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Loving the Church Beyond the Hurt

Trinity Cambridge Church

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  1. And now I have the joy of introducing again our speaker for the retreat and our speaker preacher this morning, Pastor Andrew Cavalich.

  2. For those of you who weren't here for the retreat, I joked on Friday night when I introduced him that Pastor Andrew has big biceps, but that he has an even bigger heart.

  3. He's one of the most large-hearted people I know, period.

  4. Whenever you have a conversation with him, you are stirred up toward Christ to be nearer to him, and you're encouraged.

  5. And he has really encouraged us and built us up as a church this weekend.

  6. And as I was thinking about how you've served us this weekend, Andrew, this passage came to mind in 1 Thessalonians 2, verse 8.

    1 Thessalonians 2:8

  7. So being affectionately desirous of you, we are ready to share with you not only the gospel of God, but also our own selves,

  8. because you had become very dear to us.

  9. I feel like Andrew, you, and Christina have done that for us this weekend.

  10. Not just sharing the gospel with us, which is of utmost importance, but also sharing your life impacted by the gospel with us.

  11. And we have been praying in preparation for the retreat that there would be an impartation of the Spirit's power and his gift,

  12. so that we might become a church that is able to rebuke people and make them feel so loved in doing so,

  13. as you have done for countless people.

  14. And so I pray that that continues.

  15. So please come and serve us, Pastor Andrew.

  16. Let's welcome him together.

  17. Thank you.

  18. All right, we got to get something cleared up right off the bat.

  19. I have regular-sized biceps.

  20. And in fact, since my hospitalization, my biceps are getting smaller,

  21. and because of my high blood pressure and all that, I think my heart's getting larger.

  22. But you know what?

  23. Our hope is, even though our outer person is wasting away,

  24. our inward person is what needs renewal the most.

  25. If we're going to work out, if we're going to develop ourselves in any aspect of our life,

  26. may it be our inner person, our true selves.

  27. And that's where I believe God wants to minister this morning.

  28. But I have a few things we have to do.

  29. I apologize.

  30. I'm still in retreat mode.

  31. And so I've been giving gifts away.

  32. And that just kind of seems weird on like a Sunday service.

  33. But I'm already committed at this point.

  34. So I have one last gift.

  35. I have another Dunkin' card.

  36. And I know it means less to you now.

  37. But here's who I'd love to give this away to.

  38. If you are coming to church this morning, and you're like,

  39. I really want coffee.

  40. But if we stop, we're going to be late.

  41. And you decided not to stop and get coffee and be here on time,

  42. I would love to give this to you.

  43. Anybody?

  44. Never stop.

  45. Yeah, yeah.

  46. So I'm going to trust you're all just really good planners.

  47. Okay, so let's just do it this way.

  48. Who wants a Dunkin' card?

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  69. All right.

  70. All right.

  71. A couple more things.

  72. We got to clear the decks a little bit before we get into God's word.

  73. I got to encourage Sean beforehand when we were doing the retreat part of this.

  74. But I'll elaborate to say this.

  75. Leadership sets the tempo of the church.

  76. And your best leaders are the ones that want to leave you with Jesus and not themselves.

  77. But who labor hard, faithfully, and humbly to do that.

  78. You have such leaders here in Sean and the other emerging leaders.

  79. But it also says something about you guys.

  80. It says you want the real thing.

  81. You want to build your life together with one another around Jesus.

  82. You wouldn't be here if you didn't.

  83. And I also realize from talking to many of you, there are great joys being a part of this church.

  84. I mean, even us just being here this weekend, we adore this church.

  85. We're going to try to find ways to be with you guys in the future.

  86. But we know in a transient community, that can be hard.

  87. To be the ones who are left and to be the ones who are leaving.

  88. And I want to share this.

  89. Part of the joy for my wife and I being here is we were part of a church plant in West Philly before we were in New Jersey.

  90. And it was a church kind of a similar makeup, kind of a similar area.

  91. And what was our comfort when we realized all the give and take that we had?

  92. It's this, that what Christ does in this time when you're together will last.

  93. Even when some of you leave and even when some of you stay.

  94. This discipleship you are experiencing will forever be part of your spiritual DNA.

  95. It goes with you.

  96. So I would encourage you, you are in a sweet place.

  97. Enjoy the sweetness of it.

  98. Savor it.

  99. Soak it up.

  100. Should the Lord move you on, take it with you.

  101. Should the Lord keep you here, he'll give you every bit of grace you need to stay faithfully.

  102. Even when it hurts when people leave.

  103. So, I say that.

  104. I also bring greetings from our home church.

  105. Pastor Warren and his wife Kim have been with you before.

  106. And they always love being with you guys.

  107. I know Philip and Heather, they're friends with the Bournes from the PC.

  108. And they wish they could have been here.

  109. But our whole church sends their greeting.

  110. And even the congregants who released me and my wife to be with you guys here this morning.

  111. That said, let's pray and we're going to jump in this morning.

  112. Father, as we bring a retreat to a close.

  113. As we come to an end of studying 2nd and 3rd John.

  114. We thank you that your word does not close.

  115. And your work does not stop here.

  116. You are continuing your work through your word in and through our lives.

  117. We pray the things that were helpful and of you would stick.

  118. They would remain with us.

  119. We pray that this warm influence of John that really points us to Jesus would, in some way,

  120. help us camp and stake our life upon him in a fresh way.

  121. And Lord, now for this morning, this time, be with us in this message.

  122. Be with us in these words of 3rd John.

  123. May they be life to us, in Jesus' name.

  124. So be it.

  125. All right, just to catch everybody up on where we've been.

  126. We've been working through the letters of 2nd and 3rd John.

  127. We've already finished 2nd John and we're halfway through 3rd John.

  128. 3rd John is the shortest by word count letter in the whole New Testament.

  129. But though these letters are both very short,

  130. they teach us so much about love and truth.

  131. And the life and warmth we're meant to find there.

  132. So in the beginning of 2nd John, we talked about this craft.

  133. How do believers get good at rightly understanding how love and truth work together?

  134. What they are?

  135. And the critical place that obedience falls into with that.

  136. Then we looked at believers have a calling to promote and to protect the perfection of the gospel.

  137. Over against our own thoughts of perfection or over against any kind of edits to the gospel.

  138. Through subtraction or addition.

  139. Last night we considered, what does it mean to love well in the church?

  140. To love well in the church is to love one another in a holistic way.

  141. As whole people, not missing any avenues or areas of life.

  142. But this morning when we think about love and truth and their life and their warmth,

  143. we need to think about what loving looks like when it's hard and when it hurts.

  144. The title of our time this morning is Loving the Church Beyond the Hurt.

  145. And if you would, let's go ahead and read all of 3rd John,

  146. but we'll be focusing our time together from verses 9 and 15.

  147. The letter of 3rd John.

  148. The elder to the beloved Gaius, whom I love in truth.

  149. Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health as it goes well with your soul.

  150. For I rejoice greatly when the brothers came and testified to your truth,

  151. as indeed you are walking in the truth.

  152. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.

  153. Beloved, it is a faithful thing you do in all your efforts for these brothers,

  154. strangers as they are, who testified to your love before the church.

  155. You will do well to send them on their journey in a manner worthy of God,

  156. for they have gone out for the sake of the name,

  157. accepting nothing from the Gentiles.

  158. Therefore, we ought to support people like these that we may be fellow workers for the truth.

  159. Here we come to our portion this morning.

  160. I have written something to the church,

  161. but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first,

  162. does not acknowledge our authority.

  163. So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing,

  164. talking wicked nonsense against us,

  165. and not content with that,

  166. he refuses to welcome the brothers,

  167. and also stops those who wants to,

  168. and puts them out of the church.

  169. Beloved, do not imitate evil,

  170. but imitate good.

  171. Whoever does good is from God.

  172. Whoever does evil has not seen God.

  173. Demetrius has received a good testimony from everyone,

  174. and from the truth itself.

  175. We also add our testimony,

  176. and you know that our testimony is true.

  177. I had much to write to you,

  178. but I would rather not write with pen and ink.

  179. I hope to see you soon,

  180. and we will talk face to face.

  181. Peace be to you.

  182. The friends greet you.

  183. Greet the friends,

  184. each by name.

  185. I not only love you guys,

  186. I love these little letters.

  187. They are so sweet and rich,

  188. and I think we're going to find them helpful.

  189. Because you may not be experiencing it here,

  190. because of the transient nature of your life,

  191. and because of the nature of sin,

  192. you will encounter hurt in the church.

  193. You will be hurt by people who profess Christ,

  194. and that is a reality.

  195. But what I want us to embrace

  196. is not only hurt happens in the church,

  197. but hurt and healing both happen in this place.

  198. So although there may be temptations to leave,

  199. the answer is not to leave,

  200. but it is to learn.

  201. And I believe there is much for us to learn,

  202. and John here takes another turn.

  203. He did this in 2 John,

  204. where he's really warm,

  205. and then he comes with the warning.

  206. And now here again,

  207. we see this warmth over Gaius,

  208. but he's definitely concerned about Demetrius,

  209. and that's where our own text picks up.

  210. And we're going to consider this portion of 3 John

  211. in two points,

  212. and I believe there's much for us to learn here.

  213. The first point is this,

  214. for us to see lessons in self-love.

  215. Not that we grow in being better lovers of ourselves,

  216. but these are warning lessons against it.

  217. So we come to this person, Demetrius,

  218. who John is writing about,

  219. seems like some kind of influential leader

  220. or person in that church.

  221. And he's causing really significant problems.

  222. But when it comes to a point of,

  223. what do we do?

  224. You will all face this,

  225. whether it's the problems John faced,

  226. or the sin you will encounter in yourself or in others.

  227. What do you do when you are hurt

  228. by people who profess Christ?

  229. What do you do when you are hurt in the church?

  230. Now, Proverbs 24 is actually talking about laziness.

  231. But there's something very helpful about the wisdom here.

  232. I want to read it to make this point.

  233. It says this,

  234. What the Proverbs are saying is,

  235. Friends, when we see these things,

  236. this should be our disposition.

  237. This should be our learning,

  238. not our leaving.

  239. So when we come and we see Diotrephes here,

  240. we see some real issues that we can learn about.

  241. So we see this in the text,

  242. and we need to realize that it's not just this guy.

  243. This guy, Diotrephes, is marked by self-love.

  244. Because nothing hurts the church like love of self.

  245. Nothing hurts the church like self-love.

  246. So what do we find out about him?

  247. We find out this.

  248. Number one, you put yourself first.

  249. If you want a lesson in self-love,

  250. put yourself first.

  251. That's what Diotrephes is doing.

  252. And the text says,

  253. Who likes to put himself first.

  254. That's really,

  255. John is being so truthful there, isn't he?

  256. And isn't this what our pride does?

  257. It puts us first.

  258. Above others,

  259. and then eventually above the truth itself,

  260. as we have it in Jesus Christ.

  261. And what's so sad,

  262. is it can happen in the church.

  263. The place that's uniquely designated,

  264. for God's glory and worship,

  265. gets perverted to become a platform

  266. for our own promotion.

  267. Friends, it's actually larger than that.

  268. That is a reversal of the whole created order.

  269. We were never meant to be worshipped.

  270. We were only meant to worship.

  271. And when that gets reversed,

  272. it is a serious sickness.

  273. But friends,

  274. God's plan for what he means the church to be,

  275. and his position on pride,

  276. have never changed.

  277. Think about God's intent for us as a people.

  278. He says this through his word in 1 Peter.

  279. But you are a chosen race,

  280. a royal priesthood,

  281. a holy nation,

  282. a people for his own possession,

  283. that you may proclaim the excellencies of him.

  284. Not ourselves.

  285. Him who called you out of darkness

  286. into his marvelous light.

  287. That's what the church was always meant to be and be about.

  288. And God's position on pride,

  289. guess what?

  290. God hasn't changed his view about pride.

  291. Proverbs 16.5 says it so well,

  292. Everyone who is arrogant in heart

  293. is an abomination to the Lord.

  294. Be assured,

  295. he will not go unpunished.

  296. Friends,

  297. the desire to be first

  298. must die in us.

  299. But I must admit,

  300. it's sneaky in the church.

  301. Because there's ways we can talk about

  302. glorifying Christ

  303. while wanting to siphon self-glory for ourselves.

  304. Now,

  305. we'll say our Father is very faithful

  306. in stripping us of these things.

  307. And some of you know,

  308. you joining the retreat might have not heard this.

  309. I was recently hospitalized

  310. and I had some bites

  311. and they made my body go haywire.

  312. It affected my heart.

  313. It affected my body.

  314. I'm still not 100.

  315. I'm so happy to be here.

  316. But I had all these teams of specialists

  317. looking at me.

  318. They didn't know what was wrong with me.

  319. That made me more scared and concerned.

  320. And I will tell you,

  321. when you're lying in a hospital bed for nights,

  322. you have a lot of time to think

  323. and you have a lot of time to pray.

  324. And do you know what one of my greatest comforts was

  325. in that time?

  326. That I'm not the main thing.

  327. That was a shelter.

  328. That was a comfort for me.

  329. I mean, I don't,

  330. I'm a little bit of a hypo-contriac,

  331. so I might have inflated it in my mind,

  332. but God can use that.

  333. I'm like, I might die.

  334. And we all die.

  335. Like, listen, we're all gonna die.

  336. But I think sometimes God gives you moments

  337. when you're like, this could be it.

  338. And you know what made me okay with that?

  339. That's okay.

  340. Because I'm not first.

  341. That's okay because I'm not the main thing.

  342. Jesus is.

  343. And friends, if I find my life

  344. in the one who life is about,

  345. I've lost nothing.

  346. That's real life.

  347. And if my life ends,

  348. my life has already been found and kept,

  349. there is a security in this.

  350. Friends, self-first is never safe for our souls.

  351. Self-first offers the illusion of security

  352. that if you're best and you're first,

  353. you'll always be secure.

  354. Security is not in self-first.

  355. No.

  356. Security is in Christ first.

  357. Always, always, always.

  358. As John said, he must increase,

  359. but I must decrease.

  360. And he doesn't need to use hospital visits to do that.

  361. He's faithful, but may he increase

  362. that life-giving work among us.

  363. Here's another marker in self-love.

  364. Reject authority.

  365. People who love themselves and their opinions,

  366. they hate authority.

  367. I know I'm like in the Boston area

  368. and you guys like to throw stuff over boats

  369. and other things.

  370. And I mean, we as a nation

  371. have pretty much an authority complex

  372. already built into our DNA.

  373. But as Christians,

  374. we have a new disposition towards authority.

  375. We should be people who love authority,

  376. who welcome it,

  377. who see it as care and provision from God.

  378. But it says in the text

  379. that Diotrephes does not acknowledge our authority.

  380. And I just, we gotta pause

  381. and just think about the audacity of this.

  382. John is the last living apostle.

  383. And the more I read John,

  384. the more I wanna be like him.

  385. I mean, he really is like the Obi-Wan of Star Wars.

  386. No, I'm serious.

  387. When I was a kid, I liked Luke.

  388. You know, everybody likes Luke.

  389. But as I grow up, I'm like,

  390. man, Luke is a whiner.

  391. And I'm like, Obi-Wan really grows on me.

  392. The apostle of love, the apostle of John

  393. really grows on me.

  394. If he's this loving in his letters,

  395. could you imagine what fellowship

  396. would have been like with this apostle?

  397. So seasoned, so shaped by Jesus.

  398. But not only that, check out his resume.

  399. He walked with Jesus.

  400. He's one of the 12.

  401. He was one of the witnesses

  402. of the transfiguration.

  403. He was at the crucifixion

  404. and he outraced Peter to the tomb

  405. and saw the empty tomb.

  406. I'm like, bro, I'm in.

  407. John, what do you got?

  408. I'm with you.

  409. The audacity to come against

  410. an authority like this.

  411. Wow, that is crazy.

  412. But friends, our pride is crazy.

  413. It's deceptive.

  414. Obadiah 3 says this,

  415. the pride of your heart has deceived you.

  416. We can become so self-inflated

  417. that we don't submit ourselves

  418. to anyone or anything.

  419. Now, I'll admit there's a tension here.

  420. Obviously, Diotrephes is a bad leader

  421. or a bad person in influence.

  422. And I'm not saying every leader's good.

  423. That wouldn't be a true statement.

  424. There are some people who are maligning

  425. the name of Jesus Christ

  426. in what they call service.

  427. That's sick.

  428. And I make no quarters for that.

  429. But when someone is faithful,

  430. we should be responding to that.

  431. So I think of Hebrews.

  432. I think of Peter.

  433. Obey your leaders and submit to them.

  434. Why?

  435. For they're keeping watch over your souls

  436. as those who will have to give an account.

  437. Good leaders,

  438. yeah, they should have our warm, loving,

  439. humble submission.

  440. But listen, leaders,

  441. they need to not be domineering

  442. according to 1 Peter.

  443. But they need to be examples to the flock.

  444. I'll just move to the next one.

  445. I could say more,

  446. but we got a couple more categories

  447. under this first point.

  448. The next is slander.

  449. Look at verse 10 with me.

  450. The first part of verse 10.

  451. It says this,

  452. So if I come,

  453. I will bring up what he is doing.

  454. Talking wicked nonsense against us.

  455. It's just kind of cool to hear John say

  456. he's talking wicked nonsense.

  457. I mean,

  458. almost,

  459. that kind of feels kind of Bostonian.

  460. So,

  461. I picked this up from John.

  462. But what,

  463. what does it mean,

  464. wicked nonsense here?

  465. The Greek means babbling incoherently.

  466. So it's not just the idea of talking trash,

  467. but talking crazy.

  468. Diotrephes is saying outlandish things about John.

  469. Outlandish.

  470. So if they're that outlandish,

  471. guess what they are?

  472. They're unfounded.

  473. And going back to what we've looked at

  474. in 2 and 3 John already,

  475. truth is so part and parcel to our fellowship.

  476. But if your pride,

  477. if your self-love

  478. distorts you or me so much

  479. that we start

  480. thinking and speaking

  481. of other people

  482. outside of reality,

  483. we have chosen

  484. our pride over truth.

  485. Because Diotrephes

  486. isn't speaking true things about John.

  487. He's speaking false things.

  488. And that's how that works.

  489. Here's the other one we need to see.

  490. Look at the second part of verse 10.

  491. It says this.

  492. And not content with that.

  493. So I guess

  494. his babbling wicked nonsense

  495. wasn't enough for him.

  496. Not content with that.

  497. He refuses to welcome the brothers

  498. and also stops those who want to

  499. and puts them out of the church.

  500. We don't know precisely what's happening here,

  501. but it most likely has something to do

  502. with John's instruction

  503. about not receiving people

  504. that don't bring the real message

  505. and warmly welcoming

  506. and being fellow workers

  507. with the missionaries who are.

  508. And it seems like Diotrephes

  509. is stiff-arming the good missionaries.

  510. He's not letting them in.

  511. And then the believers are like,

  512. come on, Diotrephes,

  513. they're with us.

  514. We want to support them.

  515. We've heard from John.

  516. He's shutting them out.

  517. And finally,

  518. the people that don't agree,

  519. guess what?

  520. They get the boot.

  521. They get kicked out.

  522. He puts them out of the church.

  523. Do you know what that's referring to?

  524. Church discipline.

  525. Well, the final step,

  526. well, hopefully the final step

  527. is being redeemed,

  528. but that step of having to exercise

  529. that authority,

  530. friends, church discipline

  531. is meant to protect the purity of the church,

  532. not pollute it.

  533. And this is the essence of spiritual abuse,

  534. taking something good

  535. and using it for something bad

  536. because of selfish motivation.

  537. And friends,

  538. we can all be tempted to do that

  539. in different ways.

  540. That's exactly what's happening here.

  541. Friends,

  542. Diotrephes is not dead.

  543. We still face these same struggles.

  544. But John,

  545. John is not going to leave us

  546. with Diotrephes.

  547. John is going to lead us back

  548. to the love and truth

  549. that are in Christ

  550. and that are still in the church

  551. because not only can our hurt be here,

  552. our healing is here as well.

  553. And I believe there is a better way

  554. to learn that John wants to show us.

  555. And this is our second

  556. and final point for the morning.

  557. It's this,

  558. learning a better way.

  559. Learning a better way.

  560. And here again,

  561. there are sub points

  562. for us to learn from

  563. under this heading.

  564. The first is

  565. to imitate rightly.

  566. Look again with me

  567. at verse 11.

  568. This,

  569. this is one of the most

  570. punchy,

  571. helpful,

  572. little verse

  573. in this letter.

  574. beloved,

  575. beloved,

  576. do not imitate evil,

  577. but imitate good.

  578. When you see people

  579. acting inconsistent

  580. with their faith,

  581. sometimes in horrendous ways,

  582. what do you do?

  583. Do not imitate evil,

  584. imitate good.

  585. Friends,

  586. there'll always be

  587. some shady saints among us.

  588. It's just the truth.

  589. If I told you anything different,

  590. I mean,

  591. I haven't met any here,

  592. but you know,

  593. maybe this is some anomaly,

  594. but I've been around enough

  595. to know the wheat

  596. always grows with the tares.

  597. That we don't always know

  598. the full story.

  599. And I don't mean to like

  600. sow suspicion like that.

  601. I mean to sow expectation.

  602. You will encounter these things.

  603. And you hear so many people

  604. leaving the church.

  605. There's terms for this.

  606. It's kind of like

  607. gaining ground.

  608. And I'm just like,

  609. listen,

  610. I hear all these people say,

  611. I met some of the worst people

  612. I've ever met in the church.

  613. And I'm like,

  614. yeah,

  615. I could probably concede

  616. some of that.

  617. But you know what?

  618. The very best people

  619. I have ever met

  620. have been in the church.

  621. And it's not because

  622. of who they were.

  623. It's because of how shaped

  624. they've been

  625. by the Lord Jesus Christ.

  626. Jesus had so redeemed

  627. their life

  628. and renewed in them

  629. that family resemblance

  630. that I'm like,

  631. oh my goodness.

  632. I want to tell you

  633. about some of these people

  634. from my church.

  635. My number one favorite follower

  636. of Jesus Christ

  637. is my wife.

  638. She is the most sincere

  639. and authentic person

  640. I have ever known.

  641. She has such a deep humility

  642. and a sharp wisdom.

  643. You're my favorite saint.

  644. And the fact that I get

  645. to do all this with you

  646. is the best.

  647. I mean,

  648. I absolutely love it.

  649. I'll tell you about

  650. another family or in church.

  651. You're like, oh man,

  652. he's just loving on his wife.

  653. This guy's tired

  654. and ready to go home.

  655. Sean, don't bring this guy back.

  656. What's going on?

  657. I'll tell you about

  658. the Diaz family.

  659. Diazes are a delightful family

  660. in our church.

  661. They're well into their 60s

  662. at this point.

  663. Ken left a career

  664. to pursue ministry.

  665. Ministry didn't work out,

  666. but he wanted to stay

  667. in the church.

  668. I will tell you,

  669. they live in a very modest home

  670. in the town we live in.

  671. It's one of the richest places

  672. you'll ever visit.

  673. That place is so warm with love.

  674. The letters they write,

  675. the way they're other-centered,

  676. I see Jesus so much

  677. in Ken and Myra.

  678. And there's many saints

  679. like that in our church

  680. that I'm just like,

  681. all these people,

  682. like these ex-evangelicals,

  683. I'm like,

  684. what are you talking about?

  685. Jesus has got Jesus people

  686. in every church.

  687. Did you miss it?

  688. Did you miss it?

  689. Did you miss John's instruction

  690. when you see the mess?

  691. Don't leave, but learn.

  692. When you see the mess

  693. and you look at this,

  694. don't imitate evil,

  695. but imitate good,

  696. meaning that there's both

  697. in the church.

  698. There's things that can

  699. really bother us

  700. and things that can

  701. really bless us.

  702. What are you setting?

  703. Not just your attention on,

  704. but what you're going to

  705. wrap your life around.

  706. That's what imitation means.

  707. I want to conform to something.

  708. Instead, people are being deformed

  709. by all the negative things

  710. we're seeing,

  711. not transformed

  712. by all the gracious life

  713. that's happening in the church.

  714. We're not called to do that,

  715. brothers and sisters.

  716. And let me just say this.

  717. This is my personal ambition,

  718. and I would encourage you

  719. in your own words

  720. to make it your own.

  721. I'm not going to be

  722. the best Christian in the world.

  723. I've given up on that.

  724. And being perfect

  725. or the best at anything,

  726. that's an illusion.

  727. But I can't be faithful.

  728. I want to be honest.

  729. I want to be a healthy Christian.

  730. I want to be a mature Christian.

  731. If I can be that,

  732. that's enough.

  733. I love what A.W. Tozer once said.

  734. He goes,

  735. my flame may not be big,

  736. but it is real.

  737. Are you content to be a real flame

  738. within the local church

  739. and where you live and work?

  740. Because brothers and sisters,

  741. I don't think there's a higher calling

  742. than that.

  743. It doesn't give a lot of love,

  744. so I want to give it love here.

  745. Another thing under this second point,

  746. we reckon with the truth.

  747. This is significant.

  748. It may take a little explaining,

  749. but let's first see

  750. where I'm getting it from the text.

  751. Look at the second half of verse 11.

  752. It says,

  753. whoever does good is from God.

  754. Whoever does evil

  755. has not seen God.

  756. Again, John loves his metaphors

  757. and he's working these in again.

  758. When John says they haven't seen God,

  759. what is he saying?

  760. They're not actually Christian.

  761. They're not among us.

  762. They've missed it.

  763. They've been in our midst,

  764. but they've missed it.

  765. That's what John is saying.

  766. And I think what's important here

  767. is sometimes you're just going to struggle

  768. with Christians sinning against you.

  769. And that's okay.

  770. By the way,

  771. that peacemaking thing you did,

  772. that's what we talked to our friends about.

  773. We're like,

  774. okay,

  775. you got to talk to us

  776. about this peace five minute thing.

  777. Like,

  778. have you done that?

  779. Because we've never heard of it.

  780. And we're like,

  781. do you really reconcile

  782. in like three and a half minutes?

  783. And then,

  784. and then what,

  785. what if like is not done?

  786. What do you do with that?

  787. But listen,

  788. that,

  789. that's regular Christianity.

  790. That is sinners.

  791. We're going to sin against each other.

  792. We got to work that out.

  793. But there's going to be

  794. some really crazy,

  795. grievous stuff.

  796. And what John's saying is,

  797. yeah,

  798. they might say it's Christian.

  799. It's actually not Christian.

  800. They've never seen God.

  801. A few summers ago,

  802. we were back in my home state of Wisconsin

  803. and I,

  804. I saw something that would never fly in New Jersey.

  805. It was a Toyota Camry

  806. with no doors on it,

  807. spray painted,

  808. jacked up,

  809. and had Jeep labeling written all over it.

  810. So what I surmise is some poor person

  811. really,

  812. really wanted a Jeep,

  813. couldn't afford a Jeep,

  814. tried to Jeep out their Toyota Camry.

  815. And you know what I was left with?

  816. It's still a Camry.

  817. And we laugh about that,

  818. but we need that kind of bold discernment

  819. that the apostle of love is sharing,

  820. that not everybody who says they're a Christian

  821. actually is.

  822. And so a lot of the crazy nonsense

  823. that we get labeled with,

  824. I'm like,

  825. yeah,

  826. they've never seen God.

  827. It's just a Camry wanting to be more

  828. than it actually is,

  829. but it doesn't have a new nature.

  830. And I am not ascribing that to Jesus or his church.

  831. I'm just saying,

  832. and John's just saying.

  833. All right.

  834. We're kind of,

  835. we got a couple more

  836. and we're bringing it to a close.

  837. You guys have been patient.

  838. Next one.

  839. Esteem trusted examples.

  840. We need this exhortation,

  841. but we also need real life examples

  842. to imitate in this way.

  843. We've already talked about,

  844. John,

  845. I hope all of you love

  846. the apostle of love a lot more.

  847. And I really hope that you want to study

  848. all of his works together.

  849. That you want to study John's gospel,

  850. first,

  851. second,

  852. and third,

  853. and the revelation.

  854. Because there's so much to be gained

  855. from going through those

  856. in kind of a conscious aware way.

  857. But we also have Gaius.

  858. We don't want to forget

  859. who he wrote this letter to.

  860. This brother has offered faithful support.

  861. He is a faithful brother.

  862. And now,

  863. we have someone else mentioned

  864. towards the end in verse 12.

  865. It says this,

  866. Demetrius has received a good testimony

  867. from everyone

  868. and from the truth itself.

  869. We also add our testimony

  870. and you know that our testimony is true.

  871. Granted,

  872. this gets confusing.

  873. My phone number is 856-685.

  874. You know how many people struggle with that?

  875. Demetrius and Deatrophes.

  876. Oh wow,

  877. that's a...

  878. Couldn't we give them nicknames, John?

  879. That's a little confusing.

  880. I think I actually even messed up

  881. when I first tried to talk about Deatrophes.

  882. I said Demetrius.

  883. So listen,

  884. I'm even getting stumped

  885. and I studied this.

  886. So, but let's hang here.

  887. So there's a shady guy,

  888. Deatrophes.

  889. Okay,

  890. but we have someone else

  891. that's got a pretty similar name,

  892. Demetrius.

  893. And what I love about Demetrius

  894. is what John is saying again

  895. about the truth.

  896. The truth.

  897. Yeah.

  898. This other guy

  899. really never seen God.

  900. The truth itself

  901. bears witness to Demetrius.

  902. All the people in the church

  903. bear witness.

  904. And you know what?

  905. I, as the apostle,

  906. and those with me,

  907. we bear witness.

  908. Oh my goodness.

  909. To be one

  910. where it is born witness

  911. of the truth itself

  912. that we are truly God's children.

  913. Is there any other

  914. greater standing

  915. we can have?

  916. It is just

  917. so good.

  918. And here's,

  919. here's what I want to close with

  920. with this morning.

  921. I said the other night

  922. one of the most fascinating things

  923. about the letter of 3rd John.

  924. It's the only document

  925. in the entire New Testament

  926. where Jesus is not mentioned

  927. by name.

  928. But John being very kind of like

  929. into metaphor

  930. and the way he weaves things,

  931. he definitely

  932. wants to show us Jesus.

  933. So last night

  934. we considered

  935. for the sake of the name.

  936. And I said name

  937. is going to have

  938. a reoccurring place

  939. in this letter.

  940. But so is the term

  941. friends.

  942. So when John uses

  943. these words

  944. in the close,

  945. we have to read them

  946. very carefully

  947. because he is giving us

  948. intentional echoes

  949. of Jesus

  950. in the use of the word

  951. friends

  952. and name.

  953. I want you to see this.

  954. John says,

  955. the friends greet you.

  956. Greet the friends

  957. each by name.

  958. We could easily

  959. pass that off

  960. as just

  961. something he's doing

  962. to sign off.

  963. He's not trying

  964. to sign off.

  965. He's trying to leave us

  966. with Jesus

  967. like any good leader

  968. would do.

  969. I want you to see this.

  970. This use of the word

  971. friends

  972. to describe believers

  973. is a callback

  974. to John's gospel.

  975. How about that?

  976. John's connecting things.

  977. John 15.

  978. Greater love

  979. has no one

  980. than this.

  981. That someone

  982. laid down

  983. his life

  984. for his friends.

  985. You are

  986. my friends.

  987. If you do

  988. what I command you.

  989. No longer

  990. do I call you

  991. servants

  992. for the servant

  993. does not know

  994. what his master

  995. is doing

  996. but I

  997. have called

  998. you

  999. friends.

  1000. For all

  1001. that I have

  1002. heard from my

  1003. father

  1004. I have made

  1005. known

  1006. to you.

  1007. Like okay

  1008. I hear that's

  1009. beautiful.

  1010. I'm not sure

  1011. John meant to do that.

  1012. Okay.

  1013. All right.

  1014. Hang with me.

  1015. The believers

  1016. are to be greeted

  1017. by name.

  1018. By name.

  1019. The only other

  1020. place in the

  1021. New Testament

  1022. where that phrase

  1023. by name

  1024. is used

  1025. is again

  1026. in John's gospel.

  1027. The sheep

  1028. hear his voice

  1029. and he calls

  1030. his own

  1031. sheep

  1032. by name.

  1033. By name

  1034. and leads

  1035. them out.

  1036. What is he

  1037. saying?

  1038. In all

  1039. this

  1040. if we're

  1041. going to love

  1042. well in the

  1043. church

  1044. beyond the

  1045. hurt

  1046. we have

  1047. to refuse

  1048. to imitate

  1049. evil.

  1050. We need

  1051. to learn

  1052. to imitate

  1053. good

  1054. but most

  1055. of all

  1056. we need

  1057. led back

  1058. week

  1059. after week

  1060. to Jesus

  1061. Christ.

  1062. It is out

  1063. of his

  1064. love

  1065. and his

  1066. sacrifice

  1067. that he

  1068. calls

  1069. his

  1070. friends.

  1071. So out

  1072. of that

  1073. make sure

  1074. you are

  1075. communing

  1076. your

  1077. friendship

  1078. and familial

  1079. love

  1080. for one

  1081. another.

  1082. Don't

  1083. leave a

  1084. believer

  1085. unnamed

  1086. in your

  1087. congregation.

  1088. Greet

  1089. each by

  1090. name.

  1091. Why?

  1092. Because we

  1093. are known

  1094. by the

  1095. great

  1096. shepherd

  1097. by name.

  1098. He

  1099. knows

  1100. us

  1101. and cares

  1102. for us.

  1103. So when

  1104. we consider

  1105. these letters

  1106. and we

  1107. think oh

  1108. Lord how

  1109. do you

  1110. intend

  1111. your love

  1112. and your

  1113. truth to

  1114. be our

  1115. life and

  1116. warmth?

  1117. It is

  1118. fully in

  1119. the person

  1120. of Jesus

  1121. Christ.

  1122. And I

  1123. am so

  1124. thankful that

  1125. you are at a

  1126. church that

  1127. week after

  1128. week that

  1129. is where you

  1130. are left and

  1131. there is no

  1132. greater ground

  1133. for us truly

  1134. to live and

  1135. go forth in

  1136. Jesus name.

  1137. such a joy

  1138. to be with

  1139. you.

  1140. Thank you

  1141. for this

  1142. weekend.

  1143. We have a

  1144. little Thanksgiving

  1145. calendar where

  1146. we put things

  1147. we were thankful

  1148. for over the

  1149. year.

  1150. This weekend

  1151. with you will

  1152. be a highlight

  1153. for us.

  1154. And may the

  1155. Lord bring us

  1156. to one another

  1157. again and I

  1158. commit you not

  1159. only to your

  1160. faithful leaders

  1161. and to your

  1162. love for one

  1163. another but to

  1164. our great

  1165. shepherd.

  1166. God bless you.

  1167. Thank you.