2 Samuel 18 (Part 2) & 19 (Part 1) Bible Study (David Grieves / Joab Rebukes David) | Pastor Daniel Batarseh

Second Samuel. Chapter 19 is where we are

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meeting tonight. You might be wondering if you've

been with us, especially if you were here last week, why are we

going to chapter 19? We still have half of 18 to

complete and the main reason, why is because when you look at

the first few verses of chapter 19, you get the sense that it

belongs with the end of chapter 18.

What I mean by that is that there is an awkward chapter

break here and I'm allowed to say that because Cuz the

references in our Bible are not inspired by the Holy Spirit.

Those numbers were added much much, much much later after the

scriptures were recorded. And so you kind of feel like

there's this break that should have happened maybe after the

first nine verses or so. But instead of instead of just

stopping and starting with a new thought, we're going to honor

the context honor the way it was originally written, zoom out and

look at the complete picture that is before us because what

And last. Where did we stop?

Well where we stop whiz with the end of absalom's.

Life Absalom was tragically killed and was buried in a

Dishonored way because of his disgraceful life.

And we know that David's wishes here was that Absalom would be

spared in battle and those wishes were disregarded

specifically by joab. And what we're going to witness

from chapter. 19 on word are the Ramekin ramifications of war or

the aftermath of this battle between Father and Son.

And before we look at the national consequences, we're

going to actually take our time because the Holy Spirit invites

us to look at the personal effects that this dark moment

had on David. And the way you and I are going

to study this is by separating our thoughts in three main

categories. The first thing that you and I

are going to look into is the report of the news of absalom's

death, the report following the report, we're going to look at

the remorse. The remorse that David had over

the news and finally, and lastly, we're going to look at

the rebuke. The rebuke concerning the

reaction that David had about the death of his son, a brother

prayed, but let's pray again. But we thank you that you've

gathered like-minded Christians in this place and Lord, we pray

that you would protect this service from becoming a

powerless lecture of moral ideas.

Let us feel the weight of the authority of the word of God and

let us by your grace, since the stirring of the heart.

Our affections being revived again for the person of Jesus

Christ. May, we believe that, as we look

at these verses, it is your very voice speaking and so we pray

that nothing would be added That you did not intend to add,

nothing would be subtracted that you intended to keep we.

Pray that there would be no man-made interpretation or

application, May everything be delivered the way you intended

it to be delivered. We want to honor you primarily

and Lord. We trust that as we honor your

word the way it was designed to be honored that we will benefit

much and we trust that this will happen tonight in this place.

In Jesus name we pray, amen. We're not starting a chapter 19,

I just told you to go there, because we want to begin in

verse 19 of chapter, 18 and connected the chapter 19.

So, scroll back a few verses go to 18:19.

We're looking at the report of the news of, absalom's, death

and what you're going to realize as I'm reading, this is how it

is intriguing to me, at least of the great detail that is given

with the background of how this message of absalom's, death is

going to arrive to King David. David could have received this

news and the Holy Spirit could have summarized it in a verse or

two, right? But instead it's drawn out to

about a dozen versus clearly. There is something that the Holy

Spirit wants to convey to us concerning how it is who it is

that brought about the delivery of this news to the king there's

instruction here there's application here again.

It could have been just and David received the news of

absalom's that And he grieved, it could have been just that but

instead we get a, we get a really rich look into how this

came about and I want you to see it with me to see God's mind for

us in it. Then I amaz the son of zadok

said, let me run and carry news to the king.

At the Lord has delivered him from the hand of his enemies.

And job said to him, you are not to carry news today.

You may carry news another day. But today you shall carry Reno

news because the King's son is dead, then job said to the

kushite, go tell the king. What you have seen.

The could shite bowed before joab and ran then I Hamas the

son of zadok again said to Job. Come what may?

Let me run also after the crash site and job said why will you

run my son seeing that? You will have no reward for the

news verse 23, come what may? He said, I we'll run so he said

to him, run And I'm as ran by the way of the plane and outran,

the kushite. This is the tale of two

messengers of to faithful communicators of Truth.

The first being a man named I'm as the second, a nameless fellow

who was a kushite. He was not an Israelite.

He was a foreigner that apparently served the king and

the King James was a cushy but it's believed by many

translators that this was more of a reference to his actual

ethnicity more than a name. And that's why we have the

cushion here before us. Now, there are many things to

learn from these verses the first Is that animal has the son

of zadok was a messenger in this context back in chapter 15.

We were told that King, David instructed.

The son of zedekiah man has with another to be informants about

what Absalom was up to, and to keep David and his men updated

with what was to come to pass. And so this man was called to be

a messenger. And at this point, he is very

excited and even presumptuous to deliver a new Message to the

king. And so he comes to job, though

he was not called by job and volunteers himself to bring this

news to his beloved master. And when we look at this, we

read and see that there is a man who is very excited, but job

does not seem to be sharing that sentiment.

In fact job is very hesitant extremely hesitant.

I am as I don't think you want to deliver this news to the

king. Now, why do you think that is?

Why do you think job is very reluctant?

For, I am as the participate in this endeavor, any idea, all you

have to do is think back to David and how he treated

Messengers in the past, right? What did he do with past

Messengers? Who brought him news that he did

not like you killed them? Maybe job really likes I amaz

and he doesn't want imma has to be the object of David's

frustration in a moment of great pain and so he seeks to spare

him and so he Looks at a cushy. And he says, well, why don't you

go instead? But what we see here is that

more than jobs concern is, the Silence of Iowa has his motive.

Why is he so determined to do this?

We are not explicitly. Told, makes you wonder if he was

a friend of David, Who Loved David and desired David to be

prepared for the bad news, right?

He knew what Absalom meant to Dave.

And so he wanted to in his in essence skillfully, tell him how

this would happen. Let somebody just come in guns

a-blazing and David is just in a State of Shock.

So maybe he just wants to prepare his friend his Lord.

But I don't believe that's the case.

You know why? Because once you see, I'm Oz

encounter, David. And David asked about what

happened to Absalom. What is what is ionized do he

appeals to ignorance? I don't know what happened, I

just saw some kind of commotion going going on there, so it's

obvious that he's not willing to come to his Aid necessarily.

Maybe Joe has an inside that we don't have look here.

I verse 17, excuse me. Verse 22.

Then I'm as the son of zadok said again to job come what may

let me also run after the cushion and job said why will

you run my son seeing that? You will have no reward for the

news. could it be that job had an idea that maybe I manage

wants to do this so that you can be compensated or rewarded for

being the person that brought about this Victory, this

Triumph, this news of success And he wants to just give him

sobering reality. Listen.

You're not going to get anything out of this, so just stay out of

this. Again, it's not really clear.

It's not definitive, it's not something that we can say

dogmatically. what if it's just because I'm as has a pure love

for David and he wants to speedily, let him know that he

can be alleviated of any angst and concerned because this dark

cloud has now passed. His greatest threat is

eliminated and his rain will continue.

Maybe he's just like what any good friend would want for

another friend to just let him know with excitement of the good

news, concerning his life. His future the hope, the

faithfulness of God. Okay, we can debate what his

motive is, but one thing is for certain, I am a has is very

excited for something that he is not prepared for.

And we're going to see that near the end of this chapter, but we

can learn something from that point here and now because I am,

as is a picture of many people who really want to serve God,

but don't understand what it really entails.

Now, I'm fully aware that I think christendom's main problem

is to get people to be like I am as and get excited to serve God,

right? I think that's more of a

challenge than anything else but that's not the only challenge.

You have some people who are very eager.

Or who are very much invested emotionally into the idea of

serving God at a certain capacity and they are not yet

informed nor are they yet equipped to do that which they

desire to do. They want to run.

They want to run and they don't care about the consequences.

They don't care about what it might, demand of them, they just

want to run, it seems that my herbal but it's actually

dangerous. It's dangerous for many reasons.

And I am has proves that he's going to show that in a moment

and the reasons in which why God would not allow us to move

forward in a certain directions, very, and some of those reasons

include character deficiency that the Lord wants to develop

you and your personality and your attitude and your

convictions before he places you on any platform, it can be many

reasons. And one of those reasons can be

this simple mysterious timing of the Lord where he knows.

But opportunity is fitting for you and he knows what's

appropriate and what should be either delay, or postpone for

your good. And for his glory, And in the

case of this man he did not really care.

But look at the words of job. Again in verse 20 and job said

to him you are not to carry news today.

You may carry news another day. But today, you shall not carry

no news because this King's son is Dead.

Sea job wasn't discouraging. I am as from being a messenger,

he was just encouraging him to not take this particular

opportunity because he had Insight that I am as did.

Not have. Joe, I've had an understanding

of this situation, the potential outcome of the situation that I

am as did not have. And unfortunately evidently

could not care about because he was willing to run for it

anyway, and it's really again, a strong picture of how many

people relate to the Lord. The Lord knows our future.

He knows our tomorrow's, he knows what decisions you make

will bring about certain outcomes even if they're

dangerous outcomes. And so he and his love and his

Providence and his power puts obstacles.

Al's closes doors does not allow things to go the way you desire

for them to go because he knows something you and I don't you

know I have to learn how to trust in.

God's leading eager believer. Eager servant of God, learn to

trust God's nose and his delays. If not, you might be running

into trouble, even know what you think you're running into, is

the call of God. God's going to call using to

call. You don't self appoint yourself

and don't force yourself and don't push doors kicking and

screaming and manipulating, it's not going to help you.

And it's not going to help the cause of Christ learn to wait.

Because as we will see shortly I am as will prove to be lacking

in a very important area as a messenger, but for now let's

compare them to the cushy to shall we.

Joab looks to the could shite and he says you go and tell the

king everything that you have seen and what I Love about this

nameless. Servant is his immediate

response. he bounds, and he runs He doesn't challenge joab.

He doesn't negotiate with joab, he simply receives.

What has been given to him, and he makes an attempt to do so as

Faithfully as possible, not like, I am, as I am, as was

going back and forth, debating convincing, he could not take no

for an answer from The Authority that has been placed over his

life. But I also see something else in

the crew. Sheets attitude, joab, called

the could shite. The Kush I didn't call for job

to call him. It came to him and all the Kush

I did is what you're called to do in this whole equation of

being used by the Lord. What is that to be ready and

willing? That's it.

That's the core of this whole thing.

If you want to be used by the Lord but you don't know the next

step. All you have to do at this

moment is to be ready. And to be willing, he was a

servant and whatever capacity was a servant and whenever there

was a promotion given he was ready to do it, whenever There

Was An Open Door that was Tailor-made for him.

He was ready to do it. And so wait on the Lord and that

way, be ready, be willing be prayerful.

Express your desires to be used by God in a certain way there's

nothing wrong with that. What's dangerous is when like I

am as you start to twist things and push things.

And so this could shot here was a man that's worthy, of example.

Now here's what's interesting. It only continues.

It says here in verse 23, look at it with me in your Bibles.

Come what may? He said?

I will run so he said to him, run jobs, just like, all right,

you're obviously you're very determined.

So just get out of here, go ahead.

So he runs and then look at this, inside at the end of verse

23, then I am a has ran by the way of the plane and outran the

Kush a'ight. Why is that in the Bible?

Why is that important for me to know that I am has ran and

outran? The cachet?

What's significant is the cushion.

Had a head start. Clearly you had heavy feet or

something, right? Because he gets a head start.

I'm a has runs and outruns him. And I think the reason and this

in this teaching, in this context it's meant to show us

that I am as was clearly gifted. He was talented.

He was a good runner, a better Runner than the Kush height but

where the kushite outshined I'm has was in the realm of

character Giftedness was there. Character was lacking or saying

where are you seeing that? Just hold on tight.

You'll see in a moment. You know, leaders if you want to

inside about house leaders face, certain Temptations leaders,

often feel the Temptation in the context of ministry to recruit

people or to appoint People based out of one and need like a

desperate need. And we just need to fill this

void or two because somebody excels with a certain ability.

That leaders can foresee might enrich their Ministry and so

they were willing to overlook weaknesses in order to benefit

from a person's god-given strength and it is god-given.

And the point that we see here is this that you are better off

with a slower, but more faithful Kush 8 than a talented but

inadequate Hamas. Gifting will always be

subordinate to character. And to God-fearing attitude.

Character and a striving for Holiness and obedience and

faithfulness to the clear will of God outweighs, gifting all

the time all the time. And sometimes, you don't see

that immediately, you only see later on And that's what we see

here as predicted. I am.

As gets to the king first and scroll down with me to verse 29,

actually, let's read verse 28, then I am a has Cried Out To The

King. All is well easy.

He's very excited and he bowed before the king with his face to

the Earth and said, blessed, be the Lord, your God who has

delivered up the man who raised their hand.

Against my Lord, the king. That is what he intended to tell

the king good news. Do you have Victory?

The conquest is yours. It said it's determined and

right away. David shows what's in the

Forefront of his mind? And what is it?

Verse 29, the king said, is it well with the young man Absalom?

Like the victory, didn't even matter.

What happens to Israel? What happens to the king?

That is not even a thoughts, not a primary thought, at least what

he's concerned about is the state of his son.

And I get the hunch that I am as was not prepared for that

question. Or maybe he was and he gave this

answer. But look at this, I am as

answered when joab sent the king's servant your servant, I

saw a great commotion but I do not know what it was.

Who here thinks that I am as being honest.

Who here is? He's just like, look, I don't

know what happened. I saw something and I don't I

can't give you a clearer report. All I know is that there was

something, but, hey, good news, you know, you're winning, you

want, is he being honest? Because some people believe that

he's just utilizing the information that he has.

How do we know that's not the case?

Thank you. What did job?

Tell him the King's son is dead. So he knows that Absalom was

dead, so what explanation are you?

And I left with, with Hamas is generalization of what took

place, he's unwilling to tell him the hard truth.

He's unwilling to deliver the full truth and this is where I

am as fell short as a messenger. And we think about even today,

how many reflect the very same weakness, reluctancy, when

they're asked about different things, I'm talking to you

Believers me as a Believer. Culturally sensitive issues,

right? Clear doctrines, there's no

confusion about it though. It may be difficult to apply and

exhort is undeniably obvious. Like I'm as many people in their

explanation of these things are thinking they're saying

something. When the reality do not really

seeing anything you've heard it, right?

I've heard it over the years, famous Christian musicians, on

radio stations being interviewed theology, professors preachers

evangelist people pack out stadiums and they're interviewed

by secularist. And when they're asked about

certain things, they dance around the answer.

They remain as ambiguous and as Central as possible.

And what they're doing is exactly what the holy spirit is

indicating here. They are proving to be

unfaithful Messengers, they might be gifted, they might have

a platform. I hate my eyes.

As you read earlier was actually known for his running when the

Watchman saw him running. He goes his running is like the

running of a Hamas like imagine being known for your running.

So, he was not just a son of a priest.

He was athletic. He was, he was good at what he

did, but he was unfaithful There are many people like that today

and they disqualify themselves, right?

And what's interesting here is that it's a lesson about again

giftedness not being enough position or platform, not being

enough, being promoted by the people not being enough, God has

given those who are called to serve him and to honor him with

rules. There are rules in the realm of

serving the lord and your main ambition and serving the lord is

knowing those rules and honoring those rules, no matter what, it

reminds me of a verse. And here's the verse in the New

Testament, it's in 2nd Timothy 2:5, and in second Timothy 2:5,

2 Timothy 2:5

Paul is speaking about Christian service.

You know, what he says in that verse he says, this an athlete

is not crowned, unless he competes, according to the

rules. What is he talking about?

Is he talking about the Olympics of his day?

Now, he's talking about Christian Duty.

There are many people who are running.

But at the end they're going to be encountering, a very shocking

report and evaluation they will not be rewarded.

You know, you look at some people and you wonder and you

even figure some Scandal out or you realize that there's some

inconsistency in their behavior. Their one thing up on there on

the platform there. Another thing on their social

media there, another thing out there in the world and you think

like why doesn't God just strike them down?

Why doesn't God just remove them immediately sometimes he does?

But here's the reality for those who remain that look like

they're Still running at the end.

They will not be crowned. They will not be rewarded.

This verse brought so much relief to me when I saw that in

the realm of ministry you look around and you meet people and

you hear things and you even see things for yourself and it seems

to be no intervention from Heaven.

It seemed like they just go on with their Ministry and and

they're so big nobody can touch them almost and Hollow people

are afraid to correct them. And you think how is God going

to do this? And then you wonder, are they

legitimate shade? And some are not or maybe they

are saved but they could be saved but they're not running.

To the rules. So just because you're running

doesn't mean you're running. Well it's because you're serving

this mean you're serving. Well, what all matters to God is

if the rules are being honored and that is what we see with the

kushite. What a contrast, right?

Come here to the kushite he arrives and he comes with that

news in verse 31 and behold the Kush, I'd cane and the Kush I

said, good news. For my Lord, the king for the

Lord has delivered you this day from the hand of all Who Rose up

against you. The king said that the cushion,

he isn't well with the young man, Absalom, it's like, wow.

And the kushite answered May the enemies of my Lord, the king and

all who rise up against you for evil, be like that young man.

That's not an easy pill to swallow, but that's what

Messengers do. They honor the message, no

matter who Their audience is, the message is the message,

right? And this man fearlessly

courageously, but also wisely knows how to deliver hard truth.

Notice what he didn't say, it's a yeah, your son Absalom was

hanging by his neck between an oak tree.

And there is three javelins that job through into his heart and

there is all his armor bears that finished him off,

unnecessary delivery, right? So he's aware of his audience.

Still, this is, yes, this is a king, but this is the father of

the son who died. So I'm going to tell him the

truth. But I'm going to say, in a way

that I make it the least offensive as possible.

While also honoring my duty as a messenger.

Makes you wonder why the Holy Spirit put this?

I think those are the reasons why at least some of the

reasons. And so you see here in the first

part the report of the news but now we come to the remorse over

the news. We read here in verse 33 and the

King was deeply moved and went up to the chamber over the gate

and wept and as he went he said o my son Absalom my son, my son

Absalom would iodide and Of you. Oh Absalom.

My son. My son.

Your heart goes out to him. And some way, right?

David sorrow, you can sympathize with it but we have to say right

from the beginning that it is unwarranted.

It's unwarranted and it's excessive because when you bleed

over into chapter 19, look what we see, it was told Joe.

I behold the king is weeping and mourning for Absalom.

So the victory that day was turned into mourning for all the

people for the people heard that they the king is grieving for

his son and the people stole into the city, like they were

embarrassed of what they had done.

They stole it. Into the city that day as people

steal and who are ashamed. When they flee in battle the

king covered his face and the King cried with a loud voice.

Oh my son, Absalom, oh Absalom, my son, my son.

This is this is a little awkward, at least for the

people. They risked their lives, for the

king, they're willing to die for the king.

They opposed the popular vote for the king, and when they

fought for the king and came back with a victory, for the

king, the king, tucks, his face away hides up in the chamber and

just weeps and the news in the city is the king is actually

very upset. With the people should have

expected as the king waiting at the gate and giving them his

praise and his Commendation. But instead, they are met with

grief and a broken heart. There are some good hearted,

Believers, Some solid followers of Jesus Christ that are

vulnerable and susceptible to excessive sadness.

They are given over to prolonged misery.

This is it not a Temptation for everybody, but it is a

Temptation for some. And there are some who would say

that the cause of David's pain. Here is the death of his son.

Yes. And part but the longevity of

it, the reason why I went so far Far is not because of the death

of his son. There's a deeper issue here that

we have to address. Think back to the two initial

responses that David had when those two Messengers came with

the news for his kingdom and his position as a king, what was,

what was on his mind? was that the kingdom was that

Israel was a future was of the Covenant that God made with him

that being preserved by his faithfulness know, it was his

son, his son, his son, his son, his son, and it's clear that

David has come to the point that his personal feelings and

relationships and his own world eclipsed.

His duty as a king and he lost sight.

This is so crucial. He lost sight of God's agenda,

his responsibility and his partnership with God's agenda to

be a leader over God's people. Do you want to know why there's

more dick dejection among the people of God than is necessary?

I'll give you one reason because they have lost sight of the

kingdom of God. What do I mean by that?

Well, they got so distracted, or they've, prioritize things that

they should not have prioritized, and they lost

sight. Lost grip on eternity.

On their blood bought gifts that God has deposited in them of

their unique role that they play in the greatest institution that

this world will ever known. That's the church, And they've

put their identity, they put their priority and that which is

under the most important thing and if it's not God's kingdom,

if it's not God's purposes, then it's something temporal.

And if its temporal then it's subject to loss and because you

put all of yourself into those temporal things.

When you lose it, you were in danger of losing yourself.

This grief and great part is caused because David was

consumed by his father leanness and he totally missed his

identity as a king called by the Lord is being a father

important. Yes, is the loss of a child

painful. I can't even imagine.

That's why I want to be very careful with my tone and

criticizing this man. It is, but we can save ourselves

from much undoing if we know how to put things in its proper

perspective. A lot of Believers don't know

how to deal with persecution with pain, whether it's

self-inflicted or caused by others, because they have not

kept the bigger picture in front of them.

And it reminds me of another story of a man who also was a

man of God. One of my favorite men of God,

in all of the Bible, one of my favorite profits, actually.

Who also got caught up in grief. And it came to the point where

he himself was rebuked by the Lord, who is that?

Man that I'm referring to. I heard four different guys.

Well, a lot of those sounded, right, but I have one in

particular and he's a neighbor to the book of second.

Samuel. Gays in first Samuel.

What's his name? Somebody whispered, it Samuel

you remember when Samuel was caught up in grief.

Maybe you don't go to 1st Samuel. 16 with me.

I want you to see this first Samuel 16.

This is why review is necessary. I'm going to bring something to

you that I've taught before but we are, we are creatures who

need repetition to learn. First name is 16 1.

This is after Saul was rejected as king and I want you to see

how this chapter opens up. And it's going to teach you

something very important about grief first.

Samuel 61 reads, the Lord said to Samuel, how long, will you

grieve over Saul since? I have rejected him before from

being King over Israel, fill your horn with oil and go, I

will send you the Jesse the Bethel might fry.

I've provided for myself a king among his sons God is not

against grief. God is not against your tears.

God does not think your pain or your sorrow is a sign of

unbelief, it can be, but it's not necessarily always the case.

What God is opposed to is exactly what we read here.

The duration of our lament, how long will you grieve over saw?

That's the problem. How long not The Grieving, the

how long you're grieving for? But here's the thing, I want to

know when I've crossed the line. I want to know when my sorrow

become sinful. How can I be able to identify

when I've exceeded the righteous boundaries of those feelings

that eat me up inside. And I believe there are two, I

believe there are two strong marks of knowing when my pain my

sorrow, my misery. Is becoming an offense.

The first one is this. This is important.

When we begin to accuse the character of God, when we begin

to accuse the character of God Samuel here, had reason to

grieve over sauce in but as Paul to the Thessalonians you know

this that we as Christians grieve differently, we don't

grieve as the world Grieves. Your inheritance in Christ.

Jesus is a hopeful grievance. Right?

The faith that you and I have is so profound and so powerful that

it is able to carry you through that storm where you are able to

honor God, obey, God and worship God in the midst of it.

That is what we have because of the holy spirit, because of the

word of God and it makes me wonder if Samuel here is

wallowing at this point, because he is lost and forgotten what

God has done in the past which is common with most of us, how

was Samuel even called to begin with?

He was called as a boy. And in first Samuel chapter 3,

1 Samuel 3 · chapter mention

there's this interesting detail given before Samuel is called.

We are told that he was sleeping there in the Tabernacle and that

the lamp of the Lord. Still had a little light though.

It was not completely snuffed out.

Now, we know that that, that lamp that was ordained to be

designed by God, in Exodus was designed to give illumination to

the entire house of worship. If you didn't have the lamp, You

didn't have light, there is no windows, there is no ceiling

light, it was just that lamp and you're thinking, well, why does

the Lord want to let us know that the light was barely there?

And the point is this it was a reflection on the leadership of

Israel's day At that time earlier, we're told that Eli's

Vision was almost gone. And then we're told about the

lamp in verse 34 saying the chapter 3 and so there's a

correlation there that the dimming lights spoke of the the

dimming of the discernment and the Holiness and the

god-honoring leaders of that time, it was almost gone but

wasn't completely gone. And it was setting the stage for

us to realize that Samuel was going to be promoted at the

right time that when it seemed absolutely hopeless.

God would raise up another man and it would be actually a young

boy, who would be a Offit. That Samuel forget that it's

Samuel. Forget that even though Eli.

Who is the leader of the picture of God's leadership before King

came onto the scene that when he was condemned by God, he raised

up another. Would it be any different for

Saul? Okay?

This man is going to be removed from the throne, okay?

He's the first king. Okay, he Dishonored God.

Yes, that's hurtful. That's painful but God's agenda

has not been thwarted. But he didn't, he didn't know

that. He should have known that but he

didn't. He lost grip with what God has

done before and that that caused them not to believe God for the

future. And so in some sense here,

Samuel should have known better better.

And his grievance here is a sign of unbelief.

Because of his history with God because of what God has done in

his life through his life. He should have known better but

he didn't And that's where we have to be careful because we

can look to God. And we can be broken before God,

but if our tears blind us from his sovereignty and his

providential ways, then we have to understand that we are now in

worldly grief. We're not in the grief, that

Jesus allows us to agree with. How does David do that here?

How does David show that his grief was actually a worldly

grief? Not just a worldly grief, but a

grief that accuses the character of God Here's where I believe it

is. Go back to 18:33.

Look what he says here. And the King was deeply moved

and went up to the chamber over the gate and wept.

And as he went, he said, o my son Absalom, my son Absalom, my

son Absalom right. Would I had died instead of you?

Oh Absalom, my son, my son. What I've died inside.

Again, you want to feel the pain with him, you want to be

sympathetic here but that's a terrible wish.

What would happen if you died instead of Absalom, what would

have become of the Kingdom? What would become of the

nation's future? What would it become of God's

program? No, in fact, you and I learned

in chapter 17 that God intended and designed to bring harm upon

absolutely. By defeating the council that he

TOEFL. And so, the death of Absalom was

perfectly designated by A Perfect God.

And what you have here is a man who didn't believe.

So I wish I had died. Instead are you kidding me?

What are you saying about God's Sovereign?

Will what do you think about God's perfect?

Dealings with Affairs in life. So when your heart begins to

accuse, God's faithfulness, God's wisdom, God's power.

Then you know that your grief is illegal and it's crossed the

boundary that it shouldn't have crossed but there's a second

Mark, it's not when you begin to accuse God in your grief but

it's when begin. You begin to lose the grip of

your service to God? When you begin to lose your grip

on your service to God, that's another flag that indicates our

morning crossed, the boundaries that God has designed and not

not physically, of course, not being able to move forward.

I'm speaking about mentally not being able to say I can move on

from this garbage. Still worthy of my service.

You know he failed as a King Saul did, right?

But we see here that Samuel was still a prophet, saw was no

longer King, but Samuel, you're still a man of God and why you

need to understand here is that you cannot afford to be so

overwhelmed that you are paralyzed in your position, and

that's what Greek can do. It can paralyze you, it can keep

you in place. It can keep you in place until

your dying day. There are mothers who are like

that. They're our sons were like that.

There are pastors who are like that that they never seem to

recover after a severe blow, whether it was from their own

failure, or failure of another or something that is

unexplainable. And what we see here is that

David was morning as a father but just like Samuel, he had a

position, he had a calling, he was a king and as a king, he

needed to still serve God's people and he's allowing his

personal grievances to it. Fear with that calling.

And here's the thing. Maybe none of this is relatable

to you because you're not in a leadership position, but let me

tell you how grief is has a wide spectrum.

There are people today who not? Because of a loss of a loved one

or because of a tragic incident, but because more like Saul and

Samuel, you've been failed by someone, someone has

disappointed you. That can be a pastor or leader

from a former church, that can be because of spiritual abuse.

Zeus and you can never read your Bible the same way again, right?

You come here and you worship, but as your worship, you're

thinking, maybe all those people in the worship, team are

absolute Hypocrites, just like the last church I was a part of

maybe that Pastor is not really a true man of God.

Just like the last Pastor that destroyed me and my family or my

friends. So you look at hypocrisy, you

look at others, you look at inconsistencies and you allow it

to affect you. As a man of God, as a woman of

God, you have some people who just don't want to deal with

Ministry because there are people who make more mess than

blessing in Ministry. So you don't want to be

disappointed again. So you're very distant.

Your body is here but you left your heart at home.

You have some people who just are skeptical.

And they live in that skepticism.

And that skepticism has so affected them because of serious

things. Maybe not so serious things it

so they don't even come to church anymore.

They do there's no intensity. There's no participation that

Zeal died That Zeal died with your disappointment and now

you're just a hollow shell. That wants to try to live your

Christian Life without disappointment from others,

right? You're wrong.

Your grief has led you to grieving the heart of God.

And what's amazing here is what God says to Samuel.

He says how long, how long will you grieve over Saul?

And then he moves forward by saying, fill your horn with oil

and go I will send you to Jesse the bethlem light What is he

trying to say there? Hey Samuel, you still have a

purpose to fulfill. I still have a call for you.

You're still my man and I need you to understand that, and I

need you to walk in that. And here's what I think is so

insightful, I think and I believe That God giving this

instruction to Samuel was not just because it was his

responsibility. But because in that was a

remedy. One of the greatest remedies to

seeing healing is serving God. What do I mean by that?

Here's the thing. When you because what Ministry

really is, is coming to the aid of people's needs.

When you surround yourself and put yourself before people who

have needs, it takes your eyes off of you.

And so you're not wallowing as much because you're distracted

in a way. In a holy way, in a good way,

service is a sanctifying shield and that Shield can protect you

from being swallowed up by yours.

Your sadness or even protecting you from sexual Temptation.

Listen, Samuel was not going to do any good for himself by

staying in his room and crying day after day after day.

And that's proven even in David's life when he chose to

stay home with his thoughts. Stead of being out in the

battlefield, like, God called them to be.

And so, the Lord tells Samuel get up, fill your horn with oil

and go and anoint, the men that I have prepared to take salts

place. In other words, get busy, get

busy serving the lord You're not going to heal by laying there

and just letting time wash Over You, Without You Walking In the

purpose that God has for you. And that happens actually with

David, this is just happening with sauce.

I'm trying to prove this that this is not just an isolated

incident. This is something that we see as

a principle throughout the word of God, you haven't read it.

So I'm not going to ask you the question, but here's where we

see that same idea being articulated.

Go to chapter 19 again and look at verse 7.

This is joab. Joab is the agent of Correction,

not the Lord himself, but job is.

And he says to David now, therefore arise go out and speak

kindly to your servants. For I, swear by the Lord, if you

do not go, not a man will stay with you this night and this

will be worse for you than all the evil that has come upon you

from your youth. Until now, then the king arose

and took his seat in the gate. And the people were all told.

Behold the king is sitting in the gate and All the people came

before The King, right? You know, a job is saying, get

up. Stop sitting here in your room.

Pounding your fist. And go do what you're supposed

to do as a king. I get very nervous when sad

Christians don't show up anymore.

I get very nervous. You should get nervous too.

The Lord's words to Samuel. You can safely translate them in

the following way. Why are you still acting like

this sauce? Failures have not affected my

plans for the nation and you still have a calling that I gave

you so, get going. David gives the same advice.

The remorse over the death. Now we come to the rebuke the

rebuke We come to chapter 19. Right job was told, behold the

king is weeping he's devastated and job would not tolerate this

for one moment further. He's going to confront David and

so he comes to David. And job has messed up a lot and

he's actually going to mess up even more after this chapter.

But what job does here is instructive He comes to the king

and he rebukes him. He rebukes this man and it might

seem a little intense, but here's what I want to tell you

rebuke. Is very necessary at times and

sometimes intensity in that rebuke is just as necessary.

What woke up? Samuel rebuke.

What woke up David rebuked. I'm going to get to a little

teaching on rebuke because we're intimidated by that word and we

kind of put that Christian instruction in a vault.

And we try not to touch it ever in our lives.

And so we like exhortation, we like instruction, we like

encouragement, but also rebuked know.

We can be doing rebuke stuff. That's on Godly.

It can be, but it's absolutely necessary.

I want you to see something here, a few insights with what

job does with his friend verse 5.

We told that he receives a news about Absalom or his father's

grief over. Have some verse 5, then job came

into the house to the king and said I liked that job came to

his house. You know what that tells me?

David went to his house and David stayed in his house when

David was supposed to be around. Of people.

He was supposed to be before the people celebrating rejoicing

giving, thanks to God. And instead he goes up to his

chamber sticks, his hand in his face and drenches his fingers

with his tears. Isolation is so common for those

who are sorrowful. Can I tell you something?

It's very unwise to do that for too long.

You might need some time alone to process your grievances, but

to stay there. Is suicide for the soul.

And job comes here with intervention.

He comes here. He comes to this man in his very

home, and what do you find David doing?

From what he learned in 18:33 to chapter 19, he still singing the

same song. My son, my son, all the same.

Tune, the same song. The same problem.

Nothing's changed even though he became isolated.

Isolation can be deceptive and again being surrounded by

people. Even people who have needs can

bring your healing faster. This is God's wisdom.

And additionally for those who lean towards isolation, may add

something okay? Because some of us are more

introverted Like being around like being here.

Right now is like it's difficult for you and it's only going to

get more difficult when people stand up and they might shake

your hand. You just want to zoom out of

here as soon as possible. I get it.

I know people like that and doesn't mean you're any less

Godly than a person who is an extrovert.

But for those who tend to have leniencies towards pulling away

from others, especially when your heart is heavy, you have to

understand that. Do you think you are healing

from hurt the very Act and the Very cessation of your presence

is actually most likely hurting others.

Look at the words here of job in verse six because you love those

who hate you and hate those who love you.

For you have made it clear today.

That commanders and servants are nothing to you for today.

I know that if Absalom were alive and all of us were dead

today, then you would be pleased.

That seems a little intense, right?

It's again sometimes rebuke is necessary and sometimes a little

dose of intensity is needed in that rebuke.

What's he trying to say here is like, look the fact that you're

pulling away from everybody with with your tears and your

Brokenness, you're actually communicating something.

They're not valuable to you. They have nothing to offer you

their not important to you especially when these people

have given so much of themselves to you.

So it can be a very selfish thing and it can actually cause

others to hurt, see the body of Christ.

Listen, you're a member of the body and when the body's hurting

scripture tells us, we all hurt meaning that we hurt together.

And so if you're if you're hurting and you're temptation is

to pull away your like a finger that wants to disconnect from

the hand. Yeah.

You think that being isolated will help you write?

But in fact you've severed something and you're causing

others to bleed at the same time, this is a place where you

receive your healing, the people of God.

If this is truly Godly place with people who love the Lord

and love his word, this is where you receive your wholeness

again. God designed it that way.

And Satan would love for you. Even not just in your sin

people. People always think somebody's

isolating themselves because of their sin.

No, it can be because of their sadness and that sadness will

lead to sin. That's the whole idea.

It's to learn discipline yourself, to throw yourself at

the feet of the hands and feet of Jesus.

The people of God, pour out your heart.

Am I saying that you can't be along?

Just saying don't be alone too long.

And so we see here that job comes to this man's Rescue by

appearing and showing up and dealing with him and what does

he do? You've heard me say, he rebukes

and I wanted to take advantage of talking about rebuke, just a

little bit. What does it mean to rebuke?

Does anybody have an idea? Like what's a Christian word?

Rights are in a Christian vocabulary, I don't know if you

know what it means. What does rebuke mean?

To correct. I would say it's even more than

that. It's that's the essence of it

but what does it mean to rebuke? Because I can be teaching and

it's correcting. Better a firm correction.

I would even go more than that. It's a confrontation.

That seeks to criticize a wrong. For the sake of restoring,

someone from sinful Behavior. That's what it means to rebuke.

And the scripture in the New Testament encourages us to

rebuke, especially for those who are in leadership positions,

they are commanded to rebuke, right?

But as Believers in Luke 17, it says, when a brother sin against

you rebuke him. So even as Believers, you might

not have a position of teaching or preaching, but your call to

in day-to-day life at times to rebuke, Now I'm fully aware that

there are some who have a strange satisfaction and

gratification of confronting people.

There's some relief there for them, they just vent and they

just, they send superiority by reprimand.

I don't know how they do that. I think rebuking is one of the

most uncomfortable experiences for the Christian for anybody

who has a delight in it. There needs to be some

counseling there. Okay.

It's difficult to do, it's difficult to do that.

So I think it's comanded because it's not something that

naturally we want to do at least for some But nonetheless, it is

a command. You see that second Timothy 4:2,

2 Timothy 4:2

you see that in Titus 2:15 where these pastors are commanded by

Titus 2:15

God to know how to confront people in their sin.

Now, with that being said, I mentioned how we kind of put

that in a vault and we put a very, very strict code on it, so

we never open that Vault ever again, because who wants to

rebuke, right? No, you're supposed to rebuke,

but cautiously Very cautiously because that kind of

Confrontation can do very much more damage than it can good.

And I think the best way to know how to be like Christ in your

rebuking is to ask a series of questions to self-reflect to

pause and to be more confident in your motive.

And in your reason before you make that move, some people are

trigger happy with their rebuke, right?

And I think in some cases, Rebuke is necessary immediately

and even publicly. When Paul rebuked Peter, he

didn't send him an email after the whole thing, galatia?

Right. He rebuked them publicly in

front of everybody, and I think the rule for that is, if the sin

is public, it deserves public correction If the sin is

private, then it warns private confrontation, right?

Just like your confession of sin, by the way, let me just

give a word of counsel. If your sin is private and it

deals with very intimate details, it's not necessary for

your testimony to share and to spill all the guts.

Okay, there's wisdom and even how you share your testimony.

Coming back to this. So he I'm just I'm curious

because we want to be equipped. What questions do you think are

necessary to ask yourself before you come to a point where you

deal with a person and criticize them for their sin?

Not them as a person but criticized, their sin.

And the way they're living for the sake of restoring them unto

Holiness. Any ideas?

What questions? Very good.

What is my intention in this? Am I just angry at them?

Do I just want to spill over my emotions on them?

Because they did something that I didn't like, or why do I want

to see them restore? Do I really want to see them

rescued? And the means by which I will

see that at least closer. Into realities through this

rebuke. Yeah.

Do I love them? And I think that correlates with

that. Do I love them and doing this

and in loving them you want to see them restore.

And so you're willing to rebuke them as uncomfortable as that

may be for you. Any other idea?

Is it biblical I love that point.

Am I confronting someone because of a personal preference Am I

confronting someone? Because of something that might

be right for their conscious but not as right for my conscience,

or is this black and white in the Bible, very important.

A lot of Confrontation is done because you're doing something

that I don't like, well, where's the verse in chapter it?

Well, it's because I don't like it.

So that doesn't work. You're gonna cause more Civil

War than anything with that kind of attitude.

Yes, Is it the right time? That's very important, too.

Right? We need to know that timing is

important, context is important. Place is important Peterson

publicly. It deserved public correction.

If you saw brother sitting somewhere and you're in charge

of worship, and you get on before we sing this song,

Brother so-and-so. I saw at the mall and brother, I

did tell you something you're wrong for what you did to that

Clerk and your attitude that wasn't Christ like no, no no.

Extreme example, but you'd be surprised.

Yes. You guys are doing so good.

Am I rebuking somebody for a sin that I'm entertaining myself?

Whoo, there's the spec but here's the log, And what we do

is when we confront people with that log we tend to walk them

over the head, right? So pulled along out, do some

self surgery first and then you will see clearly to know how to

deal with somebody else. We have a log in your eye, you

don't tell you don't tend to see clearly not from experience.

I just assumed log in your eye doesn't help very good, very

good, anything else How do I know if my rebuke is legitimate?

Okay, good. So when it comes to confronting,

especially with sensitive matters, or when the accusation

is severe, it helps to have witnesses.

Now I'm not, that's not always the case, because scripture

tells us in Matthew 18 that if a brother has sinned that you

approach him privately, right? You bring in two or three other

Witnesses when he doesn't repent.

But when it comes to certain situations and you're right

brother, when you see somebody especially in a leadership

position, where told you got to have more than one witness here,

they can't just be something that comes from your perspective

or your ideas. It's good to have more than one

individual who can validate what your concerns are.

Yes. And I think that comes back to

the timing thing, right? And my ready is my heart in the

right place for me to approach this brother or the sister with

my concerns. Yes.

Yeah so am I judging them with the right calculation?

Again by scripture so we're kind of revisiting some of the points

that we already made. Somebody hasn't made one point

that I think is crucial. I'm going to give it a couple

more tries before I make it. Okay, so restoration, right?

So it's interesting, right? We rebuke, but Timothy was told

by Paul you rebuke and you exhort Reprove rebuke exhort.

So Our intention, there isn't a blow things up and leave things

in pieces. We come, we deal with that

thing, but we also come with a solution and I think part of

that solution to and if you, if you're a person that wants to

know if you're ready for that solution, I think.

One thing that can help is if you're praying for that person,

not just willing to confront the, but if you're praying for

them and prepared to pray for them after the matter, right?

But more than that brother. Look, you're in the wrong.

And I've Seen this as a pattern. It's not right it's breaking my

heart is breaking others people's heart but here's the

thing, how can I help you? What can I do?

What can I offer you to see you overcome this?

That's something that will win. A person's heart.

At least it should. Yes.

Yeah, you're in it. How to bring up the matter of

rebuke. Yeah.

So how are you going to watch your tone?

What's your voice? If you're going to premeditate

it make sure that you have it planned out, at least the best

that you can. I'll give you what I think.

Everything you said I agree with 100%.

Here's one that we also have to consider.

Am I willing to receive the rebuke that I'm about to give

That's huge, right? How would I feel if I was

sitting at the other end of that coffee table?

Hearing what I'm planning to say to that brother or sister, most

of the time, if you're ready to rebuke somebody, you're going to

revisit your script. When you ask that question, you

will probably 99.9% of the time you at least revisit it and

maybe Council somebody else to help you.

Put it together in a certain way to make it airtight from any.

Any cardinality or unnecessary offense?

Am I will, how would I would Should I be convinced that this

person really loves me wants to see Christ formed in me, the way

I am prepared to say what I'm about to say. and if you can

say, yes, then you're ready for that rebuke, and the Lord needs

to give us wisdom, right? Lord doesn't need to give us

wisdom because sometimes that rebuke will be something we have

to be ready to do at that very moment.

And the way that we are ready, is when we remain prayerful, we

remain watchful. When we remain continually in a

place of self-examination, so we're continually clean vessels.

So that when we are taken by surprise, will be more

christ-like than ever. There's so much more to say.

I'm not going to continue to say anything, but here's what I want

to say, and enclosing If you're a person who is sorrowful today,

you did the right thing in coming to this place, but I want

to let you know that the Lord has Mercy toward you even in

your grief. And sometimes his Mercy comes in

the form of a rebuke. So maybe today you are you have

been enduring pain and it's been paralyzing.

Hear God's voice in this study today and realize that if you

have been accusing God, even slightly or your walk with the

Lord, has been altered in any shape or form because of that

grief. Realize that the Lord wants to

heal you today. Realize that he has a purpose

for you. Realize that his program is

bigger than your personal life and your part of that program in

your life is beyond your son. Your daughter.

Your life is beyond your job. Your life is beyond what others

have done. It's bigger than that and you're

part of that bigger picture. You know what's so sad, is how

David's grief here? Cause other people to be to be

sad? And to really even caused

themselves to reflect on their own ways and their own

decisions, you know, you have parents who when they go

through, grieving things specifically with one specific

child, they isolate themselves with other children.

They don't give any love any attention to the children, they

just keep remembering what about that once on whether their

Wayward or even altogether loss from this life.

And what happens to those kids, they get bitter, they get

broken. They pull away they Rebel and so

we need God's wisdom, Even in our pain, we need the Lord's

help. We can do a whole series on

that. Can we not?

But it's 935 so you're not getting a Series tonight.

At least let's pray. Lord words.

Can't express how how full my heart feels to see a room filled

with people who are eager to hear from your word.

Thank you for this Bible study. Thank you that on a Friday

night. People want to be under the word

of God, or we asked conveyed today would have been beneficial

to our walk with you. We pray, Lord that you would

help us be. Believers who know how to grieve

with hope. We pray that you would help us

to be faithful Messengers, not like I amaz who get excited, but

don't understand the responsibility of running this

race. Help us be like cush site.

Help us be like that man who may not have had the fastest feet,

but was obedient and faithful to what you asked of him.

Well we pray that in those uncomfortable moments where we

might have to correct a brother or we might have to criticize

even for the sake of seeing them restored.

We won't have to call them out. Lord maybe we not be unwilling

to wield that but when we also be cautious to do so in the most

christ-like manner as possible, help us believe that.

Like with Samuel and David rebuke was the means by which

you revived their concern for you and your purpose for them.

And Lord for those who attempted to isolate, for those who might

be in isolation, this very moment, maybe they're not here

because they are isolating. Go, where we can't go.

Help us know what to do. But also Lord, if we've done all

that we can do, would you be merciful and speak to them?

As you spoke to Samuel, open their eyes, let your voice be

loud and clear rescue them from their despair.

Pull them out of that pit so they can operate the way you've

called them to be with their gifting and their presence and

their involvement in the advancement of your purpose.

Lord, we look to you and we trust you and we sing to you

with gladness of heart. In Jesus name we pray.

Amen. Let's stand Worship the Lord.