Sermon
Loving the Church Beyond the Hurt
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And now I have the joy of introducing again our speaker for the retreat and our speaker preacher this morning, Pastor Andrew Cavalich.
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For those of you who weren't here for the retreat, I joked on Friday night when I introduced him that Pastor Andrew has big biceps, but that he has an even bigger heart.
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He's one of the most large-hearted people I know, period.
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Whenever you have a conversation with him, you are stirred up toward Christ to be nearer to him, and you're encouraged.
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And he has really encouraged us and built us up as a church this weekend.
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And as I was thinking about how you've served us this weekend, Andrew, this passage came to mind in 1 Thessalonians 2, verse 8.
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So being affectionately desirous of you, we are ready to share with you not only the gospel of God, but also our own selves,
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because you had become very dear to us.
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I feel like Andrew, you, and Christina have done that for us this weekend.
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Not just sharing the gospel with us, which is of utmost importance, but also sharing your life impacted by the gospel with us.
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And we have been praying in preparation for the retreat that there would be an impartation of the Spirit's power and his gift,
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so that we might become a church that is able to rebuke people and make them feel so loved in doing so,
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as you have done for countless people.
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And so I pray that that continues.
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So please come and serve us, Pastor Andrew.
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Let's welcome him together.
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Thank you.
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All right, we got to get something cleared up right off the bat.
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I have regular-sized biceps.
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And in fact, since my hospitalization, my biceps are getting smaller,
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and because of my high blood pressure and all that, I think my heart's getting larger.
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But you know what?
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Our hope is, even though our outer person is wasting away,
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our inward person is what needs renewal the most.
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If we're going to work out, if we're going to develop ourselves in any aspect of our life,
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may it be our inner person, our true selves.
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And that's where I believe God wants to minister this morning.
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But I have a few things we have to do.
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I apologize.
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I'm still in retreat mode.
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And so I've been giving gifts away.
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And that just kind of seems weird on like a Sunday service.
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But I'm already committed at this point.
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So I have one last gift.
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I have another Dunkin' card.
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And I know it means less to you now.
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But here's who I'd love to give this away to.
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If you are coming to church this morning, and you're like,
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I really want coffee.
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But if we stop, we're going to be late.
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And you decided not to stop and get coffee and be here on time,
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I would love to give this to you.
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Anybody?
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Never stop.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So I'm going to trust you're all just really good planners.
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Okay, so let's just do it this way.
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Who wants a Dunkin' card?
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All right.
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All right.
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A couple more things.
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We got to clear the decks a little bit before we get into God's word.
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I got to encourage Sean beforehand when we were doing the retreat part of this.
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But I'll elaborate to say this.
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Leadership sets the tempo of the church.
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And your best leaders are the ones that want to leave you with Jesus and not themselves.
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But who labor hard, faithfully, and humbly to do that.
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You have such leaders here in Sean and the other emerging leaders.
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But it also says something about you guys.
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It says you want the real thing.
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You want to build your life together with one another around Jesus.
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You wouldn't be here if you didn't.
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And I also realize from talking to many of you, there are great joys being a part of this church.
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I mean, even us just being here this weekend, we adore this church.
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We're going to try to find ways to be with you guys in the future.
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But we know in a transient community, that can be hard.
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To be the ones who are left and to be the ones who are leaving.
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And I want to share this.
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Part of the joy for my wife and I being here is we were part of a church plant in West Philly before we were in New Jersey.
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And it was a church kind of a similar makeup, kind of a similar area.
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And what was our comfort when we realized all the give and take that we had?
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It's this, that what Christ does in this time when you're together will last.
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Even when some of you leave and even when some of you stay.
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This discipleship you are experiencing will forever be part of your spiritual DNA.
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It goes with you.
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So I would encourage you, you are in a sweet place.
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Enjoy the sweetness of it.
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Savor it.
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Soak it up.
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Should the Lord move you on, take it with you.
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Should the Lord keep you here, he'll give you every bit of grace you need to stay faithfully.
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Even when it hurts when people leave.
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So, I say that.
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I also bring greetings from our home church.
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Pastor Warren and his wife Kim have been with you before.
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And they always love being with you guys.
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I know Philip and Heather, they're friends with the Bournes from the PC.
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And they wish they could have been here.
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But our whole church sends their greeting.
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And even the congregants who released me and my wife to be with you guys here this morning.
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That said, let's pray and we're going to jump in this morning.
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Father, as we bring a retreat to a close.
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As we come to an end of studying 2nd and 3rd John.
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We thank you that your word does not close.
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And your work does not stop here.
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You are continuing your work through your word in and through our lives.
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We pray the things that were helpful and of you would stick.
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They would remain with us.
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We pray that this warm influence of John that really points us to Jesus would, in some way,
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help us camp and stake our life upon him in a fresh way.
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And Lord, now for this morning, this time, be with us in this message.
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Be with us in these words of 3rd John.
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May they be life to us, in Jesus' name.
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So be it.
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All right, just to catch everybody up on where we've been.
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We've been working through the letters of 2nd and 3rd John.
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We've already finished 2nd John and we're halfway through 3rd John.
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3rd John is the shortest by word count letter in the whole New Testament.
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But though these letters are both very short,
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they teach us so much about love and truth.
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And the life and warmth we're meant to find there.
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So in the beginning of 2nd John, we talked about this craft.
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How do believers get good at rightly understanding how love and truth work together?
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What they are?
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And the critical place that obedience falls into with that.
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Then we looked at believers have a calling to promote and to protect the perfection of the gospel.
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Over against our own thoughts of perfection or over against any kind of edits to the gospel.
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Through subtraction or addition.
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Last night we considered, what does it mean to love well in the church?
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To love well in the church is to love one another in a holistic way.
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As whole people, not missing any avenues or areas of life.
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But this morning when we think about love and truth and their life and their warmth,
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we need to think about what loving looks like when it's hard and when it hurts.
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The title of our time this morning is Loving the Church Beyond the Hurt.
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And if you would, let's go ahead and read all of 3rd John,
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but we'll be focusing our time together from verses 9 and 15.
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The letter of 3rd John.
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The elder to the beloved Gaius, whom I love in truth.
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Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health as it goes well with your soul.
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For I rejoice greatly when the brothers came and testified to your truth,
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as indeed you are walking in the truth.
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I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.
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Beloved, it is a faithful thing you do in all your efforts for these brothers,
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strangers as they are, who testified to your love before the church.
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You will do well to send them on their journey in a manner worthy of God,
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for they have gone out for the sake of the name,
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accepting nothing from the Gentiles.
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Therefore, we ought to support people like these that we may be fellow workers for the truth.
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Here we come to our portion this morning.
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I have written something to the church,
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but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first,
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does not acknowledge our authority.
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So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing,
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talking wicked nonsense against us,
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and not content with that,
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he refuses to welcome the brothers,
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and also stops those who wants to,
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and puts them out of the church.
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Beloved, do not imitate evil,
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but imitate good.
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Whoever does good is from God.
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Whoever does evil has not seen God.
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Demetrius has received a good testimony from everyone,
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and from the truth itself.
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We also add our testimony,
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and you know that our testimony is true.
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I had much to write to you,
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but I would rather not write with pen and ink.
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I hope to see you soon,
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and we will talk face to face.
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Peace be to you.
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The friends greet you.
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Greet the friends,
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each by name.
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I not only love you guys,
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I love these little letters.
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They are so sweet and rich,
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and I think we're going to find them helpful.
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Because you may not be experiencing it here,
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because of the transient nature of your life,
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and because of the nature of sin,
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you will encounter hurt in the church.
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You will be hurt by people who profess Christ,
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and that is a reality.
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But what I want us to embrace
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is not only hurt happens in the church,
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but hurt and healing both happen in this place.
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So although there may be temptations to leave,
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the answer is not to leave,
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but it is to learn.
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And I believe there is much for us to learn,
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and John here takes another turn.
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He did this in 2 John,
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where he's really warm,
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and then he comes with the warning.
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And now here again,
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we see this warmth over Gaius,
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but he's definitely concerned about Demetrius,
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and that's where our own text picks up.
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And we're going to consider this portion of 3 John
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in two points,
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and I believe there's much for us to learn here.
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The first point is this,
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for us to see lessons in self-love.
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Not that we grow in being better lovers of ourselves,
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but these are warning lessons against it.
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So we come to this person, Demetrius,
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who John is writing about,
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seems like some kind of influential leader
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or person in that church.
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And he's causing really significant problems.
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But when it comes to a point of,
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what do we do?
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You will all face this,
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whether it's the problems John faced,
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or the sin you will encounter in yourself or in others.
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What do you do when you are hurt
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by people who profess Christ?
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What do you do when you are hurt in the church?
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Now, Proverbs 24 is actually talking about laziness.
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But there's something very helpful about the wisdom here.
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I want to read it to make this point.
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It says this,
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What the Proverbs are saying is,
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Friends, when we see these things,
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this should be our disposition.
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This should be our learning,
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not our leaving.
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So when we come and we see Diotrephes here,
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we see some real issues that we can learn about.
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So we see this in the text,
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and we need to realize that it's not just this guy.
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This guy, Diotrephes, is marked by self-love.
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Because nothing hurts the church like love of self.
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Nothing hurts the church like self-love.
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So what do we find out about him?
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We find out this.
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Number one, you put yourself first.
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If you want a lesson in self-love,
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put yourself first.
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That's what Diotrephes is doing.
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And the text says,
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Who likes to put himself first.
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That's really,
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John is being so truthful there, isn't he?
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And isn't this what our pride does?
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It puts us first.
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Above others,
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and then eventually above the truth itself,
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as we have it in Jesus Christ.
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And what's so sad,
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is it can happen in the church.
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The place that's uniquely designated,
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for God's glory and worship,
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gets perverted to become a platform
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for our own promotion.
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Friends, it's actually larger than that.
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That is a reversal of the whole created order.
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We were never meant to be worshipped.
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We were only meant to worship.
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And when that gets reversed,
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it is a serious sickness.
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But friends,
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God's plan for what he means the church to be,
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and his position on pride,
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have never changed.
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Think about God's intent for us as a people.
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He says this through his word in 1 Peter.
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But you are a chosen race,
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a royal priesthood,
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a holy nation,
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a people for his own possession,
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that you may proclaim the excellencies of him.
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Not ourselves.
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Him who called you out of darkness
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into his marvelous light.
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That's what the church was always meant to be and be about.
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And God's position on pride,
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guess what?
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God hasn't changed his view about pride.
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Proverbs 16.5 says it so well,
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Everyone who is arrogant in heart
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is an abomination to the Lord.
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Be assured,
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he will not go unpunished.
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Friends,
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the desire to be first
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must die in us.
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But I must admit,
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it's sneaky in the church.
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Because there's ways we can talk about
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glorifying Christ
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while wanting to siphon self-glory for ourselves.
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Now,
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we'll say our Father is very faithful
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in stripping us of these things.
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And some of you know,
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you joining the retreat might have not heard this.
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I was recently hospitalized
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and I had some bites
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and they made my body go haywire.
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It affected my heart.
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It affected my body.
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I'm still not 100.
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I'm so happy to be here.
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But I had all these teams of specialists
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looking at me.
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They didn't know what was wrong with me.
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That made me more scared and concerned.
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And I will tell you,
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when you're lying in a hospital bed for nights,
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you have a lot of time to think
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and you have a lot of time to pray.
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And do you know what one of my greatest comforts was
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in that time?
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That I'm not the main thing.
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That was a shelter.
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That was a comfort for me.
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I mean, I don't,
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I'm a little bit of a hypo-contriac,
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so I might have inflated it in my mind,
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but God can use that.
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I'm like, I might die.
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And we all die.
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Like, listen, we're all gonna die.
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But I think sometimes God gives you moments
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when you're like, this could be it.
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And you know what made me okay with that?
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That's okay.
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Because I'm not first.
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That's okay because I'm not the main thing.
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Jesus is.
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And friends, if I find my life
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in the one who life is about,
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I've lost nothing.
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That's real life.
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And if my life ends,
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my life has already been found and kept,
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there is a security in this.
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Friends, self-first is never safe for our souls.
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Self-first offers the illusion of security
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that if you're best and you're first,
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you'll always be secure.
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Security is not in self-first.
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No.
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Security is in Christ first.
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Always, always, always.
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As John said, he must increase,
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but I must decrease.
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And he doesn't need to use hospital visits to do that.
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He's faithful, but may he increase
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that life-giving work among us.
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Here's another marker in self-love.
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Reject authority.
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People who love themselves and their opinions,
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they hate authority.
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I know I'm like in the Boston area
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and you guys like to throw stuff over boats
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and other things.
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And I mean, we as a nation
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have pretty much an authority complex
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already built into our DNA.
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But as Christians,
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we have a new disposition towards authority.
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We should be people who love authority,
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who welcome it,
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who see it as care and provision from God.
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But it says in the text
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that Diotrephes does not acknowledge our authority.
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And I just, we gotta pause
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and just think about the audacity of this.
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John is the last living apostle.
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And the more I read John,
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the more I wanna be like him.
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I mean, he really is like the Obi-Wan of Star Wars.
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No, I'm serious.
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When I was a kid, I liked Luke.
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You know, everybody likes Luke.
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But as I grow up, I'm like,
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man, Luke is a whiner.
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And I'm like, Obi-Wan really grows on me.
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The apostle of love, the apostle of John
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really grows on me.
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If he's this loving in his letters,
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could you imagine what fellowship
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would have been like with this apostle?
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So seasoned, so shaped by Jesus.
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But not only that, check out his resume.
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He walked with Jesus.
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He's one of the 12.
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He was one of the witnesses
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of the transfiguration.
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He was at the crucifixion
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and he outraced Peter to the tomb
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and saw the empty tomb.
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I'm like, bro, I'm in.
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John, what do you got?
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I'm with you.
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The audacity to come against
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an authority like this.
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Wow, that is crazy.
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But friends, our pride is crazy.
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It's deceptive.
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Obadiah 3 says this,
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the pride of your heart has deceived you.
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We can become so self-inflated
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that we don't submit ourselves
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to anyone or anything.
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Now, I'll admit there's a tension here.
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Obviously, Diotrephes is a bad leader
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or a bad person in influence.
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And I'm not saying every leader's good.
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That wouldn't be a true statement.
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There are some people who are maligning
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the name of Jesus Christ
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in what they call service.
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That's sick.
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And I make no quarters for that.
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But when someone is faithful,
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we should be responding to that.
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So I think of Hebrews.
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I think of Peter.
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Obey your leaders and submit to them.
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Why?
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For they're keeping watch over your souls
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as those who will have to give an account.
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Good leaders,
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yeah, they should have our warm, loving,
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humble submission.
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But listen, leaders,
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they need to not be domineering
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according to 1 Peter.
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But they need to be examples to the flock.
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I'll just move to the next one.
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I could say more,
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but we got a couple more categories
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under this first point.
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The next is slander.
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Look at verse 10 with me.
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The first part of verse 10.
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It says this,
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So if I come,
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I will bring up what he is doing.
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Talking wicked nonsense against us.
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It's just kind of cool to hear John say
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he's talking wicked nonsense.
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I mean,
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almost,
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that kind of feels kind of Bostonian.
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So,
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I picked this up from John.
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But what,
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what does it mean,
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wicked nonsense here?
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The Greek means babbling incoherently.
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So it's not just the idea of talking trash,
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but talking crazy.
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Diotrephes is saying outlandish things about John.
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Outlandish.
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So if they're that outlandish,
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guess what they are?
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They're unfounded.
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And going back to what we've looked at
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in 2 and 3 John already,
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truth is so part and parcel to our fellowship.
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But if your pride,
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if your self-love
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distorts you or me so much
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that we start
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thinking and speaking
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of other people
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outside of reality,
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we have chosen
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our pride over truth.
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Because Diotrephes
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isn't speaking true things about John.
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He's speaking false things.
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And that's how that works.
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Here's the other one we need to see.
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Look at the second part of verse 10.
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It says this.
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And not content with that.
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So I guess
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his babbling wicked nonsense
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wasn't enough for him.
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Not content with that.
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He refuses to welcome the brothers
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and also stops those who want to
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and puts them out of the church.
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We don't know precisely what's happening here,
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but it most likely has something to do
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with John's instruction
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about not receiving people
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that don't bring the real message
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and warmly welcoming
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and being fellow workers
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with the missionaries who are.
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And it seems like Diotrephes
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is stiff-arming the good missionaries.
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He's not letting them in.
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And then the believers are like,
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come on, Diotrephes,
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they're with us.
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We want to support them.
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We've heard from John.
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He's shutting them out.
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And finally,
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the people that don't agree,
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guess what?
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They get the boot.
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They get kicked out.
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He puts them out of the church.
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Do you know what that's referring to?
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Church discipline.
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Well, the final step,
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well, hopefully the final step
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is being redeemed,
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but that step of having to exercise
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that authority,
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friends, church discipline
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is meant to protect the purity of the church,
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not pollute it.
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And this is the essence of spiritual abuse,
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taking something good
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and using it for something bad
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because of selfish motivation.
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And friends,
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we can all be tempted to do that
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in different ways.
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That's exactly what's happening here.
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Friends,
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Diotrephes is not dead.
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We still face these same struggles.
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But John,
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John is not going to leave us
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with Diotrephes.
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John is going to lead us back
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to the love and truth
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that are in Christ
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and that are still in the church
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because not only can our hurt be here,
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our healing is here as well.
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And I believe there is a better way
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to learn that John wants to show us.
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And this is our second
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and final point for the morning.
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It's this,
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learning a better way.
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Learning a better way.
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And here again,
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there are sub points
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for us to learn from
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under this heading.
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The first is
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to imitate rightly.
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Look again with me
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at verse 11.
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This,
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this is one of the most
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punchy,
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helpful,
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little verse
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in this letter.
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beloved,
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beloved,
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do not imitate evil,
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but imitate good.
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When you see people
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acting inconsistent
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with their faith,
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sometimes in horrendous ways,
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what do you do?
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Do not imitate evil,
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imitate good.
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Friends,
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there'll always be
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some shady saints among us.
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It's just the truth.
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If I told you anything different,
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I mean,
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I haven't met any here,
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but you know,
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maybe this is some anomaly,
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but I've been around enough
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to know the wheat
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always grows with the tares.
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That we don't always know
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the full story.
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And I don't mean to like
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sow suspicion like that.
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I mean to sow expectation.
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You will encounter these things.
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And you hear so many people
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leaving the church.
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There's terms for this.
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It's kind of like
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gaining ground.
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And I'm just like,
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listen,
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I hear all these people say,
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I met some of the worst people
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I've ever met in the church.
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And I'm like,
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yeah,
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I could probably concede
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some of that.
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But you know what?
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The very best people
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I have ever met
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have been in the church.
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And it's not because
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of who they were.
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It's because of how shaped
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they've been
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by the Lord Jesus Christ.
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Jesus had so redeemed
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their life
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and renewed in them
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that family resemblance
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that I'm like,
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oh my goodness.
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I want to tell you
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about some of these people
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from my church.
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My number one favorite follower
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of Jesus Christ
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is my wife.
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She is the most sincere
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and authentic person
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I have ever known.
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She has such a deep humility
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and a sharp wisdom.
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You're my favorite saint.
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And the fact that I get
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to do all this with you
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is the best.
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I mean,
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I absolutely love it.
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I'll tell you about
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another family or in church.
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You're like, oh man,
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he's just loving on his wife.
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This guy's tired
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and ready to go home.
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Sean, don't bring this guy back.
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What's going on?
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I'll tell you about
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the Diaz family.
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Diazes are a delightful family
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in our church.
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They're well into their 60s
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at this point.
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Ken left a career
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to pursue ministry.
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Ministry didn't work out,
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but he wanted to stay
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in the church.
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I will tell you,
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they live in a very modest home
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in the town we live in.
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It's one of the richest places
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you'll ever visit.
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That place is so warm with love.
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The letters they write,
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the way they're other-centered,
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I see Jesus so much
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in Ken and Myra.
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And there's many saints
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like that in our church
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that I'm just like,
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all these people,
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like these ex-evangelicals,
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I'm like,
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what are you talking about?
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Jesus has got Jesus people
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in every church.
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Did you miss it?
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Did you miss it?
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Did you miss John's instruction
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when you see the mess?
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Don't leave, but learn.
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When you see the mess
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and you look at this,
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don't imitate evil,
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but imitate good,
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meaning that there's both
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in the church.
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There's things that can
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really bother us
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and things that can
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really bless us.
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What are you setting?
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Not just your attention on,
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but what you're going to
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wrap your life around.
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That's what imitation means.
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I want to conform to something.
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Instead, people are being deformed
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by all the negative things
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we're seeing,
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not transformed
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by all the gracious life
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that's happening in the church.
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We're not called to do that,
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brothers and sisters.
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And let me just say this.
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This is my personal ambition,
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and I would encourage you
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in your own words
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to make it your own.
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I'm not going to be
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the best Christian in the world.
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I've given up on that.
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And being perfect
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or the best at anything,
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that's an illusion.
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But I can't be faithful.
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I want to be honest.
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I want to be a healthy Christian.
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I want to be a mature Christian.
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If I can be that,
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that's enough.
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I love what A.W. Tozer once said.
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He goes,
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my flame may not be big,
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but it is real.
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Are you content to be a real flame
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within the local church
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and where you live and work?
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Because brothers and sisters,
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I don't think there's a higher calling
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than that.
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It doesn't give a lot of love,
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so I want to give it love here.
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Another thing under this second point,
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we reckon with the truth.
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This is significant.
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It may take a little explaining,
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but let's first see
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where I'm getting it from the text.
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Look at the second half of verse 11.
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It says,
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whoever does good is from God.
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Whoever does evil
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has not seen God.
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Again, John loves his metaphors
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and he's working these in again.
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When John says they haven't seen God,
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what is he saying?
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They're not actually Christian.
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They're not among us.
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They've missed it.
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They've been in our midst,
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but they've missed it.
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That's what John is saying.
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And I think what's important here
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is sometimes you're just going to struggle
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with Christians sinning against you.
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And that's okay.
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By the way,
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that peacemaking thing you did,
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that's what we talked to our friends about.
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We're like,
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okay,
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you got to talk to us
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about this peace five minute thing.
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Like,
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have you done that?
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Because we've never heard of it.
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And we're like,
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do you really reconcile
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in like three and a half minutes?
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And then,
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and then what,
-
what if like is not done?
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What do you do with that?
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But listen,
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that,
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that's regular Christianity.
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That is sinners.
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We're going to sin against each other.
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We got to work that out.
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But there's going to be
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some really crazy,
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grievous stuff.
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And what John's saying is,
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yeah,
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they might say it's Christian.
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It's actually not Christian.
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They've never seen God.
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A few summers ago,
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we were back in my home state of Wisconsin
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and I,
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I saw something that would never fly in New Jersey.
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It was a Toyota Camry
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with no doors on it,
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spray painted,
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jacked up,
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and had Jeep labeling written all over it.
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So what I surmise is some poor person
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really,
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really wanted a Jeep,
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couldn't afford a Jeep,
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tried to Jeep out their Toyota Camry.
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And you know what I was left with?
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It's still a Camry.
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And we laugh about that,
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but we need that kind of bold discernment
-
that the apostle of love is sharing,
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that not everybody who says they're a Christian
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actually is.
-
And so a lot of the crazy nonsense
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that we get labeled with,
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I'm like,
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yeah,
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they've never seen God.
-
It's just a Camry wanting to be more
-
than it actually is,
-
but it doesn't have a new nature.
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And I am not ascribing that to Jesus or his church.
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I'm just saying,
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and John's just saying.
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All right.
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We're kind of,
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we got a couple more
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and we're bringing it to a close.
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You guys have been patient.
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Next one.
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Esteem trusted examples.
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We need this exhortation,
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but we also need real life examples
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to imitate in this way.
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We've already talked about,
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John,
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I hope all of you love
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the apostle of love a lot more.
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And I really hope that you want to study
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all of his works together.
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That you want to study John's gospel,
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first,
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second,
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and third,
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and the revelation.
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Because there's so much to be gained
-
from going through those
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in kind of a conscious aware way.
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But we also have Gaius.
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We don't want to forget
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who he wrote this letter to.
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This brother has offered faithful support.
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He is a faithful brother.
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And now,
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we have someone else mentioned
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towards the end in verse 12.
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It says this,
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Demetrius has received a good testimony
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from everyone
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and from the truth itself.
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We also add our testimony
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and you know that our testimony is true.
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Granted,
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this gets confusing.
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My phone number is 856-685.
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You know how many people struggle with that?
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Demetrius and Deatrophes.
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Oh wow,
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that's a...
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Couldn't we give them nicknames, John?
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That's a little confusing.
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I think I actually even messed up
-
when I first tried to talk about Deatrophes.
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I said Demetrius.
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So listen,
-
I'm even getting stumped
-
and I studied this.
-
So, but let's hang here.
-
So there's a shady guy,
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Deatrophes.
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Okay,
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but we have someone else
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that's got a pretty similar name,
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Demetrius.
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And what I love about Demetrius
-
is what John is saying again
-
about the truth.
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The truth.
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Yeah.
-
This other guy
-
really never seen God.
-
The truth itself
-
bears witness to Demetrius.
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All the people in the church
-
bear witness.
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And you know what?
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I, as the apostle,
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and those with me,
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we bear witness.
-
Oh my goodness.
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To be one
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where it is born witness
-
of the truth itself
-
that we are truly God's children.
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Is there any other
-
greater standing
-
we can have?
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It is just
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so good.
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And here's,
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here's what I want to close with
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with this morning.
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I said the other night
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one of the most fascinating things
-
about the letter of 3rd John.
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It's the only document
-
in the entire New Testament
-
where Jesus is not mentioned
-
by name.
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But John being very kind of like
-
into metaphor
-
and the way he weaves things,
-
he definitely
-
wants to show us Jesus.
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So last night
-
we considered
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for the sake of the name.
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And I said name
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is going to have
-
a reoccurring place
-
in this letter.
-
But so is the term
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friends.
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So when John uses
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these words
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in the close,
-
we have to read them
-
very carefully
-
because he is giving us
-
intentional echoes
-
of Jesus
-
in the use of the word
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friends
-
and name.
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I want you to see this.
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John says,
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the friends greet you.
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Greet the friends
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each by name.
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We could easily
-
pass that off
-
as just
-
something he's doing
-
to sign off.
-
He's not trying
-
to sign off.
-
He's trying to leave us
-
with Jesus
-
like any good leader
-
would do.
-
I want you to see this.
-
This use of the word
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friends
-
to describe believers
-
is a callback
-
to John's gospel.
-
How about that?
-
John's connecting things.
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John 15.
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Greater love
-
has no one
-
than this.
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That someone
-
laid down
-
his life
-
for his friends.
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You are
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my friends.
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If you do
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what I command you.
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No longer
-
do I call you
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servants
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for the servant
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does not know
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what his master
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is doing
-
but I
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have called
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you
-
friends.
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For all
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that I have
-
heard from my
-
father
-
I have made
-
known
-
to you.
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Like okay
-
I hear that's
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beautiful.
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I'm not sure
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John meant to do that.
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Okay.
-
All right.
-
Hang with me.
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The believers
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are to be greeted
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by name.
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By name.
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The only other
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place in the
-
New Testament
-
where that phrase
-
by name
-
is used
-
is again
-
in John's gospel.
-
The sheep
-
hear his voice
-
and he calls
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his own
-
sheep
-
by name.
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By name
-
and leads
-
them out.
-
What is he
-
saying?
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In all
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this
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if we're
-
going to love
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well in the
-
church
-
beyond the
-
hurt
-
we have
-
to refuse
-
to imitate
-
evil.
-
We need
-
to learn
-
to imitate
-
good
-
but most
-
of all
-
we need
-
led back
-
week
-
after week
-
to Jesus
-
Christ.
-
It is out
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of his
-
love
-
and his
-
sacrifice
-
that he
-
calls
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his
-
friends.
-
So out
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of that
-
make sure
-
you are
-
communing
-
your
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friendship
-
and familial
-
love
-
for one
-
another.
-
Don't
-
leave a
-
believer
-
unnamed
-
in your
-
congregation.
-
Greet
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each by
-
name.
-
Why?
-
Because we
-
are known
-
by the
-
great
-
shepherd
-
by name.
-
He
-
knows
-
us
-
and cares
-
for us.
-
So when
-
we consider
-
these letters
-
and we
-
think oh
-
Lord how
-
do you
-
intend
-
your love
-
and your
-
truth to
-
be our
-
life and
-
warmth?
-
It is
-
fully in
-
the person
-
of Jesus
-
Christ.
-
And I
-
am so
-
thankful that
-
you are at a
-
church that
-
week after
-
week that
-
is where you
-
are left and
-
there is no
-
greater ground
-
for us truly
-
to live and
-
go forth in
-
Jesus name.
-
such a joy
-
to be with
-
you.
-
Thank you
-
for this
-
weekend.
-
We have a
-
little Thanksgiving
-
calendar where
-
we put things
-
we were thankful
-
for over the
-
year.
-
This weekend
-
with you will
-
be a highlight
-
for us.
-
And may the
-
Lord bring us
-
to one another
-
again and I
-
commit you not
-
only to your
-
faithful leaders
-
and to your
-
love for one
-
another but to
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our great
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shepherd.
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God bless you.
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Thank you.