A Leader’s Greatest Burden

I would say the leader's greatest burden is that you're

always going to feel like I talked about one window

at a time, like something is suffering. That's okay. The

way I've learned it is don't let one thing suffer

too long without your attention. Your challenge is going to

be you are going to want to stay in the

area if you break your job down or you break

your marriage down, you are going to want to stay

in the area of either extreme of doing the thing

that you're seeing the most results from because it makes

you feel good and you get validation for it, or

feeding the thing that's the most problematic, where really most

of your results are in the middle somewhere. So it's

not in spending three meetings with the volunteer that really

is never going to get on board that you're going

to see success. It's also not in just hanging out

with the volunteers who get it and who make you

feel good about yourself. Is somewhere in the middle, and

it's not really on the fringes that you're gonna find

your growth. So if you're investing your time, write this down,

don't water weeds. Once you figure out something isn't gonna grow.

It's just not going to grow. There comes the time

to say this isn't working out. Kindly, I love you,

and you leave the priority. It's no longer a priority.

Once something is really working, though, that might be a

time for you to say, you know what, I keep

doing this because it's easy, and this is what I

want you to work with. Elijah on on piano, he

plays the stuff that he can play fast. He plays

the stuff that makes him feel good. He really needs

to work on the music that sounds horrible where I

don't go upstairs. Hey, that sounds great, man, you're killing

it up there. What he needs to be playing his

stuff where I go. God, how much longer are you

going to be practicing? Because that's where he's learning and

that's where you're growing. So notice those tendencies that you

have to spend a lot of time in the area

that just makes you feel comfortable or that you get

a lot of praise for, and just spend the time

there because it's the most noticeable, or the tendency you

have to spend all the time. If you have three

kids with the problem one while the two good ones

aren't getting rewarded for being on good behavior, think of

your priorities in those ways, and realize that most of

the growth is in the middle somewhere. It's not on

either of those extremes. Okay, is it? Because I could

answer that a bunch of different ways. But here we

are again talking about an adult life skill prioritization to

know that, like Bishop Jakes told me, you are not

going to you are not going to succeed in every

area of your life every day. And he used the

example of if you're doing too good at home, it

probably means that there isn't enough money in the bank.

If you're really really doing great in a season of

earn or moving up that way, there may be attention

liking at home. The first step is being okay with

one window at a time, one area of focus at

a time. You can't stay in one place too long, though,

And so when I decided, for example, to invest myself

in uh, you can pick anyone you want, songwriting, writing books, whatever,

I had to take my attention away from something for

a time that I've hopefully given good momentum to. So

I got this spinning, spinning real good. Now I need

to do this. Come over here, this thing, anything moving you.

Oh God, this thing over here, that's life. There's life.

They're not gonna you just said it. Spend Spence Fincepincenas,

step back and watch it. It's gonna slow down. You

just gotta be aware, know other condition of your flocks

and uh and kind of know what's going on and

be like, Okay, that's kind of slow over there. I

got this is. I have to do this more than

any of y'all because the whole thing is on me,

the whole thing. If I get the social media team

fired up, the campus pastors need a little something, it's

always something and it's okay, and uh, I'm getting better

at going well, that's part of it.