2 Samuel 13 (Part 1) Bible Study | Pastor Daniel Batarseh

You have your Bibles tonight. Second Samuel chapter 13, is

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where we're meeting tonight. And as you're there, I would

like to begin by saying the Apostle Paul Asher's us and

warns us by the holy spirit in Galatians 6:7.

Galatians 6:7

Do not be deceived. God is Not mocked.

Whatever a man so's that will. He also what?

Reap that, whatever he sews will he also reap?

If you've been with us, you know, that in second Samuel

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chapter 11 David has sold much into unfortunate.

Things. He sewed much into his lust into

deception. And to betrayal to murder and we

are now about to see him reaping from the same tragedies through

a series of catastrophes, that will essentially cover the rest

of our study in the book of second.

Samuel, We've already seen that David.

Has experienced some sorrow with the death of the child that he

had with Bathsheba. And that is just the beginning

of many griefs. And these tragedies these

atrocities that will follow David for the rest of his life

will be close to home. In fact, they will emerge from

his own home. And there is this strange notion

that people have. About how God's forgiveness

works because one of the overarching truths that will be

constantly before us for the following chapters until the

last period. Mark of This Book, Is that

forgiving sin still has consequences.

The Lord is ready to Pardon. He is quick to receive us over

and over again, but his willingness for us to be

reconciled back to him. There's not always promised

every outcome being canceled equally.

We can thank God that when we do turn from our evil, he promises

us. Restored Fellowship.

And he promises us as security of his favor to shine over us.

but depending on the nature of the sin that we commit, it is

very true that we cannot predict the outcomes that can sometimes

even be life lasting they can burn and remain to some degree

on us and around us. And before us and that truth

alone should discourage. The tented Saint, who finds

themselves very near to the edge of compromise because they sued

themselves with the idea that God is very, very quick to

forgive why? Because even Forgiving sin.

Can have consequences. and that is precisely what we are going

to see here in this chapter because starting here in this

Verse verse 1 of chapter 13. You and I are going to see

David's dishonorable example, reproduced in his adult

children. Now, we don't know how much of

David's failure was made known to his family, things catch on

quick, things can spread quick, but one thing is for certain

according to First Kings chapter one, David was not the most

exemplary father. He was very slow to discipline

his children. And even just in Practical

living, he didn't, he didn't really showcase the most,

honorable way of living and making decisions, especially in

the area of relationships. And so we're going to see some

some tragedies. It's not it's not going to be

the brightest Bible study moving forward from chapter 13 onward.

And the first person that's going to replay some of the

shameful things that David has done though in different forms

is going to be eminent David's eldest son.

According to 1st Chronicles chapter 3, verse 1.

And what a man is going to do, here is a grievous violation of

many things. And I want to give you a heads

up, this is not going to be the most comfortable Bible study to

engage with It's not going to be the most comforting things

you're going to hear. And read nonetheless, the Holy

Spirit included in his word for a reason and the inclusion of

the story, invites us to explore and investigate.

What it is that God wants to say with great, humility and

eagerness. And so it before we begin, we

have to trust that the Lord has brought us this detailed account

with the purpose of giving us valuable lessons.

Valuable Treasures, no matter how dark or uneasy it's going to

be to digest. And so, with all that being

said, I want to read the first few verses and then we will take

our time to understand what is taking place in verse 1.

Of chapter 13, we read now. Absalom.

David's son had a beautiful sister, whose name was Tamar.

And after a Time am ninh David's son.

Loved her. An eminent was so tormented that

he made himself ill because of his sister Tamar for.

She was a virgin and has seemed impossible to eminent to do

anything to her. But and then had a friend.

Whose name was jonadab the son of shamya, David's, brother, and

Jonah. Dad was a very crafty, man, and

he said, to him, o, son of the king.

Why are you so Haggard morning after morning?

Will you not tell me? And, and said to him, I love

Tamar, my brother Absalom sister.

Johnny Depp said to him lie down on your bed and pretend to be

ill and when your father comes to see, you say to him, let my

sister Tamar come and give me bread to eat and prepare the

food in my site that I may see it and eat it from her hand.

I want us to begin this study by looking at three things

concerning this man and then the first thing is going to be

eminence. Privilege.

The second thing will be eminence.

Passions. And lastly, we're going to look

at em nen's pressure. Emmons privilege.

Verse one. Tells us clearly that he was

David's son. You heard me say earlier that he

was not just one of David's Sons.

He was the eldest son according to 1st Chronicles, 3 verse 1.

Now, all of that should paint the picture of the privilege

that this young man had he was royalty.

He was born into unmeasured prosperity and it was born into

a world with unlimited opportunity.

And with all of the prestige and the position and the resources

that were made available to eminent on top of that, the

favorable blessings that would come to him simply because of

his birth order. This man was so far from being

wholly so far from being whole so far from being in the will of

God which promises great blessing and protection.

And I think that's insightful for many reasons, especially in

the culture that we're living in today, because the leaders of

our country proposed, very Vain and Halo strategies with the

promise, that it will bring us that much closer to Harmony in

society. These methods include something

along the lines of if we just give troublemakers a better

environment than they will calm down, and they will build

themselves up, and they will build a better future for

themselves and for their offspring and for their

surrounding area. Or if we just offer more

financial assistance to those who are self-destructive, then

then we will see some level of peace in our midst.

We know that Adam and Eve already proves that to be wrong,

they were in a perfect environment and they messed

everything up. And that is vividly described

even here, Illustrated with M, then with so much at his

disposal. He was intensely corrupt within

he would not only destroy his life but those around him

innocent parties. Resources.

Don't regenerate people the Holy Spirit.

Only does that Transformation comes from the inside out, not

from the outside. In if you attempt to change

things from the outside in, you're wasting your time and

you're wasting your resources. If we want to see neighborhoods,

altered, if we want to see cities, altered if you want to

see schools, altered if we want to see all these things that we

desire to see, begins with the human heart and you can't

change. What is immaterial with that,

which is material only the Holy Spirit can come in with the

truth of the gospel and bring about the transformation.

That is necessary. Go to cause a ripple effect

around day-to-day life. And in here, proves his

biography reminds us that you can be a prince in a palace.

It still caused havoc in your own life.

Around those things that you think will promise so much

pleasure and satisfaction and she's not going to happen.

There's a wonderful proverb that came to mind when I read about a

man's biography, very briefly. And it is this and Proverbs 15.

16, we are told better is a little with the fear of the Lord

than great treasure with trouble with it.

Better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure

with trouble with it. I love how the parallelism

there. Shows us that the spirit

contrast, the fear of the Lord with trouble.

You want to avoid trouble, get the fear of God, you want to

invite trouble, remove the fear of God.

And that proverb also gives us an ultimatum in some sense. if

you had a choice between having great treasure void of the fear

of God, governing your life, Or with contentment accepting much

little. But having the fear of the Lord

reigning over your life, choose the latter.

Always, you are way better off. Having the fear of the Lord than

unlimited numbers on that screen.

When you click into your bank account or whatever, things that

you can do at the snap of a finger, better is little with

the fear of the Lord than great treasure would trouble with it.

And all how the Bible even tells us how many occasions that there

is much trouble that comes with great wealth.

I wouldn't ask God for more in this life unless you are

saturated and anchored in your reverence for God who he is, and

what he's able to do or else you're headed for trouble?

I'm telling you. So, we look at a man's

privilege, right? We look at a man's privilege.

Now, we look at his passions and we read here that he loved

Tamar, who is David's daughter from another mother.

This is a man's half sister. They have the same father.

And what's interesting is all we know about her is that she was

beautiful, which tells me she her mom must have been beautiful

because Absalom her brother was also a very handsome man.

So says something about the mother.

She was beautiful. She was a virgin and she was the

sister of Absalom and were told about Absalom early on because

we're being prepared, he's going to be key instigator to David's,

upcoming troubles and problems. He's going to be a main

character in a Lifting much pain to David's life.

The love that a man had for Tamar here.

Raises a red flag, doesn't it? Why?

yeah, you know, it and on top of that, we are told according to

Leviticus 18 9. We are told plain and clear that

it is prohibited to have any kind of intimate relationship

with people from your immediate family.

So this is a law thing. This is not just a personal

opinion thing or a cultural thing.

This is even inscribed in the law.

And so we already know something about about em nen's desires,

their unnatural and they are unlawful according to the law of

God. It's clear and this brief

insight into this man's heart already.

It conveys that he was a man who lacked character and obvious

conviction. He loved tame our, he's about to

do something, simply because of what he feels, he feels these

strong emotions, and that's going to determine how he's

going to act. And just a few short moments,

even though it violates God's clear commands, it doesn't

matter to him then and I can't help but be reminded of the

Mantra of our day. The most of the Abominable

things that we're parading and tall. flirting is all done in

the name of what Love is not love.

It's all love. Just just slap the label love on

and we can justify it. No matter how illegitimate those

impulses are it is often backed up by what infatuation and

strong attraction and sometimes even this love element or this

love idea, it's love, it's love. And if we dismiss God's

parameters of what we should act on and what we should resist by

the power of the Holy Spirit, live under that Banner long

enough, and you will be led into whether individually or as a

culture and to perversions As we will see here, this is going to

be a very perverted thing that's about to take place and it's

true across the board. If you live under that Mantra,

if you justify your worldview by subjective, understanding of

what love means or what love is or what love feels like or what

love does, you're headed for it. Great.

Great confusion, and Abomination.

As Paul tells me in 1st Corinthians 13 6 that love

rejoices with the truth. If my love contradicts the

truth, it's not love. It's something else.

It rejoices with the truth. And we see here that this man's

love, whatever it is. It's not true, love because it's

not love in truth. In fact, when you read verse 2,

as you heard it, you're going to see the quality of this man's

affections for this woman. And a man was so tormented that

he made himself ill because of his sister.

Now, look at the language here for.

She was a virgin and it seemed impossible to amanat to do

anything to her. That's not love language.

That's lust language. And the torment of this man was

not that Tamar was a upstanding woman who was unwilling to be

allured by fellow men. It was because as a princess as

a daughter of the king and as a virgin she was protected in a

certain way. Physically.

I'm speaking of she lived in a certain place she was constantly

surrounded by certain people. She was protected she was

guarded and this bothered and and because he wanted just one

opportunity To be with her in order to take advantage of her.

I'm already looking at some of your faces, you're already

Disturbed. Hang on.

It's going to get it's going to get darker.

And so what we see here is that this man was so obviously

Disturbed that he came to the point where he became sick,

physically sick. He couldn't eat, he couldn't

sleep, and it was, it was noticeable.

So noticeable, that one of his close friends, asked him what

was going on. And so this temptation, morphed

into an obsession And that is an ins fault.

We can argue that the feelings that end in had were Beyond his

control, right? You can't you can't necessarily

control what visits your emotions or what ideas spring up

in your mind. But em and fetid.

He nurtured it, he entertained it, he imagined it, he

fantasized about it and it became stronger and it took a

greater control over his life to the point where it spilled over

into his actual appearance. And that's what we see here in

verse to do, we not? And it was so tormented that he

made himself, he made himself ill He allowed himself to come

to this point. He allowed those feelings to

drive him to such a low state. And so be reminded I'm sure many

of us in here would be would be very hesitant to share what has

cross through our minds. You may not be able to determine

that but what you can determine is how far it goes.

And that is completely our responsibility.

And one of the means by which the Inflation of these

Temptations becoming so much more.

One of the means by which we can puncture that.

So it deflates and has a less of a grip on our hearts.

Is by God, providing people outside of us to speak into our

lives. To keep us accountable to remind

us of God's truth. And to keep us in the right lane

before we allow self-deception to steer Us in the wrong

direction. I've quoted this verse so many

times, I hope you memorize it. You've heard me preach at a

Maranatha. You heard me reference it from

time to time. We're told in Hebrews 3:13 but

Hebrews 3:13

exhort one another every day. As long as it is called today,

miss any of you be deceived or hardened by the deceitfulness of

sin. The see the prescription there,

the plan, their exhort one another every day.

As long as it is called today, less your heart become hardened

by the deceitfulness of sin. And so God has prescribed

outside sources, namely people, who love the truth, and love him

to play a part in keeping my heart, soft and tender lest I

become crystallized. In the passions of My Flesh.

That is something that and then unfortunately lacked because the

the straw that's going to break the camel's back.

So to speak is going to be the wrong friend because what we're

told there and Hebrews 3:13 it works in the - positively if I

Hebrews 3:13

have the right, people around me, who exhort me?

Then I can assure greater safety in my sanctification.

By the same token. If I have the wrong people, they

can encourage me into unholiness and sin degradation.

Eminence privilege, Eminence passions, Eminence pressure.

Look at verse 3 again. Five words.

But am then had a friend. But and then had a friend.

Those five words would shape his future and the future of others.

It is the sad commentary of the turning point of this man's life

but and then had a friend and unfortunately, it can be said of

many that they are not where they're supposed to be.

Because fill in the Blake, had a friend fill in the blank, had a

friend and then had a friend and the language there.

But and and had a friend, it implies that.

What a man is about to do was Was in great part stirred up by

this friend that we're about to read about.

Was lead and encouraged by this man.

And so here's the thing, whether you and I want to admit it or

not, it is it is true. The people we allow in our inner

circles, have future shaping influence, whether you're aware

of that or not, you've heard the popular saying, show me your

friends, your five closest friends and I'll show you would

be in five years. I don't know if I butchered or

not something along those lines, but it's true.

I understand the sentiment understand the argument.

I understand the philosophy. It's biblical.

It's biblical. And then had a friend.

And it was that verse At the Holy Spirit used in my life to

help me identify people throughout my life and to place

them into categories. Among many can I share those

categories with you two simple categories?

Among many, there are other categories as well.

There are people in my life who are going to one either, help me

fight my Temptation or two, they will help me fuel my temptation.

There are people who are going to help me fight my Temptation

or they're going to fuel my Temptation one.

I am to embrace and the other I am to resist and reject in

humility but also in great wisdom. and that is a very

helpful way to navigate in your life as people come in and out

and understand that in the same way, God brings people in your

life to bless you, Satan does the same to curse you God has

his agents. God has his ambassadors.

So this the devil And so, you know, people that you can say

you're a blessing your gift to me.

Well, no. This the enemy will also do the

same to bring about a burden instead of a blessing.

And so you and I need the discernment to be able to say is

this a person that's going to help me fight the good fight of

Faith or is this person going to dramatically influence me in the

wrong direction? Unfortunately in a case jointed

that was the ladder and the descriptions of who, this man is

given to us in. This text is instrumental in

helping us, be able to discern beyond the surface level.

So there are things about Jonah dad that will help you.

And I to some degree, be able to look past what we might be

tricked by and to understand how it is.

I can qualify worthy, candidates in my inner circle, Because

relationships is important in our walk with the Lord.

Let's look at a few things. What's the man's name?

Does anybody know what that name means?

Jonah. That wouldn't it be you ended up

Unidad? Yo.

Yes, we were there almost. Jehovah is willing.

Jehovah is willing. What's the big deal?

Here's the big deal. Jonadab obviously, has a name

that identifies a truth about the true God.

Jonah would have had an identity that was close to whenever you

would call upon him. Whenever he was referred to,

whenever he was asked for something, the here would be

reminded of something concerning God.

Now here's the problem. Although he had an identity in

that his worldview strongly contradicted, the god that his

name represented, here's the lesson for you.

And I, it really doesn't matter if that person, whatever kind of

relationship they have to you. They identify with God.

If they claim things about God, if they have a label of Truth on

their lives, they profess they post has very little value to

whether or not that person is worthy to walk.

Hand-in-hand with you in this life you have to look past that

and it was a psalmist said in Psalm 119, very clear that

they're not verse 63. I am a companion of all who.

What? Who fear you?

I am a companion in Psalm 119 verse 63.

Psalms 119:63

I am a companion of all who fear you of those who keep your

precepts and Sam, a companion of all those, who believe in you.

I'm a companion of all those who confess, you know, I am a

companion of those who fear you of those who keep your precepts.

In other words, I'm looking at the observable traits of your

life. The convictions that are lived

out or not lived out, that's what I'm looking for.

When I determined that, this is a person who truly keeps the

precepts of God. I'm going to be your companion,

I'll allow you to be mine. It didn't add any value to end

in the fact that Jonah that was named Jonah Dobbin.

That his name was identified with the truth of who the true

God is. So be careful.

Be careful. Oh he says he's a Christian and

he's cute, who cares? Does he fear the lord?

Does he keep the precepts of the Lord?

Be careful. If that's your standard then

you're headed for trouble. I'm telling you if all your

standard is that he's wanted to come to church, 36 weeks out of

the year and he calls himself a Christian be very, very careful.

Secondly, we learn that Jonah that was also not amnesty

friend. He was Emmons cousin don't we

see that? And it had a friend whose name

was Joanna? The son of shimei David's

brother first cousins, first cousins, so we have permission

to believe that they have history together.

They shared an upbringing, they probably had many memories

growing up. Over the years.

And such a relationship with long history can be a gift, but

it can also be a curse. And the reason why it can be a

curse is because that kind of a history, those ties the

memories, the laughter, the joys that cries, all those things can

have a very binding influence on someone's Allegiance.

And the trouble here is a trouble that Jesus predicted

about discipleship, that one can elevate a person whether in

their family or outside their family to the point where

they're denied true discipleship.

Because what will decipher and determine whether a blessing or

cursing come from a close member of our family or close friend

that we grew up with is whether or not they take precedence over

the word of God. If that person has more

Authority or sway in your thinking and in your planning

and in your decisions, more than the voice of the Lord that's

troubling. That's dangerous.

And that was the case for this man.

John had that very like they had a very special place in his

heart and he lacked the conviction to be able to

determine I will deny all other voices.

If they encouraged me to deny the voice of my shepherd.

If any advice or counsel will come and conflict with what God

has made clear to me that I must stand with my God.

Even if I Stand Alone, that was so void in a man's life.

And there's a side note for this as well because Jonah dab is

presented in a way like people in our lives that are almost

unavoidable. You have family that are

unavoidable sometimes, right? I mean there's there's

celebrations or even a home that you have to walk into day after

day where you're going to meet people and do life with people

that don't see the way you see that don't live the way you

live. And here's the warning, based on

what we see with jonadab and eminent be aware of allowing the

familiarity of other people's presence to erode that strong

anchoring. Conviction of living before God.

A living before God because sometimes things can just over

time, begin to have a firmer grasp on you.

And so, constantly be aware, be vigilant be strong, stay in the

presence of God day after day, lest over time.

Someone that is near and dear would hijack.

Something that was so strong at one point.

Lastly, we learned something else about John adapt.

What do we said? What are we told about what he

was like, he was a very crafty man.

A very crafty man. Now depending on the context

that can be really good or really bad and we already know

that this is bad, this is a flag and it's not only evidence in

how jonadab is about to give and proposed a scheme for a moment

in order to satisfy his lust, we even see it in the next time

that he's mentioned in this very same story.

The next time jonadab is introduced to us after this

whole ordeal. Gives us greater understanding

of just how conniving he really was.

Can I show it to you? Scroll down?

You're in Chapter 13, scroll down to verse 32.

Here's what happens and then was assassinated.

Okay, Absalom takes vengeance. He kills and then and news comes

to David and like when you play telephone things, get

mistranslated very quickly. So news arrives to David and

here's the news, all of the king's sons have died.

David is overcome with grief. He expresses the pain of such a

tragedy Calamity and who's on the scene to bring about the

accurate report. Jonah, dad and look what he

says. But jonadab the son of shamya.

David's brother said, let not my Lord.

Suppose that they have killed all the young men The king's

Sons for n and alone is dead. This is the part.

You ready for by the command of Absalom.

This has been determined from the day.

He violated his sister Tamar. Did you see it?

What's concerning about that report?

That's he knew that he knew from the day that Tamar was raped at

and Absalom. Rather had it in his heart to

plot to kill em. How did he know?

How did he know? Was he confident to Absalom as

well? and if he had known, Makes you

wonder did. He tried to convince Absalom not

to do it? Did he try to convince Absalom?

Not to cause even more grief by returning, evil with evil, okay?

More importantly, if he had known as he claims, why didn't

he go tell a man about it? What happened when Rebecca

learned that Esau was comforting himself with the thought of

killing Jacob. What did she tell?

Jacob to do, go to laban's house, go to my brother's house

fleets, your uncle, I will call for you when his anger subsides,

which she never does, which probably shows that he's estate

angry for a long time. Yeah, when you care about

something, you hear that somebody's trying to kill them,

you kind of give them a heads-up.

We don't see any of that. We have no reason to doubt that.

Jonah that did know about it and if he did know about it and

here's what we can conclude even from our introduction to this,

man. He did not have an ins best

interest in mind. He did not.

He did not really care about eminent not have his future in

mind. And listen, that might concern

some people because we wonder what's a person's heart.

Truly for me, how do I discern, who to yoke myself with?

And listen. God is gracious.

He can, he can provide many ways of clarity, but if you want one,

clear indication, any person, who persistently encourages you

to sin does not care about you. Even if their deception is

coated with words, like what we see back in verse four, look at

how he speaks to and then when he sees him, so dejected and

troubled, Oh, son of the king. Why are you so Haggard morning

after morning? Will you not tell me.

He's a snake. And in said to him, I love Tamar

my brother Absalom sister. so, if you want to know whether

somebody is for you or against you, Do they pull you away from

the will of God? Do they encourage you to be

deceiving and to step outside of the character of Christ likeness

in order to achieve something because that's exactly what

Jonah does for this man admin. And so we are realized something

about this man. He's dangerous.

Too bad engine could not see it. Because what we see in verse six

shows that he ate it all up verse 6.

Let's come back to our main text, shall we?

In verse 6, we read. So M and laid down and pretended

to be ill. And when the king came to see

him and said to the king, please let my sister Tamar come and

make a couple of cakes on my site that I may eat it from her

hand. Some people blame David for not

being suspecting of the plot, that Edmund was brewing here.

I personally have more understanding toward this father

because I can't imagine anybody immediately thinking about an

unthinkable act, taking place. Between the most unexpected

people. And so we can give some kind of

mercy here to David. Others would say that just gives

everything he he's asked for from his children, he just

splurges them and that might be true.

But here we see that he just comes in to check up on his son.

I mean you hear when even a celebrity has a scar on their

face or something it makes headline news.

So it's obvious that news has gone around that.

The firstborn of the king is ill.

So here comes David, a check up on his boy and the boy makes a

request. I want my sister to come in to

feed me so I'm too weak to feed myself. and instead of talking

more about David, I would like for us to consider the character

of Tamar What are we told in verse 1.

She was beautiful verse 2. We're told she's a virgin.

And what we see here is that when he goes to tame our David

and asks for her to make a couple of kicks for her brother.

She obeys her father And she is willing to drop everything and

immediately come to the service of her sick.

Half-brother okay this is a woman of character.

She's praiseworthy. She's pure and even when you see

her resisting the attack, her appeal.

Her proposal is so filled with wisdom and even respect though

she stands before a monster. And when I considered the

portrait of Tamar and what's about to happen to her, I could

not help. But think what perhaps you might

be thinking even now how could God allow this to happen to such

an outstanding lady, a young woman who has guarded her life,

who was chased Who kept herself pure, who obviously had a

knowledge of the word of God who cared about her reputation of

the reputation of Israel of even her own brother's reputation who

had a sense of right and wrong. That was clear in the way that

she carried herself and presented herself, how could God

allow this? We can also think about Uriah.

The Godly Man remember him. Who had such loyalty to the Lord

and to his King. Who has such loyalty to the

cause of the God that he loves so dearly.

And yet, he was deceived enough to the point where he

orchestrated his own death and tame, our though, she is admire

ball in. So many ways would also be

attacked in a way that she would be ruined for the rest of her

life, to some extent. This opens up so much discussion

about suffering in our life suffering in our world.

In fact, when you read chapter 13, I can't find one mention of

God. And some people that we know

some things that we read, we wonder where is God in all of

this. I'm sure you have answers, I'm

sure I can present some answers. But one thing that puts my heart

at ease to an extent is that the judge of the earth will do.

Right? One day, he will make sure every

wrongdoer pays and every victim is restored.

He can do it in this life, but he will definitely do it where

it really counts. And that's an eternity So, this

poor young lady. Is about to be violated in a

very serious way. and in verse 8, We can even read it to get an

idea of the scene. It's almost in slow motion.

It's almost as though the author by the spirit is trying to make

us feel the suspense because we, the reader know what's about to

happen and, and Tamar and her innocence is completely

oblivious. She's just trying to be a good

sister. Good daughter.

Verse 8. So Tamar went to her brother and

his house where he was lying down and she took dough and

knead it and make cakes in his sight and bake the cakes.

Like that's very detailed. Like we're supposed to Envision

this or supposed to see these verbs being lived out and she

took the pan and emptied it out before him, but he refused to

eat and, and, and send send out everyone from me.

So everyone went out from him. Then end and said to tame our

bring the food into the chamber that I may eat it from your hand

and Tamar took the cakes, she had made and brought them into

the chamber to end, and her brother, every single step,

every single movement is recorded.

And our hearts should be racing. we see here that and then pushes

everybody out all the servants leave Many of David had any

reason not to worry. Among many reasons.

One, is this that there were servants were going to be

present as Tamar was serving at her brother and now, that's not

the case. And wants privacy sin is often

encouraged by secrecy. Sin is often stimulated by

darkness by the lack of witnesses. but God sees all God

sees all that. That is what the fear of the

Lord entails. The fear of the Lord is a drum

that continually beats in the conscience that says, nothing is

private. Nothing Is concealed.

All things will be revealed. God is here.

God is taking note. God will call into account.

That's what the fear of the Lord does.

When it resides in the heart. It beats that drum loud and

clear. obviously it was lacking in this, man, because he thought

if he just pushed out the servants that he could satiate

his sensual fantasies And so he calls everybody to leave.

And this is what we see in verse 11.

But when she brought them near to him to eat, he took ahold of

her and set their come lie with me.

My sister like that's pretty disturbing.

In the same appeal of asking somebody to lie with you, you

could also save my sister. And Tamar's words here.

In her rebuke. Offer wonderful incense of the

blinding power of Temptation because Temptation can really

put blinders on our reasoning on our sensibilities.

On our boundaries. I want you to see just a few of

these insights of what temptation is capable of.

If we do not take captive these thoughts, if we do not resist

it, we do not fight. If we do not bring them before,

God and bring Truth to combat that, which tries to conquer.

Let's see what she says verse 12, she answered him.

No, my brother do not violate me for such a thing is not done in

Israel. Do not do this outrageous thing.

As for me where could I carry my shame?

And as for you you would be as one of the outrageous fools and

Israel. Now, therefore please speak to

the king for. He will not withhold me from

you. What do you see out of that,

that you think is valuable in light of what I just said in

light of? Because she's the voice of

reason. Here she is bringing to Emmons.

Attention. What was clearly lacking in his

understanding what stands out What's that the consequences?

Surely, yes. Okay, so why is she proposing a

different way out? Especially when marriage between

siblings was obviously prohibited.

Yeah, I think it is. It's a way out.

It's a way to buy time. It's a way to just put him in

his place so that she can escape that's what I believe.

Anything else? Yes.

Yeah. Where should I carry my shame?

Do you realize what this is going to do to me?

And she follows that by saying do you realize what this is

going to do to you? So here's the first thing that I

see look here again, at verse 12, she answered him know my

brother, she addresses him as her brother and that's

intentional. The reason why it's intentional

even though this is an unusual case of immorality, it provides

an important principle. That lust Has the ability to

erase the boundaries in our relationships between people

lust has that kind of clouding effect.

So when less is unrestrained, it doesn't care if that person is

somebody else's spouse. That's it. it doesn't, it

doesn't care if then if the desires are unnatural, according

to Romans chapter 1, It doesn't care if other parties who are

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not directly involved will be harmed by the news of that

desire, being acted out. And so she she immediately

brings to his attention, you're my brother, he had no problem

saying, you're my sister obviously, but he, he's now

hearing from her lips, you're my own blood you, and I, we have

the same father. And if we are not careful with

our conscience, our appetites as we are witnessing in our own

culture can become animalistic. Animalistic.

We just whenever anybody's in heat, they act in that.

And that's how base we can become when we blunt our

conscience over and over again. And we decide to worship

creation rather than the Creator refusing to give him.

Thanks, and Glory, we open the floodgates of Untold, kind of

behavior. And this is what's happening to

this, man, sinned doesn't remind you of the value of the person

before you sin doesn't nudge to you.

Of the identity, the spiritual identity of that person that

person is a son or a daughter of the king sin doesn't do that.

Sin just Harps over and over, you'll be satisfied, you'll be

satisfied, you'll be satisfied. My brother.

Secondly, what is she called this thing?

Do not violate me for such a thing is not done in Israel.

Do not do this. I thought it was love.

outrageous thing, some translations say, Folly other

translations, say, If you had the nasb.

Disgraceful. Temptation, always presents us.

The shiny side of sin always, never shows you the mold and the

vileness, the hides underneath the veneer of the pleasure that

it offers never and will never do that. and admin thought that

this was love, but in reality was outrageous, If you and I

don't allow ourselves to have truth frame, how we view the

things that promised us pleasure then that which is outrageous

that which is bitter can become sweet.

So she's trying to remind it. This is out of bounds.

This is unspeakable filth, and in his own understanding and his

own world. You it was love, it was love.

So she's trying to preach truth into his heart.

I see no other thing here. Thirdly, Temptation does not

inform you about house in can ruin your reputation.

Our sister said it. She knew the shame that she

would carry because of this and the shame would be that she

would become less of a prospect for marriage.

She would have been violated, she would have lost her

virginity and because this would, this would become known

people would now be much less willing to engage with her

because of what had happened to her. but she also goes beyond

that and tells him you will be known as one of the fools in

Israel, you'll be known as one of the was one of the Ones.

Who lack sense? You're royalty, you're a prince.

You have so much ahead of you. But sin doesn't care Temptation,

doesn't care. It doesn't tell you about your

future. Always always always rehearses

the few seconds of pleasure as though it lasts for eternity.

When in fact, it's the consequences that always Outlast

with the pain, in comparison to whatever pleasure you experience

always. So she's trying to tell him of

the stain that will come to his name.

If he performs this, even these few minutes of realizing what

you've been tormented by will end up tormenting you and then

be careful. I always whenever reach

Simpsons, I always think about that.

This guy was flirting with temptation.

He just kept going closer. Close to revealing how he lost

his anointing and it just like you lost it all the potential

that you had the future that you had the story.

You could have had the Miracles that God could have done three

for what, for, what to lay your head on a prostitute slap, who

cares? Lastly, I said lastly earlier, I

think, but there is something else that I see with This

Woman's wise words through her voice, she tells us what an and

could not see that in Temptation, there is a way out

no matter how strong or persuasive or powerful

overwhelming. It may seem there is a way out

and she she kind of gives that by telling him of a potential

option. Hey we can get married.

Now we just discussed This was she genuine in that request

makes me wonder if she knew enough about her dad and how he

deals with his sons that if daddy's boy says I want this,

he'll give it. Even if it's something like an

illegitimate marriage or is it a strategy just to buy more time

regardless of why she saying? This one thing is for certain,

in terms of principle especially in this.

I know it's difficult to try to reconcile this to day-to-day

Temptation. This is incestuous rape.

It's severe. Here it happens.

Unfortunately, in life and I know it's difficult to relate to

but the principles are still alive and well in terms of

immorality is as a whole There is a way out.

So many try to justify their behavior because it seems to

overwhelm them and that is not the case.

We don't have to give in to our desires.

How much more us Christians, who are filled with the Holy Spirit?

Jesus Christ, purchased on the cross, with his blood, a power

that lives in us, 24/7 as our brother just read early on in

Romans chapter 6, sin shall not have dominion over you.

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Do you realize something about that verse in Romans shinsen

will not have dominion over you. That's not a command that's a

promise. Yes.

Sin will not have dominion will not because you are under grace,

not under law. These are promises that Christ

purchased for me. How much more can I be assured

that in the face of invitation to do wrong to entertain that

which is wicked? I can escape I can evade it.

God has a better plan. God has a different way out.

And when I read the words of Tamar here, you know what I

thought to myself as well? If only jonadab had given

similar words to his friend, Maybe he wouldn't drive his life

into a collision that would cause others to be casualties as

well. But here's the thing.

Look what we're we're told here after she says everything verse

14 but he would not listen to her.

Oh so you're willing to listen to jonadab.

But when it came to this woman, you're not willing to listen to

her in the end, no matter what you say, no matter what kind of

accountability, get no matter what kind of sermons you here

week after week in the end, in the end, in the end, it's your

choice. It's all of our choices.

We are all timidly responsible. Yes.

What people say or don't say can help us, but we come to the

line. Where we make a decision and

this is the decision that he makes.

I'm going to listen to jonadab My Flesh.

I mean, I'm going to ignore what you just said and have you to

myself even apart from your own will.

And that's what happens verse. 14 says, he would not listen to

her being stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her.

It's very dark. Very disheartening, very sad.

And what happens here in verse 15 might be surprising to you at

first, but it's actually a common response.

That is very, very relatable. When people sin, especially in

the area of sexual immorality, look at verse 15, then am then

hated her. With very great hatred.

So that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the

love with, which he had loved her.

It's like two different people here. you apparently loved her

to the point where you were lovesick, you couldn't sleep,

you couldn't eat, you couldn't play sports with your friends,

you were just consumed with Tamar and now that you've gotten

what you wanted. Your hatred for her was greater

than whatever love you experience beforehand.

How do we how do we explain this?

It's actually again, very simple.

Once and then fulfilled his fantasy the intense fake love.

That was roaring in his heart was quickly replaced with the

Testament. And rejection.

That determined a new kind of behavior.

We already covered that. A man's love wasn't true.

Love. It was a counterfeit.

He confused lust with love. And sexual sent.

This is a very important point because it might bring a lot of

answers to people's confusion. Sexual sin.

Always carries the potential of causing physical harm, right?

We all know that there are risks with that unwanted pregnancy

disease and, some people get away with it, some people don't

but here's one thing that's for certain the uniqueness of sexual

sin is that it guarantees a level of emotional damage that

is virtually inescapable. only Christ love and his truth and

his gospel can ultimately bring healing to that, to the degree,

that people yearn for, But do you see what's happening here,

there's there's some confusion here.

And am nen's, emotional state. And that is really the fruit.

When we step outside of God's guidelines for what he

determined in the realm of intimacy with other people.

Sexual sin often. Does that you reject his order?

You reject his promises. It doesn't just endanger you

physically, it brings some damage emotionally here, a

couple of way that it happens with the example that is set

before us like a madman. When I know this is a unique

case, but it's true beyond what we see here.

We risk rejecting, despising belittling distancing ourselves

from these very same people that we sinned with, or sinned

against Because we associate them with the shame that we

have. Right?

So he could not wait to get rid of her because now she is

forever. Brandon in his mind and a

forever, reminder of the gross in that he had committed.

So he wants nothing to do with her.

Get out of my sight, get out of my sight.

I don't want you in my life. And though, this is a severe

case. It is true and more mild cases.

I can use that word. That is why it's extremely

important. My brothers and sisters, I say

this with a soft heart. Please hear me?

I know my voice can sometimes be strong but I hope you can sense.

Love laced in these words. So important that in your

pursuit of a relationship that aims toward marriage that you

do, everything you can with God's promises and his wisdom to

maintain Purity because even when there is failure in sin

though you have the ambition to be married, the regret and shame

can be brought into that marriage and it can cause

conflict. In that very same marriage.

And so, it's important to keep the future mind.

Even though you've made promises to each other, that you will

come together. Trust in God's timing.

I've never heard, I'd never to this day after 11 years of

walking with the Lord and several years of ministry.

I'm sure brother Daniel can attest to this.

I've never heard in all these years of Ministry of any couple

has been married to his said, you know, my sweetheart and I

were talking the other night and we thought I wish we fooled

around more before we got married.

Never heard of it. You know what I do here?

I wish we can go back in time and redo it.

I wish we can. I wish we can have another shot

at the process and the pursuit of coming to marriage.

That's what you often hear. Because it brings in distrust,

it brings in all these complications and and it just

goes to show that God knows what he's talking about when he says

just do not awaken love before its time, don't awaken love

before its time. It muddies things it muffles

things even with the person that you want to be with And if you

have made that mistake, listen the Lord again, can redeem,

praise God, that you're in Covenant.

Now, praise God, that you realize you're wrong.

Praise God. That you repented of that wrong

and trust that the Lord can now come and mend your ways.

And, and be like David where when he was restored, he said, I

will now teach transgressors your ways.

We'll be able to relay that to others in our lives to say

trusting God's wisdom, trust in God's wisdom.

Here, we see a man who wanted nothing to do with the woman

that he wanted at one point because now she's associated

with the shame that he sensed And again, the scenario is

related to a Despicable Act of rape but we can still draw

another lesson from it. Can we not?

And it is this people who view another person's body, as simply

as a means to satisfy your selfish desires, if they view

your body simply as an object to satisfy yourself, selfishly,

generally will not show you respect and other matters.

Generally won't respect you once they realize that they can get

from you what they want. And I'll show you that in one

way scroll down to verse 17 of second, Samuel 13.

Look what he ends up saying to one of the servants about Tamar,

it breaks my heart. He called the young man who

served them and said, put this woman out of my presence and

Bolt the door. After And he just kicked her

out, like she was garbage. You know what's amazing?

When you go to the Hebrew of this, there's a word that's

omitted. When you go to verse 17, you'll

realize that one word is missing.

You know what word it is? Woman.

In the original language, you won't find woman.

So you don't, you know, what how that translates.

And if we just honored the original language, put this Put

this out of my presence. That's how he said it.

Doesn't even refer to her as a lady.

Again, he saw her as an object to begin with, and guess what he

ends up, seeing her still as an object that he just used.

Like a piece of gum that he chewed up and once it lost its

flavor, he spat it out. Here's the thing, especially to

my sister's realize this. There are men out there who are

like that be very careful, be very careful.

If that man truly loves you, he will respect you.

And he will honor God first. And he will as a true worry for

Christ fight for that Purity. Do things happen to Temptation

this temptation. Have us as sometimes do we fall?

Sure. But if there is a person who

consistently pressures and persist you into wrongdoing,

that person lacks respect for you.

And if they lack respect for you for something, so sacred, and

pure and holy what makes you think they're going to respect

you in other ways. Keep that in mind.

Keep that in mind as you are considering a potential spouse

as a person is perhaps trying to woo you Do they love you enough?

Do they love you enough to respect you in that way?

Or would they throw themselves on you and and pressure you?

If you really loved me, you would do this.

And I told you, I would be your husband.

Anyway, we're going to be together.

Anyway, that's not love, that's not love.

No matter how strong his affections are no matter what he

brings about to try to convince you to give that part of

yourself, be strong, my sister, be careful, my sister.

Now, that's different than a man who does love you and finds

himself stumbling with you takes two to tango.

I get it as I want to talk to Mom talking about aggressive.

Inconsiderate, overpowering manipulative Behavior.

Put this out there was that young girl wrecked?

This is what this man experienced.

Can I show it to you in one last verse of our Bible study?

Wow. Time is an amazing thing, isn't

it? Go to Proverbs 20 verse 17 very

Proverbs 20:17

quickly. Proverbs 2017, I think is a

wonderful way of wrapping up the segment of this chapter.

I know it's not the most encouraging Bible study.

Sometimes the worship team has trouble after a study like this.

You know what? They ask, what do we sing?

After you share something like that.

And to me, despite the content, I always praise God for his

wisdom. And including these things for

the sake of my preservation and maximizing on the pleasure that

he has for my life in yours. Look at 4:17 bread gained by the

seat is sweet to a man. There's something attractive and

exhilarating about gaining something through deceit or

manipulation something that is quick gratification, but look

how this verse ends. But afterward his mouth will be

full of gravel. Afterward his mouth will be full

of gravel. You know, what gravel does if

it's in your mouth and you chew on it.

Doesn't taste very good. 12 can break your teeth.

Three. If you swallow that gravel, it's

going to have some problems internally long-term effects.

And that's exactly what Adam is going to experience.

That thing that was once sweet to him would end up betraying

him. And so, in one moment, he can

love it and the next moment he absolutely hates it.

This is a wonderful commentary on the short-lived Promises of

sin. It doesn't take very long for us

to go from. This is what I've been wanting.

This is what I've been longing for to.

I hate this, I hate myself. I hate this person.

I hate that I'm in this predicament.

I wish I can do it all over again.

Right. Such is the nature of sin.

Such is the nature of sin and so that I think equips us

wonderfully in our Temptation that when that thing looks like

bread. That will fill us and bring

flavor to our lives. Look past that and realize that

it has the potential of becoming gravel dirt rocks.

And reject it from the get-go. By the grace of God, this can

happen. With such a Bible study brought

to a conclusion, may I end with a hopeful thought.

In Christ, the most grotesque dark heinous, things are

absolutely Washed by his blood. Absolutely washed.

And then will not repent and then will not repent.

David, repented, David repented, and God forgave.

And then would not repent, and he would pay the Lord, even in

light of all this, I'm sure knowing his character through

his word. If M then, And then had enough

sense to stop in that moment and to Feel the Rush of guilt to

instead deal with in a very humanistic way, but be broken

before. God could have had a different

future different future even maybe a hopeful future, remember

this? Remember that even when David

sinned with Bathsheba Married her in an illegitimate way when

he had repented God recognized. Their Covenant gave them a baby

named Solomon and reassured them through Nathan.

I love this boy, I love this boy.

And my heart breaks for many reasons, with the text that we

just read. What can it continue in the next

few weeks. But also, if a man had just

known That the same God who forgave his dad would also

forgive him what a different future.

He would have had, maybe he would have had a family, maybe

God would have restored, a maybe God would have done something

through him, but the things that we borrow ourselves from because

of our stubbornness and our unwillingness to believe that he

is a forgiving God. I pray that in this place.

As you you heard some of these dark things, you remember that?

There is light above it all if you just look up and see that,

that light is the person of Jesus Christ reach out, even if

your hands are stained with blood or perversion realize that

he'll pick you up, wash you and set you on Solid Rock, that's

the goodness of Jesus Christ. At the same time my brother's my

sister Let us not be like and fool ourselves thinking that we

can get away with sin. Because even forgiving sin can

leave tattoos that we didn't ask, for can leave scars that we

could have avoided and that's why text like this is given to

us to be prepared in advance. The trust the promises and the

warnings of our god. Well, we thank you.

And we will sing to you. We will sing to you in all

things because we love the whole counsel of God.

And Lord, this text before us today reminds us of many things.

and one thing we are certainly reminded of Is that your word is

truth? And it sets free.

Now we visit set free, it keeps free.

And we want to stay free. Lois.

Sing to you tonight, we worship you. if we've been warned, we

praise you for the warning. We've been comforted.

We shower you with the same, praise and Lord tonight, we pray

that our faith would be strengthened.

Now you would be honored with our lives in Jesus name.

We pray. Amen?

Shall we stand in worship?