Who Are You Trying to Impress

We all have performance anxiety, whether it's just one person

we want to impress, or we want to do a

good job at this or make sure everything's done. I

know the principles applied. What I'm coming to now is

if I fix my intention. You heard me preach, why

am I anxious? Right? You heard that? One? That really

is my secret stash. That was one time where I

just brought the church something that I wrote down for myself.

I taught it to staff, but I wrote it for me.

I sat down and thought, like, what are the things

that make me anxious? And one of them that I

didn't develop in the talk was intention, And I realized

that every time that I felt overly anxious, not appropriately anxious.

You know, the difference is like one is like I

feel the weight of this because it's weighty, yeah, and

it steadies me. I feel the weight of this.

And it's crippling me.

One is necessary and the other one is prohibited. And

the difference for me is when I'm going out there

with a mindset, there's always going to be a certain

element of pressure to it, but it becomes unbearable when

I'm going out to meet and expectation that others have

of me, or that I perceive others have of me.

When I'm going out with more of a mindset to

connect with people and to be a vessel for what

God poured into me. If I see myself as the vessel,

I'm okay. If I see myself as the oil, I'm

in trouble. And even in practical ways of thinking about it,

if I let myself. Have you ever noticed that when

I preach, Say, maybe if I go Saturday night, it's

different than Sunday morning, it's different than eleven thirtyeth another,

And even like when I come up after the worship moment,

maybe one time I just preach. Maybe one time I

sing an old song, time I sing a different old song.

Maybe all of that is an effort to be in

that moment. Because if I'm in that moment, I can't worry.

If I'm in that moment, I can't regret. Like being

so present in that moment and totally focused on what

it is that God gave me for the people, I

don't have room for self consciousness anymore. Like try it,

Like try totally throwing yourself into the moment, whether that's

you're preparing for something or you're in a performance moment

where you're having to actually execute throw yourself so into

the moment that it's not like, what are they thinking

about me right now? Or what about this next thing

I have? Or whatever? And see if that doesn't make

the anxiety like just fall off a little bit, because

you won't have room for it if you're totally focused

on the moment. If I'm answering your question right now

and my total sole focus is to help you and

answer it and give you something from my heart, like

I am right now, like I'm just totally flowing with

you in this moment and saying the next thing, I

don't have room to think like.

Are they born?

Oh my god, they're they disappointed? They've been looking forward

to this. What if I'm not helping them? What if

I tell them the wrong thing? I don't have time

for those voices because I'm focused. So it really requires

just this immersive ability to be totally in the moment.

And there's practical ways you can get there. There's practical

ways you can breathe, there's practical ways that you can smile,

there's practical ways you can stop, there's practical ways you

can pause. But I think if you don't have the

right intention going in and you want to impress people,

you'll always feel pressure. If your goal is to be impressive,

you're always going to feel like a performer, and it's

always going to feel like pressure. I believe this what

I'm telling you right now, but I can't always get there.

Sometimes I get stuck in all that little is this

the better sermon? Is this better than the last time?

And little things get in my head too, like they mean, well,

but the campus faster we late. I met a couple

from Hawaii. They flew in just to be in church today.

Oh my god, why did.

You do that? Eleven thirty one? I'm tired? Now you

have to come to this one. Yeah, I really do

think that. It's like I don't want to let them down.

They came from Hawaii. Why did you come from Hawaii.

To show it?

Anyway?

What's wrong with you? That's not my fault. Put that

on me. But getting in the different gear man, like

you know God called me to do this. I don't know,

a lot of it is a lot of it is

ego and narcissism. It's not wanting to serve God. It's

wanting people to think or something. A lot of it is,

however you want to play it like, I just want

to do my best for the Lord. Yeah, that part

is manageable. It's the other crap that I allowed to accrue,

like how are people taking this and that? Like that's

what takes it over the edge. I'm also getting more

comfortable admitting what part of it is ego versus what

part of it is.

Healthy. Yeah, and as long as.

You put yourself on the edge and try to be

led by God, it's going to be a more healthy

feeling pressure and it won't be audience based in your life. Hey,

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