than sexual immorality he's committing adultery with that new bride

How do they commit adultery because the original couple remains married in the sight of God

If God does not accept the divorce as valid remarry as adulterous

I said this way the state of Ohio may grant a divorce that does not mean that the court of heaven and God does

People all the time get divorced in the eyes of the government but God is not forced by the government to recognize that

Why how do you how am I saying that the state did not join that couple together God did

Therefore only he has the right to decide when and if that union can be dissolved

Serious it's very serious we need to listen carefully to the words of our Lord concerning marriage

Friends we have such a low view of marriage serial divorce and remarriage

We must as a church as citizens in the kingdom of God return to a high view of marriage

We must as citizens in the kingdom of God return to a high view of God's design for marriage

We must his disciples got it they said if that's the case Jesus if it's that strict

Isn't it better not to marry Jesus to go on talk about the gift of celibacy but they got it they understood

I mean if you're saying it's permanent am I taking a big risk on doing this

Jesus is painting a very serious picture of marriage as a covenant in the marriage ceremony I say these words at the very beginning

Marriage is not to be entered into unadvised Lee or lightly but reverently deliberately and in accordance with the purposes for which God instituted

Don't get married rashly folks in the kingdom of God divorce is to be shunned entirely

But some people are divorced against their will and again I can't talk about all the exceptions

But I do I would be remiss if I didn't say this and we're getting very close I have counseled numerous people who are forced into a divorce

They did not want they did not seek and they did not cause okay I've counseled many many like this these folks in the church don't need our judgment

They need our compassion they didn't want it they hated as much as you and I in a fallen world that we live in divorce is sometimes unavoidable

It is always tragic God still hates it and is designed to still a monogamous lifelong marriage

But what makes divorce so tragic is that it destroys the family and that's a basic building block of society

But can I say one more thing what's even more tragic is what it says about Christ you and I have been created an image of God so our lives tell a story about God

Christians I'm talking about just think Kingdom citizens here we have been redeemed and our lives are to reflect our Redeemer

We are image bearers of the one true living God so when Christians divorce and remarry we are telling the story whether we want to or not

That Jesus has more than one wife and that is heresy you're like what you're imaging him your life is reflecting tell a story

The Lord Jesus has only one bride the church for whom he gave his life and he doesn't abandon his bride because he finds one more attractive or when she's behaving in a dishonorable way

The Lord Jesus the living God is always faithful to his covenant and you and I are called to be faithful to ours regardless of how difficult it may be

I've quoted him too much but I'll do it one more time Lloyd Jones because he's good

But on the basis of the gospel and in the interest of truth I am compelled to say this even adultery is not the unforgivable sin it is a terrible sin

But God forbid that there should be anyone who feels that he or she has sinned himself or herself outside the love of God or outside his kingdom because of adultery

God forbid you to think that way no if you truly repent and you realize the enormity of your sin and you cast yourself upon the boundless love and mercy and grace of God you can be forgiven

And I assure you a pardon he says but hear the words of our Lord go and sin no more

Go and sin no more now having seen how serious God takes marriage what should you and I do?

What do we do as a people as a church as citizens of God's kingdom we repent let us repent

We confess our sin that means we agree with God about it and we turn from it and where else do we turn?

To the all merciful living God we cast ourselves upon him and his mercy

We bring forth though the fruit of repentance what's that mean?

We're going to deal seriously with our lusts we're going to deal seriously with our dissatisfaction we're going to deal seriously with our rebellion against God that would lead us to divorce

You're saying pastor it's too late for me it's not you cannot go back and undo what has already been done I understand that

If you're in a second marriage don't divorce your second wife and go back to the first don't that's not a biblical and that's not the point

But from this point forward you must ask God to cleanse you purify you and help you to be faithful to the promise you have made

So what do we do? We feel guilty let us go to the table of the Lord and celebrate God's covenantal faithfulness

He's the only truly faithful one and we celebrate his covenant promise to forgive us through the death and resurrection of his son

Our grounds of assurance our grounds of salvation is in the broken body and the shed blood of Jesus Christ it's not in how well you did in marriage

So we celebrate that today but I implore you as the cup we ministered and the bread will be given spend that time asking God if you're married protect your marriage

If you need to ask your wife or husband for forgiveness do it now if you need to repent before the Lord do so

He is a God who loves to pardon we have a faithful high priest who will represent you

Come today come to the table the Lord if you don't know Christ you must come to him there is no salvation there is no savior

You must repent of your sins and come to the only one who can save you and his name is Jesus and he is a savior for all people

If you will simply humble yourself and believe in him you trust in him he will receive you today let us pray

Father help us Lord

Lord I knew the message would be a little stern I know it's hard to hear because we live in a culture of easy divorce

And Lord it's just so commonplace we become numb to it God would you forgive us have mercy upon us

Lord help us to uphold the sanctity and the blessing of marriage and Lord all of us Lord marriage is going to be difficult at times

Because there's two sinners in close proximity but Lord you give us grace you give us mercy and we thank you for that

Father help people not to be deceived into looking for greener pastures or thinking life would be easier if

Oh God give us wisdom today that Lord we look to your son he was the true one who was obedient in all ways

The one who was perfectly righteous and the only one in whom we can have hope Lord our assurance our salvation is found in him

Lord as we prepare for the table Lord prepare our hearts made through repentance confession and then also seeing the promises of God and receiving them

And we thank you for that in Jesus name Amen

Deacons if you would come to the table and go ahead and pass out the elements

If you know the Lord and you've been baptized in the name of the triune God this is the table of the Lord

But we would ask that you examine yourself if you don't know the Lord or you have never been baptized as the elements are being distributed please do not take it

This is a table for Christians and what marks a Christian out is the covenant sign of baptism

So we would ask that you hold them to the end and we take together as a body