Sermon
Romans 14 & 15 | Jerry Harris
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Well, hello Crossing Church. How are you doing today?
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Now, I really appreciate that and but I know a lot of you
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aren't telling the truth. That you know, you, you, you put
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yourself together, all of our locations.
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And you know, I'm so glad that you're here, that you're here in
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person. Those of you that are inside and
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online, I know that you're not able to be here in person, but
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and maybe you know you're still in your pajamas or whatever or
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whatever you might be doing. But the fact is, is that we want
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to always present something, you know, nice and palatable to
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everybody else around us. But in truth, a lot of times we
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are not what other people perceive we are that there's
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stuff going on inside of our lives and we would just rather
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not burden them with that. You know, we would just rather
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just kind of hold that quietly inside of ourselves and put a
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good face on and. And if people ask us how are you
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doing? We'll just say fine, when that's
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not the truth, It's kind of how we are, right?
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I mean, it would take a long time if you actually wanted to
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just, you know, back up the dump truck and let it out, you know,
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and just say how you doing? Well, why don't you sit down.
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True. Yeah.
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I mean, for a lot of us that that's how it is.
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And we're in the book of Romans and we are getting into some
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real practicality in the latter chapters of the book of Romans,
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and I'm in Romans 14 and 15. And it really is a discussion on
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people whose faith is weak and people whose faith is strong and
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how those two groups of people might interact with one another.
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And we're in the the part of the series we entitled noticeable
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neighbors like kind of how are you living your life in the
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context of the people around you.
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And one of the things that we're going to be discussing today is
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this idea that or this truth that we're all damaged and we
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all are to some extent. We're all damaged and damage is
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actually a part of life. And I know that a lot of us are
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trying to avoid it. The parents are trying to keep
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their kids from having to deal with it.
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We're trying to avoid damage. We really can't do it because
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we're surrounded by it. And we we aren't always the
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victim. Sometimes we're the perpetrator,
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you know, because human beings, that's kind of what we do.
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We live in a sinful world, and it's a world full of damage, and
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we tend to damage each other. Some of the worst damage,
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though, happens inside of a context, like you're in right
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now is in a church. Because I think that we believe
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that this ought to be a safe place, kind of devoid of damage.
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Like, you know, we we, we should be able to be more transparent
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here. We should be able to be more
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real here. We should be able to trust each
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other more here. But if you've been a part of a
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church for a very long for any time at all, you've probably
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experienced some of what we might call church damage or
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church hurt. And the reason I know we we tend
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to want to like label it as the church, like this.
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This church hurt me. But the reality is that churches
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are full of people, and the people that fill churches are
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damaged people. And when you're in the proximity
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of damaged people, it can damage your life because that's just
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human nature tends to be what we do, and it might take a lot of
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different forms in the church. It might be that you felt
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overlooked, maybe you felt taken for granted.
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Maybe like in a small group or something, you shared some
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stuff. I mean, you risked it, you got
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open with some other people and maybe they shared it with other
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people and they shouldn't have, and you felt betrayed by that.
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Maybe you were stabbed in the back, or maybe you were accused
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of something that you didn't do. Maybe it was even more serious
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than that. Maybe you experienced something
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emotionally abusive or physically abusive and there are
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people in churches that have been sexually abused.
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Maybe whatever happened to you, you experienced when you were
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new in your faith and then it made you go, you know what,
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church, that's just like another one of these institutions.
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It's just another one of these things that you just can't
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trust. This is another club and it
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really isn't very hard to get cynical.
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And church can be viewed as optional by a lot of people.
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Like, why do I even need to trouble myself with that?
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I'll just kind of stay back and I'll, I'll, I'll keep a healthy
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distance between me and all of whatever's happening in that
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place. I've had people come to The
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Crossing over the years, share stories with me about how broken
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they are when they feel like maybe they can trust me with
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that story. And they will talk about their
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previous church experience. And I begin to realize just what
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a major step of faith it was just to walk through the door of
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another church again. Some of these people were some
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of the hardest workers in their previous church environment,
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some of the most committed people in their previous church.
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But now if you find if you can find them at all, they're kind
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of in the back in the dark and they kind of want to stay in the
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shadows. It's hard to reengage.
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Boy, I sure would like to stand up here today and say that all
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just goes one way, but it doesn't because I have to tell
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you that people at the crossing staff at the crossing, they have
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done their fair share of hurting others and driving people away.
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And I think it's easy for us to make excuses for our own
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behavior or to find fault with people for leaving.
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But there is no doubt that we've damaged people too.
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You know, some of that damage comes from well meaning
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Christians. And what well meaning Christians
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are trying to do is maybe educate.
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Or we use the term disciple, newer believers, right?
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And so this is what the Apostle Paul is beginning to refer to in
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Romans chapter 14. Let's let's read it together.
Romans 14 chapter mention
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It says except the one whose faith is weak without quarreling
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over disputable matters also stop right there.
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How many matters do you ever face that are disputable?
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Like all of them? Right.
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So should we be quarrelling over disputable matters?
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Maybe somebody is pretty new in their faith.
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Maybe you've been in your faith a little longer.
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Maybe you were kind of raised up in a different context, this
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other person, and they're trying to figure something out.
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You think you've got it figured out, and so you want to disciple
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this person or help this person along.
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And you say some things that may be really discouraging when
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you're really just trying to help someone else, maybe because
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you're inside of a disputable matter.
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I think it's something that we all deal with.
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And I think there's a real question underneath this.
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And the real question is that we're.
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Well, maybe it's a The question is, are we are we trying to help
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people to become more like Jesus or are we trying to help people
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to become more like us? Maybe that's a little tougher
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way of putting it. I think sometimes the real truth
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isn't just Jesus. It's Jesus and Jesus and my
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interpretation of the Bible, Jesus and my choice of worship
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style. Jesus and my political leanings.
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Jesus and my worldview. Jesus and my group.
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Jesus and my culture. Jesus and my color.
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Jesus and my education. You get it.
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You talk, you, you get the picture.
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The point is there is no and there's just Jesus.
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And we keep trying to change other people.
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But ultimately changing people is what Jesus does.
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It's not what we do. We're supposed to be cooperating
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with him, not standing in front of him.
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We need to let him do his job and not be a detriment to that.
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Now. The Apostle Paul in Romans 14
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gives examples of this in the Roman churches context when he
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talks about faith and he talks about food restrictions in
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verses two to four of chapter 14.
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Listen to what he says. One person's faith allows them
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to eat anything, but another whose faith is week eats only
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vegetables, and the one who eats everything must not treat with
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contempt the one who does not and the one who does not eat
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everything must not judge the one who does, for God has
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accepted them. Who are you to judge someone
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else's servant to their own master?
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A servant stands or falls and they will stand, for the Lord is
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able to make them stand. So now we're in the context of
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Romans and food restriction was a big deal in the in the Jewish
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world and we've already established through the study of
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Romans. Hope you're still doing that,
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that the Roman church was an established church with with
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Gentiles and with Jews, and so they were having to learn how to
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get along together when they're coming from very, very different
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backgrounds. And of course, if you were
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raised Jewish there, there's a whole lot of rules associated
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with your faith. It's called eating kosher or
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eating pure. Now, Gentiles, they didn't
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follow those regulations and they were not required to follow
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those regulations. But that didn't stop Jews from
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looking down on Gentiles because of the food they ate.
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And it was a big deal to them and it was causing a lot of
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problems. How do we, how do we connect
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that to our world today? Well, I'm speaking from Quincy.
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And in many ways, Quincy is a very Catholic community, right?
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There's 8 parishes in Quincy and I I I don't know about like all
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the rest of the other ten locations but definitely here
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that's a reality. And the story goes of a of a
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Jewish man that moved into a new community and it was a
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predominantly Catholic community and and so and all of his
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neighbors were were Catholics. And so on Friday, one of the
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things that this Jewish man loved to do was cook a nice
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steak on the grill. And so every evening Sky was out
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there and he's cooking a steak on the grill.
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And all of these Catholics that were pretty hardcore Catholics
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were taught that they could only eat fish on Friday.
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And so here comes this aroma wafting over the back fence, and
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it's just driving all of his neighbors crazy.
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And every single Friday night, this guy is cooking a nice juicy
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steak on his grill. And eventually they just can't
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take it anymore until they have an HOA meeting.
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I mean, they get the neighbors together, you know, all the the
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Catholic neighbors, they go, what are we going to do?
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This is like, this isn't making it impossible.
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I mean, you know, here I am, I'm trying to eat my fish.
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I'm smelling. This is killing me.
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And so they're talking about it, and they decide, you know, what
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we got to do? Let's convert this Jewish guy to
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Catholicism. That's what we'll do.
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And so they started ganging up on him as neighbors, like, like,
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you know, encouraging him and talking to him and working on
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him. And over a period of months, you
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know, they started to break this guy down.
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And before long they had him to the place where he was ready to
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convert from Judaism to Catholicism.
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So they took him to their to their church.
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It took him before the priest. And I don't know what it is that
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the priest has. It has the water in it, you
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know, like the holy what? What is that thing called?
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I don't know what that thing's called anyway.
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You know, there's a sprinkler thing.
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That's the technical term. Anyway.
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It's so the the Jewish man comes there and and he gets down on
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his knees and the priest standing over him and he's
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sprinkling the holy water on him and he goes born at you, raise
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the Jew now Catholic and all of the neighbors went yes, that's
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it. Solve that problem.
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Next Friday, here comes that smell, the smell of a nice steak
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cooking on that guy's grill. And they go, we've got him now.
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And they all join up in the street and they head over to his
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house. They walk into his backyard and
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there he is over the grill with his little water bottle.
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And he's going born a cow, raised a cow, now a fish.
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Brothers and sisters do not determine who their parents are,
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even though a lot of you, especially the younger ones,
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your older brothers and sisters try to convince you that you
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know who your parents were and weren't.
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And what does the word accept mean when Paul uses it?
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It means not to reject. It means not to ignore.
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It means not to treat someone else as second class.
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Acceptance is a basic recognition of family.
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It's understanding not only who we are, but who's we are.
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That it isn't us who determines our siblings in Christ.
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It's Christ that's determined by the parent.
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We don't have to agree, but when we disagree, we need to disagree
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in a very agreeable way. Years ago when I lived in
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Indiana and our children were little, we were downtown.
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And there's a famous deli downtown called Shapiro's in
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Indiana, Indianapolis. And Allison is trying to manage
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these children, toddlers at the time, and it's hard to do that
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and at the same time order. So she's not just ordering for
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herself, she's also ordering for them.
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And this is one of those places where I kind of step back and
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let her do that, right? Or thankful that she does do
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that. And so she's kind of going fast
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at Shapiro's. And so she goes for one of the
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kids. She says like a ham sandwich.
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Shapiro's is a deli. It's a Jewish deli.
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Are you? Is it too early in the morning?
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They don't serve ham. Now, the person behind the
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counter could have gotten frustrated by that, but they
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could see that there was a young mom here dealing with kids and a
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dad. And I I remember that moment.
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I looked at her and I went, Oh my gosh, and and the guy behind
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the counter said, hey, wouldn't you like some nice pastrami?
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I mean, he didn't make a big deal out of it.
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He didn't say, Did you not understand that this is a Jewish
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delicatessen and we don't serve ham?
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That ham is not kosher meat? He didn't scold her, give her a
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hard time. He just said something nice
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back. If we're going to disagree, we
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need to disagree in agreeable way.
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All goes on to talk about how in Jewish culture, one day is more
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important to another. And of course that's a core
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value. In the Old Testament covenant
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law between God and the Jews, part of the 10 commandments was
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the 4th commandment, which was remember the Sabbath day to keep
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it holy. But Gentiles were not a part of
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that covenant law. And in the New Testament, when
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we see the church established, you see this movement from the
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Sabbath day, which was a Saturday.
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And by the way, it wasn't a Saturday the way you understand
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or I understand a Saturday because a Jewish Saturday begins
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on our Friday at 6:00 PM and it goes from Saturday to 6:00 PM.
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But that would be the way that the Jewish people in the Church
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of Rome would understand it. But Gentiles didn't feel that
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way. And when the church was
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instituted and acts, two people began to worship the Lord on
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Sunday, the first day of the week, and they called it the
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Lord's day. So we we see this movement from
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the Sabbath, the Saturday to the Sunday.
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Now that would have sent a shockwave through the Jewish
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culture at that time. Then he talks about things like
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eating meat or abstaining from meat and how some people would
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only eat vegetables. Now if you go into First
1 Corinthians 8 chapter mention
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Corinthians chapter 8, it'll get deeper into this, but this is
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kind of culturally what would happen anytime you would go to a
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butcher shop to buy meat. During this era, all animals
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that were slaughtered were taken through like a tunnel and they
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were passed underneath an idol. So all of the animals that were
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slaughtered, that were killed and then butchered technically
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had been offered to An idol was kind of A2 for one, right?
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So, you know, they were trying to get credit from their false
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gods about the sacrifice of an animal even though they were
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going to butcher it for food. Well, there were some people
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that were new in their faith that were saying no, no, no,
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nothing. Unclean's going to enter my
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mouth. This was offered to an idol.
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I won't eat it. So they would only eat
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vegetables. And other people would say, come
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on, the fact that people are doing whatever they're doing
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with that animal as far as passing it under an Isles, no
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big deal. All this meat is clean.
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God's made it clean. They would argue about that.
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And you can see how there would be divisions in the church and
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difficulty and mean spirited talk and people would get
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frustrated. They would step away from it
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because of what was going on, right?
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And you might think to yourself, that would not happen today.
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We wouldn't do that in a church today.
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Come on, you know what I've noticed?
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I don't know about this and all the other our other communities
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been in Quincy. Halloween is a pretty big deal.
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I mean, some people, like, go crazy, like with their yards and
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everything, right? They just go nuts to celebrate
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Halloween. But there are some people, well
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meaning Christians, that are like, That is the devil's
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holiday and no one should ever celebrate Halloween because
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you're glorifying the devil. For many years my wife ran the
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preschool in here in Quincy and we did a Halloween alternative
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for preschoolers. It was called Noah's Ark Park
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and kids would dress up as animals to go on the ark.
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But there were some well meaning Christians tending to disciple
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others. That said, how dare you dress
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little children up as animals for Noah's Ark Park because
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you're trying to give them an alternative to Halloween cause
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it's really just Halloween you pagans.
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Now you can see how some people by faith are saying we should
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never do anything called Halloween.
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Other people by faith, are saying it's not a big deal.
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And there's even these positive ways that we can do this.
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Would you call that a disputable matter?
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Sure, certainly I would, because we all have our opinions.
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But our opinions should never be more important to us than the
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people that Jesus died for. For goodness sake, look at
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verses 7 to 10, it says. For none of us lives for
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ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone.
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If we live, we live for the Lord.
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If we die, we die for the Lord. So whether we live or die, we
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belong to the Lord. For this very reason Christ died
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and returned to life, that he might be the Lord of both the
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dead and the living. You then why do you judge your
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brother and sister? Why do you treat them with
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contempt? For we will all stand before
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God's judgment seat. We have to recognize that it is
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not our job to judge or condemn other people.
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Leave that to the Lord and you just bring Jesus that not Jesus
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and just Jesus to people. Now in our movement of churches
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called the Restoration movement there are churches that are
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instrumental and there are churches that are non
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instrumental. As a matter of fact from this
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location where I'm preaching at 48th and main, if you go over to
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State Street about 46th and state there is a Church of
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Christ. It's a non instrumental Church
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of Christ because the people of the non instrumental Church of
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Christ do not see instruments being used to worship God.
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In the New Testament, they're worshipped in using instruments,
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The Old Testament, but not in the New Testaments.
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And since the New Testament is silent about the use of
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instruments in worship, they don't use instruments and they
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sing a cappella. Now they're fine with music in
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any other setting, but when it comes to worship, no
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instruments, how should we feel about that?
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Will? You obviously know how I feel
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about it, because you know, we love music and all forms and
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instruments. We think that's fine, but what
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if I were to invite, and we have before, someone from the non
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instrumental Church of Christ to come and speak at the crossing?
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What would I do? Would I have an expectation that
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they just need to just get over it or would I do something
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different? I've literally done this and
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I've asked people to come and I I've told them, listen, we will
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cover our instruments and we will sing acapella because we
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want to honor you. Because whether we have
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instruments or don't have instruments doesn't mean
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anything compared to who Christ Jesus died for.
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And we need to honor each other that way and not get caught up
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so much. Indisputable matters because
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ultimately we are all going to have to answer to God for this.
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That's what that scripture says. Look at verses 12 and 13.
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It says so then each of us will give an account of ourselves to
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God. Therefore, let us stop passing
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judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not
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to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother
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or a sister. That's the main thing.
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We're not supposed to forget it. Let's look at another verse, the
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19th verse. It says Let us therefore make
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every effort to do what leads to peace and mutual edification.
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I wish I could frame that and hand it out to everybody.
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Let us do whatever leads to peace and mutual edification.
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Edification means to encourage. It means to build up, make
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another person feel pretty good about where they are.
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So, and it's so. There's two things there, peace
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and mutual edification. Here's two questions we should
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always ask ourselves before we ever get into a conversation
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that is going to devolve into a disputable matter.
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Number one, does my part in the conversation lead to peace?
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Are the things that I'm saying or the ways that I'm responding?
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Doesn't matter if I brought it up or they brought it up.
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Is it leading to peace? #2?
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Do the things that I contribute to the conversation actually
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build the other person up in some way?
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I want you to think about before stuff came out of your mouth.
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How much different would your life be if before anything came
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out of your mouth? You ask yourselves those two
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questions and then lived according to them.
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Is it contributing to peace? And I am I encouraging the other
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person in some way? I would imagine a lot of us
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would have a lot less to say. I imagine that a lot of us would
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be spending a lot less time on social media and it and and we
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would look at our phones and when it got we got our screen
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time thing, it would say, well you're really down.
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You know it's like yeah, why? It's because of that if those
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things are not happening, we need to ask why.
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Could it be because we have this Pride issue that we want to be
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right, That we just want to be right here?
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A couple of weeks ago, I received an e-mail.
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Some people had come to me and they had asked me to use my
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influence as the publisher of Christian Standard magazine to
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promote something. And they were being so nice to
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me. And I took them out and we had a
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meal together and, you know, was sharing with them.
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And then immediately I got emails back.
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Just really positive. Boy, I really appreciate your
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time. Really appreciate the things you
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shared with us. I'm so excited about this.
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I'm so excited about that. But as some people do, sometimes
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they don't realize that they have other emails to one another
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attached to the e-mail that they sent to me.
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And the two guys were emailing each other back and forth
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talking about me and hadn't realized that they sent that
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along, that that was somehow attached.
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You know, you'd never do anything like that.
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That's never happened to you. So I'm reading this and I'm
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like, wow, that. So that's what they think.
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That's what they really think. One guy was saying to the other
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guy, I, I, I, I'll place a bet that he doesn't call, he doesn't
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e-mail us back for two weeks, stuff like that.
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I showed it to my wife. She got really upset.
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And so there's a part of me that's going and I was working
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on this sermon and I went great sermon illustration, but it
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doesn't lead to peace or mutual edification Flood go right and
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some of you are going are going well that never that's never
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happen Anything like that's ever happened to me.
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Oh yeah. Oh yeah.
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Well, maybe it hasn't. Maybe it didn't have an e-mail
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issue like that. But maybe to a person's face,
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you've said the things you know that they want to hear.
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But when you get with somebody else and you talk about that
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person, the conversation is very different.
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And we're all guilty of that. Look at the 22nd verse.
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So whatever you believe about these things, keep between
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yourself and God bless. The One is the one who does not
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condemn himself by what he approves.
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That's some really, really good advice.
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Have you ever gotten into it with someone about some petty
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thing? And then after the damage is
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done, you look back and you say to yourself, it would have been
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just better if I would have kept my foolish mouth shut, keeping
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some things just between you and God looking.
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It's okay if you want to say to God, this person just really
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hacks me off. I don't know you.
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God can handle that. You keep, you know, you complain
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up. It's OK, he'll work through
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that. He'll remind you of all the
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things that you do right. But this other direction is not
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good. This direction from 22 is really
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good advice. And the other thing that you see
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from this is that Jesus takes it personally when people insult
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you because of your faith, it offends you.
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When people insult you because your faith, it also offends him.
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And you might go, OK, all right, it's nice to have someone stand
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up for me. That's a good thing.
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But wait, he also takes it personally when you and I talk
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down to someone because of some shortcoming they might have.
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Or maybe not to someone, but about someone to someone else.
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Chapter 15 verses one to three says, we who are strong ought to
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bear with the failings of the weak and not to please
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ourselves. Each of us should please our
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neighbors for their good, to build them up.
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For even Jesus, even Christ did not please himself.
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But as as it is written, the insults of those who insult you
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have fallen on me. Truth is, sometimes we know just
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enough about the Bible to hurt people and we need to step back.
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And we need to do our best to learn practical ways that we can
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walk out our faith and live out our faith without hurting other
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people, because that hurt can be profound.
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I want to close with this. When I read a story in the
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Bible, it's not uncommon for me to want to identify with whoever
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is the hero because I want to be that person.
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I want to be the one who does the right thing.
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Isn't it interesting that so many of us tend to want to
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identify with the hero in the story, but when it comes to our
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own intimate, personal relationship with Jesus, we have
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to understand there's only one hero and it's never us.
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Jesus is always the hero of the story, and the glory goes to
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him. Doesn't go to us, right?
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Well, maybe you're going well, you miss me on that one, Jerry,
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Because when I read a story in the Bible, I'd identify with the
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victim. Okay.
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Maybe you identify with the victim because, you know, we
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kind of live in a victim culture.
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And so, yeah, this because we're not thinking about maybe being
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the good guy. Maybe we're thinking about the
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other person being the bad guy and me being recipient of that.
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I'm not saying that those things aren't valid, but when you try
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to identify with the victim of the story, you're doing the same
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thing that I'm doing if I identify with the hero, the
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story, Because ultimately there's really only one victim,
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and that's been victimized to this level, to to the highest
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level, and that's the same person as the hero, the story.
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Has there ever been a greater victim than Jesus?
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Has there ever been someone treated more unfairly than
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Jesus? And so if you want to get up on
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the pedestal for hero, maybe you should step out.
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Maybe you step off. And if you want to get on the
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pedestal for the victim, maybe you should step off.
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And maybe all of us together need to look to the one place
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where the truth is the one place, the one person who was
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the hero of every story, and a person who was victorious, even.
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But this kind of victimization truth is we are a collection of
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victims and perpetrators. And to be honest, probably
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everybody I'm talking to has been both at one time or
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another, maybe even now. But Jesus is here, the ultimate
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victim and the ultimate hero, and he is here to heal the
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victims and to turn the hearts of perpetrators back to him.
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If we'll just lean into him today, this place was made to be
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a place of healing, a place of burdens, lightning, place of new
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life and new perspective. A place where old is laid down
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and the new is freely and gratefully received.
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Let's be that place we're moving to a time of decision.
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Earlier this week, Allison and I were at We sit at the dinner
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table and we work there. And Abby, my youngest daughter,
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came over with her. One was at preschool, the other
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one is younger than that and brought the younger one.
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And I'll tell you, these two kids of hers, I love these two
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kids so much. They are all boy and they are
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like 2 Tasmanian devils. Like if there is something on a
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shelf or there is something put away, that is totally a wrong
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thing. It needs to be fully displayed
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on the floor for all to be able to see and maneuver around.
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Sometimes that irritates me. Doesn't really seem to bother my
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daughter. She's a great mom with them.
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Doesn't seem to bother my wife. So we're sitting there and Abby
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and I are talking about some of the different struggles that
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we're dealing with, and she's sharing with me.
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She's being transparent. I'm trying to share with her and
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being transparent. And she said something to me
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that kind of hit me. She goes, I'm such a
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perfectionist, but she really wasn't talking about how she
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viewed others. She was talking about how she
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viewed herself. And she always falls short of
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what she feels like she ought to be or ought to do.
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I don't know if you guys connect with that or not.
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And I was trying to think of something I could say to
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encourage her. And for some reason, she took
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her eyes off of me while we're in this conversation.
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Maybe she heard something that her son was doing right next to
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her on the other side with Allison, with him bouncing on
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the lap, watching train videos. And I saw that, and it occurred
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to me, I go, Abby. I know that may be how you feel
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and how you think, but you need to understand that when God
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looks at you, it's just the same as when you look at Avery.
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That's what he sees. He sees you that way, and Avery
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comes into this house and he makes all these messes.
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It doesn't seem to bother you that much.
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It certainly doesn't change the amount of love that God had that
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you have for Avery. And it doesn't seem to bother
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Allison much. Doesn't really change that level
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of love there either. As a matter of fact, you have a
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lot of grace for a kid who just turned 2.
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And if you know this scripture, and I know she knew this
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scripture, if you then, being evil, know how to give good
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gifts to your kids, how much more will your Heavenly Father
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give the Holy Spirit to those who ask you?
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Some of you are here right now, and you're trying to manage this
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stuff all by yourself. Trying to carry all your own
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load, trying to be tough enough, Pull yourself up by your own
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bootstraps, Buck up when maybe you just need to be the little
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kid that runs to the parent and needs to feel the nurturing arms
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of a Heavenly Father. Encouraging and reassuring.
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That's what these steps are for today.
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For you to just spend some time with the Lord.
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To be reminded that he loves you.
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To be reminded how He sees you. And to be reminded that we've
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talked about a couple of weeks ago, that he has more grace than
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you will ever require for you. Some of you are here today.
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You've never come into an intimate, personal relationship
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with God. You think you're so tough.
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You think you're so strong. I want you to know right now
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that you are surrounded by a whole room of weaklings, and the
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guy you're listening to is one of the biggest weaklings of all.
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And you can let go of that today, and you can let the Lord
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Jesus have his way in your life, and it'll be messy.
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But what do you think he expects out of an infant?
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There's going to be somebody right over there by that
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baptistry that would love nothing more.
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And just to share with you some of what the next steps could be.
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And you could leave this place today completely different than
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when you walked in. Here's an opportunity.
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Would you stand with me? Let's pray together.
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Let's give this moment to the Lord.
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In Jesus name, Heavenly Father, I pray take this moment.
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It belongs to you anyway. But help it to belong to you as
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far as we're concerned, in our hearts.
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And if there are hearts right now that are struggling, I pray
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Father that we would put down those defenses.
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Be transparent before you and let you have your way in Jesus
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name. Amen.