Sermon
A New Way to Family... (Luke 8:19-21) - Podcast Episode 24
Publisher transcript
Transcript
-
Hey, friend, Welcome to another episode of the KPC Podcast, and
-
we hope that this finds you enjoying your week this summer
-
week. Whether you're listening on
-
Monday, that would be ambitious because we're just recording
-
this on Monday. So if you're listening on
-
Monday, like, well done. Very likely later on in your
-
week, which we realize is a wonderful thing.
-
So I've got Elena with me and a welcome back.
-
This is like Round 2 for you. Yeah.
-
Great. Yeah, thanks coming back.
-
This is really fun, glad to do it again.
-
So we're going to jump into a conversation on Luke, chapter 8,
Luke 8 chapter mention
-
three verses only. It was 19/20/21, which is
-
Jesus's redefining of what family looks like inside the
-
Kingdom. And it's a really pared down
-
version in Luke of other accounts, like Mark has this
-
account. It's a lot longer in Luke.
-
It's just really small. So I'm going to read it and then
-
we've got some questions. We received a few questions from
-
folks in the congregation, which is great.
-
And so we're going to tackle some of those and then I think
-
have a few questions to hopefully help you continue to
-
have your own discussions around these these verses.
-
And I think in this sense that the challenge we were talking
-
about this ahead of recording, Elena, you mentioned like the
-
challenge to really wrestle with how this, you know, if you call
-
yourself a follower of Jesus and if you're trying to live your
-
life inside of community, how it challenges you kind of
-
regardless of what your relationship to family has been,
-
whether it's good or bad, whether it's fraught with
-
conflict or whether it's full of love and joy for most people,
-
somewhere in between it. This really challenges, I think
-
many of us in our understanding of what family is, what it is
-
inside the Kingdom and how we're to act toward one another.
-
Like it changes our relationships inside the church.
-
And so all that we're going to get into all of it.
-
Let me read the passage 1st and and then we can jump in.
-
So I preached from the NIV. I'm going to read from the ESV.
-
And so there's a few words that are different.
-
Probably don't need to touch on that, but this is what it sounds
-
like in the ESV. So then his mother and his
-
brothers came to him, but they could not reach him because of
-
the crowd. And he was told Your mother and
-
brothers are standing outside desiring to see you.
-
But he answered them. My mother and my brothers are
-
those who hear the word of God and do it.
-
Yeah, great. So we are going to write jump
-
right in with a question we received on e-mail.
-
So thank you so much for everyone continuing to send in
-
those questions to us. This person said that you used
-
that bonded set analogy in the sermon, especially in the
-
context of golf, and you touched on it.
-
But can you expand on the church community?
-
We Christians are often accused of setting up what is similar to
-
this bonded set. You are now in the club and
-
there are expectations. How can we overcome that
-
perception that there is this checklist of things that we have
-
to take off in order to be in? And also how can we walk
-
alongside friends who might consciously or unconsciously set
-
up those boundaries or those checklists?
-
So can you expand on that a bit? Yeah, couple questions for us to
-
discuss within the one within the one question, right.
-
I, I love that somebody's wrestling this out because I
-
think that and I like, I wasn't hard on churches so much in the
-
in the sermon, like directly. Yeah, but I think it's really
-
easy for people to see that churches can fall into that
-
bounded set mentality of like group organization.
-
And you know, I gave the I gave the caveat like the disclaimer,
-
I'm like, I'm not a mathematician.
-
I realize like, you know, this is there's some math involved
-
here on, you know, at, at at like a theory level with these,
-
these terms, but just very simply for those people who
-
might be listening who or watching who don't, who didn't
-
see the sermon or don't understand.
-
So, so bounded set is a way of talking about groups that
-
organize together. So this is within mathematics
-
and like set theory, we're not going to get into that.
-
It's also used by sociologists to talk about how groups of
-
people organize together, and that's sort of what I lean into
-
more. Feels more like our domain as as
-
a church. So if you picture a box and for
-
those of you who are listening, I'm drawing a box with my hands
-
here. But like picture a box and it's
-
very clear if you are a member of the community, you're inside
-
the box. And if you're not a member of
-
the community, you're outside the box.
-
And the box is very clear. Like it's, it's bold, like bold
-
lines, clear delineation, very clear expectations on what gets
-
you membership within and what excludes you from membership on
-
the outside. So you can start to think like
-
churches fall into this, this way of organizing.
-
Yeah, somewhat, maybe somewhat naturally in some sense.
-
But like, I think it's problematic that we do where
-
it's perceived that there are insiders and outsiders and it's
-
very clear who those insiders and outsiders are.
-
So one of the criticisms that I received early on in my
-
ministry. And so like, this was my first
-
church. I had somebody invite me out for
-
lunch and like, I won't, you know, absolutely would would
-
never share the name of this person, right?
-
But like had somebody invite me out for lunch and sit me down
-
and explain to me why I needed to be wearing a suit and tie,
-
OK. And preaching.
-
So, you know, like this was very important to this person that I
-
dress a certain way and look a certain way when I preach.
-
And I understand that there are some people who still like
-
probably in our own congregation would, would lean in that
-
direction, right? But it gave me an opportunity to
-
say this person listen, like what you might see as haphazard,
-
like I do very intentionally. So I wear jeans or like
-
whatever, like khaki pants, whatever I'm wearing.
-
But like, I don't wear a suit, like, right, I don't wear a
-
suit. I don't wear a collar.
-
Like some many clergy wear collars.
-
I don't do that on a Sunday. And I don't do it for a very
-
specific reason. And the reason is that I want
-
anybody to be able to walk in and see from the start that goes
-
on the plaque, those people on the platform who are leading
-
look like me. Yeah.
-
Like there's an immediate ability to to identify with
-
those of us who are leading. Yeah.
-
And so I want somebody to walk in and feel like, oh, this is a
-
place that I can belong before I believe.
-
And that is like the main idea, I think, that pushes us away
-
from being a bounded set. So bounded set would be you need
-
to believe the same thing as us and prove it or demonstrate it
-
before you can belong. It's a qualifier for belonging
-
that you believe the certain theological doctrines.
-
You have the same language, you dress and look, maybe dress and
-
look a certain way as part of it.
-
But those things become the qualifiers for membership, like
-
for belonging, for being a part of the community.
-
Hmm. And what we want to say is no,
-
none of it is. You can belong here before you
-
believe the certain things, like believe the same things we
-
believe before you, even before you behave certain ways, right,
-
Which is some language that that's not my language, like
-
there's a language that other churches use as well, but that
-
your, your belief can change. We understand that and can
-
shift. And it doesn't need to be
-
exactly what we believe before you can belong.
-
And neither do you need to, you know, behave certain ways before
-
you can belong. You can show up.
-
So I, you know, I want someone to walk in the door to the
-
church because they feel like that's the place they need to be
-
and they don't immediately feel like they're faced with, oh, I
-
don't fit in here. I don't belong because of what
-
they are wearing or because of the baggage that they're
-
carrying in because of any number of different reasons,
-
right? So I think the bounded set, like
-
we can look like a bounded set in some ways, right?
-
We have expectations on members. Like, I expect that people who
-
are in like if you are in, if you call yourself a Christian,
-
if you've, you know, made a public profession of faith, if
-
you've joined as a member officially, if you've been
-
baptized, like there are expectations on our community to
-
live a certain way, but they're not barriers to entry into the
-
community. And I think that's the that's
-
the distinction between the two. So we're what I would like to
-
call us would be centre set, which is that we're all, we're
-
all facing Jesus. We're moving in that direction.
-
You know, we're going to be at different distances from the
-
centre. Yeah.
-
But what's more important to me is that your heart and your
-
intention is directed toward Jesus.
-
You're moving in that in that direction and that matters more
-
than what you wear on a Sunday or what you're able to prove to
-
me that you believe what what scripture you've memorized.
-
Like memorizing Scripture is a great thing to do, but none of
-
that will be like, hey, like we got to check your like Jesus
-
card at the door before you can enter into who we are and what
-
we do and how we worship. No, like we want, we want you
-
here. Yeah.
-
And you can belong. So the difference is, is it a
-
barrier to entry or not? Yeah, That's what I think the
-
major difference is. And then once you're in, I go,
-
yeah, expectations. Like I have expectations on our
-
on our people. Yeah, I expect, and I'm going to
-
give this plug because you won't.
-
But like kids, men, I expect like when we baptize baby,
-
right. So I had to I had this
-
conversation with somebody this weekend and this this individual
-
was saying like, hey, like if you, if you, if you stand up
-
there as part of the church and promise to help raise this kid,
-
like shouldn't you also be volunteering in Sunday school?
-
And like, yes, absolutely. So like here's this guy who's
-
like, you know, he's like their family, they're all in and
-
volunteering and love it. I'm not also not going to share
-
the name of this person, but like this was this was the his,
-
his point was like, you know, we as a congregation, we make
-
commitments to our kids to help raise them.
-
They should be teaching Sunday school.
-
Like they should be volunteering.
-
And also I'll give that plug because your kids been director
-
and you're always looking for more volunteers, people who are
-
going to be invested and buy into our culture and how we are
-
here, how we are with the kids. Like, you know, we're going to
-
ask certain things out of you if you're volunteering.
-
There are expectations, but it's not like it's it's not a barrier
-
to entry into the community. Same with tithing.
-
Like, you know, I think I say when when we talk about our
-
tithes and offerings, it I do expect that like it's it is
-
biblical to talk about and have an expectation around tithe and
-
not like tithes and offering. Yeah, but it's not like a
-
Netflix subscription that buys you privilege.
-
And again, there's another difference.
-
So is it a barrier to entry or not?
-
Are people excluded because they do certain things or not?
-
Like that would be bounded set. And does it buy you privilege
-
again? So now we're talking more
-
bounded set. So, you know, we go through
-
lengths here so that almost nobody knows what anybody gives.
-
Like that's very important. And so like, I like me as lead
-
pastor, I don't know what individuals give.
-
And and that's like, I will never know.
-
Like that's not, it's something I'm very like very adamant
-
about. And we're very, very like,
-
there's very specific policies that we follow for our
-
denomination around all of this. So so that it's not like, well,
-
that person gives X number of dollars, we better make sure
-
they're happy. Yeah.
-
Otherwise they might leave and then we might lose their money,
-
right. Like that's the kind of dark
-
hole that it goes down. But again, tithing is it's an
-
expectation that you are financially invested in this
-
thing, but it doesn't buy you privilege.
-
It doesn't get you an extra vote.
-
And what matters is the heart posture that you take as you do
-
it. Again, like their scripture all
-
through this, but like cents, dollars, hundreds of dollars,
-
thousands of dollars, Like what matters is that you're convicted
-
by God to do this thing and to respond because God asks it of
-
you. It doesn't buy you any
-
privilege. So yeah, barrier of entry,
-
that's a good way to talk about it.
-
Privilege also a good way to talk about it.
-
And that's where you can start picking apart the difference
-
between what would be bounded set.
-
Is this excluding inside or outside our language or is it
-
centre set? Is it about right and good
-
expectations of how we are to live together?
-
Because again, they get the gospel ought to convict us to
-
live differently. So we live differently and that
-
requires doing things. But it's not going to get you
-
entry. It's not going to get you
-
privileged. It's not going to get you like
-
extra time with like a pastor or whatever.
-
Yeah. It's just that's not how we
-
roll. So I think that's some of my
-
language around answering that question and distinguishing
-
between the. Two, yeah.
-
And I think you did a good job on Sunday when you were
-
explaining how in the culture that Jesus was in, it was almost
-
like those hard lines around entry because it was lineage.
-
If you were a descendant of this tribe, Abraham, you know, you
-
could trace your lineage. You were very clearly in this
-
family or outside of this family.
-
And there was really not, yeah, that kind of cross crossing over
-
in or out. And Jesus then comes and with
-
the statement he, he does break down that barrier to entry that
-
was purely blood and family. But then with that, he opens it
-
up. He opens up that that idea of
-
anyone can come in. But he also issues a challenge
-
there because there is like you saying, there is that
-
expectation it is those who hear God's word and puts it into
-
practice. And we might even tie that back
-
a bit to the parable of the sower, which we looked at a
-
while ago, where it is not just hearing, but it is it taking
-
root inside of you and it producing something.
-
So I was wondering if you could talk a little bit more around
-
that idea of why is it hard sometimes to to hear and do and
-
how those two things have to go together?
-
Sure. So this is great and I
-
appreciate that you took us back to the sewer because that like
-
this really in some way is the conclusion to that.
-
Like I didn't call it that in the sermon, but I think there
-
was 1 iteration of my sermon. There was an early draft where I
-
had, you know, essentially set it up as like this.
-
It's a three-part series miniseries that we did really on
-
the same idea, which is the parable of the Sower.
-
And it starts in, in eight, 1:00-ish.
-
But I think 4 is when we're really into the, the actual
-
parable. But from the beginning of
-
chapter 8, we've got the parable of the sower and then Jesus
-
teaching about parables, the purpose of, of them.
-
And then we had the, the lamp under a jar.
-
Like nobody lights a lamp and then hides it away.
-
So again, like that's the language developing the language
-
of the parable in many ways. And then we've got the Jesus
-
mother and brothers. So it's it's really 3 moves that
-
Luke is making and wants us as readers to see all connected
-
together. That it is about like Jesus is
-
making three times in a row this same point that what matters is
-
your heart posture that you are receptive and wonder and
-
question and think and contemplate hope for all of
-
those things like that you essentially that you are
-
remaining open enough to what Jesus is speaking so that it
-
lands and in the gardening language it takes root right in
-
the lamp language. You're not hiding it and in this
-
language of of Jesus mother and brothers you, you're hearing it
-
and doing it. I think what is pushed a little
-
bit forward in this final section is so when I look at
-
those 3 movements, I see in the parable of the sower, Jesus
-
talks about us hearing the word and and receiving it in a way
-
that transforms us. And really so at the end it
-
says, you know, As for that, that is As for the seed in the
-
good soil, there are those who hearing the word, the word, hold
-
it fast in an honest and good heart and bear fruit with
-
patience. So it's this idea of allowing
-
the word of God and we can talk different ways about that.
-
Jesus here, I think, is talking both about his own teaching and
-
himself as the word of God. So in John One, that's how Jesus
-
is himself described. So it really in receiving, in
-
receiving the teaching of the Kingdom and in receiving the
-
Kingdom, ultimately what we're talking about is receiving
-
Jesus. Yeah.
-
So you can't receive the teaching of Jesus without also
-
receiving Jesus. You can't live into the Kingdom
-
of Jesus without accepting who he is.
-
Like all of like it is synonymous.
-
Jesus is the Kingdom come and he is his teachings embodied.
-
So I think it's about allowing the teaching of Jesus, the
-
Kingdom who he is to, to hold fast to take root in your life
-
in a way that starts to transform it.
-
And then in in the lamp under a jar, he goes and immediately
-
says, take care. Then how you hear.
-
So again, he's he's, he's pushing forward this idea that
-
how you hear, how you listen, how you are intentional about
-
about doing that matters. And it it becomes important to
-
not, you know, light a lamp and then just stifle it, like put it
-
under like it needs the right environment to to remain lit,
-
but it also requires intentionality there.
-
Like you, you are intentional about lighting a lamp and
-
putting it where it is to be seen and useful and helpful.
-
It actually does something. And in the same way, he says,
-
hey, like, listen, like this isn't just for you, right?
-
You're not, you're not a lamp lit just for your own sake.
-
It's not just so you can look good, Like, hey, look at
-
everybody looking at me. It is to do something like
-
there's a purpose to it. And then here in the mother and
-
brothers, what what he says is. At the end of the day, like,
-
yeah, yeah, the most privileged relationship that you could
-
think of in that day. In many ways, he now alters to
-
say this is how important hearing and doing inside of the
-
Kingdom is. Like it represents being mother
-
and brother, like it represents being family.
-
So, so like it's almost like Jesus saying, I get this through
-
your head. There's nothing more important
-
than this because there's, there's no, there's no familial
-
bond, there's no lineage, There's no, you know, piece of
-
who you are that that really defines who you are greater than
-
your relationship to Jesus. So I think that's the piece.
-
It's a, it's a flip on, on identity in some ways and on
-
understanding who we are and what's most important about us.
-
So the the piece of hope that I hope that I hope that I really
-
wanted people to hear in it as well, is that Jesus is taking,
-
and you alluded to this, Jesus is taking something very
-
specific and almost impossible to breakdown or break into.
-
Like you're not changing your family of origin.
-
You're not changing your lineage.
-
Like that's not, we don't do that.
-
Like it's like it just is what it is.
-
And Jesus is saying like, alright, like we're not going to
-
think about membership into family inside the community,
-
inside the the Kingdom of God as that strict and limiting.
-
It's actually that's blown open to anybody and everybody who
-
hears the word and then acts on it.
-
So I think my mind can go to like it is like it's another
-
thing to do or it's A to do list or it's a checklist or it's how
-
do I know I'm doing good enough? Is there, do I have to pass a
-
test? Like how do I prove that I know
-
it? What does doing it actually look
-
like? Do I have to do it all the time?
-
Like what if I forget and like, what if I fail?
-
What if I fall like all of those things and when really it's
-
intended to be this hope filled realization of oh anybody.
-
This is open to anybody now amazing.
-
It doesn't matter what your lineage is.
-
In other words, it doesn't matter what your history is, no
-
matter what your past is like this is for everybody.
-
And that in my mind I go, OK, so that that's just grace and
-
hopeful and, um, blown wide open as opposed to being really pared
-
down. The early church really wrestled
-
with us, right? Yeah.
-
So like I was flipping over to Galatians earlier just just
-
quickly because like the early church really wrestled with.
-
OK, so the Jesus Jesus called Jewish followers.
-
Now eventually what we see is the the churches is expanded and
-
includes Gentile believers. And then you get this conflict
-
be like the Jewish Christians are like no, you got to become
-
Jewish 1st and then become Christian.
-
And Paul's got to wrestle this out with some of his early
-
churches. And that's where we get that
-
great line where Paul's writing to this church in Galatia, who
-
would be a mixed group of like Jewish Christians, non Jewish
-
Christians, everybody trying to live life together.
-
And he he says now that faith has come, we are no longer under
-
a guardian for in Christ Jesus you are all he uses sons of God
-
through faith. But this is just this is
-
language of family. For as many of you as we're
-
baptized into Christ have put on Christ.
-
There is no, he says no longer Jew nor Greek, neither slave nor
-
free male, female, you're all one in Christ Jesus.
-
So he says a lot of the things that used to gain membership.
-
So here we're talking like in in other words, church.
-
These are categories of privilege and non privilege.
-
Yeah, right. These are categories that used
-
to buy, for lack of a better word, or gain you entry into a
-
community. So it's not about it's not about
-
your heritage or your Greek, doesn't matter.
-
What matters is that you've been baptized into Christ.
-
You put on Christ one of those would have been seen as
-
privileged, right? So the Jewish community of
-
Christians thought themselves privileged over the Gentile
-
community of Christians. Slave or free, same thing, male
-
or female. Like none of these things gain
-
you anything or lose you anything.
-
What matters is that you've been baptized into Christ and have
-
put on Christ in Paul's language.
-
So you've heard the Word and you've begun doing it.
-
Yeah. In other words.
-
Right. And again, this is like one of
-
the things that could have included in the sermon didn't
-
make it in. There's lots that always doesn't
-
make it in. Yeah, but Paul's not saying that
-
there's, you know, no longer things that that are distinct
-
about us. Yeah.
-
Like he's not saying destroy every category and, you know,
-
forget everything that once was. But he's saying that these these
-
these categories that at one point you thought gained you
-
something inside of a religious community no longer gain you
-
anything inside the religious community.
-
What matters is your your, your union with Christ.
-
What matters is that and in that language that you've put on
-
Christ, that you've heard the word in Jesus's language and
-
you're trying to do it. You're wrestling it out.
-
Yeah. And in that, in that
-
redefinition of family from Jesus, I think there's so much
-
like hope. I was just thinking, you know,
-
that this this would give hope to to the slave, to the Gentile,
-
to those who had been on the outside.
-
And even in our modern contacts, we think of those as we're
-
talking about family. Our families are so complicated.
-
There is so much brokenness. There are those who are
-
estranged from their biological families who have never known
-
that kind of intact close love in the family and Jesus, that's
-
such a for me is such a profound hope that he's he's opening this
-
up. He's saying you are now my
-
mother and my brother and you are one with me and you are part
-
of this family now and there's that that hope in that.
-
But then we can also see there how on the other side, there are
-
those of us who have been privileged to be what would
-
have, who would have been the free, who would have been the
-
Jew. And in our modern context, maybe
-
who are very comfortable with our our family of origin and who
-
see ourselves as secure. And there's maybe also that
-
challenge then, and how do we we fully live with one another in
-
this new spiritual family in a way that that Jesus is calling
-
us to. So yeah, I don't know if you had
-
any further thoughts on on that. Yeah, it's, it's hard, right?
-
You get, you get these moments where, you know, there there's
-
an individual who wants to bury his deceased parent and, and he
-
says let the dead bury the dead. So there's like an urgency to it
-
and a sense in which, yeah, we're called into a different
-
community. You don't want to dishonor,
-
right? Like you also you.
-
How do you honor your father and mother and also follow Jesus who
-
says leave? Yeah, leave your your family to
-
some degree, right. And follow me.
-
The early call to two of the fishermen.
-
They leave James and John, right?
-
They leave their fathers equity in the boat and they followed
-
Jesus. Like if I'm that dad and be
-
like, wait, what? Yeah, like maybe he's cheering
-
them on. Maybe it's like you guys go like
-
this is everything you wanted go.
-
We don't, we don't know, Like we don't get that.
-
But there is this seemingly there's this call repeated
-
throughout Scripture that it does mean leaving to some degree
-
your your family of origin. I think it is the challenge that
-
I see is to those who would, who would consider themselves
-
inside. And again, that's dangerous,
-
like kind of problematic language.
-
But if you consider yourself part of the church, I think the
-
burden is on us to choose to be family.
-
Yeah, for one another. Um, and I like that that
-
becomes, I think that that's where the, the burden lies.
-
The the burden doesn't lie on the one who is wrestling out
-
their own broken family and who's trying to enter into a
-
community of faith. The burden is on those of us who
-
are in again, inside, but who are those of us who are part of
-
the community to change, like, to live in such a way that it it
-
radically alters this individual's definition of
-
family. Yeah, know that I think that's
-
the the piece that I would want our people to hear for sure.
-
Like if you're part of our church have been a part of KPC
-
for a while, like I think the burdens on us.
-
Yeah. So I don't know if that answers
-
the question necessarily, but I, you know, I think back to when
-
we came like my family first, first arrived here and we had
-
moved like we moved from out of town.
-
We sold our house. We bought a house before we
-
bought a house. Like we were receiving emails
-
from multiple people with like the title, but like, you want to
-
be our neighbor? Like this house is popped up for
-
sale. And like we had people, we had
-
people watching like, you know, for houses that were popping up.
-
We have people. Yeah.
-
We had people calling and saying, hey, if you know, if you
-
need you come move in with us. Like live with us for a little
-
while until you until you find a place here.
-
And when we showed up, it was like, it was like there was this
-
community of people, not the whole like I'm not.
-
So our entire community was very welcoming, like our entire
-
church was very welcoming and embracing of us.
-
But there was like a small group of families who basically said
-
you're ours now. Yeah.
-
Like you're in, you're part of us.
-
You're one of us. You're gonna do some things like
-
you're going to come for a meal. We're gonna drop meals off.
-
We're going to come clean the house with you.
-
Once we bought a house, right? Like it was almost like there
-
were, there were, there were these people just intentionally
-
said we were. You're like, we're in your life
-
now because you're in our. Life.
-
And it was incredible, the gift that that was to us.
-
And I think some of the time we, we don't want to be like an
-
imposition. Yeah.
-
On people like. Well, like we'll let you get
-
settled and you tell us what you need.
-
You need what you need and and then you know, and we're here.
-
Yeah. And like the beauty of it for us
-
was like, we had people were just like, Nope, we're in,
-
we're, we're, we're at, like, we're here for you and showing
-
up. And that was a, a beautiful,
-
incredible thing for us. It was a gift to our family and
-
it changed the way we landed here like it did.
-
And so I think that's the piece that I want people to really
-
wrestle with is like, yeah, embrace people and don't give
-
them the opportunity to, like, just sit forever on the outside
-
of things. I'm doing air quotes if you're
-
listening, right? Like it's again challenging
-
language. So that would be my, that would
-
be my challenge to like the every day member of the church,
-
churchgoer, like choose to be that person who just shows up
-
like, Yep, yeah, you're, you're, you're you're asked now.
-
Yeah, this is this is what that means.
-
And you're going to come for lunch and, you know, whatever
-
that, whatever that can look like, I think, yeah, bonuses on
-
us. And we need to be the ones to
-
embrace. I think that's the direction.
-
Yeah, and even just using that language, I think maybe it's a
-
Christian cliche calling each other brothers and sisters in
-
Christ. But you know, it really does
-
change. I think the way we look at each
-
other when we do start realizing this is not just my coworker or,
-
you know, someone I have a again, we use that a language
-
sometimes a transactional relationship with, but this is
-
this is family God. That is what Jesus calls us now.
-
We are part of one another and we are to care for each other
-
the way we would care for our own flesh and blood families.
-
Yeah. And it doesn't mean it's going
-
to be perfect. Yeah, the church is not a
-
perfect family. And I think that's the other
-
thing that we need to realize is it it doesn't just because you
-
call somebody family doesn't mean that OHS suddenly
-
everything's happy and wonderful all the time.
-
What it means is that you don't have a choice.
-
Yeah, to love this person. Yes, they're in it for the long
-
haul. Exactly.
-
Yeah. Exactly.
-
And, and you can you can like one another to varying degrees.
-
You can enter in and out of conflict like there's Show me a
-
family without conflict and I'll show you somebody who's
-
wrestling with seeing things accurately or lying.
-
Yeah, about the way things actually are, having a hard time
-
processing stuff, whatever. But like, every single family
-
has conflict in it. And what?
-
What the the difference is that, you know, so when I think about
-
like, think, think about your family of origin growing up or
-
think about your family now, like you have conflict.
-
They're still your family at the end of the day.
-
And when that conflict is done, they're still your family.
-
Yeah. And there's no getting around
-
that. So that's the piece for us as a
-
church is like, it shapes everything.
-
It's not that. It's not that there won't be
-
conflict. There will absolutely be
-
conflict. What what changes is, oh, these
-
are still the people I'm called love and serve and yeah, live
-
life with after the conflict is done.
-
Yeah, so let's do conflict differently.
-
Yeah. And that's, I think the piece,
-
right, is it's it defines our community differently and it
-
shapes our community differently.
-
And it like, yeah, it's no longer something that I believe
-
you can just walk away from. Yeah, that's the piece.
-
It's like this is choose to be here and choose the land and
-
choose to be in it through the conflict.
-
Yeah, that that's, those are the harder days for sure of
-
community, but I think that's the challenge to love well that
-
you're talking about is, is in the good days and the bad days.
-
Yeah. Yeah.
-
Definitely. So I think that's where we're
-
gonna land. Yeah, for today.
-
And we hope that this encourages you and challenges you.
-
Maybe if I can leave you with one lingering question, it might
-
be to think about how the language of family causes you to
-
initially react. Like does it make your like, it
-
doesn't make your anxiety, your eyes a little bit Or does it
-
settle you into something that is familiar, like familiar and
-
peaceful and loving, But what direction does it push you in?
-
And then in that to kind of think through what your
-
relationship to others inside of a community might might look
-
like if you thought about it more along the lines of family,
-
how you called the love somebody well inside of inside of the
-
church. And what's one thing you could
-
do to help somebody belong before they believe?
-
Yeah. So again, thanks for tuning in.
-
Only thanks for joining me. Yeah, thanks for having me
-
again. Great.
-
And like Justin, I said last week, you're going to see
-
multiple hosts rolling throughout the remainder of the
-
summer vacation and preaching schedule, all of it taking into
-
account. But we hope that you enjoy our
-
episodes through the summer and that they help you have good
-
conversation throughout your week.