Parenting with Purpose (Guest: Jace Coffield) | 2/1/2026

Well, good morning North Live. Thank you for coming out this

morning. If you're new to North Live, we

want to just welcome you. My name is Jace and I'm jumping

in for my husband Kurt, who fell and hurt his arms.

So we were coming back from Texas.

And so last night he basically let me know that I needed to

teach today. OK, I, I, I, we pulled it

together, the Holy Spirit and I, and it's OK.

So it's going to be OK. But listen, we literally pulled

up here at 8:00 AM this morning. This is my traveling outfit.

Thank you. And so this is how much we love

y'all because. We got, you know, we wanted to

be. Here we made it happen, but.

Pray for. Kurt, he's in a lot of pain.

He really hurt himself. And the funniest thing is it was

the last day in Texas and of all places to fall on ice.

Texas. I'm like.

Really. Kurt so sad, he's in a sling, he

can't use his arm. Like it's really sad.

So just pray for him for quick recovery because he really is

missing being here this morning. OK, well, let me pray for us

before we dive into it. And you know, as I was praying

about God, what do I put together for tomorrow?

In these few hours, I felt like God really laid on my heart to

speak on parenting. And I think we're going to be

talking about parenting. We're going to touch a little

bit on each season of parenting. It should be good, but I let's

pray. Let's pray and ask the Father to

help us navigate through this. Father, thank you so much that

you are the best parent in this whole world and in the whole

Galaxy and universe. God, you are so good.

And we just pray God that you would just relate your heart to

us this morning. God help us to become more like

you, God, and to learn how to love our children the way you

love. US Father, the way you have

patience for us, the way you teach us God and bring us up.

Lord, we pray for just an anointing, a fresh anointing on

us as parents this morning. God anoint this message.

Holy Spirit, come take your liberty and teach us.

In Jesus name we pray, Amen. OK, well, I.

Just want to start by. Saying that, I'm not speaking on

parenting up. Here because I figured this out.

OK, I am. Speaking on parenting from a

place of a lot of failure, OK, and just letting you know that

God is with us through it all. As we are learning, you know, a

lot of us didn't have great parents to help us or not great

parents, but godly parents to help us navigate to what it

might look like to raise children that are Christ

centered, right? And so we're going to be leaning

into the Holy Spirit. If you're at all like me, that

has been my journey is to say God.

Teach me how to be a parent because I don't have a clue what

I'm doing. So I want you to know that that

I'm not coming from a place of. I got this figured out.

I'm the most. Amazing parents.

I'm here teaching. No, not at all.

And I want to remind you of something parents did you know

that your children are born little butt heads?

Did you? Did you?

Know that when they're born, they're not saved yet.

It's so funny because the second they can.

Crawl you can. Figure it out pretty fast that

they're pretty self-centered and selfish little cutie patooties.

And you know, and, and so God is helping us, the whole goal.

Here's, here's some of the goals.

Guys, Let me read this to you. Well, no, let me wait for that.

It's, it's funny because it's the second, like even my

grandkids, right? And I'm going to mention them

quite a bit today because, you know, I raised a kid who's 30

years old, but these are. Brand new.

Fresh. Baked ones, right?

So we're kind of relearning things all over again, and we're

learning new things that I didn't know.

So it's kind of fun, but it's so funny.

Because, you know, Ezra is barely two years old.

And there's no way in heck he wants to share.

There's no way in heck that he wants to obey or listen.

And so it's just funny to watch them like live their little

lives in their little flesh. And, and just and just know that

God has entrusted us with these beautiful lives to help them to

navigate them towards the heart of the Father.

And you know. With that said, I want to say

two things. The world hates children so much

so that they literally want to kill them while they're still in

our womb. The world hurts children.

There is a lot of settings that the things that we see nowadays

of children being abandoned, of children being harmed and God is

very. Clear how he feels.

About that, he says it's better for you to wrap our thing around

your neck. Go kill yourself, OK?

Go go jump. Take yourself out before you

hurt. One of these little ones God has

made, He's protective of his children and he has made us to

be protective of his children. But God loves children and

children church are a gift from God, OK, In our lives, we are to

steward them. We are to help them to grow in

the Lord. Let's look at.

Psalms 127 three where the Bible says it says behold.

The children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the.

Womb a reward, and I want to say that's true for the planned and

the unplanned children. No child, regardless of how life

has become to be is a mistake because God knew our stories

before He ever actually knit us together physically in our

mother's womb. He knew us.

Stories He called us for purpose.

He made us for eternity. He made us to love him, to know

him and to be with him, to dwell with him, not just on this

earth, but eternally. We are his.

And I love that idea, you know, And it took me a minute as a

brand new mom to realize that my child, my children are not mine.

God has entrusted your children to you, trusting you to raise

them and to point them towards Him and to give them back to

Him. And what a beautiful gift not

only that children are, but that we get.

To play such an amazing part. I mean, think about it like God

could have been like, and we would have never known the

difference. Like, you know, I mean, what's

normal now is that they grow in our bellies and then we give

them birth. But how, how many of you, OK

guys, you're going to think I'm weird, but like how many of you

have all these alternate thoughts that you think things

through? Like what if we didn't have

noses that would look normal then or.

You know what if babies were born in cocoons and God, you

could have done that. Somebody reminded me recently

that even when your child is 3040 fifty years old, their DNA

still lives inside of. You.

As a mother, like there's this connection that never goes away.

It's a whole next level and I think God.

Did that on purpose. Right.

How many of you have this like? Supernatural intuition.

Something is off with your kid. Went yeah, exactly right.

I had a few of those phone calls with Jasmine when she was a

teenager and it was 12 the clock and she was supposed to be with

her dad and I'll be calling. I'm like, girlfriend, where you

at? What you doing, girl?

Why do I feel this flag? And she's like, oh, Mama, Hey,

Mama. OK, I'm going to leave this

party. Right now I'm like, you are so

God has given us great intuition to help our children and guide

them well. OK, here's the goal.

Of being a parent. Let's just simplify this today.

Can we do that? Number one?

Keep them alive, people. That's the number one goal.

OK, I don't know about you, but when I brought Jasmine home.

I really do hate to say this because I don't want you to hate

me, but she did. Sleep the first night all the

way through the night. She did.

It's weird. She loves to.

Sleep like even my grandkids, they will sleep for our naps.

Man, it's crazy. So she got home, but I didn't

sleep. Why?

Because I was like, are you alive?

Are you breathing? Like we need to do this here.

Make sure the air is coming out every hour.

So I'm like, are you alive? Are you breathing like?

Because she didn't wake up. And honestly?

Guys, when I think. Back of the time, I'm amazed she

survived because you know how you're not supposed to have

anything in like the cribs and stuff like that?

We didn't know that Gen. X over here.

Like I had five blankets on her. Filled with bears.

I mean, I'm like, Lord, what a miracle that you survived my

child through all of that. So for those who have babies,

you know, you're not supposed to do that.

They suffocate. OK, so.

Number one, keep them alive. They're going to climb, they're

going to go crazy, especially when they're toddlers.

Just keep them alive, people. And then number. 2 Is this Help

them see how much God loves them.

Help them teach them to see that God loves them.

Remember, they're not saved yet. There's a story of Samuel when

he was serving. Is it Elijah?

No. What is what?

What is the guy's name that he was serving under?

Eli, thank you, Pastor Bob. Like when he was serving under

Eli and the Bible. Talks about this.

I did have a scripture but I don't know what happened.

Oh, there it is now. The boy Samuel was ministering

to the Lord in the presence of Eli, and the word of the Lord

was rare in those days. There was no freaking.

Vision and isn't there another one?

Isn't there like a three seven as well?

Now Samuel did not yet know the Lord, and the word of the Lord

had not yet been. Revealed to him.

Isn't that something? Here is a little.

Boy who's not saved yet, He's serving in the House of the

Lord, right? God has not.

Revealed himself yet to him and so often I feel like.

That's the truth with our. Kids.

Just know that everything that they're learning from you,

everything that they're doing. There is a purpose for that and

the goal is for them to know God.

OK and then the last one I want to say this, so help them, OK,

keep them alive, help them see how God loves them, help them

fall in love with God, OK. And the third one is help them

walk in their God-given purpose for their lives and that.

You know, it's so funny because I feel like if you know your

children, you. Kind of already see where their

giftings are. I mean not.

Pull on do. You agree with that?

You. See if they have a desire for

this area or that area. You you just know how the

Goddess even early on you can already see where their

interests. Are and what God might have for

them one day. And as we're still in toddler

years here, I want to just say this to you toddler parents.

Good job. Good.

Job of hanging in there with your babies and your toddlers it

is look. I've forgotten how much work

that is. It might be maybe the most

challenging years possibly in a childhood I think.

Would you guys agree with that? Dose that had toddlers doesn't

make it easier the older they get.

Thinks, thinks does it till they're teenagers and then

things shift again a little bit. OK, But I feel like toddlers

especially, there's so much patience required.

There's so much love required. There's so much.

Even discipline required. And we're going to touch on that

just a little bit, but fold those parents with little babies

and little tardos. I mean, when, when I get to

Texas, let's say this is the child.

It's literally my, my, my kids are like at the door, like hi

here. OK, we're out.

They're tired, they're exhausted.

They're ready for me to come in and do the laundry and take care

of the babies because it's a lot of work.

And you know, one thing that I appreciate on a whole next level

is I only had one child to raise.

Having multiple children. Whoa, that's a whole nother

thing. OK.

It's like it's overwhelming because I mean, I'm learning as

a grandma how to do that. It's like this one peed and this

one pooped and this one is hungry and this one is crying.

Like just to navigate. And I can't even imagine if you

have more than two children like.

Wow. Kudos to you guys.

Amazing. But I want you to remember one

thing during those difficult years.

They're only small. For five years, you have five

years of little children of sort, and then things shift

again. So even though it is hard, just

know, don't. Don't rush it because you're

sleepless. Don't rush it because it's

difficult. Don't rush it because you're

running out of patience. Embrace the mass.

Embrace the chaos. Because.

Soon they're not going to cuddle you like that.

Anymore they they're going to they're.

Going to be on is that. True, it is so.

Hard right? They'll they'll give you a

cuddle here and there, but not to that.

Level where they're. Stuck.

With you and have no choice but to cuddle you for hours.

There was this fun little video I saw.

It's called cat. It was called Nap Nap.

What is it called? Never mind, I'm just.

I'll show it to you sometime. Another but this.

Lady who is? Trapped by the napping baby and

she has this whole song about being trapped.

Nap trapped. That's the song.

Look it up. It's awesome.

OK, so 5. Years they go so.

Fast and those. First five years are.

So important of that time spent with your young children.

I think even when we don't remember things as young

children, I think emotionally we do.

I think there's an emotional understanding when there is a

deeper bond with people and when there is not, right.

So even though you don't physically remember, I think

sometimes just knowing that we're building trust with our

children for those five years, you're building their

confidence, you're building that security that that is in you in

those five years and and. They're all hard.

They're hard years, but they're. So, so, so important.

Yes, it's a time where patients will be tested.

It's a time when you will learn how to best discipline your

children. And so undisciplined.

This is always such a strange thing to talk about, but let's

do it anyways. Proverbs 1324.

What does it say? Whoever spares the rod hates his

son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

And now, first of all, one thing that Kurt, you know, shared with

me this morning is that the rod, it's not like something.

To beat with the rod of a shepherd was to lead, to lead

the sheep. Right.

It wasn't like. To beat the sheep.

OK, it was to. Lead the sheep.

And so now, but I'm not saying to not discipline your children,

OK, and I want to what I want to say on this is I think for some

of us, it's a little bit harder to do that than others,

especially if you have a traumatic past of how you were

disciplined as a child. OK.

And that was my. Story.

I think that lines were crossed. Of how I was disciplined and so

I was really worried because I'm still learning as a mom like I

don't have these parents this community at this point to teach

me how to do it well right. So I am worried at this point to

do it, but Jasmine's dad was very good at this.

OK, My daughter's dad, my ex-husband.

And for those that. Do not know.

Kurt and I are mixed. We're mashed family.

What is it called? Blended.

That's the one. Mixed.

Blended. Mashed.

Yes, all mashed up. There we are.

Shake for you, baby. Shake, shake.

OK, so, so he was really good at it, you know, And so I was

disciplining her in a different way than he did because I didn't

know my limits. Of somebody that had trauma with

it, right? So, so he did it.

But what I loved about it is he never, he did it so well, guys.

He never disciplined her in the midst of anger.

And there's a fine line there. Because if you if you take too

long of a time to come back to the discipline, the kid will not

know what they did wrong to begin with.

And he gets in the house, you agree, but like, but what he did

is he just walked. He's like, he basically said,

hey, Jazz, I'm about to discipline you.

Give me about a minute. He'll be coming back.

We'll take care of this. And then he would explain to her

before he disciplined her, why he's doing that.

And he would discipline her. And he would then say that he

forgave her and he would love. Her.

And he would love on her. There's nothing worse than to

discipline a child and then let it like there's double

punishment, right, If you discipline a child and the

discipline really, if if you feel so LED to do a little butt

spanking And Kurt told me not to say spanking, but it is what it

is. Kurt, you know, I you know

that's, I know he's like, do. Not judge the word spanking.

I'm like, OK, I'll try. Just flew out disciplining them

when we're disciplining them, I think.

We just have to realize this one thing and this is what God

showed me. I didn't discipline Jasmine for

maybe the first three years because she was getting a little

spoiled right? And the Lord was just like

saying, Jace, how does spoiled milk taste in your mouth?

If if. If you allow her to get spoiled,

she will be disgusting, a nasty taste in the mouth of people.

It will not be a refreshing thing.

Don't you want her to be a big glass of water?

Refreshing, pointing people to me.

I was like, yeah. I do because sometimes I think

the word spoiled has also some positive ideas when I would

think like that person is loved and cared for and shopped for

and you know what I'm saying Like.

It has this beautiful feeling, but I had to realize that oh OK,

God, I do have to if I love my child if I want them to turn out

well. I have to discipline them and

now discipline does change and it looks different, I think, as

your children. Grow.

And the only person I think that's the best person to tell

you how to do it with each kid individually is the holy.

Spirit. Because God made those kids, and

what works for one is not going to work for the other.

Is that true? There's no such thing as like.

In law, this is how it's going to go for 1-2 and three Nah.

They're going to be Nah, Nah, that doesn't work for me, Mama,

we. Got to figure it out.

And we got to lean. Into the Holy Spirit.

And that's just what I did as a young mother.

I leaned into the Holy Spirit and I said, please help me.

I don't have a clue what I'm doing.

Let's look at John 1426 here. What does it say?

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my

name. He will teach you all things,

how many things, even parenting. Right all things and bring to

your remembrance all. That I have said to you and I

just love that. And the Holy Spirit has been

such a presence, such tangible, tangible presence in my life

when it comes especially to parenting.

And you know, let's move on to a little bit older children, OK?

We're just going to keep moving forward.

There is OK parents, if you have 910 eleven year olds, you know,

7 year olds, whatever. It will say that there is

nothing greater that will turn your children away from the Lord

than saying one thing and doing another.

You want to lose your children quickly.

That's all it takes. If you are living a hypocrite.

Hypocrite. How do you say hip?

That's a hard word in English life.

Your children. I don't they they will know they

will know the difference. They were going to watch you and

the things that you say and the things that you do are going to

they're going to matter. It's going to matter.

So please be careful church to not do that.

Be careful. Let your yes be yes.

Let your know, be know that your children see that what you say

you mean, what you promise you. Fulfill, right?

And what you don't want, it doesn't happen.

Your life is the biggest witness in your children's life.

And you know, I think sometimes we underestimate when that

starts. It starts very young.

It starts very young. OK, Let me see this picture of

my grandchildren. Look how young this starts.

They watch us. These are my grandbabies.

Look how cute they are. Look at the cheeks.

Look at those eyes. But.

And there's Tyler with his sexy shorts back there.

I'm sorry about that. OK, sorry Tyler, if you see

that, but but here they are. Did we tell them to do that?

Did we tell them to sing, to want to sing to Jesus?

Did we tell them to to to want to do this?

No, we did not. They watched their parents do

it. They watched their grandparents

do it. So they want to.

So what? They asked.

For for Christmas was worship. But they really meant as

instruments and things to make worship, right?

But they wanted worship. And so they're going to watch

that. And I love this little story.

This was kind of fun. My friend Josh van der Clark, he

had like 5 kids and they were like 7 or 8 years old or

something like that. And they had this hot tub

upstairs in their house. The kids were in the hot tub.

A guest came over like their friend with a little boy and

they were in the hot tub. And this little boy runs into

the house. He's like, I got baptized and

everybody was like OK, what does that mean?

So Sam goes over to talk to his little 7 year old.

She's like, he's like, why is this?

Little boy saying he got. Baptized, you know?

And Avery says. Well, he said he.

Wanted to get baptized so I asked you make Jesus your Lord

and Savior and he said yes. And then she said, OK, well, I

baptized you in the name of the Son and the Father and the Holy

Ghost, and then I baptized. Him.

And. And the the Father of the Son

goes well, is that legit? And he goes, well, they did

everything the Bible says to do so.

I guess it's done. He's like, if you hang out with

my kids, you might get baptized. So, but why?

Why are they? Why are they doing that?

How do they know how to do that? Because they're sponges.

Our children are sponges, incredible sponges.

And they watch us at home. They watch us at home, guys.

Yeah, let's look. At James 122 through 24 really

quick be doers of the word and not hearers only deceiving

yourselves, right. So to be doers to show our

children. So listen, our children, they

will. Where did I write that down?

We can OK, let me start with this.

We cannot force our children to love God, but we can expose them

to people and experiences that increase the likehood of

spiritual growth. Amen.

We can be selective with what we put in front of their eyes.

We can create. Spaces of worship.

To encounter His presence in our home, setting the culture in our

home. To experience His glory and His

mercy. Your children will become what

they see, not what they are told.

Let me say that one more time. Your children will become what

they see you doing at home, not what you tell them to do at

home. OK?

They're going to watch us like that.

And I want to touch a little bit on.

Go a little bit. Deeper with that actually and

talk about cultural Christianity versus Christ centered

Christianity, OK and why that is important as parents.

You know, in my country, when I went to school in Germany, we

would there was Bosnians and like Serbians and Croatians and

we. All were like under Yugoslavia.

Sort of. So we all.

Were like in the same class, right?

But during like religious classes, we all separated.

So the Muslims would go into their class, the Catholics would

go in their class and the Orthodox would go in their own

class, right? And we would learn stuff, but it

was so funny because the Muslims were culturally Muslims.

They were not actually practicing Muslims back then.

Like it was like if you were born in Bosnia, you're just kind

of like a Muslim, right? It's just, it's just instantly

that's your religion then because you were born a Bosnian.

You know what, guys? There's a lot of Americans like

that too. There's a lot of cultural

Americans that will come to church once in a while.

They will, you know, come to the festival, give once in a while,

you know, they will prioritize sports and school things and

this and that. And then come Sunday, they're

going to say to their kids, do you guys feel like going to

church this Sunday? Again?

I know I'm stuffy. I'm going Curtis, right?

But but it's truth what we represent.

What? What we prioritize, what we make

most important in our lives, That is, we cannot expect our

children to want to love God if we're not loving him first,

right? And our children know the

difference between religion and relationship.

They know it. And this is not to put anybody

down, like everybody has their journey of how they're coming to

God and where they're at in their journey.

It's not to put anybody down in that way, but it is like a wake

up call to say what? Are we prioritizing in our

homes, in our lives, with our children?

Because whatever we prioritize and wherever we put the body of

Christ, right? And it doesn't have to be N life

church. It could just be the body of

Christ in general. The way we talk about church in

our homes, the way we talk about pastors and brothers and sisters

in in Christ at home, it matters.

It will catch up. Sooner or later if you go home

and your five year old is there and you're like wow.

Curry was really sucky this morning.

What was that message all about? Right?

It matters. They hear that right?

So. Get alone on date night and let

it RIP, right? So, but, but here's what we want

to teach our children. We want our children, we want to

help our children by prioritizing the things that

matter to God. OK?

We want to teach them. We want to prioritize how to

serve. We want to teach them how to

serve. We want to teach them how to

give. We want to teach them early on.

The sooner you can get in there, the better.

OK, how to forgive? I remember, you know, if I made

a mistake and my daughter was three years.

Old the Holy Spirit. Taught me early on ask her for

forgiveness and it shapes things guys.

So it's OK to say, you know what honey?

Mommy was a bit harsh. There I was, you know what,

mommy was saying this about this person and that was not OK.

That was called gossip. I'm sorry I did that.

Will you forgive me? And it's so funny because when

they're little, they're like, no, you're like, yes, you're

going to forgive me. Now.

But we teach them right, we teach them forgiveness, we teach

them how to give, we teach them how to serve the body of Christ,

the Church of God. Those things matter, guys.

Listen, when this world goes down, if this world goes

downhill, you're going to need the body of Christ.

You're not going to run to the friends you made at the hockey

game. You're going to need the body of

Christ. You're going to need the church

to make it through it. So honoring God in that way is

important. So yeah, so just culturally,

let's let's ask the Lord what it looks like to.

Really love him with all of our hearts so that we can teach our

children true relationship with the Lord.

There is a scripture for that. Let's see, it's, I believe it's

Deuteronomy 6, four through 9. But I don't think we have that

up there, do we? And basically, what oh do we

hear? O Israel, the Lord, our God, the

Lord is one. OK, let's keep going.

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all

your soul and with all your might.

Let's keep going. And these words that I command

you today shall be on your heart.

You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk

of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the

way, and when you lie down and when you rise.

Are we talking about these things only when we go to church

on Sunday? Hey, what was the message in

kids church today? Let's have a quick conversation

about that. Or are we making God our whole

life? I'm not talking about adding

God. To your life like he's salt and

pepper. I'm talking about God is your

life. It's not a add on to your

American life. We have this, we do this, we go

here, we do that and we are believing in God and go to

church. No, that's that's all wrong,

right? Let me see that last part again,

at least. When is the last verse that

there was up there? You shall bind them as a sign,

OK? You shall teach them diligently

to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your

house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and

when you rise. And what that could easily look

like is that everything we do with our children leads.

Back to this. If they won a game, it's like

wow. Praise God, God give you the.

Strength to do that. If they lost the game, it's

like, you know what? I love how you honored God in

that loss, how you, how you honored him on that field, even

though you lost. Like thank you for doing that.

You were so kind. You were celebrating, you

opposing, right? We're teaching them every step

of the way, God's way. That's what it means to carry

him, to make him the center of a whole world, our whole lives.

This pastor Greg Rachelle was sharing this and I could really

relate to this because Jasmine also kind of did that.

Did I ever have to tell? And we just going back to did we

ever have to show these kids how to do worship or want worship?

Same with the Bible. Like did I ever say to my

daughter read the Bible? You have to read the Bible?

No, How did she read the Bible? She watched me do it.

She watched her dad do it, she watched her aunt do it, she

watched friends in church do it, and she just did it right.

So so the. Culture that you said it

matters, church, it matters. And I want to also say with

this, it's OK if you're not OK in front of your kids as well,

because even in the midst of that, it's OK to say, well, I,

I'm not, I'm not there yet with God.

I don't know if I fully love God with all my heart.

I don't know how to get there right.

I'm I'm on my own journey. It's OK to be.

Broken in front of your kids, guys, because even in dad, we

teach them, we teach them how to turn to the Lord.

We teach them how to be honest. We teach them how to be

transparent with one another, right?

We teach them that God is not going to reject us because we're

broken in some way or, you know, don't have it all together.

And of course, we don't share everything with our children.

I mean, obviously use wisdom, but it's OK to say, you know

what, Mama is not OK right now. Why not mom?

Because Mom is hurting. There's some things that happen,

and Mom is hurting. How about can you pray for Mama?

Can you pray for my heart? Even in those moments, we teach

our children how to respond. Well, you know, I'm a Gen.

Xer. How many Gen.

XS are in this room? Few.

Wow. That's it, Really.

That's all what's happening to us, guys.

It's crazy. I will say that growing up.

In our time was very different than everybody raising kids

right now. This is a different world, guys.

It's not. Is that true?

It's different and it's different because of this guys.

But just this in their hands, they have instant access to

everything evil in this world. They can watch wars live on

here. They can watch pornography right

here anytime they want, OK? It's a different world.

It creates different. But here's the thing, here's a

beautiful thing. Instead of being fearful about

that, the beautiful thing is that God picked you as a parent

knowing in this season that. This is how the world.

Would be he didn't entrust Gen. Xers with this season because we

grey like but he is entrusting you millennials, right?

He's entrusting you young Gen. Zers with this generation to

raise your kids well in this time, in this season.

And that's something guys, that is something, you know, and I

will say, like we used to be kicked out in the morning and

said, come back at night. Just stay alive and don't kill

no one, right? So.

But I mean, that's, you know, we drank from like the water

thingy, like what's it called? Hosts, you know, not this.

I mean, it was a different world, guys.

It's so different now. It's so much harder.

And we have to be diligent. We have to be diligent with this

season so. What I want to?

Say for those that have older kids and especially those teens

you're going to hate me that have these here get all up in

their business, parents. If the world is saying but what

about? Privacy.

It's like. Be quiet, world.

All you want to do is separate them from us so you can have

your way. That's all the world wants to

do. So do not sacrifice your

children at the altar of being politically correct to please

the world. You get to go into this.

You get to have their passwords. You get to control this.

There's so many predators, There's so much evil out there.

They're not emotionally. Balanced, yet to be able to

handle. Oh, I'm not.

I'm 50 years old. I can't handle.

Emotionally, everything that's on here.

If you fall in a ditch, you get cleaned up, but there's some of

the stuff that you can see you cannot on see.

It's stuck in here. So we are the guardians.

We are the protectors to protect and guard their hearts and

parents don't feel. Bad to not give them this

privacy. When they're old enough, that's

different. But I mean, if I had a kid right

now, I'd be like, look, I'm seeing every text that's coming

to you. I'm seeing every picture that's

coming to. You let your friends know.

I'm right there with you girl. Whatever they send you, I will

see. Let them know.

And you know, Paul showed me something really cool on his

phone. If you have an iPhone, there

actually is a way to control all of that.

So. I don't know how that all works,

it's something worth looking into.

But you can control how long they're on there with what What

websites are blocked? But guys even said even with

that said, it's still so sneaky. They will show up in kids.

Games it will be wrapped up in safe environment type of things

just to kid to get to our kids. Have you?

I mean it when we were little kids, guys, have you ever seen

of a 910 year old having anxiety attacks or depression or like,

you know, suicidal thoughts or I mean, that wasn't a thing, guys.

It's different now. The world is trying to confuse

our children. They're trying to rob them from

us and we have got to go in with force.

Amen church, Amen. You know, and and I just want to

say this, this is really important.

Before I touch a little bit on the older kids, just start.

Speaking life and blessings over your children.

Guys, this is so important. And this is one of the things

that the Holy Spirit taught me when Jasmine would go.

And you know what? It's also OK just to be

completely unhinged before the Lord in front of your kids.

They're going to think it's normal, OK?

Because if that's all they've ever seen, I mean, my kid has

seen me going. In the name of Jesus, you can.

You know, praying us up a storm in my house, battling in the war

or, you know, getting on my face and weeping or whatever, or

worshipping on my knees. Those were normal things for my

kids to see. So don't be ashamed to show the

raw, beautiful worship or the pain or the pressing into God.

Show your children, include them.

They may look like they may look at you like you're crazy at

first. But it will become their norm.

That is what's going to become their normal one day.

So one of the. Things that I did, and I really

feel like this has made a huge difference in Jasmine.

I really do. Every night I went into her

room, you guys, there was like on her door frame.

I'm not lying. It was this thick of oil because

every night I would take oil. And just anoint her.

Doorpost. And I would say.

God, I would pray for her. Husband one day.

I would pray for her protection, physically, spiritually,

emotionally. I would ask the Lord to put the

blood of Christ around her room or.

Dreams her mind. I would pray that he would call

her with purpose, that he would give her dreams, some physic

visions. We've got a war for our children

more than ever because this is not the time to be passive.

If you step back, the world will gladly.

Gladly take them. And I just want to say the

Scripture, it's so beautiful. Can we look up at the next

scripture? I think it's Isaiah 54.

Train up a child in the way he should go.

Even when he's old, he will not depart from it.

And I think that's so important because I think sometimes there

are seasons when our children stray.

But I think. I.

Think this is the kind of promises that you can pray over

your children, right? You can go over there and just

speak prophetically. God, thank you that when I am

training up Jasmine in the way that she should go, even when

Jasmine is old God, she will not depart from you.

I don't care what comes her way. I don't care where she.

Gets drawn to I. Don't care what it looks.

Like I don't care how cold she seems.

This is what I'm standing on, God, I'm believing.

I have faith, God, that you are true to your word.

This is a promise and the thing that we also want to teach our

children. You know, there's a scripture

that talks about obey your parents, children, so that they

may go well with you and that you may have long life.

That's a promise from the Lord, kids.

When you obey your children, your your, your, your parents.

When you submit to your parents, you honor God, and God honors

that, even when it's hard. When you honor your parents, I

don't care if you're 30. Years old, 50 years old, 12

years old, 15 years old. It will go well with.

You when you honor your parents, when you obey your parents.

And God has all these beautiful and why do we do that?

We're not asking for obedience because we want control, right?

When I want my daughter to obey me, it's because I believe in

the word of. God and I want her to have a.

Long life and I want. Her life to go well and to be

blessed. If I love her, that's what I

would want for her. That is why it's not out of

control. It's from stewardship.

From a heart of love that wants to see my kid prosper.

So parents start looking in the word of God for those promises

that you can speak daily over your children.

They matter in the spirit realm. How often do I think like?

God, if you opened up our. Eyes in the spirit realm.

What would we see? I bet you there's holy wars all.

Around us. I don't just bet, I know that.

There's angels, there's demonic, there is.

Just a whole. World that we don't see that

there's a war going on for our souls and for our children's

souls. So yes, so speak life over your

children, prophecy over your children.

Let them hear you prophecy over them so that word goes deep into

their hearts. Pray over their children.

Pray over their spouses. You don't want some guy or some

girl to come in and lead them astray, right?

Happens. Start praying now.

God, thank you for my son-in-law.

Think of you only. Thinking that he's going to love

you, think of you protecting. Him even now, wherever he's a

little boy somewhere out there, God just teach him.

I don't know what kind of family he's born into God, but I pray

you get a hold of him. Lord, get a hold of her.

Lord speak into her life, bless her life.

God start speaking that over your children, pray over their

spouses, prophecy over them. And then I just want to lastly

touch just a little bit of the parents that have adult

children. How many of those do we have in

this room? OK, few.

Isn't it such a strange transition going from parenting.

A 30 year old does not want to be parented anymore, guys.

And I tell you, this is still uncharted waters for me because

you know, I'm in the midst of it.

I'm learning how to do this now with a 31 year old daughter and

a 35 year old son-in-law. It's crazy.

And I will say in the beginning it was really difficult for me.

I did not know. How to do boundaries well with

that? Because she was my kid.

And I barely knew Tyler, I met him like 3 times because he

lived in Texas. And so I I.

Was like, who am I giving my kid to here?

I know you love God and all, but like, I don't know you, you

know, and. So the first six.

Months when they got married, it was a little difficult trying to

figure out this new rhythm. Letting go, letting your

children go and cleave to their spouses, right?

Building their own families, building their own lives.

It is weird. You're no longer parenting them,

but you're also not their girlfriend because you're their

mom, you know? And that's one of the things I

always said to Jasmine, like, what is one of the things I

always said when you were growing up?

And she said you always said I'm not your girlfriend, I'm your

mom. You only got 1 of me, right?

You can have many girlfriends, but you got one of me.

And so I think what's interesting with that is that

it's not quite a girlfriend, right?

It's not parenting anymore. Pam, what would you?

Say it is. What?

Do you have an idea, Pam? Like if it's not parenting, if

it's not mothering, would you think it's friendship?

I'm just curious for those that have kids that are 30 some years

old. What do you think?

Oh no, sorry. But for those that know who

knows Bob, what does it look like?

A passive mentor like that? No, you cannot, nor can you, nor

can you discipline or take care of their children, right?

Those are their children. You did your part already.

So what? So here's what I want to say

with that. Here's the thing that I did.

What I said was, OK, Tyler, you and me, let's go out for coffee.

My son-in-law, Baghdad. And we sat down and I said, what

can I do to win your trust? And he said, if I see you honor

our marriage more than your own relationship with your daughter,

I think that would win my trust. And I was like, OK, I can see

that. Because he didn't want to be on

the outskirts. Is that fair?

Son in There was no longer this thing

where I'm like I need time with my daughter I've got to fit in

time with you Jasmine somewhere right this pressure but Tyler

whatever right but I need time with my daughter when I started

saying hey guys, I'm here every time I'm here every day if.

You want go on dates, go build your relationship, go work it

out, go have fun. You don't have to worry.

I'm here right when that started happening.

I think that's when Tyler became my son as much as my daughter

was my daughter because it was no longer son-in-law daughter

right now. These were my kids and I honored

their marriage to form my own relationship with my daughter's

life. And so so I just want to say

that you guys, I know it's hard. Like I said, I don't have much

to say on this subject because I'm navigating and I'm learning,

but it did win his heart over. I did win my son in law's heart

over and I'm learning still how to do that even with my

grandkids. It's just it's a strange but

also guys for those give your parents grace.

It's their. First time to doing this stuff,

they've never done it before. They're learning when to not

cross a boundary with your kids or when not to say something

that is off or different that you're doing than what they did.

Your dad, your mom, right? But give them a little bit more

grace. But set those boundaries also

where it says Mom. Here's this.

Here's the non negotiables. This is not where, this is what

we're not doing this, but you're welcome over here.

It's OK to set those boundaries but also extend grace to them.

I think we're at the last scripture here, Isaiah 5413.

Let's see what it says. I think it was the last.

One, you showed it already, but let's, let's, let's see it

again. All your children shall be

taught by the Lord and grace shall be the peace of your

children. Isn't that beautiful?

It's another beautiful thing to speak over your kids, and I just

want to end with that and just say, you know, the Lord loves

our children more than we could ever love them.

The Lord loves our children more than we could ever love them.

When we're worried, when we're fearful, you know, it's such a

good reminder to always give them back to the Lord.

Because when I worry, when I fear over my grandkids or my

grandchildren or my children or whatever, it's so amazing to be

able to release them and say, God, you made them, you know

them, you love them, you have the best for them.

So I give them back to you there never been mine to give back

ANYWAYS to, but I have to tell myself that so that I could

navigate through the trauma of releasing all over again.

Guys, I want to pray for you really quick and we're going to

end right here. Thank you so much.

Thank you for giving me grace this morning.

Like I said, this message was put together within three hours

and God is good. So I hope you got something out

of it. Did you get something out of it?

All right, good praise God. OK, well, Lord, I just pray for

every parent in this room, no matter how old our children are.

And God, we just pray for such supernatural season as we're

walking through this new season in our culture and it's just

getting harder in this world that we just pray for a deeper

anointing as parents, God, as grandparents, Lord.

To be able to navigate through these.

Waters Lord, that are so uncharted and God we just pray

over our children. God, we give them back to you

today. God, our 30 some year olds, 40

some year old children, our grandchildren, our little

children and our future children.

God, we give them to you, Lord. We thank you, God, that your

plan is best over them. We pray for protection over

their minds, over their hearts, over them physically right now.

God, in Jesus name, Lord, we break every generational curse

over them in the name of Jesus. God, we thank you that our

children will not suffer with addiction like some people in

our family. We thank you God, our children

will not suffer from witchcraft like some of our past did.

God, we thank you, Lord. God, that you.

You can do new things, God, we pray for new things in our

children, in our future children, God, protect their

spouses, protect their lives, protect them at school, protect

them at sports. God and teach them to love you

and to know you. And Father, we pray the same for

our hearts. God that in this next season you

would fill our hearts to really know you, to really love you and

serve you and God that just by doing so, our children will be

in aspired to go deeper with you.

And we ask it all in Jesus mighty name, Amen.

So Kurt is not here to give you.